April 17, 2024 • 19 mins
Audio has resurfaced of a reporter who turned out to be a bully to actor Michael B. Jordan in high school! What would you do if you ran into your bully now?
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Did keep a stiff all right,it's three thirty six, and coming up
in just a bit, we're gonnahave that best damned sports segment period,
So stand by for that. Getyour head right for it. Mister Dallas,
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Jabs and body shots. So we'llsee about all of that. That's
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So this first story is something thathas resurfaced on social media that is pretty
awesome. I believe that this particularevent went down in La last year at
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the premiere of the movie Creed three. Okay, I'm not a Creed person,
so I haven't watched. I knowI don't like the movie or the
band. What. The first Creedwas a good It was good. I
don't know if I saw the secondone. I definitely haven't seen the third
one. Yeah, but it wasgood. Creed was good. I guess
they needed three of them. Rockygot like eight of them. Yeah.
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You don't like the band, Idon't mean I like them because of the
Rangers tie, I guess, butthat's it to them forever. Yeah,
although I haven't heard Creed lately,Like we were trying to decide at the
beginning of this Ranger season if thatwas going to follow them throughout this season,
and I would say no so far, I take Creed over that other
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song. I would take that othersong over Creed. Yeah really, no,
no, no, no, youcan not do Creed. I'll take
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that Creed sound amazing. That's thebest Creed has ever sound. They have
never been better. Great Creed.These are my only two choices. You
walked into him? Yeah, Iguess I did. They'll have a new
song this year, though, whowill Rangers? Will the Rangers? What
do you think it's gonna be?I don't know. Whatever. Whatever rocks
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the room after games. Maybe it'sthe recorder of Titanic. I can send
it to stats like for a pitchingchange. Yeah, I just saw him
about two hours ago. So yeah, dude, if if he played this
when the opposing team had to goto the bullpen, that would be awesome.
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That'd be great. Maybe they'll playB B Rex after dubs. Maybe
they will make my cappy it's awood. I'd prefer that. But other
song they tried came out from it. I guess I don't know. That's
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enough? All right? So someaudio's reservice from this Creed three premiere in
LA and it's Michael B. Jordanbeing interviewed by a reporter for one of
the Hollywood stations doesn't even look likeone of the big ones or anything like
that. But at these premieres,it's a few celebrities and like one hundred
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million thousand reporters that are trying toget a SoundBite from them. So how
these things work. So is MichaelB. Jordan who was the director of
the movie and start in the movieand is doing very well for himself in
life as a very famous actor anddirector. And this is just one of
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those moments where you hear it andyou're kind of like, ha, this
is awesome because I think everybody canrelate to being bullied in high school.
Here's what happened when Michael B.Jordan was interviewed by random reporter woman in
la which is not far from wherehe grew up, and she was trying
to get a SoundBite from him athis big premiere. Michael B. Juden
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the director and the star of Creedthree, and you know we know each
other. We go way back,all the way to chad Science and Newark.
Okay, corny, right, Idid not say that misquoted for sure,
so you did not hear everything.I thought. We used to make
fun of the name but yeah,he is obviously killing things out here.
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So she's trying to say, yeah, we go back and lean into the
fact that they went to high schooltogether, and he says, the corny
kid. You used to call methe corny kid, right, m hm.
I can tell you if you aretrying to get which one of them
is recalling correctly, I promise youthe answer is him. She got so
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nervous. Not well, no,just the person who was called something remembers
what they were called. Yeah,he remembers you as if you have,
if you suddenly or even outright totallybullied someone back in the day, you
might not really remember it. Theydo, they do. He remembers.
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She's lying. She got so awkwardthere. Okay, let's play it one
more time, and let's just listento her immediate response. You won't even
point the mic out. We allknow this moment when you're trying to like
back out of something, but thisis even worse than normal because you're live
on beer or whatever. Somebody hasa camera on you and she's trying to
cover up, cover up. MichaelB. Michael B. Judd and the
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director and the star of Creed three, and you know, we know each
other. We go way back,all the way to Chad Science and Newark.
Okay, I did not say thatmisquoted for sure. I know you
did not hear anything. I thoughtwe used to make fun of the name.
