September 10, 2025 • 35 mins
Hey girlies!! We're back with part 2 of your Help Me Out's and producer Blakey is helping me answer. We unpack a love triangle, a hating father-in-law & friend that has dropped a bombshell.. I love helping you out and can't wait to do more of these - send your submissions to the Hear Me Out Instagram and we'll do our best to answer!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Like people can always give good advice, they just come
follow it totally.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
That's me.
Speaker 3 (00:04):
So what I tell you I probably wouldn't do.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
Hey, girlies, welcome back. This is hear me out with
easy homage and.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Like mans Blake, Manace, thank you.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
No, everyone gets it wrong.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
How fucking dare I know?
Speaker 2 (00:26):
It's like, no, everyone gets it wrong. It's so fun
the cow I don't want you to know my last name.
I don't like it.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Do you take your boyfriends last name?
Speaker 2 (00:37):
I don't Hackenburger.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Manus is way better.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Yeah, we have not noticed. Respect. I'm still talking through
this lifetime, honey, Like I'm not.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
You don't want to keep yours, but you don't want
to take you guys can just go and get a
new one.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Yeah, literally, can we like mold them?
Speaker 1 (00:54):
You can just make a new one. You can literally
go now. People can just legally change the name. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
I feel like the serious answer to that is I'm
not that fast, Like I do have a big menace
families that name will live on, ye sis Blake and
Berger in the same time. That's like, yeah, I'm going
to get bullied. You're all for what bagging a man?
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Yeah? Yeah, I'm not sure I think what I take.
I would take my husband's last name if I preferred
it to mine, but if it was worse than mine,
like if I didn't like it, I would just keep mine.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Yeah, and we don't talk about many like.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
But I would like to take my husbands last name
ideally if it's nice.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Yeah, this is like an influencer question. We don't really
get into influence of stuff on here, but obviously you're
a bit of a brand.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
A brand.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Yeah, what would happen when you get married? Like I
know a few people, Well.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Steph kles Smith is still Steph Leo Smith, but I
think she's legally not. Yeah, I think she's got I
don't know Smith Miller.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Yeah, I think she's Seph Miller, but she also will
like her Instagram name is still.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
Steph le Smith. Yeah, so I understand that.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
I think Steph kosm it's a totally different ballgame to me,
like embarrassed.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
Don't compare myself.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
But yeah, but maybe by the time my get married,
it'll be different, but it will be manifest.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
I think I would probably still have at least my
easy armitage in my bio or something.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
But I probably would legally change it, just keep the
handle yea, literally.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
You know, Oh my god, some fucking cow. I remember, sorry.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
Very in mind.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
I'm recording this in the same day as I did
my last episode, and I'm still in a bit of.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
A grumpy mood.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
I remember I changed my username to something else very briefly.
I don't know why, and I I honestly don't know
why I did it. But then within the hour someone
had take created an account using my user name easy Armitage.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
I couldn't have it back, not heavily.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
I think that was when I was with my like
not enough, but I don't know, and that's I think
it was someone I knew fucking with me and they
made an easy Amantage account. So I was easy armataed
one for like a while because I had to keep
reporting this fucking account. And then one day, randomly I
don't know how, my dad noticed. He goes the your
cart's gone, can you use the name back? And I
(03:17):
fucking snapped it back up. I'm like, who does that?
Speaker 2 (03:19):
I love that your dad's across.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
He's across everything. I don't understand that he knows everything
going on. Yeah, he always sends me articles. I'm like
I don't want to see it.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Leave me alone.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
My brain can't do this.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
I really don't deal with this AnyWho.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
But we have a listener. Hear me out for you guys.
Take it away, Blake.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Yeah, let's start there. Well we'll get into ours. I
really like this one, and I don't know where I stand. Okay,
hear me out. Chad from High School Musical is hotter
than Troy Bolton.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
No, male disagree? Prime Zach everyone was like prime male species.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Yeah. I think that's he was like in his prime.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Yeah, like when I when we were the age we
were when High School Musical came out, Like Zacha from
was a fucking god.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Yeah, seventeen again.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
God, I really like Chad though.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Chad's great, He's gorgeous, man, I just he's not Zach Efron.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Yeah. Yeah, so case closed.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
I like Joe Bolton. But I'm sure there are a
lot of Chad lovers out there.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Second, hear me out, I feel like this is a
bit more current, Sonny. Angels and La booboos are not it.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
No, I think they're pointless, pointlessly expensive, Like you can't
even hug the like if it was a bigger and
it was a soft toy that I could.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
Like sleep with. I get it.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
It's got hard feet and a hard fucking face, and
it's just like where am I going to put that?
Speaker 2 (04:38):
So I'm a Sonny angel kind of. They're just so cute.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
I don't have I quite frankly do not have her
own for them in my house.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
I don't, but I make her like.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
I just I don't.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
I don't get it, and I think maybe it's not
really on my feet or on anything. So maybe I'm
just like not really understanding it. But personally I think
it's a waste of fucking time and money. And I
really don't understand labooboos sonny angels. Maybe they're a little
bit smaller. I like when people like stick them on
the back of they're like laptops or like like those.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
I get they're kind of cute.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
I have a sloth in my car, and.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
I like people have them on their dashwater stup. I
get that they're like little knickknacks. Yeah, fucking la booboos
are stupid. It's like I can't put it on my
keys because my keys can't fit in my bag. Yeah,
I can't sleep with her because it's hard and they
don't even fucking stand up.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
Right, do they La boo boos?
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
No, Yeah, what's the point put it in a glass?
I can't get a customer glass case to like stick
them on my wall, Like I don't need them.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
And you're spending okay money on it already.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
How much do they costs?
Speaker 2 (05:42):
I think they're thirty five in Australia, which is.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
For some reason, I thought that they're just hard to get,
like what's the big deal?
Speaker 2 (05:48):
So people will buy them for more and obviously you
don't know which one you're going to get some people.
Sometimes people want to pay for preference to know what
they're getting.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
So I think maybe it's fun to open them, But
I'm like, get a lot of the fake ones, get
a la food for and open it and then it's exciting.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
It's just as exciting and you can just throw it out.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Yeah. See My thing is I'll meet in the middle.
When La boob so, I yes, collected a few son
the angels. When La Booboos came out, I was like, no,
that's ugly. Then I hit a point.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
I was like, oh no, they're kind of they're actually
not cute.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
But I thought that was becoming cut I got one
when I was at the fits Room.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
Market, like, I have one and I don't even know.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
I was going to call you out. I was like,
I feel like I've seen one.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Annabel gave me one because she had it and was
like I don't want this. I was like, oh, la
boobo and I'm like, I don't even know.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Where it is.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Your cats are probably like.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
My cats have ripped it.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
But I got one and I'm like, yeah, okay, it's
just a dust collector.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Look at me.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
And I'm like, so we actually got a la food
for when we were in Bali, just I didn't get one.
I wasn't present for the purchase, but the girls brought
it and we opened it and then everything started going wrong.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
So we got rid of it.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
We were like, it's a demon. That's there's something. It's
bad luck. No, they are laufu fucked with us.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
For that day.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
Nothing went right and we actually threw it out because
we're like, but then we didn't throw it out in
our own villa. We put it in one of the
bins on like the street or something, or in a cafe.
I don't remember where the girls put it. We're like,
we need to get rid.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Of this thing, not in your living situation.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
I sound like a serious pessimist, Like there are a
lot I sleep with a fucking blanky, Like I am
not opposed to like cute, little fucking sentimental knickknacks. But
I don't get the point.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
I think my problem is like collecting of them and
how you open up TikTok and people have bought a
box because they want one specific one, Like that's insane.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
It is insane, and where are you putting them? You're
throwing them out.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
And it's so much money, and there's like and.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Everyone has them, like I like my blanking because it's
my blanking.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I know if there was like rare, rare, rare additions,
which I will probably two billion dollars if that was
the case.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
And I think the thing is, no one's gonna like
them in six months, No, and then everyone's just and
I have hundreds of.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
Them so hard like our generations.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
My generation loves them, I know, like I have a
lot of like girl like I know Molly like loves
loves Sonny angels, and like they collect it's actually opened
the really cute one the other.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
Day, sunny angels.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
I get to a different in a sense because when
you can stick them on things and people have them
hanging over the back of their.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Phone and I look at that, it's different, la booboos.
I don't get.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
As this episode comes out, I'm going to be shredding
on the slopes of Queenstown.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
I was like, where are you getting at?
Speaker 1 (08:31):
Yeah, I have not skied since I was probably fifteen.
I'd say we used to probably used to ski, like
most years we were lucky enough to be able to
go on family holidays to Whistler and Tahoe and stuff
and ski, And I would say I was all right,
But like now I feel I'm really hoping. It's like
riding a bike and if you are listening and you
(08:52):
happen to see me, don't take photos, don't take videos.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
I am excited. It's fun. There's something exhilarating about it.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
But I went through a real period of like becoming
really scared of everything, and I think like it still
carries into like scared of planes.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Like, but I was always really worried about how.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Injured you can get skiing, like because your skis can
kind of cross over and like snap your fucking kneecaps out.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
See this is why. I'm just like, I don't need to.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
I wanted to be a snowboarder then, because I was like,
then if all I can do is break my arm,
if my forward or back, you know what I mean.
