The Four Red Flags That Mean Your Partner Is Cheating

Kate’s got the must-read list for anyone in a relationship because if you spot any of these red flags, it might be time to cut and run. There’s a good chance you could be dating a cheater!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is the Fits and Whip with Kate Richie podcast.

Speaker 2 (00:03):
Have I got something on my nose?

Speaker 1 (00:04):
Nose?

Speaker 2 (00:06):
Oh? Sorry? We wiped his nose And then I thought
he was being very considerate that I might have had
something today on my nose. But then I realized Whip
is the kind of guy who would let you walk
around the office with.

Speaker 1 (00:18):
That on your nose.

Speaker 3 (00:19):
I'd pick it for you.

Speaker 2 (00:22):
Yes, how to spot a cheetah? There's a guy. I mean, look,
there's so many of these kind of stories. This guy's
out of some university in Istanbul and he's only surveyed
two hundred and eighty people. So let's just take this
with the graves we gore.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
Is one of them being in bed with somebody else?

Speaker 2 (00:42):
Well, yeah, that's a clanger, but that's that's not a
red flag. That's absolutely it's happening right now.

Speaker 1 (00:51):
But that there are red cars. There are four.

Speaker 2 (00:56):
And these are the red flags to look out for
a hiss of cheating on a prior romantic partner.

Speaker 1 (01:02):
So if you've got four makes sense.

Speaker 2 (01:04):
If you and I always think about this, if you've
met your partner and they had a partner when they
met you, and somehow you thought you won the prize.
They have form of not having the ability to get
out of a relationship before they get into a new one. Interesting,

(01:24):
do you know, So if they've cheated on their past partner,
I mean, they might argue that you were the one. Yes,
they can. It takes a lot of hard work and therapy,
but they can to.

Speaker 1 (01:36):
Okay, grew up with and his nickname was the leopard.

Speaker 3 (01:42):
He begged everybody to stop calling him the leopard because
he fell in love with a girl and wanted to
stay with her.

Speaker 2 (01:51):
Ah And it's yeah, that's not fair.

Speaker 1 (01:54):
No.

Speaker 2 (01:55):
Number two. One of their parents had an affair in
the past.

Speaker 1 (01:58):
That's an interesting one.

Speaker 2 (02:00):
Does it play out in your adult life what you
might witness as a child, Well, it's called role modeling,
I guess. I mean it can go one of two ways.
I'm never going to do the things that I saw
in my childhood, and I don't ever want to be
like you know, marm or dad or whatever. That would
be the most natural way, wouldn't you You'll deserve and

(02:20):
go I don't like that, so I won't do that. Well,
you might have those feelings, but there might be some
kind of genetic code that is it hereditary.

Speaker 1 (02:29):
I mean, is it in the genes for you to
take off your jeans?

Speaker 2 (02:33):
Good? But it is not as good as dissatisfaction.

Speaker 1 (02:38):
If you have.

Speaker 2 (02:39):
Caught cheating, Kate Richie, could you then say I'm so sorry.

Speaker 1 (02:42):
It wasn't me, it's dad's It's like my dad, his dad.
It's in the genes.

Speaker 2 (02:47):
Well, I guess you could. I mean usually you just deny,
don't you. That's how it starts out, and then then
people come up with as many excuses as possible. And
I'm not judging cheaters, No I'm not, because I do
think there are I don't think anything is ever black
and white, but I think if you're a serial cheater,

(03:09):
then then it's yeah, it's a way of life. Number three,
high levels of attachment avoidance, so that they are likely
to cheat.

Speaker 1 (03:20):
This is how I read it.

Speaker 2 (03:22):
If they have an avoidant tendencies, meaning their love avoidance
or attachment avoidance, so they don't they can't kind of
commit to you.

Speaker 1 (03:32):
To anything, your car, you know.

Speaker 2 (03:35):
You well, yeah, no, that's sort of.

Speaker 1 (03:37):
Me at the moment.

Speaker 3 (03:39):
It's the end of the year, we're tired work, you're
looking forward to Christmas, holidays, and BJ's sort of. She's
doing a lot of Can I get two minutes of
your time? Okay, two minutes of your time right now?

Speaker 1 (03:50):
Okay, two minutes, let's do it.

Speaker 2 (03:52):
But are you treating her like you treat us? But
as long as you know as you love, I mean,
there's no doubt of how much love you have for her.

Speaker 1 (04:04):
Of course, and we still say that to each other, but.

Speaker 3 (04:07):
We mean, probably a good opportunity to tell you guys
that I'm cheating on you and I'm doing a show
with smallziness. It's in Whipper with Kate Ritchie is a
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Speaker 2 (04:20):
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