July 9, 2024 • 21 mins
Don't worry if you can't because Kate Ritchie is here to EduKate (shameless plug for our other podcast, please go give it a listen). We bond over our annoyance of "work braggers" and Wippa shares an interesting massage story that his wife went through...
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
With k podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Hey guys, I need to talk to you about something
very serious, and actually I just see he's very serious.
Hey guys, I just want to know what you might
do in this situation. And really it's about boundaries within
a relationship. Fitzy, I kind of know what you're going
to say, but I just you're always the red, the heck,
(00:27):
the herring, the red herring.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
He's more of a puffer fish, that's a rude, more
of a sale fish like slender Fast, dangerous.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Okay, moving on the headline, is this my husband likes
sleepovers with his best friend. I feel uneasy.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
I just hate the words sleepover.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Well, sleepover suggests a level of intimacy.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Now it doesn't. I would think sleepover is trying to
make it quite casual, like you had sleepovers when you're
a kid. The thing is the husband's best friend is
a femi and a female that he used to go
to school. Get involved here, guys. This woman that they
are married, she just cannot shake these suspicions. Her husband
(01:16):
is always texting this old school power. Often he spends
the day with her, and now it has progressed into
sometimes staying overnight. I don't know how he excuses that,
whether it's I've had a few too many drinks. It's
better to stay over than to drink drive, of course,
but she just doesn't know what to say. Does she
(01:36):
get invited to these No, because what happened was they
had a school reunion after a very long time. He
had obviously lost touch with this girlfriend friend. I don't
know if they dated at high school, but a female
friend at school they were very close. And now his
excuse to the new wife is, we're kind of just
(01:57):
making up for lost time. It's been so nice to reconnec.
It reminds me of my childhood. She was always such
a good friend and is developing into another great friend now.
And the worst part of this story, I think is
that when she the wife says, look, I can't shake it.
I don't like this, he calls her silly. And see,
(02:18):
I don't like she's allowed to feel the way she feels.
Don't say she's silly for having these feelings, because I
think anyone would.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Feelings, right. Can I ask some questions here? Because when
you say sleepover to me, that means same bed, now, Tommy,
that's what I mean.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
That's sharing a bed.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
I don't think it is. Tommy and I've shared a
bed in New Zealand. Queens don't really have an issue
with that. If you're saying sleepover staying at someone's house,
I wouldn't care if you stayed over at my house,
but I wouldn't share a bed with you.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Yeah. But if I stayed at your house, it's Lisa, Yeah,
and Lisa and the kids would be there. I'm not
just coming no, I know, but what I'm saying is
there's no do you know what I mean? But there
would be no reason for that to happen, and it
just wouldn't be appropriate.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
But I was showering separately would be a good start.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
How do you get to a point where you go
over to someone's house for drinks and then you go,
I've had too many. Can't you get an uber home
or a taxi home? You don't have to stay over?
Speaker 2 (03:17):
No, I agree, But I'm trying to.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Think in your world, I might have one or two
girlfriends that Lisa wouldn't care if I slept next to
in a bed.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
I've slept with male friends in a bed.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
I wouldn't even put myself in that position.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
You've got other options, Yeah, I know you do. I'm
just talking about the hypothetical if you had to share
a bed, would Lisa actually care? I think she would.
She would.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I think you ever slept with a different woman in it,
like a friend in the in the bed.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
Absolutely no chance I would feel uncomfortable depends.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
I mean, I've got friends, so Eliza would be a
great example, very old friend of mine.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
When are you ever ever going to be in athal Rock? Right,
so there's no other beds in the world.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
It's hype ethical. We're I know what you mean.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
But let's just say you had to explain it to Lisa.
You don't think she would feel uncomfortable, A think? So okay,
well you keep thinking that.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
No, I don't think she'd really care. It'd be the
same as Tom. I mean, when we woke up sponing Tom, I.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Was, well, I couldn't sleep that night because you're snoring.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
Tom has had a T shirt on nothing else. Oh
my gosh, it was a Lakers.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Tom was a big bob. This is the Wiper with
Cape Ritchie podcast.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
Look, guys, after we had such a success with our
singles ball, it's got me thinking about relationships and the
amount of people who were reaching out, maybe hoping that
they're single, and it could be that they have finally
paid attention to the red flags within the relationship. Do
you want me to get to some of these red flags?
I mean, I know we don't have long but I
just I want to say that. And this is talking
(05:03):
from a woman's point of view about her boyfriend, but
it could work vice versa. So I'm not like, you know, whatever, whatever,
But sometimes the red flags can show up within a
relationship when you're with somebody who might have incredibly low
self esteem, and that is awful for them, but in turn,
it kind of comes back on you and you end
(05:23):
up having to deal with it and not address your
own needs. So when someone says to you a lot,
maybe you're too good for me, you're too good for me.
