December 1, 2024 • 39 mins
Wrapping up season 2 of GIRLFRIEND FOR HIRE with another good Q&A sesh. Carly is going to answer a stack of burning sex worker questions, which were sent in by you!
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Appoche production.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Hey guys, did you want to come and see me live?
Without spending eight hundred dollars for the hour? You can
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(00:31):
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in my Box. Look, we're not getting into my actual box,
but we will be unpacking my dms in a hilarious
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Shad along with me for the ride.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Yeah. It's exciting. So link you'll be in the show
notes or they can just hit you up on your
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How I Almost Killed a Guy that'll be on at
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the tickets.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Am I going to be Okay? I'm going to need
like eighty tequila shots before I do it, But anyway,
see you there girlfriend Fire with Garlie Electric. This is
not a how to guide for people wanting to get
into the industry. I don't want people to think that
they're going to necessarily learn something here. It's more just
(01:27):
a fun and interesting take on the industry, but also
just coming from my point of view. I'm sitting down
with my producer getting down to the nitty gritty of
the sex worker industry. People put stuff in my box
all the time, but obviously I'm talking about DMS. Welcome
(01:52):
back to Girlfriend for Hire. This is the end of
season two. Very sad. I'm sad about it? Are you sad? Shad?
Speaker 1 (02:00):
I'm devastating, of course you are.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Okay, So I have to let you know what I
found during the week. This is really important information for
everybody playing at home. I know it is for me.
I found out about the belly button thing. Why Indian
guys love to have a little lick of my belly button. Okay.
I finally had a client last week who was so
(02:24):
excited to tell me pretty much as soon as he arrived.
He's like, Carly, I've been listening to all of your
podcasts and I can tell you about the belly button.
And I was so excited. I've never been so excited
to hear this kind of information before. So he said
that because in their culture. You know, women wear long skirts,
(02:47):
they generally are quite covered. He said. However, the only
part of them that is really shown when they're wearing
a sari, which of course is a two piece outfit,
is just the belly button being shown. Because of that,
it's like this really beautiful thing that men get to
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look at. They're able to see it, they're able to
look at it, and it's something that is in their minds.
They don't see much else of you know, their skin,
everybody has their everybody has, you know, just like their
thongs on and their sandals on. Everybody's feet are kind
of the same. But belly buttons, oh oh, And so
(03:31):
that's that's it. He said that it's because of Sarre's
and because also because I think what I've mentioned before
is there's no kissing or anything on any of their
screens like Bollywood, no displays of affection whatsoever. And so
you know, if you're a teen boy from India, you're
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looking at those belly buttons. So yeah, there we go.
Look it makes sense. Like I don't know how I
didn't work it out myself. Somebody did mention it to
me that it was kind of like guy licking a
belly button is the equivalent to a white Aussie guy
licking feet.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Did he go out your belly button after that?
Speaker 2 (04:11):
No he didn't. He avoided it at all costs.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
No, No, I probably feels self conscious.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
I know there's probably Look, it probably won't happen very
much now, I probably look. I'm fine with that. Ah
just makes it makes my body jolt. I can't, I
can't get into it. So yeah, I found that I
couldn't wait to come and record this podcast to tell
everyone because my dms are full of people saying that
(04:37):
they've either experienced it or they're Indian themselves and they
have absolutely no idea about it and they don't understand it.
But yeah, it's just.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
A sexualized thing in Indian cultures. They're right.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Yep, the white man's feet closed. I've closed it, done,
done and dusted. So, because it is the last episode
of girl Friend for Hire, we're going to do Q
and A just like what we did last time. It
is a very interesting place when people send me the
(05:11):
inner workings of their brain, and we are going to
go through some of them today and I'll answer them
to the best of my ability.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
So let's see what people have got to ask. Let's
start it off. What would be your favorite way to
be stimulated during intimacy? Belly button?
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Look, it's quite an easy one. It's just touch. Like
I'm a big sensory person. I think it just maybe
comes with being neurodivergent. We're just very sensory types. Hate
my sand, love my intimacy and touch. Okay, so yeah,
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for me, it's just touch. So if somebody and there's
a lot of intimacy that gets lost with men, I
think they are maybe scared to do a lot of touching.
They kind of just want to go straight for the wambam,
thank you evon, get that kind of done and dust it.
But touch when somebody is running their hands just lightly
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up and down my body or you know, up and
down my thighs or even just like across my chest
or my arms. Yeah, it's such a simple, easy thing
to do, Like everyone can do it, and it's just
such a nice relaxing but also really gets me in
the mood. I know, that's not that's probably not a
(06:33):
very exciting answer. That's true, it is it is true.
It is true.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
What about the penetry or by rubbing like which which
would be, and is that true.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
I look, there are times where people just jump straight
to full penetration and you kind of miss out on
the build up of all of the feelings and the sensations.
And often if somebody just goes straight to sex and
is just kind of like pumping away, I aren't there
yet with all of those really nice feelings, So it
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can be really hard for me to mentally get into it,
physically get into it. I probably won't orgasm, And it's
just you don't want that. You don't want that, So yeah,
start off nice and slow. Let's touching, let's rubbing all
the good stuff. You don't want to just skip to
the end. So many people do.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
All right? Next question, what did this? This is a
cool question. What did you want to do as a
job when you were in high school?
Speaker 2 (07:36):
I had absolutely no idea what I wanted to do
when I was in high school. I knew that I
was really creative, and I knew that I had an
I for design. I think in grade four I won
Best Headings. I want a certificate that said best Headings,
because you would have to write a full page of
text and I would spend the whole time just doing
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bubble writing and making a really creative heading and not
do not do the writing anyway. I was just creative
from get go. I also, you know, at school, had
multiple you know, I would sell things from my locker.
I would draw people's names in like graffiti style writing
and like sell it for twenty cents and they would
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stick that on their locker. And I just always was
selling stuff from my from my locker, like pens and
like key rings and stickers, and people would just come
to my locker at lunchtime and I'd stand there and
just be selling from my locker.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
It's amazing, you didn't become a drug dealer.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Oh hey, there's still time, shad still time in this economy.
Who knows. So I just knew that I was creative,
and I left school really early. So I actually left
school in year nine and kind of was like I'm
done for Like I'll work in retail for the rest
(08:56):
of my life and probably not get anywhere. But uh yeah,
just harnessed my creativity and got into design. Yeah that's
I did that for forever until I was like fuck
this and decided to sell my body the end come.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
Away for the book. It'll have amazing headings.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Oh, it would be so pretty. I judge books by covers.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Right, Yeah. How much exploitation takes place in the industry
and where do you think it is most likely to occur?
Speaker 2 (09:31):
It's ignorant to say that, you know, because of my experience.
Everything in this industry is squeaky clean and fantastic, and
you know there's nobody being exploited. There are in Australia,
for sure. I read about it. I don't know about it.
I only know what everybody how everybody else knows, and
that's just from in the news. You know, you hear
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if brothel's being raided or massage parlors are a big one,
always being raided, and they'll have a lot of women
in there who no longer have their passports on the
who are being held there. They you know, came over
thinking that they were going to study, only to find
themselves living with you know, fifteen other women in a
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one bedroom place and being forced into sex work. That
does happen, and I'm very aware of that. So it's
definitely the minorities who get exploited in this industry. I
don't see any of it. I don't hear about it.
