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February 28, 2025 15 mins

Stuck in your life or career? In this episode, I’m revealing the exact strategies I’ve used to reset, refocus, and take action. Whether you’re feeling lost, behind, or just coasting, these steps will help you take control and create real change. Stop waiting for the “perfect moment”—start now. 

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S1 (00:00):
Welcome to business and the podcast for people making it
all happen. Running a successful business completely takes over your life,
but I'm a believer that there is still room for
some ands like health, wealth, beauty, and maybe even some fashion.
On this podcast, I'll share with you what's working for
scaling my nine figure business while keeping you up to
date on the latest trends, news and fun finds. This

(00:23):
is a place for business and let's dive in! Welcome
back to business and I love this topic how to
get unstuck in your life. Now, if I'm totally honest,
I am the opposite of being stuck in my life
right now. I've never felt more motivated. I've never felt
more inspired. But I remember so vividly different points in

(00:43):
my life where I was incredibly stuck, one of which
was in college when I just felt like I didn't
know what I wanted to do, where I wanted to go.
And I don't know that depression is a real thing.
I don't know that I believe that depression is a
real thing. I don't know that there's any test for depression,
but if there was, I would say that that was
a time of deep sadness in my life, and there's

(01:05):
been a handful of other periods of my life where
I've felt that way, and I really want to help
people who might be feeling that way right now, because
you can get out of it and you can get
out of it without taking drugs, without thinking that there's
something wrong with you, simply through producing and creating the
life that you actually want. So if I was stuck
in my life right now, in 2025 with social media

(01:26):
and Netflix and all of these things that we have
as distractions, this is exactly how I would get unstuck
in my life. The first and most important step to
getting unstuck is to understand that the old version of
you doesn't exist anymore, unless you choose to stay stuck.
You have to cut off the person that you are
right now to become the person that you want to be.

(01:47):
So how do you actually do this? You see, I
love to look up the derivation of words, and the
derivation of the word decision is to cut off, which
means you're no longer the person that you were yesterday
if you have made a decision to change, that person
doesn't exist. Imagine if your car got stolen the next
day you couldn't wake up. Be able to use your

(02:08):
old vehicle in order to get to where you're trying
to go. You'd have to come up with some different solution.
You'd have to take a bike. You'd have to Uber.
Maybe you're walking. You no longer have your car as
your option to travel now. Think about this as a
decision for you to change your life. If you are
going to become a person who works out every single day,
or a person who is a badass at sales, or
somebody who reads books and is very well read and articulate,

(02:31):
all of a sudden, if you decide to be that person,
you are no longer the person that doesn't do those things.
That person doesn't exist any longer. So you have to
start making decisions as if you are that new person.
Because guess what? You are. All because you made the decision. Now,
once you've made the decision, let's make your environment easier.
So if you know that you doomscroll on TikTok, set

(02:53):
a policy, make it so that moving forward you have
your screen time locked on your phone. You cannot scroll
on TikTok for longer than five minutes when you make
subtle changes like this to actually change your environment, you're
doubling down on the decision for you not to be
the old version of yourself. So your environment matters and
the choices that you need to make in order to
get there really matter. And guess what? They can be

(03:15):
small little tweaks. Being a whole different version of you
doesn't mean that everything in your life changes, but the
things that matter that you need to make progress on
have to happen today. And that decision has to be now.
My second step to getting unstuck is to ruin myself
with disappointment in me. Disappointment is the wake up call
that you have been avoiding. Do not listen to all

(03:36):
of those nice memes and those fun TikToks that make
you feel like you should accept yourself and be okay
with yourself the way that you are. If you're disappointed
because you know that you have more in you, you
know that you could impact more people. You know you
have this great potential and instead you're wasting it. Be
freaking disappointed. You shouldn't feel good about yourself. Why would
you feel good about yourself? You're not living into what

(03:57):
is possible for you. Once you know that you're unhappy
with the way that your life looks, you can make
that change, but don't sugarcoat it. Don't tell yourself lies
that you should just love yourself the way that you
are and give yourself a big hug. Don't listen to
that bullshit. Be disappointed, accept the disappointment and take action.
My parents used to drag me to a dinner every
single year with a family friend, and this family friend

(04:19):
was very well educated, very well read, and incredibly successful.
But I hated going to the dinner because he made
me feel bad about myself. The amount of news that
he would read every single day would remind me that
instead of reading the news, I was watching television. The
way that he would articulate questions and his opinions would
make me feel uncomfortable, because I realized I didn't have
an opinion because I didn't even know what the frick