So what that does is that there's an imbalance of power,
and then they you have to spend a lot of
your time reassuring.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Them that but I'm what, you're too good.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
For me to any use, I'm for you, I'm too
good for you, and you're lucky that you get to
spend this amount of time with me. I don't care
what people think. Is another one, but I think that's
across the board. You know, when people are overly confident.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
I don't care.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
People who say they don't care what people think quite
often care the most.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
It's up there with what's wrong. It's just the truth.
I just said the truth.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Well, it's funny you should say that, because there is
I'm just being honest.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
I'm just being honest, which means, well, it.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Means I'm allowed to say whatever I want. I don't
have to be responsible for what I'm saying because I'm
doing you a favor by just being honest.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
Guys, it's exactly the same as starting a sentence I'm
not racist.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
But yes, but what about I'm sorry, but I love
the old apology. I'm really really sorry. But if you
weren't such a I wouldn't have to act this way.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
And then often it finishes with Kate, do you know
what I'm Do you know what I mean? Do you
understand what I'm saying?
Speaker 2 (06:40):
I want you now to agree with me about what
I've just said about.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
You part of the conversation.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
There's a few others. I was joking. It's not a
big deal. You're too sensitive. I'm not perfect. Basically, I
think they're all just a cover for excusing a bit.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Of bad way. I do a lot of it. I'm
not perfect, do you? And that's we talk about the
theory of back the eighty eighty percent is good enough.
It's never going to be one hundred. Don't expect a hundred,
but take eighty every time. Back the eighty leases at sixty.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Sixty, Got a Lucky Lady, the.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Fits and with a with Cake whichie podcast.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
I do have a little relationship chat for you and
this this could be handy because you know, there are
big arguments within relationships, and then there are the little ones,
and some might say the little ones are the ones
that are kind of they needle in.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
How does a frog start? Okay as a tadpole? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:33):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (07:34):
How do you eat an elephant? One mouthful? Lot of time?
Little bits?
Speaker 2 (07:39):
I wouldn't ever eat an elephant.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
We shouldn't. They shouldn't be hunted or drugged.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Absolutely none of that stuff. There's a guy on TikTok.
He's he's just gone. He's so popular and he's a
therapist from Oregon and he's a viral sensation. They are
saying he has detailed the silly issues that can lead
to a breakup. So don't don't pass them off as silly, like,
(08:04):
actually give them the time, I mean something. But yeah,
break them down, because they can they can end up
poisoning a relationship. And I have to say social media
has a lot to answer for in this day and
age when it comes to dating and trying to keep
a relationship together. But my favorite one and please let
us know thirteen twenty four ten if this is a
(08:25):
massive cause of friction in your relationship. Is one of
the three silly fights that you can have with your
partner that can lead to the breakdown is that when
you agree to watch a TV show with your partner,
like you commit to you know, the season two of Hacks,
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Baby Baby, Baby, Rain Succession. You know, like all of
these big ones you've committed. It's like a you have
a connection, it's a date, it's data, it's date night.
And and then what you do is you throw caution
to the wind and you think, I'm just gonna watch
a bit of this on my own. I can't wait
(09:06):
to see what happens with you know, x Y and
z J is.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
A fiend for this.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Doing sneaky watching.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
Well, we'll start I mean peaky blind as we started
and then she's already she's already a season in front
of me.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Like it, it's really disappointing, you know, thing, Fitzy, don't
you feel a lack of connection then, because it feels
as though the thing that you you know, it was
your moment on the couch at nine o'clock every night
the kids are in bed, and in some relationships, that's
that's all there is, is like on day to day level,
you're finally.
Speaker 3 (09:42):
It harder to pick a movie together as well. Like
back in the day, we used to love that process
of going through thriller. I feel like the genre of
a thriller tonight, let's google thriller movies best and then
see what comes.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
And then you don't watch anything and you have an argument.
I'll tell you this for for free, stay tuned. The
amount of arguments I have had about the movie choice
where in the end and it's so It's what's so
disappointing about it is that it shows your lack of
ability to solve these small problems in a relationship because
(10:18):
you keep making the same mistakes over and over. You
pretend that you're choosing together. They want to watch something
that you don't want to watch you crack them because
you're not going to watch that. And I know in
my head, I don't just see it as the movie.
