February 11, 2025 • 10 mins
Bailey cheated on her bf. They worked through it. They are good now... BUT, she just found out he cheated too and never told her. What should she do? Big Valentine's plans already in the works.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
If there's only one place to turn when you need
(00:02):
life advice. And no, it's not doctor Phil. All he's
going to do is sit there and say what were
you thinking? Over and over again. And it's not your
favorite influencer who has a very loose understanding of what
manifesting means.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
And it's not even.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Oprah because she's just going to tell you to take
ozimpic like, oh no, it's the Jubil Show. And of
course it's almost Valentine's Day and one of our listeners
is in a messy situation made the wise decision of
asking if they can come on this show and ask
are incredibly knowledgable and messy listeners how they can fix
their life. And they're on the phone right now. Her
name is Bailey. Bailey, what's up?
Speaker 2 (00:38):
How are you?
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Hey?
Speaker 4 (00:40):
Guys? I'm good?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
How are you good? What's your issue? What do you
need help with?
Speaker 5 (00:46):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (00:46):
I definitely need some help. So here's my situation. Full disclosure.
I screwed up. First. I cheated on my boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Okay, like how long ago? Okay?
Speaker 6 (01:00):
A year ago?
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Okay. I was wondering if it was just like just
happened before he called Ago and I don't know what
to do.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
No, No, like a year ago, I cheated on him.
It was just one time. It was this guy at
the gym. It you know, didn't mean anything. It was
so stupid of me. My boyfriend found out and he
made me feel so awful for months, which well deserved
of course.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
So you guys are still together, then we are.
Speaker 4 (01:31):
We're still together.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
It's sort of impressive because it takes a lot to
come back from that.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
Yeah, it does. It took it took a lot for
me to gain his trust back. But we've been doing
really well, so I know he has a lot of
plans for us for Valentine's Day, which is coming up.
And Okay, so here's the thing though. Last weekend I
went out with my girlfriends and we were at the
(01:58):
bar and ran into Oh no, no, that'd be so
much worse.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Okay, so it's not that, Oh.
Speaker 4 (02:05):
Way, maybe it is. Anyway, So last weekend went out
with my girls. We were at the bar, and we
actually ran into one of his friends at the bar. Okay,
now I know this guy really well. Of course we
all hang out. So we all hung out. We were
all drinking and after a handful of drinks. My boyfriend's
(02:26):
friend let it slip that apparently my boyfriend also cheated
on me.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
Oh who really, like around the same time or recently.
Speaker 4 (02:39):
More recently, but that's from what I've gathered, it was
about six months ago.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Okay, dude, this is your You just found this out
that he cheated on you as well.
Speaker 4 (02:49):
Just found this out last weekend.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
So he never told us.
Speaker 4 (02:52):
Uh no, my boyfriend never told me. I never saw
any signs. I was completely oblivious until his friend and
he just let it slip. It was just like, you know,
I'm so glad that you guys are doing so well. Now,
you're such a cute come and like, how funny is
it that you both cheated on each trouble?
Speaker 5 (03:12):
Wait?
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Wait both we both did?
Speaker 5 (03:14):
Huh.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
As a friend, you're probably like logically like, okay, they
canceled each other out.
Speaker 6 (03:19):
Yeah, the friend knows too much and they're like, it's
just so greaty you guys together after all this turmoil
was one time.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
For him.
Speaker 4 (03:27):
From what it sounds like, I mean, I didn't ask
any questions because it sounded like he thought I already knew.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Okay, so what do you need help with?
Speaker 4 (03:38):
So now I'm just trying to figure out, like what
do I do? He has got all these plans for
Valentine's Day. I don't want to ruin that. But you know,
do I end the relationship? Do I just let it slide?
Because we're kind of even now, Like, well, how do
I handle this? Do I talk to him about it?
I don't know what to do?
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Well, call up eight eight eight three four three one
oh six one eight eight eight three four three one
oh six one. Text in four to one oh six one.
What do you think Bailey should do? We'll talk to
Bailey more right after this and you can give her
your advice next. Bailey sounds hot if she wants to
cheat on her boyfriend again, so she's in the lead.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Tell her to hit me up.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
What text message we just got in at four one
oh six one because one of our listeners, Bailey is
on the phone and she needs advice on how to
handle a difficult situation. And Bailey, you said you'll take
some phone calls from our listeners to give.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
You some advice.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
Yeah. Absolutely, okay, And.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
If you didn't hear the first part, Bailey cheated on
her boyfriend about a year ago, and then she was
just out with some friends and she ran into one
of his friends, and that person shared with her that
her boyfriend has also cheated about six months ago, and
Bailey had no idea, So she just learned this, and
she wonders. She's wondering what she should do. Should she
break it off? Should she tell him? What should she do?
