The Morning Dump 01-28-25

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:17):
So I found this list that this woman shared of
questions her dad asks her before she can invite her
boyfriend over. And I'm curious to you guys' take on these.
What are important personal stories that shaped who he is today? Okay?

(00:41):
I mean I don't hate. I don't hate the idea
behind that question, like do you know him? I think
that's what the you know that I was trying to
get to.

Speaker 2 (00:52):
I was almost curious as to that. I kind of
figured that's what the case was. But like, it doesn't
say how long they've been together.

Speaker 1 (00:58):
No, this is for any This is just what the
dad does before he can invite a boy. Is this
girl exactly? What does that matter? Well?

Speaker 3 (01:07):
I mean is she a thirteen year old with a boyfriend?

Speaker 1 (01:12):
Or right? How many life experiences does he haven?

Speaker 3 (01:16):
Right?

Speaker 1 (01:16):
Right?

Speaker 3 (01:16):
Is this an adult woman who's hopefully going to marry
this human or this.

Speaker 1 (01:22):
Guy that I think if it's an adult human, then
this is weird. I think he's trying to like give
her tools to know on whether rather than.

Speaker 2 (01:32):
He's cute maybe like a sixteen seventeen year old girl.

Speaker 1 (01:36):
Yeah, okay, so here's no where did he go to school?
And did he graduate Okay, so this is definitely after
high school, then maybe I think these are good questions.
Like here, I'm trying to give you tools for when
I'm dead. Okay, another word, or don't.

Speaker 3 (01:55):
Waste my time bringing him home. I don't want to
meet him if if you don't know enough about him.

Speaker 1 (01:59):
Does he have a family history of diabetes, blood disorders,
sickle cell sickle cell disease, or cancers? Now we've taken
a turn here. Yeah, you just got black all of
a sudden. Is he black? The girl that posted this
was black? Okay, that makes sense. Then having those sickle.

Speaker 2 (02:16):
Cell absolutely absolutely, you did not preempt us with what
race she was.

Speaker 1 (02:22):
It doesn't matter, no, but that makes sense, it does.

Speaker 2 (02:25):
I mean, I if it's a white dad asked if
that could be perceived as extremely racist.

Speaker 1 (02:30):
I don't think that's what I'm saying. If I ask
all these diseases, I'm not judging. I'm just covering all
the diseases, covering all of them. Has he ever had aides?
Has he read sex? Said medical history, which I think
is weird. I think there's nothing wrong with trying to
teach your kid like, hey, get to know someone. Oh yeah,
ask questions but when you start going like the next one,

(02:51):
does he have any past surgical procedures? I am not
clear on what that would be important for other than
to get to a deeper layer of information.

Speaker 3 (03:02):
Maybe plastic surgery. Was it?

Speaker 1 (03:04):
Well? A lot of men don't have plastic surgery, and
a lot of them aren't spies.

Speaker 3 (03:09):
True, but I maybe it was for you know, if
you're thinking about having children with this person, don't expect
them to necessarily look like that.

Speaker 1 (03:17):
Again, I think that question is like a really deep
leveled we're trying to get into the third or fourth
level of your life rather than I'm just trying to
get to know you. Yeah, that question is a little bizarre.
You may be right, But if we're having that question,
I think there's nothing wrong with asking your partner if
they've had surgical procedure, but you're just coming over for dinner.

(03:39):
I don't know if that's an important question rather than uh,
what was your life like? What was growing up like? Oh?
My dad was never there and I was a latchkey
kid and I've never you know, used a fork. That
kind of shit's important. I think when did you start dating?

(04:00):
And how many girls has he dated prior to you.
So I like this question, and I also don't like
this question. I like this question from a dad's standpoint.
I don't like this question on a I trust you
as somebody that uh is an offspring of mine? Right,
it feels like I don't trust you. I would agree

(04:21):
with that.

Speaker 2 (04:21):
I I don't see what the point of it is
because people, Yeah, it's the past. People date, and sometimes
people date a lot of different people. Sometimes people just
don't date. Maybe just that one person he fell in
love with the first piece of ass you got a
hold of.

Speaker 1 (04:35):
Those people do exist. I don't think it's any of
the dad's business. I don't disagree.

Speaker 2 (04:41):
I wouldn't ask my daughter that I know she's dated
people more than just one person.

