July 10, 2025 • 33 mins
David Kostmayer, Partner at GBK Advisors, joins Trent and Patrick on “At Home with Roby”. From small-town Mississippi to starting a business with almost nothing during the recession, he’s all about community and connection. Hosting EO events like Global Dinner Day is his favorite where good food and even better conversations come to life.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to that home with Roby.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
I'm Patrick mc isaac from Roby Commercial in Services, along
with Trent hates Them from the Ruby family of companies.
Trent is taking selfies as we start the show here,
so I'm not really sure what exactly is happening. But
do you care to tell or? Is this like a
private selfie?
Speaker 1 (00:15):
You give a man a photo and it has a camera. Yeah,
that's what we do a lot of them do now. Man,
my teenage kids are training me. No, yeah, they are.
You kind of think you're supposed to turn it the
other way with a selfie though, sideways? Yeah? Why, I
don't know. Don't think that's how you're supposed to do it.
Then people can't see you, they see you sideways. Tell
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me about your shirt? Man us a T shirt? Black
T shirt? Who's on it? War the Oracle of Omaha?
Who histor? Warren Buffett? All right, did you get that
in Omaha? I did? Yes, that's where I'll go. Yes.
I bought one, and I bought my kids one. I
bought per Warren Buffet. I'm so I bought three and
(01:01):
thought they could share. I mean, I guess, actually, I
mean it was it was sixteen dollars a piece, so I.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Guess that could work over five kids. I guess like
one gets a sleeve, the other gets a sleeve.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
They just share. I mean, the craziest thing is, I'm
real flattered by this uh tatum rowing in piper. But
I think they think, no, they're not here to say otherwise.
I think they think I'm real cool. So they really
like wearing my hoodies and I haven't. I have a
pretty massive hoodie collection of you know, hoodie from fifteen
(01:36):
years ago, twenty years ago when I went to Tahoe,
I went to uh, Heavenly, and that hoodie's still hanging
in there, and uh, I forget I have these hoodies.
And and then one day they're wearing my hoodie and
I'm like, hey, if you're gonna borrow my hoodie, you
I'm flattered, but don't let it sit in your dirty
clothes pile for five months and then break it out
(01:57):
like roll with it rotated. Just let's all use it.
So so anyway, I think they think. I don't know
if they think the shirt's cool, but I liked them learning.
You know, my father did things to me in my
life where twenty years later I had an AHA moment
(02:20):
and was like, Oh, you.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Were telling me about one of those earlier about when
you thought you it was a good idea to throw
pennies in the lake or the river.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
That's correct. I was on the phone the other day
and walking around a late night club parking lot, and
while I was on the phone, I found two dollars
and twenty three cent and change. And I said, I'm
in disbelief that people leave money around like that. I
guess I don't know there's a fallout their car door,
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do they have holes in their pockets? Do they throw
it down? But one time when I was about eight
or nine years old, we live on the river, and
me and my best buddy UH had a couple of
pennies and went out on a deck and proceeded to
throw them in the river. Want to see how to
curve through the air. And my dadeded proceeded to give
miss banking tell me to never throw away money. People
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need money, and you work hard for money. You work
hard for every penny. That's for every penny. I guess
I didn't translate it that way. Well.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I think the conversation came up as we were talking
about that. We don't get political on this show.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Don't worry David. You know you're getting all.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Worried about how much it costs to make a penny
now like five and a half cent to make one cent,
and we keep doing that.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Well we're stopping, but we did that for a long time. Now.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
You're a business person. I think I'm a business person too.
David definitely is a business person that doesn't seem like
business proposal.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
No matter who you are, it's supposed to be, matter
what side of the awe of your own or where
you stand, I'll give you one cent to use the money.
I don't know that. Like the pennymakers must have some
some great people lobby in the government. I will miss
the penny though, I mean I I think people are
starting to collect them. I have a bunch of pennies,
like I said to think I told y'all last night,
or maybe when I was telling somebody else. I have
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a brown bag. It's like a bag that a forty
ounce beer would come in a brown bag. But it
came my dad gave it to me twenty five years ago,
and it's full of wheat pennies. And I think they
made wheat pennies during the war or something because of
something I don't know. And then you got some steel
pennies because copper was being used during the war. Those
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aren't worth anything either. It's just a bag of pennies.
But anyway, I must say another life lesson that my
dad taught me one time when I was in the
sixth grade. And and God bless this is a serious thing.
Not to get somber on the radio, but suicide is
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a serious thing, and it's people need help and prayers,
and that's what it is. And one time, when I
was in the sixth grade, Uh, a friend of mine,
an acquaintance of mine in middle school, her father committed
suicide and it devastated me as as a peer. And Uh, I,
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you know, proceeded as a sixth grader to worry that
my dad would would do this. And it took me
about a week to get the courage to blurt it
out of my mouth, to ask him if he would
if if he he was gonna do that, and uh
and and I did. On the way home from basketball practice,
we turned on our road. It was in the middle
of the woods, and uh and I blurted it out
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and he stopped the truck and he looked at me
and he said, son, if I'm ever dead, you best
go find a killer. And he turned his head back
and he drove down the road. And it's all he
ever said about it. And think thankfully he knew the
tact to instill confidence in his sixth grade son at
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the time. And I never were about that again in
my life, whereas me I might overtalk it and sit
down and try to explain everything to my child, and
sometimes you just drop these little little buckets and knowledge
in any way, that's a serious subject. But I do
think that's important, and I do think it needs to
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be an open topic because because if you talk about things,
improvements are made. But I say all that because you
asked me about the Warren Buffett shirt, and I bought
three for my kids, and you know, they're like, okay,
got a crazy Warren Buffett. Theyn kind of know who
Warren Buffett is, crazy old man on the shirt and
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is what I think. There's twelve of them or nine
of them, and they're all different colors and it's kind
of cute and one day they're gonna be like, huh,
now I know why he I think they're already figuring out.
But why he went to Omaha every year and why
he did this and why he hung out with these guys.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
So yeah, listen, man, I've known you for a really
long time. I know you have a long way of
coming back to the point, and you did. You hit
on a couple of things. I also set you up
with the penny thing. I feel a little guilty for that.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
That was a tea up. I mean, what are you
guilty of? I don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
We just hung out with I love the fact that
you found two dollars and twenty three cents, so I
got those numbers right in a parking lot. And then
that we're with Jim Birch and he says he walks
the street and say Charlotte and finds money all the time.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
He said is He said, he walked six miles about
twice a week, and his whole mission is to go
tell switch the street. He gonna get mad at us.
We were with Jim Birch and he did tell that story.
So it's pretty cool. I said, I want to get
out in front of you. It's kind of like shark
tooth hunting or Christmas tree hunting. I mean, I'm a
purveyor of hunting things, so so yeah. But then after
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I got off the phone, I went and visited with
my friend and his friend needed. I was showing him
the money, and another guy that I had just met
was like, Hey, I needed, I need to take a bus.
