October 15, 2025 • 36 mins
Oh hey girlies!! I'm back in the studio with producer Blakey & we're coming at you with a bunch of Hear Me Out's before we help you out with some of your dilemmas and conundrums. There's trauma from an influencer boyfriend, a helicopter in-law, our first listener update from a past 'Help Me Out' and more! I love doing these with you each week and can't wait for next ep! Xxx
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Fast forward a be and Max confesses to my boyfriend
that he and Sarah had been hooking up behind our backs.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
I was shocked.
Speaker 3 (00:05):
Sadly, I'm not pokies.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
I'm still trying to figure out my weekly introduction to
say hello to you guys, you know.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
How, like.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
You know how like people call I don't think I'm
not there yet, but like, you know, why not manifest
that it becomes so big that I get to call
you a fun name, you know how, like Lucy and
Nikki call them the punchs.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Like I want a call name, Blake. What's a cool name?
Speaker 2 (00:36):
We need to work? Call them audis the Audi Audi belly?
Speaker 3 (00:41):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Or it makes you sound like the belly butter Yeah,
which isn't it's not it? Yeah, I don't want to
be an autie. No call her daddy has daddy gang,
But I don't like the word.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
I think gang. It's like, what's daddy gang? It's like
calling you guys like girls squad? Yeah, what's up? Daddy gang? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Not it. I was going to like to hear me
out hooligans for that's all right.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
We're gonna pass that handle that off to you guys. Please,
what's new in my life. I have Jackie Alexander's Hens
this weekend, which is going to be clazy. If anyone's
ever seen Jackie and I on a night out together,
it's it's a scene.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
And can we like draw back the curtain a little bit. Yeah,
we're hoping to get a recording in some scheduling dramas.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
So hopefully we can get to miss Jackie on for
an episode.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
It'll probably be the next week's episode.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Yeah, you'll be able to put your timerround.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
And we can give you guys a rundown of what
actually happened. But we're going to be sitting there with
a bottle of wine because I feel like I have
to bribe her to be like, I'm really sorry, you
need to come on my podcast. Here's a bottle of wine.
But then we'll be able to tell you everything that happened.
And I can't fucking wait. There's themed nights. I have
spent more money on than I would have my own birth.
(02:00):
They're trying to find good outfits for this event. But
it's gonna be great and I can't fucking wait. I
also have a crush.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Oh wow, Hello.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Hello, No, Hello, that sounded like James Charles. Hello, you
know what I'm talking about?
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Yeah, yeah, Cardi b Win, she's in court.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
Hello, I didn't hear that. Hang on, I've got to
play the James Charles one.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
We're in Africa and I got a frozen brown elephant,
which is Coca Cola. Hello, Coca Cola. Hello.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Anyway, I don't really have much else to say yet, like,
nothing interesting to update you guys with yet. I just
happened to have a crush right now and that's really
fun because I never have one.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Am I allowed to like ask questions? Okay?
Speaker 3 (02:53):
Anyway, that's all. That's my update.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
I just I have a crush and it's exciting and
it's fun, and well it's not exciting because fucking things happening,
but it just gives me something fun to think about. Anyway,
we have some funny hymiots, which is why we've got
like on mic again. I am really for you guys
trying to solo record, but it's not fun, do you
(03:16):
know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Like, I know people like, oh, he doesn't even have
a podcast.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
And bear in mind, I don't know how many people
have said that, and there's maybe like one or two
and it like catches on my mind, Like my brain's
really fucking ticking quickly today.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
I feel it.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
But I'm like, they're like, oh, like is he she
doesn't even really have her own podcast because look, she's
never like on her own, But I feel like to
produce the best and most interesting content.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
For you guys, it's nice to have someone to bounce off.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
So it's like, and I have like sitting in front
of me all the time, and it's like talking to
myself without him responding isn't as fun.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
No, And we make eye contacts so many times.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
I'm like, come on, yeah, so I'm trying, but I'm like,
I wouldn't know if you guys mind if it's like
a But then it's like the podcast is basically I
is I and Blake. I need to get you on
the cover back at this rate. Fuck Okay, there's where
the problem comes in because you go and wanted to
do something on her own and doesn't seem like she
(04:15):
can and.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
I absolutely can. I just think it's a reaction based
show and it's conversational. Yeah, and you very much leader,
But like how fun is it to react to yourself? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (04:27):
And it's like people send him funny hear me out
funny stories. It's like, I don't want to be all
shocked on my own. I like having someone to be
shocked with.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
Anyway.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Blake has had this hear me out and he's texting
me about it. I reckon two weeks ago and has
been holding onto it, and I said, don't tell me,
don't tell me.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
I want to hear it while.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
I've been brewing. All right, hear me out. Yeah, I
will never change a car tire. Ever, why would you? Well,
like we got taught it in school? Why didn't really? No,
in Pe, I got taught well kind of we had
to do like homework. I think I was an assignment
(05:03):
and like you and I what the fun? We had
to take photos of ourself doing it. So I just
let my dad do it and like and like little
not out of the closet. Yet I was like, let's
swap and you take the photo and protect.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
You know, we didn't learn that.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
So I couldn't change a tire if you asked me
to because I haven't learned.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
How to do it. But like everyone is expected to know.
