October 22, 2025 • 29 mins
On the Monsters Attorney "Friendly" Ray Traendly of TK Law discusses "8 Divorce Facts."
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's National Nut Day. In case you wonder what you know,
It's National nut Day.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
That's perfect. We're all a bunch of crazy nuts.
Speaker 3 (00:08):
Ambernova here today. Coming up a little bit later on
Ambernova's gonna bring her conspiracy theories.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Angel here.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Ryan is out getting accepting an award for us from
Crime Line. Uh when when he gets in a room
full of police officer he wants to grab their guns,
which is void.
Speaker 4 (00:26):
Just happens weird call the void intrusive thoughts.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Ross. It all happens to all of us, and that
happened to me.
Speaker 4 (00:32):
I never thought you're a walking example of intrusive thoughts.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
But I don't think about grabbing guns.
Speaker 4 (00:37):
Well that's one example. There's plenty of They're all kinds
of intrusive thoughts.
Speaker 3 (00:41):
I do think of, like like like a high building
or something like what would it be like to jump over?
Speaker 1 (00:46):
That freaks me out?
Speaker 5 (00:47):
Oh no, that is you should have.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Friendly Ray Trentley here with us from TKL.
Speaker 4 (00:54):
How you doing, Ray, I'm doing well.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
I did text you on Sunday, Yeah, because it was
your Miami Dolphins and I'm calling yours.
Speaker 6 (01:02):
I don't know what you're talking about. I was rooting
for the Bucks this past weekend. So you see how
that worked out for the Bucks.
Speaker 5 (01:09):
Unfortunate exactly.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Look look what you did see you yeah jinks them
let me talk. Are you willing to accept that that
you Okay, see see he understands the sports thinks.
Speaker 6 (01:19):
But you know what, I'm willing to risk tanking the
entire Bucks season because boks are the Dolphins, another Bucks
season because I don't want to watch the Dolphins game.
Speaker 4 (01:30):
Yeah, watch something And.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
I said this.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
The other people just love to argue, just to argue,
and you'll understand what I'm saying right Okay, As of
right now, for the players that are walking out on
the field right now, I believe that the Miami Dolphins
are the worst team in the NFL.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
And I know people are, well, they've won a game.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Yeah, they won a game back when they had a
Tyreek Hill playing for that.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
And they were better than they are the worst team now.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
They they can't they can't get a snap, they can't
interceptions like they everything is its discombobulated. As of right now,
they are the I know the record doesn't show it,
but they're they're they're terrible.
Speaker 4 (02:08):
It's a really weird.
Speaker 5 (02:10):
Didn't even you're playing weird professional football.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Right now, I'm just saying they're not playing professional football
but the worst team and they we should win when
it comes to the worst team category.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
I think we should also throw into the fat something
like they've been featured in movies ace Ventura. They have
a really great mascot.
Speaker 5 (02:27):
So that undefeated forty years ago?
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Not much.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Yeah, you've watched the Dolphins longer than I have. Have
you seen them ever be worse than they were on Sunday?
Speaker 4 (02:39):
It's the season where they win.
Speaker 5 (02:41):
They won one game against the Ravens.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
No, there's one season and they're the one of the
teams that didn't win any games in the season.
Speaker 6 (02:47):
I know they ended up beating the Ravens the last
game of the season. Yeah, and you know that that
got We got Jake Long in that draft because we
had the first overall pick. And I remember that season
because I was like, you're ruined it because you know,
we want to damn field goal. I mean, like the
whole team is Listen. I think they've given up on
the season. I think everybody has accepted that we're going
(03:09):
to have a new head coach and new GM next year. Uh,
you know, I just wanted to go one.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
What would you do if they don't fire the head
coach or the GM.
Speaker 5 (03:18):
I'm already ready to burn the whole stadium to the ground.
Speaker 4 (03:21):
So, uh, that might send me over. You're talking about, Yeah,
have you seen there? Have you seen that rumor that
the reason they haven't pulled the trigger the lawsuit that
they're in.
Speaker 6 (03:31):
Yes, that's the one with Brian Flora as the former coach,
and you know, and it's.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
I mean, it's gaining that particular lawsuit is actually gaining traction,
and it looks like Flores is going to win. Flores
was the coach that they had before. He did not
like to and so he was fired and he sued
the team for racial discrimination. And it looks like it
looks like it's going his way right now as the
(03:58):
so far as the lawsuit is gone. And so that's
why the people are claiming or or sitating. Again, this
is all conjecture. This is just all you know, rumors,
conspiracy theories on the internet that that's why they haven't
fired the head coach or the GM. The GM should
have gone a decade ago.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Was sitting here with the bo law the other day
and we were arguing that which team is worse, the
Tennessee Titans or the there.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Might be Dolphins, and it's a it's a close.
Speaker 6 (04:24):
So I'll tell you what the problem with the Titans is. One,
they've got a younger team. Their offensive line is garbage.
They've got a direction though, but but you know what,
they make exciting plays. You know what I'm gonna We
can't have wide receivers run the proper route. So I've
got no I've got no hope for the office this season.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
If they're younger, I agree with you. If they're younger,
they don't have children, maybe they're not fighting as hard.
But if you have, Yeah, if you have your own
kids there and you think they'd be working a little
harder to not embarrass yourself in front of your kids.
Speaker 5 (04:54):
That's true. Ye embarrassed in the kids.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
That makes a little sense.
Speaker 6 (04:58):
And especially two has kid and he's picks every play.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
So here's what they talked me into. They said this Sunday,
maybe Friday or Sunday. They want me to because I
have not put on dolphin gear pretty much all year
because I'm embarrassed by him there. But they're saying and
order the Jinx thing to go full on dolphin gear
on Sunday, trying.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
To get the monkey off his back.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Right.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
So for the.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Last alleged the alleged we a jinks.
Speaker 4 (05:25):
We have about ten years of documented sports dnks with
this guy because of the way he's willy nilly with
his fandom. He's ruined the seasons for particular players. He's
ruined like literally in this wheeling clerk. I mean this week,
this week alone, he ruined the Mariners. He ruined the
Tampa Bay Bucks. That happened in one day.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
I wore a lion's hat and the lion Why do
you keep doing that?
Speaker 1 (05:49):
You were truth the day before.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
You were on the air, and you were openly saying
that the only reason you were wearing.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
That whisper did I told you to you didn't?
Speaker 4 (05:56):
You said it out loud. People are grabbing the audio
whispered they sent it to me.
Speaker 5 (06:00):
I haven't because of the gift. I mean that's what
I think.
Speaker 4 (06:04):
Anyway, So his so again, and I was warning him
even then. I was like, Hey, I think you're trying
to be a little too slick with this. This is
not how sports. He upset the sports gods, right and
so and he didn't understand the concept of the sports gods,
and Ryan and I tried to explain it to him.
And so what I was proposing was, Hey, listen, let's
not ruin any other teams. Let's not ruin it. Let's
double down on the on the Dolphins. And even if
(06:26):
it's just a win, even if it's a moral victory. Right,
you rock all your Dolphins gear on Friday or Friday
Thirs or whatever, and you double down and like commit
that you're fandom that this is the team that you
want to win this weekend hard.
Speaker 6 (06:41):
But Angel, on any given season, I normally agree with
you at this point, wear whatever you want to wear, man,
bigger fan. Here's the problem. You want to see them win.
I want to see them with the draft pick lose.
Speaker 5 (06:57):
See, I'm not interested they locked up your I'm.
Speaker 6 (07:00):
Not interested in getting the seventh overall draft pick so
I can draft two attack a Viola instead of Joe Burrow,
because you know what, that year we had a shot
for that first overall pick.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Yeah, we hold on a second.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
When you're talking about that, Okay, we're talking about the
front office, and your guys' front office is not showing
any resemblance of what the hell they know they're doing.