Can you give me that money? So I did it
is yeah, so and uh I always do this.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
My dad was real tight. A lot of value in
being tight, and then there's also some negatives and being
real tight. But uh, it was just a cloth that
he was cut from. But uh, as I've gotten older,
I had a mentor, and I've heard my pastors say too. Uh,
if you hold your hands together real tight, like clinch fists,
you cannot receive. If your hands are clinched with your
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hands open, you can receive. But that's how you got
to treat others. And that's that's just something I think
everybody should live by and uh and have a little
faith that if they do do right by others, it'll
come back to them tenfold. Now and I've I've felt
that my life and uh, yeah all comes from a
penny story. I love it. I love it and and
(08:54):
we were getting ready to but you've got to go
to a break. Here.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
We've got David Cosmar. He's a veteran e over here
in Charlotte. That's how I got to know David. And
he's a wonderful person. Has his filled with the tidbits
of knowledge like you just just dropped on us. So
we'll bring him on here next. You never met David?
Speaker 1 (09:10):
And what is David Kosmeyer's occupation? I believe he is
in the accounting field, all right. I think there's some
other stuff there. It all ties back to the penny
on the ground. It does. Man, funny how that works. Wow, Well, Patrick,
thanks for tearing me up or setting me up or whatever.
Welcome me into a spiderweb, David. I look forward to
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talking to you and getting to know you. EO is
Entrepreneur Organization which Patrick is a member of, and we
have a bunch of his his fellow EO members on
the radio now, which is great because these guys are hustlers.
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Patrick mc isaac from Roby Commercial in Services along with
Trent Hayson from the Roby family of companies. If you're
just now joining us, you can go back and check
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the beginning of the podcast. Trent, we had a lot
of life lessons on the on the first segment, tie
him back to your Warren Buffet shirt, pennies and in
some other important things.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Be a penny pincher, Be a penny pincher, Right, what's it?
What's it all? Saying? Chase the pennies and the dollars? Come,
I've never heard that. I like it? You like it? Yeah?
I just made it up. Really, come on, man, I
know back in my younger Bull and China shop career,
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other guys that were working hard said, I'm trying to
make a dollar out of fifteen cent.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
I think that was fifty cent, wasn't it back then?
Back now he's seventy five cent right with inflation.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
So hey, David, how you doing doing fine? David Kossmeyer
seems pretty comfortable in this seat. First time we've ever
formerly met him. All right with that so cool. And
you've been in the Entrepreneur Organization for nine years? Is
that correct? Yep?
Speaker 4 (11:06):
Coming up on I think it's ten this this summer.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Wow, I hear you. So uh yeah, So where are
you from?
Speaker 4 (11:14):
I grew up in uh South Mississippi, ties to New
Orleans and love that area of the country. But Arlotte,
Charlotte's got Charlotte's home now.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Southern miss right is where you went to school?
Speaker 4 (11:29):
Southern miss Brett Favre and I were uh crib mate. Uh,
as I tell people we cried together because we were
born in the same hospital day apart.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Isn't that cool? That's pretty funny. So yeah, so I
got I'm I'm in YPO, you know, President's Organization. We
have a bunch of my friends on here. Uh and
we're in the Southern seven so some several of my
friends that have been on here are miss from Mississippi
and from Alabama. Uh. And I was saying with Patrick
earlier and Jim Burr spent some time in New Orleans.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Who we were with? Who is the CEO of Old
Mecklenburg Brewery? Who John Marino is in EO as well?
Been on radio great friend a couple of times, but
I love and associates so well with Alabama guys. In Mississippi,
guys I knew I liked you well.
Speaker 4 (12:24):
You got to throw in the Cajun's down in New
Orleans area too. They're really fun to be around.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
A rowdy group, Huh.
Speaker 4 (12:32):
I would say, if you, if you, if you can't
get along with a Cajun, there's something wrong with you.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
I think Trent would get along really, but I think
you would do all right with the Cajun guys.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Yeah. I just don't know many folks from New Orleans.
I do know a couple of my really really really
good friends, Rob Krause and Clay Grubb graduated from to
the Two Lane University that's down in New Orleans, right
down to New Orleans. Say you were born in Mississippi,
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take us from there.
Speaker 4 (13:03):
Uh, born in Gulfport, lived in Biloxi, went to U
High School down there, then to college at Southern miss
got my bachelor's and came out in early nineties with
bad economy. So I went off to Alabama to get
my masters and tax got to which watched them when
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the only one national championship between early eighties and the
late nineties.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Really, And did you go to Alabama for your master's?
Speaker 4 (13:32):
I went to Alabama for my master's, then went back
to Jackson for a number of years, found my way
back to Hattiesburg and then over to Charlotte, and fifteen
years ago opened my practice and been doing it ever since.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
How long did you live in Hattiesburg?
Speaker 4 (13:47):
Two miserable years.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
My one of my best friends lives there. Ab pain.
I don't know if you know a pain that name is.
Speaker 4 (13:57):
There's a pain center with the Athletic Center at Southern
miss That Maybe that's that family.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
That's his family. Yeah, Yeah, he's in the home health
was in the home health care business. I think he's
back in that business now. Great. So you got a
degree from Alabama in a master's degree in tax. Yes,
that is a degree I've.
Speaker 4 (14:16):
Never heard that MTA. Great program. It was a great program.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Wow. Well. Uh, And we had grown our company. I
got out of college in two thousand and we grew
about tripled in size, fifty year family business my first
couple of years by just working and sleeping on the floor,
working all day and night. And uh, and our tax
guy said, uh, we we owed it. Federal government a
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lot of money, and I said, you're crazy, we don't
have that much money. And he started talking words like
working process and buying assets with cash and receivables, and
the whole time he was saying this, I got flushed,
like I had to flu and I was like, I
got to go read a tax book or an accounting book. Yeah. Uh,
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And I'm an economics major, but economics is theory and
accounting and tax is numbers. Yes, it's your pocket, yeah
it is. And it's something good to know. So you
two years in Hannisburg and then you made your way
to Charlotte. Yes, how old were you? Ah? Shoot, that
was four.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
So that's what I came to Charlotte very fetive. Okay,
And did you start your business right when you got here?
Speaker 1 (15:28):
Did you do something?
Speaker 4 (15:29):
I worked with Dixon Hughes.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
Yeah, all right, yeah, yeah, big, big, big firm.
Speaker 4 (15:33):
And then two thousand and eight nine hit and I
was doing a lot of M and A work, mergers
and acquisitions, and that shut down.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
And so you so you started you started the business
during the heart of the recession.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
I am.
Speaker 4 (15:47):
I am a product of many entrepreneurs that were let go,
forced to do it, and forced to do so best decision.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
Ever were you were you? Did you have a family
at the time.
Speaker 4 (15:58):
I had, Yes, six kids.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Tell me about that. He's got Trent has five at
the time. You had six kids at the time. I
had six kids.
Speaker 4 (16:06):
We moved here at five, but had six by time.
And it was it was I got down to the
first check I deposited January, because I was let go in.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
October of eight of nine nine.
Speaker 4 (16:22):
And when I deposited that check, I had sixty two cents.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
In my account. That's sixty two pennies.
Speaker 4 (16:30):
That was like, that's that plane crashing and pulling up
at the last minute.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
A man, that's that's its primitive instincts, right, yeah, I
mean survival.
Speaker 4 (16:40):
It was you know, when you get hungry, you you
find a way.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
We talk about this on the show quite a bit,
like you and I have had several interactions with each
other and I have not heard that story before.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
And that's what's so cool about with this podcast and
what we do here is that you know Trent calls
it speed dating, is you learn so much about somebody
that you didn't know. I mean, there's times when we
spent years with somebody and didn't know a story like that.