But then my parents were like, you can snowboard all
you fucking like, but we're not going to wait for you.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
And if you know me, I don't even.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Like going to the bathroom, lind I'm like, I am
not going to be on the slopes in a different country,
fucking two kilometers behind my fucking family on the slope.
So I therefore defaulted back to skiing, and this will
be my first time in ten years.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
Please be careful, I will be. I'm an anxious soul
with these things. If I am scared of I'm just.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
Went, oh, I need to show you.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
Literally, I'm so excited about.
Speaker 3 (09:54):
That video of Tessa falling.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
No, but yeah, I'm actually ever so slightly nervous because
is drinking like this. First of all, I think goes
on from Tuesday to Saturday, damn, which is like.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
That's five days.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
That's a stint.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Yeah, we're not skiing on the Tuesday because when we
get there, we're just with there's an event with the brand,
and we won't really have enough time, but we'll be skiing.
I think we have a three day lift past, so
we're going to do Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, and then Saturday.
It's just Wednesday, Thursday, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday events after parties.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Where is skiing in between? Here?
Speaker 3 (10:27):
Girl, Well, we will wake up more ski in the morning.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Yeah, like you're skiing the kind of of the afternoon,
and then the events are like at seven and ship.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
I like it.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
If anything does get hurt, you can at least like drink.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
It, drink the pa. And I'm only skieing for three days.
I'm being Riley believes.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
That one run and it'll be like riding a bike.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
Can help be back to it fingers crossed, but just
don't try and keep up.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
I think it is like riding a bike. Well, there's
all keeping up, Tessa can't ski. If I suck, I'll
have test with it.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
And you're in the middle at least at least in.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
The middle of Riley will be trying to show off.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
But to be honest, the funny thing is you always
feel like you're going so fast, and then if someone
actually videos it and shows you, You're like, wait, what
the fuck I actually remember to talk about so again,
she posted probably one of the funniest videos I've seen
in a long time when she was on a set
of phil Brian Trip, and it was her saying, I
felt like I was flying in this video and she's
literally going so slow and probably moves like five meters,
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and she obviously realized that it was such funny video.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
That would be me if I'm even standing, like, got
on you for standing, Yeah, getting up on that. You
probably think I'm sounding like an absolute freak at the moment.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
But yeah, I know, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
So I'll be halfway through that trip and hopefully loving it,
and then you will be. Yeah, and then I go
to Bali the week after, not the week after, but
the week after to hang out with someone that could
be exciting.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
We'll see. I loved it yet. But until then, my
friend Adam I was gonna be there with me.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
By the way, and she's not someone except they think, oh, oh,
someone going on there. No, it's an well anyway, all right,
this week we are going to be doing a part
two of Your Help Me Out, and I just think
let's start writing.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
We have so many and me being.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
Always said, the mass start up for advice jalks someone
that can't take her own advice to save her life.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
Let's see what we can do for you, ladies.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
I wish boys would send in their dilemmas. Can some
boys finally fucking man up and send me your fucking problem?
Speaker 2 (12:30):
You've got one man on Instagram?
Speaker 3 (12:32):
What?
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Yeah, he's really sweet.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Oh, I know we do have some male listeners, and
I think these question marks are open for you guys too,
And I think sometimes you don't want to do that,
but know that.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
I will love it.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
And it's anonymous.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
It's anonymous.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
What's to lose?
Speaker 1 (12:46):
So hey, mayle listening here great? It makes me feel
so good. That sounds like I'm really validated by men.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
I do not mean that.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
I just mean like I think when I had a
podcast called just for Girls, there's that sigma and like
boys listening to something called just for girls, But we
did have like guys that would be out and say it,
and it's so sweet.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
It's just like it's a nice.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Feeling to know that you're reaching like that audience as well,
Like this is a girl centrip podcast. I totally get that,
but ah would be nice.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
Okay, help me out.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
Am I the arshole for cutting ties with a close
friend after she reconnected and became friends with a girl
who had hurt and disrespected both of us behind my back.
Speaker 3 (13:24):
Not to mention the.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
Girl that disrespected us both gives mean girl vibes, has
no other friends, is a liar and probably an arcissist.
Speaker 3 (13:31):
Oh I this stuff.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
There's something about friendships that's always friendships are fucking challenging.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
Girl.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Keep in mind, when we cut this girl off, I
was the one who stood up for my close friends
since she isn't a confrontational person.
Speaker 3 (13:44):
Okay, So I know.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
It's hard in a situation like that because you're now
almost the mean middleman who's defended both of you. So
for your friend to go kind of behind your back
and reconnect with this girl, you're like, well, now I
kind of look like an idiot for standing up for
us because you're.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Just friends with there again. So yeah, I get you.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
A year goes by and I hear through the grapevine
that the girl is still holds so much hate towards
me for standing up to her and being the one
person who hold her accountable for her behavior. My friend
mentioned she might speak with her in the future, and
I thought that would be healing for her, since they never.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
Got to clear the air.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
A few weeks later, she told me, a few days
after it had already happened, that she's met this girl
for coffee. The coffee date was rescheduled twice, which didn't
seem like a big deal at the time, but now
I realized She's had plenty of opportunities to tell me
beforehand that she was going to do this, and she
chose not to. Fast forward a few weeks, I hear nothing.
Then I find out that she waited until their friendship
had been rekindled to finally tell me. While I was clueless,
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thinking she'd never actually do that. Behind my back, they're
having sleepovers, going out to dinners, and posting Bessie tiktoks
and pictures together, all while she told me it was
just a simple conversation over coffee and she wanted to
leave it at that. My friend is all about having
no bad blood with anyone, which I can understand, But
she rekindled with this girl at the expense of our friendship.
I found out that not only they were hanging out
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like nothing had happened, but that the girl was also
lying about me and talking badly about me to my
close friend, who wouldn't defend me instead just sweeps it
under the rug every time. There's so much more hurt
behind this, But that's the gist I cut her off
for it. Would you have done the same in my position,
you know what? Yeah, in a sense like if I
think there's levels to it. But if you were both
(15:21):
mutually screwed over by this girl and your friends just
acted like like you stood up for it, Yeah, put
yourself in the firing line. The girls still obviously hold
a lot of resentment towards you for doing that, and
your friend's kind of just skirted around the issue. I
feel like there's always a weird competitiveness with friends in
that sense. I think you're allowed to have boundaries. I
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don't think I don't honestly see that friendship lasting long,
like because the mean girl obviously seems like she is
not you know, someone that would be like a stable, healthy, happy.
Speaker 3 (15:51):
Friend and someone to rely on.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
So I understand why you've done it completely, Like there's
so many levels to it, and like friendships can be
so painful, and I turn understand that, especially feeling like
You've been portrayed for someone that like genuinely isn't a
good person, And I just think you need to respect
your boundaries. If being around that isn't going to make
you feel good, then absolutely do whatever it does. Like,
you never know how things are going to play on
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the long term. Maybe you'll reconnect, maybe she'll apologize, But
I think for now, if that's the boundary that you
need to set to keep yourself happy, then absolutely all right.
Speaker 3 (16:21):
Number two help me out. Oh my god, Izzy love
the pod.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
Basically, I have found myself in a love triangle which
has never happened to me before.
Speaker 3 (16:30):
That has never happened. Does that happened to you?
Speaker 2 (16:33):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Have? Will you the point of the triangle? Like the
two guys wanted.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
You, well, I hate that you asked me that I don't.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
I've never found myself in the love triangle.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
It was like obviously we all weren't dating. It was
just like a bit of a common theme. I pretty
much early tapped out, yeah, the idea of At the start,
I was like, oh, I'm on Sex and the City,
like let's go. But like as an eventually I was
like I just can't. Mentally, I think.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
When I was younger, I had like a thing where
I was dating my boyfriend at the time and there
was someone that I'd been friends with for a really
long time that kind of told me that they had
feelings for me, But it wasn't really a love triangle
because like I had a boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Okay, I'm so sorry. I sound like a pick me now,
but I've actually been at the point of one. Now
I think, Okay, oh my god, how can I forget
about that? I'm going to write that down.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
Literally, all right, I'm beyond shocked. If one guy wants me,
don't say that you're a catch, let alone too. I'll
use fake names Sam and Josh. I'm in third year
UNI and I met Sam through some mutual friends. We
ended up forming a friend group with an active group
chat and weekly hangouts. Sam and I often find ourselves
having our own conversations. At these hangouts. We usually step
(17:47):
outside for a dart. But I haven't heard that word
in so long. I was so nostalgic for me.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
So this is toxic. But I'm now just like making
these people characters on the summer. I'm like, Sam, such
a conrade.
