October 27, 2025 • 8 mins
Charlie and Kaitlyn went out after being set up by a mutial friend. But now nothing. So what's keeping them from another date?
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
This is tj Amanda and j Ron's.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Second date update on kJ one three, you got Charlie
from Okay see on the second date update.
Speaker 3 (00:08):
Hi Charlie, Hey, good morning guys.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
So was this a blind day with Kaitlin?
Speaker 3 (00:13):
Yeah, I guess it's a blind date. We went through
a mutual friend kind of old school okay, uh, yeah, yeah,
and I was told she was super fun, super flirty,
easy to talk to, somewhat nerdy. She has like she
wears glasses. I guess I have a thing for studios types.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
So nice, nice, okay, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
So we decided to meet up at a coffee spot
and a little place downtown, and I thought that date
was going really well. She was laughing, which you know,
I guess would be like a clear indicator that she
was into me a bit. We talked for over an hour.
We even shared dessert just like banana bread thing that
had like a couple of chips in it, so.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Exactly, dude. All right, So so you felt a vibe?
Speaker 3 (01:07):
Yeah, yeah, I think it's safe to say. I left thinking,
you know, this could probably go somewhere. So I sent
a couple of texts crickets. I feel kind of ghosted.
Like I texted that night, nothing waited a day, nothing,
and I sent the meme to kind of like like, yeah,
(01:28):
something we joked about that day anyway, So yeah, she
just dropped off the face of the earth and I
don't know what happened, Like I didn't get any red flags.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Well okay, well we'll see if she saw the red flags,
and you know, maybe there's a reason she's not interested,
and who knows, maybe we can get you another date.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Okay, thanks guys.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
The second date update with TJ, Amanda and j Rod
on kJ one O three.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Hi Caitlin, we know you're busy this morning. Thanks for
coming on because now it's awkward. Caitlin, Why what is
going on? Why do you seem to be avoiding another
date with Charlie.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
Well, he's nice and everything, he really is. He's like
polite and I don't know, he didn't say anything offensive
or growth, but like I hate.
Speaker 5 (02:22):
To say that, like he just like when he drank
his coffee, you know, like you know, you mix your
sugar in and then or whatever you seem, and then
he kept the spoon in the cup. What do you mean,
Like well, like he was like it was while he
was drinking. The spoon was like he'd pick it up
(02:43):
and the spoon handle was like sticking straight out and
kind of all up poking in his face.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Wow. I tried to picture this because that seems very awkward.
Like that's almost a talent.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
I'd be like, you know, drinking a beer with a
cigarette in your mouth or like it's kind of it's.
Speaker 5 (03:03):
Kind of And it wasn't like just once or twice,
but no, it was the whole time he was drinking,
just talking chat and swinging that spoon over.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
So, yes, he has a weird talent or habit, whatever
you want to call it, that he drinks his coffee
with the spoon still in the cop But that's like,
oh god, I can't. I can't date someone who does that.
That's your red flag.
Speaker 6 (03:30):
I mean.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Yeah, I guess.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
I mean that's putty.
Speaker 5 (03:35):
But it was like a real, like complete turnoff. He
doesn't he has no awareness of how he's coming across.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
It's just like a major dick.
Speaker 5 (03:44):
I'm sorry, it's an ick.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
It's an ick.
Speaker 5 (03:48):
Okakay, So wait, Charlie.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Here, Charlie, Charlie, yes, come on in here.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
So that that has to be the reason you're ghosting
me because of a spoon?
Speaker 5 (03:58):
I mean yeah, I mean you.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
Certain you couldn't just say something there? I mean, I
had no idea this was bothering you. It's not like
I'm drinking with two hands.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Yeah, if you if it bothered you so much that
his spoon was still in his cup, poking at his
face and doing all that stuff, why didn't you go
hate Charlie, just curious? Is it uncomfortable to drink coffee
with the spoons?
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Why not say something?
Speaker 5 (04:25):
I mean, I just most people would take the spoon out.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
I just like, honestly, it's like this, I don't want to.