(04:41):
he was talking about. He was so involved in politics
and what was happening in the world. And I realized,
I don't know the things that I could know and
that I really feel like I should know and should
be part of those conversations. So after many years of dinners,
I finally decided to stop lying to myself and take action.
What did I do? I ordered the economist. I ordered
the Wall Street Journal to show up to my house

(05:01):
every single day, and I became interested in the news.
I became interested in politics so that when I showed
up to dinner the next year, I would actually have opinions.
You see, I didn't lie to myself saying that those
things aren't important. They were important. That brings us to
step three, which is to decide what you want your
life to look like. You cannot create the life that
you want without knowing what you want. If I'm totally honest,

(05:22):
I entirely gave up on my goals. For about three years,
I became introverted. I just decided to be stuck in
life because I felt really insecure, to be honest. And
I was not confident. And I was so terrified of
what people thought of me that I just didn't want
to try. And I'll never forget flying to this conference.
And I had said no to speaking at this conference

(05:42):
because I was scared and I didn't feel confident. But
then I was sitting there in the audience realizing, I'm here.
I could be participating, I could be contributing. But instead,
my fear of public speaking, my fear of being seen,
my fear of maybe people judging me or criticizing me
is going to keep me on the sidelines. And from
that moment forward, I was like, I'm not going to
be this person. I refuse to be the person that

(06:03):
doesn't have the life that they want. And so from there,
I took accountability and said, what do I want my
life to look like? And I wrote down all of
my goals. What do I want personally? What do I
want my fitness goals to be? What do I want
my family goals to be? What kind of friends do
I want to have professionally? What type of mentors do
I want to bring in? What are the opportunities that
I'd like to create and financially, how much money do

(06:25):
I want to make? What do I want to contribute to?
How could I make a financial impact on a charity
that really matters to me? Because if I'm not confident
in myself today and I don't feel like I can
create the life that I want, I'm never going to
create the impact that I could potentially make. And I
am put on this planet in order to live into
my potential. And I think that you are too. So
if you haven't done this already, I would pause this

(06:46):
video and I would take out a piece of paper,
or maybe open up your notes app, and I would
write down your personal, professional and financial five year goals.
This will give you a picture of who you want
to be in the future, so that you can decide
to be that person today. Step four is the most
important thing you can do, because you have to know
for sure that you are moving forward. Are you making

(07:07):
progress daily? That is how you get out of the
rut of having this dream life, but actually feeling like
you're making incremental progress. You're seeing wins. You're making a change.
One of my successful habits around this is to plan
my day the night before. I do not leave my office.
I do not leave my place of work or go
to bed without having a full breakdown of my calendar

(07:27):
and where I'm spending my time the next day. Make
the plan the night before. So when I'm going through
my calendar, I'm looking at what appointments do I have,
what books am I reading? What podcasts do I need
to listen to? How do I sprinkle in little pieces
of future Natalie and make those deposits today so that
I can actually get to those opportunities in the future?
Because I'm well-read on these things, because I'm in the know,

(07:48):
on what's happening in the spaces that I'm interested in
going into. The progress you choose to make every single
day is what changes things. It is not these big steps.
It is the tiny, incremental steps that you make every
single day that change the trajectory of your life to
create the life that you've always wanted. And my hack
for this is to actually graph the things that are
the most important to me. Because if I can see

(08:10):
on a graph that I'm getting more hours of sleep
every single night, that I am working out consistently, and
that my muscle mass is increasing, or if I can
see that I'm actually making more money month over month.
All of a sudden I feel better about the growth
because I can see it moving up. But if you
aren't graphing and you aren't paying attention to those movements
every day, you're going to feel like you're not getting
any closer and you're going to go back into your rut.

(08:32):
So measuring the handful of things that matter to you
changes everything. Step five is one of my favorites, and
I don't hear people talking about this. Wherever you're currently
spending your time, stop spending your time there. If you're
in a rut, the easiest way to get unstuck in
your life is to get out of your house. Your
environment dictates the way that you feel. So you're watching

(08:53):
a video right now about how to get unstuck. If
you're feeling stuck, that means that you shouldn't stay in
the environment where you are stuck. Your environment can be
the type of social media that you interact with. Your
environment can be the friends that you hang out with,
the information that you're reading, get out of your house.
Get out of those places where you feel stuck and
do that immediately. If you're watching this in a place

(09:13):
where you don't feel great, leave the place that you're
currently in. And getting out of your house is one
of the most effective things. When you get out of
your house, it means that you have to be around
other people. Back when I was in college and I
would really feel caved in, I would do my homework
in my bed. I felt like I was just grinding
and that there was no end in sight. My life
was always going to suck. I would go and study
at a Starbucks, and later on I learned that the

