October 7, 2025 • 7 mins
That’s the question that kicks off a hilariously honest and surprisingly heartfelt segment on this episode of The Ben and Skin Show, featuring Ben Rogers, Jeff “Skin” Wade, Kevin “KT” Turner, and Krystina Ray.In this deeply relatable conversation, the crew dives into the shifting sands of love, marriage, and societal expectations. This episode is packed with memorable quotes and moments that will have you nodding, laughing, and maybe even rethinking your own timeline.Krystina opens up about the pressure of being 35 and unmarried, sparking a candid discussion about generational shifts, divorce rates, and why people are waiting longer to tie the knot. The gang even throws in some wild family history—like Skin’s grandmother being left to fend for herself at 13—and census stats that reveal the median age for first-time marriage is now 30 in Texas.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the love shack.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Baby, Ben's getting ladies talking love life and a white Mercedes.
Maybe let us be nice to you. Oh, good advice,
and you welcome to the love shack. Lady, life can
gets crazy. You need to Sexpert's rowinghouse says.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Let me handle the man problems for you.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
All right now, Christina, for certain reasons, I'm gonna begin
this conversation with the question for Ben and skin, but
feel free to jump in after. You're a woman, and
I value your input, Thank you, But you're just not qualified,
oh what I'm about to ask.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Because she's a woman. Yeah, get to the back of
the line. You're not qualified for what I'm about to ask.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
If you want her to heat up a pot pot
for you while you're doing the sexist diatribe.
Speaker 5 (00:44):
And that should be great because this question, you're not
gonna and clean the dishes after too.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
Or kat you son of a bitch? How old are
you guys? When we got married, I think thirty five
I was. Let me say, I gotta do the math.
I was thirty one. Wait, host thirty five when we
had our first kid.
Speaker 4 (01:01):
I think I think you're thirty two, Ben, Yeah, thirty two,
thirty two thirty one.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
Yeah, I was thirty six. God, you're that old. Damn
thirty eight. You're the young guy on the show. That's bad. Oh, Christian,
what do you think about the answers we all gave.
Speaker 5 (01:24):
It? Honestly, it does make me feel better. I am
thirty five, still not married. My parents got married at
eighteen and they're still together, so that's like a lot
of pressure on me.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Like, wait a minute, what but they live in separate barns.
Speaker 4 (01:37):
Right, Oh, come on, man, well and you are a
super young thirty five.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Thank you? You know what I mean? Yeah, I feel
like you're pandering to her right now.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
I mean, if somebody told you that she was twenty five,
you'd be like, what can that makes sense?
Speaker 1 (01:50):
I would.
Speaker 5 (01:51):
I also do not feel like an adult at all
in any way, shape or form. So yeah, either when
I say I'm thirty five, I'm like, wait, thirty far?
Speaker 1 (02:00):
I need to have more stuff together to five. I can't.
Speaker 6 (02:04):
I can't remember exactly how my dad worded it, but
at some point, like in his fifties, he said, my
dad calls me Mose. He goes, you know, Mo's old.
An older person is just a teenager with an older body.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Yeah, that's pretty good.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
Yeah, when it it was, it was funny because I
would have gone on forever and maybe not ever gotten married.
It because my wife and I had dated for ten
years and didn't get married. And the reason I did
was because her, her mom and her friends kind of
started giving me the full court press, just subtly, not
(02:41):
super aggressive, and I was like, oh, uh, what this
this matters? Yeah, I'm like, you know, because she wasn't
saying it. He wasn't saying put a ring on this,
you know what I mean? Uh, but I probably I
don't know if I have never gotten married had I not,
had it not been kind of brought to.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
My attention that it needed to happen.
Speaker 6 (02:59):
I was in a similar mindset, but it was more
like I just left it up to my wife.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
I was like, if you want to get married, we
can get married. If you don't want to get married,
we don't have to get married.
Speaker 6 (03:08):
I don't I have a different view on marriage probably
than most people.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
So it's your call. I'm with you. I'm down. We've
lived together now five years or whatever.
Speaker 5 (03:18):
It is.
Speaker 6 (03:19):
Uh, you know, it's really it's it's that structure is
not important to me. But if it's important to you,
I'll prioritize it and then ont of my outlook. We
pitched that to Hallmark for a car, they didn't want it.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
They get back I want to get married, yes or no? Yeah,
check this box. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
It was never really indoctrinated into probably a good portion
of girls too, but too boys like hey, uh, you're
gonna want to really get married, you know when you're
seven and you're like.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Oh, yeah, one day I'm gonna get to get married.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
And like there's probably like fifty percent of girls or
something or probably the same way.
Speaker 5 (03:55):
Like it's yeah, it's a little pressure where you're first off,
it was kind of hey, if you don't find someone
in high school, you go to college. That's where you
find your husband, and then you start family and you
have kids. That's that's what you do. I didn't do
any of that.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
I had a girl. Good job, Christina.
Speaker 6 (04:10):
Yeah, you grow up and you join a Nirvana cover band, right,
that's the dream.
