Do Adults Need Sex Ed??

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Hi, I'm Sarah and I'm AdamHeath Avitable. This is the dCas Podcast,
a podcast about love, sex,culture, and society. This week
we'll be asking the question do adultsmeet sex education? Enjoy the show whether
you're married or single or poll rightfor hanging on with mains back of your

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places, listen to us and beginninga tender and mumble up plenty of young
trying and trying and having to lookbecause we all know dating kind of sucks.
Thanks for joining us for another episodeof dating kind of sucks. If
you're new to KAS, my nameis Adam and I'm a comedian, writer,
and misogynist turn feminist, joined bymy co host Sarah, who is

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a millennial travel junkie and serial datnow in a committed relationship. We're not
professionals, doctors, or experts,just two people sharing our perspectives on the
world of dating, sex, andrelationships. The first half of every episode
is bent catching up on what's happeningin our lives, and the second half
is reserved for the episode's main topic. So if that's all that brought you
here, you can skip through thehalfway mark, or you can stick around

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and enjoy the whole show. Let'sget started. Well, a little Bertie
told me that you're in Florida,book, I think, right, I
know, I checked Facebook for thefirst time and saw you were an Orlando.
Yes, I'm finally back back home. It's it's funny that I've never
really enjoyed this place and tell them, yeah, it is kind of home,

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like it it was weird, evenlike I was in Jacksonville for the
weekend, visited my sister and thatwas nice, but like, it wasn't
until I like left Jacksonville and thenI started getting closed into Orlando that I
was like, Oh, I justreally does feel like home to me.
Like, I mean, I grewup in Ormon, so I mean,
I guess I'm literally have been inthis general area almost most of my life,
so that makes sense. Yeah,and it's just familiar. You know,
I didn't have to have my GPSon anymore. I knew where I
was going at all times. Youknow. That is nice. Yeah,

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it's kind of a nice thing.And yeah, so I'm back here for
a while for six weeks, goingto see people, say goodbyes, and
then pack up my storage unit andmoved it Tulsa. So that's kind of
exciting. Already I got all themin here. You know, this is
where there's a Tuesday. I've beenhere since Monday, Monday night already,

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when out last night. So don'tkeep it going for six weeks. You
can't handle that. I can't.I can't handle that. I can't handle
that. It's funny because so beforethat, I was in Charlotte, And
in Charlotte I went out every singlenight that I was there because I met
friends from college out. I metone of my old exes, the one
who's married that we were really goodfriends. We went out and had a

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great time. I met another friendout as well. And then I actually
had an even a bumble date whenwait, what you had a bubble date
on a date? I know?Is that crazy? Yeah? Holy shit,
you didn't tell me anything about thisgo on go on? I thought
I did. Yeah. So Imatched with her and she's like, oh,

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she was already a fan of thepodcast. She had to listen to
the podcast, so she AREDY knewwho who you know? Who we are.
She's a big fan of you aswell. And we were talking and
she was like, I'd love toget a drink and so good and scheduled
it, and it actually turned outshe and I already Facebook friends, so
I'm not sure. At some pointover her listening to the podcast, she
went on Facebook and added me.And I felt bad that I didn't realize

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that, but just like, youknow, I have a lot of people
have five Wait wait, you havefive thousand friends on Facebook? You know
all five thousands? No, Idon't know all five thousands, So that's
something. I didn't feel that bad. I felt a little bad, but
still and we we met up onit all. I asked her for a
dive bar, that's my like,you know, She's like, where should
we go? And so I pickedthis little dive bar that was a good
little place. I had a fewdrinks and you know, I would say

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we were out for like three orfour hours, just kind of having a
conversation. And she's really cool,very very you know, very interesting,
and very very pretty, extremely prettyand recently divorced. Told told me that
she got divorced and had no ideahow to date because she last time she
dated it was in high school andthought it would be like normal and then
it was awful, right, Andso she started looking for like, you

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know, articles on dating and podcastsand then like listen to a couple podcasts.
She found an Apple on an Applepodcasts and they were terrible, and
then came across ours. Really likedour approach and like the advice we were
giving and everything, and so shekind of stuck with it and it's just
been been a huge fan. Sothat was kind of nice to nice to
hear, and then we're just,yeah, we just talked for a while,
and then we've actually been kind ofjust chatting since she's about to reach

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a point where she can she's gonnajust be traveling a lot. She kind
of like liked the idea that Ihad this nomadic life. She's like,
that's really kind of cool. Iwant to be able to like have a
home base, but I want tojust like I go, I try to
get take my weekends and just likewhere can I go for a weekend,
you know and just go away fora weekends and stuff like that. So
I don't know. We we've talkedabout potentially maybe going out again at some
point off where having to me thesame time like that, Yeah, she

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was was really engaging and really reallysomeone that I enjoyed talking to. So
I did not expect that. Yeah. Yeah, So see sometimes when I
when I don't give up on dating, it's I have a good time,
so proud I usually have a goodtime. I feel that feels bad because
that that makes me sound like theother people I've gone out with have been
bad. No, they haven't been, but like, yeah, I go

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out there and just like what's thepoint? But like, you know,
it's it's maybe it's because my travelsare kind of nearing an end, so
it's got a little bit more ofa finality to it. So it feels
like, oh, okay, wellI can see that. I mean,
you know, it's not exactly Charlotteuntils her exactly close, but I could
see continuing to maintain some type offriendship with her, and and you know,
and then who knows what what youknow where where anything? She seems

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like, you know, somebody thatI would enjoy talking to on a consistent
basis. Oh yeah, I mean, when you were in Utah, you
knew you weren't going to be thereforever, but you didn't know your timing.
And then you've been on the road. You could extend it, shorten
it, whatever. You couldn't commitreally to anything yeah, makes sense.
Yeah, so that sounds a goodtime. But yeah, so that was
the first time that I've been ina city where I've gone out every night

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of the week and it it's it'sI'm like I was. It felt like
I was doing warm ups for Floridabecause I'm like, you know, and
I know when I come and cometo Earlado, it's going to be more
frequent than every like five days thatI go out and do something. I
know I'm gonna have to. Soyeah, well we'll see see what happens
with that. But you host ameet up or anything. Yes, actually

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someone asked me to do that,so I'm gonna I have to. I'm
glad you mentioned that too, andhey, look at this, I should
have put that in the agenda.Those of you who live in the Orlando
area, keep an eye on Ifyou're in the Facebook group, then keep
an eye there because I'll be postingabout it there. But if not,
then keep an eye on my Instagram. I'll be mentioning it. I'll probably
and we'll probably put it up onthe ks Instagram as well. I'll probably

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do some type of local meetup.And by local meetup, I meeting it'll
probably be at the altamont Ale House. Something easy for Adam, you know
how I didn't like to travel farright and I and plus that's my place
to go. So I even stoppedby there last night and I got there,
I went. I went out lastnight with with Lisa that we went
out to another bar, had fun, and then she left and I was
driving home and I drove by theIll House and I was like, I

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should stop it, even though itwas like twelve thirty. Yeah, it's
home. So I stopped in andwalked in and my favorite bartender was still.
It was there, and she ranover and gave me a hug and
didn't when I was in town becauseshe's not on Facebook. And then I
was there till like two just tohang out with her. So that that
was cool. That was that wasfun, and it's nice to like I'm
gonna miss those things, you know, no matter what, no matter with

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all the other trash that happens inFlorida, Like there are small things that
I'm gonna miss when I leave here. But it's been it's still been a
good time. I also so Iwas in since we talked. I think
we recorded when I was in Lexington, Kentucky, right right, okay,
and I went out with thirty dancingand we went out and had a good
time, walked around downtown on Lexington, which is actually really cute enough somehow
never managed to visit it. Andthen she invited me over for dinner at

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her her place the last my lastnight there, but I wasn't able to
make it. I just woke upthat day feeling like just trash. I
just needed to kind of rest.I feel bad about it, but I
wanted to give a quick shot outto the hotel in Lexington that I stayed
at. I just wanted to,you know, shout that out. It's
an Origin hotel, which is thesecond time I've stayed in No Origin now.

