September 30, 2025 • 27 mins
Keith Urban and Nicole Kidman are separating after 19 years together! We talked to Jenny Matern, a licensed Marriage and Family counselor on what truly breaks couples and families up.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So you made a comment earlier, Spencer that I found
very interesting. You purposely went to the gym during a
football game. Oh it is to watch the game while
you worked out.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Yes, it's the best hack. So I've been going to
this gym and I absolutely love it, but they haven't
had any TVs. And when I was in there last week,
I noticed that they just put in a new TV
and I was like, this is great. So they had
it on ESPN and I was like, man, I can
come in here and I can watch sports and I
can work out at the same time. It's like killing
(00:32):
two birds with one stone. Brilliant and I'm so happy
I did it on Sunday.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
I do not consider this a hack. I consider this
is maybe a hack to not get as good of
a workout in why there's no way. I mean outside
of when I do like a long cardio day and
it has to be done inside on a treadmill versus outside,
then I'll put something on my phone to watch or whatever.
But if I'm lifting and trying to watch something on
the TV's because my gym has TV's in it, I'm distracted.
(01:01):
I'm not lifting as well as I should. It's taking
me a lot longer to get the workout in my
personal I could ever.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
I know exactly where you're coming from, but you have
to think about the process. So when you lift, you lift,
you can do your set, and then you have to
break for a couple minutes, and then you go back
and you do another set. So I do it during commercials,
so I'm lifting when they're trying to sell me all
the stuff, and then when the game comes back, I
take a little bit of a rest and then I
do a set, so I'm not physically like locked into
(01:31):
the game and watching. I just like having it on.
I like hearing the noise instead of me listening to
music while I'm trying to lift.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
All right, I need somebody from Spencer's gym to time
this because I have a feeling that we're watching more
football than working out. I need somebody with a timer
to write down all the times and really keep track
of this, because you can't convince me that your workout
is this same dedication during a football game than it
would be on a normal day.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
There's just no way.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
What do you listen into? What are you paying attention
to while you're lifting other than the workout?
Speaker 3 (02:05):
No I do.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
I have a certain playlist based on what I'm working
that day. So if it's a cardio day, if it's
you have a booty playlist, I know, because I don't
work out my booty, but like if it's leg day,
if it's upper body, if it's abs, things like that,
Like certain songs that kind of go to a certain
beat that I need it to in my head. Like
I've done a lot of researcher like what songs have
(02:27):
a good beat? You know this type of workout. Yeah,
I mean, this is something that I've really dedicated a
lot of my time and my life over the last
several years of really getting focused.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
But I'm also that person. I've said it before.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
When I'm in the gym, I don't like to be
talked to in any capacity, honestly.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
So that's why you want to have something in your
ear because one, you won't hear them come up and
say anything. Two you're listening to what you want. When
I got the game on, that might be the only
difference is people come up and they go, hey, what's
the score? And then I got to say what the
score is?
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Right there, you're proving that you're distracted and you're not getting.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
A workout in so why do you think my hack
Blair is not a solid idea. I go to the
gym on Sundays. I got the NFL on, I work
out and I watch football. I'm basically doing the same
thing I do in my living room, except I'm actually
working out.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Yeah, nobody has actually verified that they have seen you
work out.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Ever or just this Sunday.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
Honestly, no one's ever verified it with me.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Oh my gosh, grave zero. Good morning, Kimberly.
Speaker 4 (03:31):
I bet it's twelve ounces at a time. Darland called
the cours Light.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Well, now wait, hang on, that seems so much more accurate.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
I seen your Facebook page, Darling, and I don't know
you're sexy as hell, but you were somewhere in the
mountains dressed in a black tuxedo and had a cours
Lot in your hand. I said, that's that is my
beer of choice because I'm from Colorado.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
But Kimberly, that wasn't this weekend, Kimberly. So this weekend
I was actually in the gym watching the NFL and
doing a little workout.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Kimberly, no one has confirmed.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
Or was it silver bullets?
Speaker 2 (04:10):
I have heard that beer is a great recovery drink
after a workout. Proved me wrong, Okay, I'll prove you wrong.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Well, there you go, Spencer.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
How about i'll meet to it boo back and we'll
have a Coors Light together.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Just saying that you're gonna prove me wrong is not
proving me wrong. I need some facts. Thank you very much, Kimberly.
We hope you have a great day. Bye bye.
Speaker 5 (04:35):
Giving you all the warm fuzzies and whatnot.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
It's the good good on the Spencer Grave Show. You know,
this guy that jumped onto an app like Uber Eats
and delivery and whatever he was using is stupid and
I'm happy that he is behind bars. But last week,
this guy who's already been wanted on drug charges now
faces aggravated kidnapping charges. But that tragedy was averted thanks
(05:01):
to the delivery driver. So the delivery driver gets a
note saying would you go and pick up zip ties,
duct tape and a hatchet?
Speaker 6 (05:12):
Wait?
Speaker 1 (05:12):
What?
Speaker 7 (05:13):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (05:14):
So the delivery driver was like except then called nine
to one one and said, I'm going to buy these
things to bring it to this person. Why don't you
follow me? And that's what led police there.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Incredible good for him because I would have thought this
was like a law and order I don't know, like
Halloween costume kit.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
You know, he just get some stuff together for you know,
his Halloween costume.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
This is wild. I wouldn't want to intersect this because
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
I just felt like they could come back and hurt you.
Speaker 8 (05:43):
Later.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
I got involved with the crime once. I was in
my neighborhood and I saw somebody breaking into cars. So
I remember the person walked by me and I said
good morning, and they didn't say anything. So I went
back in. I called nine to one one. Police showed up.
They see me, but they don't see the person. I'm
watching the person. I'm like, no, he's over there. Ran
all the way over there, and they ended up getting
(06:04):
this guy and he broke into five or six different cars,
had over four hundred dollars in cash on them.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
Goodness, I mean, that's just wild.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
If you've ever helped out in assisting the police with
apprehension to somebody eight five to five grave zero.
Speaker 9 (06:17):
Yeah, So my mom lived in these condos.
Speaker 8 (06:20):
Well.
Speaker 9 (06:20):
The day before, this guy was going around town and
you know, he was shooting at police and he got away.
They couldn't find him, so they evacuated the whole area,
her condos and all that stuff, and you know, they
had a command post set up. So for some giggles,
I decided, you know what, I'm gonna call my mom's house.
I called my mom's house and my mom lived alone
while this man answered the phone. I knew right then
(06:42):
it was him. So I go running out and the
police they're telling me because I lived just down the
road from her, They're like, get back in your house,
get back in your house. I said, no, I know
where he's at, and they're like, get over here now.