I don't meet people who are you know, I meet
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a lot of women in my industry who are doing
what I do, and everyone is here freely, very very
much their own decision to be in sex work. I
don't know anybody who has pimps. Is that even a
thing or that's just from Hollywood? I don't know anybody
with pimps or you know, it's yeah, so my experience
(10:57):
is very different. But you know, it's not to say
that it's not happening, but yeah, it definitely is.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Do you think that's because you work like for yourself,
Like you've never been in the broth, You've never worked
in a brothel before?
Speaker 2 (11:09):
No, No, never been in a brothel, don't really know
much about them.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
What's your view on brothels? Saying is you're fully independent?
A lot of people you know are fully independent. Like
just trying to link it to my world of stand
up comedy, there's like, like, I guess you can have
an agent and they take like a cut of what
you do and where you perform, and they're supposed to
help you do staff. I can't really see with how
many independent like sex workers there are, what's the point
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of these places? Ah?
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Yeah, I have nightmares about I have nightmares that I
am working out a brothel, and then I wake up
and like in a cold sweat, and I'm like, oh,
thank god. Women in brothels are making a fraction, like
I'm talking. You know, from what I know or have
been told, they're on something like eighty dollars an hour
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and I'm charging eight hundred dollars an hour. They're providing
this service is me. So women go to brothels thinking
that they will be safer, and thinking that they will.
You know, they've got steady income, they've got steady work,
they've got people there with them, they've got people looking
out for them. You know, all the clients have that
(12:24):
ed the security there. But the reality is that the
women who go and work at these places generally have
a very short lifespan there. They're made to feel like
they won't survive if they go out on their own,
that the big scary world out there of being an
independent escort is too bad and something like bad might
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happen to you. And you know, it's not guaranteed work.
But everybody that I know who leaves a brothel does
not look back, does not not look back, and not
go back there. I know that I'm talking from a
place of my own privilege where I'm making really good
money and I, you know, don't have to go and
work in a brothel. But there are people, for whatever
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reason who do want to go and work in brothels,
and eighty dollars an hour is more than what they
would earn, you know, being in a checkout chick or But.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
I imagine another side to it is, and this isn't
a question from an inbox, but does it ever get
lonely in a sense doing your job like you don't
you don't really have co workers and any that you
have to interact with you I guess would have to
reach out to them. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
So when I when I'm on tour and I arrive,
I actually just look through the websites and see who
else is on tour, see if anyone of my friends
are in the same city as me at the same time,
if I see that they are, because we're just all
ships in the night. And when I see somebody that
I know, you organize a hangout or dinner or breakfast
or something, and so you do have some form of
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like human contact that's not just somebody trying to have
sex with you. I did. I was getting really burnt
out back in the early days because I would only
see clients. I would not talk to anybody else. I
wouldn't see anyone else. I would get very just in
my head, very lonely. It can be a very isolating world.
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But now I found that, you know, I schedule, I
do so much social stuff when I'm on tour. I'm
barely ever at my hotel room and catching up with
friends constantly, and you know, it's yeah, it's it's great.
You've got to find that balance, otherwise it can get
quite dark.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
What's your favorite non work thing to do when you're
on tour.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Go to the casino, gamble, go to the cavs. I
hit up the caz everywhere I go, really everywhere. The
only place that I didn't go to was Canberra, the
casino and Canberra and it was right across the road
and I was looking at it and I went to
a bar instead. Generally, going to a casino for me
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is my way. Okay, So once I finish my bookings
at night, so say I finish at maybe nine pm.
I'll get food and then have a drink or two.
Then I hit the Kaz and I play tables. Blackjack
is my thing. I play blackjack for hours and hours
and hours. Also craps. If I can find a craps table.
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What it does for me is it turns off my brain.
I'm not able to think about anything else because I
have to focus on the cards. I enjoy it because
I've become really good at it because I've done it
so much over the last few years of touring. So
I absolutely love it. And I'm at the point now
where I mean, I'm quite unassuming. I sit down at
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a table and I could hear all like the collective
sigh of you know, all the old Asian ladies just
being like, oh no, she's going to ruin the table
or she's going to do something wrong. And then you know,
I behave and I do my best, and they're always like, oh,
you play really well, thank you. Yes, I do this
a lot, but yeah, going to the casino turning my
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brain off. I love it. I love it.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Any international tours for twenty twenty five No.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
No, I can't bring myself to do it.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
And it's difficult, isn't that especially.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Friend of the podcast Bonnie Blue also getting booted from
Fiji oh I didn't say that. Yeah, she got booted
from Fiji. She got her visa, which she only had,
just a tourist visa, and she had that revoked. She
now will find it hard to fly to any country,
I believe, because they will assume that she's working and
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they won't let her in. Cool. So yeah, so she's
been kicked off Australia, kicked out of Fiji. For me,
that fear of turning up somewhere, obviously, I can't, you know,
if I'm going to a country, I can't be like, hey, guys,
I'm coming to work. I'm a sex worker. They're not
going to grant me a visa. I can't get a
working visa for that. So yeah, you have to just
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kind of turn up on just a tourist holiday visa
and work.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
And that's not worth the risk.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
It's not worth it. I just that doesn't sound great
for me. Somebody said, oh, somebody said recently, oh, yeah,
if you get held in whatever country, you get held
there for three days and then they just turn you
around and send you home. I don't want to be
held anywhere for three days. No, thank you. Look, it's
too much of a risk I make good money here.
I don't need to try and work anywhere else, So sorry,
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anybody everyone overseas, you'll have to come to a show.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Would you prefer to date a civilian or someone from
the industry.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
This is a really good question. They both come with
their pros and cons. I would say it potentially would
be easier to date somebody within the industry. However, I
could see it working, and I could see, you know,
if you're both really open minded, then the little things
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that potentially would you know, harm or annoy a normal
civilian kind of maybe wouldn't exist. But then you all
are also you have to be in a very open relationship,
I think to make that work. I haven't actually been
in a relationship with anybody inside of the industry. I
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am just I just tend to find open minded civilians.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
You've brought this up on the podcast before, and we
spoke about this. The one of the challenges when you're
dating someone working in the industry is that you make
a lot of money, and there has happened in the past,
and I feel like it's a classic sex worker story
where the guy all of a sudden stops working. You
become a sugar mamma. Then there's like a disdain of
like you giving them money, them getting annoyed about what
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you do for a living. Where's the right And then
this whole power dynamic shifts. Yes, now that's one issue
when you're dating. Wouldn't that also still present itself if
you were dating a male sex worker, because we know
that they earn far less yeah than you do.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
And then another thing that's just popped into my head
about an issue with you dating a sex worker. Intimacy
I feel would be a challenge because you come back
from work feeling drained. You've sometimes paid for a sex
worker for a partner in the past because you couldn't
get into the vibe of that they would also be
experiencing the same thing. Yeah, do you imagine that could
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be a challenge for you to lie down together and
watch a movie because you're like, fuck, I've been touched
all day, Like.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
Yeah, totally, And it's not like I'm not open to
the idea. I guess I haven't met anybody in the
industry that I have wanted to explore that with, But yeah,
I can see that being something that would but also
they would understand I don't know there's pros and cons.
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There's really pros and cons for both. There are quite
a few escorts in the industry who are in relationships
with other escorts or you know, content creators, and they're
all very happy. There are even quite a lot of
women in the industry who are gay for pay, and
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so they're in a relationship with another female escort and
so they both just see men separately, but they're in
a relationship together.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
That would be straight for pay, oh shit, And they
do the other way around, gay for love, straight for pay.
Speaker 2 (20:35):
Thank you now that? Oh my god. If you didn't
correct that, people would be yelling while listening to this podcast,
being like you idiot, you've got the wrong way around.