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I stayed in one in Westminster,right outside Denver. This one was
another really great little property. Ihad a fantastic time. The bed was
extremely comfortable, the shower was likeone of those rainfall shower heads, like
it was just really nice. Andall the design, like the decoratings were
really kind of like kitchy and cuteand all the places, so it feels
it doesn't feel dated like a hotelroom. It actually feels kind of fresh
and new, and the restaurant downstairsthat this one was called thirty three Staves.

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I found out that they bring inlike high end chefs to revamp the
menus and stuff when they when theyopened these places, and the food was
fantastic and the drinks were really likereally solid. So I was really impressed
with the whole property. And Ididn't even know this whole half of Lexington
existed. Like whenever I stayed,I somehow stayed because Lexington is like a
circle the it's like the downtown andthere's literally like a circle of roads around

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it. I always stayed in likethe upper northern quadrant, I guess,
and that's kind of the boring area. And now this time I stay down
in the cool area where like there'slike liquor and fused ice cream shop around
or around the corner. Yeah,like it was just kind of neat,
but yeah, so it was.It was a really great place. And
so I'd recommen anybodyho's going to drivethrough that area, give look at look

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up Origin hotels. The prices areactually not they're not unreasonable, and what
you get is is worth I wouldsay worth the price absolutely and h yeah,
I'm gonna be staying, I think, in other properties if I can,
because if I if I go somewherethat has an origin, I'm definitely
gonna stay there. I'll tell youthat. Yeah, sold sold. So
what's going on with you? Absolutelynothing? Nothing at all. Okay,

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I'm sick. I'm not going outdoing anything right now because I just can't.
I mean I can, but Ijust don't feel like it. And
Roy's mom and stepdad are coming intotown tonight, so it's like rush to
record this episode before they get in, and then he's going to spend the
next few days with them in Seattle, and then we're gonna go hike Tahoma

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and or known as Mountaverineer but thelocals called Tahoma, and then go to
like the font. I just realized, huh like the font, the font
Tahoma, Tahoma. Don't it's afont. It's like a Microsoft word font.
Oh shit, you're right. Itwas like, wait, what are
you talking about? A font?I thought this was a pop culture reference.

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I just didn't understand, like fontlike a movie. What am I
missing here? Microsoft word reference?Gotcha? Well, then from there we're
gonna go to Astoria and like thecoast of organ So yeah, little working
vacation if you will, while they'rehere. So that would be that'll be
if I mean, some fun andand some work for you, but it'll

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be mostly worked for me besides theweekend, So it'll it is what it
is, like, I don't havea lot of PTO over it has unlimited
PTO, which I'm jealous of,so kind of have to do what I
gotta do. Funny thing, Somy data and Charlotte or you know,
I'll just call her Charlotte since yougive her code name. Good name Charlotte.
She was telling me that she wasso excited for the reveal of Roy's

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name like that, and that likeshe was just like, but I didn't
think Roy was trying. Yeah,She's like I had all these names in
my head. I don't know what. She didn't tell me what name she
hadn't mind, but she was like, I just was so surprised by Roy,
Like it just didn't occur to meat all. And I just thought
that, I mean, how manypeople, how many people in their thirties
do you know that her named Roy? Oh? I don't know, Yeah,
I don't know. I don't knowany Roy's like the only Roy I

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know. It's from the office,and that's the that's really the only only
one that I know of. Imean, what what name did people expect?
Jason or probably probably yeah something.Yeah, they just associated with something
related to I don't know. Butit's just funny that people had like an
opinion about it, like and we'resurprised. I'm like, how did you
get disappointed? Like, oh,damn, his name's just Roy. Do

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you slipe left on someone named Royimmediately? Is that why? I mean?
I slipe left on Michael's. Soyeah, it could be oh,
an interesting enough name to want adate, and I had an encounter with
something that I thought you would findinteresting and this is this is really your
opinion on this will be interesting.So I have a friend of mine who
is by and she just posted onher Instagram story. She's she's a finance

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bro type up in Seattle, andshe just posted on our Instagram story that
it was a message she got onher email, her work email, that
was hey, So this was hername is actually Sarah. This is Sarah
from Mumble. We didn't match,but I was so intrigued and interested in

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you that I kind of found yourinformation and wanted to shoot your quick email.
So hi. And then my friendwas really flattered by it. You
know. I was like, Oh, she's hot and she's a real estate
agent, and look I should havejust proposed now. And I was like,
I messaged her and I was like, what would you do if that
was a guy doing that? Like, if that was a guy saying that
same thing, she goes, Iwould be upset, like you know that,
like I immediately disregard the danger relatedbecause it's a woman doing it.

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And I said, I said,you know, just because it's I mean,
yes, there's a little bit ofdifference in there. But even though
it's it's a woman doing it,it still shows that she didn't match and
thought that she was still entitled totrack you down. And that's that's a
violation of a boundary regardless. That'ssomeone who's like, oh, well this
is what I want, so thisis what I'm going to get, and
that could turn toxic, might not. She's like, you make a good
point, but I want to seewhat you thought about that. I feel

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the same way. I mean,of course, I think, yeah,
if it was a guy, shewould probably be upset by that. But
we had a whole episode on this, and I still think you should stick
within the boundaries of where you wantto communicate with people who are also looking
to date other people. Yeah,okay, yeah, I figured you might
agree with that too. But itjust it is interesting because because it does

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seem less dangerous, it does seemless of a violation when it's a woman
doing it to another woman, butit's still it still is a violation of
a boundary. It's still you know, ignoring someone's boundaries. Yeah. I
mean, I'm on and this isnot in a dating aspect at all,
but I'm want to come couple ofSeattle make friend Facebook groups types of things,
and people will post a post aboutthemselves and who they are, and

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then people will respond in the commentssaying, oh, I live in this
area, I'd love to meet upwhatever, Oh DM me on here.
And it's all on Facebook. AndI know that some people tag their Instagram
or whatever. And this one personin particular said in her post, you
can also DM me on Instagram.Here's my Instagram blah blah blah, giving
the permission that it's okay to dothat. So I thought that was interesting

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because I also think just from ameeting people perspective. People will probably find
you on Instagram and say, oh, I saw your post on Facebook,
and that could also come across asweird because I didn't prompt you to message
me on another platform. That's true, Yeah, that's right. Especially Yeah,
if it's all on one platform,keep it to that platform. And
if you know, unless see youfor some reason, can't. Yeah.
So anyways, thought that was aninteresting little twist on our on our that

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episode we did, and some peoplewould find that interesting. Speaking of twists
on episodes, we've done another twistsfirst for a segue to this. Yeah,
what a hell of a segue.Speaking of twists, we had someone
email us. So our most recentepisode was published on September first, and
then we got an email on Septemberfourth from someone named John who's a relatively

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new listener and from his email,he's been listening from the beginning, so
he's probably not caught up yet.But his email mentioned just asking about how
to meet people in public spaces giventhe pandemic, and as we were reading
this were like, listen to themost recent episode. Come on, John,
I know you're starting from the beginning, but it's right there. Yeah,

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that's I think that's a good ideathat anybody who is listening, like
from the beginning that it's maybe you'regood idea to kind of listen to the
beginning and then when there's a newepisode come out coming out, listen to
that too. You know, likeyou're not gonna you might get spoiled on
some of the things that happened inour lives, but like it's okay,
tedfer to have that happen. Yeah, you spoiled. People do treat it
like spoilers. Sometimes I've had peopleI'd be like, oh, don't tell

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me, like like it's my actuallife. I'm sorry, Like I can't
not spoil you about what's going onin my life right now, you know.
But yeah, so people can youknow, listen to the current episode
and then go back to the backcatalog, which there are many episodes,
I know, but it was itwas kind of just a weirdly like a
weirdly psychic episode there, or youjust psychic email basically like this guy's like
complaining about all the things that wejust talked about. It was. It