I think that is day no.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
I can say.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
I don't even reckon the boys schools in my area,
I would have learned how to change a tire.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Well, that's validating. I came from the country, so I'm like,
maybe that's I know for sure the girls schools didn't.
But no. It was absolutely like insinuated that everyone should
know how to change the car tire and if you're
in that situation, you can fix it.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
But I would hope that whoever I end up dating,
if we break down on the side of.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
The road, knows how to change the tire.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
And if they said no, we have to call it
toe guy, I'll be like, dude, really, I've just dried.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Up, shameful for you.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
For you, Why didn't you learn it in school?
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Yeah? No, it just never sat right with me. I
didn't even care. Do you think it makes a difference
that you're gay? Yeah, I think I can get it.
I'm like, I think I can get away with it
a bit more. Yeah then the average Joe, the straight.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
I want to know if straight men feel similarly about like,
fuck that I'm not changing attire.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Yeah, and if you do, I'll validate you till the
couch come home.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
That's what I think I want to know, because I
think there could be variables female and a gay guy. Yeah,
we don't want to fucking touch that shit. Like all
the girls were putting the snow chains. Sorry, that was
a really big generalization. I just know that Blake doesn't
want to touch you. When we were going up the
mountain in New Zealand and we had to get snow chains,
(06:49):
the girls are taking the snow chains on that we
didn't put them on because we couldn't do it ourselves.
When we had to come back down the mountain, there
was no one there, so we had to take them off.
Speaker 3 (06:56):
You best believe I stood watch.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
I just stood watch. I'll make sure no one comes.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
Tessa, Riley and Chrissy all lesbians, very much well on
their hands and knees changing those snow chains. I was
standing back with my gloves on, making sure that everything
was going smoothly.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
Yeah, like, move forward a little bit, moved back a
little bit.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
I'm like, you don't need three got four girls to
take snow chain off.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Too many cooks in, too many cooks in the kitchen.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
I will stand back.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
But like I had no desire, no instinct, and none
of them asked me to do it.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
They were all just like, we'll do it.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Yeah, yeah, they just knew. My thing is, I'm surprised
Chrissy got down in there. I think. My thing is,
I just find it dangerous to expect me to change
a car.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Tire and then start driving on it with.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Other drivers around. I'm like, okay, could put my life
at risk, but God knows who I'm on the road with, Like,
I can't be expected to let my tire run loose
on the road.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
I'm being completely honest with you.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I don't think I've ever successfully filled my tire with air.
I only learned, like I reckon four months ago because
I had, like, I had a signal on my car
that said, like, your tire, one of the back tire
is flat, and I left it for nine months. I'm
not joking you, because when I think, oh it's got
a little bit the air pressures off, I think it's
(08:12):
not flat. There's just a little bit less error there,
like all as well. And then some man like banged
on my door while I was parked around with like
your back tire is like really flat, girl, Like you
need to fix that, and.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
I'm like that's what.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Yeah, So I booked in to get a change, and
then I was like, I really shouldn't be driving around
on this anymore, even though I have been doing so.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
I FaceTime my mom.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
I was in like a white track suit set and
I'm like, it was raining and I filled up.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
With air, but then the signal never went off.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
So I'm like, I don't even think I did that right,
and I've done it twice now and then the signal
just stays on.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
So I'm like, I think I'm just not doing it correctly.