Not my first time.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
I got you back. That's why I am thank you
here if you need wing attack.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Straight for pay.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
Have you ever been in a relationship with a woman?
Speaker 2 (20:53):
No, I'm open to it if I met the right one,
but it's kind of I don't know. I don't know
how to pick up women. Do you know how to
pick up women? Have no idea. I don't even know
if I'm nice to somebody, if I'm nice to a female,
how do you make it sexy? I don't know, or
even if I was flirty like it's you know, I
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have got no idea. I think, yeah, terrifying. Look I
barely know how to pick up men. I haven't. I
don't pick up men.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Putting that out mad, that's pretty much anyway.
Speaker 2 (21:27):
They would need to come to me. So just saying women.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
Hi, my wife wants to try anal. Is there anything
that she needs to do to prep Yes.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
My gosh. When you're if you haven't done it before
and you're wanting to get into it, it's not one
of those things where you just decide one day that
you're going to put a penis in your butt. It
doesn't work like that. I mean, you could probably give
it a go, but it's you're probably not going to
have a great experience. So there is quite a bit
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of preparation that goes into it. Things like what she
has eaten. If she's eating curry all day, that day's
probably not the day to try anal for the first time.
Like you really, she just needs to be aware of
what she's eaten during the day. Also has to get
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comfortable with touching your butt and doing butt things, because
you know, you have to douche go do your adult
your local adult shop and buy a douche and get
yourself nice and cleaned out. Weird experience doing that in itself,
especially if you haven't stuck anything up your butt before,
and then you're putting a lot of water up there
(22:43):
to try and you know, empty it out like this. Well,
I love that we have these conversations. Okay, I'm just
training the masses. Look, if that's all kind of too scary,
you can just work your way into having anal without
doing those things and just making sure that you've been
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to the toilet sometime during the day and you know,
no curries or anything like that, and just taking it
really slow. I suggest there are positions, like certain positions
that a female can do that make it so she's
more in control of what's happening. You just have to
google it Beginner's Guide, They're everywhere. I've definitely read a few,
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and so there are definitely positions that a female can
do which puts her more in control so she can
ease herself onto the dick rather than her not having
the control. Sometimes not having control can make you a
lot more tense and a lot more harder for you
to actually you know, do it and enjoy it. The
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best bit of advice that I have been given. And
I can't remember who told me this. They said I
think that I had said to them, I want to
do anal but every time they do it, it hurts,
and I'm trying to move past the hurt factor to
try and enjoy it, but it just keeps on hurting,
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Like how how do I loosen myself up?
Speaker 1 (24:10):
Like?
Speaker 2 (24:10):
How do I relax enough to be able to enjoy it?
So two different things that I got told. The first
one was practice with a butt plug. So I bought
the smallest butt plug that you can get on the market,
and it was we're talking like, we're talking like, I
don't know, it's.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
Probably it's more about the width than it's.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
It's about it's yeah, it's about the widths, so you know,
it's probably, yeah, it's probably gonna be like what an inch. Essentially,
what the butt plug is doing is it's getting you
used to having something there, having something sitting there, and
also getting it in and so it's a lot easier.
I find it easier myself doing it rather than having
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somebody there, you know, if you're with your partner or whatever,
and you're you know, getting tense and they're trying to
put their dick in and it's not working. You can
practice by fully relaxing yourself, breathing out and putting the
butt plug in and just getting used to that. You
can work your way up in butt plug sizes. You
can buy kits that are beginner's butt plug kits, and
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so they'll have varying sizes from small and they work
their way up bigger. So you train your butt and
you train your brain into putting it in. The other
bit of advice that I got told was when the
dick is going in, you breathe and slightly push out
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like you're doing a pooh.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
That would be concerning in some regards as well. Slightly
push out, not full push.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
No, well you don't, yeah, look that could be trouble,
but oh no, we don't want any of that. But
it's kind of I find, you know, that relaxing sensation
of when you sit down on the toilet, it's the
same kind of like it's the same. So it dramatically
changed for me once I fully relaxed.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
Thing.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
Yes, the yes butt plug kids, kids, boy do I
I've got a few of those floating around at home. U. So, yeah,
pushing out fully, relaxing, pushing slightly out with the anus
for the dick to go in. Look, there are some
dicks that I look at and I'm like, that would
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never go in my butt, don't care what you say,
don't know that would never ever ever. Look, I'm a
small dick in.
Speaker 1 (26:35):
But do you have to say that when you do
like a porn star booking and.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
Never, I've never I For me, I'm too much of
a rookie and it's a very intimate thing. The chance
of them potentially hurting me or me being hurt would
wipe out potentially the rest of my income for a tour. Yeah,
I can't.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
Also one thing to add here, fella, your wife wants
to trying or is there anything that she needs to
do to prep? How about you do some prep to bro.
You've got some responsibility in this kind of interaction. Take
it easy, go slow, ease into it. Yes, over a
few sessions lead up to ramp up.
Speaker 2 (27:15):
Situation massively, massively. You can't. You know, it's education on both.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
It's something it's not something you accidentally do, although a
little bit sometimes, but like you know.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
Yeah, we're in Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
I don't think you'd mash these two worlds. But I'll
ask on behalf of this person. I've seen you at
the races plenty of times. Would you ever offer going
to a meal and talking horses with a follower?
Speaker 2 (27:40):
Is it paid or is it unpaid?
Speaker 1 (27:43):
I'd imagine it would be paid.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Hopefully it would be paid, because I wouldn't do it unpaid,
no stranger danger.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
Well, of course, would that be a packaging because I
know that you get people take you to the like
you go onto the races with clients. Do you ever
go when your horses are.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
Not when my horses are on, because that's my time
to shine. Yeah, but I do go to I do
have social dates with clients. We'll go to the local
pub wherever I am, and we will sit in the
sports bar and we put bets on and we yell
at the horses, and we drink and we eat. I
do that quite a bit, and I love it. I
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love it. That's my time to shine. I love talking horses,
I love talking punting.
Speaker 1 (28:25):
And yeah, do you do race days? You go to
race days?
Speaker 2 (28:27):
Yeah? I do race days.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
Have you ever had to pretend to be this is
like kind of linked, But have you ever had to
pretend to be someone's partner at and of like you
know how like there's that classic movie story, so they
brought the escort to the wedding. Yeah, this is my partner, Carli.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
I've never. I've never, and I want to want to
want to do it. I want to, But I find
that my as I become more well known, people are
wanting to take me out less in public. Oh really
yeah yes, yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
But surely events though, would be like an exciting one
to I guess you still got to admit that you're
participating in. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
See, when you're just incognito, anyone could book me and
take me to any event, a wedding, I could do anything,
Whereas now I go places and people know who I am,
So you know, it's I think that people don't want
to look like they've paid for me or paid for
me to be there. So yeah, those things are happening least,
(29:33):
which is really sad because I love it.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
Sticking to the horses, this question is very simply, how
are your horses going?
Speaker 2 (29:40):
They're great. Look by the time this airs of I
own a murk has a race tomorrow at Kembla Grange.
But by the time that this is, he would have
already raced. So hopefully it's a three hundred k rais.
Hopefully I'm in the Bahamas.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
A three hundred k rais.
Speaker 2 (29:57):
Yeah, it's a three hundred k race.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
I think three hundred k's yeah, no, I mean three thous.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
No no, no, no, no, no, it's not running that far.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
It's a long way.
Speaker 2 (30:09):
Yeah, that is very.
Speaker 1 (30:10):
Far, running across the desert from the alley.
Speaker 2 (30:14):
I think they do so well. Yeah, So it's a
three hundred thousand dollars race, so fingers crossed.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
Do you want any of these horses out right?
