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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The B ninety three Morning Show. I'm Ali Mack and
I'm Mike, and I have very strong opinions about the
family trip. I think there are some unspoken rules that
just should not be broken. Okay, And what do you
do when they get broken? Because nobody wants to have
the actual conversation when you're on the trip. Yeah, yeah,
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because you don't want to kill the vibe, right right. Okay,
So here's what happened. We've been talking about this family trip.
We want to take my dad like somewhere for a weekend.
It was his seventieth birthday a few years ago. And
you know, we've had this planned and for the last
couple summers, we just like really couldn't get our schedules together.
Sure yeah, So finally this summer we're doing it.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Oh so excited.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
It's coming up in a couple of weeks. And usually
I'm kind of the planner in my family. Okay, I
find the place, find a couple restaurants, I book the
stuff I like. We all talk about it and stuff
in the group chat, but I'm usually the one that
like does the booking, and my sisters and I are
just like a tiny bit indecisive when it comes to
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stuff like this. So that's why I usually take the lead,
because I'm like, Okay, I'll just make the decision. Sure,
I don't want to be the person that makes the decision,
but I will. Yeah, yeah, because it's just easier that way.
And this year I feel bad because my sisters and
I were so indecisive about where we wanted to go
and what house we wanted to book, and that my
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brother in law, I think, finally got to the point
where he was like, I cannot be in this group
chat any longer, and he just like booked a place.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
How you put it on him?
Speaker 1 (01:34):
I didn't mean to put it on him. I was
gonna do it, but he just like he finally I
think got to the point where he was like, I
can't listen to you guys being decisive anymore, and he
just booked it. And now I feel bad.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Does I mean, does he care that he booked it?
Speaker 3 (01:48):
No?
Speaker 1 (01:48):
I don't think so, Okay, I don't think he cares.
I think that he was just like, okay, I'll just
I'll do it.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
That makes it easy that me said, you guys are
terrible people. I'm kidding, I'm kidding.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
I feel so bad. He yes, he is part of
the family.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
I know, but yeah, I know what you're saying.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
So he didn't talk about initiating this trip like this
isn't his dad, Like, you know, I just I feel
bad that he was the one that had to put
the Airbnb like on his credit card and reserve it.
And now he's the point person, so all the emails
are going to come to him about like here's what
you do for checking and here's the code and here's
all the So I just I feel bad.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
He probably had conversations with your sister at home, but
she's like, I don't know, everybody wants to do this,
and he's like, fine, I'll just do it.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
I've done like that. Probably not that aggressive, but no,
I can.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Like see just what happened in my mind, and I
just know that the group chat finally got to a
point where he was like, get me out of you.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Let's just book it. What are we waiting for?
Speaker 1 (02:47):
So one of my unspoken rules of the family trip
is that if it's not your immediate family, you're not
booking the place.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Okay, that's fair. That's a good one.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
So I think that's a good one. So, you know,
I'm going to get them a little something or send
him a note and say thank you for doing this
and putting up with our indecisive nature. You're the real MVP.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
There's I agree with you.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
I think there's a few unwritten rules that I think
if they're broken a bunch of times over and over,
it has to be addressed. So somebody has to address it.
But it has to be now, this is your brother
in law. It has to be the person who's kind
of taken the lead on all of this. Yeah, and
in my family, it's usually we go on one trip at
least this is the one I'm thinking of specifically with
my in laws, and they kind of book it all.
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We just have to show up and find a way
to get there. And for the longest time, they had
a rule, and it was kind of an unwritten rule
that like, if you weren't married into the family, yes,
if you were just a girlfriend, you weren't allowed to
go on the trip. Oh that's changed, that sense changed,
But that was that was an unwritten rule and everybody
just kind of knew. And then one year somebody brought
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a girlfriend because because there's pictures, you're going to be
in there. We do family photos and we do all
these other things. Yeah, and if that and there was
a time where somebody had been dating a long time
and that's why they they ended up coming because they're like,
oh the they split up.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
They're not together. What happened?
Speaker 1 (04:12):
The unwritten rules of the family trip, we all have them,
and you know what, I would like to hear them.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
Yeah, this is Rich Chapman.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
I'm from a Cedar Springs, Michigan.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Got unwritten rules for the family trip?
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Yeah, don't bring the family.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Well, it's a lot more peaceful that way, isn't it.
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
It ever, it's it's a we call it a.
Speaker 4 (04:42):
You know what show.
Speaker 5 (04:43):
Yes, Yeah, it's just it's just too hard.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
It's just it's just everybody's got their own thing. So
you go just like you and your wife. It's so
much easier.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
You would think that getting a bunch of adults together
would be easy, but.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
It's not, especially for anything longer than a week, because
everybody has different ways they do things, so like your
morning is not the same as their morning.
Speaker 5 (05:08):
No, mike, longer than twenty four hours.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Thanks for Rich, I have a great day.
Speaker 4 (05:16):
Good morning, Welcome to the b ninety three Morning Show,
what's your name away from Jas? All right, Jason, what's
your unwritten rule when it comes to family vacations?
Speaker 5 (05:25):
One family does the grocery shopping the way you wind
up with like twenty bags of chips, Sit back, you see.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
I like that. I like that. But then you got
to collect all the money from everybody else.
Speaker 5 (05:36):
That's okay, fair, fair, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
I don't like doing that, only because and I had
there's people I've gone on vacation with who don't who
don't uh, who don't pitch in or all of a
sudden they they're not paying all the time, or or
they're not you have to buy specific foods.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Just for them. I don't know. I like just everybody
gets groceries. I like that rule. I don't like it.
