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Speaker 1 (00:05):
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Here's more of the podcast. I don't know the exact year,
but it's like fifteen years ago. I don't know, twenty
years ago. I swore I would never, ever, ever, ever
in my life attend another couple's baby shower below and behold,
(00:48):
God's got a sense of humor because a good friend
of ours and his girlfriend are having a baby. He's
sixty two by the way.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Oh yeah, I feel tired for him.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Yeah, and they are having a couple's baby shower. Yep.
And I immediately told Tricia I'm not going to a
couple's baby shower. I'm not going. Then she's like, well,
so and so is going to be there, and so
and so is going to be there. And I bought
their gifts. I said, I do not care who's going.
(01:22):
I was always going.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
You yeah, well I'm always going, and lander our daughter's
going to go.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
That's the only she might be able to get me
to go.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Well, but then remember the information that I gave you yesterday.
It are we lived on this one street for thirteen years.
The guy who's having the baby with his girlfriend lives
on that street. So another we knew everybody on that street.
Somebody on that street is the one show throwing the shower.
Everybody on the street is invited. Everybody on the other
(01:52):
side of the cove we lived on a lake. They're invited.
People you and I haven't seen in ten years. It's
more like a neighborhood party. And then some other random
people that we don't know. Obviously friends of hers, the
girl we've never met. People like that are invited. But
I mean, there's like seventy people invited. You.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
I overheard you tell Landry that this was a intimate affair.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
New I thought it was, But no, it's it's a
it's a it's kind of a come and go neighborhood dude, Sandy.
Some people that were there came over to our house
the day we brought Landry home for the hospital that
we haven't seen in ten or twelve years. They're going
to be there.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
I don't care.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Our friends are going to be there.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
They're going to be baby shower names, little diapers, and.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
You have to participate. I doubt that it's going to
be that. We're not going to be wrapping toilet paper
around the pregnant moms right belly to guess we're not.
I don't think it's that kind of a baby shower.
It's a baby shower and it's not just for chicks. Couples.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Well they's.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
I'm sure there will. I'm sure there will. I'm sure
Jim Brown it's going to bring his famous smoke salmon.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
With campers, Matt. Jim Brown's gonna bring that.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
He and his wife Vicky are coming, and Jim Brown
always brought his famous smoked salmon with capers to all
the events.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
I love Jim Brown.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
I know I missed Jim Brown and VICKI I know
I do too. I know they're going to be there.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
You know, I go to these things in public and
I have to take selfies and oh stop.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
You know one thing though, that's a little bit of
a stressor for me, a little bit of a drawback.
I told you who's going to be there. Oh yeah,
our dogs Shiny May she rest in peace. Bit a
lady on her buttocks.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Years ago, and she took it all the way. Yeah.
Our dog went to jail, she.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Went to quarantine for ten days. I had to pay
medical costs. It was a whole thing. Yeah, those people
are going to be that couple.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
They're the hired help is going to be there.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
They're there for They're there to do the music, is
what I found out. But there's no way that's not
a little uncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
He's got a disc jockey business.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
I don't know, he's a big he was on city
council out there. I don't know. I don't know, but
I just saw their names on the list and I
was like, that might be weird.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Yeah, when is this May tenth? I swear I'm not kidding.
I'm not joking. I swear I thought I had somethinge
May tenth that.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Was that Blue Angels trip. Potentially crap, Yeah, potentially.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
Can we bribe Colonel Rosta put us on this list.
We'll buy dinner for everybody.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
We're not buying dinner for fifty cadets. No, I'm just saying,
what now, you spoke to the to the baby daddy, right, yeah,
I talked to him.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
To me, he's all excited about the shower.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Yeah, yeah, but he also was like I looked at
the list and I don't know some of the people
on the list. He's of course, he's excited. It's gonna
be fun. It's gonna be like, I may go just.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
To masculate him for having a couple's babies.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
You're gonna go and just be a jerk to him,
just to the person who's being honored.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Yeah, first you're sixty two having a kid, and second
you're having.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
A couple of things just like buy Sandy.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
I don't know. Keep stay tuned. We'll keep you updated
on this, all right, go stick around. More coming up.
Tricia's got the story we love in just a moment.
But first I found that we were just talking about
one of my news booths named Aisha Hasney news booth,
and Tricia didn't know who she was. So I pulled
up a picture that's her. Hey, hey, hey, hey, are
(05:24):
her right?