I spiral into a We're just not even suited. We
don't have the same we don't have the same interest.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
It's a TV show.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
I'm going out with a more.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Oh my god. I started watching Emily in Paris together,
and then episode three you cheated on me.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Yes, just to get a bit of an idea of
your taste favorite movie. I've never asked you this, but
what is your favorite movie of all time?
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Furios? I know you know what I do. Remains of
the Day, Anthony Hopkins, Emma Thompson.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
I love that. Interesting Sean, what's the ongoing war you've
got with your partner, buddy?
Speaker 4 (11:15):
So it is the it's the series. We started watching
Baby Reindeer together, watched episode one, then my partner had
a day off sick and binge the entire series.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
Couch, not just one episode, sewn the entire series.
Speaker 4 (11:35):
The entire series. So yesterday I did the opposite it
was one of another series, and got them back.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
That's really mature of.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
You, short, buddy.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Well, you need to make that phone. You need to
make a phone call.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
You do to the divorce lawyer Sean Cactus. It's over.
This is the Fitting In with Kate Richie podcast.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
I love these studies are done on the workplace, this
new study. There's always these things. Oh, you've got to
watch out for this in the workplace. Well, apparently there's
a there's a term. And give us a call if
you want to dub somebody in in your workplace who
was a bit like this, a busy bragger, the.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Oppice bragger.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
No you mean no, No, you're confused. You're you think
I'm saying a busy bragger meaning somebody is so busy
bragging what like about their new girlfriend.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Yeah, that kind of thing.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
No, you need to listen. This is not what I'm
talking about. Busy bragging is like, I am so busy,
I am so I am so. How is you humble?
Similar to I don't think it is humble at all.
It's almost I'm going to use the word Marta like
(12:53):
I even think you have a busy bragger. It's not
always in the workplace. It could be at home. It's
the person that does the most home. I'm not your
home work, housework, housework, How is your day? Well, and
I just had five minutes to myself, Well, then maybe
I can't.
Speaker 5 (13:08):
Do it all.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
I think we're all guilty of this. But towards the
end of the year, you know, when you've got a
lot of things on leading up to the end of
the year, and you're like, oh, man, I'm just creatively,
I'm gone, I've cooked. I'm so busy at the moment,
there's so many things on and I just can't concentrate
on work. I find that I do that at the
end of the year, leading into the Christmas break.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
But I think that's also just a part of conversation.
Come the end of the year. It becomes part of
the dialogue, like how you going well, can't you know,
I'm just so glad that Christmas is around the corner.
From the holiday, it's people brag about being so busy
early in the year, to the point where you avoid
even asking them you know, how was there afternoon? Or
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you know, well, once I've done this, once I've done that.
And I think people do it because they think that
it makes them appear more professional, more busy. Had a
really good employee, But the study suggests that in actual fact,
it does the opposite. It's like, well, if you can't
can't figure and cope with this, or if you were
working that hard, you wouldn't have as much time to
(14:13):
stand in the kitchen and brag about it. Under you are.
Speaker 3 (14:17):
Can we go to Jason you had a busy brag?
Speaker 4 (14:19):
Or at work Jason nating guys.
Speaker 5 (14:21):
Yeah. We work in a direct marketing company and a
guy would he was a good salesperson that he used
to let everyone know about it, and he did it
so much that the boss had enough and he got
fired for it for being so busy. He was even
on a good Saturday night where he peak up. He
(14:43):
did let us, he let us all know about it.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
They leave those crew.
Speaker 5 (14:48):
So yeahs got thick of it and letting go. I
got to let you go.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
You're a pain in the bomb, thanks, Jose Do you
think that people talk about this kind of thing though,
because they had this like they want to connect, but
they have a lack of communication skills, so they go
to the really obvious like yes, I'm really busy, Yes,
the weather's good or bad.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
And I'm tired.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (15:13):
I believe already?
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Yeah, my goodness, Christmas will be here, Taylor.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
What's your story?
Speaker 4 (15:18):
Hi, guys, how are you going good? I just going
through it. I just think it's really funny when people
say that they're busy. I'm a nursed in accident emergency.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
Taylor, You're like trying to have a day where I'm working.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
Oh my god, mates, one of us is busy.
Speaker 3 (15:39):
Yeah, that's right. It's dislocated your elbow. Mates, stuff complaining.
I am so flat out. I've had so many patients today.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
I think it's like when people who don't have children
come to work and say that they couldn't sleep very well.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
I'm tired. Taylor. Thank you for your call. You would
be our busy bragger.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
I'm not the busy bragger. No, because I'm not a
basy back. Now, I'm not a busy bragger. I knew
we'd get to this part of the conversation because I
don't because you know what, I'm quite private. I don't
like come in and tell you all the things that
I'm before.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
What you do in that way in attempt just try
and build interest, because you won't share what you're actually doing.