Speaker 6 (07:20):
I miss on that pick. You can't miss on that pick.
So I don't know. Listen, I'm just trying to help.
Speaker 4 (07:26):
Okay, you have a compelling argument, and I understand what
you're saying, right, But I'm just trying to help Russ
out because again there's a ton of listeners. The Yankee fans.
They were pissed off at him because he ruined the
Yankees playoff run. Every time he's gone again being willy
nilly with his fandom, he ends up ruining that fan
bases of hopes and dreams. So I'm trying to just
(07:47):
get that get that monkey.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
In the first segment, you don't believe in ghosts, but
you believe in it.
Speaker 4 (07:54):
Wait that's no, no, no, no, that's not okay. You
know me, and you know what. I believe it, and
you know that I don't fell my nose at it.
I didn't understand what you were doing in the first
segment with trying to connect a show from twenty years
ago that Ace freely did as to that the reason
that's why he died, That a ghost pushed them down.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
No, I just I just listen, Ray this is true.
I just found that you were about I know.
Speaker 5 (08:21):
So that's not who you are in your corner us.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
That's not the is He's freely fell down the stairs, right,
that's how he died. And then I found this old
this is from twelve years ago where he believes that
and they and then send this little documentary thing that
his daughter and his wife both believed that they were
pushed down the stairs by a ghost.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
Right now, what what are stairwell? Yeah, what are the odds?
Speaker 6 (08:46):
Maybe the stairs are just not even.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Ghosts?
Speaker 5 (08:54):
That that anti ghost.
Speaker 6 (08:55):
I just think that usually the simplest solution is probably
the right one.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Well whatever, I'm just saying it could happen.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
You know, Uh, they didn't feel like they slipped, they felt.
Speaker 6 (09:07):
Is that how like how like Amber got like mysteriously
pinned by a ghost and that's how she lost her title?
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Again? Is that?
Speaker 5 (09:14):
Is that what happened?
Speaker 6 (09:15):
You know?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I wasn't pinned.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
To sleep. It was probably the sleep sleeper hole. Yeah, Hey,
how is your diet going treadly good?
Speaker 6 (09:23):
I'm four point six pounds away from where I want
to get to from like my weight loss goal, and
then I'm gonna stay on the diet, but increase the
calories and try to gain some muscles before the end
of the year.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
So okay, are you are you still obsessed by it?
Speaker 6 (09:39):
You're oh, yeah, absolutely, yeah, yeaheah, like I'm every single week,
I'm on there tracking it.
Speaker 5 (09:44):
If I feel like I'm getting stagnant.
Speaker 4 (09:47):
Uh do you have do you afford yourself or is
there in what you're doing and everything? Is there a
cheat meal or there's nothing? No, you're not eating You're
totally eating for sustenance. You're not eating for pleasure or
enjoyment at all.
Speaker 5 (10:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (10:03):
I've got a pretty strict diet and I need to
get a little bit of fiber in me and a
little bit of protein.
Speaker 5 (10:08):
I mean not a little bit.
Speaker 6 (10:09):
It was mostly all protein and a little bit of
healthy fat, trying to survive on healthy fats. And uh yeah, no,
I'm loving it and I'm excited and I feel great.
This is actually the weight I was when I got
married fourteen years ago, and so I feel great. I'm
gonna lose a little bit more weight and then, like
I said, I'm gonna add the muscle on the frame.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
And now how's the rest of the family. Do they
feel like you're any fun anymore?
Speaker 5 (10:31):
Absolutely think I'm no fun.
Speaker 4 (10:33):
Are you hanging out on one wing of the house
all by yourself?
Speaker 6 (10:36):
Well I had to say this way, but fortunately all
my kids were sick this past weekend and so like
none of them wanted to eat either. And I was like,
it was a good weekend, but the weekend before, everybody
wanted like popcorn and candy. They wanted to do like
a movie night, some Popeyes, and I'm like, how about
we eat some celery you guys.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Yeah, you could do a veggie. Platters do not like veggies.
Speaker 5 (11:01):
They used to like veggies.
Speaker 6 (11:02):
They used to eat a few things, but now it's
like if it's not green beans, they don't eat it.
Speaker 5 (11:07):
They're terrible children.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
They like green beans. That's their favorite veggie.
Speaker 5 (11:10):
That's their only veggie.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
It's not even the good ones.
Speaker 5 (11:13):
They dip it in ranch. You know, you dip anything
in ranch. It tastes pretty good.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Yeah, it's smart what you're doing. You're doing it before
the holidays, and I think that's what a lot of
people don't do, Like get it right before the holidays.
So that way, when you have Thanksgiving, you can enjoy
a nice giant meal of stuffing and stuff and then
go back to the diet.
Speaker 6 (11:28):
I don't know if I'll have a giant meal of stuffing.
I think I'm going to give my stuff like up
to one hundred grams of carbs through maybe Christmas a day,
and then we'll see how my body makes in.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
But how many mashed potatoes can eat with that?
Speaker 5 (11:44):
It'll probably be about two spoonfuls.
Speaker 4 (11:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (11:48):
But here's the thing, right, So like I'm starting to
get the angle V back on my abs, I'm starting
to get some definition.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
So are you including a workout regiment with us or
are you just strictly dieting.
Speaker 6 (11:59):
Yeah, so it's not a it's mostly body weight pio
stuff because I hit it too.
Speaker 5 (12:05):
Hard early on and I was just drained.
Speaker 6 (12:08):
But yeah, I'm doing some exercise. It's just not what
I should I mean, but some of.
Speaker 4 (12:13):
The body weight stuff is if you got the right
of exercise and stuff, some of that stuff is just
as good as going to the gym.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
By the way, Ray trently Is as a divorce attorney,
had just got a text from a listener and says,
tell Ray, I said, thank you, he handled my divorce
settlement on Friday. Got me the best case scenario that
which is very nice.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Of this prob.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
I won't say their name because I don't if they want
me to say their name on the radio. But but
best case scenario, like that's a that's what when you're
going through divorce. It's really all about like your expectation, right,
Sometimes people expect too much. They are not realistic, not realistic, right,
that is that one of the biggest problems with the divorce.
Speaker 6 (12:50):
Uh, privately, I don't want to say this too loud
on the air. If I could have metaphorically beat the
other side over the head, uh, we could have settled
this case seven eight months ago.
Speaker 5 (13:02):
Oh really, but it took some It took some legal maneuvering.
We had a trial. I mean, we started a trial.
Speaker 6 (13:10):
I did all my examination of the other side, and
after that, amazingly they got reasonable.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
That's quite unusual, isn't it. For I've been divorced any
times had a trial.
Speaker 5 (13:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (13:23):
So statistically ten to fifteen percent of cases go to trial.
Speaker 5 (13:29):
So it is a small proportion of the cases that
end up in trial.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
And what do they what are they discussed everything you
were like with with a jury and everything.
Speaker 6 (13:39):
So this not a jury trial, no jury, the judge,
just with the judge. And when you have good clients,
it makes the whole thing a lot easier. But I mean, basically,
this is an offer that we made to them February
of last of this past year, and you know, basically
we separated for lunch. The turn he came to me
(14:00):
and said, hey, you are to settlement, and I was like,
I'm opening anything.
Speaker 5 (14:04):
Like I'm a friendly guy.
Speaker 6 (14:05):
You tell me what you got friendly, uh, and uh,
you know, we were able to work something out. And
actually he's on my to do list a call today,
so I'm glad to hear that.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
Well, I know that, uh, we've got you've got some
divorce facts and that's a divorce facts. So but those
of you are thinking about divorce right for the holidays.
Speaker 5 (14:23):
Well it's not just thinking about divorce.