So from sixty two cents you cash the check. It
almost sounds like that under armour story.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
With six kids. With six kids, Yeah goodness, how old
were your kids?
Speaker 4 (17:15):
Let's see, that would been oh nine, So the youngest
was born in seven, so she would have been yea
two coming up on three years.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (17:24):
But she's now eighteen.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
So walk us through from that point to where we
are now.
Speaker 4 (17:30):
We spent uh convinced one of the my partner to
come with me from Dixon Hughes. He came out six
seven months later after ever I did. And we've just
cobbled together and put some people together and lately been
very focused on hiring great people and trusting our core
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values and if they don't match, they've helped them find
another home.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
That's the EOS thing and very much and I honestly that.
Speaker 4 (18:03):
The influence of EO in those decisions and having to
educate the people in our firm that aren't an e
O and don't hear that it takes a process two
or three years to get them to the point it
was like, all right, see how we've done this and
what has come after by sticking to what we believe
is the right thing to do.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
So you started the firm and O nine O nine,
and your partner joined you in ten and now we're
in twenty five, So fifteen years, how many employees? How
many folks at your firm?
Speaker 4 (18:34):
Now we have sixteen we have we added a new
partner earlier this year, and we are looking to higher
quality people.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
Well, and we hadn't even said the name of your firm,
And yeah, it's GBK Advisor.
Speaker 4 (18:46):
GBK Advisors, and we have offices here in Charlotte, Mooresville
and Biloxi, Mississippi.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
There you go, brought it back home. I love know.
I gotta give man, I gotta give you some props.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
I've been I'm pulling this email up like four times.
I need to set the setting on my phone to
keep the screen up longer. Obviously Trent's already done that.
But Trent, on the way down, on the way here,
I got an email about a dinner that David.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
Hosted through EO. It's called my EO Global Dinner Day.
And you're you know a lot more about.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
This stuff than I do, David, So before you intervene H.
David hosted dinner and we had we had several EO
members that did, none of which I really had had
spent much time with other than you and uh, and
he was awarded the regional winner for the for the dinner.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (19:29):
It was a global initiative to get chapter chapters together
and uh, there was a competition. Therefore, I like that
piqued my interest.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
Like winning competition all of us? Do you like that?
I do like winning.
Speaker 4 (19:42):
I do like to cook too, And what I also
like to do is is Uh, Eric and I put
on dinner parties. This was an only EO event.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
It was just me. So a lot of.
Speaker 4 (19:51):
Little things that she adds to the the charm of
things weren't there. So you didn't miss it.
Speaker 1 (19:58):
I missed it.
Speaker 4 (19:59):
But the idea of bringing people that I know that
don't know each other and see where the conversation goes,
and that's to me is the magic of what happens
in these events.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
So what did so what were the parameters for the award? Uh?
Speaker 4 (20:18):
It was they wanted to bring people together and make
connections and you know, interesting event, exciting event. I don't
know what their decisions. Yeah, but I think what we
had is we had people. The whole idea is we
had some very deep conversations.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
We laughed a lot.
Speaker 4 (20:34):
We had Yeah, I think incredible food.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
You could you could, I'll I'll give you that. I
know you don't want to give yourself a calm. The
food was a fantastic You definitely have a talent for that.
Speaker 4 (20:44):
And the what I thought was also is like when
I do these, I cooked the meal and I try
to do something that I see somewhere else that I
don't know how to do. So can I rise up
to that?
Speaker 1 (20:57):
To that level? Wow? What'd you cook?
Speaker 4 (20:59):
We had started off with a twist to a caesar
salad which had it was a it was a homemade
caesar uh dressing, had a parmesan custard on top, parmesan
crisp and grilled remain lettuce. And then for dinner, we.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
Oh, I like grilled remain. Yeah, that is good. It's good.
Speaker 4 (21:26):
And then we had a reverse here steak with uh
the reduction sauces in the parsley oil that went on
there had a great presentation to it. So you a chef, well, no,
I'm accountant, but.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
He's pretty good. And you know a little bit about
wine too, which is pretty cool.
Speaker 4 (21:46):
And then matching the wines are kind of fun too.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
There you go. Well, uh, we I have a in
memory of my father talking about him before you got
on here. We have a Christmas tree burning, uh bonfire
first Friday January every year. And my favorite thing my wife.
People would say I want to come. I'd say, hey, baby,
put this person on the Excel spreadsheet, you know, and
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she's like, you can't mix all these people. They don't understand.
They don't. I'm like, if they understand me, they understand this,
that's right. And about we've been doing it for ten years. Uh,
and about six or seven years ago she said, I'll
do you do whatever. And it's the coolest thing because
I see people that are friends from two different walks
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of life and the only way they know each other
is from in Mingland there.
Speaker 4 (22:36):
Yeah, and they and they at dovetails.
Speaker 1 (22:38):
It's just yeah, it's interesting, man. I mean, to your
your party.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
In both years, Trent, you'll see a guy in like
a you know, I'm getting this all like a u
NC starter jacket talking to a.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Dude in a Peter Millar quartership, you know.
Speaker 2 (22:50):
I mean, it's just like two completely different walks of life,
which was similar to years and we all find out
we're from different places, and you're incin save in different countries.
Speaker 1 (22:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (22:58):
And we had somebody from UH, Germany. Where's I veil from.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
I'm not sure either, but I know that she's obviously
an immigrant here. But she's got a wonderful construction business
with her husband, which is cool.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
I ended up going. I didn't know I vail And
after after the.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Dinner, she had an open house at her at her business,
and got to meet her and her husband and her family.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
And man, they got it going on. It was amazing.
Speaker 3 (23:22):
Well, I will say this, the uh, the business friends
y p O type friends that I have come early
m hm and the old river rats come late.
Speaker 1 (23:36):
I could see that. So the goal is to get
hing across paths a little bit. That makes sense. But
I talk about this, uh. You know, in in church,
I used to run the Christmas Tree lot. I have
a lot of affection for Christmas trees. Uh. And the
pastor would tell stories. He'd say, Hey, if you don't
work that shift at the Christmas Tree lot, or you
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don't go on that mission trip, you don't stretch yourself
a little bit, you don't meet people and have stories,
he says, So then you got four guys working on
a Thursday night at the Christmas tree lot. Maybe the
day was a long day at work, but y'all have
a story to tell. And every time you see for
years decades, it's like, oh man, remember that time. Yeah,
I'm really good at this. And then that person's in
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a different Sunday school class to use the church analogy,
uh and they introduce you then to their other five
friends that you would have never met, right that sit
on the other side of the church durn d durned
church service. Simihear with YPO, you gotta get you gotta
get your forum to go on the big trips, because
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then you meet their friends that they know in the
left corner, and vice versa, and the and and the
whole comfort level just grows. And then you're not scared
to go, you're not intimidated to go, and you're excited
to go. Yep. So uh, well, now you make a
great point.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
I mean for you to for your example with the
I mean I didn't I was a little nervous to go.
I didn't know you a probably I might not have
gone honestly, and we met, uh really in Dallas, an
unfortunate circumstances with with Scott EAT's father passing away, we
got the opportunity to get to know each other and
break bread and drinking a couple of glasses of wine,
hang out for a little while.