But yeah, he is obviously killingthings out here. Yeah, that's
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unfortunate for her. She was sayingshe made fun of they made fun of
the name. I guess Michael Jordan. But it sounds like it was more
than that if you're calling him cornyand now maybe he was doing acting or
you know, I was reading abouthim a little bit. He was in
some like kid commercials back in theday. He was in a commercial for
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Toys RS. And Corny Kid.Everyone called him corny. Look who's laughing
now? All the way to thebank, baby bank. Is there anything
that's happened to you guys that reallyjust has stuck with you all these years?
When somebody was being mean, letme count them, mom, you
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name it. Yeah, what wereyour insults? What would they say to
you? I can't say them?Oh? Really? Yeah, because you
were you said you were like skinnywith glasses and some people made fun of
you. Yeah the time, asdorky as you could be. You're talking
about your peep. Now they weren'ttalking about that. Oh, I don't
think did they fear it? Ifthey're smart? Oh I I don't know
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what any of that meant, butit was awesome. I don't either.
Uh. Sure, I go totherapy. I remember specific bullying instances.
Yeah, remember because it sticks withyou. Yeah, that's why I'm telling
you. I know that Michael B. Jordan remembers correctly because if you are
bullied, you will remember it.And that must have felt so good.
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I'm sure it did. No,he was like, yeah, famous movie
star, and she needs him toaccomplish her mission of the day, which
is get an interview with a celebrity. And now she's afraid to even point
to Mike his way when the goalis to get Michael B. Jordan to
talk to me. But yeah,has now said that, Yeah, the
corny kid, right, And she'slike, no, I didn't, and
he keeps trying to talk like Ijust I didn't. I'm gonna keep the
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mic. Yeah. I had toboot him saying corny kid really loud to
get it to normal level. Yeah, because she did not want that going
in the microphone. No, shedidn't. It's pretty amazing. He has
the last laugh there in that situation. I'm trying to think if I had
anything you did I he did notthat I'll get you put on a list.
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Right, she didn't. I betshe was always the most popular girl
in school. Who Jewels? Iknow somebody that bullied Jewels? Oh yeah,
I don't personally know her, butI'm familiar. That is a nice
thought. But no, I was. I was on both ends of the
spectrum. Yeah, you did somebullying. Yourself did some bullying, and
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I was bullied. I think thatis somewhat standard. Maybe, Yeah,
who would bully you? Oh,plenty of people. Like when you want
to hang out with whoever is youthink is considered cool or popular or whatever,
then you just have to accept crap, you know. Yeah, And
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then if there's somebody who thinks thatyou're cool and they want to hang out
with you, well, I've learnedvia the other end of this that what
I do is I get to bemean to you. Right, none,
if it makes sense, no,none of it is right? No or
okay, No, people are mean. Man. We need everyone out there
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to just do the most incredible parentingever and not let the kids fall victim
to that stupid cycle of garbage.People are definitely more cognizant to bullying now,
but it happens in it and howdo parents keep it from happening?
I mean, I think if youraise a I don't know, emotionally,
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a high emotional IQ human, Imean, I know it's challenging because inherently,
when a little tiny person becomes alittle bit bigger person, like,
being selfish is natural, right,All you know is your individual needs,
and so you're trying to do allthis and all that. Yeah, but
then you start going to school andeverything. You want acceptance, You want
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everybody to like you. If yourboy, you want the girls to like
you. If you're a girl,you want guys to like you. And
it's probably more uncomfortable adult type conversationswith kids about how people operate and the
things that can happen and why wedon't want to be a part of that
and etc. Etc. I don'tknow. I'm surely there is a the
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job can be done in a way. Yeah, you can exist above that.
But I feel like that was agreat failing for me as a parent
because I didn't know how to dothat. I didn't know how to do
that, and when I tried,I didn't know how to give my kid
to listen to me. Yeah,and it's hard because we got a little
tiny brains from our kids too.So yeah, I don't know if it's
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actually possible to create an environment whereeverybody's actually kind to each other, but
it sure would be great, andpeople are trying. And I think it's
just more about like instilling the valuesin your kids when they're young to be
kind to everybody. Maybe not somuch like don't bully, yeah, but
just be a good human and bekind and do the right thing and treat
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people with respect, and if youdon't, you're going to get in trouble.
