August 17, 2025 • 11 mins
Rach finds herself in a situation where she is completely out of control, so does what any child psychologist would recommend. and throws out every punishment she can think of all in one go!
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Apogae Production.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Welcome back to another episode of Am I A Bad Mom?
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Podcast?
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Actually, right just before this, we were talking about vegetables
and nutrients and boiling the shit out of them.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
That kind of thing, texture of food.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
I've actually got a bit of information that I found out.
It's either going to be really helpful information for a
mum or really fucking annoying to know. Yeah, so what
I found out about the microwave. We know microwaves are
not great, right, that's not you. However, we all still
use them.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Yea.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
You know that when you put food into a microwave, Yes,
it kills any nutrients in that food supposedly.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Yeah, this is what I've been told. I know. But
how many microwave dinners do you ever feel well if you.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Put some microwave with vegetables as an example, if you
put vegetables in the microwave. Again, this is what I
have been told. I haven't done my own being.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Told from somebody or listened to a podcast, got off
a podcast somebody.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Yeah right, and they said, if you put vegetables in
the microwave, it kills the nutrients into vegetables. There's actually
no real benefit. Yeah, I do agree, do you put
anything in the microwave?
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Ever, I don't you know what if I'm reflecting on
my I hate reflecting on age actually, but going through
my age group. So it's just say twenties to thirties,
when life was so busy, I did put a lot
in the microwaveah, And then I think I got to
my thirties and then someone had told me about baby formula,
(01:56):
like you know, you heat a bottle up in the microwave,
and they gave me a little bit of low down
on that, and I think I stopped from their microplastics. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
I swapped out. I got the glass. I did the
whole change because I was even saying, like, by putting
the water into the microwave without the lid on, obviously
(02:17):
because we didn't put the lid on, you're putting it
in there exposing it. And I was like, oh, I'm
going to kill my baby. So I swopped everything up. Yeah,
unless I'm reheating something like leftovers, very rare occasion for me,
but like those sorts of things, yeah, I'll put it
in there, but I don't put too much in there
at all, Like if I'm going to do like a
(02:38):
handful of veggies just for me, for instance, Like if
it's just me, I think it's just an automatic process.
Now I just put them in a pot. Yeah, And
I went through a stage where you can get the
steam fresh veggies and they are in packets and you
put them in the microwave and it's just that amount
of veggies. And I would add it to like things
like two minute noodles or like I can have tuned
or something like that to just like as a Yeah,
(03:00):
obviously I was doing the wrong.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Having Yeah, I was vegetables in the plas dick going.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Because there the plastic sticks to it. Like by the
time you ended that, there's such runk right down into
the veggies that you're supposedly thinking you're putting nutrients into
your body.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Yeah, you're just putting plastic in Yep, another toxic meal
for me coming up.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Am I a bad mum for pulling out all stops?
I had such a tantrum towards my ten year old child.
I felt like I was out of control and this
was all over the phone. So we went up to
the wild Wild West for the weekend. Much to my
(03:51):
child's absolute she was discussed moun eyes Eyes rodeo and
it was a brilliant weekend. I think it's alwayst like
a bucket list kind of thing that you should do.
Once it was wild the bulls of the entertainment, like
it's an international, like this international writer is wicked, wicked fun.
(04:13):
But again Child left behind, very angry, very disgusted that
I was leaving. Not worried about Dad, no, just mum.
So I'd copped it Wednesday night. In the lead up
I was flying out Thursday afternoon, so there was already
that tension right, it had been building. I could feel
(04:33):
it building. Thursday Friday was districts. She made districts for
athletics after her sports day, which was wonderful. So Nan
was on duty for districts for Thursday Friday. I fly
out in the Thursday afternoon. All as well comes Saturday morning.
This was about seven twenty five am. Now Saturday mornings
(04:54):
for us in a normal standard, Saturday morning is an
eight am game start. For Elsie playing netball. Seven twenty
five I get a message from Elsie, can you text
the coach? I'm not going to netpa.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
The morning after a night at.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
I was like, let's call it a motel like it
was old, and I hadn't slept at all. Really on
the Friday night, when I finally do wake up, it's
to a text message going, mom, just texta coach. I'm
not going my legs are sore. I was like, like, fuck,
you should have left home already. You start on the
(05:35):
court at eight o'clock. We don't live around the corner anyway.
I ring mum, so my mum. I rang Nanade and
I was like, so, Elsie's texting me saying this from
her iPad A why she got her iPad? B? Get
her fucking moving please. It's a team sport. Also, three
(05:55):
of the girls that she plays netball with we're at
the same district's carnival for Thursday Friday and they're still playing.