So they took me in their trailer, had me, uh
draw a whole thing of the inside her house. Long
story short, he was actually in her house, barricaded himself.
They had to ram the girlage door down, and the
ended up apprehending this guy.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Wall what a story, and your mom was okay, yeah.
Speaker 9 (07:07):
And the crazy thing is my mom literally just walked
like she went out the garage, and I mean it
almost had to be simultaneously. He came through the front
door as she was probably going out the garage. My
mom even gave him the garage door opener and she goes,
you know, please don't destroy my house. So they still didn't. Here,
they still pick that battering rams at her garage door.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
She's like worried.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
She's like, seriously, I don't want to have to spend
the money to root and to fix that.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
I know, if it was like my house, I'd be like, hey,
before you leave, can you just let the dogs out
so they can do their business and then just make
sure they're locked up.
Speaker 8 (07:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 9 (07:37):
But the place, the place was absolutely destroyed. I gus
was destroyed inside. The garage door was buckled in half.
Speaker 8 (07:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
It was wild man, what a wild story. Thank you
so much for sharing with us this morning, sir. The
news that we found out yesterday, Nicole Kidman and her
husband Keith Urban are separating after nineteen years together. Now,
that's going to be a very important thing to know.
It's separation, not a divorce. We're gonna be talking to
Jenny Mattern, who is a licensed family and marriage therapist,
(08:08):
just to get her opinion on some things. But let's
set the facts for what we know. The two have
been married for nineteen years. They seemingly were the happiest couple,
and they were breaking the boundaries as far as celebrity
couples are concerned. They have two kids together, they're both teenagers.
Apparently Keith asked for the separation. He has moved out
of the house and bought his own place in the city,
(08:31):
while Nicole and the kids live in the house that
they grew up in.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
You could have said anything yesterday and it would have
I would be like, oh, okay, this no I just
I am having hard time believing him.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Let's get Jenny on, who can kind of help us
navigate this a little bit. Jenny First, good.
Speaker 7 (08:46):
Morning, Good morning.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
So when this news broke yesterday, I immediately started to
go to I think the big question that everybody wants
to know is what happened? You know, did somebody step
outside the relationship? Did they come into play, which I
don't think is the case because obviously they have plenty
of it. But in your history of dealing with families, marriage,
(09:10):
spouses and kids, what's the number one thing that breaks
up a family?
Speaker 7 (09:16):
Blair? I heard you say this morning, only they know
what happened, and I completely agree with that. You named
all of the reasons that I was thinking too, as
far as what are reasons that could lead to divorce,
But those are those are kind of they're big things,
but they're the minute things for me. What really leads
to the separation itself is, you know, relationships are hard,
and when the heart starts to outweigh the commitment to
(09:37):
want to do the work, that's really when you start
to see a change has to happen. When it's you know,
the heart is so big that it's like, Okay, what
are we doing here? You know, we don't have it
within us to keep continue working on this and sometimes
got to change.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
At that point, most of us would look at their
relationship and go, what's hard about it? They've got more
money than God. They can do whatever they want. Their
tour schedule, they're shooting schedules. Yeah, those tough to navigate,
but it's no different than a family having a tough
schedule with kids practices and going here and going there,
other than them not being in the same city. So
(10:10):
what really could be the heart in this situation?
Speaker 7 (10:13):
Yeah, you know, that's the easy thing. I think in
some ways that's the curse of social media, right. We
can look at what we see of people's lives and
we think, oh, it's so easy. You know, there can't
actually be anything wrong. But what we know is there's
always something happening behind the scenes. You know, after you
and I spoke, I did a little research looking at
their social media last night, and that wasn't immediately my thought.
I was like, Wow, they're so busy, they have so
(10:33):
much going on, And I do think there's something too
when you're in completely separate places. That doesn't mean that
it can't work, but there is going to be a
lot of extra that's required to have that intimacy, to
have that connection when you're not you know, going to
bed in the same bed every night, and so I
do think that would be a really hard piece of it.
And you said, you know, they were together for nineteen years,
so obviously something was working for that period of time.
(10:56):
And I have the same curiosity you do. At what
point did it shift? And it was like, okay, okay,
something just isn't working here anymore. Whatever it is that's
hard is just beyond what we can connect and work
through when we have completely different schedules and we're you know,
in completely separate cities.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
Jenny, when you were talking about social media, what's the
danger now with couples and social media? Influencing their relationship.
Speaker 10 (11:18):
Yeah, wow, what a great question.
Speaker 7 (11:20):
I feel like I could go on for days about
all of the tricks of social media. But yeah, when
you're talking about specifically couples, again, it's kind of that
grass is always greener mentality a little bit. You know,
we get to see a very curated this is what
our life looks like, and people can easily fall down
that loop of comparison of Oh, their life looks like
this and mine doesn't, So something must be wrong here,
(11:42):
something must be wrong with me. And so I think
that's that's the biggest thing. Whether it's couples or anybody,
even just individuals, it's that comparison game. It seems like
they have something that I don't, and it's that they're
able to achieve that level of perfection, then I should
be able to achieve that level of perfection too. In
my office, I'm constantly reminding people what does your social
media look like to people? And what is actually happening
(12:03):
in your life? And can we assume that that's probably
what's happening to people around us as well.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Blair, you are a product of divorce, Your family broke up.
I guess when you were younger. Can you talk a
little bit about what the kids might be going through
given the fact that they're young teenagers.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Yeah, I mean I was a little bit older than
Nicole and Keith's kids when my parents finally divorced. I
think there is definitely probably some confusion because they probably
feel this need to pick aside. And I'm not saying
that Nicole and Keith are asking them to do that,
but I think that's just the natural reaction is like, Okay,
(12:42):
who's wrong in this and I'm going to go.
Speaker 3 (12:44):
With the right person.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
And as you know, a child, you just you love
both your parents, so as you're figuring out, like whose
decision it was, there's going to be some resentment whether
you know or can recognize that it's the right thing
that needs to happen for your family.
Speaker 3 (12:59):
I mean, I know that's where I was.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
I knew that this divorce needed to happen, but yet
there was still hurt, you know, on one side, because Okay,
that person chose to move forward with this, and so
my heart breaks for them, but it also in a
very weird way, I'm like, Okay, this truly is what's
going to be best for them. One day, the kids
will look back and be grateful that they did it
(13:23):
instead of dragging it on and allowing them to be
affected by their parents being in an unhappy relationship.
Speaker 7 (13:30):
Yeah, Blair, I love that and I appreciate you sharing
that perspective.
Speaker 10 (13:33):
Absolutely.
Speaker 7 (13:34):
I mean that's one of the main things. Well, one
of the first things we talk about with families is
let's make sure that the kids are hearing and understand
this is not their fault. They didn't do anything wrong.