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was very interesting. But John,when you eventually get around to this episode
in the year twenty twenty eight orwhatever, whenever it actually happens. I
hope you get a good laugh outof this. I mean, if he
wants the Barbie episode reviewed too,I mean he's going to be waiting for
that, that's right. And sonext up, we actually have a voicemail,

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and this was one that we thoughtwas really definitely important enough to share
with the with This was a goodone. I want to thank everybody who's
left voicemails. We have a coupleleft in our que voicemail slash emails,
and I want to encourage everybody toplease leave us a voicemail call four oh
seven five one nine zero one eightone, or emails at Dating kind of
Sucks podcast at gmail dot com.And that one random person who just texted

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the number. Yes you can alsotext the number texts the full message,
but yeah, they just texted.I just want to see if you can
text it. Yeah, like welllike okay, and then what like,
yes you can text it, butif you text it, we have to
read it. We'd rather have yourvoice on there, just to break it
up a little bit. So calland leave a voicemail. But it's four
oh seven five one nine zero oneeight one. But let's go ahead and
listen to what Kylie had to say. Hi, my name's Kylie. And

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I I don't know, I justfeel super discouraged with dating because so I
am, I'm a member of theLDS Church, and I'm sure you're not
like familiar with it the LDS Church. Like a lot of people get married
young, and I know all that, Like I served a mission, and

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when I came home from my mission, I would date, and like I
had a boyfriend for a year andlong and short of it, my dating
history has not been successful because alot of the guys like have been have
acted one way and then turn outto be not the way that they were
portraying themselves to be at the beginning. And so I'm twenty seven now,

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and I know that's not old.And I know like the rest of the
world, like outside of Utah wouldbe like, oh, you're so young,
you have so much time, andlike there are so many fishing to
see and all of that. Butwith being in Utah, like and I
want to like date someone and marrysomeone like who's inside the church. And
so with a lot of them gettingmarried, a lot of guys getting married

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young, I feel like, Idon't know, I've gotten to a point
where I'm just like if it evenworth trying anymore, because it's just been
one disappointment after the other after theother, and I feel like a lot
of the good genuine guys are like, you know, gone, like gone,
as in like they've they're married,and so I don't know, I

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think I'm just I'm just super discouragedwith it. And again, I know,
probably like someone who's not inside thechurch would be wondering why I'm even
having a problem with it, butI just I want to I'm trying to
have hope that there's still a guylike out there who's you know, in

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the church, and a genuinely goodguy who's like older and who you know,
that I can end up with.It's hard, it's kind of just
been hard for me to be hopefulwith that. But yeah, So whatever
you take from this, I'm I'mopen to hear whatever you have to say.

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Thanks Kylie for your call. ObviouslyI come from the camp of there's
nothing wrong being single, but Ido understand your frustration. After listening,
though, I would be careful boxingyourself in with a lot of the LDS
requirements and they need to be inthe church and all of those things.
Because it's a smaller pool of people. There could be someone outside of the

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church who would be a good foot. There could still be some people left
in the church who would be agood fit. But from a friend who
I know who went to BIU,who did a mission trip, I just
know that some people in LDS tendto get married pretty young, like you
mentioned, and get married quickly,like dating for maybe less than six months
and then get married, which Idon't believe is always a strong recipe for

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a strong marriage, but there's norush. Just don't box yourself in.
Consider looking outside of the church andexpanding your horizon just in case you know.
That's my recommendation. I know Adamfeels strongly about this one. I
do, And Kylie, you soundextremely like frustrated and it kind of just
sad about it the whole thing.And I have a lot of a lot

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of like sympathy for what you're goingthrough. And I think that unfortunately,
like you're, you're in a conundrumthat's that you're not your own creation,
but that you have the power overover We are both very familiar with LDS
I am extremely familiar with LDS becausewhen I was in Utah for a year

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while I was taking care of mymother, I was going on dates with
women who were former LDS. AndI have a lot of very good friends
who are former LDS as well.And notice I say former LDS, and
the reason that they're former LDS isbecause the Mormon Church is a cult.
And and I'm not saying that likein exaggerated terms. It is a cult.

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It's it's an indoctrination based not reallybased on a genuine religion, based
on one guy who has been,you know, kind of heralded as being
this champion for a small group ofpeople, but who did some really terrible
things, and a lot of theteachings of the church are extremely misogynistic and

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extremely abusive towards women, even comparedto other religions, because I mean,
I have a problem with all organizedreligions, but you like, I mean
compared to even compared to like Catholicism, and some of that LDS is worse
because it tells men that whatever theydo in their life, they will be
returned to the you know, totheir their like their spouses will be returned
to them in heaven and they willbe there in heaven. And that's why

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if you were to say, googlehow many Mormon husbands murder their spouses and
then you know, kill themselves becausethey think they're going to heaven for doing
that. So any church that supportsthat is not a healthy place for women
to be. I think that italso encourages people to get married extremely young.
Getting married in your early twenties isis just it's not unhealthy. People

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rush into it, and what happensis they might be fine for five years,
maybe even ten years. Then allsudden they realize they're very different people
and they try to figure out what'sgoing on. A lot of them try
to look into leaving the church ortrying to maybe leave each other or separate
or whatever. Or they go totheir elders for help, and their elders
blame the woman every time. Theydo not blame the man for anything.

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So it's always your fault. Everythingis always going to be your fault.
Men being shitty to you is yourfault. Men being abusive to you,
well, you know that's just that'stheir right as men, according to the
to the Mormon Church. So thefact that you're finding that men who are
lds or not what they say theyare, or they say one thing and
they act in another way is notsurprising. It's indicative of that of that

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area, of that church, ofthat entire than the entire religion. So
I might suggest just trying to expandyour resources and researching some of this information.
There's a lot of EXMO people outthere that talk about, you know,
just different things about the church,why they're toxic. There's a good
YouTube channel xm lex e x mo l e x on YouTube. There's

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a bunch of them though that Ilike, I have a there's a bunch
of people on Twitter that did dothis as well that they talk about just
like what is toxic about it andwhat you should like, why you're not
at fault for this, and whyyou can also still be religious and still
have all the same feelings and faithand maybe just not support the Mormon Church.

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So I just want to, youknow, encourage you to You sound
like you're miserable right now, andI don't think that you're going to find
what you're looking for any any stateof happiness if you stick within the confines
of the church. And then likeon a purely like separate level. As
far as organized religion, I thinkanybody who needs a religion to tell them

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what it's how to be moral orhow to be a good person, isn't
a good person. Like if youneed a church to tell you, well,
this is what you do to bea good person, this is how
you're, this is how you're.You know, a wholesome means you're not
a wholesome person. You're probably areally garbage person if you need a church
to tell you how to do it. So I want you know, I
want you to keep that in mind. These men who swear by the church
because it keeps them faithful and moralmust be really awful fucking people like they

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if they really need the church todo that. So that's that's my advice.
And I will say that that Sarahhad in big giant letters here in
our owd, my God be veryvery gentle about this, And I feel
like this is about as gentle asI could be. And what I would
say, I'm just sitting here gasping. Because one we don't we don't explicitly
talk about religion a lot. Wetry not to toe the line of being

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too political at times or at leastI try not to where Adam Adam leans
into that, and I'm like,well, let's pull put the brakes hang
on. But I do think itis important to mention what I just had
a couple of questions as you weregoing on about this. If she still
wanted to be in the church andis not interested in leaving the church,

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what is your advice to her.Don't worry about getting married. You can
still be productive and ben an adult, And you just have to not listen
to people who are telling you thatsomehow you're valuing yourself by not popping out
fourteen children, you know, allwith names like Zachariah. There, we
have it, okay to That's that'swhat I think I know. But I

