The 3 Ways To Win Any Argument INSTANTLY!

Kate's come across an article that spells out exactly how to win ANY argument with ANYONE EVER! This led the team to do some role-playing to test out their new skills. Results were... mixed.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is the Fits and With with Kate Richie podcast.
I want to talk about the best comeback when somebody's
yelling at you. I think whipper you said that I
was going to give you a few terms to win
a win an argument or maybe silence silence someone who's
having a go at you. Look, I tend to go

(00:21):
with the old if somebody is upset and it's not
somebody I know, although somebody sometimes it's somebody I know.
At the end of a conversation on the phone, I'll say,
have a nice day because I just think you're kiz love,
because you know what I mean, what we all know

(00:42):
is when someone's really angry and they want to engage
and they're not afraid of confrontation, the fact that they're
met with patients and somebody almost making fun of them,
that really revs them up. Yeah, there's a there's this
There's this guy. He is a trial lawyer, Jefferson Fisher.

(01:03):
I think he comes out of the US and he's
written a book, you know, how to argue, argue less,
and talk more. He's got all of these followers on TikTok.
He's he's posted that how you should respond when somebody
is yelling at you, he explains, So number one, you
need to instead of raising your voice and shouting something

(01:24):
like don't yell at me, you know, or whatever it
is that you want to do, stop yelling at me.
And it's like, well, you like anyway? You know what
I'm trying to say, don't you don't you yell, but
I'll yell back at you. You're going this is what
you're going to do. You are going to calmly use
the phrase I don't respond to that volume and maybe

(01:48):
say it's some something like that. Maybe maybe shake your
head at the same time. Oh, I don't respond to
that volume. That's sarcastic in itself. I don't think it is.
It's adding a boundary. I'm actually not going to engage
in this conversation if you're going to speak to me
like that. What if I what if I brought the

(02:08):
volume down? Can you try me? You show me how
if I'm yelling at you, if it's get your well,
what if I said to you? What if I went
kate your bloody indicator? Okay, all right, road right, I
am using my indicator. Thank you for pointing that out.

(02:29):
It's not me lowering lowering the level. No, aren't you
then supposed to say, I don't respond to that, that's me,
that's I am. Just remember the laying for the top
guys television, and you still can't pick up And I mean,
this is live, this is live radio. I'm used to
being able to do three or four takes. No, you

(02:52):
are you said? You said the boundary I don't respond
to the volume. Number two is that you lower your volume,
so you kind of saying, come on, meet me where
I'm at. And his quote is just give it a
little haircut. I suggest, don't say to anyone, just give
it a little haircut. I then when well, then I

(03:17):
wouldn't hear you. I suppose that the indicator would be
louder than you. And if I whispered it into your neck,
is that a bit that would be creepy? And that
would that would indicate that we may be married? And
don't tell me how to drive the money. Number three,

(03:38):
The slower you speak, the more confident you're going to sound.
So one trick is to add pauses around the verb.
Look up what a verb is? Whip in this case,
respond I don't respond to that volume, lower to speak,
and then you take back all of the controls. So
maybe take that into your workday today. If you're going
to have a challenging conversation with some body, I'm just

(04:02):
what have you got response? I don't respond to that volume.
I'm just going to say that to BJ all day
to day. Get back to us on that one. It's
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