September 22, 2025 • 6 mins
Chance and Alissa from Edmond after meeting on Hinge went on a date, and when Chance belly bumped another dude, Alissa pumped the brakes on their 2nd Date!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is tj Amanda and j Rod's second.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Date update on kJ one O three. I got Chance
from mad Man on the second date update. How's it going, Chance?
Speaker 3 (00:08):
J Hey, Hey, it's going all right.
Speaker 4 (00:10):
So far, no good.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
If we can get you another day with a listen,
we'll be going a lot better. What's the whole story
of your first date?
Speaker 5 (00:15):
Well, we met on a dating app in we had
like a really great tech convo for a while, like at.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
Least a week, and asked her out for.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
Dinner and she said yes.
Speaker 5 (00:25):
And we're out at this really nice Italian food and wine.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Place, fancy, and we're talking.
Speaker 4 (00:32):
We're getting along. She's like really attractive, really hitting you
off really.
Speaker 5 (00:37):
Well, she's like laughing really hard, and we connected about
are like we both really leveled.
Speaker 4 (00:43):
We'll hip hop like.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
We had a lot of connections. Yeah, we were there
for three hours.
Speaker 5 (00:48):
And we split dessert and she gave me this like
really tight hug at the end.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Okay, yeah, sounds romantic. Where where are we now? Why
are you on the second date update?
Speaker 5 (00:59):
Well, I texted her and the next morning and I
was like, I'd love to see you again.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
She was like me too.
Speaker 5 (01:06):
And then you're from her, there's nothing. Nothing, And I
texted again a few days later. It was like, hey,
I really did have a great time.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
I'd love to set something up for the future. And
I say again, I'm completely ghosted.
Speaker 5 (01:18):
Okay, I left a voicemail, but you know, I'm trying
not to triple text, turnamount.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
To overdo it.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Just nothing.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (01:26):
I don't know if she just like wasn't feeling it
or I don't know what, but she seems really into it.
She seemed to really like me, and I'm just trying
to figure out what happened.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Okay, we'll get her on the phone. Want to ask
her what happened, why she was so motivated to laugh
and have fun with you, and now you're ghosted and
maybe we'll get you another.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
Date out of this.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
Okay, yeah, okay, we'll take a break, we'll play a
couple of songs. We'll see what's going on here for
the second Date update.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
The second Date update with TJ, Amanda.
Speaker 5 (01:56):
And j Rod on KJE three.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
You gotta get Alyssa on the phone. Thanks for coming
on the Second Date up dated Alyssa.
Speaker 3 (02:03):
Lissa, Hey, yeah, it's cool.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
To be here.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
Yeah, yeah, you sound like you're a little annoyed with Chance,
which is weird because he says, you guys kind of
hit it off on the dating app, you hit it
off at the meal. What changed and why don't you
want to go out with him again?
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:18):
I mean all of this is true. The day itself
was fine.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
I mean, honestly, it was going really well and.
Speaker 4 (02:24):
I liked him.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
He's like he's you know, charming and funny. I mean,
you talked to him, so yeah, we clicked. But then
when we were leaving the restaurant, we ran into this
guy he knew, like some friend from work or something,
I don't know, and they did this really weird like
both lifted up their shirts okay, smashed their big Harry
stomach together and started making gorilla noises.
Speaker 5 (02:47):
Oh gosh, wow, my bro's lift on my shirt belly
smash my bro willa.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
And then you're like that I can't date this guy anymore.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
I mean, well, just like imagine, because you know, there
were people around and they were staring. Obviously, I was
completely mortified, and Chance is just laughing like it's like
totally normal. Pace What I like, wh do you even
say that? I just kind of like smiled and tried
to pretend like it didn't even happen.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
Okay, Chances on the phone. Chance, come in here, Chance Chance.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
First off, that's that's my friend Trevor.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
And we've been doing that move since like college.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Yeah, kind of seemed like a frat boy thing. I
don't get why are we doing this? No, I do.
What is the purpose of this?
Speaker 4 (03:37):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
It's like an inside joke.
Speaker 4 (03:39):
It's like our like like a secret handshake. We've just
done it forever.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
And this happened in public outside a really nice restaurant.
I mean there were kids walking by.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
I just I.
Speaker 5 (03:49):
Don't think it's that weird, and I wasn't trying to
embarrass anyone. I just he kind of surprised me and
came out of nowhere. And that's what we do when
we see each other, you know from that.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
If that's what you do without thinking, it makes me
wonder what else.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
You do in public without thinking?