Speaker 5 (04:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
So new statistics are in from the Census, the Census Bureau.
So the median age of people getting married for the
first time in twenty twenty four, the number what age
do you think.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
It was get wait say it again, the median.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
Age of people getting married for the first time in
twenty twenty four.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
What number was that in twenty twenty four?
Speaker 4 (04:36):
I bet it was thirty five lower, twenty seven higher, oh,
twenty eight, higher, thirty one lower, sixteen now thirty thirty?
Job ben Yeah, No, twenty twenty four, not nineteen twenty
right or sixteen?
Speaker 1 (04:54):
I was win a fair answer.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
God, I wonder what that was like back in the day, Like,
didn't you have my grandma they got married at twelve. No,
my grandmother was left on her own, I believe, at
the age of thirteen and got married at sixteen.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
That's what it was.
Speaker 6 (05:08):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, she They had the world fare down here,
and my grandmother came down here with her mother looking
for work. They got down here and the world fare
was a bust, and so my great grandmother, who I
never met, was like, well, screw this, I'm going to Chicago.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
You're on your own, honey.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
So the median in twenty ten was twenty eight years old.
If you go back to nineteen fifty, the median was
twenty two years old.
Speaker 6 (05:32):
My parents, I think my parents were nineteen and twenty
when they got married.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Okay, so twenty nine is in Texas is the median.
In twenty ten it was twenty seven. So the point
is people are getting older when they get married, and
it's continued to rise.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Do you know why because of Taylor and Travis who
are about thirty five?
Speaker 5 (05:51):
He's right, No, it's financial reasons, right, We're kind of
getting smarter.
Speaker 6 (05:56):
I think I really believe that there's an entire generation
of people that got me married younger so that they
could proceed forward with traditional Christian value marriage, Like you
talked about, what is you know, hammered in your head
and all that sort of stuff. And I think the
reason that generation has such a high divorce rate is because,
as we all know, nobody knows what they want with
(06:17):
their life when they're nineteen and twenty years old.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
Yeah, like you haven't done any living yet, you don't know. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (06:22):
I think it has a lot to do with the
divorce rate. I think people lose confidence in marriage and realize, hey, man,
if I don't want to get I just want to
do this once.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
I want to get it right.
Speaker 4 (06:33):
So I'm going to wait and be absolutely sure as
opposed to rushing into it when you're not sure.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
I think to Ben.
Speaker 6 (06:39):
To support Ben's point, both of my parents their second
marriage is they're still married and have been married in
their second marriage is way longer than their first marriage.
And my parents were married all the way till I
was like fifteen. Like, it's not like it was just
some short thing. It's just a different era. Learn things differently,
and I think as people get older they evaluate those
things differently.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
All Right, where are we gonna go next? In sports,
Katie
Speaker 3 (07:04):
Well, look, we need to weigh in a little bit
more on the Dallas MAVs preseason debut last night in
Fort Worth,
Welcome to the love shack.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Baby, Ben's getting ladies talking love life and a white Mercedes.
Maybe let us be nice to you. Oh, good advice,
and you welcome to the love shack. Lady, life can
gets crazy. You need to Sexpert's rowinghouse says.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Let me handle the man problems for you.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
All right now, Christina, for certain reasons, I'm gonna begin
this conversation with the question for Ben and skin, but
feel free to jump in after. You're a woman, and
I value your input, Thank you, But you're just not qualified,
oh what I'm about to ask.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Because she's a woman. Yeah, get to the back of
the line. You're not qualified for what I'm about to ask.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
If you want her to heat up a pot pot
for you while you're doing the sexist diatribe.
Speaker 5 (00:44):
And that should be great because this question, you're not
gonna and clean the dishes after too.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
Or kat you son of a bitch? How old are
you guys? When we got married, I think thirty five
I was. Let me say, I gotta do the math.
I was thirty one. Wait, host thirty five when we
had our first kid.
Speaker 4 (01:01):
I think I think you're thirty two, Ben, Yeah, thirty two,
thirty two thirty one.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
Yeah, I was thirty six. God, you're that old. Damn
thirty eight. You're the young guy on the show. That's bad. Oh, Christian,
what do you think about the answers we all gave.
Speaker 5 (01:24):
It? Honestly, it does make me feel better. I am
thirty five, still not married. My parents got married at
eighteen and they're still together, so that's like a lot
of pressure on me.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Like, wait a minute, what but they live in separate barns.
Speaker 4 (01:37):
Right, Oh, come on, man, well and you are a
super young thirty five.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Thank you? You know what I mean? Yeah, I feel
like you're pandering to her right now.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
I mean, if somebody told you that she was twenty five,
you'd be like, what can that makes sense?
Speaker 1 (01:50):
I would.
Speaker 5 (01:51):
I also do not feel like an adult at all
in any way, shape or form. So yeah, either when
I say I'm thirty five, I'm like, wait, thirty far?
Speaker 1 (02:00):
I need to have more stuff together to five. I can't.
