July 13, 2025 • 12 mins
Katie's absolute favourite thing to do is spend time making food for the family only to watch it nibbled on and then tipped into the bin! NOT! Rach has a few suggestions, and they decide the best approach is to lower to their level!
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Appogiae production. Welcome back to another episode about I a
Bad Mom podcast, another season after school holidays, school's gone back.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
School is technically into term three turn three.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Oh my goodness.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
That means that your girls have technically got one to
six to go, six terms and they're.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
Out of school.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
Oh my goodness, six terms.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Just the terms.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
If we break it down into terms, six terms and
your children have finished school six terms and you are
no longer paying school fees, oh my god, it be
so nice. This is groundbreaking for most parents.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Yeah, I've already made it clear. Right If there is
talk of UNI, I know that we should be encouraging
our kids. And my kids don't want to go to UNI,
so I'm fine with that. But if they did, I
have talked to them about hex data and I've talked
to them about what's involved with that because UNI's expensive.
Speaker 3 (01:22):
Yeah it is these days. It is very expensive. Actually,
I think it's always been.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
This is a controversial thing to say, especially in Brisbane
where we live, because I feel like where you go
to school and all that kind of stuff is such
a big thing for the pool here.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
I've been told it's to Sydney thing too, Like I
went to school in Townsville. I'd never had anyone come
up to me and go, Hi, I'm Susan. I went
to Saint Rita's cool bro like I'm Rachel. I went
to school too, went to school.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
It's almost like a status thing. I really don't like
it because we both went to state schools. Nothing wrong
with us.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
No, not, I'm being a little bit wild around the edges,
but absolutely okay. But I'm kind of with you on
the HEX thing because I feel like, and I'm only
saying this from my own experience, because if I wanted
to attend UNI, my parents never said do it, do it,
do it, or you must do it. They were just
more like, if you want to, and that's your thing,
(02:20):
by all means, go to UNI.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
But you be paying your wait, yeah, and I think
it just.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Gives you like a little bit more maybe like, oh shit,
I really have to finish this because I'm paying the
bill at the end of it.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
But I also think there's a lot of people that
go to UNI because they feel like they should, and
they do courses that I feel like, you don't need
to have a UNI degree for these days. Again, this
is controversial, but if you want to be a doctor
or a teacher or something that you have to have
(02:53):
a degree for fully get it, Like, yes, go to UNI,
H go to UNI. I actually did go to Unirah.
I didn't finish the course. I was a dropout, but
I did go to UNI and I did journalism and
then I went on to be a radio presenter for
years and years. Did I need that journalism qualificare? I
didn't get the qualification anyway, But did I need that
(03:16):
in order to you need order to do the Absolutely not.
I'll tell you what I needed to do. I needed
to go down, I needed to hassle the receptionists, and
then I needed to end up doing promo, driving around,
putting castickers on people's cars.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
So I would probably classify you more as a hustle.
You need agree to be a hustler. I think it's
like pick and choose, pick and choose.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
I think for me, I was like after school. I
enjoyed school for what school was.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
I got good marks when I finished, but I was
sort of like, oh, I just want to earn money. Yeah,
So I was a lot more money driven in the
sense of like I just want to earn my own cash.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
I want to buy a car I want to do.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Like there was always that whole you know, you work
hard for your money, you work hard, you play hard.
That's probably a bad habit to I've learnt from my parents.
But then I went to UNI for about eight months
and then was like, oh, I was considered a mature
age student. Un he's not fun as a mature age student. No,
(04:19):
not what I was thinking. I was sort of anticipating,
like I wanted the college parties.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
I wanted to when I was.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Going to like hang out with the cookies or I
was going to be a part of the UNI.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
And then I was like, oh, this is actually this
actually sucks.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Yeah, and it's a very expensive way of just going
to all the parties.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
I was going to go and get a teaching degree.
That's what I was going to do. And I ended
up going just getting a coaching degree. That's the same thing.