So the answer is no, Mom, I'm not letting her
back on a team. Nanada's like, oh, well, her legs,
so I don't give a fuck if her legs stretch
them like she can't bay on. Now. This is absolutely
this is not showing any form of team effort, team work.
(06:19):
I said, all resilience, just get me to go to netball,
get up. So then I've got Elsie still texting me.
Stop calling Nan. I'm not going to netball. You can't
make me. Oh, Honestly, Katie, I was like, at this stage,
she's going off at me on text. I'm reading the text.
(06:39):
I've got mum on speakerphone, so I'm doing three things
with this device whilst, you know, telling my mum what
I thought. So then at the same time, NaN's walking
up to go to Elsie in the house, and then
I hear all of this chaos. Mom's going else. Mom's
on the phone. You need to go to a netple.
I'm not going, you know. Mom turns to me and goes, right,
(07:00):
what am I supposed to do with this? So you
were a mum once make her? Honestly, I pulled out
all stops, Katie. I pulled out every fucking threat in
the book. Elsie Thurday, if you do not get up,
this is all over the phone in a motel with
lots of other people, just through those paper thin walls
(07:22):
at seven am and in the morning, Elsie that I
don't get up and get dressed. You're not letting your
team down. If you do not go, I am going
to take your iPad off you for the whole time
you can go to school and ask for a school one. Honestly,
talk about reflective moments. I was out of control. I
was like, you will not watch one out of TV
(07:42):
for the whole of Tame three. You will not go
away to nurse her in the next holidays.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
No ice cream for the rest of your life.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
I was like out of control. I was wild. Nane goes,
I was just getting dressed. She goes, I hate you,
and then the phone hangs up. I was sitting in
bed and I was like, don't worry about Dad. No,
he's still asleep. Then I wanted to get the pillow
(08:11):
and I wanted to mother him. You made this happen.
And I was just like, I got out of bed,
I put my joggers on, I put my fucking walking
clothes on. I had just walked for like four kilometers
to just diffuse. I was just like, I'm so angry.
I had no control over the situation.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Yeah, does that normally happen on a Saturday morning? Or
was she just playing up the fact that you weren't
there so she'd given you a hard time the day
before for going away. It's all right for dad to
go away.
Speaker 3 (08:39):
He's allowed to do that for the whole year. Yeah, mums, no,
you have to be all about me. And so that's
what I just carried on. And so then you've got
the stress of helping Nan as well, because.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
I know, well then I just like it. So I
left it. I went for my walk, and my phone
buzzed twice, which I know is our security system saying
like someone's either entered the house or left the house
kind of thing, and I I just went, oh, okay,
so they're gone. That's good. I'd finish my walk. I
came back and I said, look, Mom, I understand how
much I'm asking of you. And it's a lot of
(09:13):
running around and I get all of that, but I
appreciate that you've pushed on this because saw legs doesn't
it quit to just not going yeah, Whereas my mom
is very much like if she's got saw legs, she
doesn't have to do it. You're putting too much pressure
on her. She's ten, she's a child. She's that like
as in, I'm the problem. No, when you sign up
for netwill, you don't sign up for the days that
(09:33):
you feel like playing. You sign up because you're a
part of a team.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
I remember all the times when the girls did dance,
and they would do like the concert and the this
and that and all the rehearsals and everything. And I
remember the amount of kids that were then allowed to
have the Monday off school because they'd had such a
tiring weekend. And I remember saying to the girls, absolutely,
not you have in the day off school. They'd be like,
(09:59):
why she gets doing? She gets doing everybody else's mom.
So I'm like, good on them, But it's not tea
to you anything. Oh, you're a bit tired, so you
can't go today. Imagine that in the real world when
you go and you have a job and you're in
the workforce, and you go, oh, I can't come into
the I'm a bit tired. Had a big weekend.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
No. I get a message late that afternoon from a
friend that's at netball and goes, god, Elsie played a
blinder of a game today. That's probably because I was
a fucking psychopath on the phone to her and banned
her from everything that she ever dreamt of. And then
she goes out and plays a blinder. She hads all legs, Yeah,
(10:38):
how are you saw legs? Oh?
Speaker 2 (10:39):
My god?
Speaker 1 (10:40):
Better did they They got better?
Speaker 2 (10:41):
Pretty quick.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
I genuinely like I do think about that straight jacket
a lot, guaring a lot.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Yeah, But also, isn't it funny or not funny? It's
not funny at all. Isn't it interesting how you can
be all of those kilometers away, a plane ride away,
and they're still going to hunt to you down and
make you pay.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
Have this, mum?