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mean, I'm seriously like, youcan be productive and you can still be
part of the church. But andlike, seriously, you can message me
directly, Kylie if you have anyquestions. I can put you in touch
with some very close friends of minewho some of them who joined the church
as adults and then later walked awayfrom it because one woman who you know,
had a sexual assault and then shewas blamed for her sexual assault and
things like that, and so Ican put you in touch with some of

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the resources that might might help youat least educate yourself. So at least
if you have all the information infront of you, then you can hopefully
make a choice that best for you. All Right, and with that,
we'll go to break. But ifyou have another riveting question like that,
you can call the DKs hotline atfour zero seven five one nine zero one
eight one. We'll take a quickbreak and then we'll be back with What

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to See with Sarah G as weexplore the bad Lands National Park in South
Dakota. Well, on this episodeof What to See with Sarah G,
we are headed to South Dakota.And I know what you might be thinking,
what the hell is in South Dakotathat's worth visiting? I know because
I had the same question when myfriend said let's go to South Dakota,
and then I ended up just goingby myself. But there are actually a

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lot of things you can do.Like I mentioned, I did my first
solo trip in twenty twenty and drovefrom Nashville to Rapid City, South Dakota
so I could visit this truly underratednational park, which is Badlands National Park.
When you visit, you'll either bestaying in Rapid City or you'll have
an RV or be camping somewhere.But to get there, it's about an
hour drive from Rapid City. Andtrust me, there's really nothing out there

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besides the National Park. But don'tlet that's off you. The dramatic landscape
is covered in layered rock formations andsteep canyons that offers stunning scenic outlooks.
Tickets to enter the National Park costaround thirty dollars per vehicle, and then
there's an additional fifteen dollars per personcharge in addition to the vehicle, so
if you have like two people inyour cards, forty five bucks. I

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do recommend getting there either for thesunrise or to stay for the sunset in
order to see the glow over therocks. You can also camp in the
area, either with your RV oryou can rent a room at the lodge
within the park. If you dostay overnight, you're more than likely going
to see the stars since it isin the middle of nowhere with little to
no light pollution. I didn't getto do that, though, I was

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only there for the day, whichstayed for the sunset and that was beautiful,
but if I could do it again, I would stay for a night.
The park itself, though, isfilled with so many wild animals,
from bison, prairie dogs, bighornsheep. Fun fact, you can also
see remains. I don't think theyhave remains. Actually, they had some
signs for say, two tiger teethwere found here, so they used to

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roam the area back long before.But like I said, I was only
there for the day. Of course, there are many trails and things to
do, so two to three dayswill probably be enough to cover the whole
space. But if you only wantto take the day, you can go
from one end of the park tothe other, go from one entrance and
leave, and then take the Idon't even is it ninety back to Rapid
City. Probably, I guess that'swhat it is. But you don't need

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a whole lot of time if youwant to do a hike, though,
if you're feeling like something easy,Notch Trail is probably the most popular of
all the trails, and it feelslike you're walking on Mars. It takes
about an hour to do. Youclimb up this little rope that they have.
It was cool and easy to do, so I don't know Badlands National
Park, did not expect much fromit, and then when I got there,

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I said, Wow, can't believeI've gone my whole life without seeing
Badlands National Park. So if youwant to take a trip to South Dakota
somewhere to stop along the way,I would come back here. Honestly,
I know when you were in thearea, you didn't stop at bad Lands
National Park, and I tried to, but then they tried to charge me
thirty dollars and I tried to convincethe woman to just let me in for

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free, and they don't do thatat national parks, you know. I
tried anyways, but because I wasin there for a little bit rapid city,
it was really cool. I wasa cool little city to visit,
and I enjoyed that, So yeah, I did. I was going to
go because you did recommend it tome. And then I was like,
I'm not spending thirty dollars because Iwas. I think I only had like
time wise, I was trying toget somewhere else, so I was like,

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I had like an hour to kindof drive through, and that's not
worth spending thirty for an hour todrive through didn't seem worth it. Yeah,
no, if you're gonna go,you can want to spend you know,
four to five hours at least drivingthrough At a minimum, I would
say get there in the morning andspend the whole day. There is one
place to get food in the park, but a lot of people, like
I said, are in their RVsor in some kind of camper where they

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have food with them. So bringa lot of snacks and then I don't
know, there's just not food options. So if you go for a full
day, bring stuff with you.You Yeah, that's that's really cool.
I want to check it out again. So maybe maybe some other time I'll
be up in that area. Youshould, because I keep telling where,
I'm like, well, if wewe make our way back and go to
South Dakota, you know, nowthat I'm on the west side of things,

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I'm like, oh, we couldgo to Idaho, we can go
to the west side, we cando all of these things. Even though
South Dakota is pretty fucking far fromWashington State from where we're at, but
that far, you know, likeit's it's you know, like it'd be
it'd be a drip, like it'dbe like you definitely be taking a couple
of you know, a couple oflike a week long, ten day trip
or whatever to go really see it. But I think it'd be cool.

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Yeah, but yeah, if you'reever in the United States and want to
go to South Dakota, that's whereyou should go, right, all right,
Well, that was what to seewith Sarah g And we're gonna go
ahead and take a break. Whenwe come back, we're gonna get into
the topic about do adults needs sexeducation and the answer is going to be
yes, it's gonna be you don'twant to miss. Yeah, I'll be

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right back. So I think thiskind of came to light when we started
seeing some of the hearings around thecountry with different house legislations talking about abortion
abortion rights, and the most staggeringthing that came from this was how many
men do not understand women's bodies inany capacity whatsoever, and that men were

(32:20):
making laws regulating women's bodies without evenunderstanding the basic, the most basic of
biology. There was that senator,a representative who said that like the body
had ways to shut down rape,Like he just thought that that's just like
somehow could happen. They couldn't explainwhat an ectopic pregnancy was. So they're

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talking about abortion in all cases,not understanding the ectopic pregnancy was where the
woman's life is essentially at risk andthere's no baby basically, and they're still
like, oh, well that,you know, pro life, blah blah
blah, you know, and becausethey're just fucking idiots, and then like
you know, they hear like there'sa there's a proceeding are called the transvaginal
ultrasound. Oh fuck it has theword trans in it, yes, yes,

(33:05):
and go crazy thinking that it's somethingto do with with with trans rights
and anything like that, and ithas nothing to do with it whatsoever.
There was a woman on Twitter Ifeel bad for talking about. She basically
just posted a tweets thing that shehad had to go in for a transvaginal
ultrasound, and then all these thingssay, yeah, well you're a man,
so that's you know, blah blahblah, Like all of these comments
are just like on Twitter on Twitterof these people just replying to this random
stranger saying well, you know,the feet never lie, like posting going

(33:28):
through her feet to find pictures ofher feet and trying to say that she
was a man she's assists, she'sassists woman who's having a transvaginal ultrasound,
and she tried to explain to them, and they're all just like, so
fucking ignorant. Oh yes, so. And I don't think these men are
the exception. I think that thesemen are the norm. This type of
ignorance is almost like rewarded. It'slike, why would you want to know

(33:51):
more? And I think it.You know, our society doesn't help the
fact that we don't study women enoughas far as like medical science and are
like that, like things like anemetriosis are barely you know, are only
now being studied, even though it'sbeen affected women for years. Because if
it affected men, we'd already havea care for it. You know,
there're already be a pill you takeit, endometrials will be cured, you
know. So what we did waswe decided to kind of to highlight this

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and highlight the need for men tomaybe learn to shut up and learn something,
and maybe women to not be afraidto stand up and be like,
hey, you don't know what thefuck you're talking about. We compiled some
of these from the internet, someof the worst, like w twof moments
that show that maybe every adult inthe world should be required to take a
basic biology and sex side class beforeever being allowed to be within three feet