Speaker 6 (14:26):
Maybe it's also maybe you're thinking that you don't want
a divorce and you want to get some information.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
Okay, very good, So we'll do that when we come
back with friendly Ray Trentley. By the way, any kind
of family law. We talk about divorce a lot, but
you do other things other than divorce.
Speaker 6 (14:39):
We do adoptions, paternity, divorce, we do a little bit
of everything.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
One firm forlife dot Com.
Speaker 3 (14:44):
There you go. It's a Ray Tranley. We'll talk with
him about that when we come back. Don't go anywhere.
You're listening to the manses of the morning Angel. How
do we have a discussion with Amber about offending some
of our our nicest clients.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
Amber looks at Ray.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
It says, yeah, are you sick or something?
Speaker 6 (15:04):
At first, she said are you fasting right now? And
I said yeah, why, She's like, are you sick? I
said no. She's like, maybe you're tired. It's like, I mean,
I go to bed at the same time I normally
go to bed when I'm in the middle of trial periods.
And she's like, you just seem a little agitated today.
(15:25):
I'm feeling some energy.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
What are you doing. I'm sitting there listening to offend
the man.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
I got a thick skin, friendly right. I can just
tell when a case gets like, well, he gets like
he's it's go time. It's vicious. It is go time
when it comes.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
To case you want to look bad your room.
Speaker 5 (15:45):
Ray is different from regular Ray. I will say that.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
He's a little a little tired man.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
What are you doing right now?
Speaker 4 (15:52):
So is that your your version of small talk? Most
people will be like, hey, that's a sharp suit. You
don't tell about many that's it?
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Look right?
Speaker 4 (15:59):
You run down what's.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Wrong with it?
Speaker 5 (16:02):
Like this, She's not completely wrong. So I had a
trial last week.
Speaker 6 (16:06):
I've got a pre trail that starts on November fourth
and for a week long jury trial. And so I'm
cranky all out now because i have to be fresh.
You know, a week long jury trial's a marathon, right,
So I have to be fresh then. So I'm cranking
out all the work I need to crank out. I'm
just I was at the Alfus till one or two
o'clock this morning.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
You had you always sent me like they, hey, these
things we could talk about or whatever. And one of
the things was the eight divorce facts. I didn't even
look at them because I was curious if I would
already know these since I've I've had my share, I'm
curious of what your eight divorce facts are.
Speaker 5 (16:37):
So I'll tell you what it was.
Speaker 6 (16:40):
My favorite one. I'll skip right down to the fifth
divorce fact.
Speaker 1 (16:43):
Oh, all the way to five, okay.
Speaker 6 (16:44):
That is that divorced men are less likely to be
employed than married men.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
Right, So the.
Speaker 3 (16:51):
Divorced men are less likely to be employed than married men.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
So if they're divorced, why is that.
Speaker 6 (16:57):
I an average of five to fifteen percent age group.
I imagine it's because if you're getting if women are
leaving their husbands, maybe it's because they're not working, they're
not supporting the family, they're not doing their job to contribute,
and statistically the reverse was opposite. Divorced women are more
likely to be gainfully employed than married women.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
But what if their man left them? And what if
he left the wife? Look, you said, well if his
wife left him, well what if he left her?
Speaker 6 (17:26):
I guess he could leave her. But if he's not working,
how is he paying his bills? So he would have
to have somebody else then pay his bills.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
So in a divorce, have you found that men get
more emotionally upset where they can't work or whatever, or
women get more emotionally upset.
Speaker 5 (17:42):
See, I don't look at it as a gender thing.
Speaker 3 (17:44):
No.
Speaker 6 (17:44):
I will tell you no matter what the gender of
my client is, when I tell them that they have
to pay the other side alimony, and the other side
is a stay at home mom or stay at home
dad or maybe they're just CouchSurfing and playing video games.
Nobody wants to pay alimony, no, and and so let's
understand it's the same frustration regardless of gender, right, It's
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it's this idea that you're supposed to be on a
team together, and a team mutually contributes towards the team's goals,
and when one person is doing an unequal share of
the work, there's resentment. And so, you know, I find
that it's not really a gender thing, so much of
it is like a role thing.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
But I thought that was an interesting theory example that
was men and men are one way and women or another.
Speaker 6 (18:29):
Right, yeah, yeah, yeah, And that's again I think it
makes sense. Right, if the man's working, right, and the
wife is staying at home, maybe she's not. Maybe she's
not doing homemaking duties the way they initially thought they
were going to be doing them, their resentment grows, and
that leads to divorce and then the advice versas. You know,
if the women's working and the husband's not working and
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he's unemployed and he's kind of doing the same thing
seeing on the couch playing video games, I don't know,
that's just what I picture.
Speaker 5 (18:56):
Ryan doing.
Speaker 6 (18:59):
The wife walks, and it's like, listen, I can find
somebody else who's going to be a partner, who's going
to contribute to the finances, who's going to help us
build this future. And so so that was that was
one of the divorce facts I really, I really thought.
We talked about this other one last week, which is
the divorce rates have been going down since nineteen eighty.
But somebody sent me a message and it kind of
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led me to these facts. But there's one group of
divorces that's going up.
Speaker 5 (19:29):
Can you guess? I'll give you the answer in a way.
It's an age range.
Speaker 6 (19:33):
Can you guess what age range of divorces is actually
statistically going up?
Speaker 1 (19:37):
I probably peep older folks, people over fifty.
Speaker 5 (19:41):
You nailed it.
Speaker 6 (19:42):
Yeah, So we called that gray divorce and it's divorces
are over fifty statistically. They've been on the rise since
nineteen ninety and it's been every every decade since then.
Speaker 5 (19:53):
The CENTSUS Bureau has been tracking in do.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
They have theories?
Speaker 2 (19:56):
Why?
Speaker 1 (19:56):
Because I got a theory? Why if you don't.
Speaker 5 (19:58):
I've got a couple theories.
Speaker 6 (20:00):
I think One, people are living longer, and so part
of it is like, do I want to spend my
last ten years with you know, this bump on a.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
Log Like I got about ten to fifteen years left.
Speaker 3 (20:11):
I am not arguing with this much for you know,
like like I can see that happening.
Speaker 5 (20:14):
And we saw it a lot during COVID.
Speaker 6 (20:16):
They almost that exact dynamic right where people are are
locked in the same house together. Yeah, they're not traveling,
They're not able to go visit their family and their friends,
and you know, you know, something political comes on TV
and one says I'm all Trump and then one says
I'm all Biden, and.
Speaker 5 (20:31):
It's like, we don't get along so much, we got
to separate.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
So politics. Have you found that a lot with divorce
of politics being a thing.
Speaker 5 (20:39):
Especially with older clients.
Speaker 6 (20:40):
Yeah, yeah, it becomes almost an identity and so in
some way some people feel about like having children and
not having children, people feel that about politics.
Speaker 4 (20:50):
Now, Yeah, that's one of those things that that particular
issue saw a good friend make a post about how
they had lost like that that particular time. Yeah, not
only is it causing divorces, but it's also breaking up
you know, friendships of years and years and years, and
that's what we here in America. I've never I don't,
I'll put it this way. In my lifetime, I've never
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seen that until now neither.
Speaker 3 (21:13):
Yeah, And I've had to work through that to be
honest with you, because at first I felt like, you know,
and I've had to realize listen, I know a lot
of people that that look at politics differently than I do.
And I still love these people, and I'm not gonna
let it cloud my judgment of them anymore like I
did it for a little while. I mean, and if
I'm being honest, there were time I'm like, oh, you're
that side youre's something wrong with you.
Speaker 1 (21:34):
I don't do that anymore.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
I'm like, listen, it's everyone has different views and and
and and you're just gonna cut out too many people
in your life if you if you cut out everyone
who doesn't The part that takes the same way.
