September 26, 2025 • 15 mins
If you want to be respected, liked, and taken seriously, your actions matter more than your words. I’ve worked with top business owners and built my own multimillion-dollar company, and along the way I’ve learned exactly what separates the people who command respect from those who don’t. In this episode, I’m breaking down five essential ways to earn respect—choosing respect over being liked, being consistent, setting boundaries, mastering your craft, and proving yourself through action.
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S1 (00:00):
Welcome to business and the podcast for people making it
all happen. Running a successful business completely takes over your life,
but I'm a believer that there is still room for
some ands like health, wealth, beauty, and maybe even some fashion.
On this podcast, I'll share with you what's working for
scaling my nine figure business while keeping you up to
date on the latest trends, news and fun finds. This
(00:23):
is a place for business and let's dive in! Welcome
back to business and we are diving into this topic
of respect. I think often about how do you gain
people's respect, because I continue to show up in rooms
where I am a complete nobody. Nobody cares who I am,
what I do, and I have to earn a different
(00:45):
level of respect because once you hit a target, the
next target becomes completely out of reach and you have
to reinvent yourself and ask, like, what would it take
for somebody at the next level to care about what
I have done? Well, it would take the next level
of results. And so I think this is a fun
game that we get to play as we grow businesses,
as we grow teams, to be able to continually to
(01:06):
push ourselves into rooms where there's new conversations being had
and new levels of respect that you can earn not
just from yourself, but from people that you respect. And
I go back and forth between, is it most important
for me to respect myself, or is it most important
for others to respect me? And where I kind of
land on this is if I want to be in
(01:27):
a large room at a charity event where I'm sitting
next to Doctor Oz, I want to be able to
say all of the cool things that we've done in
Tenex health, and maybe we haven't done all of those
things yet, but then it gives me the motivation that
I need and that I want to be able to
go do big things so that if I ever got
the opportunity to meet him again, I'd be able to say, hey,
this is what we're up to. But is it that
(01:48):
I'm needing to just go after Doctor Oz's respect in
a way where I'm insecure of myself or uncertain of myself?
Absolutely not. So there's an interesting duality that exists with
earning your own respect for yourself, but also looking to
others as a bar or some sort of metric that
you can use to help yourself set huge targets to
(02:09):
actually get the respect that you could create in this lifetime.
So with that, these are my top tips on how
you can go about gaining respect today. So these are
the five ways to make anyone respect you. First up
is the big question. Do you want to be respected
or do you want to be liked? I am a
natural people pleaser, and I think this shocks people who
(02:31):
meet me today because I don't have traditional, people pleasing
qualities any longer. And that's because I have made active
choices for the last decade to not choose to be
liked more than I want to be respected. See, when
you don't know which one of the two you're going after,
you can get confused. Because when you're meeting people and
you want to please people, you can end up pleasing
(02:53):
the wrong people. And I can honestly say that until
my early 20s, I always prioritized people liking me and
what people thought about me more than choosing the right
people to respect me. And what happens when you prioritize
people liking you is you compromise. You spend time around
people who do things that you actually disagree with, but
(03:14):
because you want to be liked, not respected, you don't
say anything. You don't change the environment. Heaven forbid you
don't correct them. You just keep going on agreeing to
things that actually make you feel like you're compromising in
order to be respected. The first person who has to
respect you is you. So when you think about who
you spend your time with today, are you making compromises?
(03:35):
Are you feeling like you have to make people happy,
or like they have to like you over the things
that you know you need to do in order to
respect yourself? When I first went to college, I wasn't
really the partying type. However, the friends that I was
hanging out with did like to party and they liked
to drink more than I liked to drink, but I
didn't know how to stop spending time with them, so
I just fell into this role where I would be there.