Speaker 2 (30:22):
Hell? No, that's one of the silliest things that you
can do. Yeah, right, fair enough for a three hundred
k race. I think that I would end up winning.
Oh got my math. It was not good, but I'd
probably win maybe ten k or a bit over ten k.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
Right, yeah, owner, I'll add it to my black book. Yes,
two questions, I'll link them together. What is your face
care routine and what is your workout routine? Like that exists?
Speaker 2 (30:55):
Okay, I'm sex fit.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
Yes, and that means a lot.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
Yeah, I'm sex fit. That is my CARDI that is
my fitness regime. And yeah, that is all I do. Look,
every second day, I keep on saying out loud to
everybody around me, I'm going to do pilates, and I
think everybody's sick of me saying it. I will get
there eventually, but no, I'm so sex fit. And I
(31:24):
find that. Back when I started touring full time, which
was like what two years ago, Am I coming into
my third year? Oh my god, it's a blur. Anyway
I was, I did not have the stamina or the
fitness level that I have with sex now. And even
sometimes when I can feel myself getting exhausted, I start
(31:47):
thinking that this is my gym workout and I need
to keep going and push through it. So instead of
me being like I'm tired, you get on top. Sometimes
I oh, this is okay, this is a lot of information.
Sometimes I change positions into a hard position just so
I can like work out my butt and my legs,
(32:10):
and yeah, I just see it as my my fitness I.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Can't wait for that fitness video to come out on
YouTube and one and okay, lads, now we're going to
start working the glutes and there's just a guy underneath
to me, like I'm gonna move on to a new machine.
Now this one's done.
Speaker 2 (32:27):
Yeah, my face, I don't know. I'm just blessed with
a cute face. And so I don't actually do very much.
I don't put soap on it. I don't just water.
That's me. Dormo pen needles, just all of the all
of the Dermo pen needles in my face. Amazing do
(32:48):
that every so often?
Speaker 1 (32:50):
Have you ever seen clients after prostate surgery with ED
and how did it go?
Speaker 2 (32:57):
I mean, I see a lot of ED guys, so
ED for people playing at home erectile dysfunction. I see
a lot of ED guys. I think I am getting
them because of this podcast. They listen to me speak
and they listen to how I you know, I'm caring
(33:18):
and real and very human, and so then they kind
of they get the balls to book me. And so
I do see a lot of ED guys. And I'm
not sure about like, I don't even know about. So
you can have an operation.
Speaker 1 (33:34):
If you say cancer, so you get it removed, you
generally cannot get it anymore.
Speaker 2 (33:41):
Yeah, okay, well, I mean to the person asking this question,
of course, obviously that would be such a mental thing
for him. Obviously something quite traumatic that he's been through
and then having to live with the after effects of
no longer having an erection. It is quite devastating for
guys not being able to, especially if they were able to.
(34:04):
And then you know, there's been a guy that I
see who only he's I'm going to say fifty and
only a couple of years ago, became a paraplegic and
completely you know, he's penis no longer works. It can
be very devastating, like devastating to lose it. But there
(34:26):
is a lot of work that I do around intimacy
and you know, kind of finding the new normal, and
it is it's about finding the new normal. Okay, well
you're you don't get hard anymore, or you can't ejaculate anymore. Cool.
It doesn't mean that you now just go without intimacy,
doesn't mean that you can't have a partner or experience
(34:47):
you know, sensation or amazing feelings or anything like that.
So it's just retraining them in. Okay, this is now
your new normal. This is now what you focus on.
And I do a lot of teaching around that.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
Yeah, to wrap up the pod, because you have a
lot of questions in your inbox about when are you
going to be in certain places? So I'm going to
rattle off the places, yes, and you can answer if
you have a when. Okay, okay, So first off, when
are you coming back to Canberra?
Speaker 2 (35:20):
Oh? Canberra? It's such a tricky one. Canberra is a
bit got.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
To wait until the politicians are sitting. Mate. When the
politicians are sitting, that's when she'll be there.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
So when the pollies are back, I will come. That's
not going to be until next year, okay, so yeap,
I will definitely be there.
Speaker 1 (35:42):
All right, look at parliamentary sitting times and that will
be around about timber. She will be in Canberra. Do
you visit country New South Wales towns or you're just
a city girl?
Speaker 2 (35:51):
I am a city gal and I have tried doing
the more regional towns but unfortunately there just isn't the
population or the money there.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
What about a Newcastle like that region?
Speaker 2 (36:05):
I try. I have been to Newie and I love
going to Newey because I love doing the drive from
Newie back to Sydney. Love it best through the Blue mountains.
Oh so good. Again, I only get one or two
gentlemen and it doesn't kind of like, I have to
weigh up my expenses and if I'm not making good
(36:25):
money there, well then I just don't go. And it's
the same for any of the smaller towns or you know,
people always are like, come to Port Macquarie, come to
Coffs Harbor again. Yeah, there's just not the enough people there.
You know. I go to Sydney and my phone is
off the hook and I'm you know, really booked. Same
with Melbourne likes I don't need to travel anywhere else.
Speaker 1 (36:49):
Yeah, fair enough, Perth, When are you in Perth next?
Speaker 2 (36:53):
Perth is a funny one. People from that side of
the country are just they like to talk the talk,
but then don't end up walking the walk. I have
planned maybe five different tours to Perth over the last
two years. I've been twice. All the rest that I've
(37:14):
had to cancel because I have everyone in my DMS
yelling at me to come. And so once I get
quite a few people saying come, come, come, I'm like, okay,
I'm going to go there. I'll put up dates. Crickets, crickets.
It's like everybody in wa has moved out and it's silent.
Speaker 1 (37:32):
Well, if you wanted to go to Perth and I
have to pay you to positives.
Speaker 2 (37:34):
Well, I have put up new Perth dates. Oh, I
am going the twenty second of January for a few days.
I have already paid for my accommodation, so I am
definitely going.
Speaker 1 (37:46):
It's around the time of the Perth Fringe. Ooh, Fringe
Festival is on. Fun fun, catch some shows away there, mate,
love that we got Adelaide. When you off to Adelaide,
that's the.
Speaker 2 (37:56):
Last one, so Adelaide. I'm therefore, I gotta love going
to Adelaide. Adelaide are my homies. I have met so
many cool people there. I've made friends like I have
like a group of friends there that I visit every
time I go. I love people from Adelaide. I think
maybe they like me. I'm quite popular there just you know,
(38:18):
and I think it's because maybe I am a little
bit kooky as well, because everybody from there is a
little bit a little bit kookie. So I'm there first
week of January, from the second of January until the
fourth I'm already half booked, so yes, and maybe you'll
see me there for you know, in the future.
Speaker 1 (38:36):
For what d I'd be bringing that out. Jesse yet he.
Speaker 2 (38:42):
No cut that up cut. My Instagram is at Carli Electric.
Send me a DM. I love having a chat or
just laughing at what you've sent me. So yeah. You
can of course also find me on Twitter.
Speaker 1 (38:56):
Or x or blue sky Now or blue.
Speaker 2 (38:58):
Sky Now So Carlie underscore.
Speaker 1 (39:00):
Electric those dms too. I'd love to get Luke
Appoche production.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Hey guys, did you want to come and see me live?