That's always kind of the first box that we want
to check that it is not they did not cause this.
And then yeah, absolutely, that second piece going to you know,
this is hard, and it gets to be hard, and
(13:55):
you get to be upset about it, and you know
you don't have to make choices, you don't have to
choose one side or the other, but really just holding
space for how difficult it can be, and you know,
trying to create some structure so they don't feel like
they're having to choose one side or the other. But
one of the main things I work with parents on
even before we get to this point, I've worked with
a number of parents that are leaning towards that we
(14:17):
want to stay together for the kids. And I always
come back around on that. I hear that, and I
appreciate that you're wanting them to, you know, have the
best family life, but the best family life really is
modeling healthy relationship for them, And sometimes healthy relationship is saying,
you know what, this isn't what's best you Seeing us
struggle through this is not what healthy relationship looks like.
(14:38):
Healthy relationship can look like. Ending well and saying we're
going to be healthier as individuals if we do this separately,
and then you know, you do your best to coparing
as best as you can to continue to create healthy
a healthy family, and a healthy life for them. That
just looks a little bit different.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
Jenny, You've brought up so much great information this morning
that we can't help but thank you for sharing this,
because there's so many people that are driving to work
right now, maybe struggling in their own marriage and struggling
in their own relationships, and they may not be able
to find the words to be able to share with
their spouse about what's going on. When a couple comes
(15:12):
into your office and we'll end on this for the
very first time, and they sit down and say, we're
struggling in our marriage. What's the usual information or advice
that you give them.
Speaker 7 (15:25):
Yeah, this is going to sound so simple, and I
want to clarify. I know it's not simple, but listen,
slow down and pause and listen and really hear what
it is that's being said. So often when I feel
like when I'm talking to people, it's you know, I'm
either not communicating to my partner because it doesn't feel
safe enough to because and I mean emotionally safe to
(15:46):
keep it simple, or you know, I'm so caught up
in my own stuff that I'm not really hearing what
they're saying. So that slow down and that pause of
can we just take a breath, if we need to
walk away and regulate ourselves for a minute, let's do that,
and then can we come back together and be like, Okay,
help me understand what it is that you're trying to say,
Help me understand what it is that you're upset about,
and then asking them to do that same thing for you.
(16:07):
I feel like so much of what gets lost or
gets miscommunicated is when we're in that heightened state and
we're just saying whatever our emotions are wanting to say
in that moment, as opposed to briefing and saying this
is where I'm at. Can you hear me? And can
I hear you?
Speaker 2 (16:20):
Take a deep breath, listen, and then respond, Jenny, thank
you very much for jumping on with us.
Speaker 7 (16:27):
Absolutely, yes, thank you so much for having me. This
was great.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
So, Nathan, we were talking about Nicole Kidman and Keith
Urban separating and then we asked, like, what ended your relationship?
You want to talk to us about it? Yes, sir,
So what happened?
Speaker 8 (16:40):
Man? Awestin and ruthfully, we had it all. I mean
we both had businesses, we had money, we had cars,
did not worry about bills, and at the end of
the day, we had children, and we lost side of
each other, we lost communications. I mean, that's the end
of the day. That's the truth. You know.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
You mentioned a couple of things that I immediately went
back to when you were telling us that you had
it all in your relationship. You talked about a lot
of material things. What was missing that isn't something you
can buy heart soul care.
Speaker 8 (17:12):
I mean it's like the wall takes it out of you.
I mean, you know, like a material things just pull
it out of you. We get lost and focus and
we lose side of each other.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
Blair, when you were getting ready to get a little
more serious with your husband, Steve, all the material stuff
would be provided, right like, you guys would have a
nice house, You would have vehicles, obviously Steve's got a
ton of cars. You would have all that kind of stuff.
What was it about Steve that you felt like he
gave you that wasn't something you could buy?
Speaker 10 (17:43):
Love?
Speaker 1 (17:44):
I mean, honestly, one of the things that he said
to me early on, and we've continued to do this
throughout our entire relationship, is just because you get married
doesn't mean you stop dating your spouse. And I think
that's so important to have date nights, to have trips
just you know us, to to have moments.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
It's where it's just us too.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
For us, that is traveling a lot, because we have
to get out of our everyday lives where it's it's
difficult when you get busy, like you're talking about. You know,
y'all got busy, you had kids, you have it all.
But if you don't take that time to just be
with one another and again continue to date your spouse,
you will lose it.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Nathan, What are some of the things that you feel
like a relationship truly needs.
Speaker 8 (18:22):
All right, curly negs is when the other comes in
from work, like you said, you need that love, that care.
How was your day, they had a bad day, Sit
down and just listen. Don't worry about what your opinion
is and everything. Just listen to the other person. Talk
them out of that bad day, bring them back home
to that love and care and show them that somebody
cares for them. And you know you're still loved and
(18:43):
you're not just caught up in the system. You know,
demand working and just go to work, come home, and
then that's when everything just gets born and tiring.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
And to mean it too, like we can all sit
here and say, well, you got to have this, you
got to have that. It's the meaning behind it. How
many times have you been on a phone call with
your significant other and you just go, all right, love
you and then you just kind of move on. Do
you truly in that moment feel like you do love them?
Or are you just saying it because it's out of routine.
Speaker 8 (19:10):
I think everybody just gets in a routine of it.
We lose sight of like the word sorry or I
love you, and we don't understand the true many of
it anymore, we just say it nonchalantly.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
Blair. In relationships, how often do you say sorry?
Speaker 10 (19:25):
No?
Speaker 1 (19:26):
I mean I'm honestly the first to apologize when I've
done for you, and and but Steve is as well.
I mean, I think you have to get over this
mindset that like, oh, I don't want to be the first.
Like when you're in a marriage, it is far more
important to be like I own this, or hey, I
didn't handle this the right way, or whatever it might be.
Speaker 3 (19:44):
You have to get over your ego. And ego can't
live in a marriage. It just can't.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
Nathan, Thank you, buddy, appreciate your time. We hope you
have a great day.
Speaker 8 (19:53):
Thanks.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
And I mean that, by the way, I hope you
have an awesome day.
Speaker 5 (19:55):
You see, buddy, it's how country are On the Spencer
Grave Show, Quentin, you called us, So are you questioning
your country nous or do you feel that you just
want to prove it?
Speaker 6 (20:08):
I got goats and pigs and chickens, so I'm pretty
sure I'm about to prove myself.
Speaker 3 (20:12):
I think you are too.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
On a scale of one to country, Quinton, how country
are you?
Speaker 6 (20:16):
I'd be wrong if I said anything less than a ten.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
All right, here's three questions for you. Good luck. Who's this?
