September 1, 2025 • 11 mins
Katie is battling still parenting v loosening the strings. Teenagers are a whole other ball game and she has lost control!
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Appoche production.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Welcome back to another episode of Am I.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
A Bad MoMA Podcast? My goodness, it's September.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
We did have a moment just then that you were
like what is and I was like, yep, it's September,
which means officially winter is over. I mean it's not
like we can't complain. We're in Brisbane, right, Yeah, we
cannot complain in comparison to other places in Australia, but
across the world it gets mighty fine cold in other places.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
I mean winter is put a jumper on. It's not
like I've never worn gloves or a scarf in Brisbane.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
No me neither.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
I'm not getting around adding a beanie to my kit. No,
So technically winter is over.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Spring is here and so are the magpies, so are
the birds. It's sweeping season. Yeah, the other places have
swooping manner.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Everything to do with wildlife is either going to kill
you or really fucking annoy you.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
In Queensland, there's nothing better than those people that wear
their helmets, but they put like the fucking zip ties
on them, Like yeah, with little cable tire zip tires everywhere,
So they like stick up because they say that if
you've got them on, the birds aren't going to swoop
you as much or like maybe not as close.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
September is very amusing to watch someone else gets sweep. Yeah,
Like I remember seeing this guy and he was like
very business like. He was wearing a suit with a tie,
like very smart, polish shoes. He was carrying a briefcase
and he got swooped by a magpie And you should
have seen.
Speaker 4 (02:02):
Flapping a briefcases off the cases trying to fight the birds. Actually,
speaking of birds, I think it was earlier last week
and I went for a walk with my children somewhere,
and speaking of swooping birds, plovers.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
I don't know what their formal name is. I'm not
taking away the seriousness of magpies. They can be dangerous. Yeah,
they draw blood. Yeah, they can be dangerous. But like
plovers have like these hook things on their claws, like
they really mean business. If they're going to swoop you
and you get hit by them, danger like, it's gonna hurt.
But I literally was walking ahead and my kids were
(02:39):
being a bit slow, and I.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Was like, come on, hurry up, hurry up, hurry up.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
And then at the same time I sort of look
ahead and there's this plover coming at.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Me, and I was like, oh shit. So then I
slow down so that my kids can catch up somewhat
go ahead of me. Those plover's gotta swoop and I
was like standing behind. It's like laughing, going oh, that
was really cruel.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
I did the same. I was going through a park
one year. I remember vividly this magpie could see it.
It was like looking at me and I could see
it was about to go, and the girls were on
their bikes and I was going, off, you go go
in front. Am I about mum for being out of control?
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I feel like it's me most days.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Actually, this is a weird situation that I find myself
in in that as a parent, my kids haven't got
very long.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Left at school.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
It's so weird. Yeah, when I think about it, like
I'm going to absolutely love not paying.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
For paying for school fees that's one plus.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
And lunchbox stuff and.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
No pickups, no drop offs, like I just said to you,
then I'm like, guys, look at the time, I've got
to get saw my school pick up again.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Because there's not many hours in the day between.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Rach I've only gott until November of needing to do that,
then they'll be driving.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
Yeah, that's what I mean, elves to school so crazy.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
So I've got to a point where we've talked about
this before. This is a kind of a couple of
parts to this. First of all, there is the being
out of control in that there's a real balance between
still being a parent, still having rules and boundaries and stuff,
but then also realizing the sixteen Yeah, and you have
(04:38):
to kind of loosen the strings strings a little bit
in terms of like bed when I think about how
I was at sixteen, my parents weren't telling me what
time to get a bit.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
You had a little slogan that went with it. What
was it, something like respond privilege, Yeah, equals responsibility. So
you are privilege, Yeah, you have to show the responsibility. Yeah, okay, yep,
that was a good one. Yeah, so we're doing this
kind of that. Yeah, so you're implementing that already. Now
you're at the point where you're like sitting in it
(05:07):
sort of.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Like going, oh my gosh, I'm really in it now.
And then that's why you're feeling like you're out of control.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Yeah, I told you didn't. I I've gone super strict
with phones again. Yeah, phones are coming down at eight o'clock.