Without spending eight hundred dollars for the hour? You can
come and see my live show at the Adelaide Fringe Festival. Whoa,
I feel like it needs a round of applause. I
am doing six shows from the twenty fifth of February
(00:31):
until the second of March. Holy Molly, this is going
to be a wild ride. It is called Culli Electric
in my Box. Look, we're not getting into my actual box,
but we will be unpacking my dms in a hilarious
live show and I'm going to be dragging my producer
Shad along with me for the ride.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Yeah. It's exciting. So link you'll be in the show
notes or they can just hit you up on your
socials Kali, and if you want to see my show
How I Almost Killed a Guy that'll be on at
the Fringe Festival as well, just hit us up for
the tickets.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Am I going to be Okay? I'm going to need
like eighty tequila shots before I do it, But anyway,
see you there girlfriend Fire with Garlie Electric. This is
not a how to guide for people wanting to get
into the industry. I don't want people to think that
they're going to necessarily learn something here. It's more just
(01:27):
a fun and interesting take on the industry, but also
just coming from my point of view. I'm sitting down
with my producer getting down to the nitty gritty of
the sex worker industry. People put stuff in my box
all the time, but obviously I'm talking about DMS. Welcome
(01:52):
back to Girlfriend for Hire. This is the end of
season two. Very sad. I'm sad about it? Are you sad? Shad?
Speaker 1 (02:00):
I'm devastating, of course you are.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Okay, So I have to let you know what I
found during the week. This is really important information for
everybody playing at home. I know it is for me.
I found out about the belly button thing. Why Indian
guys love to have a little lick of my belly button. Okay.
I finally had a client last week who was so
(02:24):
excited to tell me pretty much as soon as he arrived.
He's like, Carly, I've been listening to all of your
podcasts and I can tell you about the belly button.
And I was so excited. I've never been so excited
to hear this kind of information before. So he said
that because in their culture. You know, women wear long skirts,
(02:47):
they generally are quite covered. He said. However, the only
part of them that is really shown when they're wearing
a sari, which of course is a two piece outfit,
is just the belly button being shown. Because of that,
it's like this really beautiful thing that men get to
(03:07):
look at. They're able to see it, they're able to
look at it, and it's something that is in their minds.
They don't see much else of you know, their skin,
everybody has their everybody has, you know, just like their
thongs on and their sandals on. Everybody's feet are kind
of the same. But belly buttons, oh oh, And so
(03:31):
that's that's it. He said that it's because of Sarre's
and because also because I think what I've mentioned before
is there's no kissing or anything on any of their
screens like Bollywood, no displays of affection whatsoever. And so
you know, if you're a teen boy from India, you're
(03:53):
looking at those belly buttons. So yeah, there we go.
Look it makes sense. Like I don't know how I
didn't work it out myself. Somebody did mention it to
me that it was kind of like guy licking a
belly button is the equivalent to a white Aussie guy
licking feet.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Did he go out your belly button after that?
Speaker 2 (04:11):
No he didn't. He avoided it at all costs.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
No, No, I probably feels self conscious.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
I know there's probably Look, it probably won't happen very
much now, I probably look. I'm fine with that. Ah
just makes it makes my body jolt. I can't, I
can't get into it. So yeah, I found that I
couldn't wait to come and record this podcast to tell
everyone because my dms are full of people saying that
(04:37):
they've either experienced it or they're Indian themselves and they
have absolutely no idea about it and they don't understand it.
But yeah, it's just.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
A sexualized thing in Indian cultures. They're right.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Yep, the white man's feet closed. I've closed it, done,
done and dusted. So, because it is the last episode
of girl Friend for Hire, we're going to do Q
and A just like what we did last time. It
is a very interesting place when people send me the
(05:11):
inner workings of their brain, and we are going to
go through some of them today and I'll answer them
to the best of my ability.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
So let's see what people have got to ask. Let's
start it off. What would be your favorite way to
be stimulated during intimacy? Belly button?
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Look, it's quite an easy one. It's just touch. Like
I'm a big sensory person. I think it just maybe
comes with being neurodivergent. We're just very sensory types. Hate
my sand, love my intimacy and touch. Okay, so yeah,
(05:52):
for me, it's just touch. So if somebody and there's
a lot of intimacy that gets lost with men, I
think they are maybe scared to do a lot of touching.
They kind of just want to go straight for the wambam,
thank you evon, get that kind of done and dust it.
But touch when somebody is running their hands just lightly
(06:13):
up and down my body or you know, up and
down my thighs or even just like across my chest
or my arms. Yeah, it's such a simple, easy thing
to do, Like everyone can do it, and it's just
such a nice relaxing but also really gets me in
the mood. I know, that's not that's probably not a
(06:33):
very exciting answer. That's true, it is it is true.
It is true.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
What about the penetry or by rubbing like which which
would be, and is that true.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
I look, there are times where people just jump straight
to full penetration and you kind of miss out on
the build up of all of the feelings and the sensations.
And often if somebody just goes straight to sex and
is just kind of like pumping away, I aren't there
yet with all of those really nice feelings, So it
(07:11):
can be really hard for me to mentally get into it,
physically get into it. I probably won't orgasm, And it's
just you don't want that. You don't want that, So yeah,
start off nice and slow. Let's touching, let's rubbing all
the good stuff. You don't want to just skip to
the end. So many people do.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
All right? Next question, what did this? This is a
cool question. What did you want to do as a
job when you were in high school?
Speaker 2 (07:36):
I had absolutely no idea what I wanted to do
when I was in high school. I knew that I
was really creative, and I knew that I had an
I for design. I think in grade four I won
Best Headings. I want a certificate that said best Headings,
because you would have to write a full page of
text and I would spend the whole time just doing
(07:58):
bubble writing and making a really creative heading and not
do not do the writing anyway. I was just creative
from get go. I also, you know, at school, had
multiple you know, I would sell things from my locker.
I would draw people's names in like graffiti style writing
and like sell it for twenty cents and they would
(08:19):
stick that on their locker. And I just always was
selling stuff from my from my locker, like pens and
like key rings and stickers, and people would just come
to my locker at lunchtime and I'd stand there and
just be selling from my locker.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
It's amazing, you didn't become a drug dealer.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Oh hey, there's still time, shad still time in this economy.
Who knows. So I just knew that I was creative,
and I left school really early. So I actually left
school in year nine and kind of was like I'm
done for Like I'll work in retail for the rest
(08:56):
of my life and probably not get anywhere. But uh yeah,
just harnessed my creativity and got into design. Yeah that's
I did that for forever until I was like fuck
this and decided to sell my body the end come.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
Away for the book. It'll have amazing headings.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Oh, it would be so pretty. I judge books by covers.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Right, Yeah. How much exploitation takes place in the industry
and where do you think it is most likely to occur?
Speaker 2 (09:31):
It's ignorant to say that, you know, because of my experience.
Everything in this industry is squeaky clean and fantastic, and
you know there's nobody being exploited. There are in Australia,
for sure. I read about it. I don't know about it.
I only know what everybody how everybody else knows, and
that's just from in the news. You know, you hear
(09:52):
if brothel's being raided or massage parlors are a big one,
always being raided, and they'll have a lot of women
in there who no longer have their passports on the
who are being held there. They you know, came over
thinking that they were going to study, only to find
themselves living with you know, fifteen other women in a
(10:15):
one bedroom place and being forced into sex work. That
does happen, and I'm very aware of that. So it's
definitely the minorities who get exploited in this industry. I
don't see any of it. I don't hear about it.
I don't meet people who are you know, I meet
(10:36):
a lot of women in my industry who are doing
what I do, and everyone is here freely, very very
much their own decision to be in sex work. I
don't know anybody who has pimps. Is that even a
thing or that's just from Hollywood? I don't know anybody
with pimps or you know, it's yeah, so my experience
(10:57):
is very different. But you know, it's not to say
that it's not happening, but yeah, it definitely is.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Do you think that's because you work like for yourself,
Like you've never been in the broth, You've never worked
in a brothel before?