I don't like collecting the money.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
You know, the unspoken rules of the family A kamm hm.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
We are.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
We've been planning this for the last couple of years.
For my dad's seventieth birthday. We're taking him to like
a lake house. The whole family is going, and I
just feel like there are a couple unspoken rules when
you all travel together that should be abided by. And
I think my sisters and I got one of ours
wrong this time around.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
He may have.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
I'm usually the planner in our group, so I usually
handle some stuff, okay. And we were the collective, the
three of us sisters. We were so indecisive in the
group chat that I think my brother in law finally
got sick enough of us that he was like, I
just booked it. Okay, we can stop talking about it.
We don't have to like go back and forth between
this house or that house. Already I did it. I
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booked it.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
Let's move on.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
I feel that I feel that conversation that he had
with your sister too. I mean there's been times with
my for we have to bring That's another thing. If
you're going over, I feel like this is unspoken rule.
You're going over to somebody's place, and it's a it's
known that it's going to be a meal event.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
You should bring something to eat. You should bring a
dish to pass. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
I like that rule, right, I like that rule. So
my wife was trying to decide what we should bring.
Should we bring this lemon savage? Should we bring this?
And I was at the store. I said, we're bringing this,
and I just got through it because I didn't want
to have that conversation anymore. So I know, I feel
how that conversation probably went for your brother in law.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Yeah, you know, this was like something that the three
of us wanted to do for my dad, and I
feel bad that he was the one that probably doesn't
have to fall on the sword and like buck it.
I'm sure he does it and that's why he did it,
but I do feel like I at least need to
send him a thank you note and be like, thank
you for ending our end.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
What if your dad is like what if your dad
is like, this is the place you guys went, Not
that he ever would, but what if he was just
like he totally was like, Oh, this isn't the place
I would have chose, But I guess this is all.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
See, that is a good unspoken rule. If you're not
the one who books the place, you can't complain about it.
It's true right there, That's true, and we have some
good ones so far. Tasha and Byron center. First person
up makes the coffee. That's the rule.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
Oh yeah, if.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
You don't want the responsibility of making the coffee and
you're not just making a cup for yourself, you're making
a coffee for everybody, she says, Just pretend to be
a sleep still.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Just lay there and wait for the first steps.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
That is a great rule, Tasha.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
That is a good one.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Six one, six two four two ninety three ninety three.
Good morning, be ninety three. Who's this and where are
you from?
Speaker 5 (08:34):
This is Stacy and I'm from Holt Stacy.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
What are your unwritten rules of the family?
Speaker 2 (08:38):
VK.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
Well, we have a two bedroom, one bathroom, five hundred
square foot cottage and there's eight of us, so it's
kind of like an unwritten rule you announce before you're
going to the bathroom. Discreetly, of course, but like, hey,
I might be thinking I'm gonna go take a shower
to an aka, like I might be blowing up the bathroom.
Speaker 4 (08:59):
You gotta go, pod.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
But if you got to get in there, get in
there now, because I'm getting in there absolutely or forever.
Speaker 5 (09:06):
Hold your pee.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Thanks for the call. Have a great day too. What
is your unwritten rule of the family?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
Trip?
Speaker 1 (09:16):
Six one six two four to two ninety three ninety three.
The youngest cousin always has to sit in the middle seat,
no matter how old they are. Sorry, the rules are
the rules.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
Yeah, do you guys do when it comes to bedrooms,
do you do like the oldest gets the best room
or or the biggest room and then it kind of
tears down or do you guys whoever?
Speaker 1 (09:37):
I think now that my sisters have kids, it's kind
of like the biggest room goes to the person bringing
the most people.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
Yeah. Yeah, that's how we do it too.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
It's just easier that way that the biggest room usually
has its own bathroom. So it's just like it's easier
to stick a family in there and have them all
just like in their own space.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
I think that. And also if you got young, young babies,
nobody wants to sleep by the room bayo. So you
get the nice you get the bigger room on the
main floor. Right.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
The rest of our rooms are actually upstairs.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
So Tara Granville, if you wake the baby during nap time,
you do bedtime solo. No one says it. We just
hand you the monitor and we disappear.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
You wake them, you take them, you wakem you.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Take them like this. One Mike from Wyoming says the
rule is no eye contact with the grill. Here's why,
Mike says, Dad insists on doing all the grilling, but
then yells at everyone for hovering when he needs help
flipping burgers. So the rule is no eye contact with
the grills.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
Go along with that.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
If you don't know how to run a grill, If
you don't know how to don't grill.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
Don't grill.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
Somebody else will gladly, gladly take that, uh that role?
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Six one, six two four two ninety three, ninety three.
What is your unspoken rule of the family vacation?
Speaker 4 (11:00):
Good morning, welcome to the B ninety three Morning Show.
What's your name and where you're from?
Speaker 2 (11:03):
Hey, my name is Matt from Grand Rapids. All right, Matt?
Speaker 3 (11:06):
What's your unwritten rule when it comes to family vacations?
Speaker 1 (11:09):
If you're walking outside from the cottage and you're bringing
a beer, you're bringing a beer for someone else too.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
On the opposite end of that too, if you are
going in and grabbing yourself a beer, you offer the
entire group.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Hey, does anybody need anything while I'm riving? That is?
I agree that Hey, I like that one