How Do You Catch An Affair That Leaves No Trace?

Wippa has found out about "Invisible Affairs" and it has split the room on whether it is cheating or not. We would love to know what you think, hit us up on our socials @fitzywippakate !

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is the fits In with Her with Kate Richie
podcast Arnicle that's been online over the weekend. It girl
has taken to Instagram and she's spoken about how she's
lonely in her marriage and she's been having an invisible affair.
Write that down, guys, brand new terment at the dating scene.

Speaker 2 (00:20):
And invisible Tell what take me through?

Speaker 1 (00:22):
Well, you might be married technically, so by law, you
are living with that person that you said, yes, I
will be with them for the rest of my life.
But things are a little quiet and you're not talking
too much in your marriage, so you find conversation with
somebody else in an online sense, okay, gotcha, And those

(00:43):
conversations are deep and emotional and can sometimes be saxueal well.

Speaker 2 (00:49):
But see, do you regard this as cheating? So if
there's no physical sort of.

Speaker 1 (00:57):
Element to it, is, is it okay to talk to
someone else online? What a wonderful question.

Speaker 3 (01:02):
I think it comes under the category of emotional cheating.

Speaker 2 (01:06):
Yeah, goa. I mean you can't get away with anything
these days. There's a name for everything, isn't there.

Speaker 1 (01:11):
Everything's sort of label everything is wrong, Yes, Amy, you
we told off or celebrated, depending on what you google.
I don't think it's cheating. It depends where you go to.
I mean, if this becomes I mean where it says
deep and emotional but also sexual connection, If that becomes
the main purpose for the conversation you're having online, then

(01:34):
I think it's is it cheating? It's sad I know
that much, because your marriage is obviously breaking down. If
you're looking for it elsewhere are you?

Speaker 2 (01:41):
Though? Is it sad?

Speaker 3 (01:44):
Like?

Speaker 2 (01:45):
Is it unreasonable?

Speaker 1 (01:47):
It's not unreasonable to no.

Speaker 2 (01:49):
No, no.

Speaker 3 (01:49):
Is it unreasonable to expect that there is one person
in your life that can fulfill every single need. I
think that is deeply unreasonable, and it puts too much
pressure on couples to be.

Speaker 2 (02:09):
People who they're not. Isn't it enough to just have?

Speaker 3 (02:13):
But if I was someone that you trust, that you
know helps with all sorts of bits and bobs, and
you can get your deeper connection or your belly laughs
or whatever from somebody else.

Speaker 2 (02:26):
You can't have a one stop shop.

Speaker 1 (02:28):
I know what you mean. It depends on the impact
it's on your other relationship, Because you're right, it might
act as the perfect balancer because you need both in
your life. And if it's not existing here, Well, then
you can have it over there in a very innocent way.

Speaker 2 (02:41):
And there's no.

Speaker 3 (02:41):
Doubt that whoever you know you're having this invisible affair with,
you know, would.

Speaker 2 (02:47):
Would not meet your other needs either, do you know
what I mean?

Speaker 3 (02:52):
Like, Carl, I'm going to get this from that shop,
and I'm going to get this from that shop.

Speaker 1 (02:57):
If I found Lisa in conversation with another guy, sharing
deep thoughts, maybe a tear, maybe a laugh, yes.

Speaker 3 (03:06):
But that's because you have that element in your relationship.
What if you but I might think that, Okay, what
is something? What is something you're not great at or
you don't enjoy? Like do you like feedback on outfits or.

Speaker 2 (03:22):
Cooking?

Speaker 1 (03:23):
Yeah, cooking, go with cooking.

Speaker 2 (03:25):
Okay.

Speaker 3 (03:25):
So let's say that you're a terrible book and it
fills you with misery every time she says, Darling, can
you make the ragou tonight? Yeah?

Speaker 2 (03:34):
And it's just a miss.

Speaker 3 (03:35):
Yeah. If she's got Damien, a real estate agent from Wallara,
popping in to make the ragou and give her tips
on the gramulata, you'd be like, thank god.

Speaker 1 (03:46):
Yeah, Maybe I wouldn't want to think that Damien could
do something I couldn't.

Speaker 2 (03:50):
But he's six foot six, just got gorgeous hair.

Speaker 1 (03:53):
It doesn't matter what.

Speaker 2 (03:54):
But his land Rover is leased, yes.

Speaker 1 (03:57):
Yes, and mine is a purchase slash slash Sponsorship's got
a seventeen foot yacht and so he's definitely going to
be catching up with her a little bit more. I mean,
but you know what she needs, Lisa. I think Lisa
would be nervous now that I think I spoke about
this last week that I've started Pilarates. Guys, I'm off
to Peaches again today at the midday class at Peaches.

Speaker 2 (04:20):
I'm sorry, what's peaches?

Speaker 1 (04:21):
It's a Pilartis studio. Yes, it's a Pillarates studio. And
it wasn't reformer just on the mat. Is that sort
of the peaches because that's the sort of the shape
of the gluteus maximus. Is that what they're going with.
I didn't ask about whether they're it was named after them.

Speaker 3 (04:37):
Bum, you're getting your peaches all juicy?

Speaker 1 (04:41):
Yeah, they come in a can. They were put there
by a man. But I'm I'm the only guy in
the class, and I think Lisa would feel threatened. There's
a lot of attractive women in there, and I would
think they are. They are perving on me.

Speaker 2 (04:56):
I haven't spoken to her, but I reckon She's.

Speaker 1 (05:01):
Well, you don't know, you're jumping the gun. You don't
know he's want he sits in Whipper with Kate. Ritchie
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Speaker 3 (05:14):
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