Speaker 6 (20:31):
Oh boy, you're gonna kick me with the songs? I'm
shot on that one. Boss mmr.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
I was gonna say to make around to that.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
Listen, if you claim that you're a ten, you got
to know Terry Clark and I just want to be mad.
Speaker 6 (20:48):
Okay, So listen, we got two more questions.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
I'm a little worried, but here we go. When you
started acting up as a kid, what was your mama's
way to warn you that you were cruising for a bruison?
Speaker 6 (21:02):
You know the notes that your parents would leave on
this kitchen table, everything you had to get done, and
all this and that. Well, I mean you didn't really
have a warning. That note was your warning?
Speaker 2 (21:15):
That works? Here we go. What was the reason that
you had to be pulled out of the mud?
Speaker 6 (21:20):
Oh? I was in this little s we caught it
black magic. It was this little S ten blazer. And
there's this road on two thirty one if you're going south.
I got my little blazer stuck about two o'clock in
the morning, and this dude just driving by. I had
to chain in the back of his truck pulled off
side of the road and said, hey, are you stuck?
(21:41):
And I said, it looks like it came for the mud.
Speaker 8 (21:47):
I was up.
Speaker 6 (21:48):
I couldn't even open my door. I was so deep
in it.
Speaker 2 (21:51):
He's like, hey, you go no, Amazingly enough, I'm baking
a cake and I just ran out of ingredients. Buddy,
not bad today, Terry Clark's your only blemish. You're an
eight point two sweet thank you. But now you have
the choice Thomas Rhett on October ninth or Talladega with me.
Speaker 6 (22:10):
I'm gonna have to say Talladea because I gotta meet you. Spencer.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
Let's go, Hey, Paul, what's going on?
Speaker 10 (22:16):
Man?
Speaker 9 (22:17):
I just wanted to ask clear how she feels about
that Alabama game.
Speaker 1 (22:20):
My guy, I will tell you I was the first
one in trust me. I got sick right after I
said it, so you know I'm still the same me.
Speaker 3 (22:28):
But Alabama looked really good.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
Ty Simpson, It's almost like he he found his footing.
I can acknowledge that Alabama is a good team and
still despise them with every ounce of who I am.
Speaker 3 (22:42):
I actually threw out.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
I found another one of my husband's Alabama T shirts.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
Over the weekend and I threw it away. I was like,
why is this in my house?
Speaker 10 (22:53):
Does it get you worried about the game that you
have to deal with, Spencer.
Speaker 6 (22:57):
No, not at all.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
You're not worried at all. Now, y'all lost to Georgia.
Speaker 3 (23:02):
Okay Georgia, IDN.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
Okay, you can't claim a team and then not everybody knows.
Speaker 2 (23:11):
I went to Penn State. We lost this week, but
I will room for Alabama against you and Tennessee.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Alabama could play anyone and I'm pulling for the other two.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
Here we go.
Speaker 3 (23:27):
He loved that song about a Tennessee Saturday night. It's
almost like you want to be a Tennessee fan.
Speaker 8 (23:33):
Paul.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
It's such a shame that she has these delusions I did.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
These are not delusions, Okay, I fully believe my team.
Speaker 3 (23:42):
They like to stress me out.
Speaker 1 (23:43):
They liked to calls me some like chest pains at times,
but like that's just the relationship we have.
Speaker 3 (23:48):
It's like that toxic love, you know. I mean, it's there, no.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Joke, Paul. I was really want Mississippi State to win
because I was going to have so many sound effects
of cow Bell's going off this.
Speaker 3 (23:59):
Morning waste of time. Have you planned on it or
you took all.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
Listening to the end of that game and when they
said you guys scored a touchdown like twelve yards untouched
or whatever it was, I sat there and I was like,
we need to ruin my Monday morning.
Speaker 1 (24:15):
How yeah, again, this is what they do. They stressed
me out, but like literally, I got so much Christmas.
Speaker 3 (24:23):
Wrapping done during the game the other night because I
had to stay busy.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
But my husband did look at me at one point
He's like, you're a little calm, and I'm like, this
is what we do.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
Yeah, this is one of the tool steps. Paul, Thank you, buddy.
Give us a roll tide. We haven't heard that yet.
It is, y'all. I'm going to share a story with you.
I'm a little shocked that Blair doesn't have her own
story because all I said to Blair was this morning
(24:53):
was have you ever had something get stuck in your eye?
And her answer to me was no, I don't know
how You've made it this many years in your life
and you've never had something just hit your eye. Anyway,
here's what went down. I had a sty and I
can't stand these things I've had two of them, and
they are terrible. It's like a little pimple or whatever,
(25:15):
and it gets on your eyelid and it scratches your
eye and it's uncomfortable. It's terrible. YadA, YadA YadA. And
then I started to think, man for my life. The
amount of times that I've had something hit my eyeball
drives me nuts. And then I'm like, oh, you know what,
Blair will completely understand. She says, no, this has never
happened to me.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
No, And I actually have a fear of something touching
my eye. I've only been to the eye doctor once
in my entire life because I don't need anybody touching
my eye. So I feel like this is the Lord
saying I love you, Blair. I'm not gonna give you
any issues.
Speaker 3 (25:50):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
I could actually be like, my sight could be horrible,
and I don't know the last time I went to
the eye doctor.
Speaker 3 (25:57):
I love her.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
She is so sweet, and I just told her, I said,
you're not touching my eye and She's like, okay, this
this could be a problem. And then they try to
do that machine you know, where they like touch your
eyebaw and the puff of air, and I was like.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
Man in a free time, simple question for everybody, what'd
you get stuck in your eye? There's a reason for
all my construction people out there that they call them
safety glasses because obviously it's happened before. So if you
have a crazy story about something that got in your eye,
eight five five grave zero.
Speaker 10 (26:29):
Yes, I had. I worked at Outback Steakhouse for a
lot of years and I had I got a French
fry thrown into my eye and I had to go
to the hospital and I had corniol abrasions. I had
to wear an eepat.
Speaker 3 (26:44):
We I need to know, are you okay now?
Speaker 10 (26:47):
I'm okay now, but yeah, I mean I was twenty
twenty five years ago.
Speaker 1 (26:51):
But it's terrible now that I know that you are, well,
I just need to say I'm a tad bit disappointed
that it was a fry and not like the bloomin onion.
Speaker 2 (27:00):
Dang, you know what I mean?
Speaker 10 (27:00):
Oh no, it had the seasoning.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
Okay, Okay, so it's it's nicely the same, okay, Okay.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
The worst part she didn't even say that she left
her job at Outback after getting an eyepatch and went
immediately to Red lobster.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
She's like, this is what he coils.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
She blew up over there. Well, thank you, glad to
know that you're okay.