But it's funny like seeing you know, talking about like the popular kids
or whatever. Like my kids arevery very young, so that hasn't really
started, but you know who's tryingto start it. Some of the moms,
like they're trying to arrange who theirkids hang out with, and you
know, it's dumb, like mykid's gonna be popular and I'm going to
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make sure that they're with this personand doing this and paying extra for this
or that. It's like it's insane, it's dumb. But it's not surprising,
No, it's it's crazy. It'scrazy, yeah, because I can
remember it, like I can remembergoing through school, and I was athletic
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at a young age, Like Igot call and could run fast and do
all the things. So like Iboom athlete friends right got those, Yeah,
And on average, I would sayathlete friends were meaner to non athlete
people than other people were. ButI also had interest in like nerd things
and like magic the gathering and sometabletop games and stuff like that. And
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if I could go backwards, that'sthe friends that I would have spent all
my time with and I would havenever been picked. I would never been
mean to any of them. Andit's like, now, just own who
you actually are. But none ofus figure out who we actually are until
we're way past that age. Wellmaybe not none of us, but I'll
say I didn't. And I thinka lot of people you don't really figure
out who you are until it doesn'tmatter anymore. I think certainly most don't
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figure it out for sure. Yeah, because you have to get out of
that social construct where there's like ahierarchy and you're hoping to get into these
certain things and avoid and not beviewed as certain things. And once you
get the hell out of there andyou can figure out, wait, what's
the stuff that like, I'm interestedin and that I think is cool?
And suddenly it's not about how peoplelook or whatever. It's the shared interest.
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You're like, Oh, cool doesnot mean what I thought it meant
when I was eleven. Right,cool is just being you and being cool
with it exactly. That's cool,exactly, And that's what I try to
do with my children, because itis weird when you're on the other side
of it. With kids, it'slike, you just be you, and
whoever you make friends with is whoyou're supposed to be. Like, be
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friends with whoever you want to be, do what you want to do.
You don't have to go to thisor go to that, or play this
sport or be on this team orwhatever. Just be yourself. And then
you have to tell them, andwhoever's mean to you, ignore the hell
out of them and feel sorry forthem because whoever is being mean. It's
a generic saying, but it's onehundred percent true. Like, hurt people,
hurt people. If someone is beingmean to you, just know that
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they're hurting. Like there's no reasonto like fire back or no whatever.
You just go, man, thatsucks, and walk away from that and
don't let it affect you because justknow they're not really coming at you,
right, they're expressing them. There'ssomething that is causing them to be unhappy.
Yeah, and know that no matterwhat happens, the sun's going to
come up tomorrow and tomorrow's another day. That's right, man. We need
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to write a book or just beatthe hell out of it, beat everybody
up, because yeah, you canlook back at it now and if I
promise, whoever in your high schoolgot in a bunch of fights, their
dad beat their ass. Yeah,there why they were violent, some rage
in there. Yeah, they learnedviolence is how we solve problems. That's
how it works. Yep. Andit's real weird being on the parenting side
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of things and realizing the things you'redoing and saying are going to affect your
kid and they're you're just trying tomake sure they don't grow up with childhood
trauma from something you've done, andthey're going to I'm not a parent,
so kind of speaking a term,but like they're going to because nobody's perfect,
right, right, and so Iguess the challenge is just how often
can I stay in the space whereI don't say something is like a snap
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reaction that could be something that inyour mind because I got stuff. We
all, I think a lot ofpeople have stuff. I have stuff that's
popped up in therapy that I didn'tknow I remembered that was something a parent
said to me. That was anoff the cuff. They didn't intend to
hurt feelings, but it's just areaction in the moment of people being frustrated
or something of that stays in youbecause you were a certain age and that
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and it hurt. Yep, Iknow I've done it. And man,
that stuff stays with me from theparents side, Yeah, that stuff stays
with me. And I try totuck it away in a place where it
can't be gotten to very easily.But boy, when it does, I'm
just like, man, what wereyou doing there? It's tech? What
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were you doing? What were youthinking? How did you get so far
off track and down that wrong paththere? Yeah? Well, and it's
almost it's damn near an impossible task, like being a perfect parent, I'm
sure is a damn near impossible task, because like at a certain age,
children are naturally going to rebel andor distance or test boundaries, like they're
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trying to make you mad. Youdefinitely become uncool and you have to be
able to always stay cool and neversay anything inappropriate or be mad. And
it's like good luck, yep,you just start walking away, that's what.
Okay, Well you don't like leavethem forever. I'm just talking about
walking down the hallway, Like,mom, now you're not validating my emotions.