Speaker 1 (25:15):
And then so you put this on. I was like,
hang out with David. That's a true example. That's right.
You stretched, You went to a funeral for a friend
that that you had to travel to, which probably wasn't
the most convenient thing during the week business. And then
y'all meet and and you grow from there. And it's
all because of him and his father. Truly, when I
(25:36):
get scared and intimidated about not stretching myself, I slapped myself.
That's what I do. Wake up boy, Hey, that was
I did, so everybody does. That wasn't a sound effect.
I mean we got a camera.
Speaker 4 (25:48):
I'm just so happy that he didn't slap a friend.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
I mean, if dude, I'm if he missed. David's like,
I don't want to have to pull you off pastor
it just got weird. Yeah, I'm gonna be wrestling in
the corner. I mean, I wouldn't put it past us. So,
So what age are your kids now?
Speaker 4 (26:10):
They're eighteen to twenty seven.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
Wow, how many grandkids? None? No grandkids?
Speaker 4 (26:16):
Oh none?
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Oh? Man? Have one?
Speaker 4 (26:18):
Getting married in late October.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
Okay, married a wonderful lady. There you go. What's your
male female mix?
Speaker 4 (26:27):
We did this by design. The first three were boys
and the last three were girls. It's opposite of you. Yeah,
I did three girls, two boys.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Yeah. So the girls a little smarter than them.
Speaker 4 (26:37):
Boys are, well, they have they have their own uniquenesses, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
They do. I think I said this a while back.
Reagan was out of town and I was uh at
firehouse sub with all five of them, and this old
couple was sitting there watching us. I didn't know, and
I went to go refiel my drink after we were done,
and he said, those boys are dumb, aren't they? I said,
you know you're onto something. He said, Man, I had
(27:04):
two girls and two boys. He said, mmmm, yeah, he said,
but I love them. Yeah. We were all that. Yeah,
we were all that. I'm sure. Yeah. I mean my
dad used to tell me I was dumb.
Speaker 4 (27:16):
There was one. We are are our second one. We're
sitting there. He's young and he's probably like three years old,
and his grandfather says, can you pass the salt and pepper.
So he grabs it and goes and throws it like
a football, and I'm like, he got a little upset
because it was like that was rude. And I was like,
(27:37):
you know what, let's think about it. When I say
past something, it's always a ball. So he had no
idea that that means hand, Yeah, he got it.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
You gotta be more specific.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
I was telling Trent this story that one of the
first times I ever played golf with my wife Jody
in the fairway and she's driving the cart and I
was going to walk back to my ball and I said, hey,
will you take the cart up to the green. Well,
I turn around the in the carts on the green
parked on the green, and I was like, what you do?
Speaker 1 (28:04):
She could kill me for telling the story, but like
I was an idiot. I didn't give her the proper instructions.
I mean right, nobody had her taught her. And we
were telling that story yesterday we got together with some
guys and I said, you don't know, I didn't grow
up at a country club. I grew up digging ditches
and sending in a dump truck with Fred Leroy. You
don't know, And it. It's in any situation, but you
(28:26):
don't know until somebody helps you, or you get reprimanded
and you say, oh lord, or now you chat GPT
what to do with a golf course. But I'm not
I'm still not a full adapter. So I wouldn't do that,
but I would ask questions. Now. I mean, I mean,
I have my shirt untuped when the Vineyard Vines came
out with the well, yeah, I look like yeah. I
(28:49):
thought I looked like yes. Per Barnavitch showed up at
the golf course, had a well on the bottom of
my shorts, well on the teill on my shirt, and
I look good. And this old man came over to
me and said, where are you from them? I said,
these guys from Greenville, from Charlotte. He said, tuck in
your shirt. You know what I learned. Took in your shirt.
(29:09):
There you go. But I didn't do that again. But
I thought I had to flew when I was hitting
the ball because I was hot. Yeah, I felt bad.
So uh, are any of your kids uh coming into
your business?
Speaker 4 (29:23):
One's working for me, the one that's getting married, and congratulations,
very very sharp. I think I feel like I was
the most favorite COSTMERI that worked for the firm. Everyone
likes him. Yeah, that's true. I mean they do like
the fact that I ran payroll today and uh amen
(29:43):
and uh but they enjoy his personality. He's got a
witty sense of humor and very curious to solve problems.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
And what would do you still have family down in Mississippi.
Speaker 4 (29:53):
I have my sisters and my mom that's down there, okay,
And that's why do you have an office down there?
We you, like I said, we need people, and we
found somebody that was had an opportunity to bring them on.
And and well we have somebody in Atlanta or Greensboro
or wherever it is that that have experience that they
(30:15):
want to help build out a We can help them
build out a practice and be part of our team.
And we just want talent.
Speaker 2 (30:20):
Well you do in your in your industry too. I
mean it I would imagine. I mean with my own taxes,
like my account it might be ten minutes away from
my house, but everything's done online. Yeah, I mean all
the communication that I mean that we might meet once
every now and again. And then prior to that, my
accounted who unfortunately passed away in a plane crash earlier
last year was in Atlanta.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
I never saw them. Yeah, just a fraternity brother and
we just stuck together for a long long time. And
I'm sorry to hear that. Yeah, it's terrible, terrible. Well,
I'm gonna puts you on the spot, David. All right,
it's been a pleasure meeting you. I feel like we
did the speed dating thing. Yes, we'll be buddies. Now.
What is one thing that you live by in life
and business and family that you hang your hat on?
Speaker 4 (31:06):
You did put me on.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
I don't tell anybody this one comes.
Speaker 4 (31:09):
Yeah, I don't know. I've just listened to here. And
some of the things going through right now is like, uh,
having the grace to understand that somebody's coming across you
in a way that is not what you expect. There's
probably something going on behind them, and trying to like
(31:30):
not get upset about that and relax and be curious
find out why.
Speaker 1 (31:37):
Grace is one of my favorite words. Everybody's dealing with something,
you know, Uh, some people handle it like cool hand
Luke's and some people express it to others and uh
and and they might not even know what they're doing.
And giving them grace you don't know what hope it'll
bring to them. So uh, and everybody's got something and
it's all different. But uh, nice to meet you. How
(31:59):
can people look you up? Probably?
Speaker 2 (32:03):
I mean Google linked LinkedIn website, g Bkadvisors dot com,
g BK g b k c p as dot com.
Speaker 1 (32:13):
Got it?
Speaker 4 (32:13):
Where you know local here.
Speaker 1 (32:16):
As well as you're right across the street, right across
the street from Yes, try from the Red Tunnel entrance
to iHeart g b K c p as dot com
with the s on the c p as correct. Okay,
g b K c p as dot com. David Coosmer
has been great. This is what I always say and
live by. Go do the golden rule. Treat others the
(32:38):
way you want to be treated, even when they might
not be treating you right. Treat them the way you
want to be treated when you're messing up, and carry
a smile around on your face because you never know,
grace what someone's dealing with, and you change your day.
Thanks for listening, Thanks for being here, David, Thank you
for having me. Yeah at home with Rubie, Thank you,
Patrick home with thank you. Trend
Welcome to that home with Roby.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
I'm Patrick mc isaac from Roby Commercial in Services, along
with Trent hates Them from the Ruby family of companies.
