October 25, 2025 • 17 mins
In this episode, I open up about how much time I used to waste worrying about what other people thought of me—and how it kept me stuck. I share what it actually took to stop letting other people’s opinions dictate my decisions and start building a life and business I’m proud of.
I walk through five things that helped me shift: using criticism as fuel, knowing whose opinions really matter, cutting off negativity, giving myself grace when I fall short, and getting clear on where I’m headed.
If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by judgment or afraid to make bold moves because of what people might say, this episode will hit home.
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S1 (00:00):
Welcome to business and the podcast for people making it
all happen. Running a successful business completely takes over your life,
but I'm a believer that there is still room for
some ands like health, wealth, beauty, and maybe even some fashion.
On this podcast, I'll share with you what's working for
scaling my nine figure business while keeping you up to
date on the latest trends, news and fun finds. This
(00:23):
is a place for business and let's dive in!
S2 (00:26):
Welcome back to business. And isn't it cool to think
about not caring what other people think about you? How
great would that be? You just wake up every day
doing exactly what you want to do when you want
to do it, because only you care about what you
think about your decisions. And you know, it's something I
don't talk about too often because it's not really popular
(00:46):
to talk about. But, you know, here we are in
the podcast and you'd get the little insight into my
brain on certain things like this. I find it really
fascinating myself to work as hard as I do, because
I actually don't have to do this. I'm actually sitting
here on a Saturday afternoon. It's 521. I had hair
and makeup come over to my house at 7 a.m..
(01:07):
I'll be up at six tomorrow morning to be at
work all day, and I will do that all throughout
the next handful of weeks. And that's how I've run
my life for many, many years now. And it's just
interesting to me because whenever I get overwhelmed or feel
like I freaking hate this, I literally remind myself that
I'm choosing to do this. And when you have a
certain level of financial success, it's interesting because you can
(01:29):
either choose to stop working altogether, at which point you
will lose purpose. And I just know from experience, life
will actually feel worse and bleaker and darker. Or you
can just go all in and what you actually believe,
you can create what your actual potential is. And I'm
at that stage of my career where I don't have
to work the way that I work, but I work
(01:50):
more than anybody who has to work because I actually
enjoy what I do. And it's so important for me
not to care what anybody else thinks of me, but
for me to care what I think of me. And
it matters to me how I show up. It matters
to me how I prepare for things or how intense
I am with situations, because it's a representation to me
of what is possible, and I get to either increase
(02:11):
my own confidence in myself or reduce my confidence in
myself every single day. And it's only to this place
because I don't actually care what others think. It is
not a game for me about other people. It is
only a game for me about what I think. So
here in this podcast, I'm going to go over the
five strategies that have helped me, who used to be
very worried about judgment and break through all those limitations,
(02:35):
to be in a position now where I care about
what I think, and you might end up working harder
than you think you need to, but I can promise
you that it ends up actually working out exactly the
way that you want it to. So with that, I
hope you enjoy. If you want to live a powerful
and fulfilled life, the first thing you need to do
is stop caring what other people think of you. And
here's the truth. When you focus on yourself, everything else
(02:55):
is just noise. I used to be so consumed with
what other people thought and what they said about me,
and it just kept me broke and stuck. But since
I stopped caring, I've become a successful business owner, living
my dream life. And I am the most confident that
I have ever been. So these are the five strategies
that will help you break free from judgment and criticism,
(03:16):
and give you the power to change your life. Let's
get started. First up is to use the criticism as fuel.
You see, for the last ten years, anytime someone has
said something negative about me, I just reframe it to
use as fuel for me to get up earlier, work
out harder, answer the emails, figure out how to take that,
(03:38):
and convert it into motivation to get me to do
things that I don't want to do. You see, I
weaponize the criticism. I make it work for my benefit.
So when you think about the criticism that you receive,
it might be a side comment from a friend who says, oh,
you know, I don't think you're going to be that successful.
Most businesses fail. You use that as fuel. Because, sure,
(03:59):
it might be true that most businesses do fail in
the first ten years, but not your business. And when
people say things to you that cause you to stop,
slow down, get frustrated. Doubt yourself. Convert it instantly. It's
like your hack. Instead of letting it introvert you, it
becomes the thing that you use to step up your game.