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That's the job. Is impossible.Just try your best. It is,
it really is. I was readingsomething like just this morning that's like,
if your child's having an outburst oryou know, acting out, it's
probably because they're seeking connection with you. And then I start thinking about it,
like my son last night was havingproblems. He didn't want to eat,
didn't want to take a shower,and I'm like, what if I,
oh, I was gone all dayand all night, like he was
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acting out to try and get myattention, you know. And in the
moment, it's hard for you tothink about why that's happening, but it's
usually accurate, and in your mindit's like why are you being annoying?
Eat your damn dinner. Yes,just eat your dinner. It's like,
well, I'm not because I wantyou to see me exactly. Don't just
tell me to eat right, Let'shave a moment of connection here. Meanwhile,
he has to have the TV ontea, so I can't connect with
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them parent so fun, I toldhim if he ate half of his rice,
he could have dessert. So whenI wasn't looking, he put half
of his rice on the other half. So it was a big, one
big mound of rice on one sideand then nothing on the other. Yeah,
And then I told him I sawwhat. I know what you did.
And then he yelled at me andhe said, I did not like
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you have one big mound of rice. Honey, Let's do a test and
one'sh you a pile in half andlet's see if it fills the plate.
I think gridious, do you thinkGridio? Well, the bullying talk for
everybody look at at an accidentally usefulconversation. That was a productive conversation.
Thank you, Michael B. Jordanuh coming up next this time for the
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best damn sports segment period. AmI gonna try to sneak in some Cowboys
draft talk, probably, but alsothe great Don Van Natta is back at
it. Mike, You're gonna lovethis. I can't wait. We got
stuff on the goat
Did keep a stiff all right,it's three thirty six, and coming up
in just a bit, we're gonnahave that best damned sports segment period,
So stand by for that. Getyour head right for it. Mister Dallas,
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come be along at four thirty five, I believe today. When I
talked to him earlier this morning,he says he's got a few quick hits
for us, which sounds like whathe had yesterday. Jabs and body shots.
Jabs and body shots. So we'llsee about all of that. That's
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a long way away because right nowwe've got something far bigger ahead of us,
and that's something would be this timefor Hollywood Swinging. Brought to you
by Alamo Draft House Cinema. Thankyou, Groovy, Thank you, Almo
Draft House Cinema. Tuesday, Aprilthirtieth at the Alamo Draft House End and
(01:12):
you can join the Ben and SkinShow for a special screening of Magruber for
Let's Freak in Chill as our Let'sFreaking Chill series continues on tickets just seven
dollars for this space is limited.Get your tickets while you still can ninety
seven onethfreak dot com to get yousome go watch mcgroober with Ben and Skin
(01:34):
and Steve and Christina and have agrand old time and eat some popcorn for
me. Why are you there?Because it's the best popcorn in town,
best movie theater in town, AlamoDraft House Cinema. Uh all right,
So this first story is something thathas resurfaced on social media that is pretty
awesome. I believe that this particularevent went down in La last year at
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the premiere of the movie Creed three. Okay, I'm not a Creed person,
so I haven't watched. I knowI don't like the movie or the
band. What. The first Creedwas a good It was good. I
don't know if I saw the secondone. I definitely haven't seen the third
one. Yeah, but it wasgood. Creed was good. I guess
they needed three of them. Rockygot like eight of them. Yeah.
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You don't like the band, Idon't mean I like them because of the
Rangers tie, I guess, butthat's it to them forever. Yeah,
although I haven't heard Creed lately,Like we were trying to decide at the
beginning of this Ranger season if thatwas going to follow them throughout this season,
and I would say no so far, I take Creed over that other
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song. I would take that othersong over Creed. Yeah really, no,
no, no, no, youcan not do Creed. I'll take
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that Creed sound amazing. That's thebest Creed has ever sound. They have
never been better. Great Creed.These are my only two choices. You
walked into him? Yeah, Iguess I did. They'll have a new
song this year, though, whowill Rangers? Will the Rangers? What
do you think it's gonna be?I don't know. Whatever. Whatever rocks
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the room after games. Maybe it'sthe recorder of Titanic. I can send
it to stats like for a pitchingchange. Yeah, I just saw him
about two hours ago. So yeah, dude, if if he played this
when the opposing team had to goto the bullpen, that would be awesome.