Trent is taking selfies as we start the show here,
so I'm not really sure what exactly is happening. But
do you care to tell or? Is this like a
private selfie?
Speaker 1 (00:15):
You give a man a photo and it has a camera. Yeah,
that's what we do a lot of them do now. Man,
my teenage kids are training me. No, yeah, they are.
You kind of think you're supposed to turn it the
other way with a selfie though, sideways? Yeah? Why, I
don't know. Don't think that's how you're supposed to do it.
Then people can't see you, they see you sideways. Tell
(00:37):
me about your shirt? Man us a T shirt? Black
T shirt? Who's on it? War the Oracle of Omaha?
Who histor? Warren Buffett? All right, did you get that
in Omaha? I did? Yes, that's where I'll go. Yes.
I bought one, and I bought my kids one. I
bought per Warren Buffet. I'm so I bought three and
(01:01):
thought they could share. I mean, I guess, actually, I
mean it was it was sixteen dollars a piece, so I.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Guess that could work over five kids. I guess like
one gets a sleeve, the other gets a sleeve.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
They just share. I mean, the craziest thing is, I'm
real flattered by this uh tatum rowing in piper. But
I think they think, no, they're not here to say otherwise.
I think they think I'm real cool. So they really
like wearing my hoodies and I haven't. I have a
pretty massive hoodie collection of you know, hoodie from fifteen
(01:36):
years ago, twenty years ago when I went to Tahoe,
I went to uh, Heavenly, and that hoodie's still hanging
in there, and uh, I forget I have these hoodies.
And and then one day they're wearing my hoodie and
I'm like, hey, if you're gonna borrow my hoodie, you
I'm flattered, but don't let it sit in your dirty
clothes pile for five months and then break it out
(01:57):
like roll with it rotated. Just let's all use it.
So so anyway, I think they think. I don't know
if they think the shirt's cool, but I liked them learning.
You know, my father did things to me in my
life where twenty years later I had an AHA moment
(02:20):
and was like, Oh, you.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Were telling me about one of those earlier about when
you thought you it was a good idea to throw
pennies in the lake or the river.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
That's correct. I was on the phone the other day
and walking around a late night club parking lot, and
while I was on the phone, I found two dollars
and twenty three cent and change. And I said, I'm
in disbelief that people leave money around like that. I
guess I don't know there's a fallout their car door,
(02:50):
do they have holes in their pockets? Do they throw
it down? But one time when I was about eight
or nine years old, we live on the river, and
me and my best buddy UH had a couple of
pennies and went out on a deck and proceeded to
throw them in the river. Want to see how to
curve through the air. And my dadeded proceeded to give
miss banking tell me to never throw away money. People
(03:13):
need money, and you work hard for money. You work
hard for every penny. That's for every penny. I guess
I didn't translate it that way. Well.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I think the conversation came up as we were talking
about that. We don't get political on this show.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Don't worry David. You know you're getting all.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Worried about how much it costs to make a penny
now like five and a half cent to make one cent,
and we keep doing that.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Well we're stopping, but we did that for a long time. Now.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
You're a business person. I think I'm a business person too.
David definitely is a business person that doesn't seem like
business proposal.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
No matter who you are, it's supposed to be, matter
what side of the awe of your own or where
you stand, I'll give you one cent to use the money.
I don't know that. Like the pennymakers must have some
some great people lobby in the government. I will miss
the penny though, I mean I I think people are
starting to collect them. I have a bunch of pennies,
like I said to think I told y'all last night,
or maybe when I was telling somebody else. I have
(04:07):
a brown bag. It's like a bag that a forty
ounce beer would come in a brown bag. But it
came my dad gave it to me twenty five years ago,
and it's full of wheat pennies. And I think they
made wheat pennies during the war or something because of
something I don't know. And then you got some steel
pennies because copper was being used during the war. Those
(04:31):
aren't worth anything either. It's just a bag of pennies.
But anyway, I must say another life lesson that my
dad taught me one time when I was in the
sixth grade. And and God bless this is a serious thing.
Not to get somber on the radio, but suicide is
(04:52):
a serious thing, and it's people need help and prayers,
and that's what it is. And one time, when I
was in the sixth grade, Uh, a friend of mine,
an acquaintance of mine in middle school, her father committed
suicide and it devastated me as as a peer. And Uh, I,
(05:13):
you know, proceeded as a sixth grader to worry that
my dad would would do this. And it took me
about a week to get the courage to blurt it
out of my mouth, to ask him if he would
if if he he was gonna do that, and uh
and and I did. On the way home from basketball practice,
we turned on our road. It was in the middle
of the woods, and uh and I blurted it out
(05:36):
and he stopped the truck and he looked at me
and he said, son, if I'm ever dead, you best
go find a killer. And he turned his head back
and he drove down the road. And it's all he
ever said about it. And think thankfully he knew the
tact to instill confidence in his sixth grade son at
(05:58):
the time. And I never were about that again in
my life, whereas me I might overtalk it and sit
down and try to explain everything to my child, and
sometimes you just drop these little little buckets and knowledge
in any way, that's a serious subject. But I do
think that's important, and I do think it needs to
(06:22):
be an open topic because because if you talk about things,
improvements are made. But I say all that because you
asked me about the Warren Buffett shirt, and I bought
three for my kids, and you know, they're like, okay,
got a crazy Warren Buffett. Theyn kind of know who
Warren Buffett is, crazy old man on the shirt and
(06:42):
is what I think. There's twelve of them or nine
of them, and they're all different colors and it's kind
of cute and one day they're gonna be like, huh,
now I know why he I think they're already figuring out.
But why he went to Omaha every year and why
he did this and why he hung out with these guys.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
So yeah, listen, man, I've known you for a really
long time. I know you have a long way of
coming back to the point, and you did. You hit
on a couple of things. I also set you up
with the penny thing. I feel a little guilty for that.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
That was a tea up. I mean, what are you
guilty of? I don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
We just hung out with I love the fact that
you found two dollars and twenty three cents, so I
got those numbers right in a parking lot. And then
that we're with Jim Birch and he says he walks
the street and say Charlotte and finds money all the time.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
He said is He said, he walked six miles about
twice a week, and his whole mission is to go
tell switch the street. He gonna get mad at us.
We were with Jim Birch and he did tell that story.
So it's pretty cool. I said, I want to get
out in front of you. It's kind of like shark
tooth hunting or Christmas tree hunting. I mean, I'm a
purveyor of hunting things, so so yeah. But then after
(07:50):
I got off the phone, I went and visited with
my friend and his friend needed. I was showing him
the money, and another guy that I had just met
was like, Hey, I needed, I need to take a bus.
Can you give me that money? So I did it
is yeah, so and uh I always do this.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
My dad was real tight. A lot of value in
being tight, and then there's also some negatives and being
real tight. But uh, it was just a cloth that
he was cut from. But uh, as I've gotten older,
I had a mentor, and I've heard my pastors say too. Uh,
if you hold your hands together real tight, like clinch fists,
you cannot receive. If your hands are clinched with your
(08:33):
hands open, you can receive. But that's how you got
to treat others. And that's that's just something I think
everybody should live by and uh and have a little
faith that if they do do right by others, it'll
come back to them tenfold. Now and I've I've felt
that my life and uh, yeah all comes from a
penny story. I love it. I love it and and
(08:54):
we were getting ready to but you've got to go
to a break. Here.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
We've got David Cosmar. He's a veteran e over here
in Charlotte. That's how I got to know David. And
he's a wonderful person. Has his filled with the tidbits
of knowledge like you just just dropped on us. So
we'll bring him on here next. You never met David?