Speaker 4 (21:47):
I agree with you. The part that makes it more difficult, though,
is that if that becomes let's say they've been your
friend forever and then this idea of politics becomes their identity.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
I agree, there's somebody.
Speaker 3 (21:59):
That I know that they're politics has become their identity,
and they agree with me and I can't stand I'm
talking to her like she's on like the side I
think too much.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
Man, it doesn't matter what side it is.
Speaker 3 (22:10):
When if they're beating Trump all day, that's all they
want to talk about like that, I don't want.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
To talk about that.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
Yeah, obsessively. It's just it's not healthy.
Speaker 6 (22:19):
Yeah, yeah, and again it's not it's not who you are.
It's not like who you vote for is going to
materially change who you are as a person. Right, And
I think a lot of people think that the politicians
care about them, and they don't. Yeah, here's another one
for four and ten divorces. Forty percent of divorces happen
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within the first ten years of marriage. So you're almost
out of the woods here.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
Yeah, there'll be eight years.
Speaker 5 (22:47):
This in two weeks, he says, I know it's coming
up soon.
Speaker 1 (22:51):
That's a that's a record.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
That's a that's a world record for rush.
Speaker 5 (22:56):
And so divorces happened in the first ten years is.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
Actually yeah, because like Savannah will only get we were
just taking we were married but together for seven years.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
So this is this is the bonus relationship. Other than
Bo wrote you picked a good one.
Speaker 5 (23:10):
I mean Bo is a lifetime partner.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
So that's yeah, he's my lifetime partner.
Speaker 5 (23:15):
But yes, so you know.
Speaker 6 (23:17):
And then almost ninety percent divorces happened in the first
twenty five years. So if you make it past twenty five,
you got like pretty good statistical O're.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
Good to go.
Speaker 6 (23:28):
Yeah, these are divorced facts. This is all done by
Pew Research based off some census data.
Speaker 5 (23:36):
Uh, divorced adults.
Speaker 6 (23:39):
This is one that Russ probably feels, uh divorced. Yeah facts,
I got it fast. I think this is one that
Russ probably has experienced before. This is that divorced adults
have lower household incomes and less wealth than married couples.
And that one's it's hardly still, it's hardly science. You
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have to give half your assets and your money to
your spouse.
Speaker 3 (24:05):
Yeah, split it in half. Four times happen, So I
always end up making more money back.
Speaker 1 (24:13):
But if I were to, if I'd have had all
the money I had.
Speaker 4 (24:17):
If he had kept all of it, he wouldn't all
have a boat. Well, no, he wouldn't be living in
Paul count I would I win a park?
Speaker 1 (24:27):
Oh? Well, you know what, everything worked out for the reason,
right reason.
Speaker 6 (24:30):
And this is another one that Russ maybe has experienced. Uh,
sixty eight percent of Americans who have been divorced go
on to remarry. So I'm at seventy percent of Americans.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
Why because we believe in love. I believe in love too,
you know.
Speaker 4 (24:46):
Uh.
Speaker 6 (24:46):
So I was having a conversation with a client, a
different client than when we're talking about earlier. There are
some people that are meant to be alone, right, and
then for whatever reason, they pair up with somebody, to
have a child with somebody.
Speaker 5 (24:57):
They think, let's go make this thing work.
Speaker 1 (24:59):
Right.
Speaker 6 (24:59):
There are other people that are meant to be in relationships,
and I'm a I'm a person who's meant to be
in a relationship. Yeah, single version of Ray is just
looking for somebody to pair up with.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
Yeah, as soon as I'm single, Yeah, the day after
I'm looking.
Speaker 6 (25:13):
I'm right right, it would take me some time. It
would take me some time after my wife because I
love my wife dearly. If she left me, I'd be
very traumatic, traumatized.
Speaker 5 (25:21):
Yeah. But uh yeah, but single Ray all he wants
to do is pair out.
Speaker 3 (25:26):
Uh.
Speaker 6 (25:27):
And So I think that there's some people that that
realized that about themselves. And I think it's probably the
majority of people that they need to be with somebody else.
Speaker 5 (25:35):
They're they're better version of themselves when there's somebody else. Correct,
And I'm one of those people.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
And then.
Speaker 3 (25:44):
Hold on, speak on this angel. Why you say we're
loons because you're one of You're okay being alone?
Speaker 1 (25:50):
Yes, yeah, I'm not.
Speaker 5 (25:53):
I'm not either. Yeah, I'm a crazy person single.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Yeah, I'm not kidding.
Speaker 5 (25:57):
What I've learned.
Speaker 4 (25:59):
What I've learned and what i'm learning is that sometimes
that if you rush into things, then you uh and
don't have time to self reflect and don't have time
or be open to learning or whatnot, that you're susceptible
to making exactly the same mistakes that you made.
Speaker 6 (26:15):
But think about it this way. I'm just I'm just
throwing it out there. If you keep dating the same
type of girl over and over again, and they keep
saying you're this kind of person, eventually you'll hear it. Eventually,
if you do that enough, you'll be like, hell, yeah, you'retionship.
Speaker 4 (26:31):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying. The sooner that you come
to terms with the fact that you're the problem, that
it's on you, the better that you are, because then
you could be like this guy divorced four times and
he's living.
Speaker 5 (26:40):
In Pole County.
Speaker 1 (26:40):
Well, but he's happily married. Happily married, and all right,
that's off.
Speaker 4 (26:45):
The heels of you just saying, had you learned earlier,
you would be living in Orange County.
Speaker 3 (26:49):
But listen, it doesn't always have to be your fault,
but it could be sure two times it was your fault,
two times it was their fault.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
That possibility what I'm doing.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
Doctor Rivera makes a very excellent point.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
Doctor Rovera, thank you. Remember has never been married?
Speaker 4 (27:05):
No, I have not, and then and again the reason being.
Speaker 3 (27:12):
No because Ryan Holmes needs Christina and he's true. Oh
my god, can you imagine Ryan Holmes without Christina?
Speaker 5 (27:18):
Can you imagine being Germany injured? Without Christina?
Speaker 1 (27:21):
He'd be in the gutter somewhere, he would be he
wouldn't know how to put his pants on, like he
can't do anything without.
Speaker 5 (27:26):
That's fair.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
Some people are very co dependent. I think I'm more
of a very hyper independent person.
Speaker 4 (27:31):
However, I mean hyper slash independent or like hyper independent
together with a hyphen or.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
The hype hyper independent.
Speaker 1 (27:42):
I'm trying to figure.
Speaker 4 (27:43):
Out, are you saying you're an independent superie.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
It's one word.
Speaker 3 (27:48):
Okay, So you think you're super independent and you don't
need your boyfriend.
Speaker 5 (27:54):
I don't believe that. That's not true. I don't believe
that for a second. We've got conversation.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
I don't know that first I got you there. Huh
careful no, I uh huh. That's what I heard.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
I can survive on my own, and I was before
I met him.
Speaker 4 (28:11):
I am. That's not what the question.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
More loved than happier in a relationship. However, but if
you're super hippy, crazy person single and now I'm not
as crazy, you're.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
Not as crazy.
Speaker 2 (28:24):
This is not as crazy need him?
Speaker 1 (28:26):
Okay, boy, we had just backpedal. We just we just
moon walked backwards.
Speaker 5 (28:31):
Did but you guys all missed the party.
Speaker 6 (28:34):
This is the less crazy I want to see crazy.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
Do you guys remember me? I was out there, man,
she was out there like a stray cat, like a
rabid feline.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
She was crazy at one point. Friendly t K. Thank you, Ray.
Speaker 5 (28:51):
I appreciate you, guys.
Speaker 3 (28:52):
So what do I call you this week? As the
Dolphins play the Falcons?
Speaker 5 (28:56):
You can I'll be watching something else.