It's the thing that you use to work harder so
(04:20):
that you can prove that person wrong. You see, people
are motivated by all sorts of different things. Sometimes you're
motivated by the dream life. What it could be like
for you to hit your goals, and you live in
fairy tale land. That can be used as motivation for sure.
It's funny, I was just talking last night to a
girl on my team who read me some text messages
that an ex-employee of ours sent her, and he was
(04:41):
a complete asshole to her. They had a good working
relationship initially, but when he left, he sent her a
slew of text messages saying, you aren't like the old you.
You used to be a nice person. You're never going
to get to where you're trying to go. Nobody likes you.
And you started using all of these generalities because he
got let go, because he wasn't doing what he was
(05:02):
supposed to be doing, because he is going to not
have a great career in the future. He had to
take that and throw it all on her. And she
told me about this a handful of days after it happened.
I wish she would have told me the moment that
it happened, because I would have told her, do not
lose an ounce of sleep thinking about this guy. Do
not even for a moment question who you are and
(05:22):
what you're capable of because of this guy. Use this
to work harder, but don't allow it to sink in
and have you doubt yourself because of it. Just use
it to prove that person wrong, and be so confident
that you will prove that person wrong, because there is
no chance that they are going to be right. You're
not going to let them be right. You can play
this balance very easily. You don't succumb, you don't take
(05:44):
a step back, you take it and you just add
it as this additional thing that's helping you get to
where you're trying to go. There's nothing that has been
more helpful to me than being crystal clear on my mission,
my vision, and my core values. And I have a
framework that is super helpful in being able to create these.
So if you want it, go to my Instagram and
DM me the word vision and I'll send it your way.
(06:07):
My second strategy is that it is okay to care.
The fact is, no stranger trolling me or hater online
will ever be more disappointed in me than I could
be in me. I know that if I am my
own worst critic, the criticisms of others don't matter much.
But here's the thing I do care about a certain
(06:28):
subset of people, and what they think about me really
does matter, because I want to impress them. I want
them to be proud of me. It would be because
the person that they would be impressed by would have
to have accomplished things. They would have to be an
impressive person, not by some silly standard, but by a
standard that matters. If the person is impressive and they're impressed,
(06:49):
that means that I did something and I created something
that was worthwhile. It helped people, it made an impact.
And so people who have made an impact to me,
they do matter what they think about me. But people
who have never made an impact, who are just spectators online,
who are scared, trolls who think that it's just the
greatest gift to be able to anonymously hate on people.
(07:10):
I could give two shits what they think about me.
But it's not just the haters. Because most people, to
be honest with you, don't even know you. You haven't
made a big enough impact for anybody to even say
anything about you. So it's actually a gift when you
have haters or people who are saying negative things about you,
because that at least means that you've done something. I
think the hardest part is figuring out those people who
are not overly supportive. They're not necessarily haters. They just
(07:35):
aren't supporting you. They aren't commenting on your posts. They
aren't sharing your content like a stranger who might be
supporting your business or who is a new customer of yours.
And those are the relationships that are the most challenging,
because you have to stop caring what they think about you.
Your friends from high school or college, maybe the golf
club who are good with where they're at and aren't
(07:56):
pursuing a goal that gets them excited. It really shouldn't
matter what they think about you or how they don't
support you, because what you have to think with is
who is the person out there that needs me to
help them? Your friends from high school probably don't need
you to help them, but there is somebody out there
that you can provide value to, that you can contribute
positively to. But if you get stuck in the judgment
(08:18):
of your high school friends or your college friends or
your golf buddies, of course you're just going to succumb to, well,
maybe I don't really need to make that big of
an impact. I watch this especially with the guys that
I work around. Some other guys that they're friends with
will start making fun of them when they start to
post online, because they think that they're too good for them,
or they think that they're Mr. Hotshot because they're posting
(08:40):
about their workout routine. And it's really unfortunate for me
to watch because they might all be making good money.
They might be making a couple hundred grand a year,
fairly successful, but not satisfied. They're disappointed with where they're at.