But I've got you. It'll be It'll be a promo meeting,
and it'll land and catle, grabber bags and go. It's important.
I must run.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
No, I don't do that.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
And then you see her and she doesn't even look
as she walks through the past the glass window, because
you know she's on a mission, because you have.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Such a sad little life. You're wondering about where I'm
rushing off to rather than focusing on your own.
Speaker 3 (16:34):
We need to sort this out as a team, so
let's have a meeting after the show.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
But I can't make it.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
This is the f with Cape Ritchie podcast.
Speaker 1 (16:43):
I want to bring down the mood into something a
little bit more relaxing now because my wife has just
got home from a three day hell through trees, a
sort of more car like massage music. Jess, we've got
something sort of you said Hawaiian. Yeah, I did say
this Hawaiian. This is sort of the Beat Boys, the
Suns Out. You can always play it here at Nova.
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It's a great time to go away to a health sheet,
just sort of during school holidays and stuff like that.
So timing is everything. But she had a good time.
She came back very relaxed. Man the barbe was so
chilled at home because she went for bushwalks and stuff.
She had me a video of a trapdoor spider. That's cool.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
It was the yogurt and like sugar free no alcohol, no.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
Sugar yeah, no phones either.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Yeah, no husbands, no children.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
Stretching, a lot of stretch, yeah, a lot of stretching.
She did this thing.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
Did you do the quong? The course the thing in
the in the mornings where.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
You come quong? Oh? Touchy?
Speaker 2 (17:37):
No, not touchy, it's not touchy.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
It's quo is it ty bo with billy blanks?
Speaker 1 (17:42):
Quangdong? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Quong it's something like that. Did she do It's called
something else. It's really good, but you need to go
and have a look to set your cicadaan rhythm. You
need to go and look directly into the sun in
the morning.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
Oh my god. Any ice baths or yea. She did
a bit of ice bath.
Speaker 5 (17:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
G It was a tranquill for her. The three kids
through a tranquill.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
I saw that were being fed. Well, two minute noodle action.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
What's interesting. She came back and she said what was good?
Before she arrived, they booked her in for a massage
and she had what was called the low har massage.
What because that. So the Lisa said, I don't know
much about a Hawaiian massage or a lowha massage.
Speaker 3 (18:27):
And she's also in a very similar marriage.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
A low bar message.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
That was grus.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
That was not great. Lisa said, is it sort of
like a raiki type massage where your hands ho he
and you feel for different rake that would hurt? And
she said, well, it is energy based. So what I
do is I rub different parts of your body and
through your glands. I can tell with where the negative
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energy is.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
And then I released he was usual, the negative energy
is at home. I think they sing. I think at
mine they sang. On top of other things, they sing.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
They do know my team.
Speaker 3 (19:13):
Relaxing music or is it?
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Is it?
Speaker 3 (19:16):
What are they seeing?
Speaker 1 (19:17):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
I just was lying against this.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
Or turn all the lights on? Really yeah, she found
it a little bit awkward.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
But what happened was can you tell us about the gland.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
To massage the glands? Which ones?
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Because you have a few in your body.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
I think they're sort of growing under the arm, Yeah,
around your chin there, what's wrong? So as she is
massaging Lisa, she starts yelling out dates twenty sixth of
February two. She starts yelling out fifteenth of March ninety six,
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and Lisa saying, what are you doing? And she's saying, well,
I'm identifying traumatic times without a word of a lie.
So she's writing them down. She writes down three main
dates because the negative energy that is being released has
come from those times and that energy, that negative energy
has been stored in her body since that day.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
When was your wedding anniversary?
Speaker 1 (20:18):
Unfortunately was it? Wasn't your joke, oh was it? So
the three dates that were written down for the most
traumatic was July. It was like July twenty sixteen, and
that was when she had some post notal. Then in
twenty twenty three there was her mum got sick and
(20:39):
that was recognized her negative energy as well. And you're right,
September twenty thirteen when we.
Speaker 3 (20:48):
Got married, Tom and I we were there, that was
pretty traumatic.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
Everyone was very traumatized. So she had to work the
negative energy from that time period out of my wife's guys,
her hands, to the glands and out of the body.
And I'm just I thought it was a good time.
I thought the wedding was a celebration, would be.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
A stressful time though, I mean it shouldn't have been.
Speaker 1 (21:13):
I mean, I think I organized most of it, or
the wedding plan I did.