Speaker 1 (04:47):
I think. I don't care. I think a lot of
parents try to parent in a reactionary way. For example, Hey,
I want to bring this guy i'm dating over, Okay,
does he have any past surgical procedures? What's his family history?
Does he have sickle? Sell like, that's not the time
to parent. That is out the window at that.

Speaker 2 (05:06):
Point, and you're not learning anything about the person. To me,
I think their character is way more important. The boyfriend
in this case, the character is way more important than
the past surgical procedures or you know, stuff like that,
and you don't get to find out. Maybe you can

(05:27):
see what kind of character they are by asking these questions.

Speaker 1 (05:30):
I agree that character like, what's their character like? And
maybe a question of what personal story shape. You can
kind of give examples of that character, but ultimately you'll lie.
So your character I cannot judge until you are in
front of me. Until I see you conduct yourself in public,

(05:50):
That will tell me your character. How you act when
a grandma is on the street corner trying to cross
the street. If you see trash, if you throw trash
on there, you know what I'm saying, Like, I'm gonna
start judging your character off those behaviors. Do you hold
the door open for my daughter? I'm judging you in
those moments. Another one, what does he do for a living?

(06:14):
That feels like a fair question. I think there's some
primer questions, like to get me ready for the visit
that are a fair game. Hey, what does he do
for a living? He's a he's a copy machine salesman.

Speaker 2 (06:27):
Okay, well, I mean it's better than being a crack salesman.

Speaker 1 (06:31):
I don't know. One of them you saw a business future, right,
one of them you didn't. Who does he live with?
Another great question?

Speaker 2 (06:44):
Okay, does he still live with his parents? Is he
twenty seven and still living with parents? Okay? Or is
he on his own? Does he every probably if he
will copy printers or if he sells brek?

Speaker 1 (06:55):
Yeah? True? Why did he break up with his last girlfriend? Again,
we're into a question. I think that you should have
had that seed planeted with your kid a long time
ago to get to know someone and not just go
off looks.

Speaker 2 (07:09):
But you said it before. What's it matter because they'll
there's a chance, a good chance they'll just lie about it.

Speaker 1 (07:16):
Doesn't mean that because someone could lie, you shouldn't try
to find out because then they can go well you
didn't ask. It's on you, right at least if he goes,
oh he dated you know Lindsey, and you go, I know, Lindsay, Lindsay,
did you date George his piece of shit? Right? Yeah?
Of me every day? Yeah? Uh? Does he make you

(07:39):
feel supported and safe?

Speaker 3 (07:42):
It's a good question for a dad to ask a daughter.

Speaker 1 (07:45):
Yes, But here's my problem with that question. If she
really likes him and he's I'm just gonna go with
the leather jacket, you know, cigarettes rolled up in the
sleeve kind of shit. Ray yeah, well yeah yeah, but
like that mentality. Ah, she's gonna tell him, Yes, a kid,

(08:06):
unless you have a solid relationship with your kid, which
if you did, you wouldn't need to ask these questions.
They're gonna just say yes, yeah, right, because they want
to date them. What do you like most and least
about him? I think that's a great question. That's probably
the best question on that list. And asking to me like.

Speaker 2 (08:27):
Blood work, right, it's weird, man, unless it's like looking
for like does he have a family history of cancer,
like with the diabetes or whatever? If I get it,
trying to see if there's long term here. But it's
still weird.

Speaker 1 (08:44):
It is. It feels a little old school, right.

Speaker 3 (08:47):
Like if he did have a history of cancer in
his family, what she's supposed to just dump him?

Speaker 1 (08:52):
Yes? Right? What answer here is gonna negate the situation
because a kid, if they really want to date this individual,
is going to circumvent that answer, right, And again I
think the works you've missed the chance for work by
this point, and to set that stuff up, Yeah, my
kid goes, hey, I want to bring George over. I'm

(09:14):
gonna be I'm gonna be great. Let me ask you
some questions about George so I know who he is,
Not like I need to approve his visit in a
home we share together, exactly. But you just bring him
over and I'll ask him the question. Now that's a
different thing. I got no problem whoever my daughter dates
bringing over and making them feel uncomfortable.