But I don't need to. I just need to find
a boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Literally, I get to do this all and on to
my next point. I hope you relate to this, otherwise
I would just sound dumb. Yeah, you know, I don't.
I'm nervous. You know the water that you like clean
your windows with in your car, the front water. Mine's
been out for a long time.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Yeah, I wouldn't fill it out myself. My dad fills
it up for me. But it's like it will be
out for a while, but then it's like if the
windowscreen gets really dirty, I'll be like, Dad, don't need.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Mine's so dirty right now, Like of a morning I'm driving,
I'm like, I don't really.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Know, right, Like my dad wants me to learn like
he's like, come and watch me do this. I have
watched him do it. Did I retain any of that information?
Speaker 2 (09:31):
No? No, And then I'm scared, here comes today. I
need to do it, and I put water in the
oil path or something I.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Feel like from recollection it's actually quite visually obviously, yeah
I don't.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
But I'm like, what do I just put pump a couple.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
That bad boy?
Speaker 3 (09:48):
Like?
Speaker 2 (09:49):
I don't have that shit.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
This is why I like, yeah, I maybe do need
a man in my life. I can do a lot
of things on my own, and I have been doing so,
and I'm very blessed and lucky that my dad will
help me. But I'm like, I would like to have
a boyfriend that I can just be like, hey mate,
it's empty, fill it up, please.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Thank you. We can't do it all. We can't, and
I do so much.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
I go past her every night.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
This is sparked of really random memory, but I remember
actually Christina posted a TikTok one especially it's one of
my favorite video. She praanked her girlfriend Leash, pretending she
put olive.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
Oil olive oil into the oil in the car, and
the funny thing was she's actually got these olive oil
bottles with her so she could FaceTime her partner. She
committed her the actual olive oil was empty, like just
in their house. I asked her about all of this
because when I was sharing a room with her in
New Zealand, I spent our recond three hours going through
the playlist where she pranks her girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
It's my favorite, it's my.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
Favorite thing ever. It's actually really funny.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
You should look at it.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
And she's got garlic and chili olive oil with her too,
and was like, oh, this one run out, so I
put a little bit of this one in there too,
like and lish she's like the way she's such a
good actress with it, like it's not break.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
At all, and like she keeps the laughs quiet.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
Yeah, she barely even laughs. And then lee She's like,
do not fucking drive that car. You've ruined it. You've
ruined it. It goes up for like four minutes. It's
really funny, So I think you should watch it.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
You're hear me out though, oh my, hear me out.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
It's a bit of a it's running off what I
heard someone say on a podcast recently. I don't remember
what podcast it was, Anyway, This girl was on this
podcast and she said all men should be born into
prison and have to prove themselves out.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Damn thoughts, I like that you're a man. Yeah, but
he'll prove himself out, oh within minutes. All the moms
love me. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
I think it's a bit hectic to have then a
child like obviously, this is where imagining, yes the case, okay,
guys to be born into prison, in order to have
to prove yourself out, you would have to like grow
up a little bit, meaning your first couple of years
of life or however long would be in prison.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
I don't think that that is reasonable.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
I think that at the age of like thirteen, they
get put into prison and they then have to do
a couple vigorous tests in order to either you stay
for the day and you do a bit of testing
and you get to leave, or you're in there then yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
My only like what I will poke holes in here
is yeah, they're then raised around solely other men, Like
we have shitty men in our lives.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
Now, that's what I'm saying. They're not raised around men.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
They're raised outside of I'm saying they should be raised
outside of prison, and then when they hit like yo,
they go to do some testing to decide whether they're
gone to be a problem, very rigorous AI testing. I
don't know what kind of tests you do to figure
out the AI testing, you know what I mean, Like
something that figures out like how their brain actually works
and whether they're going to be a problem when they're older.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
Yeah, like I.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Would say eighteen, but some teenage just funck shit up.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
So I'm like, they need to be a bit younger.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
And my kids are getting scarier.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
It's getting way scarier. I'm like, you should see photos.