Speaker 2 (05:25):
All right? She's all right?
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Yeah, she certainly is. She is more than all right,
all right, Chase, I gotta calm down. The stories we
law from the.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Lester Wholt Studio. Let's welcome Tricia Delicia. Hey, that's me, okay.
John bon Jovi and his wife Dorothea. They are known
for their soul kitchens. The JBJ Soul Kitchen is what
they call it. They open them up in different cities
around the world, around the United States. Pardon me, and
it's to help homelessness. What they do is they provide
(06:02):
meals at lower prices and also those in need can
put in some hours working at the kitchen in exchange
for food. It also helps people find jobs, housing, mental
health support, and more so. He and his wife opened one,
a temporary one in the Ocean County Library in Tom's River,
(06:22):
New Jersey, and the mayor is not happy about it.
He said it's more like a day's shelter and a
soup kitchen. And he said mothers shouldn't have to walk
through large gangs of intoxicated and mentally ill men with
their children to borrow a book.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Yeah, you're kind of on the wrong side of this,
mister mayor. You need to do something, as the mayor
to find a happy medium.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Right, Maybe offer a different location. I can understand what
he's saying. Yeah, people go there with their kids. I
understand what he's saying. But to just be angry about it,
Maybe offer a solution, maybe a relocation solution, maybe something else.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Did John and dorrit Well, well I actually had that incorrect.
John and Dorothea they posted something last month before this
Soul Kitchen opened up in Tom's River. Oh okay, and
they post on Instagram basically explain they're trying to end homelessness, yes,
and that it's not a homeless shelter. It's not a
soup kitchen. It's a pay it forward place. You know,
people anybody can come eat there and if you can afford,
(07:22):
you pay for it and it donates to the cause
and people if can't, they can't afford, then they can't afford.
They've been doing they were celebrating their two hundred thousandth meals.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Oh yeah, they've been doing this for a while now.
What the mayor, though, is saying is it's actually it's
not helping homelessness. It's causing an influx of homeless people
to his town and specifically to this public library that
other people are using as well.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Mister Merrit, you just want to stick your head in
the sand and pretend that homelessness doesn't exist. I'm going
to tell you ally, you can't see it, You're okay
with it.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
I don't know what the solution is to homelessness. I'm
just glad that I'm not the one who has to
figure that out, because I mean both sides, there's but you.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Know what I mean, Hey, having done some work with
homeless people, there's a lot of them are out there
by choice. Oh yeah, they want to live like they live,
they want to be off the grid. There's a lot
of mental illness and a lot of alcoholism and drug addiction, right,
a lot of that.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
I feel like the people who are homeless who actually
fell on hard times and are in this hole and
are trying to call their way out to get back.
Is this small percentage of the overall homeless population.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Yeah, And there's a hierarchy in the homeless too, Like
in the homeless culture. You know the guys that stand
on the corner that have some catchy little message on
a piece of cardboard. Yeah, the homeless guys I was
around is like those guys are scumbacks.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Because they don't really they're not really homeless.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
They're either not homeless or they're not willing to do anything,
you know what I mean. They're just a weird hierarchy
of things. And when we would take the truck down
there to feed them in the morning, I mean, they
had rules. You had to line up, everyone got to
eat before there were seconds, you know what I mean. Yeah,
there are rules. It was kind of organized, unofficially organized, right.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Those people holding the signs also make it more difficult
for people who actually are in need that people might
give their money to. I had two incidents. I was
with somebody one of my uncles. My grandfather had a ranch.
He was somebody was standing at an intersection and my
uncle said, I can give you a place to work
and you can earn so many and he was like, no,
(09:26):
I'll just stand here and get many. And another one
a lady was standing on a corner holding her cardboard
sign saying she was homeless and poor with her acrylic
painted nails that you only get done in a salon. Yeah,
And I was like, I'm not giving you any of
my money.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
No, there's a lot of resources out there for the homeless, Yes,
there are, but a lot of the shelters the guys
were scared of too, like prisons dangerous.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Yeah, some of them. I've heard that too. I said,
I'm glad I'm not the one who has to figure
it out, because that's it's a big problem.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Hats off to John and Dorothy about Jovie for doing
something to help people, which is very cool. That is
the story. We love. This is the Sandy Show. Okay,
Trisia's got a really good take on this, and she'll
tell you what the take is. Towards the end of
some made up societal rules that people think we should quit. Now,
I'm not going to go through all of these because
(10:16):
some of them are kind of stupid, but one of
them they say we should stop is respecting your elders.