(03:58):
I would always be the sober one, but I was
wasting all of my time trying to get them to
like me, or think that I was cool because I
was still in the environment. It took me longer than
it should have to extract myself from that environment, and
not that there's any judgment that I have for people
trying to figure their lives out while in college. But
I know that for me, I was making decisions at
that time based off of what somebody else thought and
(04:20):
what somebody else wanted me to do, instead of prioritizing
the decisions that I knew would allow me to respect me. Remember,
without respect, your voice just gets drowned out and your
authority will be entirely ignored. No matter how friendly or
charming you actually are, you have to establish clear boundaries,
show competence, communicate with authority to start to earn respect.
(04:43):
Number two is next. Consistency over long periods of time
creates confidence. It is easy to just go into the
gym for a couple of days and you get all
excited about it, and you buy your cute workout clothes
and you start to think, man, I'm gonna finally take
control of my health and wellness journey. But if you
fast forward two weeks and you're no longer in the gym,
(05:04):
you're confident in your ability to stick to your word
goes down. That is the exact same thing that happens
with the people in your life. When you tell them
that you are going to show up for them, and
you are going to make it to dinner and you
back out last minute because you don't feel like it.
You don't want to, you don't feel good. You are
not going to build confidence that you're the type of
person that does what they say that they're going to do.
So every decision that you make, whether it's consistent or inconsistent,
(05:27):
is giving somebody an understanding of how much confidence they
can have in you. Now extrapolate this to the work
that you do, whether you're a team member or you
own a business, when you say that you're going to
get something done, do you do it by that time
when you say that you're going to follow up, do
you actually follow up? You see, people learn by how
you follow up, by how you show up over long
periods of time if they can or can't count on you.
(05:48):
I know instantly who I can and can't count on,
and the people who I count on are the people
who always follow up with me, and if they follow
up with me consistently for six months, if they happen
to miss something, I'm not that worried about it, because
I know by their actions that they are a consistent person.
But if they sometimes follow up, sometimes don't follow up,
sometimes do what they say they're going to do, sometimes
(06:09):
they don't say what they're going to do. I'm just
going to bypass them. And when you bypass somebody in
an organization, all of a sudden you start to ask yourself, well,
why do I need this person if I'm going to
end up having to do their job because they aren't consistent?
And yet when you talk to the person, all they
want is more opportunity. They want to be trusted with more.
They want to handle more. They want to make more money.
They want to do big things, but they can't even
(06:29):
handle what's in front of them. This is actually why
respect doesn't just happen overnight. What is so cool about
being consistent? It is in your control. If you say
that you're going to do something. And what's also cool
is you don't have to commit to something if you
have no intention to do it, that's fine too. Next
is number three. You have to set clear boundaries. One
of the hardest lessons I've had to learn is not
(06:50):
just setting boundaries, but is actually getting other people to
respect those boundaries. There's two steps to boundaries. The first
is creating them. The second is enforcing them. When it
comes to setting boundaries, the first thing that you have
to ask yourself is, what are you not willing to
tolerate in your environment? Pull out a piece of paper,
maybe the notes app on your phone, and list the
(07:12):
types of behaviors that you will not tolerate from people
who work with you, who spend time with you, who
are friends with you. What are the things that are
absolute no's for you? From that list, you can then
start to create the list of characteristics that you would
expect of the greatest people who would come into your life.
So you have a list of hard no's, but then
(07:33):
you also have a list of. This is what I
would expect of the best people. People that might not
even know who I am to represent and bring into
my life. Once you have that list, you then have
to look at how do I spend my time and
do I spend my time? That's in alignment with this list?
Because if you don't have great people in your life,
it might be because you aren't living in the same
value set as the people that you want to bring
(07:55):
in your life, so of course they're never going to
want to spend time with you. When I first started
wanting to spend time with Elena Cardone, I realized that
if she hung out with me for a day, I
would have to tell her and talk to her about
things that I was interested in and things that I
was doing at the time. I wasn't working out consistently.
I didn't hold myself accountable to goals that I was setting.