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of another human being. Again,like, it should just be a requirement.
You should have to have a licensebefore your dick can get anywhere near
a woman's vagina. Like, Ifeel like it should be a legal requirement.
Now, side note before we getinto some of the worst things I've
seen on the Internet where I actuallylost brain cells reading these posts. Have
you seen the TikTok videos of womenasking men about like just the anatomy of

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a woman, or like could youshow me where the clitters is? And
they can't fucking find it? Literally, or asking them how many tampons a
woman needs for her period and menrespond with one? I think, just
one? Right, yeah, Likemen don't understand hormones, pregnancies, periods,

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anything anatomy related. There was thewhole thing I came across with other
peeing where they're like, women don'tpee from like their vagina, you know,
And it was it was this wholeconcept they have how many holes?
Right? Yeah, that's another onetoo, And it really is crazy that
and these are men that like,are adult men. These aren't like children,
These aren't someone who is still learningthis or whatever, Like you know,
these are adult mens, some ofwhom have had children, And like,

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how did you manage to do thiswithout even understanding the basics? Well,
I think part of the problem.And not to get too political,
even though I just mentioned this earlierin the episode, but there's these billboards
going around. I'm not even surewhich state it is now it's shame on
me of that they're teaching. They'retrying to throw sex into schools now and
trying to push a porn agenda intoschools and all of the ship, which

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is not true. But if therewas some form of sex education, like
going over body parts like they doin other anatomy classes, we wouldn't have
a huge I mean, we'd stillhave a problem because it wouldn't cover everything,
right, but just talking about theseare the parts of the body would
be something of value for society,especially for these individuals. It's what it

(36:32):
is. It's conservative. People areso terrified of the idea of even talking
about sex or nudity or the humanbody in any capacity because somehow that's a
problem to educate people gets shameful whenthe reality is that actually protects kids from
being abused because they know what's wrongand what's you know, what's not acceptable.

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But it's never it's never, youknow, it's always that part of
the part that's considered quote unquote grooming, when what it does actually educate people
against groomers, and it educates peopleagainst the you know, the actual groomers
in the family and in the churchand you know, in the right wing
politicians and things like that. Butso, yes, it's it's really weird

(37:15):
if we actually have those classes.If kids as young as you know,
I think six, seven, eightshould be learning these things the very basics.
It doesn't mean they're gonna run outand start having sex. Anyone who
says that is just a fucking idiot. It means they're educated to know about
their own bodies, and it makesthem sound a lot less stupid thirty years
later when they think that you knowthat you use one tampon during your period.

(37:36):
Well, I also think too girlsare getting their periods earlier and earlier
now because of hormones, so theydon't understand what's happening in their bodies,
and then they can't talk about itin the classrooms because that's banned or indoctrination
or whenever, grooming or whatever thefuck you want to call it, and
it's creating even more problems for thepeople having to figure out what's going on

(37:57):
with their bodies. I mean,I took I took a sex class,
but it wasn't until I was twentyin college paying for that class, and
I got a lot of value outof it. I mean, no surprise,
none of the men knew any ofthe parts of the vagina when they
had to do the TESTA like,there's so many parts. Oh my god,
it's so easy to be a guy. And of course everyone passed the
name the male anatomy, but nota lot of people did well on the

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female anatomy part, which tells youa lot. But it was the first
time I felt comfortable learn it,you know, I was at an age
where we talked more in depth aboutsex and things like that, but even
just the anatomy stuff. I'm like, why couldn't have this been taught in
high school? Oh? Yeah,absolutely, And I mean I think it
should be taught even younger. Butbecause the kids are having sex younger too,

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and I think that it's just themore education, the more the less
like this. Someone thinks, youknow, oh, I can't get pregnant
that way, because get pregnant holdinghands whatever. Yeah, they're yeah,
because it's that's the thing. It'seither really innocent, Oh can I get
pregnant holding hands, or it's Ican't get pregnant if you know, if
I pull out right like, andit's like they're both come from the same
level of ignorance too. Yeah.So yeah, some of these are just

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you're gonna blow your mind, andwe're gonna start with I mean, I
feel like all of them are justare insane. And these are coming from
different places of the Internet. Isaw some of these from the account of
ask Aubrey on Twitter. She stealsthese from other people and removes all sources,
so I have no problems also stealingthem and using them too, because
you know, fair play. Sohere's one that says, I can't find

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a source, but I know therehave been cases. Now you know,
when everyone starts without by the waymeans yeah, that's really scientific. So
I can't find a source. ButI know there have been cases where a
man has sex with one woman,then goes and has sex with another woman
before showering, and some of thefirst woman's eggs are still on his penis,
they can implant into the second woman, who can carry the first woman's

(39:50):
child. It is the same ideaas medical egg donors. Again, men
don't understand pregnancies. Eggs don't justpop out. Well, they also think
that are they do they think thatthey're having sex with the eggs in like
do they think the eggs are justlike poking out of the cervix and every
time like you're you're like slamming awoman, like you're you're like grabbing one,

(40:13):
like it's like a like a clawmachine. Is that what they think
their penis is doing? Like,I don't understand they don't. Just the
utter stupidity in this one. Yes, it's the same idea as medical egg
donors. That's I mean, whygo to a medical egg donnor when you
could just have sex with one womanand then before shower and go have sex
with another woman and just transfer theegg to her that way, Like that's
all you have to do. It'sthat easy if you're a man, so

(40:37):
simple. Why didn't women think ofthis? Another one? The woman can
This is a statement not even aquestion. The woman can get pregnant if
the underwear is washed together, right, So I'm trying to figure out the
chronology and this so yeahs okay,So this means if you just wash a

(40:58):
man's and woman's underwear to get notlike that baby forms huh, then the
woman just magically or if she wearsher underwear again after it's been washing the
man's underwear, then somehow she canget pregnant. But we're washing it.
So where's the sperm going? Youknow, that doesn't it doesn't matter.
It sticks around because you know,because the sperm is strong and eggs are

(41:20):
weak. Apparently apparently eggs eggs willjust yeah, we'll just pop out of
you. Sure. Yeah, Sothat that that was great, Like there's
not even any it doesn't even makesense. What I do like is that
it's a screen chot from Reddit.I can tell because it has negative four
votes, so at least people onlynegative four, but at least someone was
voting it down. Okay, nextone and yeah, and then this one.

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It's just like it's like the sheeraudacity of men. Okay, this
one says, I am six feettall and I sent my wife to the
hospital because they said she had novery insist and I popped them from going
too deep. Pause, why didyou have to mention that you're six feet
tall because you have a big dick? Is is that you're saying? But
you know, it doesn't necessarily meanthat either. He probably thinks because he's

(42:05):
tall, it means he's a bigdick too as well. Okay, And
then so he popped them from goingtoo deep her very insist. Let's just
say all the nurses that passed bythe room either gave me a thumbs up
or were flirting with me after theyread the chart. I highly doubt that
fucking happened, my dude, Like, first of all, they I mean,
I have never had no very insist. Have you ever had one?

(42:28):
No? I haven't. Okay,I've had friends that had one that said
there was one of the most intenselypainful things that is, like basically to
the point of vomiting and everything likethat. Can you imagine having sex,
well, okay, having sex,but not just that. Well, if
you if you had assist that youdidn't know like it was about to pop
or whatever, you know, Okay, but having sex with someone and then
causing her that much pain, havingher being so much pain that she has

(42:51):
to go to the hospital and thinkingthat it's because you're like and then being
proud of that first of all,Like that's just that's just a lack of
empathy right there, Like, howdo you not feel bad for your spouse
that she's in that much pain becausethat she had to go to the fucking
hospital And then hopefully she divorced hisdumb ass for this, for this,
just for this post alone. Butyou know, no, you cannot,

(43:13):
like, you cannot pop and thevariances. Now, it's not like popping
a pimple. You just don't,like I just hated a million times and
it just pops. Well. Andalso, does he think that he's having
sex with someone's ovaries? Does hethink that he like, yeah, I
mean yeah, you know. Doeshe not understand what the service is?
Does he understand where where the ovariesare, where his dick is going?