Speaker 3 (17:58):
Sam's a conrade.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
We'll see we'll see girl. You're giving belly. One time, No, no,
we hate bally. I take that back. You're amazing. One
time we lost track of time and we're gone for
two hours and we thought I had only been twenty minutes.
That's when you know someone's so you lose time. Wait,
you lose track of time and having fun. He once
(18:20):
put his hand on my thigh and kept it there
for ages. He only moved it to check his phone,
then put it back. We message often, and what I
like is that he responds quickly.
Speaker 3 (18:30):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
I love when a man isn't afraid to show interest
by responding quickly, Like I don't need to play the
game of There are people, friends, I know girls, I
know that. Go oh he didn't respond for thirty minutes,
so I now have to wait an hour. I'm like, bro,
he might not have been on his phone for thirty minutes.
If I'm on my phone and you text me, I'm
gonna reply.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
I've had people set time, so like, oh, I can't
go back to him like four or fifty.
Speaker 3 (18:51):
No.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
Yeah, that's fucking I think that's childish and stupid, and
it's only going to end badly when you play stupid
games like that.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
It's just it's just.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
Like if you're playing games at such a light level. Look,
it's only any it works anyway. The issue I don't
think I actually like him, Belly, this is Jeremiah, now,
Sam is Jeremiah. I can admit he's attractive, but he's
not my usual type. The main thing throwing me off
is he seven feet tall and I'm five six. To me,
(19:20):
it just doesn't look right. All my friends say IM
crazy and that most girls would love that, but it
really bothers me. I'm going to try and put that
into my perspective.
Speaker 3 (19:27):
You're four inches taller than me.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
If I was five to two, that means the guy
would be six six six seven.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
I drop maths.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
I would well, I don't know how many interests are
in the feet. I think it's eleven six seven something.
I don't don't quote me. I would love that. I
would absolutely date a six to seven man.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Full transparency, I didn't read this in full before putting
it in, but seven.
Speaker 3 (19:54):
Foot seven foot's very tall.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
I think I'm six three and I've been a seven
foot gay guy and we'll both single it. I literally like,
this sounds terrible, but I was like, this is a
bit tall. Like he was like literally yeading to get
through door frames.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
Okay, seven is really tall. I think seven yeah, seven
foots tall. If we're talking about the height difference, I
don't think it's that bad.
Speaker 3 (20:16):
But it's like he just is a really fucking talker.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
Yeah, so I think I understand. Then there's Josh new
character introduced. I met him on a night out his
best mates is one of my friends. I immediately thought
he was gorgeous. We added each other on social media
and now took on the phone every day and he's
genuinely one of the sweetest people I've ever spoken to,
and I find him very attractive. Only issue is that
he's a terrible responder. We mostly use Snapchat. I know
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you hate it, but I'm nineteen.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
Let me enjoy it.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
You can have Snapchat until you're twenty two. That's what
I'll say. So girl, you're well in the clear. You
enjoy it.
Speaker 3 (20:49):
I would never judge you unless you're older than twenty.
I love how she knows that I've been saying this
for a long time.
Speaker 1 (20:59):
I can see his location and sometimes he's active but
hasn't opened my messages from an hour ago I was
gonna I was going to say, being a bad responder
isn't the end of the world. You know, sometimes people
are busy, genuinely busy. I think the way I used
to get really hung up on stuff like that is
because I could, say, see their location on Snapchat when
I was younger, and I would see that they've been active,
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and then it makes you feel like they're ignoring you.
I really really urge you to stop checking when he's
been active. I think it only makes you stressed and
worried about why.
Speaker 3 (21:31):
He's not opening your messages.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
But on something like text, you don't know whether they're
out doing things, whether they're you know, busy, and it's
just that it takes it a little bit of that
stress out of it as to like, oh, they're active
and they didn't open it.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Yeah, And when it comes to like reuniting, it's really
disproportionate because you're living in this universe we like, you've
cheated on me, you were out here, you ignored me
for this, And he's actually.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
Like, like, I only dropped over my phone for like
one second to like search something up for work, and
it's like, Okay, do you know what I mean, I
just think I really urge you for your own mental health.
Did not check that as much as you do. I
know you probably will continue because I sure did, but
try not to. Okay, He's admitted he's bad at replying
and only messages a couple of people regularly, and I'm
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one of them. Our mutual friend even told me not
to take it personally. Josh barely responds to his own mates.
I can be like that, So I understand. We're currently
planning to hang out, and like I said, we talk
for hours most nights, but it bothers me that he
doesn't reply much throughout the day.
Speaker 3 (22:29):
Hey, that actually is good.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
When he's at home doing no work or anything, he's
on his phone and he's responding to you. But when
he's during the day, he's probably working, probably studying, probably
doing UNI. I tend to not go on my phone
much until I'm in bed at night, and Alicia of
a theme. Yeah, like that shows he's consistent. You know,
we love consistent King. It makes me question whether he
really likes me, even though I know it's just how
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he is. I'm definitely leaning more towards Josh because I'm
more attracted to him. But he's not giving me the
attention I want. Maybe it's not right. Should I stick
with the guy I'm more attracted to the one that
shows me more interest? Okay, definitely go for Josh. Give
it a go, Like what have you got to lose?
I know, like broken hearts whatever. You don't like the
other guys anything more than a friend, it seems, and
(23:12):
you can like, oh, you got caught up for two
hours talking. I'd get caught up with my best friends
for two hours talking. That could just mean like, this
guy is a really good friend and like will be
a really great friend to you in the future.
Speaker 3 (23:21):
You know, just.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
Because you get along with him does not mean he
has to be a guy that you date.
Speaker 3 (23:27):
Yeah, he can be a new friend.
Speaker 2 (23:28):
And obviously attraction first, Like while I'm reading this and
this is paper to us, like Sam probably does sound
good on paper, ever.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Sounds great, But he can be a really good friend.
He doesn't have to be your guy because you don't
view him like that.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
And like your problem slash speed bumps with Josh, they're fixable.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
It's so fixible and that's so new to be honest, Like,
wait till you catch up with him in person? Maybe
once he meets you, he'll form more of an interest
in you, and then he therefore will be better at
responding because he's like, hey, I could really like this girl,
but for now, maybe he doesn't feel like giving up
all of his time in the day to respond to
someone that he doesn't yet know. If you know it's
going to be something, I think you just need to
take its low and see how you go with the
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guy that you're interested in.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
Yeah, And I think we all want this like constant
communication thing happening really and.
Speaker 3 (24:17):
Get that unless it's a partner.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
But like this doesn't sound really genuine, but you also
run out of material to talk to them about, like
you kind of do want a drip feed yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Thing reply really quickly, and I'm like, I'm not ready
to respond to you because I actually don't know what
to say. And the more we talk, the more we
talk about, the less we have to talk about, like
less stuff we have left.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
Yeah, And dare I say there will come a day
where you're probably going to not want to be communicating
all the time on the phone either. Like I think
we all go through different stages, Like I very much
used to be like that. Now people in my life.
I just want people that can catch up with every
two weeks and nothing change.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
I think the fact he's responding so much at night
is great. Yeah, because he's interested. People don't respond regularly
at all if they're not. Like if I'm not interested
in someone, I will like text them once a day
and slow goos them until they stopped texting me.
Speaker 3 (25:08):
I'm never actually someone that can straight up be like
I'm no, I don't like you, and I.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
Tend not to ignore people either until I've done a nice, solid.
Speaker 3 (25:15):
Week long slogos. Then I'll ignore.
Speaker 1 (25:17):
I think he seems interested, Just catch up with him,
see how it goes. Once he's actually like developed feelings
or interest, I think it will be different. But you
can't expect too much out of someone this early on.
I think what he's giving you right now is proportionate
to the situation.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (25:34):
Totally? But keep us posted.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
He posted. I want to know how it goes, and
you're not going to end know with's.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
Am Yeah, and please film this because it's the summer
I turn pretty's ending. Else we need a new triangle.
Speaker 3 (25:47):
Help me out.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
Hey, I'm in a bit of a tricky situation that
could really use an outside perspective. My friend Lucy and
I have been planning a six month trip to UK
next year to work and travel so fun. From the start,
my plan was that it would just be the two
of us, a fun, independent, single girls adventure. We were
both in relationships at the time, but we agreed it
would be a girl's only trip and if our boyfriends
wanted to visit in the middle, that would be fine,
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but the core of it was always meant to be
the two of us. Having that experience together sounds great.
I feel like it's not going to end up like
that now things have changed. I recently went through a breakup,
so I'm single and Lucy has told me she wants
her boyfriend to come for the whole trip. No, Lucy,
I don't agree with that, especially now that you're single.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
It's a totally different ballgame.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
Absolutely, her boyfriend can still visit, but no, no, that
is just not then who are you going to go
out with and have drinks with. You're going to be
literally on your own. Basically, you might as well not go.