Speaker 2 (21:17):
She just had to sort the plan all the wedding.
Did you have seventy five people in your wedding.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
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Speaker 2 (00:05):
Hey guys, I need to talk to you about something
very serious, and actually I just see he's very serious.
Hey guys, I just want to know what you might
do in this situation. And really it's about boundaries within
a relationship. Fitzy, I kind of know what you're going
to say, but I just you're always the red, the heck,
(00:27):
the herring, the red herring.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
He's more of a puffer fish, that's a rude, more
of a sale fish like slender Fast, dangerous.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Okay, moving on the headline, is this my husband likes
sleepovers with his best friend. I feel uneasy.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
I just hate the words sleepover.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Well, sleepover suggests a level of intimacy.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Now it doesn't. I would think sleepover is trying to
make it quite casual, like you had sleepovers when you're
a kid. The thing is the husband's best friend is
a femi and a female that he used to go
to school. Get involved here, guys. This woman that they
are married, she just cannot shake these suspicions. Her husband
(01:16):
is always texting this old school power. Often he spends
the day with her, and now it has progressed into
sometimes staying overnight. I don't know how he excuses that,
whether it's I've had a few too many drinks. It's
better to stay over than to drink drive, of course,
but she just doesn't know what to say. Does she
(01:36):
get invited to these No, because what happened was they
had a school reunion after a very long time. He
had obviously lost touch with this girlfriend friend. I don't
know if they dated at high school, but a female
friend at school they were very close. And now his
excuse to the new wife is, we're kind of just
(01:57):
making up for lost time. It's been so nice to reconnec.
It reminds me of my childhood. She was always such
a good friend and is developing into another great friend now.
And the worst part of this story, I think is
that when she the wife says, look, I can't shake it.
I don't like this, he calls her silly. And see,
(02:18):
I don't like she's allowed to feel the way she feels.
Don't say she's silly for having these feelings, because I
think anyone would.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Feelings, right. Can I ask some questions here? Because when
you say sleepover to me, that means same bed, now, Tommy,
that's what I mean.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
That's sharing a bed.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
I don't think it is. Tommy and I've shared a
bed in New Zealand. Queens don't really have an issue
with that. If you're saying sleepover staying at someone's house,
I wouldn't care if you stayed over at my house,
but I wouldn't share a bed with you.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Yeah. But if I stayed at your house, it's Lisa, Yeah,
and Lisa and the kids would be there. I'm not
just coming no, I know, but what I'm saying is
there's no do you know what I mean? But there
would be no reason for that to happen, and it
just wouldn't be appropriate.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
But I was showering separately would be a good start.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
How do you get to a point where you go
over to someone's house for drinks and then you go,
I've had too many. Can't you get an uber home
or a taxi home? You don't have to stay over?
Speaker 2 (03:17):
No, I agree, But I'm trying to.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Think in your world, I might have one or two
girlfriends that Lisa wouldn't care if I slept next to
in a bed.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
I've slept with male friends in a bed.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
I wouldn't even put myself in that position.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
You've got other options, Yeah, I know you do. I'm
just talking about the hypothetical if you had to share
a bed, would Lisa actually care? I think she would.
She would.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I think you ever slept with a different woman in it,
like a friend in the in the bed.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
Absolutely no chance I would feel uncomfortable depends.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
I mean, I've got friends, so Eliza would be a
great example, very old friend of mine.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
When are you ever ever going to be in athal Rock? Right,
so there's no other beds in the world.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
It's hype ethical. We're I know what you mean.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
But let's just say you had to explain it to Lisa.
You don't think she would feel uncomfortable, A think? So okay,
well you keep thinking that.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
No, I don't think she'd really care. It'd be the
same as Tom. I mean, when we woke up sponing Tom, I.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Was, well, I couldn't sleep that night because you're snoring.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
Tom has had a T shirt on nothing else. Oh
my gosh, it was a Lakers.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Tom was a big bob. This is the Wiper with
Cape Ritchie podcast.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
Look, guys, after we had such a success with our
singles ball, it's got me thinking about relationships and the
amount of people who were reaching out, maybe hoping that
they're single, and it could be that they have finally
paid attention to the red flags within the relationship. Do
you want me to get to some of these red flags?
I mean, I know we don't have long but I
just I want to say that. And this is talking
(05:03):
from a woman's point of view about her boyfriend, but
it could work vice versa. So I'm not like, you know, whatever, whatever,
But sometimes the red flags can show up within a
relationship when you're with somebody who might have incredibly low
self esteem, and that is awful for them, but in turn,
it kind of comes back on you and you end
(05:23):
up having to deal with it and not address your
own needs. So when someone says to you a lot,
maybe you're too good for me, you're too good for me.