Someone was a Legre's sister. She's not scary, this doesn't
but she has a boyfriend in the year above her
and she's in your six and no boyfriends in year seven,
and I'm like wow, Like she would be the talk
at the fucking town, like the coolest chick out, like
dating a boy in the year above.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
At that age, I.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Was wearing purple, fucking skin tight skinny jeans that had
to shine on them and a yellow long sleeved top
with a rose vest on.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
I remember it specifically in your seven.
Speaker 3 (13:30):
At that age, I'm like, the people the way that
they're growing up.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
Yeah, makeup. They all look like eighteen year old. No
they do.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
It's confusing for me, it's quite scary. I was lich,
I was like the biggest dork if you looked even
if you look at my photos when I'm fucking like
fifteen and I'm I'm like, ew, yeah, these girls, like
the fifteen year olds I see on TikTok, I'm like,
you look my age and you're hot.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
Yeah, not the boys. I mean the girls are hot
and mine is like your beautiful girl. Yeah. I just
think they're also so privileged with social media, like they
watched our older siblings or just.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
They see what looks good already because they.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
Have so much more access. Like what were we going
off what we liked on the latest TV show?
Speaker 1 (14:15):
Or like the and like they really dressed like Miley
Sarah's up like freak, like the shit that they wear
back in the day, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Like that's what we would base it.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
Off, like Hannah Montana, fucking I Carli God.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
I love those shows.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Take me back so when I could watch Victorious and
I Cali and Anamantanna all day. Okay, guys, so we
have actually an exciting little thing this week.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
Last time we did dilemmas.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
There was a dilemma with a girl and she was
working at a footy club and there was a guy
she really liked. She didn't know if he felt the
same or if it was just friendliness. And I think
I said to like, like one of his stories or
interact that way and see if you like ask questions
or something like that. I said, update, let me know
how you go. She's actually written us a continuation to
(15:03):
let us know how it all went. This is so fun.
This is the first time anyone's given us an update.
I love this shit.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
Yeah, people, please keep doing this. Thank you, even if
it turns into a new problem.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
Send us more problems the better girl. Okay, so this
is a follow up help me out.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
I wrote him for the first one about my crush
at the football club and have updates and need advice. Also,
I've decided to give him a name, as it's always
more fun like that, so let's call him Luke. So
it was presentation night on Saturday night, and it was
my first time seeing Luke since the season ended.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
I was very excited.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
Since I last wrote in, I had decided to back
away a little bit just because I think I was
scared of getting hurt. And then footy ended, so I
went from seeing Luke twice a week, sometimes three.
Speaker 2 (15:44):
To not at all.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
Anyway, I get to presentation night and he's complimenting me heaps.
Ah always compliments me and everything. It's clearly very flirty,
and honestly was so much fun.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
Dude, this boy likes you.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
He likes you.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
Oh no, like's giving me.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Eyes About midway through the night, Luke, Luke asks wait
about medwe through the night, Luke asked you to go
on the balcony with him, away from.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
Everyone, and when I went, he kissed me.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
I was so excited and happy and felt like I'd
achieved my mission. The rest of the night was full
of quick kisses, compliments, and so much fun.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
Dude.
Speaker 3 (16:19):
I have one of those nights the other night, and.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
It's actually so much fun. I love.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
I love when it's just like great, like you just
have like a buddy for the night.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
You know what I mean, A hobby for the night.
Speaker 3 (16:29):
Yeah, a hobby, said a buddy. But that's okay.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
I woke up the next morning after stumbling home from
kick ons at four am. You're only going once, right, girl,
I feel that I'm waking up feeling like it isn't real.
Here's my issue. I woke up and forgot about the
number of embarrassing texts I sent him on Snapchat. Girl,
I'm a drunk text I feel your fucking pain. Usually
it tends to happen with someone that I haven't seen, though,
(16:53):
Like I'm usually not luckily enough one that like will
follow up with someone I've just been with.
Speaker 3 (16:58):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (16:59):
It'll be someone I like want to be around and
they're not where I am.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
Mine's always someone from the past. It's just like nothing
against someone like we just don't need to catch up.
I'm like, yeah, I haven't heard from you for three years,
what's news?
Speaker 3 (17:13):
I know you hate Snapchat?