I know, we'll silly, but.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
Yeah, but it now becomes their experience as a couple.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
And something, and they're going to want to have date
nights and like, you know, it's just it's a totally
different experience because she's now going to have two people there.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
I'm honestly thrown.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
This completely changes the DNA of two girls leaving a
broad adventure to me third Willie and a couple for
six months.
Speaker 3 (27:04):
That is not what I signed up for.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
I brought it up to her and a response was
just a brief I'm sorry, but he wants to come.
I feel kind of portrayed, like we had a clear
plan and now it's being rewritten without much consideration for
how it affects me.
Speaker 3 (27:15):
What should I do? Girl?
Speaker 1 (27:19):
I either think, I know, you want to be with
your friend, but like, at this rate, it's either looking
like you may as well do a solo travel abroad
or not do it at all, because like.
Speaker 3 (27:29):
Put it this way.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
I went on a holiday to New York for a
month with Hannah. There was just us two initially we
were both single. She then gets a boyfriend. Yeah, fine,
absolutely happy for her, but she was still was like,
let's just go together, you know, And it was fine
and it was great. And it's like because her boyfriend
wasn't there. It meant the attention was still on me,
you know what I mean. We're going out together, we're
doing early things. Her boyfriend ended up surprising us and
(27:54):
coming over. I love her boyfriend and I've known him
for like fifteen years, so it was fine. But then
even in that little way, it kind of it does
end up you being a little bit of a third will,
you know. When they did their utmost never to make
me feel like that, But bottom line is it ends
up like that.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
Yeah, and they're excited to see each other.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
And that was a week. Yeah, and by the end
of the week it was like that. Kind I ended
up feeling more and more like a third will. No
hate to Hannah or her partner. Adore them both, and
it's but it's just the way that things go. And
I know that they were actively trying to make it
not like that, but that's reality. This is a six
month holiday. I can promise to you that by week three,
you're pretty much they're gonna stop caring that you feel
(28:31):
like a third will, because they're.
Speaker 3 (28:32):
Like, we're enjoying this holiday together.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
I also, I don't like that there wasn't a conversation
or a consideration, and that she doesn't seem to understand
where you're coming from or have any like empathy towards
how you would be feeling, especially since you have just
gone through a breakup. But like I'm honestly telling you
that is not going to be an enjoyable trip for
you and really sorry to say that. And the fact
there's no flax, like okay, maybe he joins this halfway
(28:56):
through or like comes for two months in the middle.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
In the first month we travel around while he stays
at bed.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
Honestly, what's even the fucking point of going abroad with
a partner?
Speaker 3 (29:07):
Six? Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (29:07):
It's like you guys wanted to be like kind of
almost finding yourself sort of sitch totally, which isn't going
to happen in the setting you're in.
Speaker 2 (29:15):
No, And like I don't like to speak in totals
or like when someone writes in say dump them or
don't do this, yeah, do this, But like I think
this trip's a really big investment, and like I've always
wanted to go to Europe. I want to go on
a holiday there next year. It has to be everything
you wanted to be, Otherwise you were throwing money away.
You were going to have so much resentment towards your friends.
Speaker 1 (29:37):
It's gonna end up sucking the friendship. Yeah, yeah, I
honestly think potentially trying to maybe find someone else that
would want to come with you, that you can say
like another friend and you can stay with them. And
if that girl and her partners are still going to
go great, you can meet up with them, you can
get dinners with them, go out with them. But you
have another girl with you that is going to be
(29:58):
living that fun single adventure with She doesn't even need
to be single, but like just her partner not there
living that adventure with you. I think, yeah, you either
need to add someone else or potentially reconsider the trip
because I do think if Lucy's not willing to at
least not be with her partner the whole time, You're
going to end up probably not enjoying yourself as much.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
As you would.
Speaker 2 (30:20):
Yeah, and it's not the idea.
Speaker 3 (30:22):
Can absolutely grow from oh my.
Speaker 2 (30:24):
God, totally and it's like not the result you wanted.
But I think actually to give yourself the trip that
you want and like.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
Either add another girl and stay separately, or see if
you can get Lucy to flex a little bit on
her boyfriend being there the whole time. So at least
you have a couple of months maybe where you can
enjoy that experience with her.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Yeah, keep his posted, all right.
Speaker 1 (30:48):
Help me out, hey, babe. I absolutely love the party.
I need some relationship advice. I feel very blessed that
you guys trust me with your relationship advice when I'm
so fucking seriously single.
Speaker 3 (30:58):
Like people can always give good.
Speaker 2 (30:59):
Advice, they just follow it totally. That's me.
Speaker 3 (31:02):
So what I tell you I probably wouldn't do.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
I've been with my current boyfriend for three years and
I think he might be the one. He's so loving
and always supportive. The only issue is his dad absolutely
hates me.
Speaker 3 (31:16):
No matter what I do.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
He always finds something to criticize, and he even tries
to talk badly about me to my partner. My partner
defends me, but I struggle with the thought of having
to deal with this for the rest of my life.
Speaker 2 (31:26):
What do I do?
Speaker 1 (31:28):
The sad reality is you don't marry the man, you
marry the family. A lot of the time, I have
had an ex's parent not particularly like me, and it
was brutal, and I think the thing that helped me
was that, Yeah, my partner did defend me have my back,
and I think that's great. But you always do worry
(31:50):
that there might come a time where they stop doing that,
or where.
Speaker 3 (31:53):
Something gets into their head.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
I really wish I had an answer for you, but
I think as long as you communicate with your partner
and you know that they're still defending you and helping you,
like I don't think you should make any hectic decisions
based off a parent if he is the person that
you love and the person that you want to be with,
like I wouldn't. I almost would wonder if it's worth
(32:17):
like having a fucking sit down and kind of getting
to the bottom of it and maybe being open and
honest if it is someone that you want to be
with forever, like down the line, you know, try and
maybe get rid of some of that animal city or
at least understand where it's coming from and why he
feels that way.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
But yeah, and three years is a long time, like
yeas not like it's a third month and they you know,
it can develop into something more.
Speaker 1 (32:41):
And I'm sure your partner's probably having conversations privately with
his dad talking about like can you stop, do you
know what I mean? Especially like if you say proposes
one day or you know, the dad's look, the Dad's
gonna have to fucking get on board. But I'd say
having somewhat of a conversation about it, which I know
seems wanting and like unrealistic, but I honestly don't really know.
Speaker 2 (33:04):
Yeah, And I don't think there's a perfect answer. But
what I would say is I feel like, if it
wasn't a bad relationship with the dad, it's probably gonna
be a best friend that you absolutely hate or a
sister of his that has a crutch all the time.
Speaker 1 (33:18):
And it's not him, and he seems to be doing
everything right.
Speaker 2 (33:21):
Yeah, And like with the sitting down and chatting to
the father, I think I actually might disagree with it.
I'm a feeling she's not the problem. It's probably something it.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
Probably is, But I feel like there's almost a way
of if you confront the behavior, they kind of realize
they're doing it and tend to not do it, do
you know what I mean? Like people when they feel
like they're getting away with things, they continue.
Speaker 2 (33:42):
Yeah, And Dad's like they can be stubborn.
Speaker 1 (33:45):
Though we all know the older generation, the boomers of
the world, are very stuck in their fucking ways. So
I almost think it needs to be brought to his
attention in a way that makes him realize that people
are aware of it and that kind of needs.
Speaker 2 (34:00):
Yeah, and maybe in a safe way for you, like.
Speaker 3 (34:03):
Your partner, Yeah, with his mum and dad hamball that one. Yeah,
it give it to them. Well, I'm I don't know.
Speaker 1 (34:12):
Sticking that, like, give it a go, stay there, don't
If your partner's amazing, stay with your partner.
Speaker 3 (34:18):
Just I'm sure you know.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
Some people end up not fucking having any relationships with
their parents and they're older.
Speaker 2 (34:23):
Yeah, well that's the thing I almost said, Like, I
have a close relationship with my family, but my parents
split and I lived away from both of them at
different times of my childhood. So I'm actually okay not
being right next to my family or very close.
Speaker 1 (34:39):
I feel like for some people as you get older,
the parents aren't just tend to not be around as much.
Speaker 3 (34:44):
Therefore matter as much.
Speaker 1 (34:46):
This is your life that you're building with this person,
and if the parents aren't supportive, I'm sure down the
line they probably won't be as much a part of
things as they were now, you know.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
Yeah, and then it just becomes something you have to
swallow every Christmas.
Speaker 1 (34:59):
Like I can tell you fucking now, my parents hate
each other's parents. They hate them, so it happens, and
yes they article that's not your Sorry all right, girlies
and guys and gays. That was part two of you'll
(35:19):
help me out. Thank you for interesting me with your dilemmas.
Next week it will be a fun one. I'm getting
Riley and Tessa her girlfriend on. We will have all
just been in New Zealand together, so we're gonna do
a little post trip story time update, tell you everything
that happened, and it will be really I'm really good.
Speaker 3 (35:42):
I'm really excited.