Speaker 3 (09:35):
My dad was never like I want to make him
feel uncomfortable. Like sure, he joked about, oh, when you
start dating and bring a guy home, I'm going to
be sure to cleaning my shotguns or something. But he
was It was very simple for him. If he could
hold a conversation with a guy that I was seeing,
then it was cool. But if he couldn't, if he
could not converse with this gentleman, he wasn't for me.

Speaker 1 (09:57):
Okay, So I think that's wild. Yeah, it was this great,
I know, but that's not an accurate red flag. Meeting
the father of somebody your dating is incredibly nerve wracking, right,
And to put make that be the threshold on whether
they're worthy or not, it's hardly fair.

Speaker 2 (10:13):
Right, What if he's just, you know, very charismatic and
knows how to answer the question.

Speaker 1 (10:18):
Sure, but he did right the beaver. Uh it did work.

Speaker 3 (10:23):
I mean there was one guy in particular that I
remember that I really crushed on, really hard, and he
could not hold a conversation with me. It was like
he was he was nervous and it didn't matter how
many times he would come over and he just might
have was like, I can't get anything out of him,
Like what did he want? He just wanted to hold

(10:44):
a conversation.

Speaker 1 (10:45):
Maybe he didn't want to talk to your dad.

Speaker 3 (10:47):
Yeah, but it didn't work out, right, But you know.

Speaker 1 (10:50):
But in the grand scheme of things, maybe he just
didn't want to talk to your dad, right, Yeah, him
not talking to your dad hardly warranted whether you guys
worked out or not. Well, I look where they're at now. No,
I get the correlation, right, I get the correlation. But
that doesn't mean anything because maybe your husband met him.

(11:11):
But would he have passed that test? You'd like to
think yes, right, but there's no way to know.

Speaker 3 (11:16):
Well, what's weird is the first night that I ran
into my now husband. I was twenty two years old
and at a bar having dinner with my dad, and
Kevin had came up and approached us, and we hadn't
seen each other since high school. And I said, holy shit, Kevin,
what's going on? And he was like, Lindsey Wow. And

(11:38):
then he stuck his hand out and introduced himself to
my dad right, and my dad was like, oh, do
you have is your dad so and so? And he's like, no,
that's my uncle. He's like, oh, we work together. And
they just started chatting.

Speaker 1 (11:49):
So your dad's went, yeah, your dad's all went down
immediately because of somebody he knows. Yeah. Yeah. I'm just
saying that those type of things hardly warrant a real
threshold test in relationships, because any of these questions kids

(12:10):
in dating is like wild. I found out yesterday, hold on,
I got a day. I found out yesterday somebody I
dated in high school died, right that. I told her
they died, But I didn't remind her I dated that. Oh.

(12:33):
I just didn't mean. What are you talking about? What
define serious at that age? Well? Was it a high
school sweetheart? What does that mean when you say serious?
What does that mean at that level? Did we talk
about marriage? No? Were we married? No? Were you sexually
active with her. I was trying to remember that. I

(12:55):
don't recall. Maybe that's horrible, but I don't. I don't
think so. I don't think so. I can't get a handy. No, No,
we had a I think I had a really great relationship.
I thought we had a Listen. I'm confident in my

(13:17):
life I have caused unconsciously harmed people. I dated everybody
ass But I don't think people are aware of that. No, no,
hell no. They don't think about it until you go
to therapy, and that brings that shit up. I can
reflect on my life and know that there are people that,
maybe on purpose and most of the time not on purpose,

(13:42):
that I have caused undo real harm on And maybe
she was one of those people. I don't know. It's
like my ex, my ex wife, right who died. I'm
confident I caused harm on her. I don't know what it.

Speaker 2 (13:57):
Was, right, she would probably say you did. She would
probably and give you all kinds of examples. Probably probably likely.
But maybe it's because.

Speaker 1 (14:07):
Does that make me bad? Though? And great? And really
I'm speaking in general terms, but like, does that make
you bad? I don't think so.

Speaker 2 (14:16):
Cause trauma on somebody they can't and it sucks. But
one could also say it's on them. You know, it's
not your actions, it's it's their reactions that caused the trauma. Right,
It's not anything you did, it's just how they reacted
to it and how they continue to react to it
that causes the trauma. I don't think it makes you

(14:38):
a bad person. I'm sure there's people out there.