I was wishy washy about what I did or didn't
(08:15):
want for my future. I wasn't able to clearly communicate
the personal goals that I had for myself, and so
I spent six months becoming the type of person that
Elena would want to be friends with, so that when
I did have the opportunity to meet her, to spend
time around her, we had similar shared interests. When she
wanted to go to the gym on the very first
trip that we took together, I wasn't embarrassed by how
(08:36):
out of shape I was because I had already started
to go to the gym. So you have your list
of the things that you want, and when it comes
to the list of things that you don't want, here's
the challenge when it comes to the things that you
don't want and the boundaries that you are setting where
you would kick somebody out of your life for violating
those boundaries. It can be incredibly difficult to draw a
hard line. I can't tell you how many people have
(08:57):
to my face made disrespectful comments, have laughed at me,
have lessened my role, have not taken me seriously. And
in those moments, it's challenging to actually say you no
longer get a spot here because they're already there for
a reason. They're there because they're family. They're there because
you've known them for a while, because you hired them.
(09:17):
You thought that they were going to help you and
they were responsible for something. And I have always found
that if somebody is violating a boundary that I have
and I get rid of them in my life, my
life has never gotten worse. It actually gets better. But
if you think that things are going to get worse,
be challenging. Everything's just gonna melt down. When you get
rid of people that aren't respecting you, then you're not
going to get rid of them. But I can promise you,
(09:39):
just trust me on this. Get rid of them and
see what happens. You are going to be amazed because
you will not go backwards. You will actually Springboard forward
because you don't have somebody constantly validating you. Now we're
on to number four, one of my favorites. Master your craft.
The easiest way to get respect is to be great
at something. If you aren't great at anything, it's hard
(10:01):
to think about. But why should somebody respect you? You
want respect? Well, what have you done that would make
somebody respect you? Is it the great person that you are?
Is it that you're nice to everyone, friendly to people?
You're a good person. Well, what does that actually mean?
If you are a mom and you want to be respected,
the way that you get respect is by saying, hey,
these are my kids and this is everything that I do.
(10:21):
In order to make sure that I am setting them
up for success, that I'm being a good example to them,
and that I'm able to help them contribute positively to society.
If you want to be a great team member, you
would be showing the fact that your team has improved
because you are there. The results show if you are
somebody who actually deserves respect, the environment around you should
improve because you are there. So when you look at
(10:43):
your environment, you should ask yourself this question is my
environment better because I am there? If it's not better,
if it stays the same, if it's worse because you
get on the scene, then nobody should respect you because
you don't do anything to make things better. On the
contrary to that, if you do show up to an
environment and you choose to make it better, you can
then point to, hey, all of these things that are
(11:04):
positive happened because I was there and that is why
people respect you. Now I work with team members and
business owners each and every day, and the fastest thing
that I drive them to is a specific stat. What
is the thing that we can measure that you did
that you are great at? I think about the social
media team that I work with. They have ridiculous stats now.
(11:27):
Why do they have stats? Because they've gotten good at
one thing. How do we take video and create compelling
messages for people to understand who we are, what we do,
and what we're all about? See, those stats that they
now have are actually in the physical universe. It's not
just that they happen to be good at social media.
There are social media managers who cannot produce a single
great piece of content that people actually want to watch.
(11:49):
The difference between somebody who's average and somebody who's great
is the stats. But the fastest way to get confused
is to think that you have to be good at
social media at the exact same time, that you have
to be good at PR, at the exact same time
that you have to be good at some other form
of marketing. Get stats in one area. People will then
respect you for those stats that you have because you
can say, hey, I did this, I did this, I
(12:10):
did this, I did this in order to make this happen.
That creates confidence, which ultimately leads people to respect you.
To contrast my current social team, compared to previous team
members that I've worked with, I will never forget when
one of my team members came in my office and
she said, the two of us are so overwhelmed, we're
so overworked. There's no way that we can create more content.