Speaker 2 (11:09):
How about a fuck up your weekend? Oh you decided
to go away without us.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
I told him that I really ruined it for you
Apogae Production.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Welcome back to another episode of Am I A Bad Mom?
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Podcast?
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Actually, right just before this, we were talking about vegetables
and nutrients and boiling the shit out of them.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
That kind of thing, texture of food.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
I've actually got a bit of information that I found out.
It's either going to be really helpful information for a
mum or really fucking annoying to know. Yeah, so what
I found out about the microwave. We know microwaves are
not great, right, that's not you. However, we all still
use them.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Yea.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
You know that when you put food into a microwave, Yes,
it kills any nutrients in that food supposedly.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Yeah, this is what I've been told. I know. But
how many microwave dinners do you ever feel well if you.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Put some microwave with vegetables as an example, if you
put vegetables in the microwave. Again, this is what I
have been told. I haven't done my own being.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Told from somebody or listened to a podcast, got off
a podcast somebody.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Yeah right, and they said, if you put vegetables in
the microwave, it kills the nutrients into vegetables. There's actually
no real benefit. Yeah, I do agree, do you put
anything in the microwave?
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Ever, I don't you know what if I'm reflecting on
my I hate reflecting on age actually, but going through
my age group. So it's just say twenties to thirties,
when life was so busy, I did put a lot
in the microwaveah, And then I think I got to
my thirties and then someone had told me about baby formula,
(01:56):
like you know, you heat a bottle up in the microwave,
and they gave me a little bit of low down
on that, and I think I stopped from their microplastics. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
I swapped out. I got the glass. I did the
whole change because I was even saying, like, by putting
the water into the microwave without the lid on, obviously
(02:17):
because we didn't put the lid on, you're putting it
in there exposing it. And I was like, oh, I'm
going to kill my baby. So I swopped everything up. Yeah,
unless I'm reheating something like leftovers, very rare occasion for me,
but like those sorts of things, yeah, I'll put it
in there, but I don't put too much in there
at all, Like if I'm going to do like a
(02:38):
handful of veggies just for me, for instance, Like if
it's just me, I think it's just an automatic process.
Now I just put them in a pot. Yeah, And
I went through a stage where you can get the
steam fresh veggies and they are in packets and you
put them in the microwave and it's just that amount
of veggies. And I would add it to like things
like two minute noodles or like I can have tuned
or something like that to just like as a Yeah,
(03:00):
obviously I was doing the wrong.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Having Yeah, I was vegetables in the plas dick going.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Because there the plastic sticks to it. Like by the
time you ended that, there's such runk right down into
the veggies that you're supposedly thinking you're putting nutrients into
your body.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Yeah, you're just putting plastic in Yep, another toxic meal
for me coming up.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Am I a bad mum for pulling out all stops?
I had such a tantrum towards my ten year old child.
I felt like I was out of control and this
was all over the phone. So we went up to
the wild Wild West for the weekend. Much to my
(03:51):
child's absolute she was discussed moun eyes Eyes rodeo and
it was a brilliant weekend. I think it's alwayst like
a bucket list kind of thing that you should do.
Once it was wild the bulls of the entertainment, like
it's an international, like this international writer is wicked, wicked fun.
(04:13):
But again Child left behind, very angry, very disgusted that
I was leaving. Not worried about Dad, no, just mum.
So I'd copped it Wednesday night. In the lead up
I was flying out Thursday afternoon, so there was already
that tension right, it had been building. I could feel
(04:33):
it building. Thursday Friday was districts. She made districts for
athletics after her sports day, which was wonderful. So Nan
was on duty for districts for Thursday Friday. I fly
out in the Thursday afternoon. All as well comes Saturday morning.
This was about seven twenty five am. Now Saturday mornings
(04:54):
for us in a normal standard, Saturday morning is an
eight am game start. For Elsie playing netball. Seven twenty
five I get a message from Elsie, can you text
the coach? I'm not going to netpa.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
The morning after a night at.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
I was like, let's call it a motel like it
was old, and I hadn't slept at all. Really on
the Friday night, when I finally do wake up, it's
to a text message going, mom, just texta coach. I'm
not going my legs are sore. I was like, like, fuck,
you should have left home already. You start on the
(05:35):
court at eight o'clock. We don't live around the corner anyway.
I ring mum, so my mum. I rang Nanade and
I was like, so, Elsie's texting me saying this from
her iPad A why she got her iPad? B? Get
her fucking moving please. It's a team sport. Also, three
(05:55):
of the girls that she plays netball with we're at
the same district's carnival for Thursday Friday and they're still playing.