Speaker 1 (35:43):
So guys, you will have three guests on next week
and we will all be chatting to you and I
can't wait. Bye, enjoy the Summertime'm pretty
Like people can always give good advice, they just come
follow it totally.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
That's me.
Speaker 3 (00:04):
So what I tell you I probably wouldn't do.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
Hey, girlies, welcome back. This is hear me out with
easy homage and.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Like mans Blake, Manace, thank you.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
No, everyone gets it wrong.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
How fucking dare I know?
Speaker 2 (00:26):
It's like, no, everyone gets it wrong. It's so fun
the cow I don't want you to know my last name.
I don't like it.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Do you take your boyfriends last name?
Speaker 2 (00:37):
I don't Hackenburger.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Manus is way better.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Yeah, we have not noticed. Respect. I'm still talking through
this lifetime, honey, Like I'm not.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
You don't want to keep yours, but you don't want
to take you guys can just go and get a
new one.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Yeah, literally, can we like mold them?
Speaker 1 (00:54):
You can just make a new one. You can literally
go now. People can just legally change the name. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
I feel like the serious answer to that is I'm
not that fast, Like I do have a big menace
families that name will live on, ye sis Blake and
Berger in the same time. That's like, yeah, I'm going
to get bullied. You're all for what bagging a man?
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Yeah? Yeah, I'm not sure I think what I take.
I would take my husband's last name if I preferred
it to mine, but if it was worse than mine,
like if I didn't like it, I would just keep mine.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Yeah, and we don't talk about many like.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
But I would like to take my husbands last name
ideally if it's nice.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Yeah, this is like an influencer question. We don't really
get into influence of stuff on here, but obviously you're
a bit of a brand.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
A brand.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Yeah, what would happen when you get married? Like I
know a few people, Well.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Steph kles Smith is still Steph Leo Smith, but I
think she's legally not. Yeah, I think she's got I
don't know Smith Miller.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Yeah, I think she's Seph Miller, but she also will
like her Instagram name is still.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
Steph le Smith. Yeah, so I understand that.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
I think Steph kosm it's a totally different ballgame to me,
like embarrassed.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
Don't compare myself.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
But yeah, but maybe by the time my get married,
it'll be different, but it will be manifest.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
I think I would probably still have at least my
easy armitage in my bio or something.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
But I probably would legally change it, just keep the
handle yea, literally.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
You know, Oh my god, some fucking cow. I remember, sorry.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
Very in mind.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
I'm recording this in the same day as I did
my last episode, and I'm still in a bit of.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
A grumpy mood.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
I remember I changed my username to something else very briefly.
I don't know why, and I I honestly don't know
why I did it. But then within the hour someone
had take created an account using my user name easy Armitage.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
I couldn't have it back, not heavily.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
I think that was when I was with my like
not enough, but I don't know, and that's I think
it was someone I knew fucking with me and they
made an easy Amantage account. So I was easy armataed
one for like a while because I had to keep
reporting this fucking account. And then one day, randomly I
don't know how, my dad noticed. He goes the your
cart's gone, can you use the name back? And I
(03:17):
fucking snapped it back up. I'm like, who does that?
Speaker 2 (03:19):
I love that your dad's across.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
He's across everything. I don't understand that he knows everything
going on. Yeah, he always sends me articles. I'm like
I don't want to see it.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Leave me alone.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
My brain can't do this.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
I really don't deal with this AnyWho.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
But we have a listener. Hear me out for you guys.
Take it away, Blake.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Yeah, let's start there. Well we'll get into ours. I
really like this one, and I don't know where I stand. Okay,
hear me out. Chad from High School Musical is hotter
than Troy Bolton.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
No, male disagree? Prime Zach everyone was like prime male species.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Yeah. I think that's he was like in his prime.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Yeah, like when I when we were the age we
were when High School Musical came out, Like Zacha from
was a fucking god.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Yeah, seventeen again.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
God, I really like Chad though.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Chad's great, He's gorgeous, man, I just he's not Zach Efron.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Yeah. Yeah, so case closed.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
I like Joe Bolton. But I'm sure there are a
lot of Chad lovers out there.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Second, hear me out, I feel like this is a
bit more current, Sonny. Angels and La booboos are not it.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
No, I think they're pointless, pointlessly expensive, Like you can't
even hug the like if it was a bigger and
it was a soft toy that I could.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
Like sleep with. I get it.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
It's got hard feet and a hard fucking face, and
it's just like where am I going to put that?
Speaker 2 (04:38):
So I'm a Sonny angel kind of. They're just so cute.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
I don't have I quite frankly do not have her
own for them in my house.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
I don't, but I make her like.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
I just I don't.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
I don't get it, and I think maybe it's not
really on my feet or on anything. So maybe I'm
just like not really understanding it. But personally I think
it's a waste of fucking time and money. And I
really don't understand labooboos sonny angels. Maybe they're a little
bit smaller. I like when people like stick them on
the back of they're like laptops or like like those.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
I get they're kind of cute.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
I have a sloth in my car, and.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
I like people have them on their dashwater stup. I
get that they're like little knickknacks. Yeah, fucking la booboos
are stupid. It's like I can't put it on my
keys because my keys can't fit in my bag. Yeah,
I can't sleep with her because it's hard and they
don't even fucking stand up.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
Right, do they La boo boos?
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
No, Yeah, what's the point put it in a glass?
I can't get a customer glass case to like stick
them on my wall, Like I don't need them.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
And you're spending okay money on it already.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
How much do they costs?
Speaker 2 (05:42):
I think they're thirty five in Australia, which is.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
For some reason, I thought that they're just hard to get,
like what's the big deal?
Speaker 2 (05:48):
So people will buy them for more and obviously you
don't know which one you're going to get some people.
Sometimes people want to pay for preference to know what
they're getting.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
So I think maybe it's fun to open them, But
I'm like, get a lot of the fake ones, get
a la food for and open it and then it's exciting.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
It's just as exciting and you can just throw it out.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Yeah. See My thing is I'll meet in the middle.
When La boob so, I yes, collected a few son
the angels. When La Booboos came out, I was like, no,
that's ugly. Then I hit a point.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
I was like, oh no, they're kind of they're actually
not cute.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
But I thought that was becoming cut I got one
when I was at the fits Room.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
Market, like, I have one and I don't even know.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
I was going to call you out. I was like,
I feel like I've seen one.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Annabel gave me one because she had it and was
like I don't want this. I was like, oh, la
boobo and I'm like, I don't even know.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Where it is.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Your cats are probably like.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
My cats have ripped it.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
But I got one and I'm like, yeah, okay, it's
just a dust collector.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Look at me.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
And I'm like, so we actually got a la food
for when we were in Bali, just I didn't get one.
I wasn't present for the purchase, but the girls brought
it and we opened it and then everything started going wrong.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
So we got rid of it.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
We were like, it's a demon. That's there's something. It's
bad luck. No, they are laufu fucked with us.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
For that day.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
Nothing went right and we actually threw it out because
we're like, but then we didn't throw it out in
our own villa. We put it in one of the
bins on like the street or something, or in a cafe.
I don't remember where the girls put it. We're like,
we need to get rid.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Of this thing, not in your living situation.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
I sound like a serious pessimist, Like there are a
lot I sleep with a fucking blanky, Like I am
not opposed to like cute, little fucking sentimental knickknacks. But
I don't get the point.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
I think my problem is like collecting of them and
how you open up TikTok and people have bought a
box because they want one specific one, Like that's insane.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
It is insane, and where are you putting them? You're
throwing them out.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
And it's so much money, and there's like and.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Everyone has them, like I like my blanking because it's
my blanking.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I know if there was like rare, rare, rare additions,
which I will probably two billion dollars if that was
the case.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
And I think the thing is, no one's gonna like
them in six months, No, and then everyone's just and
I have hundreds of.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
Them so hard like our generations.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
My generation loves them, I know, like I have a
lot of like girl like I know Molly like loves
loves Sonny angels, and like they collect it's actually opened
the really cute one the other.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
Day, sunny angels.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
I get to a different in a sense because when
you can stick them on things and people have them
hanging over the back of their.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Phone and I look at that, it's different, la booboos.
I don't get.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
As this episode comes out, I'm going to be shredding
on the slopes of Queenstown.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
I was like, where are you getting at?
Speaker 1 (08:31):
Yeah, I have not skied since I was probably fifteen.
I'd say we used to probably used to ski, like
most years we were lucky enough to be able to
go on family holidays to Whistler and Tahoe and stuff
and ski, And I would say I was all right,
But like now I feel I'm really hoping. It's like
riding a bike and if you are listening and you
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happen to see me, don't take photos, don't take videos.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
I am excited. It's fun. There's something exhilarating about it.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
But I went through a real period of like becoming
really scared of everything, and I think like it still
carries into like scared of planes.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
Like, but I was always really worried about how.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Injured you can get skiing, like because your skis can
kind of cross over and like snap your fucking kneecaps out.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
See this is why. I'm just like, I don't need to.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
I wanted to be a snowboarder then, because I was like,
then if all I can do is break my arm,
if my forward or back, you know what I mean.
