October 29, 2025 • 28 mins
On the Monsters Attorney "Friendly" Ray Traendly of TK Law discusses some occupancy law and a trending video on some ways to avoid divorce.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back on RUSS with Angel and Ryan and Bernova
and Ray Tranley here today.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Ray, we're going to the super Bowl.
Speaker 3 (00:07):
You know what I feel it too.
Speaker 4 (00:09):
There are some teams in the AFC that are treating
all of your defensive players because they understand the dominance
that is happening in the AFC right now.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Yeah, it just takes one day.
Speaker 5 (00:20):
We just traded two for a six round draft pick.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Oh it sounds scared. That sounds like scared myne right there.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Ray, explain this to me.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
How is it that that Tua wakes up his eye
is swollen, he has to wear like goggles or whatever
advisor Advisor, and he throws no interceptions that day, and
then when his eyes are fine, those three interceptions each
game before.
Speaker 4 (00:43):
Have you heard the wildly unsubstantiated rumor as to how
he got the swollen eye.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
I have not heard. I was going to ask you
how he got it.
Speaker 4 (00:51):
So there was a there was a rumor that was
going around social media that he was at the club
the night before and some girl put her butt.
Speaker 6 (00:59):
In his face, and I was gonna get anything else.
Speaker 4 (01:03):
If I was going to say something that would motivate
me to throw three touchdowns in an NFL football game.
It might be that kind of evening. So I'm going
to just say I'm going to be at the game tomorrow.
Speaker 7 (01:14):
Again, like the attorney said, this was wildly unsubstatiated rumor allegedly.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
So you're going to the game, the game tomorrow, and
that's not usually bringing them luck or bad luck. If
if you go to the game, because you've done.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
This before, it's we've never won a game. I've been there.
Oh no, yeah, yeah, but you know what, that's okay,
that's okay.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
The Dolphins have never won when you've gone to see them, No,
how many times have you gone to see them, they're
like eight.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Oh yeah, that's not good.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
It's not good at all.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
But who is favored? I know you're mister gambleman over there,
mister gambled Ravens.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
It's the spread is a favor the Ravens because both
teams are not playing great well.
Speaker 7 (01:52):
The wholy reason it went up though, is Lamar has
been cleared and he's gonna play this game.
Speaker 4 (01:56):
Yeah yeah, in Lamar's from South Florida, so you know
he the ball out in front of hum clasps.
Speaker 7 (02:01):
So I'm hoping what I was telling Russ earlier is
that that hopefully that you know, Miami can jump on
him the rest of his team. It's not gonna affect Lamar,
but maybe it'll affect the rest of the team being
in Miami and hopefully, uh, you know a Lamar because
he hasn't played well. He's only played one two games
this season, so maybe he's a little rusty.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
You know.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
Well and h Z Flowers, you know, their stud wide receiver.
He's also from for Laro, so they got a bunch
of They got a bunch of home time contacts down there,
so I think you might be right.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
They might be having a good time.
Speaker 4 (02:31):
I know, I'm going to try to reach out to
two when I get down there and see if he
wants to go out to the club before the game. Sure, Uh,
you know, give him a couple of my ties and
get a good game going, so we'll see.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Good, good good good. Hey.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
I want to ask about this and see what you thought.
Have you seen this this woman that was knocked unconscious
by a duck riding a roller coaster at Sea World?
Speaker 4 (02:52):
No, but I've almost been knocked out by a fish
one time at Sea World.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Not SeaWorld.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Oh this is this is a sea World was riding
a roller coaster, questions, and she.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Is suing sea World. Now, so what do you think?
What do you think? What do you what do you
think her case is?
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Like she's riding the riding the roller coaster, gets hit
by a duck?
Speaker 2 (03:14):
What do you think her case is to the SeaWorld?
We do.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
Everybody knows you put nets around all these roller coasters
because the bird nets around nets underneath the roller coaster.
Things drop under people all underneath them, but they don't
have nets on top of them. Then you put nets
on top of them for these birds, she claims, seagulls
and birds.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
She claims that.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
They put the roller coaster too close to water, too
close to a lake where ducks are, and for that
reason she's suing sea World four.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Well, okay, you're an attorney. What do you think she
should sue Sea World.
Speaker 4 (03:44):
Four knocked unconscious, traumatic brain injury. I'm gonna go twenty
five mil.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Oh wow, it's only five hundred thousand or fifty thousand dollars.
Speaker 4 (03:51):
Fifty thousand is just the minimum jurisdictional amount. I bet
she wants our twenty five million dollars. If it's fifty grand,
they probably gives her to go away.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Oh, they just want to give it to her to
go away.
Speaker 4 (04:00):
Yeah, well fifty So fifty thousand dollars is the minimum
amount you have to put in your lawsuit in order
for it to go to circuit court. Uh so that's why,
that's why they allege that amount. But I bet the
number is astronomical, like.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
If you get hit by a doug or remember remember
who was that who was that model?
Speaker 2 (04:16):
They got hit in the face by a seagull.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
BOBBYO got hit in the face by It's sort of
just like an act of God.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
Right, Yeah, you took the words out of my mouth
r Us.
Speaker 5 (04:24):
Yeah, Ray got hit in the face with a fish.
There's an act of cod.
Speaker 6 (04:28):
Oh yeah, one good.
Speaker 7 (04:32):
I feel good about that, Ryan, I do you feel
good about her response to that?
Speaker 2 (04:36):
I do, very very funny.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
But uh yeah, definitely an act of God. I don't
see how house sea World would be liable. For one,
we're in Florida. There's water everywhere.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Yeah, so that means don't go to any theme parks
in water or in Florida because there's water.
Speaker 6 (04:54):
And it's SeaWorld they have wild animals.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
And how often do people do that though, where they
just sue because they know the company will just pay
them off to go away.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
Uh, there's probably a good segment of people that do
that fairly regular That's.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
A tactic, right, like we know we can sue these people,
they'll just pay us to go away.
Speaker 4 (05:11):
But that's also why when you've got good faith damages claims,
sometimes they don't give you what you are entitled to
because like, we're gonna just treat you like you're this
crazy person who sues us for everything.
Speaker 8 (05:23):
I was attacked by a bird and SeaWorld a true story.
It's like they're waiting for a really bad Oh no, no, no.
I was in the line to get into sea World.
They had these hanging plants, and I guess a crow
had made a nest in this hanging plant.
Speaker 5 (05:37):
Uh huh. And this is not gonna be a joke,
really not.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Joke. Not okay, So hanging plant.
Speaker 8 (05:47):
You're in line, yeah, and the hanging plants about like
about head height for me, so it's about six six right,
and then from standing there with the girl dating at
the time, and the bottom of the plant is my
head heights, So the top of would be at six six. Anyway,
the crow just starts attacking my head, like.
Speaker 5 (06:05):
It starts dive bombing my head.
Speaker 8 (06:07):
And I tell the lady at the ticket counter and
I'm like, hey, you got to like an angry crow
that like lives in your plants. And she's like, oh,
that's coral. He just does that. What She's like, yeah,
they's been doing that for a while. And I'm like, okay,
he didn't like you.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
He got he did. He tried to vibe check with you,
and he didn't like your I don't know.
Speaker 8 (06:25):
Crows are weird, man, Black crows, Yeah, great man, but
yeah man. So like I feel like SeaWorld at this
point being irresponsible with their birds.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Are you counting crows?
Speaker 6 (06:39):
Counting crows?
Speaker 2 (06:41):
No?
Speaker 8 (06:42):
But then I went back the next week because I
just have an annual pass for SeaWorld, And then they
did remove.
Speaker 5 (06:46):
The crow, So you are responsible for I feel bad.
Speaker 9 (06:52):
You know what happened A similar story happened to me.
You got too close to the nest and he protected
his nest.
Speaker 6 (06:57):
I got too close to.
Speaker 9 (06:58):
The shange in a white Siberian tie your pet on
me and I shouldn't have been so close to.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
Explained so much with you?
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Why why do you think the.
Speaker 5 (07:08):
Worst superhero origin story I've ever heard?
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Why did it urinate on you?
Speaker 6 (07:12):
Do you think, Oh, I think it liked me?