(04:58):
Because he's got big bounce day plans and of course
Valentine's Day is coming up.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Hey Jesselyn, Hi, good morning. What do you think Bailey
should do?
Speaker 4 (05:08):
Honestly?
Speaker 5 (05:08):
I think they should come together as adults and you know,
have a discussion her tell him, you know that she
found out that something may have happened, have a discussion
as to why they were both unfaithful in the first place.
I mean kind of at a point in our lives
where we need to make some you know, big kid
(05:29):
decisions and we don't want to base a relationship off of,
you know, unfaithfulness and you know, not being true to
each other.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Totally.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
That's great advice, tessela In. Actually, Bailey, can I ask
you one question?
Speaker 2 (05:41):
How do you feel? Though?
Speaker 3 (05:43):
Like, how do you like? What's your gut telling you?
Are you sad? Are you mad? Do you feel like
you guys are even like, how do you feel? Do
you feel betrayed?
Speaker 4 (05:52):
I'm absolutely crushed. Yeah, heartbroken. You know, I thought that
we had moved past this, and I didn't. I didn't
expect him to do something like this and never tell me,
especially after how hard I worked to earn his trust back.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Sure, yeah, because did you tell him when you cheeted
on him? Or did he just find out?
Speaker 4 (06:15):
He found out, but he found out right after it happened,
and honestly I would have told him.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
Okay, somebody texted in at four one o six one
and said, go your separate ways.
Speaker 6 (06:25):
I think what's crazy about this too, is that he
made you feel like crap for months, but she in
cheater jail, you know, because you know someone is unfaithful
in a relationship and then the other.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Person rides the high road for four months.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Yeah, that's also not cool if you're gonna choose to
trust them to take somebody back after they cheated, and
you also have to choose to trust them right and
not like use it against them as he did he
use it against you.
Speaker 4 (06:48):
Oh, absolutely, every chance he got it came up.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
I wonder if it was his way of trying to
get past it because even though like they stayed together
and obviously he was making you feel bad about it,
hoping that would make him feel better about the fact
that he's stayed. Maybe this was like that last chance
for him to try to digest what had happened. I'm
not saying it's okay just but psychologically I could see
him trying to find comfort in doing that, saying now
that it's even I can look at you straight in
(07:12):
the face and not feel as betrayed as I do.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Well, you also say you're good. Y'all are good now,
like y'all are on good terms.
Speaker 4 (07:18):
Now, did that only happen about six months ago, like
after he cheated? You know, I feel like it was
a very gradual thing that happened, as I you know,
did gain his trust back, and we've just continuously gotten
better and better in our relationship.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
Well, then at this point, it is, like Jesslin said,
really worth having that to have that conversation, And maybe
you have that conversation on Valentine's Day? I mean, why not?
Because it is about love and finding a way to
be together and love each other. I mean, maybe that
is a good time to do it.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
It's not running Valentine's Day. Who cares?
Speaker 3 (07:51):
It's already got the stress on both sides.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Somebody texted in at four one of six one and said,
I was in the same situation and we worked through it.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Oh, Papa, is really possible? How yeah?
Speaker 6 (08:03):
Is this someone you could see yourself deathbed holding their hand?
Speaker 4 (08:09):
I thought so till I found this out, and now
I'm just so on the fence.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Somebody tell else texted in a four one o six
one Bailey and said, you guys should have an open relationship.
That's a good Valentine's date. I was thinking we could
just both see other people we like together.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
You see a couple over there?
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Was that an option, Bailey?
Speaker 4 (08:32):
I don't think that that would work well for us.
More power to the people that it works for, but
I don't think that best in our future.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
I think a lot of people on the text my
support are saying that you should at least confront him
and let him know that you know.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Yeah, I think you should do this, Bailey. I think
you should.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Confront him right and give him the opportunity to be
honest with you. And I think if he lies to you,
then be out right. You were honest with him when
you got caught he cheated. He hasn't told you either way. Honestly,
I think your relationship should be done no matter what,
because I think trust has been so trampled on at
this point. But whatever, if you want to stick with it,
(09:07):
then I think you should confront him about it, but
give him the opportunity to lie, because if he lies
about it, then you know you can't trust him at all.
And you should definitely do it on Valentine's Day over dinner.
Wait till he gives you the gifts, though. Get the
gifts first.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
You get all the guilt gifts. Now, those are always
the best gifts. That's why I got all my gifts from.