Speaker 1 (14:41):
That that that.

Speaker 2 (14:43):
That do things on purpose and to cause harm and
trauma to people, but I think a lot of us
do it subconsciously. We don't even know that we're doing
it until way later down the road when they that
other person has had their therapy s action and they're like,
you need to go talk to the therapist. Is like,
you really need to go talk to this person and
so you can get over it. And then they come
back and they're like, hey, she's like, no, you did

(15:04):
some shit to me. Yeah, fucked me up pretty good.
And I didn't think about it at the time, but
my therapist says so, And I just wanted to let
you know that's how you feel.

Speaker 1 (15:13):
Yeah, that's how I feel. We'll come back. But to
tie that up to what the list is, I got
cross with her dad, oh wow, and like to the
point where like he got mad at me, and he
was a he was a very large presence of an individual,
even though I was in high school. I mean just
he was a he was a large man. Yeah, And

(15:33):
every any trouble I got in with him was all
because of her getting caught drinking all these things, because
I wasn't drinking she was. But I got in trouble
because I was the older one, oh right, and they
just pinned it on me. And I didn't throw under
the bus, and but I got cross with him, and
I didn't mean I did anything wrong. So my point

(15:56):
being is that those things there's no way to know
right now. As far as I don't think you, I
don't think people militia, people sit down and plan to
do harmful things. I think, like, let's take a classic
example of like an abuser. I don't think an abuser goes,
how can I abuse this person today? I think that's
what they know. They think that's a relationship.

Speaker 2 (16:19):
That's fair to say, that's fair to say. They do
it all subconsciously. You're the hero of your own story.

Speaker 1 (16:25):
And so I don't I don't think people, well, some
people too I don't think so. I'm sure there's some people.

Speaker 2 (16:31):
There's there's a small group of people that are just
fucking hateful assholes that are like, oh, can't I destroy
this person's world in the.

Speaker 1 (16:40):
Worst case scenario? Right? Hitler thought he was doing good
right right, So I know he wasn't like, how can
I hurt these people today? He was believing in the
cause right right right, So to him, it wasn't bad.
He wasn't twiddling his thumbs in an evil way. Though
we know that now, I mean, we knew it. We

(17:01):
kind of knew it. Then I could go down that
ratherittle I won't.

Speaker 2 (17:04):
Well, maybe it is all subconscious, regardless of who you are.
Maybe it is all subconscious. We don't mean to I
don't mean to hurt anybody. It happens. But again that
goes back to is it is it something I did
or is it just just your reaction?

Speaker 1 (17:17):
Okay, so this is okay, I'll go down. This is
fucking wild. So there's this theory that your subconscious doesn't exist.
It's just a thing that we have said for a
long time, that you have the subconscious that to almost
absolve you from responsibility, and that what happens is if
you will, you have a case. You have a plethora

(17:38):
of Marvel characters in your head and the majority of
them are really bad actors in your mind, and you
learned you have a managing of traffic air on who
you let run your life? Okay, sorry, and then you
say things like subconscious to absolve yourself like it wasn't me,

(18:03):
it was my subpetious rather than you have these thoughts
or characters. You and I've kind of talked about this,
that you have a responsibility to police the thoughts in
your brain and go, I don't want to be that
type of person that every now and again that character
will get out and then it becomes normal. Right. It

(18:25):
doesn't feel odd the more that that parcharacter is, yes,
an abuser, think of like.

Speaker 3 (18:30):
An abuser or a serial killer who says, well, they
were hookers and that's why I was correct.

Speaker 1 (18:36):
Right. If you're choosing, hey, I shouldn't kill anybody regardless
of what they do, just because I don't agree with it,
then then yeah, you would know that, Hey, that's not okay.
What about the child molesters? Can we kill them? Yeah? Hot?
Take No, I don't think you should kill the child molesters,

(18:56):
they should go through due process and be handled that way,
and then what happens in the jailhouse stays in the jailhouse.

Speaker 2 (19:01):
Is that big stand, I think is what it was
the movie with Rob Schneider, and there's like Rob's like
he runs the prison now right. I think I've talked
about this movie on this podcast before as a matter
of fact, and it's like, all right, from here on out,
there's no more rape. And it goes one of those
big things like brings this kid down. He's like, what
are you in here for? And he's like, I mean
here for twenty years for selling weed? And he's like, now,

(19:24):
should this guy right here get raped every.