You were going to get a teaching degree.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
But you hate children? Yeah, I know. Am I a
bad mom or not knowing what to do? Oh my god,
I feel like I've hit rock bottom with the whole
(05:08):
lunch situation with my children.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Is it because they're not eating in general, or they're
just like can't be bothered doing their own.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Both On the weekend, right, they said, what have we
got for lunch? And like my auntswer normally is what
are you making for lunch? Yeah, there's like the eye
roll and then I go, okay, cool, Well I bought
some fresh rolls this morning from the bakery. I stood
in the kitchen and I made everybody's lunch and I
(05:38):
put love in it. I even made like a homemade
thousand dialand dressing rate because I was like, Josh, cheese
and salad, like the pickles and the this and that.
Just a side note, I'm going through a stage of
being like our sauces that you buy in the shop
are a full of shit, being not very good.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, maybe this is your side hustle. You
can start selling sauce. We're going to be making sauce
out of this.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Yeah, you have a hundred of z time into this.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Yeah, it's kinda coming to it coals near you watch
this anyway, Like I googled it, I was like that
shit's easy peprika bit of mustard.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
So anyway, put love into the lunch is what I'm saying.
And then I watch them nibble a little bit and
then put the rest in the bin. And I've said,
there is nothing that I love more than spending time
making food expensive food.
Speaker 3 (06:43):
I was just going to say, mate, if I saw
that rind the bin, I would have lost.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
And then watch it go in the bin. I was like,
what are you doing? Oh, I've eaten most of it.
No you haven't. You've had a little nibble. Now you're
throwing the rest away. I have just stood there and
made that. I don't know what to do about it.
It doesn't seem like a very big deal ill in
the grand scheme of life.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
However, what is when they're at you? Yeah, I was
gonna say, just.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Watch your through just it's like when they watch.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
Your home cash.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Yeah, and open up the lunch box and just like
throwing it all back in the bin. I say to
them often. I was like, hey, you know that money
you've got in your bank account, how about you just
stand in front of the toilet and just throw it
in bit by bit, throw it away. Yeah, because that's
what you're doing.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
Well, I think at the end of the day, Katie,
I look at that and go, you're also being disrespectful
of my time.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
I've gone out of my way to make you lunch,
and now you're throwing the bin. It would tick all
of my boxes. I would be firing.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
And it's just like standing in front of you and
getting like your fifty bucks and just like lighting it
up because I mean, you're loaded, aren't you. You are
rolling in it. In their eyes, you are rolling in cash.
And doesn't worry about mum. That's what she wants to
be doing on a Sunday. She wants to be standing
at the bench making us lunch.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Yeah, and watching you throw it in the bin. I
can make me work soul destroying.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
It is so destroying, and they don't even know that
they're doing it. And then they're like almost at that
point where they're like, oh, it doesn't matter, no, but
this is the thing.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
It does matter. It does.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
I have to give credit where credits to you, and
I don't do it very often and it might only
be for a short time.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
I was just doing the touch wood. The girls are
pretty good with that stuff.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
I think I've been such a stickler and I know
that you were the same. Maybe I'll shift with age,
I guess, but like, if you're not eating it, now,
put some clatter up over it, eat it later because
I'm not getting out more shit. Because like my girls
are exactly the same in the sense that they're like, oh,
not really feeling it right now, but like thirty minutes
later they're starving, and you're like, bro, get it back
(08:50):
out of fridge. That is so wasteful, Like that's good
fresh produce, like salad, fresh rolls. They just don't understand
how good they've got it.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
You don't understand it right now, but you will later on.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
There's a lot of people that don't get to even
have the freshness of food. Yeah, and they go, oh,
I'd rather have two minute noodles from my whole entire life.