(09:35):
best place to study was actually a hotel lobby. Because
you were just in a different environment. It was a
different groove. I just felt better about myself. I put
on a different outfit, I made my makeup a little
bit nicer, and I felt like I was in a place,
like the places that I wanted to be in the future,
instead of physically being in the place where I currently
feel stuck. So think of ways that you could change
your environment. If you currently study at your house, could

(09:57):
you study in a library? If you currently work in
a space with a coworker that you can't stand. Could
you ask your manager to move? There are creative ways
to change your environment, and your environment is everything. Step
six is to realize that entertainment disguised as education is
why you're not making progress. If you watch a bunch
of these videos and you never do anything after them,

(10:17):
you have just substituted traditional entertainment via TikTok or Netflix
with education that you're using as entertainment. And I am
a huge culprit of this. I will never forget when
I needed some motivation, it was back when I was
in high school. I had to study for this big
AP exam. I was going to watch this movie about
this inspirational story of this woman who had this incredible

(10:40):
gymnastics career. In my mind, I was thinking I was
being productive or I was learning something, learning how to
overcome and how to have grit. Really, I was just
being educated. Back in the day, I didn't have YouTube,
but today I see people doing this constantly where they
will just binge watch all of these videos on how
to launch an effective marketing campaign, how to grow on
social media, how to make more money and they feel
better because instead of just watching mindless reality television. At

(11:02):
least they're learning something. But they're not paring the learning
of something with the doing of something. This can lead
to you feeling like you're making progress when really you're not.
So here's my rule of thumb whenever I'm watching, reading,
or listening to something, I have to actually do something
immediately afterwards. I can't just go to the next video,
to the next podcast, find the next guru. You will

(11:23):
not have a better life. You will not get unstuck
from your rut if you just go to Natalie's next video.
Although you should go to my next video, but that's
not going to really help you and I'm here to
actually help you. So what can you do right now
that would make a change? If I was you, I
would take my laptop or I would take my phone
and I would get out of my house and I
would go set up shop in a coffee shop or
in some awesome swanky hotel lobby. That is how you implement.

(11:45):
And you make a change so that you're actually making
progress instead of just being educated. Next up is number seven,
which is to separate yourself from people who don't support you.
You can take a break from people holding you back,
and it doesn't have to be a breakup. This is
a lesson that my mom taught me. She would tell
me about the boyfriends that she would break up with,
but they didn't know that she broke up with them.

(12:06):
And I was like, mom, how did you do this?
She said I would just create slow and subtle distance.
Instead of having this big fight that created all this emotion,
I would subtly become more and more busy to the
point where it just didn't make sense for us to
be together any longer. Because I already had this new
life with things that I was passionate about, and they
were still doing what they were doing before. We didn't

(12:26):
have some massive breakup, but it was obvious to both
parties that there was no longer alignment. This is the
best way to create separation from your friends. Now here's
the deal with this don't make other people wrong. Don't
have some big emotional blow up. Just separate yourself and
start being so busy working on yourself, doing things that
are creating the life that you want, that you no

(12:46):
longer have the time that you used to have. If
you have friends who you like to party with and
go out with on Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights just
have other things to do that you can't move. Whatever
it is that you're trying to create, make time to
do those things. In the time that you used to
spend with people who aren't helping you get closer to
your goals. This is where I go back to looking
at my calendar, and I cancel anything that is not

(13:08):
helping me get out of the rut that I'm in.
There is no party that you can go to. There
is no lunch that you can go to. There is
no coffee that you can go to with your friend
that is going to make you feel better about yourself again.
It's not to make them bad and it's not to
make them wrong. It's just to say, I no longer
have time to talk about my current life because I
have to go do things and spend time building a

(13:29):
new version of my life. And I can't live my
old life while building the new version of my life.
That brings us to our final step in getting unstuck,
which is step number eight. Just say no. You have
to say no to anything that doesn't align with your goals.
I used to make up errands that I had to
run instead of spending Saturday actually learning a new skill
and investing in myself to make progress, I would come

(13:51):
up with this list of all of these things that
I had to do. I have to go get my
nails done. I have to go to target, I have
to eat lunch. I just created all of these things
that I had to do when really I didn't have
to do any of them. So sometimes saying no isn't
saying no to somebody else. It's actually saying no to
the habits and the routines and the things that you

(14:11):
tell yourself you have to do, but they're really distractions,
just taking you away from the things that you actually
have to do. If you're not making progress on the
real things that you need to do, you have to
reevaluate the things that you have to do and start
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