Speaker 1 (19:27):
Day for selling a little bit of weed? Right?

Speaker 2 (19:30):
No? And then one of the other inmates is like,
what about the child molesters?

Speaker 1 (19:34):
Can we rape them? And he's like, the punishment fits
the crime. I'm for it, Go for it. There's a
comedian that tells I think I've said this on the
air that he tells a funny thing about like we
all are pretty lucky that we're not child molesters, because
if you think about it, when I was little, I
liked little girls m but I don't need more, but
I still love grape juice. Yeah, it's fair. We all

(20:00):
make our decisions. Now, was it your subconscious that said, no,
I need grape juice? I still like that? Right? At
some point you made the logical choice to not like
little girls anymore, but liking you know, sweet tarts was
still okay, right, and animal crackers. So what you're saying,

(20:24):
Corbin's we all have a child in Lester inside us,
but we just keep it down inside. Michael Berger at
iHeartMedia dot Com. No, you said that. I never said that.
But with that thought process, it explains why people, you know,
go off the rocker, and you know, like you hear
the statements of eyewitnesses going he was a great neighbor.

(20:44):
There was never a problem until there was the idea
of like grilling your kid's date, Like what's more important
grilling and showing that you don't trust or I trust you?
And it is what it is, Lindsey, I trust you.

Speaker 3 (21:09):
What is it is? What it is?

Speaker 1 (21:12):
That's it hardly matters, right, Okay.

Speaker 3 (21:15):
You'll figure it out matters because you just have to
have faith in yourself that you raised someone who can
find good character characteristics in people and bad ones, and
she'll figure it out on her own.

Speaker 1 (21:28):
That series of questions hardly will decide if they're worth
being around, because you can pass all the tests. This
is what I was kind of saying with your dad
and his if they can't hold a conversation, you can
pass all the tests and it's still end Exactly. I
don't know about you. I think I'm a pretty good guy,
and I've been in many relationships and they ended. Yeah.

(21:54):
Everything happens for a reason, and it isn't because I
did or didn't answer a question correctly, or or was
holding a conversation, or used the salad fork with salad,
or haven't had sickle cell right. Yeah, I just think

(22:14):
about these things like as you get older, you can
do all the right steps and well, Jason Bateman's got
a really great thing about being an actor, and he's asked,
how do I become an actor? How do people come
am an actor? And he's like, you know, the idea
that you can go to Juilliard and you can have
the best acting coach and have the best agent and

(22:34):
still not get signed. Tells me it's about ninety percent luck, right, and.

Speaker 2 (22:41):
Being brought into it as a young child and groomed
by Hollywood producers.

Speaker 1 (22:46):
But even then, it's luck. How many people How many
people do you think let take their kids to be actors?

Speaker 2 (22:54):
Right, I'm sure there's a lot of people that want that.
They see their kid, you know, he's got some kind
of talent, whether it's singing or acting, like, oh, you
should hold my mom took me for.

Speaker 3 (23:07):
Oh, Michael J.

Speaker 1 (23:08):
Fox movie.

Speaker 3 (23:09):
They were filming in Chicago, or doing auditions in Chicago,
and we drove because they were looking for a nine
year old girl with curly long hair, and I fit
that mold. It was Life with Mikey was the name.

Speaker 1 (23:20):
I was going to ask what the movie was. Yes, yes,
would you take your kids to do that? Yeah? I would.

Speaker 3 (23:29):
I mean, if it was some if they would.

Speaker 1 (23:30):
Want to go, sure, sure, that's it. That's a fun
way to word that. If there was something you knew
is not good for them, would you encourage them to
do it because they are expressing interest?

Speaker 3 (23:48):
Yeah, I mean I let my kid play football. It's
you know, not necessarily good for them, right.

Speaker 1 (23:54):
So yes, I would.

Speaker 3 (23:56):
However, I think I would make sure that I was
there every step of the way.

Speaker 1 (24:03):
So I could be involved. Until you know a movie
that Ryan Roolds is on and he is like, hey,
come talk to me over here, and then you not
have eyes on your kid.

Speaker 2 (24:11):
Or hang out on my trailer for a little bit. Right,
so you the real Deadpool?