But then my parents were like, you can snowboard all
you fucking like, but we're not going to wait for you.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
And if you know me, I don't even.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Like going to the bathroom, lind I'm like, I am
not going to be on the slopes in a different country,
fucking two kilometers behind my fucking family on the slope.
So I therefore defaulted back to skiing, and this will
be my first time in ten years.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
Please be careful, I will be. I'm an anxious soul
with these things. If I am scared of I'm just.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
Went, oh, I need to show you.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
Literally, I'm so excited about.
Speaker 3 (09:54):
That video of Tessa falling.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
No, but yeah, I'm actually ever so slightly nervous because
is drinking like this. First of all, I think goes
on from Tuesday to Saturday, damn, which is like.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
That's five days.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
That's a stint.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Yeah, we're not skiing on the Tuesday because when we
get there, we're just with there's an event with the brand,
and we won't really have enough time, but we'll be skiing.
I think we have a three day lift past, so
we're going to do Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, and then Saturday.
It's just Wednesday, Thursday, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday events after parties.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Where is skiing in between? Here?
Speaker 3 (10:27):
Girl, Well, we will wake up more ski in the morning.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Yeah, like you're skiing the kind of of the afternoon,
and then the events are like at seven and ship.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
I like it.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
If anything does get hurt, you can at least like drink.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
It, drink the pa. And I'm only skieing for three days.
I'm being Riley believes.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
That one run and it'll be like riding a bike.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
Can help be back to it fingers crossed, but just
don't try and keep up.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
I think it is like riding a bike. Well, there's
all keeping up, Tessa can't ski. If I suck, I'll
have test with it.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
And you're in the middle at least at least in.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
The middle of Riley will be trying to show off.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
But to be honest, the funny thing is you always
feel like you're going so fast, and then if someone
actually videos it and shows you, You're like, wait, what
the fuck I actually remember to talk about so again,
she posted probably one of the funniest videos I've seen
in a long time when she was on a set
of phil Brian Trip, and it was her saying, I
felt like I was flying in this video and she's
literally going so slow and probably moves like five meters,
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and she obviously realized that it was such funny video.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
That would be me if I'm even standing, like, got
on you for standing, Yeah, getting up on that. You
probably think I'm sounding like an absolute freak at the moment.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
But yeah, I know, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
So I'll be halfway through that trip and hopefully loving it,
and then you will be. Yeah, and then I go
to Bali the week after, not the week after, but
the week after to hang out with someone that could
be exciting.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
We'll see. I loved it yet. But until then, my
friend Adam I was gonna be there with me.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
By the way, and she's not someone except they think, oh, oh,
someone going on there. No, it's an well anyway, all right,
this week we are going to be doing a part
two of Your Help Me Out, and I just think
let's start writing.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
We have so many and me being.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
Always said, the mass start up for advice jalks someone
that can't take her own advice to save her life.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
Let's see what we can do for you, ladies.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
I wish boys would send in their dilemmas. Can some
boys finally fucking man up and send me your fucking problem?
Speaker 2 (12:30):
You've got one man on Instagram?
Speaker 3 (12:32):
What?
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Yeah, he's really sweet.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Oh, I know we do have some male listeners, and
I think these question marks are open for you guys too,
And I think sometimes you don't want to do that,
but know that.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
I will love it.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
And it's anonymous.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
It's anonymous.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
What's to lose?
Speaker 1 (12:46):
So hey, mayle listening here great? It makes me feel
so good. That sounds like I'm really validated by men.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
I do not mean that.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
I just mean like I think when I had a
podcast called just for Girls, there's that sigma and like
boys listening to something called just for girls, But we
did have like guys that would be out and say it,
and it's so sweet.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
It's just like it's a nice.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Feeling to know that you're reaching like that audience as well,
Like this is a girl centrip podcast. I totally get that,
but ah would be nice.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
Okay, help me out.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
Am I the arshole for cutting ties with a close
friend after she reconnected and became friends with a girl
who had hurt and disrespected both of us behind my back.
Speaker 3 (13:24):
Not to mention the.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
Girl that disrespected us both gives mean girl vibes, has
no other friends, is a liar and probably an arcissist.
Speaker 3 (13:31):
Oh I this stuff.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
There's something about friendships that's always friendships are fucking challenging.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
Girl.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Keep in mind, when we cut this girl off, I
was the one who stood up for my close friends
since she isn't a confrontational person.
Speaker 3 (13:44):
Okay, So I know.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
It's hard in a situation like that because you're now
almost the mean middleman who's defended both of you. So
for your friend to go kind of behind your back
and reconnect with this girl, you're like, well, now I
kind of look like an idiot for standing up for
us because you're.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Just friends with there again. So yeah, I get you.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
A year goes by and I hear through the grapevine
that the girl is still holds so much hate towards
me for standing up to her and being the one
person who hold her accountable for her behavior. My friend
mentioned she might speak with her in the future, and
I thought that would be healing for her, since they never.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
Got to clear the air.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
A few weeks later, she told me, a few days
after it had already happened, that she's met this girl
for coffee. The coffee date was rescheduled twice, which didn't
seem like a big deal at the time, but now
I realized She's had plenty of opportunities to tell me
beforehand that she was going to do this, and she
chose not to. Fast forward a few weeks, I hear nothing.
Then I find out that she waited until their friendship
had been rekindled to finally tell me. While I was clueless,
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thinking she'd never actually do that. Behind my back, they're
having sleepovers, going out to dinners, and posting Bessie tiktoks
and pictures together, all while she told me it was
just a simple conversation over coffee and she wanted to
leave it at that. My friend is all about having
no bad blood with anyone, which I can understand, But
she rekindled with this girl at the expense of our friendship.
I found out that not only they were hanging out
(15:00):
like nothing had happened, but that the girl was also
lying about me and talking badly about me to my
close friend, who wouldn't defend me instead just sweeps it
under the rug every time. There's so much more hurt
behind this, But that's the gist I cut her off
for it. Would you have done the same in my position,
you know what? Yeah, in a sense like if I
think there's levels to it. But if you were both
(15:21):
mutually screwed over by this girl and your friends just
acted like like you stood up for it, Yeah, put
yourself in the firing line. The girls still obviously hold
a lot of resentment towards you for doing that, and
your friend's kind of just skirted around the issue. I
feel like there's always a weird competitiveness with friends in
that sense. I think you're allowed to have boundaries. I
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don't think I don't honestly see that friendship lasting long,
like because the mean girl obviously seems like she is
not you know, someone that would be like a stable, healthy, happy.
Speaker 3 (15:51):
Friend and someone to rely on.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
So I understand why you've done it completely, Like there's
so many levels to it, and like friendships can be
so painful, and I turn understand that, especially feeling like
You've been portrayed for someone that like genuinely isn't a
good person, And I just think you need to respect
your boundaries. If being around that isn't going to make
you feel good, then absolutely do whatever it does. Like,
you never know how things are going to play on
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the long term. Maybe you'll reconnect, maybe she'll apologize, But
I think for now, if that's the boundary that you
need to set to keep yourself happy, then absolutely all right.
Speaker 3 (16:21):
Number two help me out. Oh my god, Izzy love
the pod.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
Basically, I have found myself in a love triangle which
has never happened to me before.
Speaker 3 (16:30):
That has never happened. Does that happened to you?
Speaker 2 (16:33):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Have? Will you the point of the triangle? Like the
two guys wanted.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
You, well, I hate that you asked me that I don't.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
I've never found myself in the love triangle.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
It was like obviously we all weren't dating. It was
just like a bit of a common theme. I pretty
much early tapped out, yeah, the idea of At the start,
I was like, oh, I'm on Sex and the City,
like let's go. But like as an eventually I was
like I just can't. Mentally, I think.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
When I was younger, I had like a thing where
I was dating my boyfriend at the time and there
was someone that I'd been friends with for a really
long time that kind of told me that they had
feelings for me, But it wasn't really a love triangle
because like I had a boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Okay, I'm so sorry. I sound like a pick me now,
but I've actually been at the point of one. Now
I think, Okay, oh my god, how can I forget
about that? I'm going to write that down.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
Literally, all right, I'm beyond shocked. If one guy wants me,
don't say that you're a catch, let alone too. I'll
use fake names Sam and Josh. I'm in third year
UNI and I met Sam through some mutual friends. We
ended up forming a friend group with an active group
chat and weekly hangouts. Sam and I often find ourselves
having our own conversations. At these hangouts. We usually step
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outside for a dart. But I haven't heard that word
in so long. I was so nostalgic for me.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
So this is toxic. But I'm now just like making
these people characters on the summer. I'm like, Sam, such
a conrade.
Speaker 3 (17:58):
Sam's a conrade.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
We'll see we'll see girl. You're giving belly. One time, No, no,
we hate bally. I take that back. You're amazing. One
time we lost track of time and we're gone for
two hours and we thought I had only been twenty minutes.