Speaker 9 (07:14):
So it was a male It back, it's booty right
up to the cage out of nowhere when I have
my head turned grade me with cat pee, white Siberian tigers.
Speaker 5 (07:23):
That's what that smell is.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
Use urine, urine.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
We're using a technical term.
Speaker 4 (07:28):
So I've got a question. Did you try to lick
the cat? What happened that made the cat?
Speaker 6 (07:32):
You know, maybe I.
Speaker 9 (07:33):
Smell like perfume or feminine, so the male cat sprayed
me to say he liked me.
Speaker 4 (07:38):
Okay, okay, stay away from those cats.
Speaker 5 (07:43):
So I think you got everybody.
Speaker 9 (07:45):
You got too close to the crow's nest and the
crow pecked at you.
Speaker 5 (07:49):
Yeah, that's exactly the same story.
Speaker 6 (07:51):
It is, and it's your fault.
Speaker 8 (07:52):
I will never look at you again without thinking the
tiger peede on you, Like, that's very fun.
Speaker 9 (07:57):
From me. I smell like cat py the whole cat
urine a whole ride home, and then my sisters were
mad at me.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
How old were you last week? Yeah?
Speaker 5 (08:07):
It sounds like a story that happened recently.
Speaker 6 (08:09):
It sounds like twenty last week.
Speaker 5 (08:11):
I was like, twenty, how many animals have urinated on you?
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Do you think Amber?
Speaker 6 (08:18):
My other cat?
Speaker 9 (08:19):
My other cat and a house cat. But it was
sleeping in the bet meet. Oh, then it was a
kitten also sleeping in the bet me. You can't like
kittens sleep in.
Speaker 6 (08:27):
The bed with you because they will be Okay.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Let's stop talking about urine. Okay, question for you.
Speaker 5 (08:35):
It was so long you to think about it.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
I was this might have a legal angle to it.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
I don't know, but so I'm gonna ask this question
while you're here because and it's a listener that sent
me an email. Now it's a long email, and I
don't like long emails, but.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
I can break it down where I've learned that yeah
they're long.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
But a little too much information. But but I had
a basic thing like this happened to me, And the
basic question is how do you get how do you
get someone who's just a booty call to leave your
house if they have slowly moved into your house.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Now, I had this happened to me once.
Speaker 7 (09:11):
Oh, I.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
Had a girl that I met from Mako's and I
let her stay the night a couple night. Next thing
you know, she's moving her stuff in. Next thing you know,
she's there for three or four months, and next thing
you know, she said, well I live here now. And
it's like, well, you know, now I didn't get her
to move. My tactic was I'll just marry her.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Bad move.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
But what I did this guy has had the situation
where it was a girl who was just sleeping with
and then she didn't want to stay the night. Then
she starts staying the night. Now she's been there for
three months. He doesn't know how to get her to leave,
and she's like, well, I live here now. I don't
have anywhere else to go. Legally, I'll go to legal angle,
like what can you do if someone has slowly moved in,
(09:55):
moved their clothes in, move everything, because this really did happen,
can you do beer and Tiger?
Speaker 4 (10:02):
I was going to actually, you know, it's funny you
said I was going to suggest adopting cat that just
peas on people.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Get away from your attorney, man, I.
Speaker 3 (10:13):
Was just gonna lean into a little harder.
Speaker 4 (10:16):
So, I mean, there's no right to occupancy if you've
spent a couple of nights at somebody's house, and so
what if.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
It's a couple of nights, what if it's two months,
three months?
Speaker 3 (10:25):
Why you let him spend two months in the house.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
You've got a bit hard and it's kind of hot.
You know, this guy is.
Speaker 7 (10:33):
Looking for legal action in a place where he didn't
do what he needed to do.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
If it's his.
Speaker 7 (10:37):
Place, Yeah, no, I did not do You're right, I'm
not saying you know, I'm saying that I'm sending the email.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Well, this guy here is she's been here for three
three months now, she doesn't want to leave.
Speaker 4 (10:47):
I have some advice that changed her driver's license and everything,
but there's no legal right to occupancy. Change the locks,
create a box, stuff over stuff in the box, tell
us you can pick it up from the.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
Legally, you can just put her stuff on the She's.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
Got no right to occupy the house. You can't destroy
her stuff.
Speaker 4 (11:04):
You can't, you know, get what about squatter's rights. I mean, listen,
there's a new statute in place. If you want to
see somebody to remove a squad or you can do that.
There's expedite process and all kinds of things there. But
you know you're gonna spend a bunch of money doing that.
I would just think she gets the hit. And if
you move her out and change the lots.
Speaker 7 (11:23):
Everyone's sending texting in these gimmicks. Rus Ryan Russ Ryan Ray.
That's right, Ray, Yeah, does are any of these things true?
Because people feel like, well, if she's getting mail there,
then that means that she lives there.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
I hate when law enforcement will often say, oh are
you getting mail there?
Speaker 3 (11:39):
That that's not a legal right to occupancye. So the
mail thing is bogus. That's bogus.
Speaker 7 (11:43):
Okay, Let's say if you got one of the one
of the like like electric or phone, or one of
the services to the cable, and you have it in
your name, does that entitle you to occupancy.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
Less bogus because there's at least some evidence of an
agreement that you're contributing to the benches of the home.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
So change her lots and put her stuff on the curb.
That's what you just said, Amber. You did this before
the front area. I don't don't destroy it, uncle, I
thought I heard.
Speaker 9 (12:09):
You say you did it no shoes the one who
moved in, I said, my twenty seven, twenty eight year
old neighbor told me about this because he was.
Speaker 6 (12:16):
Complaining to me. One day.
Speaker 9 (12:17):
He was like, man, I hooked up with this girl
and she won't leave. It's like the weekend and come Monday,
I'm working and he works from home, right and she
won't leaves.
Speaker 6 (12:27):
He'll go out.
Speaker 9 (12:28):
She was like, you know what I did, so, like
I put my shoes on. It was like, hey, I'm
going to go work out. I'm gonna go for a run.
And this dude is jacked. He can run.
Speaker 6 (12:34):
And she's like, oh well, i'll come too, and he's like.
Speaker 9 (12:37):
If you can keep up, and he literally like runs
and then I get from back to the house again.
Speaker 6 (12:42):
Finally he's like I'm working, like are you gonna leave?
Like you can't?
Speaker 9 (12:46):
You got It's been like a couple of days over
the weekend, Like it's.
Speaker 4 (12:49):
The My strategy is terrible because she's gonna take a
shower afterwards and then she can come right back in
the house.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
That's a terrible shower.
Speaker 5 (12:54):
You run.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
I don't get it. I don't understand he made her run, trying.
Speaker 9 (12:57):
To make excuses like I'm going to go to the gym,
then I'm gonna I go for a run. I go
for like a two mile run, so you should probably
like head out and she's like, oh, I'll just run
with you. And then like he's.
Speaker 6 (13:06):
Literally not waiting for you.
Speaker 9 (13:08):
You should get the hint that you maybe you should leave, okay,
and like men just step up and just tell the lady, Hey,
I had a great time with you, but I have
I gotta.
Speaker 6 (13:17):
Go do some things on my own.
Speaker 4 (13:18):
Now.
Speaker 9 (13:19):
She's like, I gotta go see my family, I gotta
go run, I gotta go do things on my own.
Speaker 6 (13:24):
Straight up with her, it's time for you to leave.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
I would go to work and then I would come
home and like there were more stuff in the closet.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
I'm like, hmm, that's weird.
Speaker 3 (13:30):
Give you some throw pillows on your couch. I don't
recognize the next thing, you.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Know, like all of her stuff was in the closet.
Speaker 3 (13:36):
They call that nesting rats.
Speaker 5 (13:37):
Yeah what does so, Brian?
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Uh basically, uh, you heard it from Ray Trendley. It's
legal then to lock all the doors and to throw
her stuff outside.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
But she pointed, don't destroy it. Don't destroy and just
let her know she can come pick up her stuff.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
Uh.
Speaker 4 (13:54):
You know, if you've got like a little, uh little
front yard, four.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
You a area where it's.
Speaker 4 (13:59):
Covered, I'd be perfertable because we get rained sometimes in Florida.
Speaker 3 (14:02):
Yeah, something that's covered.
