March 13, 2025 • 9 mins
Cheyanne and Garrett went out because she saw he was single on Social Media. So they went out, but why no 2nd Date?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is t J Janet and j Rod's second date
update on kJ one O three in Cheyenne. Good morning,
Good morning.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
How are you guys doing.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Trying to get you a second date with Garrett? So
tell us your whole story here for the second date update.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Okay, so it's kind of a long story, but I've
had a crush.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
On this guy, Garrett since he was in my psych
class at OU.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Like yeah, like seven years ago.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Oh wow.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
We got to know each other a little bit back then,
you know, but nothing ever came in it because he
was in a relationship basically, but you know, I definitely.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Thought he was adorable.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
So that like about a month ago, I.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Guess I see on Facebook that Garrett is now single.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
So yeah, so I'm like, it's my time. So and
I'm like, I'm gonna be bold.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
I'm going to ask him out. But he seemed excited
to go out, and.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
I mean I thought we clicked on our date almost.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
I felt like we almost picked.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Up where we left off, like in college. I got
a good ball and I thought we'd be going out again.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
And then a few days later I text.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Him and I said I had a great time, and
I said, you want to go out again.
Speaker 4 (01:10):
And he didn't reply.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
So finally I.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
Sent him a text and I was like, so, and
they text back and he says, I don't think we
sit together.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Friend.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Yi that okay. So I wonder if he thought you
were just getting together as friends or he didn't think
you were getting together as friends, but now he wishes
you were You're just friends. You're the friend I mean.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
I asked him why I'm the text but.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
He hasn't responded.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Okay, I'm like, why are you calling me?
Speaker 1 (01:38):
So another so okay, Well, so you know how this works.
We're going to get him on the phone and find
out what happened, hopefully get you a second date. Okay,
coming up. Second date update kJ went A three, TJ
Jannet Jay out in the morning. It's TJ, Shannon and
j Rise. Second date update kJ one o three Cheyenne.
(01:59):
After years of following uh taking Garrett on social media,
I was like, wait, Garrett single, I'm gonna ask him
out and gonna boldly go where no girl's gone in
a while. And thought she had a great first date
with him, but then he texted her back afterwards and said,
I don't think we fit together. Friend friend, and that's
(02:19):
why we're doing a second date update because apparently Garrett's
not interesting going out again. Jay Rod track down Garrett.
We got him on the phone. Hi, Garrett, how are you.
Speaker 4 (02:27):
Well? She asked me out. I was like, Okay, this
could be a thing, possibly, you know what I mean.
But I think she's trying to be the dude here
and I'm already the dude. That makes sense.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
You're the dude. She's trying to be the du Well,
let me.
Speaker 4 (02:41):
Break it down. I'm sorry, Like she asked me out,
me up, she brought me flowers, you know what I mean.
That's the dude. That's the dude thing. That's the stuff
I would do. But she seemed to take the lead,
and she was very adamant about doing all the dude stuff.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Okay, so she was the aggressor. She the flowers, she
asked you out. She was the dude listening to this
whole thing, Cheyenne, are you the dude? What's going on?
Speaker 3 (03:08):
Like, I don't get this at all? So I bring
you flowers and that makes me the dude.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
Well, I mean, okay, maybe I'm saying that wrong. You
would be in the alpha in the relationship and I'm
used to being the alpha. Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Are you the alpha?
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Isn't there room to be two alphas?
Speaker 4 (03:31):
No? No, no, only to be one alba.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Like, Nope, that's why he's called the alpha.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Okay, I came back off and be the beta or whatever.
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (03:47):
I mean I can do that, honestly, I'm Cheyenne. I
don't think you can. Why why do you say that, Well,
because like alpha's mentality, you know, an alpha dog is
naturally alpha. Yeah, he can't back away from me on
the alpha.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Yeah, I'm sorry, I'm not a dog, Garrett.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Okay, Yes, that's just my thing.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
It's just my thing that in a relationship to alpha's
never work.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
You just want to be friends. Is that it just
because you have this alpha thing?
Speaker 4 (04:18):
Pretty much? Yeah, it just won't work.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
So you're saying no second date with Cheyenne because there's
just too many alphas here.