Speaker 2 (17:14):
I love. Everyone just knows I fucking hate and they apologize.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Yeah, girl, it's okay. And honestly, after this night, I
think I'm forever scarred. Let's just say the cool girl
who cares attitude.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
It was gone. I was being needy and annoying.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
I don't even remember sending the messages, and honestly, it's
so embarrassing I'm not even going to write them out.
I wonder if she can see them, because you know,
how Snapchat deletes messages. But now is it like a
twenty four hour thing where they stay unless you want
them to?
Speaker 2 (17:41):
Deley true, I think you can change that.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
You would almost prefer that they were gone, Like you
know that they were there and you know that they
were said, but you're like, I don't quite remember what
was said, So it's fine.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
Yeah, I think it's it also stays there so you
can like read it once. It's like, oh, yeah, I
sent that.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
See drunk text on Snapchat's probably a good shot because
it goes away.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
Yeah, but I sort of have woken up and like
write at once.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
Oh, when you're like kind of awake, you're like should
I wake up just yet? And then you check your
phone you're really hungover, and then you read like all
these I hate. There's nothing worse than me checking my
phone after a big night and then I'm like I
just put the phone down and I'm like, no, I'm
gonna sleep. Broke up on more else. I can't face
that just yet. We briefly chatted the next day and
he left me on open. I've talked to my friends
(18:23):
about it, and they're split. On one hand, we had
a great night Saturday, night. Maybe that's all it needed
to be. On the other hand, he did leave me
unopen unless he's also a snapchat hater. I'm also confused
because I think I like him, but clearly he isn't
interested in the same way. That's not true, that is
not clear, but in person it was a different vibe.
Some friends think maybe he's just not a textar, but
(18:44):
I'm a believer in that men of simple creatures and
if he wanted to text me he would. At presentation,
I didn't initiate everything. Every compliment was him. He leaned
him first to all of it. So I don't know
where to go from him. Also, I won't see him
again until next year when foot he starts fuck, so I'm.
Speaker 3 (18:58):
A bit unsure on what to do. Sorry for rambling.
Love you.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
Also, baby blue looks amazing on you, and I wanted
to pass.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
The compliment on that's so nice, and he did not
read that.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
That's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (19:07):
Everyone's yeah, I don't know why, but I always thought
green was more my color. But everyone I've been wearing
a lot of blue recently, and everyone's like, blue is
your colored?
Speaker 2 (19:14):
Girl, Baby blue girl, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
I don't think leaving someone on open is like a
huge problem some people. You know how there's I think
there's two types of conversations. There's either the ones that
just constantly continue on and you never really finish the convo,
do you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (19:29):
There's never any hello or goodbye or good night.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
It's just like I'll go to sleep now and I'll
respond to that in the morning. All those people that
have those chats that kind of start up and end
every do you know what I mean, that need to
be helloed and goodbye?
Speaker 3 (19:43):
I would say, don't just leave it there. He left
you on open.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
Oh yeah, it's kind of annoying, but like that happens
sometimes I leave people on open. But then if they
text you the next day, I'll respond. You know what
I mean, I'm just like done with that conversation for now.
I would definitely message him again and just see the
on that conversation because he's kissed you, he's lent in,
he's initiated it.
Speaker 3 (20:04):
Great.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
He was at his footy night. He could have had
a night with all the boys. No, he wanted to
have a night with you. And I feel like people don't.
Speaker 3 (20:10):
Boys are fucked though, Like it's like there's those things
where it's like, oh, they'll be like, we'll be lying
in bed and they'll give me four head kisses and
then they just like, won't ever text me ever again.
I'm like, I actually don't really know, but I would say,
don't leave it here. You need to at least try
and initiare another conversation. See how it goes from there.
If he's replying, if he's asking questions.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
I do not think there's any shame in a girl
saying would you want to get a drink? No, Sometimes
the boy might not know you're interested, might not know
you want to. Like I have asked boys out many
a times, I have no fucking shame in it. I
think it's attractive and confident and like sometimes they might
not think that I would want to go, so they're
not gonna ask me, you know what I mean. So
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I think just text him again, see if it flows.
See if he's asking you questions to continue the conversation,
and if you want to get a drink with the boy,
fucking ask him. And if he says, oh, well, you're
back to what you started, you know what I mean.