So when we talk about kids and how they kind
of do the full three sixty or whatever, it is
because kids get.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Up early, right, normally, normally.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
From day one, your kids are up in the night,
they're up super early. They're up when the birds get up,
the first glint of sunlight, and they're allwake and they're
like really early, and you can't wait until your kids
sleep in, and then they sleep in and it's like
next level. You're like waking them up on the weekend
at lunchtime, going get out of bed, get out of bed,
get out of bed. And you've got all of that
(05:50):
going on my house, rate, And I know because I
see when I text you that you've got your notification
silence from like seven pm or something.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
I think it's eight pm, but yeah, I'm early.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Your house starts quietening down and people were going to bed,
and you're shutting up shop around eight pm. Yeah eight bet,
yeah my house at eight pm. Rate comes alive. My
house is so noisy at that time. This is not me,
this is music playing.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
Teenagers come alive.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
In that night time and then it gets louder and
then it's late.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
They're nocturnal animals.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
I can't deal with it, Like, well, not for you
on a Monday. Monday nights means shut down early. You
catch up for your weekend sleep on a Monday night.
So that's not going to work great.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Do they do an acting class on a Wednesday? Right
finishes at nine point thirty? Yeah, I'm asleep before they
get home.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Honestly, who's peaking them up? Oh so you do drop off, Jada,
I figu up. Yeah, I did drop off. He does
pick up.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
They don't get home until after ten. I feel like
I'm drowning in that. I'm like, one minute, I'm going, yes,
you can do that, you can stop later.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
You know you're sixteen, you're going to be an adult
next year. Yeah. Yeah, all of the things.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
And then there's a situation like on the weekend where
they didn't get their assignment done. Amelia says to me
last night because I'm like bed off to bed go,
she says to me, I've set my alarm for three am.
I was like, what, I'm going to get up three
am and I'm going to finish up my assignment. I
was like, whatever you need to do, just don't wake
(07:25):
anyone else up, did she didn't?
Speaker 1 (07:27):
No?
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Heer alum went off, yeah, and then she went back
to sleep. I sent a message, a text message today
to them both. I said, there were forty eight hours.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Over the weekend.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
We sleep for sixteen over two nights, eight hours a night.
Amelia worked for three hours on Sunday. What did you
do with the other twenty nine hours that you couldn't.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Get your home done?
Speaker 3 (07:55):
Shit?
Speaker 1 (07:56):
And then you just bring out more punishments. I'm like,
you're not doing acting on Wednesday?
Speaker 3 (08:00):
Was not done?
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Blah blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
The phones are still coming down at a If they
don't come down at eight, you get a fine.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
If they're not on their phones, are they just on
their laptops?
Speaker 3 (08:08):
Yeah, And then their laptops has the same messaging system.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
I have never known procrastination, procrested procrastination.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
I have not known.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Procrastination like it.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
It blows my mind.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
And then the arguing that comes with it about not
having enough time.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Honestly, I can't be bothered with yeah until lunchtime, I
didn't have enough time.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
So then the second part to this rate is the
fact that they are going to finish school next year.
And I don't know what the fuck they're going to do.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Who cares.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
Honestly, they'll get there, they'll work it out. They will
work it out. All I wanted to do when I
finished school was I wanted to earn money, and I
imagine your girls want to do the same. So tie
your purse up at the end of next year. Sorry,
I can't pay.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
For a thing.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
I've already said phone bill because I'm done phone bill,
you're Spotify.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
I'm broke because your school fees have like emptied my account.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
So now it's on you. They have to do it.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
We can help navigate them, and we can help like
give ideas, but you can't plan for them. Like you
can't worry about that stuff yet. You gotta worry about tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Think about how fast a year, well, September, how fast
is this year gone?
Speaker 1 (09:32):
I know this time next year.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Think about your bank balance, Think about your bank balance. Yes,
so you should be fucking excited. I would be so excited.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
And more importantly, it's a pretty pretty big.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
Achievement finish school for me. We've both finished it, thank god,
the girls. It's a very cool achievement. I swear there
was more formals though last weekend, because we seem to
be in an area like a real hot spot where
they have all the post formal parties dead set. The
DJ that was playing at one of these post formal
(10:06):
parties was wicked. I could hear it clear as day
from my house because it's coming off someone's property. I
was just outside hanging out with my dogs, thinking, whoever
is djaying?
Speaker 1 (10:19):
This is wild? I want to party. I'm going to
go and find the party.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
I'm going to be one of those what are they called,
like the people that joined schoolies. I'm going to go
hang out with all these I'm going to go out
with all the schoolies at the post formal party, just
so I can listen to this DJ.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Imagine if you have rocked up excuse me?
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Oh so I know you're all like twenty years younger.
I would love it, love Calmon Joy. Can I join it?
Just live around the corner. We're neighbors. What were you wearing?
Probably my pajamas? Funny, I know I'd had.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
A few wines, which gives you a little bit of courage.
Probably wouldn't last long there because I'd feel so old.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
But it was wicked DJ. How many wines?