So what that does is that there's an imbalance of power,
and then they you have to spend a lot of
your time reassuring.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Them that but I'm what, you're too good.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
For me to any use, I'm for you, I'm too
good for you, and you're lucky that you get to
spend this amount of time with me. I don't care
what people think. Is another one, but I think that's
across the board. You know, when people are overly confident.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
I don't care.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
People who say they don't care what people think quite
often care the most.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
It's up there with what's wrong. It's just the truth.
I just said the truth.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Well, it's funny you should say that, because there is
I'm just being honest.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
I'm just being honest, which means, well, it.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Means I'm allowed to say whatever I want. I don't
have to be responsible for what I'm saying because I'm
doing you a favor by just being honest.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
Guys, it's exactly the same as starting a sentence I'm
not racist.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
But yes, but what about I'm sorry, but I love
the old apology. I'm really really sorry. But if you
weren't such a I wouldn't have to act this way.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
And then often it finishes with Kate, do you know
what I'm Do you know what I mean? Do you
understand what I'm saying?
Speaker 2 (06:40):
I want you now to agree with me about what
I've just said about.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
You part of the conversation.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
There's a few others. I was joking. It's not a
big deal. You're too sensitive. I'm not perfect. Basically, I
think they're all just a cover for excusing a bit.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Of bad way. I do a lot of it. I'm
not perfect, do you? And that's we talk about the
theory of back the eighty eighty percent is good enough.
It's never going to be one hundred. Don't expect a hundred,
but take eighty every time. Back the eighty leases at sixty.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Sixty, Got a Lucky Lady, the.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Fits and with a with Cake whichie podcast.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
I do have a little relationship chat for you and
this this could be handy because you know, there are
big arguments within relationships, and then there are the little ones,
and some might say the little ones are the ones
that are kind of they needle in.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
How does a frog start? Okay as a tadpole? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:33):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (07:34):
How do you eat an elephant? One mouthful? Lot of time?
Little bits?
Speaker 2 (07:39):
I wouldn't ever eat an elephant.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
We shouldn't. They shouldn't be hunted or drugged.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Absolutely none of that stuff. There's a guy on TikTok.
He's he's just gone. He's so popular and he's a
therapist from Oregon and he's a viral sensation. They are
saying he has detailed the silly issues that can lead
to a breakup. So don't don't pass them off as silly, like,
(08:04):
actually give them the time, I mean something. But yeah,
break them down, because they can they can end up
poisoning a relationship. And I have to say social media
has a lot to answer for in this day and
age when it comes to dating and trying to keep
a relationship together. But my favorite one and please let
us know thirteen twenty four ten if this is a
(08:25):
massive cause of friction in your relationship. Is one of
the three silly fights that you can have with your
partner that can lead to the breakdown is that when
you agree to watch a TV show with your partner,
like you commit to you know, the season two of Hacks,
(08:46):
Baby Baby, Baby, Rain Succession. You know, like all of
these big ones you've committed. It's like a you have
a connection, it's a date, it's data, it's date night.
And and then what you do is you throw caution
to the wind and you think, I'm just gonna watch
a bit of this on my own. I can't wait
(09:06):
to see what happens with you know, x Y and
z J is.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
A fiend for this.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Doing sneaky watching.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
Well, we'll start I mean peaky blind as we started
and then she's already she's already a season in front
of me.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Like it, it's really disappointing, you know, thing, Fitzy, don't
you feel a lack of connection then, because it feels
as though the thing that you you know, it was
your moment on the couch at nine o'clock every night
the kids are in bed, and in some relationships, that's
that's all there is, is like on day to day level,
you're finally.
Speaker 3 (09:42):
It harder to pick a movie together as well. Like
back in the day, we used to love that process
of going through thriller. I feel like the genre of
a thriller tonight, let's google thriller movies best and then
see what comes.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
And then you don't watch anything and you have an argument.
I'll tell you this for for free, stay tuned. The
amount of arguments I have had about the movie choice
where in the end and it's so It's what's so
disappointing about it is that it shows your lack of
ability to solve these small problems in a relationship because
(10:18):
you keep making the same mistakes over and over. You
pretend that you're choosing together. They want to watch something
that you don't want to watch you crack them because
you're not going to watch that. And I know in
my head, I don't just see it as the movie.
I spiral into a We're just not even suited. We
don't have the same we don't have the same interest.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
It's a TV show.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
I'm going out with a more.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Oh my god. I started watching Emily in Paris together,
and then episode three you cheated on me.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Yes, just to get a bit of an idea of
your taste favorite movie. I've never asked you this, but
what is your favorite movie of all time?