At this point, you've got nothing to lose because you're
contemplating even not messaging him again. So so what if
one more conversation ends in being left on open. It's
like boohoo, doesn't matter.
Speaker 2 (21:11):
Yeah, And I get it stings a little bit it
does be left on rad. But I think he needed
more from him than he needed from you in that moment,
because you were anxious, you were worried about what you said.
He might even be sweating it. He just had a
great night with you, and he's like, what's the issue?
Probably hungover as well, Probably hung over. Yeah, just message
him again, please and send another update follow up?
Speaker 3 (21:32):
Thank Hi? Is I and Blake A.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
Been loving the podcast recently and I've been wanting to
submit this to eleven for a while but it was
too nervying. Thank you for overcoming the nerves. So basically,
a few months ago, my two best friends, let's call
them Bella and Sarah, met these two guys, my now
boyfriend and Max.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
His best friend.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
Okay, Bella and Max hit it off right away, and
so did my now boyfriend and me. So there's three
girls in the picture, her and two of her best friends,
then this chick's boyfriend and the best friend Max.
Speaker 3 (22:07):
Yeah, we'd hang out all the time.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
Vibe was great, and we've all bonded over our first
relationships together, which brought Bella and me even closer as friends.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
It was like the perfect little squad.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
Everything seemed great for a while, but then Sarah and
Max started hanging out without the rest of us.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
I thought Bella and Max hit it off.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
They absolutely did. They did read it.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
At first, we didn't think much of it. We just
figured they're becoming closer. But Bella and I couldn't help
but notice the late night text and how they'd go
out without us. Bruh, Max is dodgy, go find someone
outside of the friendship group mate. We didn't want to
jump to conclusions, especially with how close we all were,
but we trusted the girl code because there was no
way anything bad could happen.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
Right fast forward.
Speaker 1 (22:50):
A bit and Max confesses to my boyfriend that he
and Sarah had been hooking up behind our backs.
Speaker 3 (22:54):
I was shocked, sadly, I'm not.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
We in front of them immediately, and they swore up
and down it wouldn't happen again. We tried to move
past it for the sake of our group, especially protect Bella.
Our first mistake looking back, we should have just ended
things then. So my understanding is a Bella and maxa
in a relationship.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
That's what I think as well.
Speaker 1 (23:17):
But this is that's there's no fucking way I'm letting
my boyfriend hang out with Sarah alone and go out alone.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
And late night text. Yeah, where's call me crazy? But no,
I'm like, when is Bella throwing hands yet? Right?
Speaker 3 (23:30):
Good night, Sarah? All right.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
A few months later, Bella overhears Sarah talking to another
friend and she lets it sleep that she and Max
are still seeing each other secretly, even though Bella was
still with Max. Okay, so Max is just so Bella
and Max out together?
Speaker 2 (23:44):
Bella girl, wake up her knees leger.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
Naturally, the truth came crashing down. It was a complete mess,
and we haven't spoken to Sarah since. Bella and I
are still close. Good Here's the thing that's bothering me though,
Max and my boyfriend are still best friends, and I
can't get over what he did Tobella. Some people have
told me to just forgive him and let it go,
after all, it's been a while, and I just don't
know if I can. It's an awkward situation for my
boyfriend too, because he feels torn between me and his
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best friend. Sometimes I feel like I'm forcing him to
pick sides. But I just can't be around Max. After
everything that's happened, It's getting harder to avoid, and I
feel bad for my boyfriend. Some say it's time to
move on, but other people think I shouldn't have to.
Speaker 3 (24:23):
What should I do?
Speaker 1 (24:24):
It's like, no matter what I decide, someone's gonna be hurt.
Someone is gonna be hurt. But I think getting in
between boyfriendships is not wise, Like you need to just
let your boyfriend be friends with Max. Boys just stupid,
Like do you know what I mean? You can't get
in between that. I'd say, maybe try and avoid being
around Max if you can, But if it's like a
group setting, you're just gonna have to maybe be there
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and kind of just not really give Max much time
of day, you.
Speaker 3 (24:49):
Know what I mean? I do agree. I've had it
happen to me before.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
It is brutal when my friend is all like hanging
out in a group setting with my ex because of
another guy, and like they're in photos together and I'm like, dude,
he fucking cheated on me, Like why are you hanging
out with him. I think time heals all wounds, so
eventually she will move on and find something.