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Like I barely knew you and suddenly I'm in the middle.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
Of some like brat house flash bag.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Now wait a minute. I've seen girls that have seen
each other and they run up they go, yeah, they're
hopping them down, like like, what's the difference. That's way different.
Excited to see an old friend and you kind of
just forget where you are for a second. Is this
is your red flag, like you don't want to go
out with him again because of that?
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Okay, first, I think it's very different to we're not
to a girlfriend, you haven't seen it in a while,
give her a hog and sday, Oh my gosh, it's
been forever. And to do what I describe with this
weird like mutual belly rubbing gorilla thing. And yeah, I
mean yeah, I think champs. I would just say, we're
in different places.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
In our lives right now.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Oh wow, you know.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
I don't see this working out, all right.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
I mean I was just being silly and get along
with a friend. It was literally just two grown men
being on a goofy. But that's a huge deal breaker
for you, all right.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
All right, all right, Well let's say, hey, thanks for
coming on the second date update. We appreciate it, and yeah, okay, bye, Okay, Amanda,
you've had a neutral look on your face. I don't
know if you would date this guy again or not.
I mean, part of me is just excited if he
has a hairy belly because I think that's super cute,
But a part of me is like, I don't know
that we need to.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Be shown enough to the humans of the world and
make it.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Can you do the gorilla noise for us, just so
we can judge?
Speaker 4 (05:27):
All right?
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Sure, sure, it's it's been the same.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
Thing for like over a decade, So God, you just
go you can't do that. I changed my mind. I'm out.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Could she not want to one another date with you?
Speaker 5 (05:44):
All right?
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Well she's spoking, you know what. I think She's right.
You guys are different in different places. But I don't
blame you at all for having some fun. Thanks for
coming on the second date update, Bud. Thanks Jay, get
over here. And I think it's the same as as though.
And you might not like the women hopping around and
(06:05):
hopping around and doing the.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Yung.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
I just I don't know that we need to be
doing it on a first date in public. Well. The
other thing, too, is the way the way he described
the date. It sounds like they were at like flips
or something, which is at the place.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
And I don't know.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
We want to know your audience.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
I don't know my audience, Me, me and the audience
love someone that likes to have fun. But if my
wife did something like that every time she saw an
old friend, I would definitely roll my eyes. I don't
know four oh five, four six, one two seven if
you want to chime in on the second date update
This is tj Amanda and j Rod's second.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Date update on kJ one O three. I got Chance
from mad Man on the second date update. How's it going, Chance?
Speaker 3 (00:08):
J Hey, Hey, it's going all right.
Speaker 4 (00:10):
So far, no good.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
If we can get you another day with a listen,
we'll be going a lot better. What's the whole story
of your first date?
Speaker 5 (00:15):
Well, we met on a dating app in we had
like a really great tech convo for a while, like at.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
Least a week, and asked her out for.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
Dinner and she said yes.
Speaker 5 (00:25):
And we're out at this really nice Italian food and wine.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Place, fancy, and we're talking.
Speaker 4 (00:32):
We're getting along. She's like really attractive, really hitting you
off really.
Speaker 5 (00:37):
Well, she's like laughing really hard, and we connected about
are like we both really leveled.
Speaker 4 (00:43):
We'll hip hop like.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
We had a lot of connections. Yeah, we were there
for three hours.
Speaker 5 (00:48):
And we split dessert and she gave me this like
really tight hug at the end.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Okay, yeah, sounds romantic. Where where are we now? Why
are you on the second date update?
Speaker 5 (00:59):
Well, I texted her and the next morning and I
was like, I'd love to see you again.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
She was like me too.
Speaker 5 (01:06):
And then you're from her, there's nothing. Nothing, And I
texted again a few days later. It was like, hey,
I really did have a great time.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
I'd love to set something up for the future. And
I say again, I'm completely ghosted.
Speaker 5 (01:18):
Okay, I left a voicemail, but you know, I'm trying
not to triple text, turnamount.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
To overdo it.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Just nothing.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (01:26):
I don't know if she just like wasn't feeling it
or I don't know what, but she seems really into it.
She seemed to really like me, and I'm just trying
to figure out what happened.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Okay, we'll get her on the phone. Want to ask
her what happened, why she was so motivated to laugh
and have fun with you, and now you're ghosted and
maybe we'll get you another.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
Date out of this.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
Okay, yeah, okay, we'll take a break, we'll play a
couple of songs. We'll see what's going on here for
the second Date update.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
The second Date update with TJ, Amanda.