They want to make $1 million a year or $2
million a year, but the people that they spend time
around are happy and content with where they're at. So
instead of being supportive, they make little comments that put
(09:03):
the person down. And that suggests that whatever the goals
of that person are just aren't worthwhile to pursue. And
then the person becomes introverted. So those are the people
you actually have to worry about because most people aren't
going to be outright haters. They're going to subtly hate
on you. They're going to subtly not support you. And
when that happens, you convert their judgment into action and
(09:23):
going after your goals relentlessly because you can recognize that
they aren't going after their goals. You're going after your goals,
and that's what's making them uncomfortable. What other people say
about you truly is just noise, and it is okay
to care about what certain people think. But remember to
care more about what you think about you. Next is
(09:45):
number three. Recognize when it's time to cut people off.
When I first started my Instagram, I couldn't look at
the comments. I refused to look at anybody who was
watching my stories, any of my content. I didn't want
to know. I wouldn't even check to see if my
high school or college friends were paying attention to my posts,
because in my mind, I wasn't talking to them. I
was talking to somebody who I could actually help. And
(10:07):
if I knew that they were watching and they weren't
commenting and they weren't sharing, that, I would feel introverted.
So instead I just shut it all off. Literally hitting
the mute button allowed me to focus on becoming the
person who I wanted to be, and communicating with the
people who I wanted to make an impact on. You see,
I wouldn't be able to grow a YouTube channel like
(10:28):
this if I thought that I was talking to my
friends from the past, because my friends from the past
wouldn't have supported me talking about this. They'd be like, oh,
that's so silly, or you really think that you're all that? Well, yeah,
I guess I kind of do think that I'm all that.
I think that I work really hard in order to
create an impact and to help people and to solve
very specific problems, so that then I could be able
to share them with others. I could actually have the
(10:50):
responsibility of being able to tell people, don't do this.
It's going to make your life harder. Do this so
that you can make more money. Focus on this in
your business so that you can actually scale. And I
do think highly enough of myself that I should set
that standard for my life, and then use that standard
to help other people get ahead faster and do it
(11:11):
more significantly, and not have to take slow routes or
detours because they get distracted and they're listening to the
wrong people. But if you don't cut that off, you
risk giving up on the goal because of the infiltration
of their lack of support. Cutting people off will give
you a singular focus, and remember that other people's thoughts
and opinions are entirely unnecessary. When people in your life
(11:35):
judge you for what you're doing and they say that,
it's cringey. Remember that you actually don't have to listen
to them. This next strategy is my favorite. It is
asking the simple question so what? You see, I can't
just assume that you have made perfect decisions up until
this point of your life, and maybe there are some
things in your life that you've done that you are
(11:57):
embarrassed by, that you don't want people to find out about,
and that actually holds you back from being able to
reach for what you're trying to go. And whenever I
have these limiting thoughts where I've been a bad leader,
where I've made the wrong decision, where I've been embarrassed
by the way that I showed up, I remind myself,
so what? It doesn't matter that you made a mistake
a year ago or five years ago or yesterday. That
(12:20):
has no bearing on what you are going to do
right now. If you can give yourself grace and you
can accept yourself for where you're at right now, with
every single decision that you've made up until this point,
you will have the strength to easily cut people out
who don't allow you to shift and pivot into the
person that you want to become. But oftentimes, it actually
(12:42):
does start with you being okay with yourself, with you
coming to terms with the bad decisions or the bad
choices that you've made. And the way that you do
that is by simply asking yourself this question, so what?
Why does it matter and who does it matter to?
And if you've done something that is just so terrible,
go to the person that you've done this to and apologize.
(13:04):
Make it right so that you can move into this
next area of your life, this next phase of your life,
and feel strong in what you're doing. And there's no
better example of this than Donald Trump. Could you imagine
if Donald Trump, at some point in his life, would
have said, well, I've made too many bad mistakes, done
too many bad deals, had too many incriminating conversations for
me to be able to become the president of the
(13:25):
United States. I couldn't possibly do that. Well, he did
all of those things and maybe had some dicey behavior
in his past and still became the president of the
United States of America, despite the fact that he had
many decades of life and very colorful life that he lived.