You go on, but you really wouldn't You know that
feeling when you go away for a holiday and you're
like eating just like holiday food for like a week,
and you just go, if I see another fucking French fright,
which is big for me to say, if I see
(09:27):
another French try, I'm going to go I just need
a bowl of salad or veggies or something like that. Yeah, Mike, Yeah,
my kids were like that coming off of the back
of holidays.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
They'd been away.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
I hadn't seen them for like a week in a
bit and they come back and they're like, oh, mom,
we just want your the food that they're so maybe
accustomed to, but also like it makes them feel full
like inside, do you know, like that feeling of the
love part that you were talking about.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Yeah, it's interesting because like moments like that remind you
that you're doing a good job, and they actually do
value it like that is important. Something similar, different lines.
But Amelia said to me the other day, I love
it when you work from home. And I went, what
do you mean? She went, because I come home the
(10:12):
house is tidy, the washings all put away, because when
I went from home, I don't have the travel time.
It's just little you can stick washing on, Like I love.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
Feeling Like yeah, got establishment. But I was like, oh, isn't.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
That interesting that she mentioned that? So actually she does that.
She notices that she comes home to a clean and
tidy house.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Yeah, And that's the thing, Like they're the little things
that you might like skip over in a day to
day setting, but then in the overall, like the big
picture is that they're obviously noticing it, they're taking it
on board, you know, whether they're obnoxious to it at
different times, that's naturally what kids do.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Do you know what happened the other day, And this
was such a trigger for me, And I can own
it and see.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
That it was through your own behavior, through lengthing on
your own behavior.
Speaker 3 (11:04):
You're like, yeah, I was triggered. I was feeling it.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Because Jay had cooked dinner, and then no one was
really making much of an effort to clear up after dinner.
And Holly turned around and when, oh, come on, we
need to help clean up Dad's cooked dinner. We all
late dinner. And I don't know why it was such
(11:26):
a trigger for me. I think because I never hear
her say I was.
Speaker 3 (11:32):
I can tell you why.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
In the kitchen, having made dinner, cleaning up, doing like whatever.
It may be a million things, and that I literally
never get that reaction. And so then I literally spent
the next half an hour walking around the house going, oh,
we all wear clothes, we should.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
Help mom with watching.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Oh, we all live in the house, we should help
with the tidy. She just were older and went, oh, Mom.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
It's true. I would have been one hundred percent the same.
I would have been like, or we beat it? What
about everything else that you do?
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Juddy Coo
Appogiae production. Welcome back to another episode about I a
Bad Mom podcast, another season after school holidays, school's gone back.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
School is technically into term three turn three.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Oh my goodness.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
That means that your girls have technically got one to
six to go, six terms and they're.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
Out of school.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
Oh my goodness, six terms.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Just the terms.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
If we break it down into terms, six terms and
your children have finished school six terms and you are
no longer paying school fees, oh my god, it be
so nice. This is groundbreaking for most parents.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Yeah, I've already made it clear. Right If there is
talk of UNI, I know that we should be encouraging
our kids. And my kids don't want to go to UNI,
so I'm fine with that. But if they did, I
have talked to them about hex data and I've talked
to them about what's involved with that because UNI's expensive.
Speaker 3 (01:22):
Yeah it is these days. It is very expensive. Actually,
I think it's always been.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
This is a controversial thing to say, especially in Brisbane
where we live, because I feel like where you go
to school and all that kind of stuff is such
a big thing for the pool here.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
I've been told it's to Sydney thing too, Like I
went to school in Townsville. I'd never had anyone come
up to me and go, Hi, I'm Susan. I went
to Saint Rita's cool bro like I'm Rachel. I went
to school too, went to school.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
It's almost like a status thing. I really don't like
it because we both went to state schools. Nothing wrong
with us.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
No, not, I'm being a little bit wild around the edges,
but absolutely okay. But I'm kind of with you on
the HEX thing because I feel like, and I'm only
saying this from my own experience, because if I wanted
to attend UNI, my parents never said do it, do it,
do it, or you must do it. They were just
more like, if you want to, and that's your thing,
(02:20):
by all means, go to UNI.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
But you be paying your wait, yeah, and I think
it just.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Gives you like a little bit more maybe like, oh shit,
I really have to finish this because I'm paying the
bill at the end of it.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
But I also think there's a lot of people that
go to UNI because they feel like they should, and
they do courses that I feel like, you don't need
to have a UNI degree for these days. Again, this
is controversial, but if you want to be a doctor
or a teacher or something that you have to have
(02:53):
a degree for fully get it, Like, yes, go to UNI,
H go to UNI. I actually did go to Unirah.