Speaker 5 (01:56):
And j Rod on KJE three.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
You gotta get Alyssa on the phone. Thanks for coming
on the Second Date up dated Alyssa.
Speaker 3 (02:03):
Lissa, Hey, yeah, it's cool.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
To be here.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
Yeah, yeah, you sound like you're a little annoyed with Chance,
which is weird because he says, you guys kind of
hit it off on the dating app, you hit it
off at the meal. What changed and why don't you
want to go out with him again?
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:18):
I mean all of this is true. The day itself
was fine.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
I mean, honestly, it was going really well and.
Speaker 4 (02:24):
I liked him.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
He's like he's you know, charming and funny. I mean,
you talked to him, so yeah, we clicked. But then
when we were leaving the restaurant, we ran into this
guy he knew, like some friend from work or something,
I don't know, and they did this really weird like
both lifted up their shirts okay, smashed their big Harry
stomach together and started making gorilla noises.
Speaker 5 (02:47):
Oh gosh, wow, my bro's lift on my shirt belly
smash my bro willa.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
And then you're like that I can't date this guy anymore.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
I mean, well, just like imagine, because you know, there
were people around and they were staring. Obviously, I was
completely mortified, and Chance is just laughing like it's like
totally normal. Pace What I like, wh do you even
say that? I just kind of like smiled and tried
to pretend like it didn't even happen.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
Okay, Chances on the phone. Chance, come in here, Chance Chance.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
First off, that's that's my friend Trevor.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
And we've been doing that move since like college.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Yeah, kind of seemed like a frat boy thing. I
don't get why are we doing this? No, I do.
What is the purpose of this?
Speaker 4 (03:37):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
It's like an inside joke.
Speaker 4 (03:39):
It's like our like like a secret handshake. We've just
done it forever.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
And this happened in public outside a really nice restaurant.
I mean there were kids walking by.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
I just I.
Speaker 5 (03:49):
Don't think it's that weird, and I wasn't trying to
embarrass anyone. I just he kind of surprised me and
came out of nowhere. And that's what we do when
we see each other, you know from that.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
If that's what you do without thinking, it makes me
wonder what else.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
You do in public without thinking?
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Like I barely knew you and suddenly I'm in the middle.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
Of some like brat house flash bag.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Now wait a minute. I've seen girls that have seen
each other and they run up they go, yeah, they're
hopping them down, like like, what's the difference. That's way different.
Excited to see an old friend and you kind of
just forget where you are for a second. Is this
is your red flag, like you don't want to go
out with him again because of that?
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Okay, first, I think it's very different to we're not
to a girlfriend, you haven't seen it in a while,
give her a hog and sday, Oh my gosh, it's
been forever. And to do what I describe with this
weird like mutual belly rubbing gorilla thing. And yeah, I
mean yeah, I think champs. I would just say, we're
in different places.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
In our lives right now.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Oh wow, you know.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
I don't see this working out, all right.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
I mean I was just being silly and get along
with a friend. It was literally just two grown men
being on a goofy. But that's a huge deal breaker
for you, all right.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
All right, all right, Well let's say, hey, thanks for
coming on the second date update. We appreciate it, and yeah, okay, bye, Okay, Amanda,
you've had a neutral look on your face. I don't
know if you would date this guy again or not.
I mean, part of me is just excited if he
has a hairy belly because I think that's super cute,
But a part of me is like, I don't know
that we need to.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Be shown enough to the humans of the world and
make it.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Can you do the gorilla noise for us, just so
we can judge?
Speaker 4 (05:27):
All right?
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Sure, sure, it's it's been the same.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
Thing for like over a decade, So God, you just
go you can't do that. I changed my mind. I'm out.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Could she not want to one another date with you?
Speaker 5 (05:44):
All right?
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Well she's spoking, you know what. I think She's right.
You guys are different in different places. But I don't
blame you at all for having some fun. Thanks for
coming on the second date update, Bud. Thanks Jay, get
over here. And I think it's the same as as though.
And you might not like the women hopping around and
(06:05):
hopping around and doing the.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Yung.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
I just I don't know that we need to be
doing it on a first date in public. Well. The
other thing, too, is the way the way he described
the date. It sounds like they were at like flips
or something, which is at the place.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
And I don't know.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
We want to know your audience.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
I don't know my audience, Me, me and the audience
love someone that likes to have fun. But if my
wife did something like that every time she saw an
old friend, I would definitely roll my eyes. I don't
know four oh five, four six, one two seven if
you want to chime in on the second date update
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