Speaker 1 (09:10):
And what is David Kosmeyer's occupation? I believe he is
in the accounting field, all right. I think there's some
other stuff there. It all ties back to the penny
on the ground. It does. Man, funny how that works. Wow, Well, Patrick,
thanks for tearing me up or setting me up or whatever.
Welcome me into a spiderweb, David. I look forward to
(09:31):
talking to you and getting to know you. EO is
Entrepreneur Organization which Patrick is a member of, and we
have a bunch of his his fellow EO members on
the radio now, which is great because these guys are hustlers.
You're listening to at home with Roby. Don't forget.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
Roby Services is your one stop source for all your
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and get it all done by one Roby Servicesnow dot com.
That's robyservicesnow dot com. Welcome back, Dad with Roby. I'm
Patrick mc isaac from Roby Commercial in Services along with
Trent Hayson from the Roby family of companies. If you're
just now joining us, you can go back and check
(10:07):
the beginning of the podcast. Trent, we had a lot
of life lessons on the on the first segment, tie
him back to your Warren Buffet shirt, pennies and in
some other important things.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Be a penny pincher, Be a penny pincher, Right, what's it?
What's it all? Saying? Chase the pennies and the dollars? Come,
I've never heard that. I like it? You like it? Yeah?
I just made it up. Really, come on, man, I
know back in my younger Bull and China shop career,
(10:37):
other guys that were working hard said, I'm trying to
make a dollar out of fifteen cent.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
I think that was fifty cent, wasn't it back then?
Back now he's seventy five cent right with inflation.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
So hey, David, how you doing doing fine? David Kossmeyer
seems pretty comfortable in this seat. First time we've ever
formerly met him. All right with that so cool. And
you've been in the Entrepreneur Organization for nine years? Is
that correct? Yep?
Speaker 4 (11:06):
Coming up on I think it's ten this this summer.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Wow, I hear you. So uh yeah, So where are
you from?
Speaker 4 (11:14):
I grew up in uh South Mississippi, ties to New
Orleans and love that area of the country. But Arlotte,
Charlotte's got Charlotte's home now.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Southern miss right is where you went to school?
Speaker 4 (11:29):
Southern miss Brett Favre and I were uh crib mate. Uh,
as I tell people we cried together because we were
born in the same hospital day apart.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Isn't that cool? That's pretty funny. So yeah, so I
got I'm I'm in YPO, you know, President's Organization. We
have a bunch of my friends on here. Uh and
we're in the Southern seven so some several of my
friends that have been on here are miss from Mississippi
and from Alabama. Uh. And I was saying with Patrick
earlier and Jim Burr spent some time in New Orleans.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Who we were with? Who is the CEO of Old
Mecklenburg Brewery? Who John Marino is in EO as well?
Been on radio great friend a couple of times, but
I love and associates so well with Alabama guys. In Mississippi,
guys I knew I liked you well.
Speaker 4 (12:24):
You got to throw in the Cajun's down in New
Orleans area too. They're really fun to be around.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
A rowdy group, Huh.
Speaker 4 (12:32):
I would say, if you, if you, if you can't
get along with a Cajun, there's something wrong with you.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
I think Trent would get along really, but I think
you would do all right with the Cajun guys.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Yeah. I just don't know many folks from New Orleans.
I do know a couple of my really really really
good friends, Rob Krause and Clay Grubb graduated from to
the Two Lane University that's down in New Orleans, right
down to New Orleans. Say you were born in Mississippi,
(13:02):
take us from there.
Speaker 4 (13:03):
Uh, born in Gulfport, lived in Biloxi, went to U
High School down there, then to college at Southern miss
got my bachelor's and came out in early nineties with
bad economy. So I went off to Alabama to get
my masters and tax got to which watched them when
(13:24):
the only one national championship between early eighties and the
late nineties.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Really, And did you go to Alabama for your master's?
Speaker 4 (13:32):
I went to Alabama for my master's, then went back
to Jackson for a number of years, found my way
back to Hattiesburg and then over to Charlotte, and fifteen
years ago opened my practice and been doing it ever since.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
How long did you live in Hattiesburg?
Speaker 4 (13:47):
Two miserable years.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
My one of my best friends lives there. Ab pain.
I don't know if you know a pain that name is.
Speaker 4 (13:57):
There's a pain center with the Athletic Center at Southern
miss That Maybe that's that family.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
That's his family. Yeah, Yeah, he's in the home health
was in the home health care business. I think he's
back in that business now. Great. So you got a
degree from Alabama in a master's degree in tax. Yes,
that is a degree I've.
Speaker 4 (14:16):
Never heard that MTA. Great program. It was a great program.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Wow. Well. Uh, And we had grown our company. I
got out of college in two thousand and we grew
about tripled in size, fifty year family business my first
couple of years by just working and sleeping on the floor,
working all day and night. And uh, and our tax
guy said, uh, we we owed it. Federal government a
(14:41):
lot of money, and I said, you're crazy, we don't
have that much money. And he started talking words like
working process and buying assets with cash and receivables, and
the whole time he was saying this, I got flushed,
like I had to flu and I was like, I
got to go read a tax book or an accounting book. Yeah. Uh,
(15:02):
And I'm an economics major, but economics is theory and
accounting and tax is numbers. Yes, it's your pocket, yeah
it is. And it's something good to know. So you
two years in Hannisburg and then you made your way
to Charlotte. Yes, how old were you? Ah? Shoot, that
was four.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
So that's what I came to Charlotte very fetive. Okay,
And did you start your business right when you got here?
Speaker 1 (15:28):
Did you do something?
Speaker 4 (15:29):
I worked with Dixon Hughes.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
Yeah, all right, yeah, yeah, big, big, big firm.
Speaker 4 (15:33):
And then two thousand and eight nine hit and I
was doing a lot of M and A work, mergers
and acquisitions, and that shut down.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
And so you so you started you started the business
during the heart of the recession.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
I am.
Speaker 4 (15:47):
I am a product of many entrepreneurs that were let go,
forced to do it, and forced to do so best decision.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
Ever were you were you? Did you have a family
at the time.
Speaker 4 (15:58):
I had, Yes, six kids.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Tell me about that. He's got Trent has five at
the time. You had six kids at the time. I
had six kids.
Speaker 4 (16:06):
We moved here at five, but had six by time.
And it was it was I got down to the
first check I deposited January, because I was let go in.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
October of eight of nine nine.
Speaker 4 (16:22):
And when I deposited that check, I had sixty two cents.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
In my account. That's sixty two pennies.
Speaker 4 (16:30):
That was like, that's that plane crashing and pulling up
at the last minute.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
A man, that's that's its primitive instincts, right, yeah, I
mean survival.
Speaker 4 (16:40):
It was you know, when you get hungry, you you
find a way.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
We talk about this on the show quite a bit,
like you and I have had several interactions with each
other and I have not heard that story before.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
And that's what's so cool about with this podcast and
what we do here is that you know Trent calls
it speed dating, is you learn so much about somebody
that you didn't know. I mean, there's times when we
spent years with somebody and didn't know a story like that.