I didn't finish the course. I was a dropout, but
I did go to UNI and I did journalism and
then I went on to be a radio presenter for
years and years. Did I need that journalism qualificare? I
didn't get the qualification anyway, But did I need that
(03:16):
in order to you need order to do the Absolutely not.
I'll tell you what I needed to do. I needed
to go down, I needed to hassle the receptionists, and
then I needed to end up doing promo, driving around,
putting castickers on people's cars.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
So I would probably classify you more as a hustle.
You need agree to be a hustler. I think it's
like pick and choose, pick and choose.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
I think for me, I was like after school. I
enjoyed school for what school was.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
I got good marks when I finished, but I was
sort of like, oh, I just want to earn money. Yeah,
So I was a lot more money driven in the
sense of like I just want to earn my own cash.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
I want to buy a car I want to do.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Like there was always that whole you know, you work
hard for your money, you work hard, you play hard.
That's probably a bad habit to I've learnt from my parents.
But then I went to UNI for about eight months
and then was like, oh, I was considered a mature
age student. Un he's not fun as a mature age student. No,
(04:19):
not what I was thinking. I was sort of anticipating,
like I wanted the college parties.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
I wanted to when I was.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Going to like hang out with the cookies or I
was going to be a part of the UNI.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
And then I was like, oh, this is actually this
actually sucks.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Yeah, and it's a very expensive way of just going
to all the parties.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
I was going to go and get a teaching degree.
That's what I was going to do. And I ended
up going just getting a coaching degree. That's the same thing.
You were going to get a teaching degree.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
But you hate children? Yeah, I know. Am I a
bad mom or not knowing what to do? Oh my god,
I feel like I've hit rock bottom with the whole
(05:08):
lunch situation with my children.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Is it because they're not eating in general, or they're
just like can't be bothered doing their own.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Both On the weekend, right, they said, what have we
got for lunch? And like my auntswer normally is what
are you making for lunch? Yeah, there's like the eye
roll and then I go, okay, cool, Well I bought
some fresh rolls this morning from the bakery. I stood
in the kitchen and I made everybody's lunch and I
(05:38):
put love in it. I even made like a homemade
thousand dialand dressing rate because I was like, Josh, cheese
and salad, like the pickles and the this and that.
Just a side note, I'm going through a stage of
being like our sauces that you buy in the shop
are a full of shit, being not very good.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, maybe this is your side hustle. You
can start selling sauce. We're going to be making sauce
out of this.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Yeah, you have a hundred of z time into this.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Yeah, it's kinda coming to it coals near you watch
this anyway, Like I googled it, I was like that
shit's easy peprika bit of mustard.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
So anyway, put love into the lunch is what I'm saying.
And then I watch them nibble a little bit and
then put the rest in the bin. And I've said,
there is nothing that I love more than spending time
making food expensive food.
Speaker 3 (06:43):
I was just going to say, mate, if I saw
that rind the bin, I would have lost.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
And then watch it go in the bin. I was like,
what are you doing? Oh, I've eaten most of it.
No you haven't. You've had a little nibble. Now you're
throwing the rest away. I have just stood there and
made that. I don't know what to do about it.
It doesn't seem like a very big deal ill in
the grand scheme of life.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
However, what is when they're at you? Yeah, I was
gonna say, just.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Watch your through just it's like when they watch.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
Your home cash.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Yeah, and open up the lunch box and just like
throwing it all back in the bin. I say to
them often. I was like, hey, you know that money
you've got in your bank account, how about you just
stand in front of the toilet and just throw it
in bit by bit, throw it away. Yeah, because that's
what you're doing.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
Well, I think at the end of the day, Katie,
I look at that and go, you're also being disrespectful
of my time.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
I've gone out of my way to make you lunch,
and now you're throwing the bin. It would tick all
of my boxes. I would be firing.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
And it's just like standing in front of you and
getting like your fifty bucks and just like lighting it
up because I mean, you're loaded, aren't you. You are
rolling in it. In their eyes, you are rolling in cash.