Someone said, some of the nastiest people I've ever met
are over seventy good job you survive to be a dinosaur.
But respect is earned, not given, all right. Expecting another
societal norm, made up societal norm rule that people say
(10:37):
we should quit. Expecting people working in food service to
always be happy, all right, That women should be polite
to be considered lady like someone said, quote men are
never held to these standards. Now if men are not polite,
they're called a holes. Right, so there is kind of
the same standard. Yeah, kind of. Let me see what else.
(11:02):
I never heard of? This one that you can't eat
in front of your friends unless they're eating too.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
Yeah, I've never heard of that. That's definitely not a thing.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
But someone went on to say, what if I'm really
hungry and they aren't, I'm not allowed to eat? Right
That it's unacceptable to date a friend's X. Someone says
just because it didn't work out for them doesn't mean
it shouldn't work out for you. Now, if you've noticed
a trend here in all of these things, it's very
very much about them, right about how this is for me.
(11:33):
This one says it should be acceptable to respectfully decline
gifts geez, And the quote is why do I have
to pretend to like something, take it home and save
to regift later. This is all very selfish stuff. Yeah, right,
So yes, Tricia read through these and saw them too,
and had a really good.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Conclusion that is that, yeah, this is just their people.
They're basically saying, let's stop being nice and polite everybody.
This just is a way to not have to be
nice to people. We should be able to stop respecting
our elders. We shouldn't have to pretend to love a
gift that somebody took time, went out, spend their money on,
wrapped and brought to you to celebrate you. Probably in
(12:14):
some way, we don't have to bless people when they
sneeze anymore. Right, you never knew just a way to
just just be brewed, just to be a bump on
a log, and stop interacting with people in a kind
polite way.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
It's all these things suggest we should end being civil, right.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
The stibility of it. Somebody said we shouldn't have to
place a napkin in our laps, Well, then you're a pig.
You just don't want to have any manners. The one
that I don't think has anything to do with being nice.
I mean, to some degree it does, but it's on
the flip side. Expecting people working in food service to
always be happy. I feel like that's a customer service industry,
(12:54):
and I feel like the core of a good experience
at whatever establishment you're visiting, the provice customer service is
that the person serving you as a pleasant person to
be around.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
I think being pleasant leads to better tips, right, you
want to be nasty or rude or boring.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Fine, they're saying it's a thinkless, hard, stressful job. I'm
sure it is.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
There's a lot of those.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
But does that just mean that when the people come
in you get to be a jerk?
Speaker 1 (13:20):
I just I it's an attack on civility.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Is an attack on civility in manners?
Speaker 1 (13:27):
Yeah? I don't know. I hope none of this is
comes to fruition, right, right, I mean there's always room
for manners.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
I think what a nasty society we would live in?
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Oh? No, kidding, right, I mean not one I want
to live in, Tricia, not one.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Our daughter will not. She will continue to do well.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Grab the podcast version of the show if you're just
joining us. It's a great way to stay caught up.
Search the Sandy Show where you get podcasts. What's your name, Tricia,
I'm Sandy More coming up. So you say you read
something that guys feel a certain way when they rest
a certain way.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
Right, I want to see if you fall in this category.
According to new research, the average man feels sixty seven
percent more confident when he's sporting a suit or a
tux seedo.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Oh oh oh, it's not what I was expecting. Absolutely, Yeah, personally,
at least for me, I can only speak for myself. Yeah,
because I look good in a suit.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
He can wear a suit.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
Yeah, And Tricia told me that, and ever since then,
when I put on a suit, I know I look good,
and I spend some money on suits. The ones that
I have I don't skimp on.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
No, you're getting actually good suits.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
There's a couple custom made suits that still fit and
look great. But yeah, there's something about wearing a suit
and a tie too for that matter, which I don't.
I applied the Rugby rule and you're the Rugby rule.
When it comes to ties. Guys with a neck over
eighteen don't have to wear it a tie. What is
(14:56):
your neck eighteen and a half?
Speaker 2 (14:58):
So you think you don't have to wear a tie? Also,
I just kind of think for only for certain occasion.
I think right now the ties kind of secondary. It
used to be if you're wearing a suit, you have
to have a tie or a bow tie on exactly.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
But yeah, I definitely feel more confident when I'm wearing
a suit. You know, they old saying you look good?