(43:34):
Does he think his dick touches anover? I think he thinks he's he's
I think he's having sex. Ithink he thinks he's having sex with her,
with her in her ovaries or roundher overs or overari adjacent. Now,
I think he Basically what probably happenedis he jack hammered so hard because
he was so terrible at sex thathe thought jack hemeron was only thing to
do. That it was like poundingagainst her, causing her entire body to
shake in that product that you knowthat could have caused Assist to pop.

(43:57):
Once again, nothing worth celebrating.You cause somebody to go through an extreme
amount of pain because you're bad atsex. What the nurses were giving him
thumbs up and we're really you know, flirting with him for sure. Chart
this under things that never happened fortwo hundred alex for real and also just
from the egg getting on, likethe transfer of the egg and then this

(44:17):
one. I feel like men onthis side of the internet really think that
when their dick goes inside a woman, they're touching eggs, they're touching over
like they have no clue of theanatomy whatsoever. Yeah, I think maybe
I don't know how you have toexplain it to him in a way that
it's just like if you pull yourcar up to the mechanics shop, you're

(44:44):
not in the garage, you're justwaiting for them to do the work.
It's not until like when they youknow, they have to go in and
they have to pull it in themselvesin order to fix your car and then
let it out. You didn't doanything, you know, that kind of
thing, like, because I feellike they don't understand. They were,
like, what they're having sex witha vagina, right, they do,

(45:04):
but they don't understand what a vagina, what is, what its purpose is
they I think they think that allof the baby making parts are right in
that little area. It's much whenyou get it all, it's like it's
like a romper room, just bouncingaround everywhere. I hate man. Okay,
oh god, this next one.Yeah, this next one. You're
ahead and enjoy reading this one.My boyfriend thinks my lubricant is another man's

(45:29):
come Hi, y'all. I'm tryingto prove to my boyfriend that women can
have creamy white discharge as well.We were having sex the other day and
I left some white discharge on hisdick, and now he thinks it's come
from another man. I wasn't sureif he was serious, but he is
serious. It's kind of funny tome. At the same time, he
doesn't believe me this is common,right, Like this poor woman like,

(45:52):
you know, like the gasolt intothinking that her like her enjoying herself is
somehow like is somehow not not acceptable. That's really what it is, is
that she was enjoying herself and wascoming and he attacked her and calling is
calling it another man's comment. Iliterally can't. That's like the same thing

(46:14):
as when men say, oh,you're so wet and it's literally just discharge,
and I'm like, no, actually, I'm not wet. This is
just my normal body clean, likemy vagina just cleaning itself. But cool,
I'm glad you think that I'm soppingwet right now, right? And
I mean, and that's the thing. Does he does he think that whenever
she is like actually wet, thatshe's it's because you know, there's more

(46:38):
coming there. Does he understand howthe body lubricates itself? Does he understand
that no women's lubrat, you know, self lubricating can have colors and everything
like it just I don't, Yeah, insecurity of men, audacity of men,
no knowledge of a woman's anatomy orfunctions, I just have to yeah,

(47:00):
And I have to wonder, likewhat is going through his brain rather
than like to think like I don'tlike. It blows my mind. It
blows in mind to think that,And I think that just a even not
to understand that that this is notnormal to blame your girlfriend to like to
have your your ignorance instead of justasking her about it or try to talk

(47:22):
to about it, you lead rightinto blaming her for doing something wrong.
Yeah, what what is that?Oh? Interesting? I didn't know?
It's not It's not embarrassing to askwhat's going on with your partner's body of
like, hey, is this normal? Like just to have the conversation if
you don't know, you don't know, that's fine, but asking instead of
it. The first time I've evernoticed that is that like, yeah,

(47:44):
you know, is that a goodthing? Is that a bad thing?
Is it a neutral thing? Youknow? Is this something? I mean
I should do something different or youknow, like that that's what you should
be asking, not oh my god, you have another man's come inside you
like, like to to lead tothat conclusion just shows that you are a
piece of shit human being. Yeah, I'm trying to think the female equivalent
of not knowing about a man's bodypart, like about a penis or just

(48:09):
like the reproductive system in general.I know, like I was confused in
my teens of prec I had noidea what pre come was versus actual come.
So that was a learning of,oh, you could get pregnant from
pre come, and yeah, that'swhat happens at the beginning, makes sense,
pre whatever, and that was thatwas something to overcome. But as

(48:31):
far as I knew what the ballswere, you know, I understood that
aspect. I understood circumcised versus uncircumcised, I don't understand, like, there's
not the only the only thing thatI could think of that would like women
would be unaware of, would justit would also be related to it would

(48:51):
be how and frequently men wash theirass and then they find that out when
they get down in that general area, And that's that's not a ignorant thing.
That's just a why do men dothat? Thing? You like?
But that would be like the onlything I can think of is just once
again, you know, men beingdisgusting people, magma. That was something
I learned in my sex said classthat I had no idea what it was

(49:13):
because people don't clean themselves properly.Yeah, yeah, exactly, But that's
not really an anatomy thing. That'sa routine. Yeah, hygiene, Yeah
I did. I did see onewhen I was going through these that was
about smeegma, but it was verymuch obviously tongue in cheeks. This guy
was being sarcastic about it, andso I didn't post it in there,
even though I think where I gotit from they thought it was legit,

(49:36):
and I was like, I'm notwilling to believe that this guy is legited
like he was. He was kindof joking about it being good for you,
like hell, you know, likeit's got protein or something like that.
But I think he was just beingnasty, Okay, as nasty as
this next one, though this onewas on Facebook. Yeah, Okay,
it's actually fucked up when you realizethat those clots that girls get in their

(49:58):
period blood are bits of the babiesfingers and shit, what the fuck?
Like, Sarah, would you liketo enlighten any men who are listening right
now might be confused by this?Would Okay? I think men have really
latched onto those abortion signs where they'relike, oh, the heartbeat at this

(50:20):
stage, and the baby looks likethis at four at two weeks, and
it's a full formed child, notthe case, periods are the shedding of
the lot, like the lining isbeing shed and so there's there's clots and
things like that. But it's fromthe egg, it's from other things.
It's not you're not going to havefingers and toes and eyes. It's not.

(50:45):
It's not fertilized. It's just it'sit's just anatomy and biology and a
lesson that they did not learn right. It is Uh, it's basically yeah,
there's not even know how to explainit yet, to explain to somebody
just other than just you're stupid.You know, you know someone who says

(51:07):
this is fucking stupid and you haveto be so ignorant that to think,
you know, the whole point ofwhen someone has a period, they're not
pregnant. Their uterine line is shedding. But they think if they think that
having a period means you're killing ababy too, that's probably what they think.
So you can't win either way.You're either killing a baby or you're

(51:28):
having an abortion and killing a baby. Insane, insane. But you know,
if you don't want to get pregnant, you can follow the advice of
this next astute observer of womankind.Love this guy. No, women cannot
get pregnant with legs closed. Ifyou're if your legs are closed, then
your vagina is not going to getenough oxygen to optimally function. Besides,

(51:52):
you also need light, which youaren't going to get with your legs closed.
So you need light and oxygen tocreate a plant. You're pregnant.
Apparently, am I? A plantis my uterous need? Like it's like
a plant environment down there? Yeah? No, apparently he h this person
read about photosynthesis and thoughts that thatapplied to humans. So what about the

(52:15):
people who fuck in the dark?Though, I mean not this guy.
He makes sure that there's a there'sa light on at all times, like
right right on your crotch while you'refucking as you can't of course, Yeah,
I'm gonna make sure you got plentyof light in there. And then
you got to sit there with youwith your legs spread to let it breathe
for a while, getting enough oxygenin there. But you know, so
all you have to do is justclose your legs, and as as long