And doesn't worry about mum. That's what she wants to
be doing on a Sunday. She wants to be standing
at the bench making us lunch.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Yeah, and watching you throw it in the bin. I
can make me work soul destroying.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
It is so destroying, and they don't even know that
they're doing it. And then they're like almost at that
point where they're like, oh, it doesn't matter, no, but
this is the thing.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
It does matter. It does.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
I have to give credit where credits to you, and
I don't do it very often and it might only
be for a short time.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
I was just doing the touch wood. The girls are
pretty good with that stuff.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
I think I've been such a stickler and I know
that you were the same. Maybe I'll shift with age,
I guess, but like, if you're not eating it, now,
put some clatter up over it, eat it later because
I'm not getting out more shit. Because like my girls
are exactly the same in the sense that they're like, oh,
not really feeling it right now, but like thirty minutes
later they're starving, and you're like, bro, get it back
(08:50):
out of fridge. That is so wasteful, Like that's good
fresh produce, like salad, fresh rolls. They just don't understand
how good they've got it.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
You don't understand it right now, but you will later on.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
There's a lot of people that don't get to even
have the freshness of food. Yeah, and they go, oh,
I'd rather have two minute noodles from my whole entire life.
You go on, but you really wouldn't You know that
feeling when you go away for a holiday and you're
like eating just like holiday food for like a week,
and you just go, if I see another fucking French fright,
which is big for me to say, if I see
(09:27):
another French try, I'm going to go I just need
a bowl of salad or veggies or something like that. Yeah, Mike, Yeah,
my kids were like that coming off of the back
of holidays.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
They'd been away.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
I hadn't seen them for like a week in a
bit and they come back and they're like, oh, mom,
we just want your the food that they're so maybe
accustomed to, but also like it makes them feel full
like inside, do you know, like that feeling of the
love part that you were talking about.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Yeah, it's interesting because like moments like that remind you
that you're doing a good job, and they actually do
value it like that is important. Something similar, different lines.
But Amelia said to me the other day, I love
it when you work from home. And I went, what
do you mean? She went, because I come home the
(10:12):
house is tidy, the washings all put away, because when
I went from home, I don't have the travel time.
It's just little you can stick washing on, Like I love.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
Feeling Like yeah, got establishment. But I was like, oh, isn't.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
That interesting that she mentioned that? So actually she does that.
She notices that she comes home to a clean and
tidy house.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Yeah, And that's the thing, Like they're the little things
that you might like skip over in a day to
day setting, but then in the overall, like the big
picture is that they're obviously noticing it, they're taking it
on board, you know, whether they're obnoxious to it at
different times, that's naturally what kids do.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Do you know what happened the other day, And this
was such a trigger for me, And I can own
it and see.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
That it was through your own behavior, through lengthing on
your own behavior.
Speaker 3 (11:04):
You're like, yeah, I was triggered. I was feeling it.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Because Jay had cooked dinner, and then no one was
really making much of an effort to clear up after dinner.
And Holly turned around and when, oh, come on, we
need to help clean up Dad's cooked dinner. We all
late dinner. And I don't know why it was such
(11:26):
a trigger for me. I think because I never hear
her say I was.
Speaker 3 (11:32):
I can tell you why.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
In the kitchen, having made dinner, cleaning up, doing like whatever.
It may be a million things, and that I literally
never get that reaction. And so then I literally spent
the next half an hour walking around the house going, oh,
we all wear clothes, we should.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
Help mom with watching.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Oh, we all live in the house, we should help
with the tidy. She just were older and went, oh, Mom.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
It's true. I would have been one hundred percent the same.
I would have been like, or we beat it? What
about everything else that you do?
Speaker 2 (12:09):
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