So when I think about the fact that Donald Trump
became president, whether you voted for him or not, it's
(13:46):
an interesting case study to just remember, so what, you
can have screwed people over, have a complete career change entirely.
Strip your old identities from who you are because you
get to decide what your future looks like. And when
you feel stuck late at night because you're worried about
something coming out, or some issue that you've created for
(14:07):
yourself from the past, no better question to ask yourself
than so what? It doesn't matter if you can be
okay with it yourself, you can then allow other people
to move forward into your next chapter with you. And
if they're unwilling to do that, they have no place
in your life. Last is strategy number five. You have
to have a clear visual of your future. I think
(14:28):
that when you get a really clear picture of what
you want to do and what you want to accomplish
in life, you end up realizing that worrying over what
other people will think will never help you get to
where you're trying to go. In my experience, I found
that craving the attention of others will only set you
up for failure because you're making decisions off of what
they want or what you think they want. But really,
(14:50):
all that matters is what do you want and where
are you trying to go? People who thrive off of
positive attention, they tend to be impacted most by the
negative attention. You see, I try not to get too
high on either side. I'm not going to get super
excited about people loving me, but I'm also not going
to be upset when people are critical. Don't go too
(15:12):
far in either direction. Be confident in the way that
you show up. Be confident in the way that you communicate.
Be certain of your ideas and the exploration of your
ideas and how you're perceiving the world and how you're
perceiving business opportunities and people that you spend time with.
Be interested, be curious. But as you get more certainty
in where you're going, it doesn't really matter if people
(15:34):
are praising you or people are criticizing you because your
self-worth is driven off of your decisions and the way
that you see the world. So never hedge your self-worth
on if people like you or if they don't, because
it really can change day by day. We're seeing this
right now with Drake. Everybody hated Drake in early 2025.
(15:54):
There was pandemonium about how awful Drake was and the
lies and the criticism that was coming out from all
sorts of people who were his friends, who were in
the industry, his fans. And then all of a sudden,
six months later, he releases a new album and nobody
seems to remember all of the points inside the feud.
You see, I have a feeling that he doesn't take
(16:16):
it too seriously. When people love him or people hate him,
he just decides to make great music that people end
up enjoying, but But ultimately that he ends up enjoying.
So focus on your craft and who you are becoming
and let everything else entirely fade away. Don't let the
negative criticism get you rattled. There are highs and lows
of every situation, and if you just stay focused on
(16:39):
you and the future that you visualized, all the other
stuff is really just noise. If you liked this video
and want to take the next step to becoming the
most confident version of yourself.
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Welcome to business and the podcast for people making it
all happen. Running a successful business completely takes over your life,
but I'm a believer that there is still room for
some ands like health, wealth, beauty, and maybe even some fashion.
On this podcast, I'll share with you what's working for
scaling my nine figure business while keeping you up to
date on the latest trends, news and fun finds. This
(00:23):
is a place for business and let's dive in!
S2 (00:26):
Welcome back to business. And isn't it cool to think
about not caring what other people think about you? How
great would that be? You just wake up every day
doing exactly what you want to do when you want
to do it, because only you care about what you
think about your decisions. And you know, it's something I
don't talk about too often because it's not really popular
(00:46):
to talk about. But, you know, here we are in
the podcast and you'd get the little insight into my
brain on certain things like this. I find it really
fascinating myself to work as hard as I do, because
I actually don't have to do this. I'm actually sitting
here on a Saturday afternoon. It's 521. I had hair
and makeup come over to my house at 7 a.m..
