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Speaker 1 (00:02):
It's time to make a date or break on tip
in the morning. Yeah, we do it on Tuesdays. It's
a relationships in therapy, sit right down at our studio
table together with microphones and all. And no question has
ever been too out of pocket for Lori sharp Page,
except I don't know how you're gonna get us through
this one this morning, because we're waking up losers as
(00:23):
Bengals fans. First of all, well on this update on
you you gout.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Yeah, I'm hanging in there, but I'm definitely feeling my
feelings this morning.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Okay, let's talk about expectations. First of all, I'm let's
just lead off with the Bengals, because I think the
majority of us thought that not only were we gonna
win last night's game, but we were gonna win at
least the first game. And now we're zero and three,
and I feel like expectations actually come up a lot
in life outside of the Bengals, relationships, friendships, all of
(01:00):
that thoughts on it.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Absolutely they do.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
And the thing about expectations is our way, our brain's
way of preparing for uncertainty, right, And so there.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
Was a sense of like, wow, it's a Monday but.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Like, we're going to have a great game today, and
unfortunately it didn't play out like that, and it's hard
to reconcile our expectations with the reality.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
And this.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Okay, So I mean, is the advice that you would
give for someone feeling the loss today for bangles with
the expectations the same advice that you would give someone
who has expectations in a relationship.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
Are they different? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Actually it is the same. Because the thing about expectations
is our brain trying to craft what will happen, and
we never really know what's going to happen.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
And so when something that is.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Unexpected or disappointing happens, it's really important to work to
accept it and then feel whatever the feeling is. And
this does play out a lot in our relationships, particularly
in long term committed relationships.
Speaker 3 (02:06):
I see this a.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Lot where people almost think that their significant other is
in their mind and thinks and acts exactly how they're
going to so they don't think to run the expectation
by them until the expectation has been broken. And so
it's really really important when an expectation has been broken
to recognize that an expectation is just an imagination that
we have. There's nothing guaranteed about an expectation.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
But the more that we check.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
Those expectations before we head into a situation, the better
we can take care of ourselves, because it's tough when
you're doing the whole expectation versus reality thing that I
think we're all doing across Cincinnati this morning.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Yeah, So is it okay to have expectations of your
partner or is it best to just never have any
expectations of them?
Speaker 2 (02:57):
I think that we can't ever not have expectations. The
expectations are part of the normal human experience. I think
we do have to keep those expectations in check. If
you are always being someone or across a lot of
your relationships for not meeting your expectations, then it is
time for you to check your expectations. But the thing
about expectations is we just need to be reasonable about them,
(03:19):
and we need to be flexible and understanding the fact
that oftentimes our reality asks us to flex what that
expectation was.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Okay, So you're also saying, too, before you arrive at
the expectation, you have to communicate that with someone.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Absolutely, Absolutely, expectations that just live in our head tend
to be ones that really can.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
Break us down.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Okay, so let me just send this text message to
Joe Burrow really quick. Hey Joe, my expectations were that
we were going to win. That didn't happen. I'm so
sorry for your loss. Are you available to go out sometimes?
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Oh? Man? No.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
One more thing I want to add, though, is that
you had said that you have to arrive at acceptance?
Speaker 3 (04:08):
How does one do that?
Speaker 2 (04:11):
So arriving at acceptance happens when we stop wishing things
were different, which I know is a hard thing to
hear on Tuesday morning. But they did lose. It's been
as upstart this season, and we have to learn how
to accept what is and support our team moving forward.
And it's the same not in our relationships. Things happen.
We have to accel learn to accept what is and
(04:32):
decide whether or not we're going to continue to invest
in this relationship and move forward, or if we're gonna,
you know, say that's it, I'm done and go in
a different direction.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
Well, Laurie Sharpage is our licensed clinical counselor nothing's really
ever been too weird or out of pocket for you,
So she answers your questions. She also takes things that
are happening in the world and brings them to our
kitchen table every Tuesday morning. If you do want to
connect with her, you can reach out to her via
the Coping Queen on Instagram, or you know, to find
her on my radio show every single Tuesday. Do you
(05:04):
know what this movie is from? You know what this
song is from? Laurie?