Speaker 5 (14:04):
But what if you call her again at three o'clock
in the morning and hit it. Does it really start
to climb?
Speaker 3 (14:10):
Yeah, that's part of the.
Speaker 5 (14:11):
Problem, right, what happens she's really hot.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
You give a mass a cookie, they're going to want
some milk, and.
Speaker 2 (14:17):
So I want you to move him.
Speaker 4 (14:19):
But just you know, strangely, I do agree with Amber.
You have to set some boundaries. I used to have
like a three night rule, like you're not gonna spend
three nights in a row at my place.
Speaker 6 (14:29):
Three nights, yeah, two nights, but three was like you
got to go home.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
That's right, and you set that expectation early on.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
So straight up, listen, there's a three night rule here.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
That's right.
Speaker 4 (14:38):
You can spend the first night, second night, maybe third night,
you're gone.
Speaker 7 (14:43):
I'll just tell him after the third night that your
wife is coming home. That's a good one.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Sounds like this before.
Speaker 3 (14:51):
That's from the texting. That's from the texting. I'm out
of cheer.
Speaker 8 (14:55):
Good god, it was weird that raised wife leaves every
three days for a joke there.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
All right, we take a little break. You got you
got some divorce, I got some divorce of stuff.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Talk about all right, So we'll talk about divorce with
Friendly ray Trentley.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
By the way, if if.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
You need any family all business done, my man Friendly
ray trainly tk low can help you. It's one firm
for life dot com. That's one firm forlife dot com.
You're listening to the mantras of the morning. So Ray
Friendly ray Trainley here today. And you found a I
guess it was like an X video that has over
a million.
Speaker 5 (15:31):
X videos.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
Yeah. Yeah, it's uh the young Lady Young Lady on
X videos.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
And it has over a million views.
Speaker 4 (15:39):
It's got like three and a half million on TikTok
three and a half and then like another million on
x okay.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
And it's talking about divorce.
Speaker 4 (15:47):
It's talking about the things you can do to avoid
a divorce. Lative ready to hear this.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
And I know that is there what she has.
Speaker 4 (15:57):
I know that we have a lot of listeners men
in with and I thought, well, maybe we could talk
about this because this is, you know, trending.
Speaker 1 (16:05):
All right, since it's trending, and let's see if this
lady knows what she's talking about.
Speaker 5 (16:08):
All right, angels, turning up the sound here in a second.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
But an Amber, you can tell us whether you think
she's she's right or not.
Speaker 5 (16:15):
All right, Amber's a famously famously married.
Speaker 10 (16:19):
You want to prevent your boyfriend or husband from cheating
on you, Wait enough, because this is going to sting
a little. These are the five rules to live by, ladies.
Five rules and five rules alone. I promise you it
as simple. Just shut up, buckle up, and listen up
for a second. Number one, put out, give him your
kitty kitty. Not every day, sure, but often and enough
(16:41):
that he feels desired.
Speaker 5 (16:42):
And it has to come from you.
Speaker 10 (16:44):
Do it because you want to initiate it. Sometimes surprise him,
make him feel like a damn man.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
Number two they hold on to stay with number one.
I would say that's dead on. Yeah. I don't anyone disagree.
Speaker 6 (16:59):
With number one, not at all. Nope, she's I mean.
Speaker 9 (17:02):
And if ladies, if you're not feeling like it, you
need to go get your blood work done. Maybe you
got low tea.
Speaker 3 (17:09):
That's right, that's right, there's something wrong with you.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
Yeah, So number one, I'm all on.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
Board with it.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
That's good. Okay, this is this is very very good. Okay.
Speaker 5 (17:20):
Number two for him the fastest way to a man's heart.
Speaker 3 (17:24):
It's not necessarily lingerie.
Speaker 10 (17:26):
It is home cooked food that tastes delicious. You are
a grown woman saying I don't know how to cook.
I want to slap you in the face.
Speaker 6 (17:35):
That is not that's lazy.
Speaker 10 (17:38):
Learn figure it out.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
YouTube and Pinterest exist for a reason.
Speaker 6 (17:42):
Meal hold on that.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Okay, number two. I think she's dead on the right,
you know.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
And to say I can't cook, that's ridiculous. You can
figure out how to cook.
Speaker 3 (17:51):
Bust some water.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Yeah, I'm a grown man.
Speaker 9 (17:54):
I can go one hundred agree. It's also much healthier
to cook for yourself and meal prep. But I also
want to say, first off, those first two things she mentioned,
they go both ways.
Speaker 6 (18:06):
But we should continue.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Okay, let's go to number three.
Speaker 8 (18:09):
These are the talking about man's right now, we're just
yelling at ladies.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
Yeah, I like it. This is good.
Speaker 10 (18:13):
Stop number three.
Speaker 5 (18:16):
Clean the damn house.
Speaker 10 (18:18):
Okay, men live in an organized chaos, but nobody wants
to come home to a pig sty. And if you
don't live together yet, go to his house, surprise him.
Clean it up, make it smell good in all the
right places, show him that your presence at peace, not pressure.
And if you're his wife and you've stopped doing this,
Number yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
Is this woman a genius or other?
Speaker 3 (18:41):
She seems like she can read.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
Is this woman a damn genius? Number three dead on
the money? Keep the house clean to this is this
is great.
Speaker 6 (18:49):
Now, there's exceptions. We understand.
Speaker 9 (18:51):
When you have a house full of kids, the house
is not going to be spotless.
Speaker 6 (18:54):
All the time. Twenty four to seven.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
No, you got to keep all the right spots clean.
Speaker 6 (18:58):
Definitely. I mean I'm a very clean person.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
All right.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
So the number one was put out, Number two was wash,
was cook and number.
Speaker 6 (19:07):
Three human traits.
Speaker 9 (19:09):
If you don't do these things, you're probably a gross human.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
Okay, Next number four.
Speaker 6 (19:14):
Number four, be respectful.
Speaker 10 (19:17):
I don't care how sexy or successful you are. The
second you start disrespecting your man, he's halfway out the door.
Do not embarrass him in public. Do not talk down
to him. Respect is oxygen to a man. Without it,
you die.
Speaker 6 (19:34):
And this woman is absolutely brilliant both ways.
Speaker 9 (19:37):
Though for a man. You've seen men out in public disrespect.
I'm saying though this goes both ways.
Speaker 3 (19:44):
I agree with you.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
Yeah, okay, I can see that. But right now we're
talking about her perspective. Okay, that was number.
Speaker 5 (19:49):
Four, number five.
Speaker 6 (19:51):
Give him peace.
Speaker 10 (19:52):
He doesn't want to come home to constant nagging criticism.
He wants silence and softness and support. Stoup nitpicking everything
he's not doing right in your eyes. Start appreciating what
he is doing. You say you want a loyal man,
then be the freaking woman worth being loyal to.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
This was written in nineteen fifty five.
Speaker 5 (20:14):
She took she had to take off her he jumped
to do this.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
My god, Hey, listen. Everything she said though, is oh
you Christina does all that stuff for you.
Speaker 3 (20:25):
She cuts your toenails brow.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Yeah right.
Speaker 8 (20:27):
We live in a world of mutual respect. I do
a lot for her, she does a lot for me.
I would never be like, why is the house not
cleaning up? Like make me food? That's insane. Like we
both work, we both do a lot of.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
Demanding. Nothing none of her things about demanding demanding.
Speaker 4 (20:43):
She's saying, if you do want to make your spouse happy,
just do these things correct, because if you demand sexy.
Speaker 5 (20:49):
I'm married off a woman, not a servant.
Speaker 3 (20:52):
Think the problem that people haven't with it.
Speaker 7 (20:54):
The way that this was presented is that it just
makes it look like it's all one sided.
Speaker 6 (20:57):
Yes, and that's the problem, and that's what.
Speaker 1 (20:59):
The Well, then what we should that was a female's
point of view.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
Then as as guys, what do we if you don't
want your woman to leave you? And then what should
we do?
Speaker 5 (21:11):
See keep her in the basement.
Speaker 7 (21:13):
Yeah, let's ask the three the three married men that
are in that room that are successful marriage is there?
What would you offer him to counter this woman's one
sided kind of view?
Speaker 3 (21:23):
What kind of.
Speaker 7 (21:24):
Good advice would you put out to the guys that
are married out there?