That's when you know someone's so you lose time. Wait,
you lose track of time and having fun. He once
(18:20):
put his hand on my thigh and kept it there
for ages. He only moved it to check his phone,
then put it back. We message often, and what I
like is that he responds quickly.
Speaker 3 (18:30):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
I love when a man isn't afraid to show interest
by responding quickly, Like I don't need to play the
game of There are people, friends, I know girls, I
know that. Go oh he didn't respond for thirty minutes,
so I now have to wait an hour. I'm like, bro,
he might not have been on his phone for thirty minutes.
If I'm on my phone and you text me, I'm
gonna reply.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
I've had people set time, so like, oh, I can't
go back to him like four or fifty.
Speaker 3 (18:51):
No.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
Yeah, that's fucking I think that's childish and stupid, and
it's only going to end badly when you play stupid
games like that.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
It's just it's just.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
Like if you're playing games at such a light level. Look,
it's only any it works anyway. The issue I don't
think I actually like him, Belly, this is Jeremiah, now,
Sam is Jeremiah. I can admit he's attractive, but he's
not my usual type. The main thing throwing me off
is he seven feet tall and I'm five six. To me,
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it just doesn't look right. All my friends say IM
crazy and that most girls would love that, but it
really bothers me. I'm going to try and put that
into my perspective.
Speaker 3 (19:27):
You're four inches taller than me.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
If I was five to two, that means the guy
would be six six six seven.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
I drop maths.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
I would well, I don't know how many interests are
in the feet. I think it's eleven six seven something.
I don't don't quote me. I would love that. I
would absolutely date a six to seven man.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Full transparency, I didn't read this in full before putting
it in, but seven.
Speaker 3 (19:54):
Foot seven foot's very tall.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
I think I'm six three and I've been a seven
foot gay guy and we'll both single it. I literally like,
this sounds terrible, but I was like, this is a
bit tall. Like he was like literally yeading to get
through door frames.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
Okay, seven is really tall. I think seven yeah, seven
foots tall. If we're talking about the height difference, I
don't think it's that bad.
Speaker 3 (20:16):
But it's like he just is a really fucking talker.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
Yeah, so I think I understand. Then there's Josh new
character introduced. I met him on a night out his
best mates is one of my friends. I immediately thought
he was gorgeous. We added each other on social media
and now took on the phone every day and he's
genuinely one of the sweetest people I've ever spoken to,
and I find him very attractive. Only issue is that
he's a terrible responder. We mostly use Snapchat. I know
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you hate it, but I'm nineteen.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
Let me enjoy it.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
You can have Snapchat until you're twenty two. That's what
I'll say. So girl, you're well in the clear. You
enjoy it.
Speaker 3 (20:49):
I would never judge you unless you're older than twenty.
I love how she knows that I've been saying this
for a long time.
Speaker 1 (20:59):
I can see his location and sometimes he's active but
hasn't opened my messages from an hour ago I was
gonna I was going to say, being a bad responder
isn't the end of the world. You know, sometimes people
are busy, genuinely busy. I think the way I used
to get really hung up on stuff like that is
because I could, say, see their location on Snapchat when
I was younger, and I would see that they've been active,
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and then it makes you feel like they're ignoring you.
I really really urge you to stop checking when he's
been active. I think it only makes you stressed and
worried about why.
Speaker 3 (21:31):
He's not opening your messages.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
But on something like text, you don't know whether they're
out doing things, whether they're you know, busy, and it's
just that it takes it a little bit of that
stress out of it as to like, oh, they're active
and they didn't open it.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Yeah, And when it comes to like reuniting, it's really
disproportionate because you're living in this universe we like, you've
cheated on me, you were out here, you ignored me
for this, And he's actually.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
Like, like, I only dropped over my phone for like
one second to like search something up for work, and
it's like, Okay, do you know what I mean, I
just think I really urge you for your own mental health.
Did not check that as much as you do. I
know you probably will continue because I sure did, but
try not to. Okay, He's admitted he's bad at replying
and only messages a couple of people regularly, and I'm
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one of them. Our mutual friend even told me not
to take it personally. Josh barely responds to his own mates.
I can be like that, So I understand. We're currently
planning to hang out, and like I said, we talk
for hours most nights, but it bothers me that he
doesn't reply much throughout the day.
Speaker 3 (22:29):
Hey, that actually is good.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
When he's at home doing no work or anything, he's
on his phone and he's responding to you. But when
he's during the day, he's probably working, probably studying, probably
doing UNI. I tend to not go on my phone
much until I'm in bed at night, and Alicia of
a theme. Yeah, like that shows he's consistent. You know,
we love consistent King. It makes me question whether he
really likes me, even though I know it's just how
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he is. I'm definitely leaning more towards Josh because I'm
more attracted to him. But he's not giving me the
attention I want. Maybe it's not right. Should I stick
with the guy I'm more attracted to the one that
shows me more interest? Okay, definitely go for Josh. Give
it a go, Like what have you got to lose?
I know, like broken hearts whatever. You don't like the
other guys anything more than a friend, it seems, and
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you can like, oh, you got caught up for two
hours talking. I'd get caught up with my best friends
for two hours talking. That could just mean like, this
guy is a really good friend and like will be
a really great friend to you in the future.
Speaker 3 (23:21):
You know, just.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
Because you get along with him does not mean he
has to be a guy that you date.
Speaker 3 (23:27):
Yeah, he can be a new friend.
Speaker 2 (23:28):
And obviously attraction first, Like while I'm reading this and
this is paper to us, like Sam probably does sound
good on paper, ever.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Sounds great, But he can be a really good friend.
He doesn't have to be your guy because you don't
view him like that.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
And like your problem slash speed bumps with Josh, they're fixable.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
It's so fixible and that's so new to be honest, Like,
wait till you catch up with him in person? Maybe
once he meets you, he'll form more of an interest
in you, and then he therefore will be better at
responding because he's like, hey, I could really like this girl,
but for now, maybe he doesn't feel like giving up
all of his time in the day to respond to
someone that he doesn't yet know. If you know it's
going to be something, I think you just need to
take its low and see how you go with the
(24:09):
guy that you're interested in.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
Yeah, And I think we all want this like constant
communication thing happening really and.
Speaker 3 (24:17):
Get that unless it's a partner.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
But like this doesn't sound really genuine, but you also
run out of material to talk to them about, like
you kind of do want a drip feed yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Thing reply really quickly, and I'm like, I'm not ready
to respond to you because I actually don't know what
to say. And the more we talk, the more we
talk about, the less we have to talk about, like
less stuff we have left.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
Yeah, And dare I say there will come a day
where you're probably going to not want to be communicating
all the time on the phone either. Like I think
we all go through different stages, Like I very much
used to be like that. Now people in my life.
I just want people that can catch up with every
two weeks and nothing change.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
I think the fact he's responding so much at night
is great. Yeah, because he's interested. People don't respond regularly
at all if they're not. Like if I'm not interested
in someone, I will like text them once a day
and slow goos them until they stopped texting me.
Speaker 3 (25:08):
I'm never actually someone that can straight up be like
I'm no, I don't like you, and I.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
Tend not to ignore people either until I've done a nice, solid.
Speaker 3 (25:15):
Week long slogos. Then I'll ignore.
Speaker 1 (25:17):
I think he seems interested, Just catch up with him,
see how it goes. Once he's actually like developed feelings
or interest, I think it will be different. But you
can't expect too much out of someone this early on.
I think what he's giving you right now is proportionate
to the situation.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (25:34):
Totally? But keep us posted.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
He posted. I want to know how it goes, and
you're not going to end know with's.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
Am Yeah, and please film this because it's the summer
I turn pretty's ending. Else we need a new triangle.
Speaker 3 (25:47):
Help me out.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
Hey, I'm in a bit of a tricky situation that
could really use an outside perspective. My friend Lucy and
I have been planning a six month trip to UK
next year to work and travel so fun. From the start,
my plan was that it would just be the two
of us, a fun, independent, single girls adventure. We were
both in relationships at the time, but we agreed it
would be a girl's only trip and if our boyfriends
wanted to visit in the middle, that would be fine,
(26:10):
but the core of it was always meant to be
the two of us. Having that experience together sounds great.
I feel like it's not going to end up like
that now things have changed. I recently went through a breakup,
so I'm single and Lucy has told me she wants
her boyfriend to come for the whole trip. No, Lucy,
I don't agree with that, especially now that you're single.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
It's a totally different ballgame.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
Absolutely, her boyfriend can still visit, but no, no, that
is just not then who are you going to go
out with and have drinks with. You're going to be
literally on your own. Basically, you might as well not go.
I know, we'll silly, but.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
Yeah, but it now becomes their experience as a couple.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
And something, and they're going to want to have date
nights and like, you know, it's just it's a totally
different experience because she's now going to have two people there.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
I'm honestly thrown.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
This completely changes the DNA of two girls leaving a
broad adventure to me third Willie and a couple for
six months.