Speaker 10 (27:18):
Yeah, thank you,
So you made a comment earlier, Spencer that I found
very interesting. You purposely went to the gym during a
football game. Oh it is to watch the game while
you worked out.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Yes, it's the best hack. So I've been going to
this gym and I absolutely love it, but they haven't
had any TVs. And when I was in there last week,
I noticed that they just put in a new TV
and I was like, this is great. So they had
it on ESPN and I was like, man, I can
come in here and I can watch sports and I
can work out at the same time. It's like killing
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two birds with one stone. Brilliant and I'm so happy
I did it on Sunday.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
I do not consider this a hack. I consider this
is maybe a hack to not get as good of
a workout in why there's no way. I mean outside
of when I do like a long cardio day and
it has to be done inside on a treadmill versus outside,
then I'll put something on my phone to watch or whatever.
But if I'm lifting and trying to watch something on
the TV's because my gym has TV's in it, I'm distracted.
(01:01):
I'm not lifting as well as I should. It's taking
me a lot longer to get the workout in my
personal I could ever.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
I know exactly where you're coming from, but you have
to think about the process. So when you lift, you lift,
you can do your set, and then you have to
break for a couple minutes, and then you go back
and you do another set. So I do it during commercials,
so I'm lifting when they're trying to sell me all
the stuff, and then when the game comes back, I
take a little bit of a rest and then I
do a set, so I'm not physically like locked into
(01:31):
the game and watching. I just like having it on.
I like hearing the noise instead of me listening to
music while I'm trying to lift.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
All right, I need somebody from Spencer's gym to time
this because I have a feeling that we're watching more
football than working out. I need somebody with a timer
to write down all the times and really keep track
of this, because you can't convince me that your workout
is this same dedication during a football game than it
would be on a normal day.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
There's just no way.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
What do you listen into? What are you paying attention
to while you're lifting other than the workout?
Speaker 3 (02:05):
No I do.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
I have a certain playlist based on what I'm working
that day. So if it's a cardio day, if it's
you have a booty playlist, I know, because I don't
work out my booty, but like if it's leg day,
if it's upper body, if it's abs, things like that,
Like certain songs that kind of go to a certain
beat that I need it to in my head. Like
I've done a lot of researcher like what songs have
(02:27):
a good beat? You know this type of workout. Yeah,
I mean, this is something that I've really dedicated a
lot of my time and my life over the last
several years of really getting focused.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
But I'm also that person. I've said it before.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
When I'm in the gym, I don't like to be
talked to in any capacity, honestly.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
So that's why you want to have something in your
ear because one, you won't hear them come up and
say anything. Two you're listening to what you want. When
I got the game on, that might be the only
difference is people come up and they go, hey, what's
the score? And then I got to say what the
score is?
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Right there, you're proving that you're distracted and you're not getting.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
A workout in so why do you think my hack
Blair is not a solid idea. I go to the
gym on Sundays. I got the NFL on, I work
out and I watch football. I'm basically doing the same
thing I do in my living room, except I'm actually
working out.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Yeah, nobody has actually verified that they have seen you
work out.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Ever or just this Sunday.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
Honestly, no one's ever verified it with me.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Oh my gosh, grave zero. Good morning, Kimberly.
Speaker 4 (03:31):
I bet it's twelve ounces at a time. Darland called
the cours Light.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Well, now wait, hang on, that seems so much more accurate.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
I seen your Facebook page, Darling, and I don't know
you're sexy as hell, but you were somewhere in the
mountains dressed in a black tuxedo and had a cours
Lot in your hand. I said, that's that is my
beer of choice because I'm from Colorado.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
But Kimberly, that wasn't this weekend, Kimberly. So this weekend
I was actually in the gym watching the NFL and
doing a little workout.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Kimberly, no one has confirmed.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
Or was it silver bullets?
Speaker 2 (04:10):
I have heard that beer is a great recovery drink
after a workout. Proved me wrong, Okay, I'll prove you wrong.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Well, there you go, Spencer.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
How about i'll meet to it boo back and we'll
have a Coors Light together.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Just saying that you're gonna prove me wrong is not
proving me wrong. I need some facts. Thank you very much, Kimberly.
We hope you have a great day. Bye bye.
Speaker 5 (04:35):
Giving you all the warm fuzzies and whatnot.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
It's the good good on the Spencer Grave Show. You know,
this guy that jumped onto an app like Uber Eats
and delivery and whatever he was using is stupid and
I'm happy that he is behind bars. But last week,
this guy who's already been wanted on drug charges now
faces aggravated kidnapping charges. But that tragedy was averted thanks
(05:01):
to the delivery driver. So the delivery driver gets a
note saying would you go and pick up zip ties,
duct tape and a hatchet?
Speaker 6 (05:12):
Wait?
Speaker 1 (05:12):
What?
Speaker 7 (05:13):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (05:14):
So the delivery driver was like except then called nine
to one one and said, I'm going to buy these
things to bring it to this person. Why don't you
follow me? And that's what led police there.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Incredible good for him because I would have thought this
was like a law and order I don't know, like
Halloween costume kit.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
You know, he just get some stuff together for you know,
his Halloween costume.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
This is wild. I wouldn't want to intersect this because
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
I just felt like they could come back and hurt you.
Speaker 8 (05:43):
Later.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
I got involved with the crime once. I was in
my neighborhood and I saw somebody breaking into cars. So
I remember the person walked by me and I said
good morning, and they didn't say anything. So I went
back in. I called nine to one one. Police showed up.
They see me, but they don't see the person. I'm
watching the person. I'm like, no, he's over there. Ran
all the way over there, and they ended up getting
(06:04):
this guy and he broke into five or six different cars,
had over four hundred dollars in cash on them.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
Goodness, I mean, that's just wild.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
If you've ever helped out in assisting the police with
apprehension to somebody eight five to five grave zero.
Speaker 9 (06:17):
Yeah, So my mom lived in these condos.
Speaker 8 (06:20):
Well.
Speaker 9 (06:20):
The day before, this guy was going around town and
you know, he was shooting at police and he got away.
They couldn't find him, so they evacuated the whole area,
her condos and all that stuff, and you know, they
had a command post set up. So for some giggles,
I decided, you know what, I'm gonna call my mom's house.
I called my mom's house and my mom lived alone
while this man answered the phone. I knew right then
(06:42):
it was him. So I go running out and the
police they're telling me because I lived just down the
road from her, They're like, get back in your house,
get back in your house. I said, no, I know
where he's at, and they're like, get over here now.
So they took me in their trailer, had me, uh
draw a whole thing of the inside her house. Long
story short, he was actually in her house, barricaded himself.
