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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Creativity is an addiction unplugged because we will always say
yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
So let's turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged,
hates Haerro, and this is vocal D frag.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Vocal D fragging takes place inside this forest in South Charlotte,
North Carolina. I'm on a transition walk. We go through
so many different mindsets that we forget to study what
it is that's moving through us. So a vocal D
frag is asking the questions and questioning the answers. Now,
what we're doing right here is not the physical vocal
D frag. This is our opportunity to sit down and
just talk about it, to talk about situations that might
(00:35):
be moving through your life. That you've got a ton
of questions, but you're asking everybody around you for answers.
What do they know about the shoes you're wearing? Did
they wake up next to you today? Did they feed you?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
No?
Speaker 1 (00:46):
I think that's you in the mirror, right It is you,
isn't it. This is vocal D frag exhausted by the
aftermath of expectation. Sounds poetic, doesn't it, But yet we
find ourselves in that position so many times, not just
in a week, not just in a month, but every day,
(01:07):
exhausted by the aftermath of expectation. We're all guilty of
trying to write a story about the way we want
our lives to go and grow, and so we put
so much planning to work, whether it be a trip
out of town, whether it be success inside the business world,
or just being together with your family cooking dinner. Wow,
(01:27):
we could actually have dinner at the table tonight instead
of sitting in front of the TV exhausted by the
aftermath of expectation. We all want things to go one way.
We all want to win the lottery, We want to
climb that company ladder, or we just want to be
there at work just to collect a paycheck, to have insurance,
to be able to just be seen to be social.
(01:49):
But it doesn't meet your expectations, and you become exhausted
by that because you keep trying over and over again.
I'll give you a good example. I've been a broadcaster
for forty four years. I've dedicated my life to broadcasting.
I've put a lot of my life into the journey,
listening to other people telling me how to do things
(02:10):
because it's a radio station. I totally get that, but
after forty four years, the expectation has exhausted me. Doesn't
mean I'm going to quit, No, what it does is
I'm going to ask the questions and question the answers.
What is leading up to these expectations that are exhausting you?
Is it the twelve years of being a podcaster? You
(02:32):
had this vision of Wow, this is going to be
a great place to connect with people, and now everybody's
doing a podcast, including the newborn babies that were just
arrived yesterday. They come out they've got a podcast. So
we faced that pressure of the things that we expect.
And how long can you walk forward before you finally
(02:55):
admit to yourself that you're exhausted. I'm not saying burned out,
saying that, oh you are a failure. I'm just saying,
when do you admit that you're exhausted? And what can
we do to find some calm inside the chapters that
you write? You see that I'm asking the questions and
then I'll question the answers. I keep a daily defragged
(03:18):
journal so that I can view the words that I
write on a page and the vocal dfrag gives me
a chance to hear the words that are coming from
my heart. Exhaustion caused by what is because they give
you too many things to do with work? You know,
multitasking is the one thing that is so great. Or
are you exhausted because your personal expectations have tired you out.
(03:43):
I've got an interview later on this week with a
doctor that says that being a perfectionist is tiring out
business leaders.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
That everybody at.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
One point in time wanted that perfectionist on their team
because they paid close attention to find detail. They want
on it, quality over anything. And now new research is
showing that a perfectionist is actually exhausting the expectation they
want business success. But I know as a perfectionist that
(04:15):
when I reach in there and I try to do
something great, it's going to require time.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
A lot of these businesses don't have time.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
They need to get the cash flow, and if the
perfectionist is keeping them from that cash flow, then you
know what, the expectation.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Is exhausting the business.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
So do that while you're driving in the car or
just when you're thinking with yourself, take a walk like
I do through a forest or through a city street,
and just ask that question, what is exhausting me? You
may not like the answer, so then question that. If
you don't like the answer.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Question it.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
If you have the questions and you're giving it to
somebody else, they'll say, you'll be fine.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
This is just a phase.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
You're going through a season right now, You'll be fine.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
But really, what is that inner part of your mind, body,
and soul.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Saying to you you're exhausted by the expectation? Wow? How
do we grow from this? See, that's a question. The
way we grow is by being aware. How can I
become more aware? Is it through judgment?
Speaker 2 (05:19):
No, it's not.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
It's through actions and reactions, but being nice to the
self that you are. Don't be like the principal at
the school, always telling people what to do, how to
do it, or you're going to get a paddle, which
I got at Riverside Junior High School. I always knew
that you're not supposed to have a food fight in
a cafeteria. But did I follow that rule? Hell no,
But when that principal swatted my butt, I thought twice
(05:46):
about that expectation.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
I wanted to win.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
That food fight, but it exhausted me in more ways
than you could ever imagine, not for you think about it.