Speaker 2 (21:27):
We should say everything she said is accurate. Though, if
you do all that stuff for a man, he's going
to stick around.
Speaker 8 (21:31):
No, we cheat, no matter what, Dude, you.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
Think you would cheat on a woman that did all those.
Speaker 5 (21:38):
Things, isn't gonna cheat.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
I disagree with that.
Speaker 9 (21:42):
It's in a man's DNA to look and and it's
like it's it's just in their DNA to look and stuff.
You have to physically like fight those urges some some
men some men can't.
Speaker 4 (21:52):
My wife does all those things. I don't have any
of these or just happy as you want.
Speaker 6 (21:56):
To hear your top five.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
Well, yeah, so you say five top you.
Speaker 6 (22:01):
Guys, guys need you need to.
Speaker 3 (22:05):
Do this and are on the verge of getting married.
What's that? What would be Number one?
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Make sure your wife doesn't cheat.
Speaker 4 (22:12):
So to make sure your wife doesn't cheat, I think
number one has to be obviously mutual respect, right, you
don't talk down to them to mean them correct. I
think that that's really important.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
I think when you.
Speaker 5 (22:21):
Make love to them and I'm just like, get in it.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
Not always.
Speaker 4 (22:25):
Sometimes you need to, you know, change it up a
little bit, be a little you know, aggressive.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
Provide stability. They like to feel stable, you know, Yeah,
provide stability.
Speaker 8 (22:34):
Yeah, tell them that their friends are crazy, and you're right,
they like that.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
Really anything married.
Speaker 7 (22:45):
She was talking, No, she was talking as a buried woman.
She had the ring on her fingers. She said, three
of you guys have rings on you.
Speaker 8 (22:52):
I agree with the respect one, but she makes it
sound like, don't don't let your wife talk in public,
because you can make a sound that me and my wife,
our relationship is based off of mutual respect. I treat her,
I like, I don't demean her. She doesn't demean me.
We don't belittle each other in front of people. We
have little jokes at each other and stuff, and I
don't treat her like a servant.
Speaker 4 (23:11):
But you know what, but the number of cases I
have where people coming to me and they're like, hey,
my wife she tells all my family my friends that
I drink too much and that I'm a pe business baby.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
I think what Amber was saying actually is accurate. Everything
that she said. You just do that also for your wife,
you know, like like when you make love to her,
you make love to her because you want to make
love to her, and and you come on to her.
Speaker 5 (23:34):
And then the sexual part is so sketchy because in.
Speaker 1 (23:36):
The house, like like I clean the house for my wife.
She loves it when I clean the house.
Speaker 8 (23:40):
You know, you gotta find the people that match that
you guys have a matching up thing. But like I
feel bad for people because, like the sex thing gets weird,
especially the older you get. Whether there's gonna be changes
for the women, like like whether they go perimenopozzle, men apozzle,
and then guys, we got to start taking pills and whatnot.
So I don't when people say, like, oh, like when
Daisy talks. Oh I need somebody who can get at
(24:01):
it every day. I'm like, that is unrealistic.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
You know.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
Yeah, she's straight up, she admitted she was lying.
Speaker 8 (24:10):
Yeah, like so, like the sex thing is something, but
like the problem is we're so shamed with our sex lives.
Like we're so we're so ashamed of sex, we don't
actually talk to each other and communicate. I think most
people have a real problem communicating what they like, what
they what is working.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
Well.
Speaker 8 (24:22):
Hey, like like when a guy like can't get going
for the first time there, I think their move is
to like freak out instead of talk about.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
The Number one thing was sex okay, so but we
agreed that the sex thing goes you make it like, just.
Speaker 5 (24:33):
Do it girl, Like, I don't care.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
Well, it's so the sex thing goes both ways, just
like Amber was saying for the guy too. Number two
was about was cooking. Okay, it's great to cook for
your wife every once in a while.
Speaker 6 (24:45):
And men loved the grill most of the time. So
men like to cook the bake.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
Yeah, yeah, take them out the dinner more. You mean
that that's good to this.
Speaker 8 (24:55):
Lady is a trad wife and she's doing this to
like be provocative.
Speaker 3 (24:59):
It's definitely clicking. It's definitely clicking, and that's what a
lot of people are triggered by. This is a total
click baby.
Speaker 8 (25:04):
Yeah yeah, she's probably like, do you guys, you guys
know what a trad wife is the trade movement, I
don't know. It's it's this whole thing on the line
where like it's it's trad is traditional traditional.
Speaker 5 (25:14):
Wow, their whole thing is.
Speaker 8 (25:15):
Like, well, I want to be you know, stay at
home and take care of the kids and do that.
Like it's so it's along those lines. She's adjacent to
that line.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
That's good that I guess.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
I don't know.
Speaker 8 (25:28):
I view my wife as a fully uh independent human being.
Like when we come together in a relationship, we you know,
I do stuff, she does stuff I would. I personally
don't want somebody like that's coming home and they have
like the whole house clean, and they better have section
with me, whether they like it or not.
Speaker 4 (25:45):
She said, she said, you just have to want to
have sex with them, like you have to like bring that.
Speaker 6 (25:49):
Energy, not every day, you know what I mean.
Speaker 8 (25:53):
Yeah, she wasn't saying that like you had but sex
is a mutual, like it's two way Street knowing it
should I don't think even in a marriage it should
be like expected.
Speaker 4 (26:01):
I do agree with you a little bit of Ryan
on the fact that people don't talk about sex because
you know, I know Russ has mentioned this before about
how I don't tell people just to instantly get divorced
that they're having mineral problems.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
Part of what I do.
Speaker 4 (26:13):
I have sex therapists that I've met and I've worked with,
and my clients have worked with, and I say, hey,
maybe you should go talk to this person because it
sounds like what you really have is a desire to
do something different, and you guys can't communicate about it.
Speaker 3 (26:24):
You guys fight about it. And I think, I think
you're right.
Speaker 4 (26:27):
There's a culture of shame, specifically towards women where if
they feel like they need to be desirable of a
specific sexual encounter or a specific thing that they don't
feel like they can you know, talk about, and for men,
it becomes insecurity and it creates a rift. And so
I agree, we got to talk about these things.
Speaker 8 (26:44):
Yeah, it was hard because like when me and my
wife first got together, likes her version of like what
like sex sexy was or initiating sex was very different
than mine. Like she would throw on like some kind
of like lingerie outfit and I'm like, no, you got
to paint yourself green. So we've been in the middle
over the long term, so naturally just wears green lingerie.
Speaker 1 (27:03):
You realize that she named five things and you've talked
about sex most of the time.
Speaker 7 (27:09):
Ray said though in the past, that the one of
the biggest things that causes divorce is the is the
sexual dysfunction in a relationship?
Speaker 2 (27:16):
Is that the number one thing?
Speaker 4 (27:18):
I think communication is the number one thing, But I
think you see it as a manifestation of communication issues
and sex more often than not. Yeah, because again I
can't talk to you about it, but you know, sorry, Amber,
I'm gonna use it my example. But Amber will listen
to me about what I want, and then Amber will
offer me what I want and it's like okay, Well,
then I go outside my marriage and so I think
(27:38):
I think it's I think it's a communication problem, the
symptom of which that we see from the outside is
an extra marital affair where you should be able to
tell your spouse, Hey, you know the thing you do
with your finger.
Speaker 2 (27:50):
I like that.
Speaker 3 (27:53):
This one.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Who likes to save marriages. But you need a divorce.
He'll get you there too.
Speaker 3 (28:07):
I will.
Speaker 5 (28:07):
Apparently TK stands for a hatch kinky.
Speaker 4 (28:11):
Don't shame, kink shame.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
Have a great time.
Speaker 3 (28:16):
People do like that.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
I'll be thinking about you tomorrow night.
Speaker 3 (28:18):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (28:19):
At the Dolphins game. Do you think I can wear
my meadow glasses into the game?
Speaker 3 (28:22):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Why not? Why couldn't you?
Speaker 3 (28:24):
I don't know. Don't let you bring up get them cameras?
Do you like them? I do like that.
Speaker 5 (28:28):
They're pretty, they're pretty neat.