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Do you feel good?
Speaker 1 (15:14):
Yeah? Look good? Feel good, work good, yeah right, yeah, boy,
I'd hate to be I know I have friends guys
that have to put on a suit every single day.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
That used to be what it was like in the
business world.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
I can't imagine that.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
I know, God, that sounds awful because I mean it's
so many layers. Girls, I mean, we wear had to
wear dresses and business attire back in the day, but
ours was fun, different heels and stuff like that. I
don't know. I think. I think that a man in
a suit, a nice tailored, fitting suit with a button
down shirt on underneath it, not with no tie. Yeah,
(15:53):
like kind of a cash suit.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Oh hot, Now how far down should the button go?
Speaker 2 (15:58):
I don't want to see a bunch of chest hair.
Well you always you always try, you train and do
it too low?
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Yeah, because of the hair. Yeah, trim the hair.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
Always tell you, yeah, you could do that. We just
don't wanted a bunch of chest hair sticking out. It's
not the seventies.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
Yeah, it's what's really gross. It's chest hair that comes
out of the top of a T shirt. Yeah. Animal
that is not sexy. That's animal that was from Beverly
Hills cop remember that, what was his name?
Speaker 2 (16:24):
I don't remember Johnson pincho is the actor.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Is this this is not sexy? This is animal very funny.
Oh now, I feel like I might just put on
a suit.
Speaker 2 (16:39):
Just walk around the studio in a suit, come home,
walk around the house in a suit. See what happened.
You'd feel weird if I did that, I'd be in
my comfy pants and my my T shirt.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
Guys out there, if you haven't thrown on a suit,
and we'll just do it, surprise everybody.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
Yeah, and spend the money to get a like a
fitted suit. Not I mean if you can. I mean
they don't have to be super expensive.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
No, I mean you can go to Joseph hey Banks
Ago at least get.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Us suit and get it and just tailored to fit you.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
Right.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
Chicks like it.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
And by the way, the double breasted's coming.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
Back, coming back. According to GQ, I love.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
A double breasted.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
Yeah that's old school.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
Yeah it looks good. Yeah, if you got a little fluff, guys,
n it really really well. So Hey, thanks for checking
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Here's more of the podcast. I don't know the exact year,
but it's like fifteen years ago. I don't know, twenty
years ago. I swore I would never, ever, ever, ever
in my life attend another couple's baby shower below and behold,
(00:48):
God's got a sense of humor because a good friend
of ours and his girlfriend are having a baby. He's
sixty two by the way.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Oh yeah, I feel tired for him.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Yeah, and they are having a couple's baby shower. Yep.
And I immediately told Tricia I'm not going to a
couple's baby shower. I'm not going. Then she's like, well,
so and so is going to be there, and so
and so is going to be there. And I bought
their gifts. I said, I do not care who's going.
(01:22):
I was always going.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
You yeah, well I'm always going, and lander our daughter's
going to go.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
That's the only she might be able to get me
to go.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Well, but then remember the information that I gave you yesterday.
It are we lived on this one street for thirteen years.
The guy who's having the baby with his girlfriend lives
on that street. So another we knew everybody on that street.
Somebody on that street is the one show throwing the shower.
Everybody on the street is invited. Everybody on the other
(01:52):
side of the cove we lived on a lake. They're invited.
People you and I haven't seen in ten years. It's
more like a neighborhood party. And then some other random
people that we don't know. Obviously friends of hers, the
girl we've never met. People like that are invited. But
I mean, there's like seventy people invited. You.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
I overheard you tell Landry that this was a intimate affair.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
New I thought it was, But no, it's it's a
it's a it's kind of a come and go neighborhood dude, Sandy.
Some people that were there came over to our house
the day we brought Landry home for the hospital that
we haven't seen in ten or twelve years. They're going
to be there.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
I don't care.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Our friends are going to be there.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
They're going to be baby shower names, little diapers, and.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
You have to participate. I doubt that it's going to
be that. We're not going to be wrapping toilet paper
around the pregnant moms right belly to guess we're not.
I don't think it's that kind of a baby shower.
It's a baby shower and it's not just for chicks. Couples.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Well they's.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
I'm sure there will. I'm sure there will. I'm sure
Jim Brown it's going to bring his famous smoke salmon.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
With campers, Matt. Jim Brown's gonna bring that.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
He and his wife Vicky are coming, and Jim Brown
always brought his famous smoked salmon with capers to all
the events.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
I love Jim Brown.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
I know I missed Jim Brown and VICKI I know
I do too. I know they're going to be there.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
You know, I go to these things in public and
I have to take selfies and oh stop.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
You know one thing though, that's a little bit of
a stressor for me, a little bit of a drawback.
