Can you have it all in relationships? Plus, female mating strategies

Can You Have It All in Relationships?

In this thought-provoking episode, we explore a timeless question: Can you really have it all in your relationship? From emotional intimacy to sexual fulfillment, we take an honest look at the myths, realities, and expectations that shape modern relationships. Are you expecting your partner to be your everything—your best friend, lover, therapist, and cheerleader? Or is it time to challenge that Disney-inspired fairytale and redefine what “having it all” actually means?

Unrealistic Expectations and Self-Reflection

Many of us carry the belief that “one person should fulfill all our needs,” but is that possible? We discuss why expecting perfection from a partner sets both people up for disappointment. At the same time, the idea that you’re “perfect just the way you are” can prevent self-improvement. Healthy relationships require work—on yourself and on each other—so is it time to challenge the idea of being flawless and commit to growing instead?

The Role of Intimacy and Sexual Skill

Sexual fulfillment plays a massive role in relationships, but it doesn’t always come naturally. For men, becoming a skilled lover takes intention, effort, and a willingness to learn. Can a man truly transform himself into a “sexual dynamo”? Sure, but both he and his partner will often balk if he appears to be behaving different than how she knows him to be. Likewise, an unskilled woman can evolve into an incredible lover when she’s open to growth, exploration, and communication. Great intimacy isn’t a given; it’s an ongoing practice.

Do You Really Need It All?

This episode also dives into the pressures we place on relationships, especially when we compare ourselves to others. The fallacy of “If they can do it, I can too” can create unnecessary frustration. Expecting our partners to be our everything: the one who talks to us, loves us, is always there for us, listens to us and more can put a lot of pressure on the relationship. We reflect on the idea that it’s okay not to have it all in your relationship. Maybe the key to happiness is accepting the balance of strengths and imperfections that make your connection uniquely yours.

Ultimately, this episode challenges the unrealistic narratives we carry about love, sex, and partnership. Can one person meet all of your needs? Should they? And are you holding yourself back from personal growth by expecting the fairytale to happen effortlessly?

Tune in to discover how redefining your expectations can lead to greater intimacy, self-awareness, and relationship satisfaction. For more on creating closer, more fulfilling connections, visit Closeness.com. Let’s get closer!

CHAPTERS

0:00 Introduction and can you have it all? Recitals and disclaimers

2:44 In a nutshell

4:20 What does it mean to have it all?

9:40 Misunderstandings

12:40 Should one person be your everything?

15:21 COVID and Politics

16:26 Are you really perfect, just the way you are?

17:40 The Disney Fairytale

21:30 How Women Select mates

24:39 How men often think of intimacy

25:45 Great sex does not come naturally to most many men

33:04 How does one become a skilled lover?

37:25 Can a man really become a sexual dynamo?

40:26 An unskilled woman CAN be flipped into a fantastic lover

47:24 What do I make of all of this?

49:15 The fallacy of, If they can do it I can too"

56:24 Further thoughtsWe're one moment away from a meltdown

58:09 Is it ok that you don't have it all in your relationship?