Speaker 2 (11:09):
No, No, never been in a brothel, don't really know
much about them.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
What's your view on brothels? Saying is you're fully independent?
A lot of people you know are fully independent. Like
just trying to link it to my world of stand
up comedy, there's like, like, I guess you can have
an agent and they take like a cut of what
you do and where you perform, and they're supposed to
help you do staff. I can't really see with how
many independent like sex workers there are, what's the point
(11:36):
of these places? Ah?
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Yeah, I have nightmares about I have nightmares that I
am working out a brothel, and then I wake up
and like in a cold sweat, and I'm like, oh,
thank god. Women in brothels are making a fraction, like
I'm talking. You know, from what I know or have
been told, they're on something like eighty dollars an hour
(12:01):
and I'm charging eight hundred dollars an hour. They're providing
this service is me. So women go to brothels thinking
that they will be safer, and thinking that they will.
You know, they've got steady income, they've got steady work,
they've got people there with them, they've got people looking
out for them. You know, all the clients have that
(12:24):
ed the security there. But the reality is that the
women who go and work at these places generally have
a very short lifespan there. They're made to feel like
they won't survive if they go out on their own,
that the big scary world out there of being an
independent escort is too bad and something like bad might
(12:48):
happen to you. And you know, it's not guaranteed work.
But everybody that I know who leaves a brothel does
not look back, does not not look back, and not
go back there. I know that I'm talking from a
place of my own privilege where I'm making really good
money and I, you know, don't have to go and
work in a brothel. But there are people, for whatever
(13:11):
reason who do want to go and work in brothels,
and eighty dollars an hour is more than what they
would earn, you know, being in a checkout chick or But.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
I imagine another side to it is, and this isn't
a question from an inbox, but does it ever get
lonely in a sense doing your job like you don't
you don't really have co workers and any that you
have to interact with you I guess would have to
reach out to them. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
So when I when I'm on tour and I arrive,
I actually just look through the websites and see who
else is on tour, see if anyone of my friends
are in the same city as me at the same time,
if I see that they are, because we're just all
ships in the night. And when I see somebody that
I know, you organize a hangout or dinner or breakfast
or something, and so you do have some form of
(13:57):
like human contact that's not just somebody trying to have
sex with you. I did. I was getting really burnt
out back in the early days because I would only
see clients. I would not talk to anybody else. I
wouldn't see anyone else. I would get very just in
my head, very lonely. It can be a very isolating world.
(14:19):
But now I found that, you know, I schedule, I
do so much social stuff when I'm on tour. I'm
barely ever at my hotel room and catching up with
friends constantly, and you know, it's yeah, it's it's great.
You've got to find that balance, otherwise it can get
quite dark.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
What's your favorite non work thing to do when you're
on tour.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Go to the casino, gamble, go to the cavs. I
hit up the caz everywhere I go, really everywhere. The
only place that I didn't go to was Canberra, the
casino and Canberra and it was right across the road
and I was looking at it and I went to
a bar instead. Generally, going to a casino for me
(15:01):
is my way. Okay, So once I finish my bookings
at night, so say I finish at maybe nine pm.
I'll get food and then have a drink or two.
Then I hit the Kaz and I play tables. Blackjack
is my thing. I play blackjack for hours and hours
and hours. Also craps. If I can find a craps table.
(15:23):
What it does for me is it turns off my brain.
I'm not able to think about anything else because I
have to focus on the cards. I enjoy it because
I've become really good at it because I've done it
so much over the last few years of touring. So
I absolutely love it. And I'm at the point now
where I mean, I'm quite unassuming. I sit down at
(15:44):
a table and I could hear all like the collective
sigh of you know, all the old Asian ladies just
being like, oh no, she's going to ruin the table
or she's going to do something wrong. And then you know,
I behave and I do my best, and they're always like, oh,
you play really well, thank you. Yes, I do this
a lot, but yeah, going to the casino turning my
(16:06):
brain off. I love it. I love it.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Any international tours for twenty twenty five No.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
No, I can't bring myself to do it.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
And it's difficult, isn't that especially.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Friend of the podcast Bonnie Blue also getting booted from
Fiji oh I didn't say that. Yeah, she got booted
from Fiji. She got her visa, which she only had,
just a tourist visa, and she had that revoked. She
now will find it hard to fly to any country,
I believe, because they will assume that she's working and
(16:42):
they won't let her in. Cool. So yeah, so she's
been kicked off Australia, kicked out of Fiji. For me,
that fear of turning up somewhere, obviously, I can't, you know,
if I'm going to a country, I can't be like, hey, guys,
I'm coming to work. I'm a sex worker. They're not
going to grant me a visa. I can't get a
working visa for that. So yeah, you have to just
(17:05):
kind of turn up on just a tourist holiday visa
and work.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
And that's not worth the risk.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
It's not worth it. I just that doesn't sound great
for me. Somebody said, oh, somebody said recently, oh, yeah,
if you get held in whatever country, you get held
there for three days and then they just turn you
around and send you home. I don't want to be
held anywhere for three days. No, thank you. Look, it's
too much of a risk I make good money here.
I don't need to try and work anywhere else, So sorry,
(17:35):
anybody everyone overseas, you'll have to come to a show.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Would you prefer to date a civilian or someone from
the industry.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
This is a really good question. They both come with
their pros and cons. I would say it potentially would
be easier to date somebody within the industry. However, I
could see it working, and I could see, you know,
if you're both really open minded, then the little things
(18:07):
that potentially would you know, harm or annoy a normal
civilian kind of maybe wouldn't exist. But then you all
are also you have to be in a very open relationship,
I think to make that work. I haven't actually been
in a relationship with anybody inside of the industry. I
(18:28):
am just I just tend to find open minded civilians.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
You've brought this up on the podcast before, and we
spoke about this. The one of the challenges when you're
dating someone working in the industry is that you make
a lot of money, and there has happened in the past,
and I feel like it's a classic sex worker story
where the guy all of a sudden stops working. You
become a sugar mamma. Then there's like a disdain of
like you giving them money, them getting annoyed about what
(18:54):
you do for a living. Where's the right And then
this whole power dynamic shifts. Yes, now that's one issue
when you're dating. Wouldn't that also still present itself if
you were dating a male sex worker, because we know
that they earn far less yeah than you do.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
And then another thing that's just popped into my head
about an issue with you dating a sex worker. Intimacy
I feel would be a challenge because you come back
from work feeling drained. You've sometimes paid for a sex
worker for a partner in the past because you couldn't
get into the vibe of that they would also be
experiencing the same thing. Yeah, do you imagine that could
(19:35):
be a challenge for you to lie down together and
watch a movie because you're like, fuck, I've been touched
all day, Like.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
Yeah, totally, And it's not like I'm not open to
the idea. I guess I haven't met anybody in the
industry that I have wanted to explore that with, But yeah,
I can see that being something that would but also
they would understand I don't know there's pros and cons.
(20:00):
There's really pros and cons for both. There are quite
a few escorts in the industry who are in relationships
with other escorts or you know, content creators, and they're
all very happy. There are even quite a lot of
women in the industry who are gay for pay, and
(20:21):
so they're in a relationship with another female escort and
so they both just see men separately, but they're in
a relationship together.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
That would be straight for pay, oh shit, And they
do the other way around, gay for love, straight for pay.