Speaker 3 (25:11):
Like not be so upset about it.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
I just think, move on with your life, hang out
with your boyfriend, and try and give Max as little
time of day as you can. And I wouldn't say
you necessarily need to forgive him and be friends with him,
but you can be in a vicinity with.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
Him, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
I don't exactly have the answer, because I do agree,
like it's hard to get in between two guy best
friends because.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Your boyfriend you're gonna have issues. I think if you're
gonna be like pick one.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
Yeah, and it's just like disappointingly. I just don't think
manner is open to like interrogating things and talking things through.
So that's why we're walking with an attitude of oh,
I just don't even get between us, Like.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
The boyfriend probably hasn't Like no, he has never even
asked him why he did it, do you know what
I mean? Boys don't even dig into yeah. So I
just feel like your boyfriend would know how you feel
about Max. Great, hopefully you're not around each other in
two close quarters like he's not inviting Max over when
you're there. But I think if you're in group settings,
you kind of just need it avoid just keep the
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peace with Bella by like not being best friends with him.
I think if you forgive him and all of a
sudden you're really friendly with him, yet it's can I hurt.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
I think the only other thing I'll add is you're
not wrong. And I understand like the feeling of being
around him and a feeling so wrong literally only because
I've got slight experience with this. Don't view it as
I simply don't like him because he screwed it over
my friends. Because when I've experienced with guys like that,
I'm like, I don't want you in my group. And
then you meet a girl friend of mine because you're
going to do the exact same to her. So I
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think it's fine to feel that towards him. Simply.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
Yeah, I just think try and keep friendship distance, but
like you can be around him for the sake of
your boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (26:46):
I think, just hang in there, girl, Hazy.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
I love your style, your energy, and your aura keep shining, girl.
Speaker 3 (26:52):
Thank I love it. I love the sound of all
of these.
Speaker 1 (26:56):
They make me feel so good. I'm just a girl
from the suburb. SAME's this who earlier this year was
seeing someone in the public eye.
Speaker 2 (27:04):
Oh who who.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
I really cared about him and loved being with him,
and when it was just the two of us at
his place, eating ice cream in the bartub and dancing
in his bedroom, sounds really cute.
Speaker 3 (27:16):
But I feel like he's gonna end up being an arsle.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
After a few months of being completely exclusive, I'll call
him Will. He suddenly had to go to America one
day and he told me he couldn't be exclusive anymore. Yeah,
asked how I felt if he kissed someone else I
knew he meant slept with Yeah, he probably did. And
then I said, he has every right to do that,
and I have every right to leave, and if he
did that, I would leave.
Speaker 3 (27:39):
Slay girl.
Speaker 1 (27:41):
He even asked if I would essentially wait around for
him to cheat on me, but I ended things right there, Yeah,
because it's like, oh, well, you're just gonna come tell
me one day that hey, I've cheated on you, and
you know I'm going to end it.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
So basically therefore, he's not going to tell you, and
he'll keep me around until then.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
Like I know, he'll just like basically with me until
I've cheated on you.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
Do you know what I mean? No, so good job girl.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
Two days later, he's hanging out with an influencer at
a major event. Four days later, he's in America with
an of influencer at sex parties. Why when you break
up with him do they turn into some fucking sex addicted.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
Whole They're like, I'm not going to peck her.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
I'm gonna fuck her, and I'm gonna do it everywhere. Yeah,
and all of them at the same time met I
was pretty heartbroken. Fair enough, Just a couple of weeks ago,
I met someone incredible who I really like. He laughs
at my silly stories. We connect over music, fashion, art,
and family. Unfortunately, he's also in the public eye just
for a visual representation. This man has a hundred times
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more followers than me. Who cares, girl, you'll sew the catch.
He's gone overseas for three weeks, and although we've just met,
he's booked for us dinner for when he gets back.
Speaker 3 (28:49):
I'm not naive.
Speaker 1 (28:50):
I know he's going to be sleeping around overseas because
we only just met and he's attractive and somewhat famous.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
You know what I would never even assume.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
Though maybe I'm a lover girl.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
But I'm like, sometimes if you like someone, you don't
want to do that other stuff, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
I think outside of the scene as well, And it's
not because I'm a part of it. I just work bts.