Speaker 4 (04:28):
I mean, yes, look, we can hang out as friends sometimes,
but that's probably it. Wow.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
Man, interesting All right, Garrett, thanks so much, and you
know we appreciate you being honest with us.
Speaker 4 (04:42):
Okay, thanks, thanks, thanks guys.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Okay, bye, Cheyenne. So is this making sense yet or no?
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Well, I mean, I just don't get right into the problem.
I've asked other guys out, I bought other guys flowers.
I don't know why he's needed into this alpha stuff.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
I mean, you're single, not being but maybe he's right.
Maybe you are in alpha. You've asked other guys out,
You've bought other guys flowers. They were probably okay with it.
But maybe you need to find an omega, a beta
(05:19):
or I don't know, man, Okay, be the alpha, go
ahead and wan and die me. I'm just saying I'd
be fine with you buying me flowers and asking me
how exactly I know? Okay, both neither one of you
are alpha. That's true. Okay, Chyenne, thanks so much. Sorry
we couldn't get you a second date here.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Okay, that's okay.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
I just need to find somebody who likes strong women.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Yes, exactly, Hey, change for them. How you doing. We
like a good alpha? Okay, just say it, but you
do you? Okay, bye, Cheyenne.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
Thanks guys.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
By, I will say there's only room for one alpha. Okay,
you're absolutely right. But my wife, we would Mama, we
would not be together if she didn't alpha me almost
to the altar alpha asked me out, she would like
bring me gifts and stuff because we worked in the
(06:11):
same place. She did all that. But we take turns
being alpha because a lot of the times i'm alpha.
The best alphas are those that let others think they
are the alpha. Sure, that's what she's doing, but that's
the point. She might be alpha at flowers and asking
you out, ever, but then she might be like, no,
(06:31):
now it's your turn to pick the restaurant, and you
take me on a date. I think, right, Can two
alphas work?
Speaker 4 (06:36):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (06:37):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
I have four oh five, four six oh one o
two seven because Garrett's all like a Canbama.
Speaker 5 (06:47):
He will.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
I don't need no man that's a woman in my
life because I can do it myself. I don't know.
Let's let's talk about the second date updates.
Speaker 5 (06:55):
Oh yeah, Alpha, huh. I'm not thinking the worst of
every single person, and I promise. But it almost sounds
like a cop out to me because it hurts his
little man feeling.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
A little man said you, yeah.
Speaker 5 (07:12):
Second thing that I was supposed to do, because I was.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Blacking okay when you said his little man feelings, which,
again not trying to be that person. But you're either
alpha or you're not. And a real alpha can't go
oh no, no, you can't be the alpha because I'm
in alpha. The real alpha is just the alpha. Yeah,
and that and then you don't go on a second day.
(07:37):
You guys will what I'm saying though, you will out
alpha each other. So it's not like, no, I have
to be the alpha. If you were the alpha, you
wouldn't have to announce that you have to step aside,
so I could be the alpha. Alpha is just alpha.
There what they do. There is no we need to
get rid of that alpha, so I could be the alpha. No,
its own decisions.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
Alf it's not a contest.
Speaker 5 (07:58):
That's that's kind of easy to me because it's like
having two positive people in a relationship, you know, like,
what are you going to do out positive one another?
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Yeah, you're either positive or you're not. You don't have
to go listen. You need to be less positive so
I can be the most positive. No, that's not a thing.
You drop yourself so you can raise me well.
Speaker 5 (08:19):
But also if you do this every date and you're
not getting second dates, maybe.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
You need to slow your role a little.
Speaker 5 (08:26):
Bit, reevaluate. I will say I have never heard of
a woman bringing a man flowers.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
You know, my wife buys me flowers every once in
a while. I think just because I don't buy her
flowers and she wants to have some flowers, she's leading
my example, what I alpha? I will say, because you
said that, we've had second date updates where the woman
was like, he brought me flowers? Too soon for flowers.
Maybe she's just it's not that she's alpha, she just
comes down a little strong. Yeah, maybe that's it could
(08:54):
be it too.