They had to ram the girlage door down, and the
ended up apprehending this guy.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Wall what a story, and your mom was okay, yeah.
Speaker 9 (07:07):
And the crazy thing is my mom literally just walked
like she went out the garage, and I mean it
almost had to be simultaneously. He came through the front
door as she was probably going out the garage. My
mom even gave him the garage door opener and she goes,
you know, please don't destroy my house. So they still didn't. Here,
they still pick that battering rams at her garage door.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
She's like worried.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
She's like, seriously, I don't want to have to spend
the money to root and to fix that.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
I know, if it was like my house, I'd be like, hey,
before you leave, can you just let the dogs out
so they can do their business and then just make
sure they're locked up.
Speaker 8 (07:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 9 (07:37):
But the place, the place was absolutely destroyed. I gus
was destroyed inside. The garage door was buckled in half.
Speaker 8 (07:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
It was wild man, what a wild story. Thank you
so much for sharing with us this morning, sir. The
news that we found out yesterday, Nicole Kidman and her
husband Keith Urban are separating after nineteen years together. Now,
that's going to be a very important thing to know.
It's separation, not a divorce. We're gonna be talking to
Jenny Mattern, who is a licensed family and marriage therapist,
(08:08):
just to get her opinion on some things. But let's
set the facts for what we know. The two have
been married for nineteen years. They seemingly were the happiest couple,
and they were breaking the boundaries as far as celebrity
couples are concerned. They have two kids together, they're both teenagers.
Apparently Keith asked for the separation. He has moved out
of the house and bought his own place in the city,
(08:31):
while Nicole and the kids live in the house that
they grew up in.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
You could have said anything yesterday and it would have
I would be like, oh, okay, this no I just
I am having hard time believing him.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Let's get Jenny on, who can kind of help us
navigate this a little bit. Jenny First, good.
Speaker 7 (08:46):
Morning, Good morning.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
So when this news broke yesterday, I immediately started to
go to I think the big question that everybody wants
to know is what happened? You know, did somebody step
outside the relationship? Did they come into play, which I
don't think is the case because obviously they have plenty
of it. But in your history of dealing with families, marriage,
(09:10):
spouses and kids, what's the number one thing that breaks
up a family?
Speaker 7 (09:16):
Blair? I heard you say this morning, only they know
what happened, and I completely agree with that. You named
all of the reasons that I was thinking too, as
far as what are reasons that could lead to divorce,
But those are those are kind of they're big things,
but they're the minute things for me. What really leads
to the separation itself is, you know, relationships are hard,
and when the heart starts to outweigh the commitment to
(09:37):
want to do the work, that's really when you start
to see a change has to happen. When it's you know,
the heart is so big that it's like, Okay, what
are we doing here? You know, we don't have it
within us to keep continue working on this and sometimes
got to change.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
At that point, most of us would look at their
relationship and go, what's hard about it? They've got more
money than God. They can do whatever they want. Their
tour schedule, they're shooting schedules. Yeah, those tough to navigate,
but it's no different than a family having a tough
schedule with kids practices and going here and going there,
other than them not being in the same city. So
(10:10):
what really could be the heart in this situation?
Speaker 7 (10:13):
Yeah, you know, that's the easy thing. I think in
some ways that's the curse of social media, right. We
can look at what we see of people's lives and
we think, oh, it's so easy. You know, there can't
actually be anything wrong. But what we know is there's
always something happening behind the scenes. You know, after you
and I spoke, I did a little research looking at
their social media last night, and that wasn't immediately my thought.
I was like, Wow, they're so busy, they have so
(10:33):
much going on, And I do think there's something too
when you're in completely separate places. That doesn't mean that
it can't work, but there is going to be a
lot of extra that's required to have that intimacy, to
have that connection when you're not you know, going to
bed in the same bed every night, and so I
do think that would be a really hard piece of it.
And you said, you know, they were together for nineteen years,
so obviously something was working for that period of time.
(10:56):
And I have the same curiosity you do. At what
point did it shift? And it was like, okay, okay,
something just isn't working here anymore. Whatever it is that's
hard is just beyond what we can connect and work
through when we have completely different schedules and we're you know,
in completely separate cities.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
Jenny, when you were talking about social media, what's the
danger now with couples and social media? Influencing their relationship.
Speaker 10 (11:18):
Yeah, wow, what a great question.
Speaker 7 (11:20):
I feel like I could go on for days about
all of the tricks of social media. But yeah, when
you're talking about specifically couples, again, it's kind of that
grass is always greener mentality a little bit. You know,
we get to see a very curated this is what
our life looks like, and people can easily fall down
that loop of comparison of Oh, their life looks like
this and mine doesn't, So something must be wrong here,
(11:42):
something must be wrong with me. And so I think
that's that's the biggest thing. Whether it's couples or anybody,
even just individuals, it's that comparison game. It seems like
they have something that I don't, and it's that they're
able to achieve that level of perfection, then I should
be able to achieve that level of perfection too. In
my office, I'm constantly reminding people what does your social
media look like to people? And what is actually happening
(12:03):
in your life? And can we assume that that's probably
what's happening to people around us as well.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Blair, you are a product of divorce, Your family broke up.
I guess when you were younger. Can you talk a
little bit about what the kids might be going through
given the fact that they're young teenagers.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Yeah, I mean I was a little bit older than
Nicole and Keith's kids when my parents finally divorced. I
think there is definitely probably some confusion because they probably
feel this need to pick aside. And I'm not saying
that Nicole and Keith are asking them to do that,
but I think that's just the natural reaction is like, Okay,
(12:42):
who's wrong in this and I'm going to go.
Speaker 3 (12:44):
With the right person.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
And as you know, a child, you just you love
both your parents, so as you're figuring out, like whose
decision it was, there's going to be some resentment whether
you know or can recognize that it's the right thing
that needs to happen for your family.
Speaker 3 (12:59):
I mean, I know that's where I was.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
I knew that this divorce needed to happen, but yet
there was still hurt, you know, on one side, because Okay,
that person chose to move forward with this, and so
my heart breaks for them, but it also in a
very weird way, I'm like, Okay, this truly is what's
going to be best for them. One day, the kids
will look back and be grateful that they did it
(13:23):
instead of dragging it on and allowing them to be
affected by their parents being in an unhappy relationship.
Speaker 7 (13:30):
Yeah, Blair, I love that and I appreciate you sharing
that perspective.
Speaker 10 (13:33):
Absolutely.
Speaker 7 (13:34):
I mean that's one of the main things. Well, one
of the first things we talk about with families is
let's make sure that the kids are hearing and understand
this is not their fault. They didn't do anything wrong.
That's always kind of the first box that we want
to check that it is not they did not cause this.