(01:07):
I'll be up at six tomorrow morning to be at
work all day, and I will do that all throughout
the next handful of weeks. And that's how I've run
my life for many, many years now. And it's just
interesting to me because whenever I get overwhelmed or feel
like I freaking hate this, I literally remind myself that
I'm choosing to do this. And when you have a
certain level of financial success, it's interesting because you can
(01:29):
either choose to stop working altogether, at which point you
will lose purpose. And I just know from experience, life
will actually feel worse and bleaker and darker. Or you
can just go all in and what you actually believe,
you can create what your actual potential is. And I'm
at that stage of my career where I don't have
to work the way that I work, but I work
(01:50):
more than anybody who has to work because I actually
enjoy what I do. And it's so important for me
not to care what anybody else thinks of me, but
for me to care what I think of me. And
it matters to me how I show up. It matters
to me how I prepare for things or how intense
I am with situations, because it's a representation to me
of what is possible, and I get to either increase
(02:11):
my own confidence in myself or reduce my confidence in
myself every single day. And it's only to this place
because I don't actually care what others think. It is
not a game for me about other people. It is
only a game for me about what I think. So
here in this podcast, I'm going to go over the
five strategies that have helped me, who used to be
very worried about judgment and break through all those limitations,
(02:35):
to be in a position now where I care about
what I think, and you might end up working harder
than you think you need to, but I can promise
you that it ends up actually working out exactly the
way that you want it to. So with that, I
hope you enjoy. If you want to live a powerful
and fulfilled life, the first thing you need to do
is stop caring what other people think of you. And
here's the truth. When you focus on yourself, everything else
(02:55):
is just noise. I used to be so consumed with
what other people thought and what they said about me,
and it just kept me broke and stuck. But since
I stopped caring, I've become a successful business owner, living
my dream life. And I am the most confident that
I have ever been. So these are the five strategies
that will help you break free from judgment and criticism,
(03:16):
and give you the power to change your life. Let's
get started. First up is to use the criticism as fuel.
You see, for the last ten years, anytime someone has
said something negative about me, I just reframe it to
use as fuel for me to get up earlier, work
out harder, answer the emails, figure out how to take that,
(03:38):
and convert it into motivation to get me to do
things that I don't want to do. You see, I
weaponize the criticism. I make it work for my benefit.
So when you think about the criticism that you receive,
it might be a side comment from a friend who says, oh,
you know, I don't think you're going to be that successful.
Most businesses fail. You use that as fuel. Because, sure,
(03:59):
it might be true that most businesses do fail in
the first ten years, but not your business. And when
people say things to you that cause you to stop,
slow down, get frustrated. Doubt yourself. Convert it instantly. It's
like your hack. Instead of letting it introvert you, it
becomes the thing that you use to step up your game.
It's the thing that you use to work harder so
(04:20):
that you can prove that person wrong. You see, people
are motivated by all sorts of different things. Sometimes you're
motivated by the dream life. What it could be like
for you to hit your goals, and you live in
fairy tale land. That can be used as motivation for sure.
It's funny, I was just talking last night to a
girl on my team who read me some text messages
that an ex-employee of ours sent her, and he was
(04:41):
a complete asshole to her. They had a good working
relationship initially, but when he left, he sent her a
slew of text messages saying, you aren't like the old you.
You used to be a nice person. You're never going
to get to where you're trying to go. Nobody likes you.
And you started using all of these generalities because he
got let go, because he wasn't doing what he was
(05:02):
supposed to be doing, because he is going to not
have a great career in the future. He had to
take that and throw it all on her. And she
told me about this a handful of days after it happened.
I wish she would have told me the moment that
it happened, because I would have told her, do not
lose an ounce of sleep thinking about this guy. Do
not even for a moment question who you are and
(05:22):
what you're capable of because of this guy. Use this
to work harder, but don't allow it to sink in
and have you doubt yourself because of it. Just use
it to prove that person wrong, and be so confident
that you will prove that person wrong, because there is
no chance that they are going to be right. You're
not going to let them be right. You can play
this balance very easily. You don't succumb, you don't take
(05:44):
a step back, you take it and you just add
it as this additional thing that's helping you get to
where you're trying to go. There's nothing that has been
more helpful to me than being crystal clear on my mission,
my vision, and my core values. And I have a
framework that is super helpful in being able to create these.
So if you want it, go to my Instagram and
DM me the word vision and I'll send it your way.
(06:07):
My second strategy is that it is okay to care.
The fact is, no stranger trolling me or hater online
will ever be more disappointed in me than I could
be in me. I know that if I am my
own worst critic, the criticisms of others don't matter much.
But here's the thing I do care about a certain
(06:28):
subset of people, and what they think about me really
does matter, because I want to impress them. I want
them to be proud of me. It would be because
the person that they would be impressed by would have
to have accomplished things. They would have to be an
impressive person, not by some silly standard, but by a
standard that matters. If the person is impressive and they're impressed,
(06:49):
that means that I did something and I created something
that was worthwhile. It helped people, it made an impact.
