Archive Episode #53: Humility is the Doorway to Wisdom w/ Brooke Deterline

How do you tell the truth when there’s so much pressure to do the opposite?

How do we stop greasing the slippery slope to hell?

What is “ethical fading” and what can we do about it?

These and other compelling questions are addressed Courageous Leadership pioneer Brooke Deterline joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.

https://www.thecourage2lead.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/brooke-deterline-428aa7/

1:30  Our most real beliefs may not be true

“The Heroic Imagination Project”

It’s easy for good people to do the wrong thing under pressure

The danger of situational influences

“Now that we know, what will we do?”

8:00 Brooke’s own epiphany of moral vulnerability

Responding through social fitness against our biology

Professor Dumbledor’s wisdom to combat groupthink

Courageous democracy

Grief is a powerful connector

14:00  Strengthening ethical decision-making through cognitive behavior training

Physical mindfulness

Write down your negative automatic thoughts, i.e, fears

Identify the behaviors emerge in stressful situations and what’s the likely impact

What we can do that’s helpful to ourselves, e.g., give ourselves distance

We can always circle back if we don’t get it right in the moment

Forward-cast others in their best roles

22:00 Even if it’s not my fault, it might still be my responsibility

In teams, we learn how to give those around us the support they want and need

Don’t be afraid to ask

Simulations need real anxiety to create muscle memory

What are the outcomes we want based on our values?

33:00 Have we thought enough about our core values?

We may not have learned to articulate them

God created difficult people for our benefit

The domino system of learning empathy

Invite participants to take the role as leaders

39:00  The 4 stages of psychological safety

Belonging safety

Learning safety

Contribution safety

Challenger safety

Transform anxiety into excitement

Three contrarians can create safety to challenge

The danger of ethical fading

48:00 Why do we miss the gorilla in the room?
Learn to see in 3-D

Don’t trust yourself until the day you die

We need to keep each other honest

There’s no such thing as an expert

Dissolute

indifferent to moral restraints; given to immoral or improper conduct; licentious; dissipated.

Dissolutive

1. Decomposition into fragments or parts; disintegration. 
2. Termination or extinction by disintegration or dispersion: 
3. Indulgence in sensual pleasures; debauchery. 

The dissolution of the empire was remarkably swift.

Joseph’s brothers and Reuben’s irresolution

When we see ourselves as individuals, we lose conviction in carrying though on our values

Connection with the right people is a source of moral strength