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That'd be great. Maybe they'll playB B Rex after dubs. Maybe
they will make my cappy it's awood. I'd prefer that. But other
song they tried came out from it. I guess I don't know. That's
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enough? All right? So someaudio's reservice from this Creed three premiere in
LA and it's Michael B. Jordanbeing interviewed by a reporter for one of
the Hollywood stations doesn't even look likeone of the big ones or anything like
that. But at these premieres,it's a few celebrities and like one hundred
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million thousand reporters that are trying toget a SoundBite from them. So how
these things work. So is MichaelB. Jordan who was the director of
the movie and start in the movieand is doing very well for himself in
life as a very famous actor anddirector. And this is just one of
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those moments where you hear it andyou're kind of like, ha, this
is awesome because I think everybody canrelate to being bullied in high school.
Here's what happened when Michael B.Jordan was interviewed by random reporter woman in
la which is not far from wherehe grew up, and she was trying
to get a SoundBite from him athis big premiere. Michael B. Juden
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the director and the star of Creedthree, and you know we know each
other. We go way back,all the way to chad Science and Newark.
Okay, corny, right, Idid not say that misquoted for sure,
so you did not hear everything.I thought. We used to make
fun of the name but yeah,he is obviously killing things out here.
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So she's trying to say, yeah, we go back and lean into the
fact that they went to high schooltogether, and he says, the corny
kid. You used to call methe corny kid, right, m hm.
I can tell you if you aretrying to get which one of them
is recalling correctly, I promise youthe answer is him. She got so
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nervous. Not well, no,just the person who was called something remembers
what they were called. Yeah,he remembers you as if you have,
if you suddenly or even outright totallybullied someone back in the day, you
might not really remember it. Theydo, they do. He remembers.
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She's lying. She got so awkwardthere. Okay, let's play it one
more time, and let's just listento her immediate response. You won't even
point the mic out. We allknow this moment when you're trying to like
back out of something, but thisis even worse than normal because you're live
on beer or whatever. Somebody hasa camera on you and she's trying to
cover up, cover up. MichaelB. Michael B. Judd and the
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director and the star of Creed three, and you know, we know each
other. We go way back,all the way to Chad Science and Newark.
Okay, I did not say thatmisquoted for sure. I know you
did not hear anything. I thoughtwe used to make fun of the name.
But yeah, he is obviously killingthings out here. Yeah, that's
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unfortunate for her. She was sayingshe made fun of they made fun of
the name. I guess Michael Jordan. But it sounds like it was more
than that if you're calling him cornyand now maybe he was doing acting or
you know, I was reading abouthim a little bit. He was in
some like kid commercials back in theday. He was in a commercial for
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Toys RS. And Corny Kid.Everyone called him corny. Look who's laughing
now? All the way to thebank, baby bank. Is there anything
that's happened to you guys that reallyjust has stuck with you all these years?
When somebody was being mean, letme count them, mom, you
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name it. Yeah, what wereyour insults? What would they say to
you? I can't say them?Oh? Really? Yeah, because you
were you said you were like skinnywith glasses and some people made fun of
you. Yeah the time, asdorky as you could be. You're talking
about your peep. Now they weren'ttalking about that. Oh, I don't
think did they fear it? Ifthey're smart? Oh I I don't know
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what any of that meant, butit was awesome. I don't either.
Uh. Sure, I go totherapy. I remember specific bullying instances.
Yeah, remember because it sticks withyou. Yeah, that's why I'm telling
you. I know that Michael B. Jordan remembers correctly because if you are
bullied, you will remember it.And that must have felt so good.
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I'm sure it did. No,he was like, yeah, famous movie
star, and she needs him toaccomplish her mission of the day, which
is get an interview with a celebrity. And now she's afraid to even point
to Mike his way when the goalis to get Michael B. Jordan to
talk to me. But yeah,has now said that, Yeah, the
corny kid, right, And she'slike, no, I didn't, and
he keeps trying to talk like Ijust I didn't. I'm gonna keep the
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mic. Yeah. I had toboot him saying corny kid really loud to
get it to normal level. Yeah, because she did not want that going
in the microphone. No, shedidn't. It's pretty amazing. He has
the last laugh there in that situation. I'm trying to think if I had
anything you did I he did notthat I'll get you put on a list.