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Furios? I know you know what I do. Remains of
the Day, Anthony Hopkins, Emma Thompson.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
I love that. Interesting Sean, what's the ongoing war you've
got with your partner, buddy?
Speaker 4 (11:15):
So it is the it's the series. We started watching
Baby Reindeer together, watched episode one, then my partner had
a day off sick and binge the entire series.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
Couch, not just one episode, sewn the entire series.
Speaker 4 (11:35):
The entire series. So yesterday I did the opposite it
was one of another series, and got them back.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
That's really mature of.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
You, short, buddy.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Well, you need to make that phone. You need to
make a phone call.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
You do to the divorce lawyer Sean Cactus. It's over.
This is the Fitting In with Kate Richie podcast.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
I love these studies are done on the workplace, this
new study. There's always these things. Oh, you've got to
watch out for this in the workplace. Well, apparently there's
a there's a term. And give us a call if
you want to dub somebody in in your workplace who
was a bit like this, a busy bragger, the.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Oppice bragger.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
No you mean no, No, you're confused. You're you think
I'm saying a busy bragger meaning somebody is so busy
bragging what like about their new girlfriend.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Yeah, that kind of thing.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
No, you need to listen. This is not what I'm
talking about. Busy bragging is like, I am so busy,
I am so I am so. How is you humble?
Similar to I don't think it is humble at all.
It's almost I'm going to use the word Marta like
(12:53):
I even think you have a busy bragger. It's not
always in the workplace. It could be at home. It's
the person that does the most home. I'm not your
home work, housework, housework, How is your day? Well, and
I just had five minutes to myself, Well, then maybe
I can't.
Speaker 5 (13:08):
Do it all.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
I think we're all guilty of this. But towards the
end of the year, you know, when you've got a
lot of things on leading up to the end of
the year, and you're like, oh, man, I'm just creatively,
I'm gone, I've cooked. I'm so busy at the moment,
there's so many things on and I just can't concentrate
on work. I find that I do that at the
end of the year, leading into the Christmas break.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
But I think that's also just a part of conversation.
Come the end of the year. It becomes part of
the dialogue, like how you going well, can't you know,
I'm just so glad that Christmas is around the corner.
From the holiday, it's people brag about being so busy
early in the year, to the point where you avoid
even asking them you know, how was there afternoon? Or
(13:51):
you know, well, once I've done this, once I've done that.
And I think people do it because they think that
it makes them appear more professional, more busy. Had a
really good employee, But the study suggests that in actual fact,
it does the opposite. It's like, well, if you can't
can't figure and cope with this, or if you were
working that hard, you wouldn't have as much time to
(14:13):
stand in the kitchen and brag about it. Under you are.
Speaker 3 (14:17):
Can we go to Jason you had a busy brag?
Speaker 4 (14:19):
Or at work Jason nating guys.
Speaker 5 (14:21):
Yeah. We work in a direct marketing company and a
guy would he was a good salesperson that he used
to let everyone know about it, and he did it
so much that the boss had enough and he got
fired for it for being so busy. He was even
on a good Saturday night where he peak up. He
(14:43):
did let us, he let us all know about it.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
They leave those crew.
Speaker 5 (14:48):
So yeahs got thick of it and letting go. I
got to let you go.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
You're a pain in the bomb, thanks, Jose Do you
think that people talk about this kind of thing though,
because they had this like they want to connect, but
they have a lack of communication skills, so they go
to the really obvious like yes, I'm really busy, Yes,
the weather's good or bad.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
And I'm tired.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (15:13):
I believe already?
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Yeah, my goodness, Christmas will be here, Taylor.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
What's your story?
Speaker 4 (15:18):
Hi, guys, how are you going good? I just going
through it. I just think it's really funny when people
say that they're busy. I'm a nursed in accident emergency.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
Taylor, You're like trying to have a day where I'm working.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
Oh my god, mates, one of us is busy.
Speaker 3 (15:39):
Yeah, that's right. It's dislocated your elbow. Mates, stuff complaining.
I am so flat out. I've had so many patients today.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
I think it's like when people who don't have children
come to work and say that they couldn't sleep very well.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
I'm tired. Taylor. Thank you for your call. You would
be our busy bragger.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
I'm not the busy bragger. No, because I'm not a
basy back. Now, I'm not a busy bragger. I knew
we'd get to this part of the conversation because I
don't because you know what, I'm quite private. I don't
like come in and tell you all the things that
I'm before.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
What you do in that way in attempt just try
and build interest, because you won't share what you're actually doing.