I told you who's going to be there. Oh yeah,
our dogs Shiny May she rest in peace. Bit a
lady on her buttocks.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Years ago, and she took it all the way. Yeah.
Our dog went to jail, she.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Went to quarantine for ten days. I had to pay
medical costs. It was a whole thing. Yeah, those people
are going to be that couple.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
They're the hired help is going to be there.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
They're there for They're there to do the music, is
what I found out. But there's no way that's not
a little uncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
He's got a disc jockey business.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
I don't know, he's a big he was on city
council out there. I don't know. I don't know, but
I just saw their names on the list and I
was like, that might be weird.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Yeah, when is this May tenth? I swear I'm not kidding.
I'm not joking. I swear I thought I had somethinge
May tenth that.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Was that Blue Angels trip. Potentially crap, Yeah, potentially.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
Can we bribe Colonel Rosta put us on this list.
We'll buy dinner for everybody.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
We're not buying dinner for fifty cadets. No, I'm just saying,
what now, you spoke to the to the baby daddy, right, yeah,
I talked to him.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
To me, he's all excited about the shower.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Yeah, yeah, but he also was like I looked at
the list and I don't know some of the people
on the list. He's of course, he's excited. It's gonna
be fun. It's gonna be like, I may go just.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
To masculate him for having a couple's babies.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
You're gonna go and just be a jerk to him,
just to the person who's being honored.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Yeah, first you're sixty two having a kid, and second
you're having.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
A couple of things just like buy Sandy.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
I don't know. Keep stay tuned. We'll keep you updated
on this, all right, go stick around. More coming up.
Tricia's got the story we love in just a moment.
But first I found that we were just talking about
one of my news booths named Aisha Hasney news booth,
and Tricia didn't know who she was. So I pulled
up a picture that's her. Hey, hey, hey, hey, are
(05:24):
her right?
Speaker 2 (05:25):
All right? She's all right?
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Yeah, she certainly is. She is more than all right,
all right, Chase, I gotta calm down. The stories we
law from the.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Lester Wholt Studio. Let's welcome Tricia Delicia. Hey, that's me, okay.
John bon Jovi and his wife Dorothea. They are known
for their soul kitchens. The JBJ Soul Kitchen is what
they call it. They open them up in different cities
around the world, around the United States. Pardon me, and
it's to help homelessness. What they do is they provide
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meals at lower prices and also those in need can
put in some hours working at the kitchen in exchange
for food. It also helps people find jobs, housing, mental
health support, and more so. He and his wife opened one,
a temporary one in the Ocean County Library in Tom's River,
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New Jersey, and the mayor is not happy about it.
He said it's more like a day's shelter and a
soup kitchen. And he said mothers shouldn't have to walk
through large gangs of intoxicated and mentally ill men with
their children to borrow a book.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Yeah, you're kind of on the wrong side of this,
mister mayor. You need to do something, as the mayor
to find a happy medium.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Right, Maybe offer a different location. I can understand what
he's saying. Yeah, people go there with their kids. I
understand what he's saying. But to just be angry about it,
Maybe offer a solution, maybe a relocation solution, maybe something else.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Did John and dorrit Well, well I actually had that incorrect.
John and Dorothea they posted something last month before this
Soul Kitchen opened up in Tom's River. Oh okay, and
they post on Instagram basically explain they're trying to end homelessness, yes,
and that it's not a homeless shelter. It's not a
soup kitchen. It's a pay it forward place. You know,
people anybody can come eat there and if you can afford,
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you pay for it and it donates to the cause
and people if can't, they can't afford, then they can't afford.
They've been doing they were celebrating their two hundred thousandth meals.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Oh yeah, they've been doing this for a while now.
What the mayor, though, is saying is it's actually it's
not helping homelessness. It's causing an influx of homeless people
to his town and specifically to this public library that
other people are using as well.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Mister Merrit, you just want to stick your head in
the sand and pretend that homelessness doesn't exist. I'm going
to tell you ally, you can't see it, You're okay
with it.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
I don't know what the solution is to homelessness. I'm
just glad that I'm not the one who has to
figure that out, because I mean both sides, there's but you.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Know what I mean, Hey, having done some work with
homeless people, there's a lot of them are out there
by choice. Oh yeah, they want to live like they live,
they want to be off the grid. There's a lot
of mental illness and a lot of alcoholism and drug addiction, right,
a lot of that.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
I feel like the people who are homeless who actually
fell on hard times and are in this hole and
are trying to call their way out to get back.