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Would you have needed to be able to have the
courage to turn off on you armers, Probably
Speaker 3 (11:06):
A few bottles, or just give me a few tikitlos
one or the other
Appoche production.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Welcome back to another episode of Am I.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
A Bad MoMA Podcast? My goodness, it's September.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
We did have a moment just then that you were
like what is and I was like, yep, it's September,
which means officially winter is over. I mean it's not
like we can't complain. We're in Brisbane, right, Yeah, we
cannot complain in comparison to other places in Australia, but
across the world it gets mighty fine cold in other places.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
I mean winter is put a jumper on. It's not
like I've never worn gloves or a scarf in Brisbane.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
No me neither.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
I'm not getting around adding a beanie to my kit. No,
So technically winter is over.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Spring is here and so are the magpies, so are
the birds. It's sweeping season. Yeah, the other places have
swooping manner.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Everything to do with wildlife is either going to kill
you or really fucking annoy you.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
In Queensland, there's nothing better than those people that wear
their helmets, but they put like the fucking zip ties
on them, Like yeah, with little cable tire zip tires everywhere,
So they like stick up because they say that if
you've got them on, the birds aren't going to swoop
you as much or like maybe not as close.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
September is very amusing to watch someone else gets sweep. Yeah,
Like I remember seeing this guy and he was like
very business like. He was wearing a suit with a tie,
like very smart, polish shoes. He was carrying a briefcase
and he got swooped by a magpie And you should
have seen.
Speaker 4 (02:02):
Flapping a briefcases off the cases trying to fight the birds. Actually,
speaking of birds, I think it was earlier last week
and I went for a walk with my children somewhere,
and speaking of swooping birds, plovers.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
I don't know what their formal name is. I'm not
taking away the seriousness of magpies. They can be dangerous. Yeah,
they draw blood. Yeah, they can be dangerous. But like
plovers have like these hook things on their claws, like
they really mean business. If they're going to swoop you
and you get hit by them, danger like, it's gonna hurt.
But I literally was walking ahead and my kids were
(02:39):
being a bit slow, and I.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Was like, come on, hurry up, hurry up, hurry up.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
And then at the same time I sort of look
ahead and there's this plover coming at.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Me, and I was like, oh shit. So then I
slow down so that my kids can catch up somewhat
go ahead of me. Those plover's gotta swoop and I
was like standing behind. It's like laughing, going oh, that
was really cruel.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
I did the same. I was going through a park
one year. I remember vividly this magpie could see it.
It was like looking at me and I could see
it was about to go, and the girls were on
their bikes and I was going, off, you go go
in front. Am I about mum for being out of control?
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I feel like it's me most days.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Actually, this is a weird situation that I find myself
in in that as a parent, my kids haven't got
very long.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Left at school.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
It's so weird. Yeah, when I think about it, like
I'm going to absolutely love not paying.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
For paying for school fees that's one plus.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
And lunchbox stuff and.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
No pickups, no drop offs, like I just said to you,
then I'm like, guys, look at the time, I've got
to get saw my school pick up again.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Because there's not many hours in the day between.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Rach I've only gott until November of needing to do that,
then they'll be driving.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
Yeah, that's what I mean, elves to school so crazy.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
So I've got to a point where we've talked about
this before. This is a kind of a couple of
parts to this. First of all, there is the being
out of control in that there's a real balance between
still being a parent, still having rules and boundaries and stuff,
but then also realizing the sixteen Yeah, and you have
(04:38):
to kind of loosen the strings strings a little bit
in terms of like bed when I think about how
I was at sixteen, my parents weren't telling me what
time to get a bit.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
You had a little slogan that went with it. What
was it, something like respond privilege, Yeah, equals responsibility. So
you are privilege, Yeah, you have to show the responsibility. Yeah, okay, yep,
that was a good one. Yeah, so we're doing this
kind of that. Yeah, so you're implementing that already. Now
you're at the point where you're like sitting in it
(05:07):
sort of.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Like going, oh my gosh, I'm really in it now.
And then that's why you're feeling like you're out of control.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Yeah, I told you didn't. I I've gone super strict
with phones again. Yeah, phones are coming down at eight o'clock.
So when we talk about kids and how they kind
of do the full three sixty or whatever, it is
because kids get.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Up early, right, normally, normally.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
From day one, your kids are up in the night,
they're up super early. They're up when the birds get up,
the first glint of sunlight, and they're allwake and they're
like really early, and you can't wait until your kids
sleep in, and then they sleep in and it's like
next level. You're like waking them up on the weekend
at lunchtime, going get out of bed, get out of bed,
get out of bed. And you've got all of that
(05:50):
going on my house, rate, And I know because I
see when I text you that you've got your notification
silence from like seven pm or something.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
I think it's eight pm, but yeah, I'm early.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Your house starts quietening down and people were going to bed,
and you're shutting up shop around eight pm. Yeah eight bet,
yeah my house at eight pm. Rate comes alive. My
house is so noisy at that time. This is not me,
this is music playing.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
Teenagers come alive.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
In that night time and then it gets louder and
then it's late.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
They're nocturnal animals.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
I can't deal with it, Like, well, not for you
on a Monday. Monday nights means shut down early. You
catch up for your weekend sleep on a Monday night.