What are you expecting? And it's exhausting you vocal d
fragging him erl
Creativity is an addiction unplugged because we will always say
yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
So let's turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged,
hates Haerro, and this is vocal D frag.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Vocal D fragging takes place inside this forest in South Charlotte,
North Carolina. I'm on a transition walk. We go through
so many different mindsets that we forget to study what
it is that's moving through us. So a vocal D
frag is asking the questions and questioning the answers. Now,
what we're doing right here is not the physical vocal
D frag. This is our opportunity to sit down and
just talk about it, to talk about situations that might
(00:35):
be moving through your life. That you've got a ton
of questions, but you're asking everybody around you for answers.
What do they know about the shoes you're wearing? Did
they wake up next to you today? Did they feed you?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
No?
Speaker 1 (00:46):
I think that's you in the mirror, right It is you,
isn't it. This is vocal D frag exhausted by the
aftermath of expectation. Sounds poetic, doesn't it, But yet we
find ourselves in that position so many times, not just
in a week, not just in a month, but every day,
(01:07):
exhausted by the aftermath of expectation. We're all guilty of
trying to write a story about the way we want
our lives to go and grow, and so we put
so much planning to work, whether it be a trip
out of town, whether it be success inside the business world,
or just being together with your family cooking dinner. Wow,
(01:27):
we could actually have dinner at the table tonight instead
of sitting in front of the TV exhausted by the
aftermath of expectation. We all want things to go one way.
We all want to win the lottery, We want to
climb that company ladder, or we just want to be
there at work just to collect a paycheck, to have insurance,
to be able to just be seen to be social.
(01:49):
But it doesn't meet your expectations, and you become exhausted
by that because you keep trying over and over again.
I'll give you a good example. I've been a broadcaster
for forty four years. I've dedicated my life to broadcasting.
I've put a lot of my life into the journey,
listening to other people telling me how to do things
(02:10):
because it's a radio station. I totally get that, but
after forty four years, the expectation has exhausted me. Doesn't
mean I'm going to quit, No, what it does is
I'm going to ask the questions and question the answers.
What is leading up to these expectations that are exhausting you?
Is it the twelve years of being a podcaster? You
(02:32):
had this vision of Wow, this is going to be
a great place to connect with people, and now everybody's
doing a podcast, including the newborn babies that were just
arrived yesterday. They come out they've got a podcast. So
we faced that pressure of the things that we expect.
And how long can you walk forward before you finally
(02:55):
admit to yourself that you're exhausted. I'm not saying burned out,
saying that, oh you are a failure. I'm just saying,
when do you admit that you're exhausted? And what can
we do to find some calm inside the chapters that
you write? You see that I'm asking the questions and
then I'll question the answers. I keep a daily defragged
(03:18):
journal so that I can view the words that I
write on a page and the vocal dfrag gives me
a chance to hear the words that are coming from
my heart. Exhaustion caused by what is because they give
you too many things to do with work? You know,
multitasking is the one thing that is so great. Or
are you exhausted because your personal expectations have tired you out.
(03:43):
I've got an interview later on this week with a
doctor that says that being a perfectionist is tiring out
business leaders.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
That everybody at.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
One point in time wanted that perfectionist on their team
because they paid close attention to find detail. They want
on it, quality over anything. And now new research is
showing that a perfectionist is actually exhausting the expectation they
want business success. But I know as a perfectionist that
(04:15):
when I reach in there and I try to do
something great, it's going to require time.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
A lot of these businesses don't have time.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
They need to get the cash flow, and if the
perfectionist is keeping them from that cash flow, then you
know what, the expectation.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Is exhausting the business.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
So do that while you're driving in the car or
just when you're thinking with yourself, take a walk like
I do through a forest or through a city street,
and just ask that question, what is exhausting me? You
may not like the answer, so then question that. If
you don't like the answer.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Question it.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
If you have the questions and you're giving it to
somebody else, they'll say, you'll be fine.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
This is just a phase.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
You're going through a season right now, You'll be fine.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
But really, what is that inner part of your mind, body,
and soul.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Saying to you you're exhausted by the expectation? Wow? How
do we grow from this? See, that's a question. The
way we grow is by being aware. How can I
become more aware? Is it through judgment?
Speaker 2 (05:19):
No, it's not.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
It's through actions and reactions, but being nice to the
self that you are. Don't be like the principal at
the school, always telling people what to do, how to
do it, or you're going to get a paddle, which
I got at Riverside Junior High School. I always knew
that you're not supposed to have a food fight in
a cafeteria. But did I follow that rule? Hell no,
But when that principal swatted my butt, I thought twice
(05:46):
about that expectation.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
I wanted to win.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
That food fight, but it exhausted me in more ways
than you could ever imagine, not for you think about it.
What are you expecting? And it's exhausting you vocal d
fragging him erl
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