Speaker 5 (04:32):
Be the girl who's dating the guy who just doesn't
know how to use coffee cup and like properly.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
I mean, I'm just drinking coffee, just trying to enjoy
his spoon. I'd be like, I'm not, I'm munch familiar.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
With these coffee rules.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Yeah, honestly made you.
Speaker 4 (04:52):
Seem kind of unaware, like looking around the spoon, And honestly,
I just had like a second and embarrassment.
Speaker 5 (05:01):
It's just not what I'm looking for.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Kaitlin. Kaitlin, Okay, it's a coup of coffee. You're set
up with this guy. You liked this guy, everything's good.
He drinks coffee with the spoon still in the coff
and you're like, Nope, not can datum this?
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Seriously, you won't go out with him again because of this.
Speaker 4 (05:18):
I mean, I'm not trying to be mean. I just
don't think that we're a match.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
All right.
Speaker 5 (05:23):
I'm sure you're great.
Speaker 4 (05:24):
Charlie, You're just not for me.
Speaker 5 (05:26):
I'm like, I get to pop in and around and
I just don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, Okay, Kaitlin, thanks for coming on
the second eight update.
Speaker 5 (05:35):
Okay, okay, bye.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
I mean I've been doing this my whole life, and
up until now, nobody has ever said anything.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
So all right, all right, you're saying, okay, well, hey,
you know, I'm sure you're not the only person that
drinks coffee with the spoon sticking out of it and
poking all up in their face and stuff.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
So but we couldn't get you a second date. But
thanks for coming on the second date update.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Man, hey, no more spoons for me, That's all I
could say.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Well, you you really should think about that, okay.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
By Charlie, thank you good.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
I'm thinking this is the dumbest second date update reason ever.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
But also, if my wife.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Would drink a coffee with the like the spoon up
in or you know what I'm saying, I would I
would be like, what are you doing?
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Why?
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Why do you do that? Okay, people drink with this straw?
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Yeah, like you know the straw, which, why do you
have the straw if you're gonna drink out of the Okay?
Speaker 1 (06:28):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
Feel free to chime in if you want on the
second ate update. Is this the stupidest reason ever not
to draw out with someone?
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Or are you gonna be like, not gonna lie? I
want day to me either. That's weird, he said at
the very end.
Speaker 6 (06:39):
I've been doing this my whole life and didn't know
up until now that it was something you're not supposed
to hear whatever, he said, And I just want to
tell him it's because nobody cares. I have never, not
once in my life, noticed spoon in someone's coffee while
they were drinking it because I don't care. And I
have third hand embarrassment for her second hand embarrassments by it.
(07:03):
The fact that she was embarrassed by it means that
something she she has no I don't want to say issues,
but that she has.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
What's the word, I'm looking forward?
Speaker 1 (07:12):
I mean she's.
Speaker 6 (07:13):
Conscious, she's self conscious. But no, I can guarantee her
that nobody was looking at him going, oh my god,
I can't believe she's with him. He left his spoon
in his coffee.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Oh no, you know what, though, we all have our things,
we all have our things. Yeah, there's certain things that
people do. Honestly, I'll just be honest. I can't find
her anything wrong with my wife. But she folds her
pizza in half and eats it that way. I'm like,
what are you doing? Why do you do that?
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Like why you're supposed to know? I don't.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
I'm like, all you taste it is the crust, there's
no fla and its She doesn't. Now maybe if she
did it on the first date, I would have thrown
away the best thing to ever happen to me. And
maybe that's what this woman's doing on the second date.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Update, But you're right.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
It's I just can't believe it's a reason not to
date someone again.
Speaker 6 (07:59):
But she said she was embarrassed. Are you embarrassed that
people see your wife holding her pizza?
Speaker 1 (08:03):
No, it just bugs me. It just bugs me exactly. Okay,
it's not a nerve. It's only got one of them,
but it's on it.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Okay, now this now, now, now that we're talking about this,
now it's all coming out.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
You're gonna have a conversation when you get home. Yeah,
I'm Sarah. We gonna end this.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Yeah, this is gonna stop today, Marcy. Okay, Marcy, thanks
for calling.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Thank you. Bye.