Is this small percentage of the overall homeless population.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Yeah, And there's a hierarchy in the homeless too, Like
in the homeless culture. You know the guys that stand
on the corner that have some catchy little message on
a piece of cardboard. Yeah, the homeless guys I was
around is like those guys are scumbacks.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Because they don't really they're not really homeless.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
They're either not homeless or they're not willing to do anything,
you know what I mean. They're just a weird hierarchy
of things. And when we would take the truck down
there to feed them in the morning, I mean, they
had rules. You had to line up, everyone got to
eat before there were seconds, you know what I mean. Yeah,
there are rules. It was kind of organized, unofficially organized, right.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Those people holding the signs also make it more difficult
for people who actually are in need that people might
give their money to. I had two incidents. I was
with somebody one of my uncles. My grandfather had a ranch.
He was somebody was standing at an intersection and my
uncle said, I can give you a place to work
and you can earn so many and he was like, no,
(09:26):
I'll just stand here and get many. And another one
a lady was standing on a corner holding her cardboard
sign saying she was homeless and poor with her acrylic
painted nails that you only get done in a salon. Yeah,
And I was like, I'm not giving you any of
my money.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
No, there's a lot of resources out there for the homeless, Yes,
there are, but a lot of the shelters the guys
were scared of too, like prisons dangerous.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Yeah, some of them. I've heard that too. I said,
I'm glad I'm not the one who has to figure
it out, because that's it's a big problem.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Hats off to John and Dorothy about Jovie for doing
something to help people, which is very cool. That is
the story. We love. This is the Sandy Show. Okay,
Trisia's got a really good take on this, and she'll
tell you what the take is. Towards the end of
some made up societal rules that people think we should quit. Now,
I'm not going to go through all of these because
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some of them are kind of stupid, but one of
them they say we should stop is respecting your elders.
Someone said, some of the nastiest people I've ever met
are over seventy good job you survive to be a dinosaur.
But respect is earned, not given, all right. Expecting another
societal norm, made up societal norm rule that people say
(10:37):
we should quit. Expecting people working in food service to
always be happy, all right, That women should be polite
to be considered lady like someone said, quote men are
never held to these standards. Now if men are not polite,
they're called a holes. Right, so there is kind of
the same standard. Yeah, kind of. Let me see what else.
(11:02):
I never heard of? This one that you can't eat
in front of your friends unless they're eating too.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
Yeah, I've never heard of that. That's definitely not a thing.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
But someone went on to say, what if I'm really
hungry and they aren't, I'm not allowed to eat? Right
That it's unacceptable to date a friend's X. Someone says
just because it didn't work out for them doesn't mean
it shouldn't work out for you. Now, if you've noticed
a trend here in all of these things, it's very
very much about them, right about how this is for me.
(11:33):
This one says it should be acceptable to respectfully decline
gifts geez, And the quote is why do I have
to pretend to like something, take it home and save
to regift later. This is all very selfish stuff. Yeah, right,
So yes, Tricia read through these and saw them too,
and had a really good.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Conclusion that is that, yeah, this is just their people.
They're basically saying, let's stop being nice and polite everybody.
This just is a way to not have to be
nice to people. We should be able to stop respecting
our elders. We shouldn't have to pretend to love a
gift that somebody took time, went out, spend their money on,
wrapped and brought to you to celebrate you. Probably in
(12:14):
some way, we don't have to bless people when they
sneeze anymore. Right, you never knew just a way to
just just be brewed, just to be a bump on
a log, and stop interacting with people in a kind
polite way.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
It's all these things suggest we should end being civil, right.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
The stibility of it. Somebody said we shouldn't have to
place a napkin in our laps, Well, then you're a pig.
You just don't want to have any manners. The one
that I don't think has anything to do with being nice.
I mean, to some degree it does, but it's on
the flip side. Expecting people working in food service to
always be happy. I feel like that's a customer service industry,
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and I feel like the core of a good experience
at whatever establishment you're visiting, the provice customer service is
that the person serving you as a pleasant person to
be around.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
I think being pleasant leads to better tips, right, you
want to be nasty or rude or boring.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Fine, they're saying it's a thinkless, hard, stressful job. I'm
sure it is.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
There's a lot of those.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
But does that just mean that when the people come
in you get to be a jerk?