And then yeah, absolutely, that second piece going to you know,
this is hard, and it gets to be hard, and
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you get to be upset about it, and you know
you don't have to make choices, you don't have to
choose one side or the other, but really just holding
space for how difficult it can be, and you know,
trying to create some structure so they don't feel like
they're having to choose one side or the other. But
one of the main things I work with parents on
even before we get to this point, I've worked with
a number of parents that are leaning towards that we
(14:17):
want to stay together for the kids. And I always
come back around on that. I hear that, and I
appreciate that you're wanting them to, you know, have the
best family life, but the best family life really is
modeling healthy relationship for them, And sometimes healthy relationship is saying,
you know what, this isn't what's best you Seeing us
struggle through this is not what healthy relationship looks like.
(14:38):
Healthy relationship can look like. Ending well and saying we're
going to be healthier as individuals if we do this separately,
and then you know, you do your best to coparing
as best as you can to continue to create healthy
a healthy family, and a healthy life for them. That
just looks a little bit different.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
Jenny, You've brought up so much great information this morning
that we can't help but thank you for sharing this,
because there's so many people that are driving to work
right now, maybe struggling in their own marriage and struggling
in their own relationships, and they may not be able
to find the words to be able to share with
their spouse about what's going on. When a couple comes
(15:12):
into your office and we'll end on this for the
very first time, and they sit down and say, we're
struggling in our marriage. What's the usual information or advice
that you give them.
Speaker 7 (15:25):
Yeah, this is going to sound so simple, and I
want to clarify. I know it's not simple, but listen,
slow down and pause and listen and really hear what
it is that's being said. So often when I feel
like when I'm talking to people, it's you know, I'm
either not communicating to my partner because it doesn't feel
safe enough to because and I mean emotionally safe to
(15:46):
keep it simple, or you know, I'm so caught up
in my own stuff that I'm not really hearing what
they're saying. So that slow down and that pause of
can we just take a breath, if we need to
walk away and regulate ourselves for a minute, let's do that,
and then can we come back together and be like, Okay,
help me understand what it is that you're trying to say,
Help me understand what it is that you're upset about,
and then asking them to do that same thing for you.
(16:07):
I feel like so much of what gets lost or
gets miscommunicated is when we're in that heightened state and
we're just saying whatever our emotions are wanting to say
in that moment, as opposed to briefing and saying this
is where I'm at. Can you hear me? And can
I hear you?
Speaker 2 (16:20):
Take a deep breath, listen, and then respond, Jenny, thank
you very much for jumping on with us.
Speaker 7 (16:27):
Absolutely, yes, thank you so much for having me. This
was great.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
So, Nathan, we were talking about Nicole Kidman and Keith
Urban separating and then we asked, like, what ended your relationship?
You want to talk to us about it? Yes, sir,
So what happened?
Speaker 8 (16:40):
Man? Awestin and ruthfully, we had it all. I mean
we both had businesses, we had money, we had cars,
did not worry about bills, and at the end of
the day, we had children, and we lost side of
each other, we lost communications. I mean, that's the end
of the day. That's the truth. You know.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
You mentioned a couple of things that I immediately went
back to when you were telling us that you had
it all in your relationship. You talked about a lot
of material things. What was missing that isn't something you
can buy heart soul care.
Speaker 8 (17:12):
I mean it's like the wall takes it out of you.
I mean, you know, like a material things just pull
it out of you. We get lost and focus and
we lose side of each other.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
Blair, when you were getting ready to get a little
more serious with your husband, Steve, all the material stuff
would be provided, right like, you guys would have a
nice house, You would have vehicles, obviously Steve's got a
ton of cars. You would have all that kind of stuff.
What was it about Steve that you felt like he
gave you that wasn't something you could buy?
Speaker 10 (17:43):
Love?
Speaker 1 (17:44):
I mean, honestly, one of the things that he said
to me early on, and we've continued to do this
throughout our entire relationship, is just because you get married
doesn't mean you stop dating your spouse. And I think
that's so important to have date nights, to have trips
just you know us, to to have moments.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
It's where it's just us too.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
For us, that is traveling a lot, because we have
to get out of our everyday lives where it's it's
difficult when you get busy, like you're talking about. You know,
y'all got busy, you had kids, you have it all.
But if you don't take that time to just be
with one another and again continue to date your spouse,
you will lose it.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Nathan, What are some of the things that you feel
like a relationship truly needs.
Speaker 8 (18:22):
All right, curly negs is when the other comes in
from work, like you said, you need that love, that care.
How was your day, they had a bad day, Sit
down and just listen. Don't worry about what your opinion
is and everything. Just listen to the other person. Talk
them out of that bad day, bring them back home
to that love and care and show them that somebody
cares for them. And you know you're still loved and
(18:43):
you're not just caught up in the system. You know,
demand working and just go to work, come home, and
then that's when everything just gets born and tiring.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
And to mean it too, like we can all sit
here and say, well, you got to have this, you
got to have that. It's the meaning behind it. How
many times have you been on a phone call with
your significant other and you just go, all right, love
you and then you just kind of move on. Do
you truly in that moment feel like you do love them?
Or are you just saying it because it's out of routine.
Speaker 8 (19:10):
I think everybody just gets in a routine of it.
We lose sight of like the word sorry or I
love you, and we don't understand the true many of
it anymore, we just say it nonchalantly.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
Blair. In relationships, how often do you say sorry?
Speaker 10 (19:25):
No?
Speaker 1 (19:26):
I mean I'm honestly the first to apologize when I've
done for you, and and but Steve is as well.
I mean, I think you have to get over this
mindset that like, oh, I don't want to be the first.
Like when you're in a marriage, it is far more
important to be like I own this, or hey, I
didn't handle this the right way, or whatever it might be.
Speaker 3 (19:44):
You have to get over your ego. And ego can't
live in a marriage. It just can't.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
Nathan, Thank you, buddy, appreciate your time. We hope you
have a great day.
Speaker 8 (19:53):
Thanks.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
And I mean that, by the way, I hope you
have an awesome day.
Speaker 5 (19:55):
You see, buddy, it's how country are On the Spencer
Grave Show, Quentin, you called us, So are you questioning
your country nous or do you feel that you just
want to prove it?
Speaker 6 (20:08):
I got goats and pigs and chickens, so I'm pretty
sure I'm about to prove myself.
Speaker 3 (20:12):
I think you are too.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
On a scale of one to country, Quinton, how country
are you?
Speaker 6 (20:16):
I'd be wrong if I said anything less than a ten.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
All right, here's three questions for you. Good luck. Who's this?