So the answer is no, Mom, I'm not letting her
back on a team. Nanada's like, oh, well, her legs,
so I don't give a fuck if her legs stretch
them like she can't bay on. Now. This is absolutely
this is not showing any form of team effort, team work.
(06:19):
I said, all resilience, just get me to go to netball,
get up. So then I've got Elsie still texting me.
Stop calling Nan. I'm not going to netball. You can't
make me. Oh, Honestly, Katie, I was like, at this stage,
she's going off at me on text. I'm reading the text.
(06:39):
I've got mum on speakerphone, so I'm doing three things
with this device whilst, you know, telling my mum what
I thought. So then at the same time, NaN's walking
up to go to Elsie in the house, and then
I hear all of this chaos. Mom's going else. Mom's
on the phone. You need to go to a netple.
I'm not going, you know. Mom turns to me and goes, right,
(07:00):
what am I supposed to do with this? So you
were a mum once make her? Honestly, I pulled out
all stops, Katie. I pulled out every fucking threat in
the book. Elsie Thurday, if you do not get up,
this is all over the phone in a motel with
lots of other people, just through those paper thin walls
(07:22):
at seven am and in the morning, Elsie that I
don't get up and get dressed. You're not letting your
team down. If you do not go, I am going
to take your iPad off you for the whole time
you can go to school and ask for a school one. Honestly,
talk about reflective moments. I was out of control. I
was like, you will not watch one out of TV
(07:42):
for the whole of Tame three. You will not go
away to nurse her in the next holidays.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
No ice cream for the rest of your life.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
I was like out of control. I was wild. Nane goes,
I was just getting dressed. She goes, I hate you,
and then the phone hangs up. I was sitting in
bed and I was like, don't worry about Dad. No,
he's still asleep. Then I wanted to get the pillow
(08:11):
and I wanted to mother him. You made this happen.
And I was just like, I got out of bed,
I put my joggers on, I put my fucking walking
clothes on. I had just walked for like four kilometers
to just diffuse. I was just like, I'm so angry.
I had no control over the situation.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Yeah, does that normally happen on a Saturday morning? Or
was she just playing up the fact that you weren't
there so she'd given you a hard time the day
before for going away. It's all right for dad to
go away.
Speaker 3 (08:39):
He's allowed to do that for the whole year. Yeah, mums, no,
you have to be all about me. And so that's
what I just carried on. And so then you've got
the stress of helping Nan as well, because.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
I know, well then I just like it. So I
left it. I went for my walk, and my phone
buzzed twice, which I know is our security system saying
like someone's either entered the house or left the house
kind of thing, and I I just went, oh, okay,
so they're gone. That's good. I'd finish my walk. I
came back and I said, look, Mom, I understand how
much I'm asking of you. And it's a lot of
(09:13):
running around and I get all of that, but I
appreciate that you've pushed on this because saw legs doesn't
it quit to just not going yeah, Whereas my mom
is very much like if she's got saw legs, she
doesn't have to do it. You're putting too much pressure
on her. She's ten, she's a child. She's that like
as in, I'm the problem. No, when you sign up
for netwill, you don't sign up for the days that
(09:33):
you feel like playing. You sign up because you're a
part of a team.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
I remember all the times when the girls did dance,
and they would do like the concert and the this
and that and all the rehearsals and everything. And I
remember the amount of kids that were then allowed to
have the Monday off school because they'd had such a
tiring weekend. And I remember saying to the girls, absolutely,
not you have in the day off school. They'd be like,
(09:59):
why she gets doing? She gets doing everybody else's mom.
So I'm like, good on them, But it's not tea
to you anything. Oh, you're a bit tired, so you
can't go today. Imagine that in the real world when
you go and you have a job and you're in
the workforce, and you go, oh, I can't come into
the I'm a bit tired. Had a big weekend.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
No. I get a message late that afternoon from a
friend that's at netball and goes, god, Elsie played a
blinder of a game today. That's probably because I was
a fucking psychopath on the phone to her and banned
her from everything that she ever dreamt of. And then
she goes out and plays a blinder. She hads all legs, Yeah,
(10:38):
how are you saw legs? Oh?
Speaker 2 (10:39):
My god?
Speaker 1 (10:40):
Better did they They got better?
Speaker 2 (10:41):
Pretty quick.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
I genuinely like I do think about that straight jacket
a lot, guaring a lot.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Yeah, But also, isn't it funny or not funny? It's
not funny at all. Isn't it interesting how you can
be all of those kilometers away, a plane ride away,
and they're still going to hunt to you down and
make you pay.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
Have this, mum?
Speaker 2 (11:09):
How about a fuck up your weekend? Oh you decided
to go away without us.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
I told him that I really ruined it for you
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