And so people who have made an impact to me,
they do matter what they think about me. But people
who have never made an impact, who are just spectators online,
who are scared, trolls who think that it's just the
greatest gift to be able to anonymously hate on people.
(07:10):
I could give two shits what they think about me.
But it's not just the haters. Because most people, to
be honest with you, don't even know you. You haven't
made a big enough impact for anybody to even say
anything about you. So it's actually a gift when you
have haters or people who are saying negative things about you,
because that at least means that you've done something. I
think the hardest part is figuring out those people who
are not overly supportive. They're not necessarily haters. They just
(07:35):
aren't supporting you. They aren't commenting on your posts. They
aren't sharing your content like a stranger who might be
supporting your business or who is a new customer of yours.
And those are the relationships that are the most challenging,
because you have to stop caring what they think about you.
Your friends from high school or college, maybe the golf
club who are good with where they're at and aren't
(07:56):
pursuing a goal that gets them excited. It really shouldn't
matter what they think about you or how they don't
support you, because what you have to think with is
who is the person out there that needs me to
help them? Your friends from high school probably don't need
you to help them, but there is somebody out there
that you can provide value to, that you can contribute
positively to. But if you get stuck in the judgment
(08:18):
of your high school friends or your college friends or
your golf buddies, of course you're just going to succumb to, well,
maybe I don't really need to make that big of
an impact. I watch this especially with the guys that
I work around. Some other guys that they're friends with
will start making fun of them when they start to
post online, because they think that they're too good for them,
or they think that they're Mr. Hotshot because they're posting
(08:40):
about their workout routine. And it's really unfortunate for me
to watch because they might all be making good money.
They might be making a couple hundred grand a year,
fairly successful, but not satisfied. They're disappointed with where they're at.
They want to make $1 million a year or $2
million a year, but the people that they spend time
around are happy and content with where they're at. So
instead of being supportive, they make little comments that put
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the person down. And that suggests that whatever the goals
of that person are just aren't worthwhile to pursue. And
then the person becomes introverted. So those are the people
you actually have to worry about because most people aren't
going to be outright haters. They're going to subtly hate
on you. They're going to subtly not support you. And
when that happens, you convert their judgment into action and
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going after your goals relentlessly because you can recognize that
they aren't going after their goals. You're going after your goals,
and that's what's making them uncomfortable. What other people say
about you truly is just noise, and it is okay
to care about what certain people think. But remember to
care more about what you think about you. Next is
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number three. Recognize when it's time to cut people off.
When I first started my Instagram, I couldn't look at
the comments. I refused to look at anybody who was
watching my stories, any of my content. I didn't want
to know. I wouldn't even check to see if my
high school or college friends were paying attention to my posts,
because in my mind, I wasn't talking to them. I
was talking to somebody who I could actually help. And
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if I knew that they were watching and they weren't
commenting and they weren't sharing, that, I would feel introverted.
So instead I just shut it all off. Literally hitting
the mute button allowed me to focus on becoming the
person who I wanted to be, and communicating with the
people who I wanted to make an impact on. You see,
I wouldn't be able to grow a YouTube channel like
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this if I thought that I was talking to my
friends from the past, because my friends from the past
wouldn't have supported me talking about this. They'd be like, oh,
that's so silly, or you really think that you're all that? Well, yeah,
I guess I kind of do think that I'm all that.
I think that I work really hard in order to
create an impact and to help people and to solve
very specific problems, so that then I could be able
to share them with others. I could actually have the
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responsibility of being able to tell people, don't do this.