Speaker 6 (20:31):
Oh boy, you're gonna kick me with the songs? I'm
shot on that one. Boss mmr.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
I was gonna say to make around to that.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
Listen, if you claim that you're a ten, you got
to know Terry Clark and I just want to be mad.
Speaker 6 (20:48):
Okay, So listen, we got two more questions.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
I'm a little worried, but here we go. When you
started acting up as a kid, what was your mama's
way to warn you that you were cruising for a bruison?
Speaker 6 (21:02):
You know the notes that your parents would leave on
this kitchen table, everything you had to get done, and
all this and that. Well, I mean you didn't really
have a warning. That note was your warning?
Speaker 2 (21:15):
That works? Here we go. What was the reason that
you had to be pulled out of the mud?
Speaker 6 (21:20):
Oh? I was in this little s we caught it
black magic. It was this little S ten blazer. And
there's this road on two thirty one if you're going south.
I got my little blazer stuck about two o'clock in
the morning, and this dude just driving by. I had
to chain in the back of his truck pulled off
side of the road and said, hey, are you stuck?
(21:41):
And I said, it looks like it came for the mud.
Speaker 8 (21:47):
I was up.
Speaker 6 (21:48):
I couldn't even open my door. I was so deep
in it.
Speaker 2 (21:51):
He's like, hey, you go no, Amazingly enough, I'm baking
a cake and I just ran out of ingredients. Buddy,
not bad today, Terry Clark's your only blemish. You're an
eight point two sweet thank you. But now you have
the choice Thomas Rhett on October ninth or Talladega with me.
Speaker 6 (22:10):
I'm gonna have to say Talladea because I gotta meet you. Spencer.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
Let's go, Hey, Paul, what's going on?
Speaker 10 (22:16):
Man?
Speaker 9 (22:17):
I just wanted to ask clear how she feels about
that Alabama game.
Speaker 1 (22:20):
My guy, I will tell you I was the first
one in trust me. I got sick right after I
said it, so you know I'm still the same me.
Speaker 3 (22:28):
But Alabama looked really good.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
Ty Simpson, It's almost like he he found his footing.
I can acknowledge that Alabama is a good team and
still despise them with every ounce of who I am.
Speaker 3 (22:42):
I actually threw out.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
I found another one of my husband's Alabama T shirts.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
Over the weekend and I threw it away. I was like,
why is this in my house?
Speaker 10 (22:53):
Does it get you worried about the game that you
have to deal with, Spencer.
Speaker 6 (22:57):
No, not at all.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
You're not worried at all. Now, y'all lost to Georgia.
Speaker 3 (23:02):
Okay Georgia, IDN.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
Okay, you can't claim a team and then not everybody knows.
Speaker 2 (23:11):
I went to Penn State. We lost this week, but
I will room for Alabama against you and Tennessee.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Alabama could play anyone and I'm pulling for the other two.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
Here we go.
Speaker 3 (23:27):
He loved that song about a Tennessee Saturday night. It's
almost like you want to be a Tennessee fan.
Speaker 8 (23:33):
Paul.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
It's such a shame that she has these delusions I did.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
These are not delusions, Okay, I fully believe my team.
Speaker 3 (23:42):
They like to stress me out.
Speaker 1 (23:43):
They liked to calls me some like chest pains at times,
but like that's just the relationship we have.
Speaker 3 (23:48):
It's like that toxic love, you know. I mean, it's there, no.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Joke, Paul. I was really want Mississippi State to win
because I was going to have so many sound effects
of cow Bell's going off this.
Speaker 3 (23:59):
Morning waste of time. Have you planned on it or
you took all.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
Listening to the end of that game and when they
said you guys scored a touchdown like twelve yards untouched
or whatever it was, I sat there and I was like,
we need to ruin my Monday morning.
Speaker 1 (24:15):
How yeah, again, this is what they do. They stressed
me out, but like literally, I got so much Christmas.
Speaker 3 (24:23):
Wrapping done during the game the other night because I
had to stay busy.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
But my husband did look at me at one point
He's like, you're a little calm, and I'm like, this
is what we do.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
Yeah, this is one of the tool steps. Paul, Thank you, buddy.
Give us a roll tide. We haven't heard that yet.
It is, y'all. I'm going to share a story with you.
I'm a little shocked that Blair doesn't have her own
story because all I said to Blair was this morning
(24:53):
was have you ever had something get stuck in your eye?
And her answer to me was no, I don't know
how You've made it this many years in your life
and you've never had something just hit your eye. Anyway,
here's what went down. I had a sty and I
can't stand these things I've had two of them, and
they are terrible. It's like a little pimple or whatever,
(25:15):
and it gets on your eyelid and it scratches your
eye and it's uncomfortable. It's terrible. YadA, YadA YadA. And
then I started to think, man for my life. The
amount of times that I've had something hit my eyeball
drives me nuts. And then I'm like, oh, you know what,
Blair will completely understand. She says, no, this has never
happened to me.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
No, And I actually have a fear of something touching
my eye. I've only been to the eye doctor once
in my entire life because I don't need anybody touching
my eye. So I feel like this is the Lord
saying I love you, Blair. I'm not gonna give you
any issues.
Speaker 3 (25:50):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
I could actually be like, my sight could be horrible,
and I don't know the last time I went to
the eye doctor.
Speaker 3 (25:57):
I love her.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
She is so sweet, and I just told her, I said,
you're not touching my eye and She's like, okay, this
this could be a problem. And then they try to
do that machine you know, where they like touch your
eyebaw and the puff of air, and I was like.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
Man in a free time, simple question for everybody, what'd
you get stuck in your eye? There's a reason for
all my construction people out there that they call them
safety glasses because obviously it's happened before. So if you
have a crazy story about something that got in your eye,
eight five five grave zero.
Speaker 10 (26:29):
Yes, I had. I worked at Outback Steakhouse for a
lot of years and I had I got a French
fry thrown into my eye and I had to go
to the hospital and I had corniol abrasions. I had
to wear an eepat.
Speaker 3 (26:44):
We I need to know, are you okay now?
Speaker 10 (26:47):
I'm okay now, but yeah, I mean I was twenty
twenty five years ago.
Speaker 1 (26:51):
But it's terrible now that I know that you are, well,
I just need to say I'm a tad bit disappointed
that it was a fry and not like the bloomin onion.
Speaker 2 (27:00):
Dang, you know what I mean?
Speaker 10 (27:00):
Oh no, it had the seasoning.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
Okay, Okay, so it's it's nicely the same, okay, Okay.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
The worst part she didn't even say that she left
her job at Outback after getting an eyepatch and went
immediately to Red lobster.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
She's like, this is what he coils.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
She blew up over there. Well, thank you, glad to
know that you're okay.
Speaker 10 (27:18):
Yeah, thank you,
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