Speaker 6 (02:04):
I can't remember exactly how my dad worded it, but
at some point, like in his fifties, he said, my
dad calls me Mose. He goes, you know, Mo's old.
An older person is just a teenager with an older body.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Yeah, that's pretty good.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
Yeah, when it it was, it was funny because I
would have gone on forever and maybe not ever gotten married.
It because my wife and I had dated for ten
years and didn't get married. And the reason I did
was because her, her mom and her friends kind of
started giving me the full court press, just subtly, not
(02:41):
super aggressive, and I was like, oh, uh, what this
this matters? Yeah, I'm like, you know, because she wasn't
saying it. He wasn't saying put a ring on this,
you know what I mean? Uh, but I probably I
don't know if I have never gotten married had I not,
had it not been kind of brought to.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
My attention that it needed to happen.
Speaker 6 (02:59):
I was in a similar mindset, but it was more
like I just left it up to my wife.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
I was like, if you want to get married, we
can get married. If you don't want to get married,
we don't have to get married.
Speaker 6 (03:08):
I don't I have a different view on marriage probably
than most people.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
So it's your call. I'm with you. I'm down. We've
lived together now five years or whatever.
Speaker 5 (03:18):
It is.
Speaker 6 (03:19):
Uh, you know, it's really it's it's that structure is
not important to me. But if it's important to you,
I'll prioritize it and then ont of my outlook. We
pitched that to Hallmark for a car, they didn't want it.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
They get back I want to get married, yes or no? Yeah,
check this box. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
It was never really indoctrinated into probably a good portion
of girls too, but too boys like hey, uh, you're
gonna want to really get married, you know when you're
seven and you're like.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Oh, yeah, one day I'm gonna get to get married.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
And like there's probably like fifty percent of girls or
something or probably the same way.
Speaker 5 (03:55):
Like it's yeah, it's a little pressure where you're first off,
it was kind of hey, if you don't find someone
in high school, you go to college. That's where you
find your husband, and then you start family and you
have kids. That's that's what you do. I didn't do
any of that.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
I had a girl. Good job, Christina.
Speaker 6 (04:10):
Yeah, you grow up and you join a Nirvana cover band, right,
that's the dream.
Speaker 5 (04:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
So new statistics are in from the Census, the Census Bureau.
So the median age of people getting married for the
first time in twenty twenty four, the number what age
do you think.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
It was get wait say it again, the median.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
Age of people getting married for the first time in
twenty twenty four.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
What number was that in twenty twenty four?
Speaker 4 (04:36):
I bet it was thirty five lower, twenty seven higher, oh,
twenty eight, higher, thirty one lower, sixteen now thirty thirty?
Job ben Yeah, No, twenty twenty four, not nineteen twenty
right or sixteen?
Speaker 1 (04:54):
I was win a fair answer.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
God, I wonder what that was like back in the day, Like,
didn't you have my grandma they got married at twelve. No,
my grandmother was left on her own, I believe, at
the age of thirteen and got married at sixteen.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
That's what it was.
Speaker 6 (05:08):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, she They had the world fare down here,
and my grandmother came down here with her mother looking
for work. They got down here and the world fare
was a bust, and so my great grandmother, who I
never met, was like, well, screw this, I'm going to Chicago.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
You're on your own, honey.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
So the median in twenty ten was twenty eight years old.
If you go back to nineteen fifty, the median was
twenty two years old.
Speaker 6 (05:32):
My parents, I think my parents were nineteen and twenty
when they got married.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Okay, so twenty nine is in Texas is the median.
In twenty ten it was twenty seven. So the point
is people are getting older when they get married, and
it's continued to rise.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Do you know why because of Taylor and Travis who
are about thirty five?
Speaker 5 (05:51):
He's right, No, it's financial reasons, right, We're kind of
getting smarter.
Speaker 6 (05:56):
I think I really believe that there's an entire generation
of people that got me married younger so that they
could proceed forward with traditional Christian value marriage, Like you
talked about, what is you know, hammered in your head
and all that sort of stuff. And I think the
reason that generation has such a high divorce rate is because,
as we all know, nobody knows what they want with
(06:17):
their life when they're nineteen and twenty years old.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
Yeah, like you haven't done any living yet, you don't know. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (06:22):
I think it has a lot to do with the
divorce rate. I think people lose confidence in marriage and realize, hey, man,
if I don't want to get I just want to
do this once.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
I want to get it right.
Speaker 4 (06:33):
So I'm going to wait and be absolutely sure as
opposed to rushing into it when you're not sure.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
I think to Ben.
Speaker 6 (06:39):
To support Ben's point, both of my parents their second
marriage is they're still married and have been married in
their second marriage is way longer than their first marriage.
And my parents were married all the way till I
was like fifteen. Like, it's not like it was just
some short thing. It's just a different era. Learn things differently,
and I think as people get older they evaluate those
things differently.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
All Right, where are we gonna go next? In sports,
Katie
Speaker 3 (07:04):
Well, look, we need to weigh in a little bit
more on the Dallas MAVs preseason debut last night in
Fort Worth,
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