(12:31):
It's performing as best as it can, and it's just
going to take time for it to perform well. Fast forward,
it was just her that wasn't performing because she didn't
actually study the craft. She never decided that. I'm going
to be great to fully understand what is working on
social right now, not what's working five years ago, not
what worked two years ago, but what is actually working
right now to drive engagement, to create spectacular content. And
(12:54):
so we've changed up our team, and it's fascinating that
all of a sudden this growth has happened, all because
our team is dedicated to picking one thing that they
are great at. So how does this apply to you?
You pick one thing that you want to master, and
you go after that thing for the next 18 months
or until you get undeniable results in that area. After that,
(13:15):
you move on to the next thing that you want
to be great at. And when you can show that
you can deliver results over and over again. By understanding
the areas of your interest deeply, respect becomes automatic. Lastly,
number five, your actions will always speak the loudest. I
still don't get the level of respect from people that
I would like. The trick is to not use someone's
(13:36):
lack of respect as a reason for why you should
stop trying. When I decided to marry my husband. I
was petrified that for the rest of my life, people
were just going to look at me as my husband's wife,
or I would be in his shadows because he is
unbelievably smart, successful, and truly a business savant. And I thought, oh,
(13:57):
for the rest of my life, people would just tell me, oh,
you got lucky, or you must not work very hard.
Or what's it like to work in your husband's business?
Even if I am working in the business 18 hours
a day and driving consistent value. But finally, I realized
that people's lack of respect for me has nothing to
do with the respect that I need to create for myself.
I am the only one who gets to see how
(14:17):
I do or don't show up. You are the only
one who gets to see how you do or don't
show up. So do you respect the way that you
show up? It doesn't matter that the world is going
to judge you or say negative things or be critical
because that's on them. But if you do what you
know you are capable of, you go after your goals.
It might actually be that you go through all of
your life and never get the respect from others that
(14:39):
you deserve, and that is completely okay. Respect is ultimately
about your actions and your results. So just put in
the work. Don't talk about it. Don't complain about people
not respecting you. Nobody cares. Put your head down. Prove
to people over a long period of time that they
should respect you because of the results that you are
able to drive. If you do these things in just
(15:00):
a short period of time, you could have all the
respect that you want.
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Welcome to business and the podcast for people making it
all happen. Running a successful business completely takes over your life,
but I'm a believer that there is still room for
some ands like health, wealth, beauty, and maybe even some fashion.
On this podcast, I'll share with you what's working for
scaling my nine figure business while keeping you up to
date on the latest trends, news and fun finds. This
(00:23):
is a place for business and let's dive in! Welcome
back to business and we are diving into this topic
of respect. I think often about how do you gain
people's respect, because I continue to show up in rooms
where I am a complete nobody. Nobody cares who I am,
what I do, and I have to earn a different
(00:45):
level of respect because once you hit a target, the
next target becomes completely out of reach and you have
to reinvent yourself and ask, like, what would it take
for somebody at the next level to care about what
I have done? Well, it would take the next level
of results. And so I think this is a fun
game that we get to play as we grow businesses,
as we grow teams, to be able to continually to
(01:06):
push ourselves into rooms where there's new conversations being had
and new levels of respect that you can earn not
just from yourself, but from people that you respect. And
I go back and forth between, is it most important
for me to respect myself, or is it most important
for others to respect me? And where I kind of
land on this is if I want to be in
(01:27):
a large room at a charity event where I'm sitting
next to Doctor Oz, I want to be able to
say all of the cool things that we've done in
Tenex health, and maybe we haven't done all of those
things yet, but then it gives me the motivation that
I need and that I want to be able to
go do big things so that if I ever got
the opportunity to meet him again, I'd be able to say, hey,
this is what we're up to. But is it that
(01:48):
I'm needing to just go after Doctor Oz's respect in
a way where I'm insecure of myself or uncertain of myself?