(52:36):
as you close your legs, youcan't get pregnant. You know, It's
funny, It's like this guy isyou know, is just admitting how terrible
he has it sex. Because haveyou ever had sex with your legs closed
with from behind or from like offfrom the side obviously, yeah, you
know, but no, you can'tdo that because you can't even have sex
that way. Your legs are closed, right, you can get pregnant either.
It's the old school thinking of pincha penny between your legs and keep

(53:00):
your legs closed, because that's thewhole penny. Huh, I haven't heard
I would heard that one. Isthat at all? Is that something you
were told? No, not me, but friends who went to Catholic school
were told, pinch a penny,pinch a penny. If you can pinch
a penny, then you're sitting theright way. Then you're you're proper,
you're ladylike, and you can't getpregnant if you're pinching a penny between your

(53:21):
knees. Well, I think thatthe first time that I was like intimate
with someone and they were naked andthey had their legs closing from behind,
I could still see. I waslike, oh my god, it doesn't
it doesn't hide everything. Like it'ssurprised me because I didn't know, you
know, it just like it's stillthere idea for they it's all it's still
there, it's not all hidden lookingat that, you know, it's still
have fun with it. Yeah,it's let alone. Let's just ignore the

(53:45):
asshole for a second here. Youcan still right, yes, but pinch
a penny, because nothing bad canhappen if you do that. Close your
legs. So if you do getlots of light and lots of sun tor
tier, I mean lots of airtier of vagina, so you do get
pregnant. We also have to makesure that you you're very careful if if

(54:06):
you decide to go swimming, tellme. Next person asks can pregnant woman
go swimming? Now? He startsoff and says, I am a man,
so I don't know. You know. That's that's all you needed to
say right there. You know,No, you don't need to ask anything
else. Shut the fuck up afterthat. I'm a man, so I
don't know. Yes, correct,this is the only correct thing that you
said. Is it possible for pregnantwomen to go swimming without unintentionally drowning the

(54:30):
baby? How can the baby breatheif the vagina is underwater? Should the
woman keep the vagina above water,so the baby can breathe through the vagina,
so essentially on herself. So shejust stand on her head in the
water and make sure that her legsare open to the air to make sure

(54:52):
that the baby can breathe. Yes, there's this thing called a uterus and
a cervix, And if you learnedabout those two things, I think that
would answer your question. I mean, and a placenta, and you know,
and essentially the you know, thesack that the baby is in not
breathing air like he's obviously, manwho doesn't have, who's never had,

(55:13):
you never want witness to birth either, you know, like do you do
you think that the baby's breathing airinside? Do you think a pregnant woman
is filled with air like she's likeis you know? That's that's what it
is. Like, that's looks likea little space station in there, and
the baby's just like floating around andlike and walking on the moon. Like
I have to think it's what thisguy thinks that he thinks she's gonna go

(55:35):
in the water all of a sudden, the water is gonna rush, yeah,
through a cervix. And just sohow do women who aren't pregnant go
swimming? Does it just attack ourentire inside? I mean, what's the
alternative? We're just not Yeah,don't you know, You're just you know,
it's just automatically. That's why,you know, that's why real ladies
don't go swimming, because you canget pregnant by octopus that way, don't

(55:57):
you know? Well, so whenyou go swimming, water does and go
right up your urethro then right,it's right? Why does it go rab
your butt? Yeah? I meandoes it? They do not understand.
It's so many. I mean,obviously these are men, but men men
have already showing themselves how else stupidthey are. But it just continues.
And I think that identifying yourself asa man and then ask a stupid question

(56:20):
is even funnier to me and someof these at least you said I don't
know, so I don't know.We clearly know you don't know, Like
no shit, dude, Yeah,next question? Oh god, mail here,
thanks for calling that one up.I think it's gross how young girls
push out their periods and don't holdthem and wait until they are older.
They don't need to have their periodsyet when they are thirteen. Why can't

(56:45):
they just wait to have them untilthey're eighteen because of hormones, you dumb
shit, because of fucking hormones.Let's just like saying, like why do
ten year old boys get boners?You know, like it's it's like your
your body is reacting and growing aswell, you know, like and yeah,
periods happened for some women start reallyearly, some start later. But
like it's because he's sexualizing women becauseperiods to him, I mean while that

(57:08):
means ready to yeah, basically notanything else. She's a woman if she
has her period. What. Ilove this. This guy actually posted this
in the subreddit periods on Reddit,So he just had the audacity just to
post not a question because this isn'treally a question statement, Yeah, just
to post his statement about how hethinks it's gross. And then you know,

(57:30):
the user counts deleted, which isgood because I imagine that he got
ripped a new one. Also,thirteen thirteen fourteen is on the later side
of having your period. Yeah,most people. I was fourteen when I
had my period, and I wasway on the late side of things.
I remember going to the doctor andthey're like, you still haven't had your
period. I was like Nope,still hasn't happened to me. I'm shame

(57:52):
you again. I've had a slewof shitty doctors. But you know,
but I was trying to honestly forthis, for this guy right here.
I was just trying to hold ituntil I was eighteen, really, was
what I was saying. That's thething. Two is this concept that you
can hold in your period, likeI think I can control it. Men
think that when you have to pee, how you can kind of hold it

(58:13):
in a little bit for a littlewhile, you know, or something like
that. They think a period isthe same thing. You just you just
hold it in, you know,you just just you know, wait until
they hear how periods disrupt women's livelihoodsin third world countries that they can't go
work because it's it's not okay,and they don't have products, so they
have to stay at home on bleedingdays, and it pushes them back furthers.

(58:35):
The it ruins their education, itruins their job prospects, and they
feel ousted from their community because theybecause of their fucking period, which is
a natural process. So deleted usersshut the fuck up. I saw another
one too, where there was ateacher giving out making sure that all of
our menstruating like students had whatever theyneeded, like pads and tampons of different

(58:57):
sizes like that. And there wassome commenter on this post saying, I
can't believe you're giving contraceptives to children. That's like the people who say tampons
just preps you for having sex.I had friends moms who said that ship
to them, and they were soafraid when I carried tampons in my backpack
and she was on her period andshe kept asking me, do you have

(59:17):
a pad instead? It's like,no, I don't have a pad.
I have a tampon. Do youwant this or not? And she's like,
my mom's going to be so madif she finds out I'll use a
tampond because it's not why what's notjust men too? Women obviously also have
very bad takes on sex. Said, but you know I'm gonna blame that
on men running the education system basically. Well, yeah, and then you

(59:37):
mentioned anything like period cups and havingto put your fingers up there to stop,
you know, for a cop toprevent bleeding out, not bleeding out,
but you know what I mean,Like, yeah, just any of
those period related things people think aredisgusting because you're touching yourself versus using an
applicator, which is bad for theenvironment. In my opinion, that's why

(01:00:00):
you use a cup. I willalways be an advocate for period cups.
But I remember when I started usinga period cup, people said, oh,
but that's so gross that you putyour fingers up there. Have you
had sex? Do you touch yourself? What do you fucking mean? What
do you not wash your hands like? You know? Right? Right?
Oh my god? Anyways, Idigrect. Yeah, yeah, let's uh,

(01:00:21):
let's get in a couple more ofthese here. I think you get
to share this one. I think, right, No, this is you.
This is a this is confirmed fact. That's how we know it's neither
confirmed nor a fact. Females retaina percentage of DNA from every man she
has ever slept with, so ofcourse it starts with females. So we
also know that this is a pieceof ship. Person Logically speaking, the

(01:00:44):
more guys she's fornicated with, theless that the kid will look like you.
How do I retain the DNA?Please explain that to me. Don't
you have a little you know,your little file cabinet inside your vagina that
just you know, takes little samples. There's a little a little slo it
just drops a little slides on andthen you know, mixes them all together
for you whenever you decide to getpregnant. That's how that's how it works,

(01:01:07):
the little lab inside you. Sothe kid because there's a lab.
Oh my god. Stuff. Soif I have sex and get pregnant,
they'll look like a culmination of allthe other people I've slept with and not
the person who's sperm it's actually comingfrom. Well, it just won't look
as much like them, and it'lllook like them plus every other person you've

(01:01:29):
ever slept with, because you retainDNA from every every every time you slept
with somebody. So what happens whenI go on to Jerry Springer and they
ask who the father is? Isit just yeah, it's it everybody.
It's like, it's wow. Ifthat's how it works. Yeah, I
learned more every day. Thank you, thank you for educating me. Wow.