Speaker 1 (24:15):
Yeah? What about you gimp?

Speaker 3 (24:16):
Uh?

Speaker 2 (24:17):
Well, them figured out on your own. That's the thing
about life, man, You got to figure it out on
your own. You gotta let them figure out on it.
You can protect your kids or try to protect them
until the fucking day is done, and then things are
gonna happen regardless.

Speaker 1 (24:30):
Yeah, you know what I mean.

Speaker 2 (24:31):
And if they're expressing interest in this and they want
to do it, go for it.

Speaker 1 (24:37):
Have had it.

Speaker 2 (24:37):
That will support you one hundred percent. I'll be there
if it falls apart. Yeah, but you got to figure
that on your own. I cannot. I cannot protect you
all the time, right.

Speaker 1 (24:50):
I just can't. It's impossible. Right. I don't disagree with that.
That doesn't mean I'm knocking on too now. And I
kind of have the attitude of if you wanted to
sell drugs, would I let you? Okay, what's the answer.

Speaker 2 (25:04):
No?

Speaker 1 (25:05):
Why not? They're showing interest because it's illegal? Well, so
what we just made an argument both of you did
that they should be able to do whatever they want.
I love them, do it well, then sell tic TACs Like, no,
you don't know.

Speaker 2 (25:19):
Now, you're changing what they want to do, right, right,
you can't do that. If they want to sell drugs,
let them do it.

Speaker 1 (25:26):
They've got the question. No, they've got to figure it out.

Speaker 2 (25:28):
They've got to figure it out that like, Okay, this
is something you want to do, but there are also
consequences that go with it, and you can't protect.

Speaker 1 (25:35):
Them all the time.

Speaker 2 (25:36):
So if they want to go and fucking sell drugs,
then go fucking sell drugs.

Speaker 1 (25:40):
Just know that if you get caught, you're fucked.

Speaker 2 (25:43):
You're in jail, and I'll be there to bail you out,
and I'll go to your court I'll go to your
courtrooms with you.

Speaker 3 (25:49):
But told them there's consequences.

Speaker 1 (25:52):
Because they have to learn on their own. But it
doesn't bailing them out show them that there's an out. Yeah,
that you're enabling it.

Speaker 2 (26:00):
Give them that one free pass like my parents told me.
And if it's only had to been done one, I
will bail you out of jail one time. After that,
no more, my friend will do it. I'll bail you
out of jail one time, and I would do it
for either one of my kids. If all three of
them got fucking all three of them got locked up
at the same time, then shit, all right done, all

(26:22):
three of you done used your card. But I did
it once. I belgi out one time. The rest of that,
you're on your own. You gotta figure, you gotta learn.

Speaker 1 (26:30):
Yeah, I'm not far from what you're saying. Like I
believe you've got to give your kids room to make mistakes,
but I think I have a responsibility to try and
keep you out of danger as best as possible, right,
and sometimes that might mean you're not selling drugs, And
I don't think you should be a child actor again.

Speaker 2 (26:47):
But this goes back to you know, my daughter's dating
a black guy.

Speaker 1 (26:52):
You know, I don't want you dating that black guy.
She'd go fucking do it anyway.

Speaker 2 (26:56):
The more that you do anything that you push against them,
they're going to do it anyway.

Speaker 1 (27:02):
I just want to help clean you, help that clean
that up of it. I don't think that's a fair
comparison to like something that is illegal, like who you
date that that is what it is, like that there
is zero wrong there's a zero wrong person, right right right.

Speaker 2 (27:15):
I'm just saying that, like, whatever they want to do,
they're gonna do it anyway, regardless of what it is,
whether it's dating somebody of another ethnicity, or whether it's
selling drugs or selling feet picks on fucking only fans,
They're gonna do.

Speaker 1 (27:29):
It anyway, and there's nothing I can do about it.
That is true. I I you and I agree on
that one hundred percent. But when I signed up to
be a parent, I took on the responsibility of trying
to steer them away from those things.

Speaker 2 (27:41):
And that is fantastic until they turn eighteen, and then
they are they're their own people.

Speaker 1 (27:47):
That's a different conversation with adults.

Speaker 2 (27:48):
And maybe that's why I'm like looking at things differently
than you can. Your perspective exactly. All my kids are
all growing up. Every fucking one of them's eighteen and over.