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Right, she didn't. I betshe was always the most popular girl
in school. Who Jewels? Iknow somebody that bullied Jewels? Oh yeah,
I don't personally know her, butI'm familiar. That is a nice
thought. But no, I was. I was on both ends of the
spectrum. Yeah, you did somebullying. Yourself did some bullying, and
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I was bullied. I think thatis somewhat standard. Maybe, Yeah,
who would bully you? Oh,plenty of people. Like when you want
to hang out with whoever is youthink is considered cool or popular or whatever,
then you just have to accept crap, you know. Yeah, And
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then if there's somebody who thinks thatyou're cool and they want to hang out
with you, well, I've learnedvia the other end of this that what
I do is I get to bemean to you. Right, none,
if it makes sense, no,none of it is right? No or
okay, No, people are mean. Man. We need everyone out there
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to just do the most incredible parentingever and not let the kids fall victim
to that stupid cycle of garbage.People are definitely more cognizant to bullying now,
but it happens in it and howdo parents keep it from happening?
I mean, I think if youraise a I don't know, emotionally,
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a high emotional IQ human, Imean, I know it's challenging because inherently,
when a little tiny person becomes alittle bit bigger person, like,
being selfish is natural, right,All you know is your individual needs,
and so you're trying to do allthis and all that. Yeah, but
then you start going to school andeverything. You want acceptance, You want
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everybody to like you. If yourboy, you want the girls to like
you. If you're a girl,you want guys to like you. And
it's probably more uncomfortable adult type conversationswith kids about how people operate and the
things that can happen and why wedon't want to be a part of that
and etc. Etc. I don'tknow. I'm surely there is a the
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job can be done in a way. Yeah, you can exist above that.
But I feel like that was agreat failing for me as a parent
because I didn't know how to dothat. I didn't know how to do
that, and when I tried,I didn't know how to give my kid
to listen to me. Yeah,and it's hard because we got a little
tiny brains from our kids too.So yeah, I don't know if it's
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actually possible to create an environment whereeverybody's actually kind to each other, but
it sure would be great, andpeople are trying. And I think it's
just more about like instilling the valuesin your kids when they're young to be
kind to everybody. Maybe not somuch like don't bully, yeah, but
just be a good human and bekind and do the right thing and treat
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people with respect, and if youdon't, you're going to get in trouble.
But it's funny like seeing you know, talking about like the popular kids
or whatever. Like my kids arevery very young, so that hasn't really
started, but you know who's tryingto start it. Some of the moms,
like they're trying to arrange who theirkids hang out with, and you
know, it's dumb, like mykid's gonna be popular and I'm going to
(12:50):
make sure that they're with this personand doing this and paying extra for this
or that. It's like it's insane, it's dumb. But it's not surprising,
No, it's it's crazy. It'scrazy, yeah, because I can
remember it, like I can remembergoing through school, and I was athletic
(13:11):
at a young age, Like Igot call and could run fast and do
all the things. So like Iboom athlete friends right got those, Yeah,
And on average, I would sayathlete friends were meaner to non athlete
people than other people were. ButI also had interest in like nerd things
and like magic the gathering and sometabletop games and stuff like that. And
(13:31):
if I could go backwards, that'sthe friends that I would have spent all
my time with and I would havenever been picked. I would never been
mean to any of them. Andit's like, now, just own who
you actually are. But none ofus figure out who we actually are until
we're way past that age. Wellmaybe not none of us, but I'll
say I didn't. And I thinka lot of people you don't really figure
out who you are until it doesn'tmatter anymore. I think certainly most don't
(13:54):
figure it out for sure. Yeah, because you have to get out of
that social construct where there's like ahierarchy and you're hoping to get into these
certain things and avoid and not beviewed as certain things. And once you
get the hell out of there andyou can figure out, wait, what's
the stuff that like, I'm interestedin and that I think is cool?
And suddenly it's not about how peoplelook or whatever. It's the shared interest.
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You're like, Oh, cool doesnot mean what I thought it meant
when I was eleven. Right,cool is just being you and being cool
with it exactly. That's cool,exactly, And that's what I try to
do with my children, because itis weird when you're on the other side
of it. With kids, it'slike, you just be you, and
whoever you make friends with is whoyou're supposed to be. Like, be
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friends with whoever you want to be, do what you want to do.