So that's not going to work great.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Do they do an acting class on a Wednesday? Right
finishes at nine point thirty? Yeah, I'm asleep before they
get home.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Honestly, who's peaking them up? Oh so you do drop off, Jada,
I figu up. Yeah, I did drop off. He does
pick up.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
They don't get home until after ten. I feel like
I'm drowning in that. I'm like, one minute, I'm going, yes,
you can do that, you can stop later.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
You know you're sixteen, you're going to be an adult
next year. Yeah. Yeah, all of the things.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
And then there's a situation like on the weekend where
they didn't get their assignment done. Amelia says to me
last night because I'm like bed off to bed go,
she says to me, I've set my alarm for three am.
I was like, what, I'm going to get up three
am and I'm going to finish up my assignment. I
was like, whatever you need to do, just don't wake
(07:25):
anyone else up, did she didn't?
Speaker 1 (07:27):
No?
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Heer alum went off, yeah, and then she went back
to sleep. I sent a message, a text message today
to them both. I said, there were forty eight hours.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Over the weekend.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
We sleep for sixteen over two nights, eight hours a night.
Amelia worked for three hours on Sunday. What did you
do with the other twenty nine hours that you couldn't.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Get your home done?
Speaker 3 (07:55):
Shit?
Speaker 1 (07:56):
And then you just bring out more punishments. I'm like,
you're not doing acting on Wednesday?
Speaker 3 (08:00):
Was not done?
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Blah blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
The phones are still coming down at a If they
don't come down at eight, you get a fine.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
If they're not on their phones, are they just on
their laptops?
Speaker 3 (08:08):
Yeah, And then their laptops has the same messaging system.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
I have never known procrastination, procrested procrastination.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
I have not known.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Procrastination like it.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
It blows my mind.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
And then the arguing that comes with it about not
having enough time.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Honestly, I can't be bothered with yeah until lunchtime, I
didn't have enough time.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
So then the second part to this rate is the
fact that they are going to finish school next year.
And I don't know what the fuck they're going to do.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Who cares.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
Honestly, they'll get there, they'll work it out. They will
work it out. All I wanted to do when I
finished school was I wanted to earn money, and I
imagine your girls want to do the same. So tie
your purse up at the end of next year. Sorry,
I can't pay.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
For a thing.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
I've already said phone bill because I'm done phone bill,
you're Spotify.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
I'm broke because your school fees have like emptied my account.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
So now it's on you. They have to do it.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
We can help navigate them, and we can help like
give ideas, but you can't plan for them. Like you
can't worry about that stuff yet. You gotta worry about tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Think about how fast a year, well, September, how fast
is this year gone?
Speaker 1 (09:32):
I know this time next year.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Think about your bank balance, Think about your bank balance. Yes,
so you should be fucking excited. I would be so excited.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
And more importantly, it's a pretty pretty big.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
Achievement finish school for me. We've both finished it, thank god,
the girls. It's a very cool achievement. I swear there
was more formals though last weekend, because we seem to
be in an area like a real hot spot where
they have all the post formal parties dead set. The
DJ that was playing at one of these post formal
(10:06):
parties was wicked. I could hear it clear as day
from my house because it's coming off someone's property. I
was just outside hanging out with my dogs, thinking, whoever
is djaying?
Speaker 1 (10:19):
This is wild? I want to party. I'm going to
go and find the party.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
I'm going to be one of those what are they called,
like the people that joined schoolies. I'm going to go
hang out with all these I'm going to go out
with all the schoolies at the post formal party, just
so I can listen to this DJ.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Imagine if you have rocked up excuse me?
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Oh so I know you're all like twenty years younger.
I would love it, love Calmon Joy. Can I join it?
Just live around the corner. We're neighbors. What were you wearing?
Probably my pajamas? Funny, I know I'd had.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
A few wines, which gives you a little bit of courage.
Probably wouldn't last long there because I'd feel so old.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
But it was wicked DJ. How many wines?
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Would you have needed to be able to have the
courage to turn off on you armers, Probably
Speaker 3 (11:06):
A few bottles, or just give me a few tikitlos
one or the other
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