The Love Talk | Love Should Not Feel Bad

During Love Talk, Erica explores why love shouldn’t feel bad, urging listeners to reject toxic dynamics and embrace relationships founded on mutual respect and grace. 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Let's talk about love for God, so love the world.
Love talk morning. Yes, it is time for the love
talk of the day. And today I want to talk
about what love looks like and what it doesn't look like.
You know, I have three kids, y'all know that. And
you can't love me and disrespect me at the same time.
You can't love me, tell me you love me and

(00:23):
then do contrary to what I told you to do,
not do any of the things that you're supposed to do,
and hug me, and everything is supposed to be okay
and all good. We know many parents know the journey
of parenthood, and you know the battle between doing the
right thing and the wrong thing. It's real. But can
you imagine loving someone Being in a relationship with someone
who says that they love you but constantly disrespects you.

(00:46):
Was constantly kind of cynical, proud, constantly makes you the
butt of the joke. That ain't love. And it's something
else going on, and you really need to pay attention.
It is not to be ignored because that stuff doesn't
go away. It grows. I've seen relationships because toxic because
there is one who's always poking fun, whether it is
you know you're in a group of people that you
know a group of friends, but you're always kind of

(01:07):
making fun of the one you know what I mean?
That ain't if you and only want laugh and that's
bully and it's not it's not it's not funny. And
so you have to be careful when you want someone
to change, but you don't never tell them you need
them to change. They're not going to. You must open
your mouth and deal with it and talk about it
out loud, because sometimes what is your normal in one season,

(01:30):
say in the early stages of your relationship, may change
as you grow and evolve, just as a human being,
learning more about yourself, more about God, more about how
God loves you and how God sees you. And you
do not deserve for someone to talk and diminish and
demean you and dishonor you constantly. That doesn't that's not
what love looks like. They're always forgetting anything special about you.
It's always two, three, four, five days later because they forgot.

(01:53):
That means something else is more important. And I know
that may be hard to hear, but I want you
to experience love for real. So don't allow people to
disrespect dishonored, demean you. And I'm not talking about the
small petty things you know you don't like what I like.
I mean intentionally doing things that they know don't feel
good to your heart. It's not your way of communicating.

(02:15):
Whether that is someone that is constantly hollering at you,
and it puts you in a place where you can't respond,
and it automatically makes you silent. Speak up in your
life so you can experience love that is real. And yes,
sometimes love struggles a little bit. Sometimes there is a dance,
if you will, with Marriager back and forth, a learning
of one another in this new stage and phase of

(02:37):
your life, if there's new age in your life. But
I believe that you deserve to speak up, and you
deserve to feel good about the people that say they
love you. It should feel like love and not torture
and not punishment, you know, and not anger, and not
dishonor and not disrespect. All right, stand up for yourself,
stand up for what you deserve, stand up for what
you believe. All right. I love you and I mean it.
That is the love talk of the day.