You don't have to go to thisor go to that, or play this
sport or be on this team orwhatever. Just be yourself. And then
you have to tell them, andwhoever's mean to you, ignore the hell
out of them and feel sorry forthem because whoever is being mean. It's
a generic saying, but it's onehundred percent true. Like, hurt people,
hurt people. If someone is beingmean to you, just know that
(14:58):
they're hurting. Like there's no reasonto like fire back or no whatever.
You just go, man, thatsucks, and walk away from that and
don't let it affect you because justknow they're not really coming at you,
right, they're expressing them. There'ssomething that is causing them to be unhappy.
Yeah, and know that no matterwhat happens, the sun's going to
come up tomorrow and tomorrow's another day. That's right, man. We need
(15:20):
to write a book or just beatthe hell out of it, beat everybody
up, because yeah, you canlook back at it now and if I
promise, whoever in your high schoolgot in a bunch of fights, their
dad beat their ass. Yeah,there why they were violent, some rage
in there. Yeah, they learnedviolence is how we solve problems. That's
how it works. Yep. Andit's real weird being on the parenting side
(15:43):
of things and realizing the things you'redoing and saying are going to affect your
kid and they're you're just trying tomake sure they don't grow up with childhood
trauma from something you've done, andthey're going to I'm not a parent,
so kind of speaking a term,but like they're going to because nobody's perfect,
right, right, and so Iguess the challenge is just how often
can I stay in the space whereI don't say something is like a snap
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reaction that could be something that inyour mind because I got stuff. We
all, I think a lot ofpeople have stuff. I have stuff that's
popped up in therapy that I didn'tknow I remembered that was something a parent
said to me. That was anoff the cuff. They didn't intend to
hurt feelings, but it's just areaction in the moment of people being frustrated
or something of that stays in youbecause you were a certain age and that
(16:25):
and it hurt. Yep, Iknow I've done it. And man,
that stuff stays with me from theparents side, Yeah, that stuff stays
with me. And I try totuck it away in a place where it
can't be gotten to very easily.But boy, when it does, I'm
just like, man, what wereyou doing there? It's tech? What
(16:48):
were you doing? What were youthinking? How did you get so far
off track and down that wrong paththere? Yeah? Well, and it's
almost it's damn near an impossible task, like being a perfect parent, I'm
sure is a damn near impossible task, because like at a certain age,
children are naturally going to rebel andor distance or test boundaries, like they're
(17:15):
trying to make you mad. Youdefinitely become uncool and you have to be
able to always stay cool and neversay anything inappropriate or be mad. And
it's like good luck, yep,you just start walking away, that's what.
Okay, Well you don't like leavethem forever. I'm just talking about
walking down the hallway, Like,mom, now you're not validating my emotions.
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That's the job. Is impossible.Just try your best. It is,
it really is. I was readingsomething like just this morning that's like,
if your child's having an outburst oryou know, acting out, it's
probably because they're seeking connection with you. And then I start thinking about it,
like my son last night was havingproblems. He didn't want to eat,
didn't want to take a shower,and I'm like, what if I,
oh, I was gone all dayand all night, like he was
(18:03):
acting out to try and get myattention, you know. And in the
moment, it's hard for you tothink about why that's happening, but it's
usually accurate, and in your mindit's like why are you being annoying?
Eat your damn dinner. Yes,just eat your dinner. It's like,
well, I'm not because I wantyou to see me exactly. Don't just
tell me to eat right, Let'shave a moment of connection here. Meanwhile,
he has to have the TV ontea, so I can't connect with
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them parent so fun, I toldhim if he ate half of his rice,
he could have dessert. So whenI wasn't looking, he put half
of his rice on the other half. So it was a big, one
big mound of rice on one sideand then nothing on the other. Yeah,
And then I told him I sawwhat. I know what you did.
And then he yelled at me andhe said, I did not like
(18:48):
you have one big mound of rice. Honey, Let's do a test and
one'sh you a pile in half andlet's see if it fills the plate.
I think gridious, do you thinkGridio? Well, the bullying talk for
everybody look at at an accidentally usefulconversation. That was a productive conversation.
Thank you, Michael B. Jordanuh coming up next this time for the
(19:11):
best damn sports segment period. AmI gonna try to sneak in some Cowboys
draft talk, probably, but alsothe great Don Van Natta is back at
it. Mike, You're gonna lovethis. I can't wait. We got
stuff on the goat
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