Speaker 6 (09:29):
Then stay with them a little bit, give me the lie,
get the guilt gifts, then dip on Saturday or Sunday.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
What do you think you're gonna do, Bailey.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
I think I'm going to confront him, but I think
I'm going to wait till after Valentine's Day.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
Yeah, just drag Valentine's exactly.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
Okay, so much effort into the day, and I really
just don't want to ruin that. Even if the relationship ends,
I don't want to ruin all the gifts,
If there's only one place to turn when you need
(00:02):
life advice. And no, it's not doctor Phil. All he's
going to do is sit there and say what were
you thinking? Over and over again. And it's not your
favorite influencer who has a very loose understanding of what
manifesting means.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
And it's not even.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Oprah because she's just going to tell you to take
ozimpic like, oh no, it's the Jubil Show. And of
course it's almost Valentine's Day and one of our listeners
is in a messy situation made the wise decision of
asking if they can come on this show and ask
are incredibly knowledgable and messy listeners how they can fix
their life. And they're on the phone right now. Her
name is Bailey. Bailey, what's up?
Speaker 2 (00:38):
How are you?
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Hey?
Speaker 4 (00:40):
Guys? I'm good?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
How are you good? What's your issue? What do you
need help with?
Speaker 5 (00:46):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (00:46):
I definitely need some help. So here's my situation. Full disclosure.
I screwed up. First. I cheated on my boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Okay, like how long ago? Okay?
Speaker 6 (01:00):
A year ago?
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Okay. I was wondering if it was just like just
happened before he called Ago and I don't know what
to do.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
No, No, like a year ago, I cheated on him.
It was just one time. It was this guy at
the gym. It you know, didn't mean anything. It was
so stupid of me. My boyfriend found out and he
made me feel so awful for months, which well deserved
of course.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
So you guys are still together, then we are.
Speaker 4 (01:31):
We're still together.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
It's sort of impressive because it takes a lot to
come back from that.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
Yeah, it does. It took it took a lot for
me to gain his trust back. But we've been doing
really well, so I know he has a lot of
plans for us for Valentine's Day, which is coming up.
And Okay, so here's the thing though. Last weekend I
went out with my girlfriends and we were at the
(01:58):
bar and ran into Oh no, no, that'd be so
much worse.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Okay, so it's not that, Oh.
Speaker 4 (02:05):
Way, maybe it is. Anyway, So last weekend went out
with my girls. We were at the bar, and we
actually ran into one of his friends at the bar. Okay,
now I know this guy really well. Of course we
all hang out. So we all hung out. We were
all drinking and after a handful of drinks. My boyfriend's
(02:26):
friend let it slip that apparently my boyfriend also cheated
on me.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
Oh who really, like around the same time or recently.
Speaker 4 (02:39):
More recently, but that's from what I've gathered, it was
about six months ago.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Okay, dude, this is your You just found this out
that he cheated on you as well.
Speaker 4 (02:49):
Just found this out last weekend.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
So he never told us.
Speaker 4 (02:52):
Uh no, my boyfriend never told me. I never saw
any signs. I was completely oblivious until his friend and
he just let it slip. It was just like, you know,
I'm so glad that you guys are doing so well. Now,
you're such a cute come and like, how funny is
it that you both cheated on each trouble?
Speaker 5 (03:12):
Wait?
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Wait both we both did?
Speaker 5 (03:14):
Huh.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
As a friend, you're probably like logically like, okay, they
canceled each other out.
Speaker 6 (03:19):
Yeah, the friend knows too much and they're like, it's
just so greaty you guys together after all this turmoil
was one time.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
For him.
Speaker 4 (03:27):
From what it sounds like, I mean, I didn't ask
any questions because it sounded like he thought I already knew.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Okay, so what do you need help with?
Speaker 4 (03:38):
So now I'm just trying to figure out, like what
do I do? He has got all these plans for
Valentine's Day. I don't want to ruin that. But you know,
do I end the relationship? Do I just let it slide?
Because we're kind of even now, Like, well, how do
I handle this? Do I talk to him about it?
I don't know what to do?
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Well, call up eight eight eight three four three one
oh six one eight eight eight three four three one
oh six one. Text in four to one oh six one.
What do you think Bailey should do? We'll talk to
Bailey more right after this and you can give her
your advice next. Bailey sounds hot if she wants to
cheat on her boyfriend again, so she's in the lead.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Tell her to hit me up.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
What text message we just got in at four one
oh six one because one of our listeners, Bailey is
on the phone and she needs advice on how to
handle a difficult situation. And Bailey, you said you'll take
some phone calls from our listeners to give.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
You some advice.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
Yeah. Absolutely, okay, And.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
If you didn't hear the first part, Bailey cheated on
her boyfriend about a year ago, and then she was
just out with some friends and she ran into one
of his friends, and that person shared with her that
her boyfriend has also cheated about six months ago, and
Bailey had no idea, So she just learned this, and
she wonders. She's wondering what she should do. Should she
break it off? Should she tell him? What should she do?
(04:58):
Because he's got big bounce day plans and of course
Valentine's Day is coming up.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Hey Jesselyn, Hi, good morning. What do you think Bailey
should do?
