Hotel hallway handjobs, pegging with praise, and playful spank counts—Zoo returns to share how their sex anxiety, shifting gender journey, and queer connections are shaping a search for intimacy, pleasure, and community.
📈 STATS | 28 queer trans non-binary human, they/he pronouns, polyamorous, currently partnered, bartender, Shakespearean actor, based in Los Angeles.
⏰ TIME CODE
00:00 Updates since 2022 and meeting their now-husband at a bartender conference
02:00 Hallway makeouts, secret storage rooms, and hotel hookups in New Orleans
07:00 First sparks of connection and navigating sexual anxiety with dance
11:30 Rule-breaking thrills, security cameras, and conference restrictions
13:00 Transitioning to transmasc identity and shifts in dating dynamics
17:00 Comparing Vermont’s queer scene to LA and New York
23:00 Long-distance desires, casual partners, and balancing intimacy
25:00 Shifting attractions toward masculinity and butch presentation
31:00 Anxiety around gender perception
33:00 Noodling questions and focusing on desire over perception
35:00 Condom mishaps, filming discomfort, and an unwanted yeast infection
41:00 Spanking tally game and discovering a new Dom dynamic
43:00 Pegging, praise kink, and playful anal explorations with their partner
45:00 Rediscovering libido through sexy Stardew Valley fanfiction
49:00 Polyamory as essential and struggles with long-distance sex
53:00 Trigger loops, sexual anxiety, and finding new routes to connection
59:00 Exploring kink through pressure, praise, and non-traditional dynamics
01:01:00 The messiness of butt sex and embracing new practices
01:01:20 Photo book project on lesbian bars and queer archival work
01:07:15 Dreaming of queer community spaces and creative hubs
01:12:00 Finding their first porn film online and their kink origins
01:19:00 Future hopes: consistent, connected orgasms and true friends-with-benefits
🤩 TOPICS | Alcove makeouts, anxiety loops, bartender conference romance, bisexual queer identity, body confidence, butch attraction, casual encounters, chest dysphoria, chosen family community, connected orgasms, creative queer bar visions, dancing through anxiety, deep intimacy, disassociation during sex, edgy hotel hookups, ethical porn favorites, evolving gender presentation, fanfiction arousal, first porn memories, friends-with-benefits dreams, high production porn, hotel edging, identity shifts, intimacy struggles, kink discovery, latex allergy mishap, lesbian bar archive, libido revival, long-distance love, masturbation inspiration, motorcycle threesome fantasy, naked dancing, non-latex condoms, non-monogamous orientation, OnlyFans filming regret, pegging with praise, polyamorous identity, pressure play, queer nightlife spaces, relationship anarchist vibes, rule-breaking thrill, security camera exhibitionism, sensuality in vintage porn, sexual anxiety triggers, spanking tally game, Stardew Valley smut, strap-on sex, threesomes with multiple penises, vintage porn aesthetics, wingman support.
🔗 ZOO LINKS | @zooholmstrom / thelongroadtolesbos.com
Zoo’s episode from April 2019 | The Fantasy Chamber
Zoo’s update from September 2022 | Phantom Dick Orgasms and The Long Road to Lesbos
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