So from sixty two cents you cash the check. It
almost sounds like that under armour story.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
With six kids. With six kids, Yeah goodness, how old
were your kids?
Speaker 4 (17:15):
Let's see, that would been oh nine, So the youngest
was born in seven, so she would have been yea
two coming up on three years.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (17:24):
But she's now eighteen.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
So walk us through from that point to where we
are now.
Speaker 4 (17:30):
We spent uh convinced one of the my partner to
come with me from Dixon Hughes. He came out six
seven months later after ever I did. And we've just
cobbled together and put some people together and lately been
very focused on hiring great people and trusting our core
(17:51):
values and if they don't match, they've helped them find
another home.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
That's the EOS thing and very much and I honestly that.
Speaker 4 (18:03):
The influence of EO in those decisions and having to
educate the people in our firm that aren't an e
O and don't hear that it takes a process two
or three years to get them to the point it
was like, all right, see how we've done this and
what has come after by sticking to what we believe
is the right thing to do.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
So you started the firm and O nine O nine,
and your partner joined you in ten and now we're
in twenty five, So fifteen years, how many employees? How
many folks at your firm?
Speaker 4 (18:34):
Now we have sixteen we have we added a new
partner earlier this year, and we are looking to higher
quality people.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
Well, and we hadn't even said the name of your firm,
And yeah, it's GBK Advisor.
Speaker 4 (18:46):
GBK Advisors, and we have offices here in Charlotte, Mooresville
and Biloxi, Mississippi.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
There you go, brought it back home. I love know.
I gotta give man, I gotta give you some props.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
I've been I'm pulling this email up like four times.
I need to set the setting on my phone to
keep the screen up longer. Obviously Trent's already done that.
But Trent, on the way down, on the way here,
I got an email about a dinner that David.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
Hosted through EO. It's called my EO Global Dinner Day.
And you're you know a lot more about.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
This stuff than I do, David, So before you intervene H.
David hosted dinner and we had we had several EO
members that did, none of which I really had had
spent much time with other than you and uh, and
he was awarded the regional winner for the for the dinner.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (19:29):
It was a global initiative to get chapter chapters together
and uh, there was a competition. Therefore, I like that
piqued my interest.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
Like winning competition all of us? Do you like that?
I do like winning.
Speaker 4 (19:42):
I do like to cook too, And what I also
like to do is is Uh, Eric and I put
on dinner parties. This was an only EO event.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
It was just me. So a lot of.
Speaker 4 (19:51):
Little things that she adds to the the charm of
things weren't there. So you didn't miss it.
Speaker 1 (19:58):
I missed it.
Speaker 4 (19:59):
But the idea of bringing people that I know that
don't know each other and see where the conversation goes,
and that's to me is the magic of what happens
in these events.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
So what did so what were the parameters for the award? Uh?
Speaker 4 (20:18):
It was they wanted to bring people together and make
connections and you know, interesting event, exciting event. I don't
know what their decisions. Yeah, but I think what we
had is we had people. The whole idea is we
had some very deep conversations.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
We laughed a lot.
Speaker 4 (20:34):
We had Yeah, I think incredible food.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
You could you could, I'll I'll give you that. I
know you don't want to give yourself a calm. The
food was a fantastic You definitely have a talent for that.
Speaker 4 (20:44):
And the what I thought was also is like when
I do these, I cooked the meal and I try
to do something that I see somewhere else that I
don't know how to do. So can I rise up
to that?
Speaker 1 (20:57):
To that level? Wow? What'd you cook?
Speaker 4 (20:59):
We had started off with a twist to a caesar
salad which had it was a it was a homemade
caesar uh dressing, had a parmesan custard on top, parmesan
crisp and grilled remain lettuce. And then for dinner, we.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
Oh, I like grilled remain. Yeah, that is good. It's good.
Speaker 4 (21:26):
And then we had a reverse here steak with uh
the reduction sauces in the parsley oil that went on
there had a great presentation to it. So you a chef, well, no,
I'm accountant, but.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
He's pretty good. And you know a little bit about
wine too, which is pretty cool.
Speaker 4 (21:46):
And then matching the wines are kind of fun too.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
There you go. Well, uh, we I have a in
memory of my father talking about him before you got
on here. We have a Christmas tree burning, uh bonfire
first Friday January every year. And my favorite thing my wife.
People would say I want to come. I'd say, hey, baby,
put this person on the Excel spreadsheet, you know, and
(22:10):
she's like, you can't mix all these people. They don't understand.
They don't. I'm like, if they understand me, they understand this,
that's right. And about we've been doing it for ten years. Uh,
and about six or seven years ago she said, I'll
do you do whatever. And it's the coolest thing because
I see people that are friends from two different walks
(22:32):
of life and the only way they know each other
is from in Mingland there.
Speaker 4 (22:36):
Yeah, and they and they at dovetails.
Speaker 1 (22:38):
It's just yeah, it's interesting, man. I mean, to your
your party.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
In both years, Trent, you'll see a guy in like
a you know, I'm getting this all like a u
NC starter jacket talking to a.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Dude in a Peter Millar quartership, you know.
Speaker 2 (22:50):
I mean, it's just like two completely different walks of life,
which was similar to years and we all find out
we're from different places, and you're incin save in different countries.
Speaker 1 (22:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (22:58):
And we had somebody from UH, Germany. Where's I veil from.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
I'm not sure either, but I know that she's obviously
an immigrant here. But she's got a wonderful construction business
with her husband, which is cool.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
I ended up going. I didn't know I vail And
after after the.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Dinner, she had an open house at her at her business,
and got to meet her and her husband and her family.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
And man, they got it going on. It was amazing.
Speaker 3 (23:22):
Well, I will say this, the uh, the business friends
y p O type friends that I have come early
m hm and the old river rats come late.
Speaker 1 (23:36):
I could see that. So the goal is to get
hing across paths a little bit. That makes sense. But
I talk about this, uh. You know, in in church,
I used to run the Christmas Tree lot. I have
a lot of affection for Christmas trees. Uh. And the
pastor would tell stories. He'd say, Hey, if you don't
work that shift at the Christmas Tree lot, or you
(23:57):
don't go on that mission trip, you don't stretch yourself
a little bit, you don't meet people and have stories,
he says, So then you got four guys working on
a Thursday night at the Christmas tree lot. Maybe the
day was a long day at work, but y'all have
a story to tell. And every time you see for
years decades, it's like, oh man, remember that time. Yeah,
I'm really good at this. And then that person's in
(24:20):
a different Sunday school class to use the church analogy,
uh and they introduce you then to their other five
friends that you would have never met, right that sit
on the other side of the church durn d durned
church service. Simihear with YPO, you gotta get you gotta
get your forum to go on the big trips, because
(24:40):
then you meet their friends that they know in the
left corner, and vice versa, and the and and the
whole comfort level just grows. And then you're not scared
to go, you're not intimidated to go, and you're excited
to go. Yep. So uh, well, now you make a
great point.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
I mean for you to for your example with the
I mean I didn't I was a little nervous to go.