Speaker 2 (20:35):
Thank you now that? Oh my god. If you didn't
correct that, people would be yelling while listening to this podcast,
being like you idiot, you've got the wrong way around.
Not my first time.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
I got you back. That's why I am thank you
here if you need wing attack.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Straight for pay.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
Have you ever been in a relationship with a woman?
Speaker 2 (20:53):
No, I'm open to it if I met the right one,
but it's kind of I don't know. I don't know
how to pick up women. Do you know how to
pick up women? Have no idea. I don't even know
if I'm nice to somebody, if I'm nice to a female,
how do you make it sexy? I don't know, or
even if I was flirty like it's you know, I
(21:16):
have got no idea. I think, yeah, terrifying. Look I
barely know how to pick up men. I haven't. I
don't pick up men.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Putting that out mad, that's pretty much anyway.
Speaker 2 (21:27):
They would need to come to me. So just saying women.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
Hi, my wife wants to try anal. Is there anything
that she needs to do to prep Yes.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
My gosh. When you're if you haven't done it before
and you're wanting to get into it, it's not one
of those things where you just decide one day that
you're going to put a penis in your butt. It
doesn't work like that. I mean, you could probably give
it a go, but it's you're probably not going to
have a great experience. So there is quite a bit
(22:00):
of preparation that goes into it. Things like what she
has eaten. If she's eating curry all day, that day's
probably not the day to try anal for the first time.
Like you really, she just needs to be aware of
what she's eaten during the day. Also has to get
(22:23):
comfortable with touching your butt and doing butt things, because
you know, you have to douche go do your adult
your local adult shop and buy a douche and get
yourself nice and cleaned out. Weird experience doing that in itself,
especially if you haven't stuck anything up your butt before,
and then you're putting a lot of water up there
(22:43):
to try and you know, empty it out like this. Well,
I love that we have these conversations. Okay, I'm just
training the masses. Look, if that's all kind of too scary,
you can just work your way into having anal without
doing those things and just making sure that you've been
(23:04):
to the toilet sometime during the day and you know,
no curries or anything like that, and just taking it
really slow. I suggest there are positions, like certain positions
that a female can do that make it so she's
more in control of what's happening. You just have to
google it Beginner's Guide, They're everywhere. I've definitely read a few,
(23:26):
and so there are definitely positions that a female can
do which puts her more in control so she can
ease herself onto the dick rather than her not having
the control. Sometimes not having control can make you a
lot more tense and a lot more harder for you
to actually you know, do it and enjoy it. The
(23:47):
best bit of advice that I have been given. And
I can't remember who told me this. They said I
think that I had said to them, I want to
do anal but every time they do it, it hurts,
and I'm trying to move past the hurt factor to
try and enjoy it, but it just keeps on hurting,
(24:07):
Like how how do I loosen myself up?
Speaker 1 (24:10):
Like?
Speaker 2 (24:10):
How do I relax enough to be able to enjoy it?
So two different things that I got told. The first
one was practice with a butt plug. So I bought
the smallest butt plug that you can get on the market,
and it was we're talking like, we're talking like, I
don't know, it's.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
Probably it's more about the width than it's.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
It's about it's yeah, it's about the widths, so you know,
it's probably, yeah, it's probably gonna be like what an inch. Essentially,
what the butt plug is doing is it's getting you
used to having something there, having something sitting there, and
also getting it in and so it's a lot easier.
I find it easier myself doing it rather than having
(24:53):
somebody there, you know, if you're with your partner or whatever,
and you're you know, getting tense and they're trying to
put their dick in and it's not working. You can
practice by fully relaxing yourself, breathing out and putting the
butt plug in and just getting used to that. You
can work your way up in butt plug sizes. You
can buy kits that are beginner's butt plug kits, and
(25:15):
so they'll have varying sizes from small and they work
their way up bigger. So you train your butt and
you train your brain into putting it in. The other
bit of advice that I got told was when the
dick is going in, you breathe and slightly push out
(25:36):
like you're doing a pooh.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
That would be concerning in some regards as well. Slightly
push out, not full push.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
No, well you don't, yeah, look that could be trouble,
but oh no, we don't want any of that. But
it's kind of I find, you know, that relaxing sensation
of when you sit down on the toilet, it's the
same kind of like it's the same. So it dramatically
changed for me once I fully relaxed.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
Thing.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
Yes, the yes butt plug kids, kids, boy do I
I've got a few of those floating around at home. U. So, yeah,
pushing out fully, relaxing, pushing slightly out with the anus
for the dick to go in. Look, there are some
dicks that I look at and I'm like, that would
(26:27):
never go in my butt, don't care what you say,
don't know that would never ever ever. Look, I'm a
small dick in.
Speaker 1 (26:35):
But do you have to say that when you do
like a porn star booking and.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
Never, I've never I For me, I'm too much of
a rookie and it's a very intimate thing. The chance
of them potentially hurting me or me being hurt would
wipe out potentially the rest of my income for a tour. Yeah,
I can't.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
Also one thing to add here, fella, your wife wants
to trying or is there anything that she needs to
do to prep? How about you do some prep to bro.
You've got some responsibility in this kind of interaction. Take
it easy, go slow, ease into it. Yes, over a
few sessions lead up to ramp up.
Speaker 2 (27:15):
Situation massively, massively. You can't. You know, it's education on both.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
It's something it's not something you accidentally do, although a
little bit sometimes, but like you know.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
Yeah, we're in Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
I don't think you'd mash these two worlds. But I'll
ask on behalf of this person. I've seen you at
the races plenty of times. Would you ever offer going
to a meal and talking horses with a follower?
Speaker 2 (27:40):
Is it paid or is it unpaid?
Speaker 1 (27:43):
I'd imagine it would be paid.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Hopefully it would be paid, because I wouldn't do it unpaid,
no stranger danger.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
Well, of course, would that be a packaging because I
know that you get people take you to the like
you go onto the races with clients. Do you ever
go when your horses are.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
Not when my horses are on, because that's my time
to shine. Yeah, but I do go to I do
have social dates with clients. We'll go to the local
pub wherever I am, and we will sit in the
sports bar and we put bets on and we yell
at the horses, and we drink and we eat. I
do that quite a bit, and I love it. I
(28:19):
love it. That's my time to shine. I love talking horses,
I love talking punting.
Speaker 1 (28:25):
And yeah, do you do race days? You go to
race days?
Speaker 2 (28:27):
Yeah? I do race days.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
Have you ever had to pretend to be this is
like kind of linked, But have you ever had to
pretend to be someone's partner at and of like you
know how like there's that classic movie story, so they
brought the escort to the wedding. Yeah, this is my partner, Carli.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
I've never. I've never, and I want to want to
want to do it. I want to, But I find
that my as I become more well known, people are
wanting to take me out less in public. Oh really
yeah yes, yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
But surely events though, would be like an exciting one
to I guess you still got to admit that you're
participating in. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
See, when you're just incognito, anyone could book me and
take me to any event, a wedding, I could do anything,
Whereas now I go places and people know who I am,
So you know, it's I think that people don't want
to look like they've paid for me or paid for
me to be there. So yeah, those things are happening least,
(29:33):
which is really sad because I love it.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
Sticking to the horses, this question is very simply, how
are your horses going?
Speaker 2 (29:40):
They're great. Look by the time this airs of I
own a murk has a race tomorrow at Kembla Grange.
But by the time that this is, he would have
already raced. So hopefully it's a three hundred k rais.
Hopefully I'm in the Bahamas.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
A three hundred k rais.
Speaker 2 (29:57):
Yeah, it's a three hundred k race.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
I think three hundred k's yeah, no, I mean three thous.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
No no, no, no, no, no, it's not running that far.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
It's a long way.
