Cass is joined by Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa, a neuroscientist, best-selling author and host of the incredibly popular "Do You F*cking Mind?" podcast.
The conversation explores how Alexis discovered her love for cognitive neuroscience and how she uses her knowledge to optimise her own health, happiness and success. She urges listeners to conduct an inventory of what they identify with to foster flexibility and resilience in their lives. She argues that rigid identities can limit personal growth. Through her tough-love approach, Alexis encourages individuals to embrace their evolving selves and to question the labels they assign to their personas.
She discusses the concept of self-critique versus self-criticism, advocating for a more constructive approach to personal evaluation. This shift allows you to recognise self-limiting behaviours without engaging in harmful negative self-talk.
Cass & Alexis discuss the importance of agency in mental health, encouraging listeners to take control of their thoughts and actions, thereby transforming their experiences of discomfort into opportunities for growth.
Alexis offers practical advice on setting realistic goals, stressing that everyone has the capacity to change and grow, regardless of their starting point, and that recognising one’s ability to influence their own thoughts and behaviours is crucial for fostering a positive relationship with yourself.
This episode is a treasure trove of insights for anyone looking to understand the dynamics of their mind better and to cultivate a happier, more fulfilling life.
Takeaways:
- Alexis discusses how her journey from aspiring actress to neuroscientist shaped her perspective on personal growth.
- The importance of setting realistic goals and starting small to build self-trust.
- Identifying with too many labels can limit personal growth; flexibility in identity is crucial.
- Self-critique should focus on behaviours rather than personal attacks to foster improvement.
- A healthy relationship with yourself is foundational to engaging in fulfilling romantic relationships.
- Embracing discomfort is necessary for growth; it’s about choosing the right kind of discomfort.
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