Speaker 8 (28:29):
Especially because like you don't have to like I obviously
they don't have to pull your phone, and like you
get to be in the moment still the music things.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
More when we come back. Don't go anywhere. You're listening
to the match of the morning.
Welcome back on RUSS with Angel and Ryan and Bernova
and Ray Tranley here today.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Ray, we're going to the super Bowl.
Speaker 3 (00:07):
You know what I feel it too.
Speaker 4 (00:09):
There are some teams in the AFC that are treating
all of your defensive players because they understand the dominance
that is happening in the AFC right now.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Yeah, it just takes one day.
Speaker 5 (00:20):
We just traded two for a six round draft pick.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Oh it sounds scared. That sounds like scared myne right there.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Ray, explain this to me.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
How is it that that Tua wakes up his eye
is swollen, he has to wear like goggles or whatever
advisor Advisor, and he throws no interceptions that day, and
then when his eyes are fine, those three interceptions each
game before.
Speaker 4 (00:43):
Have you heard the wildly unsubstantiated rumor as to how
he got the swollen eye.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
I have not heard. I was going to ask you
how he got it.
Speaker 4 (00:51):
So there was a there was a rumor that was
going around social media that he was at the club
the night before and some girl put her butt.
Speaker 6 (00:59):
In his face, and I was gonna get anything else.
Speaker 4 (01:03):
If I was going to say something that would motivate
me to throw three touchdowns in an NFL football game.
It might be that kind of evening. So I'm going
to just say I'm going to be at the game tomorrow.
Speaker 7 (01:14):
Again, like the attorney said, this was wildly unsubstatiated rumor allegedly.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
So you're going to the game, the game tomorrow, and
that's not usually bringing them luck or bad luck. If
if you go to the game, because you've done.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
This before, it's we've never won a game. I've been there.
Oh no, yeah, yeah, but you know what, that's okay,
that's okay.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
The Dolphins have never won when you've gone to see them, No,
how many times have you gone to see them, they're
like eight.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Oh yeah, that's not good.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
It's not good at all.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
But who is favored? I know you're mister gambleman over there,
mister gambled Ravens.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
It's the spread is a favor the Ravens because both
teams are not playing great well.
Speaker 7 (01:52):
The wholy reason it went up though, is Lamar has
been cleared and he's gonna play this game.
Speaker 4 (01:56):
Yeah yeah, in Lamar's from South Florida, so you know
he the ball out in front of hum clasps.
Speaker 7 (02:01):
So I'm hoping what I was telling Russ earlier is
that that hopefully that you know, Miami can jump on
him the rest of his team. It's not gonna affect Lamar,
but maybe it'll affect the rest of the team being
in Miami and hopefully, uh, you know a Lamar because
he hasn't played well. He's only played one two games
this season, so maybe he's a little rusty.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
You know.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
Well and h Z Flowers, you know, their stud wide receiver.
He's also from for Laro, so they got a bunch
of They got a bunch of home time contacts down there,
so I think you might be right.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
They might be having a good time.
Speaker 4 (02:31):
I know, I'm going to try to reach out to
two when I get down there and see if he
wants to go out to the club before the game. Sure, Uh,
you know, give him a couple of my ties and
get a good game going, so we'll see.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Good, good good good. Hey.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
I want to ask about this and see what you thought.
Have you seen this this woman that was knocked unconscious
by a duck riding a roller coaster at Sea World?
Speaker 4 (02:52):
No, but I've almost been knocked out by a fish
one time at Sea World.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Not SeaWorld.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Oh this is this is a sea World was riding
a roller coaster, questions, and she.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Is suing sea World. Now, so what do you think?
What do you think? What do you what do you
think her case is?
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Like she's riding the riding the roller coaster, gets hit
by a duck?
Speaker 2 (03:14):
What do you think her case is to the SeaWorld?
We do.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
Everybody knows you put nets around all these roller coasters
because the bird nets around nets underneath the roller coaster.
Things drop under people all underneath them, but they don't
have nets on top of them. Then you put nets
on top of them for these birds, she claims, seagulls
and birds.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
She claims that.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
They put the roller coaster too close to water, too
close to a lake where ducks are, and for that
reason she's suing sea World four.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Well, okay, you're an attorney. What do you think she
should sue Sea World.
Speaker 4 (03:44):
Four knocked unconscious, traumatic brain injury. I'm gonna go twenty
five mil.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Oh wow, it's only five hundred thousand or fifty thousand dollars.
Speaker 4 (03:51):
Fifty thousand is just the minimum jurisdictional amount. I bet
she wants our twenty five million dollars. If it's fifty grand,
they probably gives her to go away.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Oh, they just want to give it to her to
go away.
Speaker 4 (04:00):
Yeah, well fifty So fifty thousand dollars is the minimum
amount you have to put in your lawsuit in order
for it to go to circuit court. Uh so that's why,
that's why they allege that amount. But I bet the
number is astronomical, like.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
If you get hit by a doug or remember remember
who was that who was that model?
Speaker 2 (04:16):
They got hit in the face by a seagull.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
BOBBYO got hit in the face by It's sort of
just like an act of God.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
Right, Yeah, you took the words out of my mouth
r Us.
Speaker 5 (04:24):
Yeah, Ray got hit in the face with a fish.
There's an act of cod.
Speaker 6 (04:28):
Oh yeah, one good.
Speaker 7 (04:32):
I feel good about that, Ryan, I do you feel
good about her response to that?
Speaker 2 (04:36):
I do, very very funny.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
But uh yeah, definitely an act of God. I don't
see how house sea World would be liable. For one,
we're in Florida. There's water everywhere.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Yeah, so that means don't go to any theme parks
in water or in Florida because there's water.
Speaker 6 (04:54):
And it's SeaWorld they have wild animals.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
And how often do people do that though, where they
just sue because they know the company will just pay
them off to go away.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
Uh, there's probably a good segment of people that do
that fairly regular That's.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
A tactic, right, like we know we can sue these people,
they'll just pay us to go away.
Speaker 4 (05:11):
But that's also why when you've got good faith damages claims,
sometimes they don't give you what you are entitled to
because like, we're gonna just treat you like you're this
crazy person who sues us for everything.
Speaker 8 (05:23):
I was attacked by a bird and SeaWorld a true story.
It's like they're waiting for a really bad Oh no, no, no.
I was in the line to get into sea World.
They had these hanging plants, and I guess a crow
had made a nest in this hanging plant.
Speaker 5 (05:37):
Uh huh. And this is not gonna be a joke,
really not.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Joke. Not okay, So hanging plant.
Speaker 8 (05:47):
You're in line, yeah, and the hanging plants about like
about head height for me, so it's about six six right,
and then from standing there with the girl dating at
the time, and the bottom of the plant is my
head heights, So the top of would be at six six. Anyway,
the crow just starts attacking my head, like.
Speaker 5 (06:05):
It starts dive bombing my head.
Speaker 8 (06:07):
And I tell the lady at the ticket counter and
I'm like, hey, you got to like an angry crow
that like lives in your plants. And she's like, oh,
that's coral. He just does that. What She's like, yeah,
they's been doing that for a while. And I'm like, okay,
he didn't like you.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
He got he did. He tried to vibe check with you,
and he didn't like your I don't know.
Speaker 8 (06:25):
Crows are weird, man, Black crows, Yeah, great man, but
yeah man. So like I feel like SeaWorld at this
point being irresponsible with their birds.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Are you counting crows?
Speaker 6 (06:39):
Counting crows?
Speaker 2 (06:41):
No?
Speaker 8 (06:42):
But then I went back the next week because I
just have an annual pass for SeaWorld, And then they
did remove.
Speaker 5 (06:46):
The crow, So you are responsible for I feel bad.
Speaker 9 (06:52):
You know what happened A similar story happened to me.
You got too close to the nest and he protected
his nest.
Speaker 6 (06:57):
I got too close to.
Speaker 9 (06:58):
The shange in a white Siberian tie your pet on
me and I shouldn't have been so close to.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
Explained so much with you?
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Why why do you think the.
Speaker 5 (07:08):
Worst superhero origin story I've ever heard?
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Why did it urinate on you?
Speaker 6 (07:12):
Do you think, Oh, I think it liked me?