Speaker 5 (08:55):
I mean if I was going on a date and
someone was like, oh, I got her flowers with with
a whole nine on the first date, I would be like, whoa,
this is a little intimidating. I'm just I'm just getting
my feet wet.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Slow down, Alpha, Okay, good talk Taylor high five. Yeah,
all right,
This is t J Janet and j Rod's second date
update on kJ one O three in Cheyenne. Good morning,
Good morning.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
How are you guys doing.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Trying to get you a second date with Garrett? So
tell us your whole story here for the second date update.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Okay, so it's kind of a long story, but I've
had a crush.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
On this guy, Garrett since he was in my psych
class at OU.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Like yeah, like seven years ago.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Oh wow.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
We got to know each other a little bit back then,
you know, but nothing ever came in it because he
was in a relationship basically, but you know, I definitely.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Thought he was adorable.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
So that like about a month ago, I.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Guess I see on Facebook that Garrett is now single.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
So yeah, so I'm like, it's my time. So and
I'm like, I'm gonna be bold.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
I'm going to ask him out. But he seemed excited
to go out, and.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
I mean I thought we clicked on our date almost.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
I felt like we almost picked.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Up where we left off, like in college. I got
a good ball and I thought we'd be going out again.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
And then a few days later I text.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Him and I said I had a great time, and
I said, you want to go out again.
Speaker 4 (01:10):
And he didn't reply.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
So finally I.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
Sent him a text and I was like, so, and
they text back and he says, I don't think we
sit together.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Friend.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Yi that okay. So I wonder if he thought you
were just getting together as friends or he didn't think
you were getting together as friends, but now he wishes
you were You're just friends. You're the friend I mean.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
I asked him why I'm the text but.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
He hasn't responded.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Okay, I'm like, why are you calling me?
Speaker 1 (01:38):
So another so okay, Well, so you know how this works.
We're going to get him on the phone and find
out what happened, hopefully get you a second date. Okay,
coming up. Second date update kJ went A three, TJ
Jannet Jay out in the morning. It's TJ, Shannon and
j Rise. Second date update kJ one o three Cheyenne.
(01:59):
After years of following uh taking Garrett on social media,
I was like, wait, Garrett single, I'm gonna ask him
out and gonna boldly go where no girl's gone in
a while. And thought she had a great first date
with him, but then he texted her back afterwards and said,
I don't think we fit together. Friend friend, and that's
(02:19):
why we're doing a second date update because apparently Garrett's
not interesting going out again. Jay Rod track down Garrett.
We got him on the phone. Hi, Garrett, how are you.
Speaker 4 (02:27):
Well? She asked me out. I was like, Okay, this
could be a thing, possibly, you know what I mean.
But I think she's trying to be the dude here
and I'm already the dude. That makes sense.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
You're the dude. She's trying to be the du Well,
let me.
Speaker 4 (02:41):
Break it down. I'm sorry, Like she asked me out,
me up, she brought me flowers, you know what I mean.
That's the dude. That's the dude thing. That's the stuff
I would do. But she seemed to take the lead,
and she was very adamant about doing all the dude stuff.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Okay, so she was the aggressor. She the flowers, she
asked you out. She was the dude listening to this
whole thing, Cheyenne, are you the dude? What's going on?
Speaker 3 (03:08):
Like, I don't get this at all? So I bring
you flowers and that makes me the dude.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
Well, I mean, okay, maybe I'm saying that wrong. You
would be in the alpha in the relationship and I'm
used to being the alpha. Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Are you the alpha?
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Isn't there room to be two alphas?
Speaker 4 (03:31):
No? No, no, only to be one alba.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Like, Nope, that's why he's called the alpha.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Okay, I came back off and be the beta or whatever.
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (03:47):
I mean I can do that, honestly, I'm Cheyenne. I
don't think you can. Why why do you say that, Well,
because like alpha's mentality, you know, an alpha dog is
naturally alpha. Yeah, he can't back away from me on
the alpha.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Yeah, I'm sorry, I'm not a dog, Garrett.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Okay, Yes, that's just my thing.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
It's just my thing that in a relationship to alpha's
never work.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
You just want to be friends. Is that it just
because you have this alpha thing?
Speaker 4 (04:18):
Pretty much? Yeah, it just won't work.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
So you're saying no second date with Cheyenne because there's
just too many alphas here.
Speaker 4 (04:28):
I mean, yes, look, we can hang out as friends sometimes,
but that's probably it. Wow.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
Man, interesting All right, Garrett, thanks so much, and you
know we appreciate you being honest with us.