This is tj Amanda and j Ron's.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Second date update on kJ one three, you got Charlie
from Okay see on the second date update.
Speaker 3 (00:08):
Hi Charlie, Hey, good morning guys.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
So was this a blind day with Kaitlin?
Speaker 3 (00:13):
Yeah, I guess it's a blind date. We went through
a mutual friend kind of old school okay, uh, yeah, yeah,
and I was told she was super fun, super flirty,
easy to talk to, somewhat nerdy. She has like she
wears glasses. I guess I have a thing for studios types.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
So nice, nice, okay, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
So we decided to meet up at a coffee spot
and a little place downtown, and I thought that date
was going really well. She was laughing, which you know,
I guess would be like a clear indicator that she
was into me a bit. We talked for over an hour.
We even shared dessert just like banana bread thing that
had like a couple of chips in it, so.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Exactly, dude. All right, So so you felt a vibe?
Speaker 3 (01:07):
Yeah, yeah, I think it's safe to say. I left thinking,
you know, this could probably go somewhere. So I sent
a couple of texts crickets. I feel kind of ghosted.
Like I texted that night, nothing waited a day, nothing,
and I sent the meme to kind of like like, yeah,
(01:28):
something we joked about that day anyway, So yeah, she
just dropped off the face of the earth and I
don't know what happened, Like I didn't get any red flags.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Well okay, well we'll see if she saw the red flags,
and you know, maybe there's a reason she's not interested,
and who knows, maybe we can get you another date.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Okay, thanks guys.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
The second date update with TJ, Amanda and j Rod
on kJ one O three.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Hi Caitlin, we know you're busy this morning. Thanks for
coming on because now it's awkward. Caitlin, Why what is
going on? Why do you seem to be avoiding another
date with Charlie.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
Well, he's nice and everything, he really is. He's like
polite and I don't know, he didn't say anything offensive
or growth, but like I hate.
Speaker 5 (02:22):
To say that, like he just like when he drank
his coffee, you know, like you know, you mix your
sugar in and then or whatever you seem, and then
he kept the spoon in the cup. What do you mean,
Like well, like he was like it was while he
was drinking. The spoon was like he'd pick it up
(02:43):
and the spoon handle was like sticking straight out and
kind of all up poking in his face.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Wow. I tried to picture this because that seems very awkward.
Like that's almost a talent.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
I'd be like, you know, drinking a beer with a
cigarette in your mouth or like it's kind of it's.
Speaker 5 (03:03):
Kind of And it wasn't like just once or twice,
but no, it was the whole time he was drinking,
just talking chat and swinging that spoon over.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
So, yes, he has a weird talent or habit, whatever
you want to call it, that he drinks his coffee
with the spoon still in the cop But that's like,
oh god, I can't. I can't date someone who does that.
That's your red flag.
Speaker 6 (03:30):
I mean.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Yeah, I guess.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
I mean that's putty.
Speaker 5 (03:35):
But it was like a real, like complete turnoff. He
doesn't he has no awareness of how he's coming across.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
It's just like a major dick.
Speaker 5 (03:44):
I'm sorry, it's an ick.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
It's an ick.
Speaker 5 (03:48):
Okakay, So wait, Charlie.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Here, Charlie, Charlie, yes, come on in here.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
So that that has to be the reason you're ghosting
me because of a spoon?
Speaker 5 (03:58):
I mean yeah, I mean you.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
Certain you couldn't just say something there? I mean, I
had no idea this was bothering you. It's not like
I'm drinking with two hands.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Yeah, if you if it bothered you so much that
his spoon was still in his cup, poking at his
face and doing all that stuff, why didn't you go
hate Charlie, just curious? Is it uncomfortable to drink coffee
with the spoons?
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Why not say something?
Speaker 5 (04:25):
I mean, I just most people would take the spoon out.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
I just like, honestly, it's like this, I don't want to.