Speaker 3 (05:10):
This one? It's a hard.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Annie.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
I am such a good Oh yeah, Okay, so.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
You obviously know that the Ohio Renifncissance Festival passes are
gonna need a keyword. And what do you think that
keyword is, Laurie.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Is it gonna be Annie?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
It's Annie. Your chance of the tickets coming up in
just a few minutes. Thanks Laurie, We appreciate you and
sending all the good vibes for our loss last night.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
It's a hard, hard
It's time to make a date or break on tip
in the morning. Yeah, we do it on Tuesdays. It's
a relationships in therapy, sit right down at our studio
table together with microphones and all. And no question has
ever been too out of pocket for Lori sharp Page,
except I don't know how you're gonna get us through
this one this morning, because we're waking up losers as
(00:23):
Bengals fans. First of all, well on this update on
you you gout.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Yeah, I'm hanging in there, but I'm definitely feeling my
feelings this morning.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Okay, let's talk about expectations. First of all, I'm let's
just lead off with the Bengals, because I think the
majority of us thought that not only were we gonna
win last night's game, but we were gonna win at
least the first game. And now we're zero and three,
and I feel like expectations actually come up a lot
in life outside of the Bengals, relationships, friendships, all of
(01:00):
that thoughts on it.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Absolutely they do.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
And the thing about expectations is our way, our brain's
way of preparing for uncertainty, right, And so there.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
Was a sense of like, wow, it's a Monday but.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Like, we're going to have a great game today, and
unfortunately it didn't play out like that, and it's hard
to reconcile our expectations with the reality.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
And this.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Okay, So I mean, is the advice that you would
give for someone feeling the loss today for bangles with
the expectations the same advice that you would give someone
who has expectations in a relationship.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
Are they different? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Actually it is the same. Because the thing about expectations
is our brain trying to craft what will happen, and
we never really know what's going to happen.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
And so when something that is.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Unexpected or disappointing happens, it's really important to work to
accept it and then feel whatever the feeling is. And
this does play out a lot in our relationships, particularly
in long term committed relationships.
Speaker 3 (02:06):
I see this a.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Lot where people almost think that their significant other is
in their mind and thinks and acts exactly how they're
going to so they don't think to run the expectation
by them until the expectation has been broken. And so
it's really really important when an expectation has been broken
to recognize that an expectation is just an imagination that
we have. There's nothing guaranteed about an expectation.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
But the more that we check.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
Those expectations before we head into a situation, the better
we can take care of ourselves, because it's tough when
you're doing the whole expectation versus reality thing that I
think we're all doing across Cincinnati this morning.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Yeah, So is it okay to have expectations of your
partner or is it best to just never have any
expectations of them?
Speaker 2 (02:57):
I think that we can't ever not have expectations. The
expectations are part of the normal human experience. I think
we do have to keep those expectations in check. If
you are always being someone or across a lot of
your relationships for not meeting your expectations, then it is
time for you to check your expectations. But the thing
about expectations is we just need to be reasonable about them,
(03:19):
and we need to be flexible and understanding the fact
that oftentimes our reality asks us to flex what that
expectation was.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Okay, So you're also saying, too, before you arrive at
the expectation, you have to communicate that with someone.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Absolutely, Absolutely, expectations that just live in our head tend
to be ones that really can.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
Break us down.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Okay, so let me just send this text message to
Joe Burrow really quick. Hey Joe, my expectations were that
we were going to win. That didn't happen. I'm so
sorry for your loss. Are you available to go out sometimes?
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Oh? Man? No.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
One more thing I want to add, though, is that
you had said that you have to arrive at acceptance?
Speaker 3 (04:08):
How does one do that?
Speaker 2 (04:11):
So arriving at acceptance happens when we stop wishing things
were different, which I know is a hard thing to
hear on Tuesday morning. But they did lose. It's been
as upstart this season, and we have to learn how
to accept what is and support our team moving forward.
And it's the same not in our relationships. Things happen.
We have to accel learn to accept what is and
(04:32):
decide whether or not we're going to continue to invest
in this relationship and move forward, or if we're gonna,
you know, say that's it, I'm done and go in
a different direction.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
Well, Laurie Sharpage is our licensed clinical counselor nothing's really
ever been too weird or out of pocket for you,
So she answers your questions. She also takes things that
are happening in the world and brings them to our
kitchen table every Tuesday morning. If you do want to
connect with her, you can reach out to her via
the Coping Queen on Instagram, or you know, to find
her on my radio show every single Tuesday. Do you
(05:04):
know what this movie is from? You know what this
song is from? Laurie?
Speaker 3 (05:10):
This one? It's a hard.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Annie.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
I am such a good Oh yeah, Okay, so.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
You obviously know that the Ohio Renifncissance Festival passes are
gonna need a keyword. And what do you think that
keyword is, Laurie.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Is it gonna be Annie?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
It's Annie. Your chance of the tickets coming up in
just a few minutes. Thanks Laurie, We appreciate you and
sending all the good vibes for our loss last night.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
It's a hard, hard
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