Speaker 4 (04:42):
Okay, thanks, thanks, thanks guys.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Okay, bye, Cheyenne. So is this making sense yet or no?
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Well, I mean, I just don't get right into the problem.
I've asked other guys out, I bought other guys flowers.
I don't know why he's needed into this alpha stuff.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
I mean, you're single, not being but maybe he's right.
Maybe you are in alpha. You've asked other guys out,
You've bought other guys flowers. They were probably okay with it.
But maybe you need to find an omega, a beta
(05:19):
or I don't know, man, Okay, be the alpha, go
ahead and wan and die me. I'm just saying I'd
be fine with you buying me flowers and asking me
how exactly I know? Okay, both neither one of you
are alpha. That's true. Okay, Chyenne, thanks so much. Sorry
we couldn't get you a second date here.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Okay, that's okay.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
I just need to find somebody who likes strong women.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Yes, exactly, Hey, change for them. How you doing. We
like a good alpha? Okay, just say it, but you
do you? Okay, bye, Cheyenne.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
Thanks guys.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
By, I will say there's only room for one alpha. Okay,
you're absolutely right. But my wife, we would Mama, we
would not be together if she didn't alpha me almost
to the altar alpha asked me out, she would like
bring me gifts and stuff because we worked in the
(06:11):
same place. She did all that. But we take turns
being alpha because a lot of the times i'm alpha.
The best alphas are those that let others think they
are the alpha. Sure, that's what she's doing, but that's
the point. She might be alpha at flowers and asking
you out, ever, but then she might be like, no,
(06:31):
now it's your turn to pick the restaurant, and you
take me on a date. I think, right, Can two
alphas work?
Speaker 4 (06:36):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (06:37):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
I have four oh five, four six oh one o
two seven because Garrett's all like a Canbama.
Speaker 5 (06:47):
He will.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
I don't need no man that's a woman in my
life because I can do it myself. I don't know.
Let's let's talk about the second date updates.
Speaker 5 (06:55):
Oh yeah, Alpha, huh. I'm not thinking the worst of
every single person, and I promise. But it almost sounds
like a cop out to me because it hurts his
little man feeling.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
A little man said you, yeah.
Speaker 5 (07:12):
Second thing that I was supposed to do, because I was.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Blacking okay when you said his little man feelings, which,
again not trying to be that person. But you're either
alpha or you're not. And a real alpha can't go
oh no, no, you can't be the alpha because I'm
in alpha. The real alpha is just the alpha. Yeah,
and that and then you don't go on a second day.
(07:37):
You guys will what I'm saying though, you will out
alpha each other. So it's not like, no, I have
to be the alpha. If you were the alpha, you
wouldn't have to announce that you have to step aside,
so I could be the alpha. Alpha is just alpha.
There what they do. There is no we need to
get rid of that alpha, so I could be the alpha. No,
its own decisions.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
Alf it's not a contest.
Speaker 5 (07:58):
That's that's kind of easy to me because it's like
having two positive people in a relationship, you know, like,
what are you going to do out positive one another?
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Yeah, you're either positive or you're not. You don't have
to go listen. You need to be less positive so
I can be the most positive. No, that's not a thing.
You drop yourself so you can raise me well.
Speaker 5 (08:19):
But also if you do this every date and you're
not getting second dates, maybe.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
You need to slow your role a little.
Speaker 5 (08:26):
Bit, reevaluate. I will say I have never heard of
a woman bringing a man flowers.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
You know, my wife buys me flowers every once in
a while. I think just because I don't buy her
flowers and she wants to have some flowers, she's leading
my example, what I alpha? I will say, because you
said that, we've had second date updates where the woman
was like, he brought me flowers? Too soon for flowers.
Maybe she's just it's not that she's alpha, she just
comes down a little strong. Yeah, maybe that's it could
(08:54):
be it too.
Speaker 5 (08:55):
I mean if I was going on a date and
someone was like, oh, I got her flowers with with
a whole nine on the first date, I would be like, whoa,
this is a little intimidating. I'm just I'm just getting
my feet wet.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Slow down, Alpha, Okay, good talk Taylor high five. Yeah,
all right,
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