Speaker 5 (04:32):
Be the girl who's dating the guy who just doesn't
know how to use coffee cup and like properly.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
I mean, I'm just drinking coffee, just trying to enjoy
his spoon. I'd be like, I'm not, I'm munch familiar.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
With these coffee rules.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Yeah, honestly made you.
Speaker 4 (04:52):
Seem kind of unaware, like looking around the spoon, And honestly,
I just had like a second and embarrassment.
Speaker 5 (05:01):
It's just not what I'm looking for.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Kaitlin. Kaitlin, Okay, it's a coup of coffee. You're set
up with this guy. You liked this guy, everything's good.
He drinks coffee with the spoon still in the coff
and you're like, Nope, not can datum this?
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Seriously, you won't go out with him again because of this.
Speaker 4 (05:18):
I mean, I'm not trying to be mean. I just
don't think that we're a match.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
All right.
Speaker 5 (05:23):
I'm sure you're great.
Speaker 4 (05:24):
Charlie, You're just not for me.
Speaker 5 (05:26):
I'm like, I get to pop in and around and
I just don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, Okay, Kaitlin, thanks for coming on
the second eight update.
Speaker 5 (05:35):
Okay, okay, bye.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
I mean I've been doing this my whole life, and
up until now, nobody has ever said anything.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
So all right, all right, you're saying, okay, well, hey,
you know, I'm sure you're not the only person that
drinks coffee with the spoon sticking out of it and
poking all up in their face and stuff.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
So but we couldn't get you a second date. But
thanks for coming on the second date update.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Man, hey, no more spoons for me, That's all I
could say.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Well, you you really should think about that, okay.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
By Charlie, thank you good.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
I'm thinking this is the dumbest second date update reason ever.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
But also, if my wife.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Would drink a coffee with the like the spoon up
in or you know what I'm saying, I would I
would be like, what are you doing?
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Why?
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Why do you do that? Okay, people drink with this straw?
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Yeah, like you know the straw, which, why do you
have the straw if you're gonna drink out of the Okay?
Speaker 1 (06:28):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
Feel free to chime in if you want on the
second ate update. Is this the stupidest reason ever not
to draw out with someone?
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Or are you gonna be like, not gonna lie? I
want day to me either. That's weird, he said at
the very end.
Speaker 6 (06:39):
I've been doing this my whole life and didn't know
up until now that it was something you're not supposed
to hear whatever, he said, And I just want to
tell him it's because nobody cares. I have never, not
once in my life, noticed spoon in someone's coffee while
they were drinking it because I don't care. And I
have third hand embarrassment for her second hand embarrassments by it.
(07:03):
The fact that she was embarrassed by it means that
something she she has no I don't want to say issues,
but that she has.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
What's the word, I'm looking forward?
Speaker 1 (07:12):
I mean she's.
Speaker 6 (07:13):
Conscious, she's self conscious. But no, I can guarantee her
that nobody was looking at him going, oh my god,
I can't believe she's with him. He left his spoon
in his coffee.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Oh no, you know what, though, we all have our things,
we all have our things. Yeah, there's certain things that
people do. Honestly, I'll just be honest. I can't find
her anything wrong with my wife. But she folds her
pizza in half and eats it that way. I'm like,
what are you doing? Why do you do that?
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Like why you're supposed to know? I don't.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
I'm like, all you taste it is the crust, there's
no fla and its She doesn't. Now maybe if she
did it on the first date, I would have thrown
away the best thing to ever happen to me. And
maybe that's what this woman's doing on the second date.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Update, But you're right.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
It's I just can't believe it's a reason not to
date someone again.
Speaker 6 (07:59):
But she said she was embarrassed. Are you embarrassed that
people see your wife holding her pizza?
Speaker 1 (08:03):
No, it just bugs me. It just bugs me exactly. Okay,
it's not a nerve. It's only got one of them,
but it's on it.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Okay, now this now, now, now that we're talking about this,
now it's all coming out.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
You're gonna have a conversation when you get home. Yeah,
I'm Sarah. We gonna end this.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Yeah, this is gonna stop today, Marcy. Okay, Marcy, thanks
for calling.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Thank you. Bye.
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