Make a Date or Break: Things in the Top Drawer

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:03):
It's time to make a date or break on tip
in the morning. Hi, this is where relationships and therapy
come together. You decide if you're going to make your
next date or break it off. And Laurie Sharpage is
our licensed clinical counselor nothing has come to the show
that's been too out of pocket for her to answer.
I don't even know how to get into this. I

(00:24):
don't even know how to get into this one. I'm
including this so for I was at I was helping
my hoarder family clean out their house this weekend. For
those that saw on social media, you saw how bad
it was. And when my sister and I were going
through my step mom's dresser drawer, let's just say, we

(00:46):
found a personal item in the top right hand drawer
and when we saw it, we both connected eyes. We
died laughing, and of course, like you're just anything that
has to deal with your parents, it's uncomfortable anyways, especially
when they're at the age that they're at. But when
we saw that thing in the top drawer, we collapsed.

Speaker 2 (01:06):
We were so uncomfortable.

Speaker 1 (01:08):
We giggled and then we just put it in the trash.
We didn't touch it, of course, we just put it
in the trash and we haven't talked about it since,
but in that moment we lock eyes and we knew
what was going on there. So I don't need you
to help me process what it is that we saw.
But I am curious about the role that, let's just

(01:32):
call them intimate items play in relationships amongst couples. How
often are you seeing this? And please take the mic
because I can't anymore.

Speaker 2 (01:41):
Yes, absolutely, most of the time people have intimate objects
in their life. In some degree. I think that there
is more runway, more innovation for exploring intimate objects and relationships,
and there's not necessarily as much stigma as I think
that there was, you know, twenty plus years ago about it.
The thing that's hard about intimate objects is that they

(02:03):
are intimate. They speak to something that you enjoy, something
you like, something that is pleasurable for you, and that
can be hard to communicate to your partner, especially if
it's something new that you want to try, or a
new a new item that they have out. And so
what I really encourage people to do is wait, hold on.

Speaker 1 (02:23):
You know, if this is if somebody is curious about
bringing these into their relationship, this is how they approach it.

Speaker 2 (02:30):
This is your advice? Yes, absolutely, I would really stick
from a very like I think this could be fun
because and kind of set the scene. How do you
want to feel? What are you expecting from it? But
really keep it in a very playful space, because ultimately,
intimacy and intimate objects are adult forms of play. So
the more playful we can be usually the more we

(02:53):
can express our desires in a way that is open
but honestly, and you're not going to get what you
want as far as bringing these objects to the table
if you aren't able to verbalize that it's something you
like and you want to try. You know, that's the.

Speaker 1 (03:09):
Thing about relationships. Everyone has their own thing that they like.
And so I'm thinking of someone that's maybe listening right
now that is curious about bringing them into the bedroom.
What's you know? I always ask how would you craft
this text message?

Speaker 2 (03:24):
Now?

Speaker 1 (03:24):
And granted this is probably an in person thing, but
how would you approach the combo?

Speaker 2 (03:29):
So I think a really fun way to do this
is to go shopping together. So whether that be visiting
a brick and mortar store or going online, but to
spend some time together kind of exploring like this looks fun,
This looks fun getting some new goodies, and that also
kind of heightens the experience of like anticipating utilizing them.

Speaker 1 (03:46):
Okay, Lori sharp Page is our coping queen. That's what
her Instagram handle is. If you want to find her,
She's our licensed clinical counselor. And now I need to
not old my sister and I will process this probably
after a bottle of wine, like a.

Speaker 2 (04:00):
Long time from now.

Speaker 1 (04:02):
When we've recovered from the incident. But I'm glad it
helps someone else.

Speaker 2 (04:07):
Yes, for sure, for sure.

Speaker 1 (04:09):
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