Speaker 3 (29:00):
Good, All right, don't go anywhere you're listening to the
Manster in the morning.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
It's
It's National Nut Day. In case you wonder what you know,
It's National nut Day.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
That's perfect. We're all a bunch of crazy nuts.
Speaker 3 (00:08):
Ambernova here today. Coming up a little bit later on
Ambernova's gonna bring her conspiracy theories.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Angel here.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Ryan is out getting accepting an award for us from
Crime Line. Uh when when he gets in a room
full of police officer he wants to grab their guns,
which is void.
Speaker 4 (00:26):
Just happens weird call the void intrusive thoughts.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Ross. It all happens to all of us, and that
happened to me.
Speaker 4 (00:32):
I never thought you're a walking example of intrusive thoughts.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
But I don't think about grabbing guns.
Speaker 4 (00:37):
Well that's one example. There's plenty of They're all kinds
of intrusive thoughts.
Speaker 3 (00:41):
I do think of, like like like a high building
or something like what would it be like to jump over?
Speaker 1 (00:46):
That freaks me out?
Speaker 5 (00:47):
Oh no, that is you should have.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Friendly Ray Trentley here with us from TKL.
Speaker 4 (00:54):
How you doing, Ray, I'm doing well.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
I did text you on Sunday, Yeah, because it was
your Miami Dolphins and I'm calling yours.
Speaker 6 (01:02):
I don't know what you're talking about. I was rooting
for the Bucks this past weekend. So you see how
that worked out for the Bucks.
Speaker 5 (01:09):
Unfortunate exactly.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Look look what you did see you yeah jinks them
let me talk. Are you willing to accept that that
you Okay, see see he understands the sports thinks.
Speaker 6 (01:19):
But you know what, I'm willing to risk tanking the
entire Bucks season because boks are the Dolphins, another Bucks
season because I don't want to watch the Dolphins game.
Speaker 4 (01:30):
Yeah, watch something And.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
I said this.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
The other people just love to argue, just to argue,
and you'll understand what I'm saying right Okay, As of
right now, for the players that are walking out on
the field right now, I believe that the Miami Dolphins
are the worst team in the NFL.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
And I know people are, well, they've won a game.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Yeah, they won a game back when they had a
Tyreek Hill playing for that.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
And they were better than they are the worst team now.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
They they can't they can't get a snap, they can't
interceptions like they everything is its discombobulated. As of right now,
they are the I know the record doesn't show it,
but they're they're they're terrible.
Speaker 4 (02:08):
It's a really weird.
Speaker 5 (02:10):
Didn't even you're playing weird professional football.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Right now, I'm just saying they're not playing professional football
but the worst team and they we should win when
it comes to the worst team category.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
I think we should also throw into the fat something
like they've been featured in movies ace Ventura. They have
a really great mascot.
Speaker 5 (02:27):
So that undefeated forty years ago?
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Not much.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Yeah, you've watched the Dolphins longer than I have. Have
you seen them ever be worse than they were on Sunday?
Speaker 4 (02:39):
It's the season where they win.
Speaker 5 (02:41):
They won one game against the Ravens.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
No, there's one season and they're the one of the
teams that didn't win any games in the season.
Speaker 6 (02:47):
I know they ended up beating the Ravens the last
game of the season. Yeah, and you know that that
got We got Jake Long in that draft because we
had the first overall pick. And I remember that season
because I was like, you're ruined it because you know,
we want to damn field goal. I mean, like the
whole team is Listen. I think they've given up on
the season. I think everybody has accepted that we're going
(03:09):
to have a new head coach and new GM next year. Uh,
you know, I just wanted to go one.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
What would you do if they don't fire the head
coach or the GM.
Speaker 5 (03:18):
I'm already ready to burn the whole stadium to the ground.
Speaker 4 (03:21):
So, uh, that might send me over. You're talking about, Yeah,
have you seen there? Have you seen that rumor that
the reason they haven't pulled the trigger the lawsuit that
they're in.
Speaker 6 (03:31):
Yes, that's the one with Brian Flora as the former coach,
and you know, and it's.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
I mean, it's gaining that particular lawsuit is actually gaining traction,
and it looks like Flores is going to win. Flores
was the coach that they had before. He did not
like to and so he was fired and he sued
the team for racial discrimination. And it looks like it
looks like it's going his way right now as the
(03:58):
so far as the lawsuit is gone. And so that's
why the people are claiming or or sitating. Again, this
is all conjecture. This is just all you know, rumors,
conspiracy theories on the internet that that's why they haven't
fired the head coach or the GM. The GM should
have gone a decade ago.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Was sitting here with the bo law the other day
and we were arguing that which team is worse, the
Tennessee Titans or the there.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Might be Dolphins, and it's a it's a close.
Speaker 6 (04:24):
So I'll tell you what the problem with the Titans is. One,
they've got a younger team. Their offensive line is garbage.
They've got a direction though, but but you know what,
they make exciting plays. You know what I'm gonna We
can't have wide receivers run the proper route. So I've
got no I've got no hope for the office this season.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
If they're younger, I agree with you. If they're younger,
they don't have children, maybe they're not fighting as hard.
But if you have, Yeah, if you have your own
kids there and you think they'd be working a little
harder to not embarrass yourself in front of your kids.
Speaker 5 (04:54):
That's true. Ye embarrassed in the kids.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
That makes a little sense.
Speaker 6 (04:58):
And especially two has kid and he's picks every play.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
So here's what they talked me into. They said this Sunday,
maybe Friday or Sunday. They want me to because I
have not put on dolphin gear pretty much all year
because I'm embarrassed by him there. But they're saying and
order the Jinx thing to go full on dolphin gear
on Sunday, trying.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
To get the monkey off his back.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Right.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
So for the.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Last alleged the alleged we a jinks.
Speaker 4 (05:25):
We have about ten years of documented sports dnks with
this guy because of the way he's willy nilly with
his fandom. He's ruined the seasons for particular players. He's
ruined like literally in this wheeling clerk. I mean this week,
this week alone, he ruined the Mariners. He ruined the
Tampa Bay Bucks. That happened in one day.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
I wore a lion's hat and the lion Why do
you keep doing that?
Speaker 1 (05:49):
You were truth the day before.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
You were on the air, and you were openly saying
that the only reason you were wearing.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
That whisper did I told you to you didn't?
Speaker 4 (05:56):
You said it out loud. People are grabbing the audio
whispered they sent it to me.
Speaker 5 (06:00):
I haven't because of the gift. I mean that's what
I think.
Speaker 4 (06:04):
Anyway, So his so again, and I was warning him
even then. I was like, Hey, I think you're trying
to be a little too slick with this. This is
not how sports. He upset the sports gods, right and
so and he didn't understand the concept of the sports gods,
and Ryan and I tried to explain it to him.
And so what I was proposing was, Hey, listen, let's
not ruin any other teams. Let's not ruin it. Let's
double down on the on the Dolphins. And even if
(06:26):
it's just a win, even if it's a moral victory. Right,
you rock all your Dolphins gear on Friday or Friday
Thirs or whatever, and you double down and like commit
that you're fandom that this is the team that you
want to win this weekend hard.
Speaker 6 (06:41):
But Angel, on any given season, I normally agree with
you at this point, wear whatever you want to wear, man,
bigger fan. Here's the problem. You want to see them win.
I want to see them with the draft pick lose.
Speaker 5 (06:57):
See, I'm not interested they locked up your I'm.
Speaker 6 (07:00):
Not interested in getting the seventh overall draft pick so
I can draft two attack a Viola instead of Joe Burrow,
because you know what, that year we had a shot
for that first overall pick.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Yeah, we hold on a second.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
When you're talking about that, Okay, we're talking about the
front office, and your guys' front office is not showing
any resemblance of what the hell they know they're doing.
Speaker 6 (07:20):
I miss on that pick. You can't miss on that pick.