(01:01:52):
Oh okay, that next one's great. This is one. I think
I think these are these are gonnabe our last two. And these the
last two are kind of my myfavorites. I think, all right,
have any men here wanted to eata woman out during their period so they
can find the egg with their tongueharbord in their cheeks and then come on

(01:02:12):
their own mouth to fertilize the eggand incubate it, creating a mouth baby.
Pause like no words, Okay,yeah, now I imagine the I
think that they're being I imagine partof this is them thinking they're being funny.
Well, mouth baby doesn't sound likea very serious term to me.
I don't know about you. Yes, but these are people who think really

(01:02:35):
like that you can't get pregnant ifyou don't have some light and air going
to your vagina. So like,is it just a test? They think,
test too, baby, and thenimmediately go, well, then I
can create a baby in my mouth, so yeah the elements, Yeah I
don't need one, I need women. I'll just go ahead and have a
mouth baby. So and just theidea do they I also think that they

(01:02:59):
think that the egg is like thesize of like a chicken egg, Like
it's something that they could just likethey can see and they can see it,
and they can they're actually capable ofseeing with the naked eye and be
able to be like, oh,here's the egg, you know, and
just like pocket in the corner oftheir mouth. Yeah, I just like
I don't even like know why someone'sbrain would go here, but like your

(01:03:19):
brain is broken if this is thisis what you're thinking about. Also periods.
Let's go back to periods for asecond. Unfertilized egg right, shedding
the lining of the vagina. Andthat's that's what you're eating out. If
you're you know, if you're eatingout a woman under period, that's what
you're getting. You're not getting anegg that could be fertilized. It's already

(01:03:43):
an unfertilized egg at that point.What the fuck are you talking about?
Hi? I yeah, this one. I'm so, I'm just like I
want to meet these people in person. How old do you think they aggressively?
You know, some of them likeand because I've read a lot of
context with some of some of thestuff too, or I've gone for some
of them, I've actually gone tothe original threads or anything. I would

(01:04:04):
say that there are people anywhere fromtheir twenties and up so and I can
see in your twenties maybe being alittle less aware, but like there are
people who are grown. I meana lot of these things are These are
grown ass adults who even call themselvesdoctors, like our last one, who
is doctor Oz, that failed senatecandidate and uh scam artists from Oprah.

(01:04:28):
Wait, he doesn't know how tomake a salad. There was some grocery
store thing he did where he wastrying to make guacamole or something. It
was He's like I'm talking about like, yeah, it was an appetizing thing
about like making a vegetable plotter orsomething like that, like a crew detee
yeah, and like but he waslike putting the weirdest things on it.
Like it was like you know,and then it turns out, you know,
he's like twelve properties and you know, millions and millions of dollars.

(01:04:49):
He probably never made a dish himself, you know, in years anyway.
So this uh, this this doctor, you know, a man in his
I think exties or seventies says ahevolution. Ugly men make more sperm than
attractive men because they don't get asmany chances to deposit it. And then

(01:05:12):
there's a link in his tweet.I don't know what that leads to because
I just have the image. Butyeah, I can't remember what it goes
to actually either. But but Ibut I remember when he posted this.
It's probably like something. It's probablywhat it's probably going to do is one
of his little snake oil pills orwhatever. It's like boost your your sperm
capacity or whatever, you know,if you're an attractive man. So the
idea that first of all, thatugly men have less sex and its attractive

(01:05:35):
men, Okay, maybe that's possible, you know, I don't know.
I think you know, what oneperson considers ugly, another person considers attractive,
you know, etc. There aretraditionally attractive people, but there's plenty
people that are just average that haveplenty of sex. And the idea that
the ugly ones make more sperm thatit's just like I don't even know how

(01:05:58):
to like how to just smack thisinto his head dead to that. It
doesn't make any It makes no sense. I mean when we but we have
when we ejaculate, I mean there'syou know, thousands of sperm coming out,
And do you think that like uglymen all sudden it's like a more
of a fire hose, that it'sall of a sudden, just like it's
like ten thousands or hundreds of thousandsor millions of that. I know this
dude that I'm in is ugly,so I'm going to produce more spurs,
right and like and like Brad Pitt, just like one little tiny sperm pops

(01:06:21):
out and just swims around, youknow, because he's like, well,
you know, I get to havesex all the time or something like that.
I mean, I don't understand whatthe fuck this is, but that's
the evolution. It's evolution, Adamfigure figure that. Yeah. Evolution ah,
evolution. Ah, you don't understandwhat evolution means that If this worked

(01:06:42):
true, let's let's just say thisjust scientifically. Let's follow this along as
a logical path, that ugly menmade more sperm than attractive men because they
don't get as many chances. Thiswould happen over a series of generations of
generations of generations of generations, andso this would be not us. But
maybe you know, four hundred yearsfrom now, the ugly men would have

(01:07:03):
the strongest sperm in the world.If this were even possible, you would
not see any effects of it now. You would not see anything change now.
It might be four thousand years fromnow, like it would not be
something that you would be able tolike examine in real time. And the
fact that he thinks that just showswhat a fucking quack he is too.
And I think it just goes toshow that, yes, adults need such

(01:07:26):
education. And this is not justchildren. These are fucking people who are
have are spokespeople who are are doctors, people who are you know, who
are politicians, people who have thelike public's trust generally speaking, saying this
terrible stuff. My dad said one. And my dad is a Republican,
and I love my father, buthe made a statement saying, I listened

(01:07:50):
to my doctors for my health care, and I listened to my politicians for
other things. So if you're wantingto know more about your own body,
ask a fucking healthcare professional, nota politician, not just somebody called doctor,
right, an actual medical professional.Yeah, it blows up like it's

(01:08:11):
crazy. Like I recently had adoctor's appointment a couple of weeks ago,
and the things she was telling methat people come into the office and start
asking about because they saw a TikTokon this or whatever on that she goes,
it drives me out the fucking wall. She didn't say fucking, but
she's like, it drives me outthe wall. Just all this misinformation from
people who have a following, andpeople just assume they're right because they're famous

(01:08:32):
or popular or whatever the fuck,but they have no knowledge, they've done
no research. They just assume thosepeople must be right. So, if
you're listening to this and you havebeen challenged by somebody with your you know,
like what you know about your ownbody, if you're a woman or
fim presenting or anything, stand strong. Don't let and don't let never never

(01:08:56):
let a man or any any idiotlike gaslights you about your your own body,
and you know, and do yourresearch if you if you have questions,
don't make statements like this. Ifyou think you know something and you
don't, just go ahead and dosome research. It's okay. And if
you're with a partner, guys,and you're curious about something, don't accuse
them of anything. Don't don't especiallydon't jump to them cheating or anything like

(01:09:17):
that. Ask them, talk tothem about it, talking about their body,
their bodies, learn about their bodies. I can promise you it makes
you a better sexual partner if youknow more about a woman's body, because
then you can sympathize when she's strugglingwith cramps related to her period, or
just any anything sex related where shedoesn't feel comfortable because of whatever, or

(01:09:40):
something's going on down there and she'sgoing to needs to go to the doctor
for that. Don't just assume,oh, I know the answer because I'm
a guy and I've had sex withten other people. No, you don't
know the answer. You don't knowher body because those thirty second jack Rabbit
sessions where you came and then askedher if she came and she said,
oh, yeah, sure I diddon't really count as you sexual experiences.

(01:10:01):
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