In this episode of Getting Open, Andrea Miller speaks with Harvard conflict resolution expert Bob Bordone and neurologist Dr. Joel Salinas about how to navigate conflict in a healthier way. They introduce their three-step framework—Name, Explore, Commit—from their new book, 'Conflict Resilience: Negotiating Disagreement Without Giving Up or Giving In.' They discuss why avoiding conflict leads to deeper problems, how to stay present in tough conversations, and why embracing discomfort can strengthen relationships and personal growth.
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Chapters:
00:00 – Introduction
03:03 – New book: 'Conflict Resilience: Negotiating Disagreement Without Giving Up or Giving In'
07:11 – The importance of sitting with conflict
08:46 – The Five F’s: Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, and Fester – our default conflict responses
14:02 – How avoiding conflict harms relationships and society as a whole
20:31 – The power of taking a pause
23:37 – The three-step conflict resilience framework: Name, Explore, Commit
35:22 – Deep listening: the key to understanding others in conflict
42:09 – How to handle defensive people and navigate difficult conversations
50:28 – The "Commit" step: when to stay or walk away from a conflict
56:58 – How embracing discomfort can lead to personal growth
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