So I don't know. Listen, I'm just trying to help.
Speaker 4 (07:26):
Okay, you have a compelling argument, and I understand what
you're saying, right, But I'm just trying to help Russ
out because again there's a ton of listeners. The Yankee fans.
They were pissed off at him because he ruined the
Yankees playoff run. Every time he's gone again being willy
nilly with his fandom, he ends up ruining that fan
bases of hopes and dreams. So I'm trying to just
(07:47):
get that get that monkey.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
In the first segment, you don't believe in ghosts, but
you believe in it.
Speaker 4 (07:54):
Wait that's no, no, no, no, that's not okay. You
know me, and you know what. I believe it, and
you know that I don't fell my nose at it.
I didn't understand what you were doing in the first
segment with trying to connect a show from twenty years
ago that Ace freely did as to that the reason
that's why he died, That a ghost pushed them down.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
No, I just I just listen, Ray this is true.
I just found that you were about I know.
Speaker 5 (08:21):
So that's not who you are in your corner us.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
That's not the is He's freely fell down the stairs, right,
that's how he died. And then I found this old
this is from twelve years ago where he believes that
and they and then send this little documentary thing that
his daughter and his wife both believed that they were
pushed down the stairs by a ghost.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
Right now, what what are stairwell? Yeah, what are the odds?
Speaker 6 (08:46):
Maybe the stairs are just not even.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Ghosts?
Speaker 5 (08:54):
That that anti ghost.
Speaker 6 (08:55):
I just think that usually the simplest solution is probably
the right one.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Well whatever, I'm just saying it could happen.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
You know, Uh, they didn't feel like they slipped, they felt.
Speaker 6 (09:07):
Is that how like how like Amber got like mysteriously
pinned by a ghost and that's how she lost her title?
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Again? Is that?
Speaker 5 (09:14):
Is that what happened?
Speaker 6 (09:15):
You know?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I wasn't pinned.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
To sleep. It was probably the sleep sleeper hole. Yeah, Hey,
how is your diet going treadly good?
Speaker 6 (09:23):
I'm four point six pounds away from where I want
to get to from like my weight loss goal, and
then I'm gonna stay on the diet, but increase the
calories and try to gain some muscles before the end
of the year.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
So okay, are you are you still obsessed by it?
Speaker 6 (09:39):
You're oh, yeah, absolutely, yeah, yeaheah, like I'm every single week,
I'm on there tracking it.
Speaker 5 (09:44):
If I feel like I'm getting stagnant.
Speaker 4 (09:47):
Uh do you have do you afford yourself or is
there in what you're doing and everything? Is there a
cheat meal or there's nothing? No, you're not eating You're
totally eating for sustenance. You're not eating for pleasure or
enjoyment at all.
Speaker 5 (10:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (10:03):
I've got a pretty strict diet and I need to
get a little bit of fiber in me and a
little bit of protein.
Speaker 5 (10:08):
I mean not a little bit.
Speaker 6 (10:09):
It was mostly all protein and a little bit of
healthy fat, trying to survive on healthy fats. And uh yeah, no,
I'm loving it and I'm excited and I feel great.
This is actually the weight I was when I got
married fourteen years ago, and so I feel great. I'm
gonna lose a little bit more weight and then, like
I said, I'm gonna add the muscle on the frame.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
And now how's the rest of the family. Do they
feel like you're any fun anymore?
Speaker 5 (10:31):
Absolutely think I'm no fun.
Speaker 4 (10:33):
Are you hanging out on one wing of the house
all by yourself?
Speaker 6 (10:36):
Well I had to say this way, but fortunately all
my kids were sick this past weekend and so like
none of them wanted to eat either. And I was like,
it was a good weekend, but the weekend before, everybody
wanted like popcorn and candy. They wanted to do like
a movie night, some Popeyes, and I'm like, how about
we eat some celery you guys.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Yeah, you could do a veggie. Platters do not like veggies.
Speaker 5 (11:01):
They used to like veggies.
Speaker 6 (11:02):
They used to eat a few things, but now it's
like if it's not green beans, they don't eat it.
Speaker 5 (11:07):
They're terrible children.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
They like green beans. That's their favorite veggie.
Speaker 5 (11:10):
That's their only veggie.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
It's not even the good ones.
Speaker 5 (11:13):
They dip it in ranch. You know, you dip anything
in ranch. It tastes pretty good.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Yeah, it's smart what you're doing. You're doing it before
the holidays, and I think that's what a lot of
people don't do, Like get it right before the holidays.
So that way, when you have Thanksgiving, you can enjoy
a nice giant meal of stuffing and stuff and then
go back to the diet.
Speaker 6 (11:28):
I don't know if I'll have a giant meal of stuffing.
I think I'm going to give my stuff like up
to one hundred grams of carbs through maybe Christmas a day,
and then we'll see how my body makes in.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
But how many mashed potatoes can eat with that?
Speaker 5 (11:44):
It'll probably be about two spoonfuls.
Speaker 4 (11:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (11:48):
But here's the thing, right, So like I'm starting to
get the angle V back on my abs, I'm starting
to get some definition.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
So are you including a workout regiment with us or
are you just strictly dieting.
Speaker 6 (11:59):
Yeah, so it's not a it's mostly body weight pio
stuff because I hit it too.
Speaker 5 (12:05):
Hard early on and I was just drained.
Speaker 6 (12:08):
But yeah, I'm doing some exercise. It's just not what
I should I mean, but some of.
Speaker 4 (12:13):
The body weight stuff is if you got the right
of exercise and stuff, some of that stuff is just
as good as going to the gym.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
By the way, Ray trently Is as a divorce attorney,
had just got a text from a listener and says,
tell Ray, I said, thank you, he handled my divorce
settlement on Friday. Got me the best case scenario that
which is very nice.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Of this prob.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
I won't say their name because I don't if they want
me to say their name on the radio. But but
best case scenario, like that's a that's what when you're
going through divorce. It's really all about like your expectation, right,
Sometimes people expect too much. They are not realistic, not realistic, right,
that is that one of the biggest problems with the divorce.
Speaker 6 (12:50):
Uh, privately, I don't want to say this too loud
on the air. If I could have metaphorically beat the
other side over the head, uh, we could have settled
this case seven eight months ago.
Speaker 5 (13:02):
Oh really, but it took some It took some legal maneuvering.
We had a trial. I mean, we started a trial.
Speaker 6 (13:10):
I did all my examination of the other side, and
after that, amazingly they got reasonable.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
That's quite unusual, isn't it. For I've been divorced any
times had a trial.
Speaker 5 (13:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (13:23):
So statistically ten to fifteen percent of cases go to trial.
Speaker 5 (13:29):
So it is a small proportion of the cases that
end up in trial.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
And what do they what are they discussed everything you
were like with with a jury and everything.
Speaker 6 (13:39):
So this not a jury trial, no jury, the judge,
just with the judge. And when you have good clients,
it makes the whole thing a lot easier. But I mean, basically,
this is an offer that we made to them February
of last of this past year, and you know, basically
we separated for lunch. The turn he came to me
(14:00):
and said, hey, you are to settlement, and I was like,
I'm opening anything.
Speaker 5 (14:04):
Like I'm a friendly guy.
Speaker 6 (14:05):
You tell me what you got friendly, uh, and uh,
you know, we were able to work something out. And
actually he's on my to do list a call today,
so I'm glad to hear that.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
Well, I know that, uh, we've got you've got some
divorce facts and that's a divorce facts. So but those
of you are thinking about divorce right for the holidays.
Speaker 5 (14:23):
Well it's not just thinking about divorce.
Speaker 6 (14:26):
Maybe it's also maybe you're thinking that you don't want
a divorce and you want to get some information.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
Okay, very good, So we'll do that when we come
back with friendly Ray Trentley. By the way, any kind
of family law. We talk about divorce a lot, but
you do other things other than divorce.