Speaker 1 (27:56):
They're all adults.

Speaker 2 (27:59):
Yeah, And who's just saying they could still get fucked
up later on down the road.

Speaker 1 (28:03):
But listen, I did my part.

Speaker 2 (28:04):
I did my part and did everything I could to
make sure that these people grow up to be upstanding citizens.
You know, now they're adults and there's nothing I can
read about it.

Speaker 1 (28:13):
I mean, I think that's a fun question too, is
what is an upstanding citizen? Well, and and that's rhetorical
that I think it's gonna be different for everybody. What
is an ups Is it someone who goes to church
every day? Is it someone who pays their taxes? Is
it someone who? Are you a good person if you
pay your taxes but also work in arms deals?

Speaker 2 (28:34):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (28:34):
Right?

Speaker 1 (28:35):
Do you pay the taxes on the arms deals? Yeah?
Do you see what I'm saying? Like, what's the movie
with Denzel Washington and he's the drug guy in New York? No,
he's that's a police officer. Yeah, still drugs involved, drugs
are involved, but with t I and uh, he's the

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boss and he goes up to that guy and shoots
that guy in the other drug guy in the face.

Speaker 3 (29:00):
Was it something brothers?

Speaker 1 (29:02):
No? Anyway, in that movie, he's a good dude, but
he's also not a good dude. So American gangster. Yeah
that's what it is. Yeah. Yeah, he was a bad
motherfucker in that movie, but a.

Speaker 2 (29:17):
Good person too, exactly for for his community.

Speaker 1 (29:21):
So he was a good person but got there a
different story. That's what I'm saying. He provided turkeys for
everybody and Thanksgiving. He took care of people in the
neighborhood and they insulate. But you could argue he wasn't
good dude because he made those moves to insulate himself, right,
kind of like Dexter.

Speaker 3 (29:39):
He was a serial killer, but he only killed bad
people that.

Speaker 1 (29:43):
Were He wasn't a good dude at all. No, Dexter's
not a good dude at all, no way, shape or
form he thought he was. He was that is a
serial killer. They think they're doing good. These people, these
people that killed prostitutes, they think they're doing God's work.
That's what Dexter is doing. He thinks he's doing the

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work of justice without judge or jury. Right, fascinating all
because you want to know who's got sickle cell. I
may start doing that with my daughters when they're of age.
Does he have sickle cell? Right?

Speaker 3 (30:25):
No?

Speaker 1 (30:26):
Does he like green peppers? There you go, it's the
hard hitting questions right there. Yeah, that's for me. I
want to know the things you don't like because I
can just roll you for it. Okra, He'll never have
okra in this house.

Speaker 2 (30:41):
Yeah, he eats meatless Fahida's dad. It's a little weird,
but it's okay.

Speaker 1 (30:44):
It's just onions and peppers. Fas kind of savas you mean,
grilled peppers and onions, right, gross, show me your greeno
without showing me your greeno.

Speaker 2 (31:03):
I'm all for it, But give me the meat. But
the goddamn steak chicken or you know, shrimping there mane.
I love the combo.

Speaker 1 (31:10):
Oh, that's the best way to do it. Yeah, it's
salsa and sky took. They do shrimp chicken, shrimp chicken
steak covered in caeso. Yeah. Love that place up there,
man Oh, it's one of the best mess Mexicans in town.

Speaker 2 (31:25):
I take a road trip up there on a bike
just because, Yeah, I want to ride go up there,
and then we hit uh, we hit up the biker
bars on the way in.

Speaker 1 (31:33):
It's it's easily the best. Yeah, I'm good with this statement.
The best, if not one of the top ten Mexican
restaurants in the metro. That's fair.

Speaker 2 (31:40):
And that's not the only one of those. There's like
two or three other ones, not the same. That's the
fun thing, same name, same menu.

Speaker 1 (31:49):
Yeah, because I've had El Tequila's and been to different ones,
and I'm like, this isn't as good as another one
I've been to. Yeah, Mexican food, That is all right.
You guys have a fantastic week. Make sure you ask
your kids who they're dating, get to know their life events,
maybe with their life goal once you already see yourself
in five years, right, yes, you guys, have a great week.

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Bye bye