Speaker 2 (30:09):
Yeah, that is very.
Speaker 1 (30:10):
Far, running across the desert from the alley.
Speaker 2 (30:14):
I think they do so well. Yeah, So it's a
three hundred thousand dollars race, so fingers crossed.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
Do you want any of these horses out right?
Speaker 2 (30:22):
Hell? No, that's one of the silliest things that you
can do. Yeah, right, fair enough for a three hundred
k race. I think that I would end up winning.
Oh got my math. It was not good, but I'd
probably win maybe ten k or a bit over ten k.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
Right, yeah, owner, I'll add it to my black book. Yes,
two questions, I'll link them together. What is your face
care routine and what is your workout routine? Like that exists?
Speaker 2 (30:55):
Okay, I'm sex fit.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
Yes, and that means a lot.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
Yeah, I'm sex fit. That is my CARDI that is
my fitness regime. And yeah, that is all I do. Look,
every second day, I keep on saying out loud to
everybody around me, I'm going to do pilates, and I
think everybody's sick of me saying it. I will get
there eventually, but no, I'm so sex fit. And I
(31:24):
find that. Back when I started touring full time, which
was like what two years ago, Am I coming into
my third year? Oh my god, it's a blur. Anyway
I was, I did not have the stamina or the
fitness level that I have with sex now. And even
sometimes when I can feel myself getting exhausted, I start
(31:47):
thinking that this is my gym workout and I need
to keep going and push through it. So instead of
me being like I'm tired, you get on top. Sometimes
I oh, this is okay, this is a lot of information.
Sometimes I change positions into a hard position just so
I can like work out my butt and my legs,
(32:10):
and yeah, I just see it as my my fitness I.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Can't wait for that fitness video to come out on
YouTube and one and okay, lads, now we're going to
start working the glutes and there's just a guy underneath
to me, like I'm gonna move on to a new machine.
Now this one's done.
Speaker 2 (32:27):
Yeah, my face, I don't know. I'm just blessed with
a cute face. And so I don't actually do very much.
I don't put soap on it. I don't just water.
That's me. Dormo pen needles, just all of the all
of the Dermo pen needles in my face. Amazing do
(32:48):
that every so often?
Speaker 1 (32:50):
Have you ever seen clients after prostate surgery with ED
and how did it go?
Speaker 2 (32:57):
I mean, I see a lot of ED guys, so
ED for people playing at home erectile dysfunction. I see
a lot of ED guys. I think I am getting
them because of this podcast. They listen to me speak
and they listen to how I you know, I'm caring
(33:18):
and real and very human, and so then they kind
of they get the balls to book me. And so
I do see a lot of ED guys. And I'm
not sure about like, I don't even know about. So
you can have an operation.
Speaker 1 (33:34):
If you say cancer, so you get it removed, you
generally cannot get it anymore.
Speaker 2 (33:41):
Yeah, okay, well, I mean to the person asking this question,
of course, obviously that would be such a mental thing
for him. Obviously something quite traumatic that he's been through
and then having to live with the after effects of
no longer having an erection. It is quite devastating for
guys not being able to, especially if they were able to.
(34:04):
And then you know, there's been a guy that I
see who only he's I'm going to say fifty and
only a couple of years ago, became a paraplegic and
completely you know, he's penis no longer works. It can
be very devastating, like devastating to lose it. But there
(34:26):
is a lot of work that I do around intimacy
and you know, kind of finding the new normal, and
it is it's about finding the new normal. Okay, well
you're you don't get hard anymore, or you can't ejaculate anymore. Cool.
It doesn't mean that you now just go without intimacy,
doesn't mean that you can't have a partner or experience
(34:47):
you know, sensation or amazing feelings or anything like that.
So it's just retraining them in. Okay, this is now
your new normal. This is now what you focus on.
And I do a lot of teaching around that.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
Yeah, to wrap up the pod, because you have a
lot of questions in your inbox about when are you
going to be in certain places? So I'm going to
rattle off the places, yes, and you can answer if
you have a when. Okay, okay, So first off, when
are you coming back to Canberra?
Speaker 2 (35:20):
Oh? Canberra? It's such a tricky one. Canberra is a
bit got.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
To wait until the politicians are sitting. Mate. When the
politicians are sitting, that's when she'll be there.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
So when the pollies are back, I will come. That's
not going to be until next year, okay, so yeap,
I will definitely be there.
Speaker 1 (35:42):
All right, look at parliamentary sitting times and that will
be around about timber. She will be in Canberra. Do
you visit country New South Wales towns or you're just
a city girl?
Speaker 2 (35:51):
I am a city gal and I have tried doing
the more regional towns but unfortunately there just isn't the
population or the money there.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
What about a Newcastle like that region?
Speaker 2 (36:05):
I try. I have been to Newie and I love
going to Newey because I love doing the drive from
Newie back to Sydney. Love it best through the Blue mountains.
Oh so good. Again, I only get one or two
gentlemen and it doesn't kind of like, I have to
weigh up my expenses and if I'm not making good
(36:25):
money there, well then I just don't go. And it's
the same for any of the smaller towns or you know,
people always are like, come to Port Macquarie, come to
Coffs Harbor again. Yeah, there's just not the enough people there.
You know. I go to Sydney and my phone is
off the hook and I'm you know, really booked. Same
with Melbourne likes I don't need to travel anywhere else.
Speaker 1 (36:49):
Yeah, fair enough, Perth, When are you in Perth next?
Speaker 2 (36:53):
Perth is a funny one. People from that side of
the country are just they like to talk the talk,
but then don't end up walking the walk. I have
planned maybe five different tours to Perth over the last
two years. I've been twice. All the rest that I've
(37:14):
had to cancel because I have everyone in my DMS
yelling at me to come. And so once I get
quite a few people saying come, come, come, I'm like, okay,
I'm going to go there. I'll put up dates. Crickets, crickets.
It's like everybody in wa has moved out and it's silent.
Speaker 1 (37:32):
Well, if you wanted to go to Perth and I
have to pay you to positives.
Speaker 2 (37:34):
Well, I have put up new Perth dates. Oh, I
am going the twenty second of January for a few days.
I have already paid for my accommodation, so I am
definitely going.
Speaker 1 (37:46):
It's around the time of the Perth Fringe. Ooh, Fringe
Festival is on. Fun fun, catch some shows away there, mate,
love that we got Adelaide. When you off to Adelaide,
that's the.
Speaker 2 (37:56):
Last one, so Adelaide. I'm therefore, I gotta love going
to Adelaide. Adelaide are my homies. I have met so
many cool people there. I've made friends like I have
like a group of friends there that I visit every
time I go. I love people from Adelaide. I think
maybe they like me. I'm quite popular there just you know,
(38:18):
and I think it's because maybe I am a little
bit kooky as well, because everybody from there is a
little bit a little bit kookie. So I'm there first
week of January, from the second of January until the
fourth I'm already half booked, so yes, and maybe you'll
see me there for you know, in the future.
Speaker 1 (38:36):
For what d I'd be bringing that out. Jesse yet he.
Speaker 2 (38:42):
No cut that up cut. My Instagram is at Carli Electric.
Send me a DM. I love having a chat or
just laughing at what you've sent me. So yeah. You
can of course also find me on Twitter.
Speaker 1 (38:56):
Or x or blue sky Now or blue.
Speaker 2 (38:58):
Sky Now So Carlie underscore.
Speaker 1 (39:00):
Electric those dms too. I'd love to get Luke
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