Speaker 9 (07:14):
So it was a male It back, it's booty right
up to the cage out of nowhere when I have
my head turned grade me with cat pee, white Siberian tigers.
Speaker 5 (07:23):
That's what that smell is.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
Use urine, urine.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
We're using a technical term.
Speaker 4 (07:28):
So I've got a question. Did you try to lick
the cat? What happened that made the cat?
Speaker 6 (07:32):
You know, maybe I.
Speaker 9 (07:33):
Smell like perfume or feminine, so the male cat sprayed
me to say he liked me.
Speaker 4 (07:38):
Okay, okay, stay away from those cats.
Speaker 5 (07:43):
So I think you got everybody.
Speaker 9 (07:45):
You got too close to the crow's nest and the
crow pecked at you.
Speaker 5 (07:49):
Yeah, that's exactly the same story.
Speaker 6 (07:51):
It is, and it's your fault.
Speaker 8 (07:52):
I will never look at you again without thinking the
tiger peede on you, Like, that's very fun.
Speaker 9 (07:57):
From me. I smell like cat py the whole cat
urine a whole ride home, and then my sisters were
mad at me.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
How old were you last week? Yeah?
Speaker 5 (08:07):
It sounds like a story that happened recently.
Speaker 6 (08:09):
It sounds like twenty last week.
Speaker 5 (08:11):
I was like, twenty, how many animals have urinated on you?
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Do you think Amber?
Speaker 6 (08:18):
My other cat?
Speaker 9 (08:19):
My other cat and a house cat. But it was
sleeping in the bet meet. Oh, then it was a
kitten also sleeping in the bet me. You can't like
kittens sleep in.
Speaker 6 (08:27):
The bed with you because they will be Okay.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Let's stop talking about urine. Okay, question for you.
Speaker 5 (08:35):
It was so long you to think about it.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
I was this might have a legal angle to it.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
I don't know, but so I'm gonna ask this question
while you're here because and it's a listener that sent
me an email. Now it's a long email, and I
don't like long emails, but.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
I can break it down where I've learned that yeah
they're long.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
But a little too much information. But but I had
a basic thing like this happened to me, And the
basic question is how do you get how do you
get someone who's just a booty call to leave your
house if they have slowly moved into your house.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Now, I had this happened to me once.
Speaker 7 (09:11):
Oh, I.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
Had a girl that I met from Mako's and I
let her stay the night a couple night. Next thing
you know, she's moving her stuff in. Next thing you know,
she's there for three or four months, and next thing
you know, she said, well I live here now. And
it's like, well, you know, now I didn't get her
to move. My tactic was I'll just marry her.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Bad move.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
But what I did this guy has had the situation
where it was a girl who was just sleeping with
and then she didn't want to stay the night. Then
she starts staying the night. Now she's been there for
three months. He doesn't know how to get her to leave,
and she's like, well, I live here now. I don't
have anywhere else to go. Legally, I'll go to legal angle,
like what can you do if someone has slowly moved in,
(09:55):
moved their clothes in, move everything, because this really did happen,
can you do beer and Tiger?
Speaker 4 (10:02):
I was going to actually, you know, it's funny you
said I was going to suggest adopting cat that just
peas on people.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Get away from your attorney, man, I.
Speaker 3 (10:13):
Was just gonna lean into a little harder.
Speaker 4 (10:16):
So, I mean, there's no right to occupancy if you've
spent a couple of nights at somebody's house, and so
what if.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
It's a couple of nights, what if it's two months,
three months?
Speaker 3 (10:25):
Why you let him spend two months in the house.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
You've got a bit hard and it's kind of hot.
You know, this guy is.
Speaker 7 (10:33):
Looking for legal action in a place where he didn't
do what he needed to do.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
If it's his.
Speaker 7 (10:37):
Place, Yeah, no, I did not do You're right, I'm
not saying you know, I'm saying that I'm sending the email.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Well, this guy here is she's been here for three
three months now, she doesn't want to leave.
Speaker 4 (10:47):
I have some advice that changed her driver's license and everything,
but there's no legal right to occupancy. Change the locks,
create a box, stuff over stuff in the box, tell
us you can pick it up from the.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
Legally, you can just put her stuff on the She's.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
Got no right to occupy the house. You can't destroy
her stuff.
Speaker 4 (11:04):
You can't, you know, get what about squatter's rights. I mean, listen,
there's a new statute in place. If you want to
see somebody to remove a squad or you can do that.
There's expedite process and all kinds of things there. But
you know you're gonna spend a bunch of money doing that.
I would just think she gets the hit. And if
you move her out and change the lots.
Speaker 7 (11:23):
Everyone's sending texting in these gimmicks. Rus Ryan Russ Ryan Ray.
That's right, Ray, Yeah, does are any of these things true?
Because people feel like, well, if she's getting mail there,
then that means that she lives there.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
I hate when law enforcement will often say, oh are
you getting mail there?
Speaker 3 (11:39):
That that's not a legal right to occupancye. So the
mail thing is bogus. That's bogus.
Speaker 7 (11:43):
Okay, Let's say if you got one of the one
of the like like electric or phone, or one of
the services to the cable, and you have it in
your name, does that entitle you to occupancy.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
Less bogus because there's at least some evidence of an
agreement that you're contributing to the benches of the home.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
So change her lots and put her stuff on the curb.
That's what you just said, Amber. You did this before
the front area. I don't don't destroy it, uncle, I
thought I heard.
Speaker 9 (12:09):
You say you did it no shoes the one who
moved in, I said, my twenty seven, twenty eight year
old neighbor told me about this because he was.
Speaker 6 (12:16):
Complaining to me. One day.
Speaker 9 (12:17):
He was like, man, I hooked up with this girl
and she won't leave. It's like the weekend and come Monday,
I'm working and he works from home, right and she
won't leaves.
Speaker 6 (12:27):
He'll go out.
Speaker 9 (12:28):
She was like, you know what I did, so, like
I put my shoes on. It was like, hey, I'm
going to go work out. I'm gonna go for a run.
And this dude is jacked. He can run.
Speaker 6 (12:34):
And she's like, oh well, i'll come too, and he's like.
Speaker 9 (12:37):
If you can keep up, and he literally like runs
and then I get from back to the house again.
Speaker 6 (12:42):
Finally he's like I'm working, like are you gonna leave?
Like you can't?
Speaker 9 (12:46):
You got It's been like a couple of days over
the weekend, Like it's.
Speaker 4 (12:49):
The My strategy is terrible because she's gonna take a
shower afterwards and then she can come right back in
the house.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
That's a terrible shower.
Speaker 5 (12:54):
You run.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
I don't get it. I don't understand he made her run, trying.
Speaker 9 (12:57):
To make excuses like I'm going to go to the gym,
then I'm gonna I go for a run. I go
for like a two mile run, so you should probably
like head out and she's like, oh, I'll just run
with you. And then like he's.
Speaker 6 (13:06):
Literally not waiting for you.
Speaker 9 (13:08):
You should get the hint that you maybe you should leave, okay,
and like men just step up and just tell the lady, Hey,
I had a great time with you, but I have
I gotta.
Speaker 6 (13:17):
Go do some things on my own.
Speaker 4 (13:18):
Now.
Speaker 9 (13:19):
She's like, I gotta go see my family, I gotta
go run, I gotta go do things on my own.
Speaker 6 (13:24):
Straight up with her, it's time for you to leave.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
I would go to work and then I would come
home and like there were more stuff in the closet.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
I'm like, hmm, that's weird.
Speaker 3 (13:30):
Give you some throw pillows on your couch. I don't
recognize the next thing, you.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Know, like all of her stuff was in the closet.
Speaker 3 (13:36):
They call that nesting rats.
Speaker 5 (13:37):
Yeah what does so, Brian?
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Uh basically, uh, you heard it from Ray Trendley. It's
legal then to lock all the doors and to throw
her stuff outside.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
But she pointed, don't destroy it. Don't destroy and just
let her know she can come pick up her stuff.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
Uh.
Speaker 4 (13:54):
You know, if you've got like a little, uh little
front yard, four.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
You a area where it's.
Speaker 4 (13:59):
Covered, I'd be perfertable because we get rained sometimes in Florida.
Speaker 3 (14:02):
Yeah, something that's covered.