It's going to make your life harder. Do this so
that you can make more money. Focus on this in
your business so that you can actually scale. And I
do think highly enough of myself that I should set
that standard for my life, and then use that standard
to help other people get ahead faster and do it
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more significantly, and not have to take slow routes or
detours because they get distracted and they're listening to the
wrong people. But if you don't cut that off, you
risk giving up on the goal because of the infiltration
of their lack of support. Cutting people off will give
you a singular focus, and remember that other people's thoughts
and opinions are entirely unnecessary. When people in your life
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judge you for what you're doing and they say that,
it's cringey. Remember that you actually don't have to listen
to them. This next strategy is my favorite. It is
asking the simple question so what? You see, I can't
just assume that you have made perfect decisions up until
this point of your life, and maybe there are some
things in your life that you've done that you are
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embarrassed by, that you don't want people to find out about,
and that actually holds you back from being able to
reach for what you're trying to go. And whenever I
have these limiting thoughts where I've been a bad leader,
where I've made the wrong decision, where I've been embarrassed
by the way that I showed up, I remind myself,
so what? It doesn't matter that you made a mistake
a year ago or five years ago or yesterday. That
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has no bearing on what you are going to do
right now. If you can give yourself grace and you
can accept yourself for where you're at right now, with
every single decision that you've made up until this point,
you will have the strength to easily cut people out
who don't allow you to shift and pivot into the
person that you want to become. But oftentimes, it actually
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does start with you being okay with yourself, with you
coming to terms with the bad decisions or the bad
choices that you've made. And the way that you do
that is by simply asking yourself this question, so what?
Why does it matter and who does it matter to?
And if you've done something that is just so terrible,
go to the person that you've done this to and apologize.
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Make it right so that you can move into this
next area of your life, this next phase of your life,
and feel strong in what you're doing. And there's no
better example of this than Donald Trump. Could you imagine
if Donald Trump, at some point in his life, would
have said, well, I've made too many bad mistakes, done
too many bad deals, had too many incriminating conversations for
me to be able to become the president of the
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United States. I couldn't possibly do that. Well, he did
all of those things and maybe had some dicey behavior
in his past and still became the president of the
United States of America, despite the fact that he had
many decades of life and very colorful life that he lived.
So when I think about the fact that Donald Trump
became president, whether you voted for him or not, it's
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an interesting case study to just remember, so what, you
can have screwed people over, have a complete career change entirely.
Strip your old identities from who you are because you
get to decide what your future looks like. And when
you feel stuck late at night because you're worried about
something coming out, or some issue that you've created for
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yourself from the past, no better question to ask yourself
than so what? It doesn't matter if you can be
okay with it yourself, you can then allow other people
to move forward into your next chapter with you. And
if they're unwilling to do that, they have no place
in your life. Last is strategy number five. You have
to have a clear visual of your future. I think
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that when you get a really clear picture of what
you want to do and what you want to accomplish
in life, you end up realizing that worrying over what
other people will think will never help you get to
where you're trying to go. In my experience, I found
that craving the attention of others will only set you
up for failure because you're making decisions off of what
they want or what you think they want. But really,
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all that matters is what do you want and where
are you trying to go? People who thrive off of
positive attention, they tend to be impacted most by the
negative attention. You see, I try not to get too
high on either side. I'm not going to get super
excited about people loving me, but I'm also not going
to be upset when people are critical. Don't go too
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far in either direction. Be confident in the way that
you show up. Be confident in the way that you communicate.
Be certain of your ideas and the exploration of your
ideas and how you're perceiving the world and how you're
perceiving business opportunities and people that you spend time with.
Be interested, be curious. But as you get more certainty
in where you're going, it doesn't really matter if people
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are praising you or people are criticizing you because your
self-worth is driven off of your decisions and the way
that you see the world. So never hedge your self-worth
on if people like you or if they don't, because
it really can change day by day. We're seeing this
right now with Drake. Everybody hated Drake in early 2025.
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There was pandemonium about how awful Drake was and the
lies and the criticism that was coming out from all
sorts of people who were his friends, who were in
the industry, his fans. And then all of a sudden,
six months later, he releases a new album and nobody
seems to remember all of the points inside the feud.
You see, I have a feeling that he doesn't take
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it too seriously. When people love him or people hate him,
he just decides to make great music that people end
up enjoying, but But ultimately that he ends up enjoying.
So focus on your craft and who you are becoming
and let everything else entirely fade away. Don't let the
negative criticism get you rattled. There are highs and lows
of every situation, and if you just stay focused on
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you and the future that you visualized, all the other
stuff is really just noise. If you liked this video
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