Speaker 6 (14:39):
We do adoptions, paternity, divorce, we do a little bit
of everything.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
One firm forlife dot Com.
Speaker 3 (14:44):
There you go. It's a Ray Tranley. We'll talk with
him about that when we come back. Don't go anywhere.
You're listening to the manses of the morning Angel. How
do we have a discussion with Amber about offending some
of our our nicest clients.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
Amber looks at Ray.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
It says, yeah, are you sick or something?
Speaker 6 (15:04):
At first, she said are you fasting right now? And
I said yeah, why, She's like, are you sick? I
said no. She's like, maybe you're tired. It's like, I mean,
I go to bed at the same time I normally
go to bed when I'm in the middle of trial periods.
And she's like, you just seem a little agitated today.
(15:25):
I'm feeling some energy.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
What are you doing. I'm sitting there listening to offend
the man.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
I got a thick skin, friendly right. I can just
tell when a case gets like, well, he gets like
he's it's go time. It's vicious. It is go time
when it comes.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
To case you want to look bad your room.
Speaker 5 (15:45):
Ray is different from regular Ray. I will say that.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
He's a little a little tired man.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
What are you doing right now?
Speaker 4 (15:52):
So is that your your version of small talk? Most
people will be like, hey, that's a sharp suit. You
don't tell about many that's it?
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Look right?
Speaker 4 (15:59):
You run down what's.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Wrong with it?
Speaker 5 (16:02):
Like this, She's not completely wrong. So I had a
trial last week.
Speaker 6 (16:06):
I've got a pre trail that starts on November fourth
and for a week long jury trial. And so I'm
cranky all out now because i have to be fresh.
You know, a week long jury trial's a marathon, right,
So I have to be fresh then. So I'm cranking
out all the work I need to crank out. I'm
just I was at the Alfus till one or two
o'clock this morning.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
You had you always sent me like they, hey, these
things we could talk about or whatever. And one of
the things was the eight divorce facts. I didn't even
look at them because I was curious if I would
already know these since I've I've had my share, I'm
curious of what your eight divorce facts are.
Speaker 5 (16:37):
So I'll tell you what it was.
Speaker 6 (16:40):
My favorite one. I'll skip right down to the fifth
divorce fact.
Speaker 1 (16:43):
Oh, all the way to five, okay.
Speaker 6 (16:44):
That is that divorced men are less likely to be
employed than married men.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
Right, So the.
Speaker 3 (16:51):
Divorced men are less likely to be employed than married men.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
So if they're divorced, why is that.
Speaker 6 (16:57):
I an average of five to fifteen percent age group.
I imagine it's because if you're getting if women are
leaving their husbands, maybe it's because they're not working, they're
not supporting the family, they're not doing their job to contribute,
and statistically the reverse was opposite. Divorced women are more
likely to be gainfully employed than married women.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
But what if their man left them? And what if
he left the wife? Look, you said, well if his
wife left him, well what if he left her?
Speaker 6 (17:26):
I guess he could leave her. But if he's not working,
how is he paying his bills? So he would have
to have somebody else then pay his bills.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
So in a divorce, have you found that men get
more emotionally upset where they can't work or whatever, or
women get more emotionally upset.
Speaker 5 (17:42):
See, I don't look at it as a gender thing.
Speaker 3 (17:44):
No.
Speaker 6 (17:44):
I will tell you no matter what the gender of
my client is, when I tell them that they have
to pay the other side alimony, and the other side
is a stay at home mom or stay at home
dad or maybe they're just CouchSurfing and playing video games.
Nobody wants to pay alimony, no, and and so let's
understand it's the same frustration regardless of gender, right, It's
(18:06):
it's this idea that you're supposed to be on a
team together, and a team mutually contributes towards the team's goals,
and when one person is doing an unequal share of
the work, there's resentment. And so, you know, I find
that it's not really a gender thing, so much of
it is like a role thing.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
But I thought that was an interesting theory example that
was men and men are one way and women or another.
Speaker 6 (18:29):
Right, yeah, yeah, yeah, And that's again I think it
makes sense. Right, if the man's working, right, and the
wife is staying at home, maybe she's not. Maybe she's
not doing homemaking duties the way they initially thought they
were going to be doing them, their resentment grows, and
that leads to divorce and then the advice versas. You know,
if the women's working and the husband's not working and
(18:52):
he's unemployed and he's kind of doing the same thing
seeing on the couch playing video games, I don't know,
that's just what I picture.
Speaker 5 (18:56):
Ryan doing.
Speaker 6 (18:59):
The wife walks, and it's like, listen, I can find
somebody else who's going to be a partner, who's going
to contribute to the finances, who's going to help us
build this future. And so so that was that was
one of the divorce facts I really, I really thought.
We talked about this other one last week, which is
the divorce rates have been going down since nineteen eighty.
But somebody sent me a message and it kind of
(19:22):
led me to these facts. But there's one group of
divorces that's going up.
Speaker 5 (19:29):
Can you guess? I'll give you the answer in a way.
It's an age range.
Speaker 6 (19:33):
Can you guess what age range of divorces is actually
statistically going up?
Speaker 1 (19:37):
I probably peep older folks, people over fifty.
Speaker 5 (19:41):
You nailed it.
Speaker 6 (19:42):
Yeah, So we called that gray divorce and it's divorces
are over fifty statistically. They've been on the rise since
nineteen ninety and it's been every every decade since then.
Speaker 5 (19:53):
The CENTSUS Bureau has been tracking in do.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
They have theories?
Speaker 2 (19:56):
Why?
Speaker 1 (19:56):
Because I got a theory? Why if you don't.
Speaker 5 (19:58):
I've got a couple theories.
Speaker 6 (20:00):
I think One, people are living longer, and so part
of it is like, do I want to spend my
last ten years with you know, this bump on a.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
Log Like I got about ten to fifteen years left.
Speaker 3 (20:11):
I am not arguing with this much for you know,
like like I can see that happening.
Speaker 5 (20:14):
And we saw it a lot during COVID.
Speaker 6 (20:16):
They almost that exact dynamic right where people are are
locked in the same house together. Yeah, they're not traveling,
They're not able to go visit their family and their friends,
and you know, you know, something political comes on TV
and one says I'm all Trump and then one says
I'm all Biden, and.
Speaker 5 (20:31):
It's like, we don't get along so much, we got
to separate.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
So politics. Have you found that a lot with divorce
of politics being a thing.
Speaker 5 (20:39):
Especially with older clients.
Speaker 6 (20:40):
Yeah, yeah, it becomes almost an identity and so in
some way some people feel about like having children and
not having children, people feel that about politics.
Speaker 4 (20:50):
Now, Yeah, that's one of those things that that particular
issue saw a good friend make a post about how
they had lost like that that particular time. Yeah, not
only is it causing divorces, but it's also breaking up
you know, friendships of years and years and years, and
that's what we here in America. I've never I don't,
I'll put it this way. In my lifetime, I've never
(21:11):
seen that until now neither.
Speaker 3 (21:13):
Yeah, And I've had to work through that to be
honest with you, because at first I felt like, you know,
and I've had to realize listen, I know a lot
of people that that look at politics differently than I do.
And I still love these people, and I'm not gonna
let it cloud my judgment of them anymore like I
did it for a little while. I mean, and if
I'm being honest, there were time I'm like, oh, you're
that side youre's something wrong with you.
Speaker 1 (21:34):
I don't do that anymore.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
I'm like, listen, it's everyone has different views and and
and and you're just gonna cut out too many people
in your life if you if you cut out everyone
who doesn't The part that takes the same way.
Speaker 4 (21:47):
I agree with you. The part that makes it more difficult, though,
is that if that becomes let's say they've been your
friend forever and then this idea of politics becomes their identity.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
I agree, there's somebody.