Speaker 5 (14:04):
But what if you call her again at three o'clock
in the morning and hit it. Does it really start
to climb?
Speaker 3 (14:10):
Yeah, that's part of the.
Speaker 5 (14:11):
Problem, right, what happens she's really hot.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
You give a mass a cookie, they're going to want
some milk, and.
Speaker 2 (14:17):
So I want you to move him.
Speaker 4 (14:19):
But just you know, strangely, I do agree with Amber.
You have to set some boundaries. I used to have
like a three night rule, like you're not gonna spend
three nights in a row at my place.
Speaker 6 (14:29):
Three nights, yeah, two nights, but three was like you
got to go home.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
That's right, and you set that expectation early on.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
So straight up, listen, there's a three night rule here.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
That's right.
Speaker 4 (14:38):
You can spend the first night, second night, maybe third night,
you're gone.
Speaker 7 (14:43):
I'll just tell him after the third night that your
wife is coming home. That's a good one.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Sounds like this before.
Speaker 3 (14:51):
That's from the texting. That's from the texting. I'm out
of cheer.
Speaker 8 (14:55):
Good god, it was weird that raised wife leaves every
three days for a joke there.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
All right, we take a little break. You got you
got some divorce, I got some divorce of stuff.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Talk about all right, So we'll talk about divorce with
Friendly ray Trentley.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
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Speaker 1 (15:11):
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You're listening to the mantras of the morning. So Ray
Friendly ray Trainley here today. And you found a I
guess it was like an X video that has over
a million.
Speaker 5 (15:31):
X videos.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
Yeah. Yeah, it's uh the young Lady Young Lady on
X videos.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
And it has over a million views.
Speaker 4 (15:39):
It's got like three and a half million on TikTok
three and a half and then like another million on
x okay.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
And it's talking about divorce.
Speaker 4 (15:47):
It's talking about the things you can do to avoid
a divorce. Lative ready to hear this.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
And I know that is there what she has.
Speaker 4 (15:57):
I know that we have a lot of listeners men
in with and I thought, well, maybe we could talk
about this because this is, you know, trending.
Speaker 1 (16:05):
All right, since it's trending, and let's see if this
lady knows what she's talking about.
Speaker 5 (16:08):
All right, angels, turning up the sound here in a second.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
But an Amber, you can tell us whether you think
she's she's right or not.
Speaker 5 (16:15):
All right, Amber's a famously famously married.
Speaker 10 (16:19):
You want to prevent your boyfriend or husband from cheating
on you, Wait enough, because this is going to sting
a little. These are the five rules to live by, ladies.
Five rules and five rules alone. I promise you it
as simple. Just shut up, buckle up, and listen up
for a second. Number one, put out, give him your
kitty kitty. Not every day, sure, but often and enough
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that he feels desired.
Speaker 5 (16:42):
And it has to come from you.
Speaker 10 (16:44):
Do it because you want to initiate it. Sometimes surprise him,
make him feel like a damn man.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
Number two they hold on to stay with number one.
I would say that's dead on. Yeah. I don't anyone disagree.
Speaker 6 (16:59):
With number one, not at all. Nope, she's I mean.
Speaker 9 (17:02):
And if ladies, if you're not feeling like it, you
need to go get your blood work done. Maybe you
got low tea.
Speaker 3 (17:09):
That's right, that's right, there's something wrong with you.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
Yeah, So number one, I'm all on.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
Board with it.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
That's good. Okay, this is this is very very good. Okay.
Speaker 5 (17:20):
Number two for him the fastest way to a man's heart.
Speaker 3 (17:24):
It's not necessarily lingerie.
Speaker 10 (17:26):
It is home cooked food that tastes delicious. You are
a grown woman saying I don't know how to cook.
I want to slap you in the face.
Speaker 6 (17:35):
That is not that's lazy.
Speaker 10 (17:38):
Learn figure it out.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
YouTube and Pinterest exist for a reason.
Speaker 6 (17:42):
Meal hold on that.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Okay, number two. I think she's dead on the right,
you know.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
And to say I can't cook, that's ridiculous. You can
figure out how to cook.
Speaker 3 (17:51):
Bust some water.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Yeah, I'm a grown man.
Speaker 9 (17:54):
I can go one hundred agree. It's also much healthier
to cook for yourself and meal prep. But I also
want to say, first off, those first two things she mentioned,
they go both ways.
Speaker 6 (18:06):
But we should continue.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Okay, let's go to number three.
Speaker 8 (18:09):
These are the talking about man's right now, we're just
yelling at ladies.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
Yeah, I like it. This is good.
Speaker 10 (18:13):
Stop number three.
Speaker 5 (18:16):
Clean the damn house.
Speaker 10 (18:18):
Okay, men live in an organized chaos, but nobody wants
to come home to a pig sty. And if you
don't live together yet, go to his house, surprise him.
Clean it up, make it smell good in all the
right places, show him that your presence at peace, not pressure.
And if you're his wife and you've stopped doing this,
Number yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
Is this woman a genius or other?
Speaker 3 (18:41):
She seems like she can read.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
Is this woman a damn genius? Number three dead on
the money? Keep the house clean to this is this
is great.
Speaker 6 (18:49):
Now, there's exceptions. We understand.
Speaker 9 (18:51):
When you have a house full of kids, the house
is not going to be spotless.
Speaker 6 (18:54):
All the time. Twenty four to seven.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
No, you got to keep all the right spots clean.
Speaker 6 (18:58):
Definitely. I mean I'm a very clean person.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
All right.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
So the number one was put out, Number two was wash,
was cook and number.
Speaker 6 (19:07):
Three human traits.
Speaker 9 (19:09):
If you don't do these things, you're probably a gross human.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
Okay, Next number four.
Speaker 6 (19:14):
Number four, be respectful.
Speaker 10 (19:17):
I don't care how sexy or successful you are. The
second you start disrespecting your man, he's halfway out the door.
Do not embarrass him in public. Do not talk down
to him. Respect is oxygen to a man. Without it,
you die.
Speaker 6 (19:34):
And this woman is absolutely brilliant both ways.
Speaker 9 (19:37):
Though for a man. You've seen men out in public disrespect.
I'm saying though this goes both ways.
Speaker 3 (19:44):
I agree with you.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
Yeah, okay, I can see that. But right now we're
talking about her perspective. Okay, that was number.
Speaker 5 (19:49):
Four, number five.
Speaker 6 (19:51):
Give him peace.
Speaker 10 (19:52):
He doesn't want to come home to constant nagging criticism.
He wants silence and softness and support. Stoup nitpicking everything
he's not doing right in your eyes. Start appreciating what
he is doing. You say you want a loyal man,
then be the freaking woman worth being loyal to.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
This was written in nineteen fifty five.
Speaker 5 (20:14):
She took she had to take off her he jumped
to do this.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
My god, Hey, listen. Everything she said though, is oh
you Christina does all that stuff for you.
Speaker 3 (20:25):
She cuts your toenails brow.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Yeah right.
Speaker 8 (20:27):
We live in a world of mutual respect. I do
a lot for her, she does a lot for me.
I would never be like, why is the house not
cleaning up? Like make me food? That's insane. Like we
both work, we both do a lot of.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
Demanding. Nothing none of her things about demanding demanding.
Speaker 4 (20:43):
She's saying, if you do want to make your spouse happy,
just do these things correct, because if you demand sexy.
Speaker 5 (20:49):
I'm married off a woman, not a servant.
Speaker 3 (20:52):
Think the problem that people haven't with it.
Speaker 7 (20:54):
The way that this was presented is that it just
makes it look like it's all one sided.
Speaker 6 (20:57):
Yes, and that's the problem, and that's what.
Speaker 1 (20:59):
The Well, then what we should that was a female's
point of view.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
Then as as guys, what do we if you don't
want your woman to leave you? And then what should
we do?
Speaker 5 (21:11):
See keep her in the basement.
Speaker 7 (21:13):
Yeah, let's ask the three the three married men that
are in that room that are successful marriage is there?
What would you offer him to counter this woman's one
sided kind of view?
Speaker 3 (21:23):
What kind of.
Speaker 7 (21:24):
Good advice would you put out to the guys that
are married out there?
Speaker 2 (21:27):
We should say everything she said is accurate. Though, if
you do all that stuff for a man, he's going
to stick around.