Absolutely not. So there's an interesting duality that exists with
earning your own respect for yourself, but also looking to
others as a bar or some sort of metric that
you can use to help yourself set huge targets to
(02:09):
actually get the respect that you could create in this lifetime.
So with that, these are my top tips on how
you can go about gaining respect today. So these are
the five ways to make anyone respect you. First up
is the big question. Do you want to be respected
or do you want to be liked? I am a
natural people pleaser, and I think this shocks people who
(02:31):
meet me today because I don't have traditional, people pleasing
qualities any longer. And that's because I have made active
choices for the last decade to not choose to be
liked more than I want to be respected. See, when
you don't know which one of the two you're going after,
you can get confused. Because when you're meeting people and
you want to please people, you can end up pleasing
(02:53):
the wrong people. And I can honestly say that until
my early 20s, I always prioritized people liking me and
what people thought about me more than choosing the right
people to respect me. And what happens when you prioritize
people liking you is you compromise. You spend time around
people who do things that you actually disagree with, but
(03:14):
because you want to be liked, not respected, you don't
say anything. You don't change the environment. Heaven forbid you
don't correct them. You just keep going on agreeing to
things that actually make you feel like you're compromising in
order to be respected. The first person who has to
respect you is you. So when you think about who
you spend your time with today, are you making compromises?
(03:35):
Are you feeling like you have to make people happy,
or like they have to like you over the things
that you know you need to do in order to
respect yourself? When I first went to college, I wasn't
really the partying type. However, the friends that I was
hanging out with did like to party and they liked
to drink more than I liked to drink, but I
didn't know how to stop spending time with them, so
I just fell into this role where I would be there.
(03:58):
I would always be the sober one, but I was
wasting all of my time trying to get them to
like me, or think that I was cool because I
was still in the environment. It took me longer than
it should have to extract myself from that environment, and
not that there's any judgment that I have for people
trying to figure their lives out while in college. But
I know that for me, I was making decisions at
that time based off of what somebody else thought and
(04:20):
what somebody else wanted me to do, instead of prioritizing
the decisions that I knew would allow me to respect me. Remember,
without respect, your voice just gets drowned out and your
authority will be entirely ignored. No matter how friendly or
charming you actually are, you have to establish clear boundaries,
show competence, communicate with authority to start to earn respect.
(04:43):
Number two is next. Consistency over long periods of time
creates confidence. It is easy to just go into the
gym for a couple of days and you get all
excited about it, and you buy your cute workout clothes
and you start to think, man, I'm gonna finally take
control of my health and wellness journey. But if you
fast forward two weeks and you're no longer in the gym,
(05:04):
you're confident in your ability to stick to your word
goes down. That is the exact same thing that happens
with the people in your life. When you tell them
that you are going to show up for them, and
you are going to make it to dinner and you
back out last minute because you don't feel like it.
You don't want to, you don't feel good. You are
not going to build confidence that you're the type of
person that does what they say that they're going to do.
So every decision that you make, whether it's consistent or inconsistent,
(05:27):
is giving somebody an understanding of how much confidence they
can have in you. Now extrapolate this to the work
that you do, whether you're a team member or you
own a business, when you say that you're going to
get something done, do you do it by that time
when you say that you're going to follow up, do
you actually follow up? You see, people learn by how
you follow up, by how you show up over long
periods of time if they can or can't count on you.
(05:48):
I know instantly who I can and can't count on,
and the people who I count on are the people
who always follow up with me, and if they follow
up with me consistently for six months, if they happen
to miss something, I'm not that worried about it, because
I know by their actions that they are a consistent person.
But if they sometimes follow up, sometimes don't follow up,
sometimes do what they say they're going to do, sometimes
(06:09):
they don't say what they're going to do. I'm just
going to bypass them. And when you bypass somebody in
an organization, all of a sudden you start to ask yourself, well,
why do I need this person if I'm going to
end up having to do their job because they aren't consistent?