Speaker 3 (27:04):
That is not what I signed up for.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
I brought it up to her and a response was
just a brief I'm sorry, but he wants to come.
I feel kind of portrayed, like we had a clear
plan and now it's being rewritten without much consideration for
how it affects me.
Speaker 3 (27:15):
What should I do? Girl?
Speaker 1 (27:19):
I either think, I know, you want to be with
your friend, but like, at this rate, it's either looking
like you may as well do a solo travel abroad
or not do it at all, because like.
Speaker 3 (27:29):
Put it this way.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
I went on a holiday to New York for a
month with Hannah. There was just us two initially we
were both single. She then gets a boyfriend. Yeah, fine,
absolutely happy for her, but she was still was like,
let's just go together, you know, And it was fine
and it was great. And it's like because her boyfriend
wasn't there. It meant the attention was still on me,
you know what I mean. We're going out together, we're
doing early things. Her boyfriend ended up surprising us and
(27:54):
coming over. I love her boyfriend and I've known him
for like fifteen years, so it was fine. But then
even in that little way, it kind of it does
end up you being a little bit of a third will,
you know. When they did their utmost never to make
me feel like that, But bottom line is it ends
up like that.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
Yeah, and they're excited to see each other.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
And that was a week. Yeah, and by the end
of the week it was like that. Kind I ended
up feeling more and more like a third will. No
hate to Hannah or her partner. Adore them both, and
it's but it's just the way that things go. And
I know that they were actively trying to make it
not like that, but that's reality. This is a six
month holiday. I can promise to you that by week three,
you're pretty much they're gonna stop caring that you feel
(28:31):
like a third will, because they're.
Speaker 3 (28:32):
Like, we're enjoying this holiday together.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
I also, I don't like that there wasn't a conversation
or a consideration, and that she doesn't seem to understand
where you're coming from or have any like empathy towards
how you would be feeling, especially since you have just
gone through a breakup. But like I'm honestly telling you
that is not going to be an enjoyable trip for
you and really sorry to say that. And the fact
there's no flax, like okay, maybe he joins this halfway
(28:56):
through or like comes for two months in the middle.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
In the first month we travel around while he stays
at bed.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
Honestly, what's even the fucking point of going abroad with
a partner?
Speaker 3 (29:07):
Six? Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (29:07):
It's like you guys wanted to be like kind of
almost finding yourself sort of sitch totally, which isn't going
to happen in the setting you're in.
Speaker 2 (29:15):
No, And like I don't like to speak in totals
or like when someone writes in say dump them or
don't do this, yeah, do this, But like I think
this trip's a really big investment, and like I've always
wanted to go to Europe. I want to go on
a holiday there next year. It has to be everything
you wanted to be, Otherwise you were throwing money away.
You were going to have so much resentment towards your friends.
Speaker 1 (29:37):
It's gonna end up sucking the friendship. Yeah, yeah, I
honestly think potentially trying to maybe find someone else that
would want to come with you, that you can say
like another friend and you can stay with them. And
if that girl and her partners are still going to
go great, you can meet up with them, you can
get dinners with them, go out with them. But you
have another girl with you that is going to be
(29:58):
living that fun single adventure with She doesn't even need
to be single, but like just her partner not there
living that adventure with you. I think, yeah, you either
need to add someone else or potentially reconsider the trip
because I do think if Lucy's not willing to at
least not be with her partner the whole time, You're
going to end up probably not enjoying yourself as much.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
As you would.
Speaker 2 (30:20):
Yeah, and it's not the idea.
Speaker 3 (30:22):
Can absolutely grow from oh my.
Speaker 2 (30:24):
God, totally and it's like not the result you wanted.
But I think actually to give yourself the trip that
you want and like.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
Either add another girl and stay separately, or see if
you can get Lucy to flex a little bit on
her boyfriend being there the whole time. So at least
you have a couple of months maybe where you can
enjoy that experience with her.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Yeah, keep his posted, all right.
Speaker 1 (30:48):
Help me out, hey, babe. I absolutely love the party.
I need some relationship advice. I feel very blessed that
you guys trust me with your relationship advice when I'm
so fucking seriously single.
Speaker 3 (30:58):
Like people can always give good.
Speaker 2 (30:59):
Advice, they just follow it totally. That's me.
Speaker 3 (31:02):
So what I tell you I probably wouldn't do.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
I've been with my current boyfriend for three years and
I think he might be the one. He's so loving
and always supportive. The only issue is his dad absolutely
hates me.
Speaker 3 (31:16):
No matter what I do.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
He always finds something to criticize, and he even tries
to talk badly about me to my partner. My partner
defends me, but I struggle with the thought of having
to deal with this for the rest of my life.
Speaker 2 (31:26):
What do I do?
Speaker 1 (31:28):
The sad reality is you don't marry the man, you
marry the family. A lot of the time, I have
had an ex's parent not particularly like me, and it
was brutal, and I think the thing that helped me
was that, Yeah, my partner did defend me have my back,
and I think that's great. But you always do worry
(31:50):
that there might come a time where they stop doing that,
or where.
Speaker 3 (31:53):
Something gets into their head.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
I really wish I had an answer for you, but
I think as long as you communicate with your partner
and you know that they're still defending you and helping you,
like I don't think you should make any hectic decisions
based off a parent if he is the person that
you love and the person that you want to be with,
like I wouldn't. I almost would wonder if it's worth
(32:17):
like having a fucking sit down and kind of getting
to the bottom of it and maybe being open and
honest if it is someone that you want to be
with forever, like down the line, you know, try and
maybe get rid of some of that animal city or
at least understand where it's coming from and why he
feels that way.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
But yeah, and three years is a long time, like
yeas not like it's a third month and they you know,
it can develop into something more.
Speaker 1 (32:41):
And I'm sure your partner's probably having conversations privately with
his dad talking about like can you stop, do you
know what I mean? Especially like if you say proposes
one day or you know, the dad's look, the Dad's
gonna have to fucking get on board. But I'd say
having somewhat of a conversation about it, which I know
seems wanting and like unrealistic, but I honestly don't really know.
Speaker 2 (33:04):
Yeah, And I don't think there's a perfect answer. But
what I would say is I feel like, if it
wasn't a bad relationship with the dad, it's probably gonna
be a best friend that you absolutely hate or a
sister of his that has a crutch all the time.
Speaker 1 (33:18):
And it's not him, and he seems to be doing
everything right.
Speaker 2 (33:21):
Yeah, And like with the sitting down and chatting to
the father, I think I actually might disagree with it.
I'm a feeling she's not the problem. It's probably something it.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
Probably is, But I feel like there's almost a way
of if you confront the behavior, they kind of realize
they're doing it and tend to not do it, do
you know what I mean? Like people when they feel
like they're getting away with things, they continue.
Speaker 2 (33:42):
Yeah, And Dad's like they can be stubborn.
Speaker 1 (33:45):
Though we all know the older generation, the boomers of
the world, are very stuck in their fucking ways. So
I almost think it needs to be brought to his
attention in a way that makes him realize that people
are aware of it and that kind of needs.
Speaker 2 (34:00):
Yeah, and maybe in a safe way for you, like.
Speaker 3 (34:03):
Your partner, Yeah, with his mum and dad hamball that one. Yeah,
it give it to them. Well, I'm I don't know.
Speaker 1 (34:12):
Sticking that, like, give it a go, stay there, don't
If your partner's amazing, stay with your partner.
Speaker 3 (34:18):
Just I'm sure you know.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
Some people end up not fucking having any relationships with
their parents and they're older.
Speaker 2 (34:23):
Yeah, well that's the thing I almost said, Like, I
have a close relationship with my family, but my parents
split and I lived away from both of them at
different times of my childhood. So I'm actually okay not
being right next to my family or very close.
Speaker 1 (34:39):
I feel like for some people as you get older,
the parents aren't just tend to not be around as much.
Speaker 3 (34:44):
Therefore matter as much.
Speaker 1 (34:46):
This is your life that you're building with this person,
and if the parents aren't supportive, I'm sure down the
line they probably won't be as much a part of
things as they were now, you know.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
Yeah, and then it just becomes something you have to
swallow every Christmas.
Speaker 1 (34:59):
Like I can tell you fucking now, my parents hate
each other's parents. They hate them, so it happens, and
yes they article that's not your Sorry all right, girlies
and guys and gays. That was part two of you'll
(35:19):
help me out. Thank you for interesting me with your dilemmas.
Next week it will be a fun one. I'm getting
Riley and Tessa her girlfriend on. We will have all
just been in New Zealand together, so we're gonna do
a little post trip story time update, tell you everything
that happened, and it will be really I'm really good.
Speaker 3 (35:42):
I'm really excited.
Speaker 1 (35:43):
So guys, you will have three guests on next week
and we will all be chatting to you and I
can't wait. Bye, enjoy the Summertime'm pretty
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