Speaker 3 (21:59):
That I know that they're politics has become their identity,
and they agree with me and I can't stand I'm
talking to her like she's on like the side I
think too much.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
Man, it doesn't matter what side it is.
Speaker 3 (22:10):
When if they're beating Trump all day, that's all they
want to talk about like that, I don't want.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
To talk about that.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
Yeah, obsessively. It's just it's not healthy.
Speaker 6 (22:19):
Yeah, yeah, and again it's not it's not who you are.
It's not like who you vote for is going to
materially change who you are as a person. Right, And
I think a lot of people think that the politicians
care about them, and they don't. Yeah, here's another one
for four and ten divorces. Forty percent of divorces happen
(22:41):
within the first ten years of marriage. So you're almost
out of the woods here.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
Yeah, there'll be eight years.
Speaker 5 (22:47):
This in two weeks, he says, I know it's coming
up soon.
Speaker 1 (22:51):
That's a that's a record.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
That's a that's a world record for rush.
Speaker 5 (22:56):
And so divorces happened in the first ten years is.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
Actually yeah, because like Savannah will only get we were
just taking we were married but together for seven years.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
So this is this is the bonus relationship. Other than
Bo wrote you picked a good one.
Speaker 5 (23:10):
I mean Bo is a lifetime partner.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
So that's yeah, he's my lifetime partner.
Speaker 5 (23:15):
But yes, so you know.
Speaker 6 (23:17):
And then almost ninety percent divorces happened in the first
twenty five years. So if you make it past twenty five,
you got like pretty good statistical O're.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
Good to go.
Speaker 6 (23:28):
Yeah, these are divorced facts. This is all done by
Pew Research based off some census data.
Speaker 5 (23:36):
Uh, divorced adults.
Speaker 6 (23:39):
This is one that Russ probably feels, uh divorced. Yeah facts,
I got it fast. I think this is one that
Russ probably has experienced before. This is that divorced adults
have lower household incomes and less wealth than married couples.
And that one's it's hardly still, it's hardly science. You
(24:02):
have to give half your assets and your money to
your spouse.
Speaker 3 (24:05):
Yeah, split it in half. Four times happen, So I
always end up making more money back.
Speaker 1 (24:13):
But if I were to, if I'd have had all
the money I had.
Speaker 4 (24:17):
If he had kept all of it, he wouldn't all
have a boat. Well, no, he wouldn't be living in
Paul count I would I win a park?
Speaker 1 (24:27):
Oh? Well, you know what, everything worked out for the reason,
right reason.
Speaker 6 (24:30):
And this is another one that Russ maybe has experienced. Uh,
sixty eight percent of Americans who have been divorced go
on to remarry. So I'm at seventy percent of Americans.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
Why because we believe in love. I believe in love too,
you know.
Speaker 4 (24:46):
Uh.
Speaker 6 (24:46):
So I was having a conversation with a client, a
different client than when we're talking about earlier. There are
some people that are meant to be alone, right, and
then for whatever reason, they pair up with somebody, to
have a child with somebody.
Speaker 5 (24:57):
They think, let's go make this thing work.
Speaker 1 (24:59):
Right.
Speaker 6 (24:59):
There are other people that are meant to be in relationships,
and I'm a I'm a person who's meant to be
in a relationship. Yeah, single version of Ray is just
looking for somebody to pair up with.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
Yeah, as soon as I'm single, Yeah, the day after
I'm looking.
Speaker 6 (25:13):
I'm right right, it would take me some time. It
would take me some time after my wife because I
love my wife dearly. If she left me, I'd be
very traumatic, traumatized.
Speaker 5 (25:21):
Yeah. But uh yeah, but single Ray all he wants
to do is pair out.
Speaker 3 (25:26):
Uh.
Speaker 6 (25:27):
And So I think that there's some people that that
realized that about themselves. And I think it's probably the
majority of people that they need to be with somebody else.
Speaker 5 (25:35):
They're they're better version of themselves when there's somebody else. Correct,
And I'm one of those people.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
And then.
Speaker 3 (25:44):
Hold on, speak on this angel. Why you say we're
loons because you're one of You're okay being alone?
Speaker 1 (25:50):
Yes, yeah, I'm not.
Speaker 5 (25:53):
I'm not either. Yeah, I'm a crazy person single.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Yeah, I'm not kidding.
Speaker 5 (25:57):
What I've learned.
Speaker 4 (25:59):
What I've learned and what i'm learning is that sometimes
that if you rush into things, then you uh and
don't have time to self reflect and don't have time
or be open to learning or whatnot, that you're susceptible
to making exactly the same mistakes that you made.
Speaker 6 (26:15):
But think about it this way. I'm just I'm just
throwing it out there. If you keep dating the same
type of girl over and over again, and they keep
saying you're this kind of person, eventually you'll hear it. Eventually,
if you do that enough, you'll be like, hell, yeah, you'retionship.
Speaker 4 (26:31):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying. The sooner that you come
to terms with the fact that you're the problem, that
it's on you, the better that you are, because then
you could be like this guy divorced four times and
he's living.
Speaker 5 (26:40):
In Pole County.
Speaker 1 (26:40):
Well, but he's happily married. Happily married, and all right,
that's off.
Speaker 4 (26:45):
The heels of you just saying, had you learned earlier,
you would be living in Orange County.
Speaker 3 (26:49):
But listen, it doesn't always have to be your fault,
but it could be sure two times it was your fault,
two times it was their fault.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
That possibility what I'm doing.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
Doctor Rivera makes a very excellent point.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
Doctor Rovera, thank you. Remember has never been married?
Speaker 4 (27:05):
No, I have not, and then and again the reason being.
Speaker 3 (27:12):
No because Ryan Holmes needs Christina and he's true. Oh
my god, can you imagine Ryan Holmes without Christina?
Speaker 5 (27:18):
Can you imagine being Germany injured? Without Christina?
Speaker 1 (27:21):
He'd be in the gutter somewhere, he would be he
wouldn't know how to put his pants on, like he
can't do anything without.
Speaker 5 (27:26):
That's fair.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
Some people are very co dependent. I think I'm more
of a very hyper independent person.
Speaker 4 (27:31):
However, I mean hyper slash independent or like hyper independent
together with a hyphen or.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
The hype hyper independent.
Speaker 1 (27:42):
I'm trying to figure.
Speaker 4 (27:43):
Out, are you saying you're an independent superie.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
It's one word.
Speaker 3 (27:48):
Okay, So you think you're super independent and you don't
need your boyfriend.
Speaker 5 (27:54):
I don't believe that. That's not true. I don't believe
that for a second. We've got conversation.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
I don't know that first I got you there. Huh
careful no, I uh huh. That's what I heard.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
I can survive on my own, and I was before
I met him.
Speaker 4 (28:11):
I am. That's not what the question.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
More loved than happier in a relationship. However, but if
you're super hippy, crazy person single and now I'm not
as crazy, you're.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
Not as crazy.
Speaker 2 (28:24):
This is not as crazy need him?
Speaker 1 (28:26):
Okay, boy, we had just backpedal. We just we just
moon walked backwards.
Speaker 5 (28:31):
Did but you guys all missed the party.
Speaker 6 (28:34):
This is the less crazy I want to see crazy.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
Do you guys remember me? I was out there, man,
she was out there like a stray cat, like a
rabid feline.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
She was crazy at one point. Friendly t K. Thank you, Ray.
Speaker 5 (28:51):
I appreciate you, guys.
Speaker 3 (28:52):
So what do I call you this week? As the
Dolphins play the Falcons?
Speaker 5 (28:56):
You can I'll be watching something else.
Speaker 3 (29:00):
Good, All right, don't go anywhere you're listening to the
Manster in the morning.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
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