Speaker 1 (13:20):
I just I it's an attack on civility.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Is an attack on civility in manners?
Speaker 1 (13:27):
Yeah? I don't know. I hope none of this is
comes to fruition, right, right, I mean there's always room
for manners.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
I think what a nasty society we would live in?
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Oh? No, kidding, right, I mean not one I want
to live in, Tricia, not one.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Our daughter will not. She will continue to do well.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Grab the podcast version of the show if you're just
joining us. It's a great way to stay caught up.
Search the Sandy Show where you get podcasts. What's your name, Tricia,
I'm Sandy More coming up. So you say you read
something that guys feel a certain way when they rest
a certain way.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
Right, I want to see if you fall in this category.
According to new research, the average man feels sixty seven
percent more confident when he's sporting a suit or a
tux seedo.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Oh oh oh, it's not what I was expecting. Absolutely, Yeah, personally,
at least for me, I can only speak for myself. Yeah,
because I look good in a suit.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
He can wear a suit.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
Yeah, And Tricia told me that, and ever since then,
when I put on a suit, I know I look good,
and I spend some money on suits. The ones that
I have I don't skimp on.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
No, you're getting actually good suits.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
There's a couple custom made suits that still fit and
look great. But yeah, there's something about wearing a suit
and a tie too for that matter, which I don't.
I applied the Rugby rule and you're the Rugby rule.
When it comes to ties. Guys with a neck over
eighteen don't have to wear it a tie. What is
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your neck eighteen and a half?
Speaker 2 (14:58):
So you think you don't have to wear a tie? Also,
I just kind of think for only for certain occasion.
I think right now the ties kind of secondary. It
used to be if you're wearing a suit, you have
to have a tie or a bow tie on exactly.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
But yeah, I definitely feel more confident when I'm wearing
a suit. You know, they old saying you look good?
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Do you feel good?
Speaker 1 (15:14):
Yeah? Look good? Feel good, work good, yeah right, yeah, boy,
I'd hate to be I know I have friends guys
that have to put on a suit every single day.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
That used to be what it was like in the
business world.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
I can't imagine that.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
I know, God, that sounds awful because I mean it's
so many layers. Girls, I mean, we wear had to
wear dresses and business attire back in the day, but
ours was fun, different heels and stuff like that. I
don't know. I think. I think that a man in
a suit, a nice tailored, fitting suit with a button
down shirt on underneath it, not with no tie. Yeah,
(15:53):
like kind of a cash suit.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Oh hot, Now how far down should the button go?
Speaker 2 (15:58):
I don't want to see a bunch of chest hair.
Well you always you always try, you train and do
it too low?
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Yeah, because of the hair. Yeah, trim the hair.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
Always tell you, yeah, you could do that. We just
don't wanted a bunch of chest hair sticking out. It's
not the seventies.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
Yeah, it's what's really gross. It's chest hair that comes
out of the top of a T shirt. Yeah. Animal
that is not sexy. That's animal that was from Beverly
Hills cop remember that, what was his name?
Speaker 2 (16:24):
I don't remember Johnson pincho is the actor.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Is this this is not sexy? This is animal very funny.
Oh now, I feel like I might just put on
a suit.
Speaker 2 (16:39):
Just walk around the studio in a suit, come home,
walk around the house in a suit. See what happened.
You'd feel weird if I did that, I'd be in
my comfy pants and my my T shirt.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
Guys out there, if you haven't thrown on a suit,
and we'll just do it, surprise everybody.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
Yeah, and spend the money to get a like a
fitted suit. Not I mean if you can. I mean
they don't have to be super expensive.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
No, I mean you can go to Joseph hey Banks
Ago at least get.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Us suit and get it and just tailored to fit you.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
Right.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
Chicks like it.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
And by the way, the double breasted's coming.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
Back, coming back. According to GQ, I love.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
A double breasted.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
Yeah that's old school.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
Yeah it looks good. Yeah, if you got a little fluff, guys,
n it really really well. So Hey, thanks for checking
out the podcast version of the show. We appreciate it.
We hope you listen to the radio as well. You
can catch us every morning six until ten on Austin's
eighty station one oh three point one, stream us on
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