Speaker 4 (05:08):
Honestly?
Speaker 5 (05:08):
I think they should come together as adults and you know,
have a discussion her tell him, you know that she
found out that something may have happened, have a discussion
as to why they were both unfaithful in the first place.
I mean kind of at a point in our lives
where we need to make some you know, big kid
(05:29):
decisions and we don't want to base a relationship off of,
you know, unfaithfulness and you know, not being true to
each other.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Totally.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
That's great advice, tessela In. Actually, Bailey, can I ask
you one question?
Speaker 2 (05:41):
How do you feel? Though?
Speaker 3 (05:43):
Like, how do you like? What's your gut telling you?
Are you sad? Are you mad? Do you feel like
you guys are even like, how do you feel? Do
you feel betrayed?
Speaker 4 (05:52):
I'm absolutely crushed. Yeah, heartbroken. You know, I thought that
we had moved past this, and I didn't. I didn't
expect him to do something like this and never tell me,
especially after how hard I worked to earn his trust back.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Sure, yeah, because did you tell him when you cheeted
on him? Or did he just find out?
Speaker 4 (06:15):
He found out, but he found out right after it happened,
and honestly I would have told him.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
Okay, somebody texted in at four one o six one
and said, go your separate ways.
Speaker 6 (06:25):
I think what's crazy about this too, is that he
made you feel like crap for months, but she in
cheater jail, you know, because you know someone is unfaithful
in a relationship and then the other.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Person rides the high road for four months.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Yeah, that's also not cool if you're gonna choose to
trust them to take somebody back after they cheated, and
you also have to choose to trust them right and
not like use it against them as he did he
use it against you.
Speaker 4 (06:48):
Oh, absolutely, every chance he got it came up.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
I wonder if it was his way of trying to
get past it because even though like they stayed together
and obviously he was making you feel bad about it,
hoping that would make him feel better about the fact
that he's stayed. Maybe this was like that last chance
for him to try to digest what had happened. I'm
not saying it's okay just but psychologically I could see
him trying to find comfort in doing that, saying now
that it's even I can look at you straight in
(07:12):
the face and not feel as betrayed as I do.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Well, you also say you're good. Y'all are good now,
like y'all are on good terms.
Speaker 4 (07:18):
Now, did that only happen about six months ago, like
after he cheated? You know, I feel like it was
a very gradual thing that happened, as I you know,
did gain his trust back, and we've just continuously gotten
better and better in our relationship.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
Well, then at this point, it is, like Jesslin said,
really worth having that to have that conversation, And maybe
you have that conversation on Valentine's Day? I mean, why not?
Because it is about love and finding a way to
be together and love each other. I mean, maybe that
is a good time to do it.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
It's not running Valentine's Day. Who cares?
Speaker 3 (07:51):
It's already got the stress on both sides.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Somebody texted in at four one of six one and said,
I was in the same situation and we worked through it.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Oh, Papa, is really possible? How yeah?
Speaker 6 (08:03):
Is this someone you could see yourself deathbed holding their hand?
Speaker 4 (08:09):
I thought so till I found this out, and now
I'm just so on the fence.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Somebody tell else texted in a four one o six
one Bailey and said, you guys should have an open relationship.
That's a good Valentine's date. I was thinking we could
just both see other people we like together.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
You see a couple over there?
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Was that an option, Bailey?
Speaker 4 (08:32):
I don't think that that would work well for us.
More power to the people that it works for, but
I don't think that best in our future.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
I think a lot of people on the text my
support are saying that you should at least confront him
and let him know that you know.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Yeah, I think you should do this, Bailey. I think
you should.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Confront him right and give him the opportunity to be
honest with you. And I think if he lies to you,
then be out right. You were honest with him when
you got caught he cheated. He hasn't told you either way. Honestly,
I think your relationship should be done no matter what,
because I think trust has been so trampled on at
this point. But whatever, if you want to stick with it,
(09:07):
then I think you should confront him about it, but
give him the opportunity to lie, because if he lies
about it, then you know you can't trust him at all.
And you should definitely do it on Valentine's Day over dinner.
Wait till he gives you the gifts, though. Get the
gifts first.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
You get all the guilt gifts. Now, those are always
the best gifts. That's why I got all my gifts from.
Speaker 6 (09:29):
Then stay with them a little bit, give me the lie,
get the guilt gifts, then dip on Saturday or Sunday.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
What do you think you're gonna do, Bailey.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
I think I'm going to confront him, but I think
I'm going to wait till after Valentine's Day.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
Yeah, just drag Valentine's exactly.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
Okay, so much effort into the day, and I really
just don't want to ruin that. Even if the relationship ends,
I don't want to ruin all the gifts,
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