I didn't know you a probably I might not have
gone honestly, and we met, uh really in Dallas, an
unfortunate circumstances with with Scott EAT's father passing away, we
got the opportunity to get to know each other and
break bread and drinking a couple of glasses of wine,
hang out for a little while.
Speaker 1 (25:15):
And then so you put this on. I was like,
hang out with David. That's a true example. That's right.
You stretched, You went to a funeral for a friend
that that you had to travel to, which probably wasn't
the most convenient thing during the week business. And then
y'all meet and and you grow from there. And it's
all because of him and his father. Truly, when I
(25:36):
get scared and intimidated about not stretching myself, I slapped myself.
That's what I do. Wake up boy, Hey, that was
I did, so everybody does. That wasn't a sound effect.
I mean we got a camera.
Speaker 4 (25:48):
I'm just so happy that he didn't slap a friend.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
I mean, if dude, I'm if he missed. David's like,
I don't want to have to pull you off pastor
it just got weird. Yeah, I'm gonna be wrestling in
the corner. I mean, I wouldn't put it past us. So,
So what age are your kids now?
Speaker 4 (26:10):
They're eighteen to twenty seven.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
Wow, how many grandkids? None? No grandkids?
Speaker 4 (26:16):
Oh none?
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Oh? Man? Have one?
Speaker 4 (26:18):
Getting married in late October.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
Okay, married a wonderful lady. There you go. What's your
male female mix?
Speaker 4 (26:27):
We did this by design. The first three were boys
and the last three were girls. It's opposite of you. Yeah,
I did three girls, two boys.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Yeah. So the girls a little smarter than them.
Speaker 4 (26:37):
Boys are, well, they have they have their own uniquenesses, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
They do. I think I said this a while back.
Reagan was out of town and I was uh at
firehouse sub with all five of them, and this old
couple was sitting there watching us. I didn't know, and
I went to go refiel my drink after we were done,
and he said, those boys are dumb, aren't they? I said,
you know you're onto something. He said, Man, I had
(27:04):
two girls and two boys. He said, mmmm, yeah, he said,
but I love them. Yeah. We were all that. Yeah,
we were all that. I'm sure. Yeah. I mean my
dad used to tell me I was dumb.
Speaker 4 (27:16):
There was one. We are are our second one. We're
sitting there. He's young and he's probably like three years old,
and his grandfather says, can you pass the salt and pepper.
So he grabs it and goes and throws it like
a football, and I'm like, he got a little upset
because it was like that was rude. And I was like,
(27:37):
you know what, let's think about it. When I say
past something, it's always a ball. So he had no
idea that that means hand, Yeah, he got it.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
You gotta be more specific.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
I was telling Trent this story that one of the
first times I ever played golf with my wife Jody
in the fairway and she's driving the cart and I
was going to walk back to my ball and I said, hey,
will you take the cart up to the green. Well,
I turn around the in the carts on the green
parked on the green, and I was like, what you do?
Speaker 1 (28:04):
She could kill me for telling the story, but like
I was an idiot. I didn't give her the proper instructions.
I mean right, nobody had her taught her. And we
were telling that story yesterday we got together with some
guys and I said, you don't know, I didn't grow
up at a country club. I grew up digging ditches
and sending in a dump truck with Fred Leroy. You
don't know, And it. It's in any situation, but you
(28:26):
don't know until somebody helps you, or you get reprimanded
and you say, oh lord, or now you chat GPT
what to do with a golf course. But I'm not
I'm still not a full adapter. So I wouldn't do that,
but I would ask questions. Now. I mean, I mean,
I have my shirt untuped when the Vineyard Vines came
out with the well, yeah, I look like yeah. I
(28:49):
thought I looked like yes. Per Barnavitch showed up at
the golf course, had a well on the bottom of
my shorts, well on the teill on my shirt, and
I look good. And this old man came over to
me and said, where are you from them? I said,
these guys from Greenville, from Charlotte. He said, tuck in
your shirt. You know what I learned. Took in your shirt.
(29:09):
There you go. But I didn't do that again. But
I thought I had to flew when I was hitting
the ball because I was hot. Yeah, I felt bad.
So uh, are any of your kids uh coming into
your business?
Speaker 4 (29:23):
One's working for me, the one that's getting married, and congratulations,
very very sharp. I think I feel like I was
the most favorite COSTMERI that worked for the firm. Everyone
likes him. Yeah, that's true. I mean they do like
the fact that I ran payroll today and uh amen
(29:43):
and uh but they enjoy his personality. He's got a
witty sense of humor and very curious to solve problems.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
And what would do you still have family down in Mississippi.
Speaker 4 (29:53):
I have my sisters and my mom that's down there, okay,
And that's why do you have an office down there?
We you, like I said, we need people, and we
found somebody that was had an opportunity to bring them on.
And and well we have somebody in Atlanta or Greensboro
or wherever it is that that have experience that they
(30:15):
want to help build out a We can help them
build out a practice and be part of our team.
And we just want talent.
Speaker 2 (30:20):
Well you do in your in your industry too. I
mean it I would imagine. I mean with my own taxes,
like my account it might be ten minutes away from
my house, but everything's done online. Yeah, I mean all
the communication that I mean that we might meet once
every now and again. And then prior to that, my
accounted who unfortunately passed away in a plane crash earlier
last year was in Atlanta.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
I never saw them. Yeah, just a fraternity brother and
we just stuck together for a long long time. And
I'm sorry to hear that. Yeah, it's terrible, terrible. Well,
I'm gonna puts you on the spot, David. All right,
it's been a pleasure meeting you. I feel like we
did the speed dating thing. Yes, we'll be buddies. Now.
What is one thing that you live by in life
and business and family that you hang your hat on?
Speaker 4 (31:06):
You did put me on.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
I don't tell anybody this one comes.
Speaker 4 (31:09):
Yeah, I don't know. I've just listened to here. And
some of the things going through right now is like, uh,
having the grace to understand that somebody's coming across you
in a way that is not what you expect. There's
probably something going on behind them, and trying to like
(31:30):
not get upset about that and relax and be curious
find out why.
Speaker 1 (31:37):
Grace is one of my favorite words. Everybody's dealing with something,
you know, Uh, some people handle it like cool hand
Luke's and some people express it to others and uh
and and they might not even know what they're doing.
And giving them grace you don't know what hope it'll
bring to them. So uh, and everybody's got something and
it's all different. But uh, nice to meet you. How
(31:59):
can people look you up? Probably?
Speaker 2 (32:03):
I mean Google linked LinkedIn website, g Bkadvisors dot com,
g BK g b k c p as dot com.
Speaker 1 (32:13):
Got it?
Speaker 4 (32:13):
Where you know local here.
Speaker 1 (32:16):
As well as you're right across the street, right across
the street from Yes, try from the Red Tunnel entrance
to iHeart g b K c p as dot com
with the s on the c p as correct. Okay,
g b K c p as dot com. David Coosmer
has been great. This is what I always say and
live by. Go do the golden rule. Treat others the
(32:38):
way you want to be treated, even when they might
not be treating you right. Treat them the way you
want to be treated when you're messing up, and carry
a smile around on your face because you never know,
grace what someone's dealing with, and you change your day.
Thanks for listening, Thanks for being here, David, Thank you
for having me. Yeah at home with Rubie, Thank you,
Patrick home with thank you. Trend
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