Speaker 8 (21:31):
No, we cheat, no matter what, Dude, you.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
Think you would cheat on a woman that did all those.
Speaker 5 (21:38):
Things, isn't gonna cheat.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
I disagree with that.
Speaker 9 (21:42):
It's in a man's DNA to look and and it's
like it's it's just in their DNA to look and stuff.
You have to physically like fight those urges some some
men some men can't.
Speaker 4 (21:52):
My wife does all those things. I don't have any
of these or just happy as you want.
Speaker 6 (21:56):
To hear your top five.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
Well, yeah, so you say five top you.
Speaker 6 (22:01):
Guys, guys need you need to.
Speaker 3 (22:05):
Do this and are on the verge of getting married.
What's that? What would be Number one?
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Make sure your wife doesn't cheat.
Speaker 4 (22:12):
So to make sure your wife doesn't cheat, I think
number one has to be obviously mutual respect, right, you
don't talk down to them to mean them correct. I
think that that's really important.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
I think when you.
Speaker 5 (22:21):
Make love to them and I'm just like, get in it.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
Not always.
Speaker 4 (22:25):
Sometimes you need to, you know, change it up a
little bit, be a little you know, aggressive.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
Provide stability. They like to feel stable, you know, Yeah,
provide stability.
Speaker 8 (22:34):
Yeah, tell them that their friends are crazy, and you're right,
they like that.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
Really anything married.
Speaker 7 (22:45):
She was talking, No, she was talking as a buried woman.
She had the ring on her fingers. She said, three
of you guys have rings on you.
Speaker 8 (22:52):
I agree with the respect one, but she makes it
sound like, don't don't let your wife talk in public,
because you can make a sound that me and my wife,
our relationship is based off of mutual respect. I treat her,
I like, I don't demean her. She doesn't demean me.
We don't belittle each other in front of people. We
have little jokes at each other and stuff, and I
don't treat her like a servant.
Speaker 4 (23:11):
But you know what, but the number of cases I
have where people coming to me and they're like, hey,
my wife she tells all my family my friends that
I drink too much and that I'm a pe business baby.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
I think what Amber was saying actually is accurate. Everything
that she said. You just do that also for your wife,
you know, like like when you make love to her,
you make love to her because you want to make
love to her, and and you come on to her.
Speaker 5 (23:34):
And then the sexual part is so sketchy because in.
Speaker 1 (23:36):
The house, like like I clean the house for my wife.
She loves it when I clean the house.
Speaker 8 (23:40):
You know, you gotta find the people that match that
you guys have a matching up thing. But like I
feel bad for people because, like the sex thing gets weird,
especially the older you get. Whether there's gonna be changes
for the women, like like whether they go perimenopozzle, men apozzle,
and then guys, we got to start taking pills and whatnot.
So I don't when people say, like, oh, like when
Daisy talks. Oh I need somebody who can get at
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it every day. I'm like, that is unrealistic.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
You know.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
Yeah, she's straight up, she admitted she was lying.
Speaker 8 (24:10):
Yeah, like so, like the sex thing is something, but
like the problem is we're so shamed with our sex lives.
Like we're so we're so ashamed of sex, we don't
actually talk to each other and communicate. I think most
people have a real problem communicating what they like, what
they what is working.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
Well.
Speaker 8 (24:22):
Hey, like like when a guy like can't get going
for the first time there, I think their move is
to like freak out instead of talk about.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
The Number one thing was sex okay, so but we
agreed that the sex thing goes you make it like, just.
Speaker 5 (24:33):
Do it girl, Like, I don't care.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
Well, it's so the sex thing goes both ways, just
like Amber was saying for the guy too. Number two
was about was cooking. Okay, it's great to cook for
your wife every once in a while.
Speaker 6 (24:45):
And men loved the grill most of the time. So
men like to cook the bake.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
Yeah, yeah, take them out the dinner more. You mean
that that's good to this.
Speaker 8 (24:55):
Lady is a trad wife and she's doing this to
like be provocative.
Speaker 3 (24:59):
It's definitely clicking. It's definitely clicking, and that's what a
lot of people are triggered by. This is a total
click baby.
Speaker 8 (25:04):
Yeah yeah, she's probably like, do you guys, you guys
know what a trad wife is the trade movement, I
don't know. It's it's this whole thing on the line
where like it's it's trad is traditional traditional.
Speaker 5 (25:14):
Wow, their whole thing is.
Speaker 8 (25:15):
Like, well, I want to be you know, stay at
home and take care of the kids and do that.
Like it's so it's along those lines. She's adjacent to
that line.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
That's good that I guess.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
I don't know.
Speaker 8 (25:28):
I view my wife as a fully uh independent human being.
Like when we come together in a relationship, we you know,
I do stuff, she does stuff I would. I personally
don't want somebody like that's coming home and they have
like the whole house clean, and they better have section
with me, whether they like it or not.
Speaker 4 (25:45):
She said, she said, you just have to want to
have sex with them, like you have to like bring that.
Speaker 6 (25:49):
Energy, not every day, you know what I mean.
Speaker 8 (25:53):
Yeah, she wasn't saying that like you had but sex
is a mutual, like it's two way Street knowing it
should I don't think even in a marriage it should
be like expected.
Speaker 4 (26:01):
I do agree with you a little bit of Ryan
on the fact that people don't talk about sex because
you know, I know Russ has mentioned this before about
how I don't tell people just to instantly get divorced
that they're having mineral problems.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
Part of what I do.
Speaker 4 (26:13):
I have sex therapists that I've met and I've worked with,
and my clients have worked with, and I say, hey,
maybe you should go talk to this person because it
sounds like what you really have is a desire to
do something different, and you guys can't communicate about it.
Speaker 3 (26:24):
You guys fight about it. And I think, I think
you're right.
Speaker 4 (26:27):
There's a culture of shame, specifically towards women where if
they feel like they need to be desirable of a
specific sexual encounter or a specific thing that they don't
feel like they can you know, talk about, and for men,
it becomes insecurity and it creates a rift. And so
I agree, we got to talk about these things.
Speaker 8 (26:44):
Yeah, it was hard because like when me and my
wife first got together, likes her version of like what
like sex sexy was or initiating sex was very different
than mine. Like she would throw on like some kind
of like lingerie outfit and I'm like, no, you got
to paint yourself green. So we've been in the middle
over the long term, so naturally just wears green lingerie.
Speaker 1 (27:03):
You realize that she named five things and you've talked
about sex most of the time.
Speaker 7 (27:09):
Ray said though in the past, that the one of
the biggest things that causes divorce is the is the
sexual dysfunction in a relationship?
Speaker 2 (27:16):
Is that the number one thing?
Speaker 4 (27:18):
I think communication is the number one thing, But I
think you see it as a manifestation of communication issues
and sex more often than not. Yeah, because again I
can't talk to you about it, but you know, sorry, Amber,
I'm gonna use it my example. But Amber will listen
to me about what I want, and then Amber will
offer me what I want and it's like okay, Well,
then I go outside my marriage and so I think
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I think it's I think it's a communication problem, the
symptom of which that we see from the outside is
an extra marital affair where you should be able to
tell your spouse, Hey, you know the thing you do
with your finger.
Speaker 2 (27:50):
I like that.
Speaker 3 (27:53):
This one.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Who likes to save marriages. But you need a divorce.
He'll get you there too.
Speaker 3 (28:07):
I will.
Speaker 5 (28:07):
Apparently TK stands for a hatch kinky.
Speaker 4 (28:11):
Don't shame, kink shame.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
Have a great time.
Speaker 3 (28:16):
People do like that.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
I'll be thinking about you tomorrow night.
Speaker 3 (28:18):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (28:19):
At the Dolphins game. Do you think I can wear
my meadow glasses into the game?
Speaker 3 (28:22):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Why not? Why couldn't you?
Speaker 3 (28:24):
I don't know. Don't let you bring up get them cameras?
Do you like them? I do like that.
Speaker 5 (28:28):
They're pretty, they're pretty neat.
Speaker 8 (28:29):
Especially because like you don't have to like I obviously
they don't have to pull your phone, and like you
get to be in the moment still the music things.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
More when we come back. Don't go anywhere. You're listening
to the match of the morning.
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