But I've got you. It'll be It'll be a promo meeting,
and it'll land and catle, grabber bags and go. It's important.
I must run.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
No, I don't do that.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
And then you see her and she doesn't even look
as she walks through the past the glass window, because
you know she's on a mission, because you have.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Such a sad little life. You're wondering about where I'm
rushing off to rather than focusing on your own.
Speaker 3 (16:34):
We need to sort this out as a team, so
let's have a meeting after the show.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
But I can't make it.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
This is the f with Cape Ritchie podcast.
Speaker 1 (16:43):
I want to bring down the mood into something a
little bit more relaxing now because my wife has just
got home from a three day hell through trees, a
sort of more car like massage music. Jess, we've got
something sort of you said Hawaiian. Yeah, I did say
this Hawaiian. This is sort of the Beat Boys, the
Suns Out. You can always play it here at Nova.
(17:04):
It's a great time to go away to a health sheet,
just sort of during school holidays and stuff like that.
So timing is everything. But she had a good time.
She came back very relaxed. Man the barbe was so
chilled at home because she went for bushwalks and stuff.
She had me a video of a trapdoor spider. That's cool.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
It was the yogurt and like sugar free no alcohol, no.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
Sugar yeah, no phones either.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Yeah, no husbands, no children.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
Stretching, a lot of stretch, yeah, a lot of stretching.
She did this thing.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
Did you do the quong? The course the thing in
the in the mornings where.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
You come quong? Oh? Touchy?
Speaker 2 (17:37):
No, not touchy, it's not touchy.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
It's quo is it ty bo with billy blanks?
Speaker 1 (17:42):
Quangdong? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Quong it's something like that. Did she do It's called
something else. It's really good, but you need to go
and have a look to set your cicadaan rhythm. You
need to go and look directly into the sun in
the morning.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
Oh my god. Any ice baths or yea. She did
a bit of ice bath.
Speaker 5 (17:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
G It was a tranquill for her. The three kids
through a tranquill.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
I saw that were being fed. Well, two minute noodle action.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
What's interesting. She came back and she said what was good?
Before she arrived, they booked her in for a massage
and she had what was called the low har massage.
What because that. So the Lisa said, I don't know
much about a Hawaiian massage or a lowha massage.
Speaker 3 (18:27):
And she's also in a very similar marriage.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
A low bar message.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
That was grus.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
That was not great. Lisa said, is it sort of
like a raiki type massage where your hands ho he
and you feel for different rake that would hurt? And
she said, well, it is energy based. So what I
do is I rub different parts of your body and
through your glands. I can tell with where the negative
(18:57):
energy is.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
And then I released he was usual, the negative energy
is at home. I think they sing. I think at
mine they sang. On top of other things, they sing.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
They do know my team.
Speaker 3 (19:13):
Relaxing music or is it?
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Is it?
Speaker 3 (19:16):
What are they seeing?
Speaker 1 (19:17):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
I just was lying against this.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
Or turn all the lights on? Really yeah, she found
it a little bit awkward.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
But what happened was can you tell us about the gland.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
To massage the glands? Which ones?
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Because you have a few in your body.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
I think they're sort of growing under the arm, Yeah,
around your chin there, what's wrong? So as she is
massaging Lisa, she starts yelling out dates twenty sixth of
February two. She starts yelling out fifteenth of March ninety six,
(19:57):
and Lisa saying, what are you doing? And she's saying, well,
I'm identifying traumatic times without a word of a lie.
So she's writing them down. She writes down three main
dates because the negative energy that is being released has
come from those times and that energy, that negative energy
has been stored in her body since that day.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
When was your wedding anniversary?
Speaker 1 (20:18):
Unfortunately was it? Wasn't your joke, oh was it? So
the three dates that were written down for the most
traumatic was July. It was like July twenty sixteen, and
that was when she had some post notal. Then in
twenty twenty three there was her mum got sick and
(20:39):
that was recognized her negative energy as well. And you're right,
September twenty thirteen when we.
Speaker 3 (20:48):
Got married, Tom and I we were there, that was
pretty traumatic.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
Everyone was very traumatized. So she had to work the
negative energy from that time period out of my wife's guys,
her hands, to the glands and out of the body.
And I'm just I thought it was a good time.
I thought the wedding was a celebration, would be.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
A stressful time though, I mean it shouldn't have been.
Speaker 1 (21:13):
I mean, I think I organized most of it, or
the wedding plan I did.
Speaker 2 (21:17):
She just had to sort the plan all the wedding.
Did you have seventy five people in your wedding.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
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