And yet when you talk to the person, all they
want is more opportunity. They want to be trusted with more.
They want to handle more. They want to make more money.
They want to do big things, but they can't even
(06:29):
handle what's in front of them. This is actually why
respect doesn't just happen overnight. What is so cool about
being consistent? It is in your control. If you say
that you're going to do something. And what's also cool
is you don't have to commit to something if you
have no intention to do it, that's fine too. Next
is number three. You have to set clear boundaries. One
of the hardest lessons I've had to learn is not
(06:50):
just setting boundaries, but is actually getting other people to
respect those boundaries. There's two steps to boundaries. The first
is creating them. The second is enforcing them. When it
comes to setting boundaries, the first thing that you have
to ask yourself is, what are you not willing to
tolerate in your environment? Pull out a piece of paper,
maybe the notes app on your phone, and list the
(07:12):
types of behaviors that you will not tolerate from people
who work with you, who spend time with you, who
are friends with you. What are the things that are
absolute no's for you? From that list, you can then
start to create the list of characteristics that you would
expect of the greatest people who would come into your life.
So you have a list of hard no's, but then
(07:33):
you also have a list of. This is what I
would expect of the best people. People that might not
even know who I am to represent and bring into
my life. Once you have that list, you then have
to look at how do I spend my time and
do I spend my time? That's in alignment with this list?
Because if you don't have great people in your life,
it might be because you aren't living in the same
value set as the people that you want to bring
(07:55):
in your life, so of course they're never going to
want to spend time with you. When I first started
wanting to spend time with Elena Cardone, I realized that
if she hung out with me for a day, I
would have to tell her and talk to her about
things that I was interested in and things that I
was doing at the time. I wasn't working out consistently.
I didn't hold myself accountable to goals that I was setting.
I was wishy washy about what I did or didn't
(08:15):
want for my future. I wasn't able to clearly communicate
the personal goals that I had for myself, and so
I spent six months becoming the type of person that
Elena would want to be friends with, so that when
I did have the opportunity to meet her, to spend
time around her, we had similar shared interests. When she
wanted to go to the gym on the very first
trip that we took together, I wasn't embarrassed by how
(08:36):
out of shape I was because I had already started
to go to the gym. So you have your list
of the things that you want, and when it comes
to the list of things that you don't want, here's
the challenge when it comes to the things that you
don't want and the boundaries that you are setting where
you would kick somebody out of your life for violating
those boundaries. It can be incredibly difficult to draw a
hard line. I can't tell you how many people have
(08:57):
to my face made disrespectful comments, have laughed at me,
have lessened my role, have not taken me seriously. And
in those moments, it's challenging to actually say you no
longer get a spot here because they're already there for
a reason. They're there because they're family. They're there because
you've known them for a while, because you hired them.
(09:17):
You thought that they were going to help you and
they were responsible for something. And I have always found
that if somebody is violating a boundary that I have
and I get rid of them in my life, my
life has never gotten worse. It actually gets better. But
if you think that things are going to get worse,
be challenging. Everything's just gonna melt down. When you get
rid of people that aren't respecting you, then you're not
going to get rid of them. But I can promise you,
(09:39):
just trust me on this. Get rid of them and
see what happens. You are going to be amazed because
you will not go backwards. You will actually Springboard forward
because you don't have somebody constantly validating you. Now we're
on to number four, one of my favorites. Master your craft.
The easiest way to get respect is to be great
at something. If you aren't great at anything, it's hard
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to think about. But why should somebody respect you? You
want respect? Well, what have you done that would make
somebody respect you? Is it the great person that you are?
Is it that you're nice to everyone, friendly to people?
You're a good person. Well, what does that actually mean?
If you are a mom and you want to be respected,
the way that you get respect is by saying, hey,
these are my kids and this is everything that I do.
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In order to make sure that I am setting them
up for success, that I'm being a good example to them,
and that I'm able to help them contribute positively to society.
If you want to be a great team member, you
would be showing the fact that your team has improved
because you are there. The results show if you are
somebody who actually deserves respect, the environment around you should
improve because you are there. So when you look at
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your environment, you should ask yourself this question is my
environment better because I am there? If it's not better,
if it stays the same, if it's worse because you
get on the scene, then nobody should respect you because
you don't do anything to make things better. On the
contrary to that, if you do show up to an
environment and you choose to make it better, you can
then point to, hey, all of these things that are
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positive happened because I was there and that is why
people respect you. Now I work with team members and
business owners each and every day, and the fastest thing
that I drive them to is a specific stat. What
is the thing that we can measure that you did
that you are great at? I think about the social
media team that I work with. They have ridiculous stats now.
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Why do they have stats? Because they've gotten good at
one thing. How do we take video and create compelling
messages for people to understand who we are, what we do,
and what we're all about? See, those stats that they
now have are actually in the physical universe. It's not
just that they happen to be good at social media.
There are social media managers who cannot produce a single
great piece of content that people actually want to watch.
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The difference between somebody who's average and somebody who's great
is the stats. But the fastest way to get confused
is to think that you have to be good at
social media at the exact same time, that you have
to be good at PR, at the exact same time
that you have to be good at some other form
of marketing. Get stats in one area. People will then
respect you for those stats that you have because you
can say, hey, I did this, I did this, I
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did this, I did this in order to make this happen.
That creates confidence, which ultimately leads people to respect you.
To contrast my current social team, compared to previous team
members that I've worked with, I will never forget when
one of my team members came in my office and
she said, the two of us are so overwhelmed, we're
so overworked. There's no way that we can create more content.
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It's performing as best as it can, and it's just
going to take time for it to perform well. Fast forward,
it was just her that wasn't performing because she didn't
actually study the craft. She never decided that. I'm going
to be great to fully understand what is working on
social right now, not what's working five years ago, not
what worked two years ago, but what is actually working
right now to drive engagement, to create spectacular content. And
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so we've changed up our team, and it's fascinating that
all of a sudden this growth has happened, all because
our team is dedicated to picking one thing that they
are great at. So how does this apply to you?
You pick one thing that you want to master, and
you go after that thing for the next 18 months
or until you get undeniable results in that area. After that,
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you move on to the next thing that you want
to be great at. And when you can show that
you can deliver results over and over again. By understanding
the areas of your interest deeply, respect becomes automatic. Lastly,
number five, your actions will always speak the loudest. I
still don't get the level of respect from people that
I would like. The trick is to not use someone's
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lack of respect as a reason for why you should
stop trying. When I decided to marry my husband. I
was petrified that for the rest of my life, people
were just going to look at me as my husband's wife,
or I would be in his shadows because he is
unbelievably smart, successful, and truly a business savant. And I thought, oh,
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for the rest of my life, people would just tell me, oh,
you got lucky, or you must not work very hard.
Or what's it like to work in your husband's business?
Even if I am working in the business 18 hours
a day and driving consistent value. But finally, I realized
that people's lack of respect for me has nothing to
do with the respect that I need to create for myself.
I am the only one who gets to see how
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I do or don't show up. You are the only
one who gets to see how you do or don't
show up. So do you respect the way that you
show up? It doesn't matter that the world is going
to judge you or say negative things or be critical
because that's on them. But if you do what you
know you are capable of, you go after your goals.
It might actually be that you go through all of
your life and never get the respect from others that
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you deserve, and that is completely okay. Respect is ultimately
about your actions and your results. So just put in
the work. Don't talk about it. Don't complain about people
not respecting you. Nobody cares. Put your head down. Prove
to people over a long period of time that they
should respect you because of the results that you are
able to drive. If you do these things in just
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a short period of time, you could have all the
respect that you want.
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