I think there's a lot of assumptions of how social
people are.
Speaker 3 (29:13):
Going to happen more when people aren't in the public eye.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
Yeah, like nobody's I think there's a lot more of
a risk with people with profile like yea if they
are to do those things. But also like the insinuation
that like everyone's extra added and always like these parties.
It's not exactly like that. So I wouldn't stress. But
I understand the trauma of like the.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
People that I know that aren't in the public eye
sleep like they get like it happened, they get around more,
you know what I mean. So I don't think that
that's an assumption you should make in three weeks, Like
if he likes you, I don't even think you have to.
Speaker 2 (29:47):
I wouldn't worry about that.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
Like I go to Europe for like four months, I
don't sleep with anyone. Every time I've gone to America,
I don't see with anyone, do you know what I mean? Like,
I'm there to be with my girls, but I am
a female, so we'll see. It brought up old feelings
of not being enough and I truly want to end
things to save myself and feeling worthless again. I'm asking
you this because you're self aware and grounded.
Speaker 2 (30:08):
You're probably the worst person that's ever said that.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
Should I let this go and be happy with myself
until I find someone more low key? Or is it
worse worth pushing past my anxiety and trouble from the past.
Your past is not your future. Just because that guy
did it does not mean this guy is going to
be the same. If you like this man, absolutely wait
until you see him when he gets back. If the
feelings are still there, great, do you know what I mean?
Just go off how you're feeling. Don't end something because
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of the fear that something might happen, Like, there's no
point ever stopping doing something because of the fear of
what might happen. You'd rather have loved and lost than
never have loved at all. And I honestly feel like,
if you like this guy, like, three weeks is no
fucking time he's already booked dinner, seeing when he gets
back and seeing how you're feeling. Man, duh, come on, girl,
don't sell yourself for.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
All.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
Right, here's the situation. I have a Stage five clinger
of a mother in law. Mother in law is a
fucking tricky business. I want her son to move States
with me. For context, I'm twenty one and I've been
with my boyfriend for three and a half years now.
We live in a small country town and both still
live at home. I'm planning on moving States next year,
and I would like him to move with me. I've
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mentioned the idea of moving to him a few times
and never really get a solid response. With his parents
finding out that I'm moving, I now hear comments like
you're leaving me, you're stealing him, You're never gonna come home.
Typical helicopter parent bullshit. I agree, like, there comes a
point where your parents have to let the fucking kids
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fly the nest.
Speaker 3 (31:37):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (31:37):
Is that the saying yeah, I think it's kind of wrong.
I really hate getting saying wrong anyway, don't.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
I'm actually going to Google in real time because it's
annoying me. Yeah, leave the fly the coop.
Speaker 3 (31:53):
What is flying the nest mean forre young person to
leave their home?
Speaker 2 (31:56):
I was right, what Coop is?
Speaker 3 (31:58):
It's both. It's like it's two saying.
Speaker 2 (32:00):
Oh, Cooper's like restrictive situation. Yeah, Cooper's like, deep.
Speaker 3 (32:07):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (32:07):
Like, I'm planning on going to New York next year.
My Dad's like, holy fucking shit, what am I gonna do?
I'm gonna have to come visit you. But he's like,
if that's what you want to do, that's what you
want to do. The problem is when you're moving for
a relationship, I think makes it slightly different than your
parents are, like do you actually want to go or
do they just.
Speaker 2 (32:25):
Want to go? I think that's maybe And I know
it's not her parent, but I think it is a parent.
Like I've moved away from my parents several times. Yeah,
and it's like there have been times where they've disagreed,
they've had concerns, but like, as a parent, it is
your responsibility as well to like keep that in.
Speaker 3 (32:40):
And let your kid grow.
Speaker 1 (32:41):
Yeah, you know, and if he wants to move, then
they should she should shut up.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
Yeah, And it feels a little evil saying it in
front of like the girl friend.
Speaker 3 (32:49):
Yeah, you're never gonna come home, You're leaving me, You're
stealing him?
Speaker 2 (32:52):
Is fucking that's bad.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
I'm at this point now, I'm looking at rentals and
packing up my life to move somewhere new. Part of
me wants to pull the ice here for you card,
but I don't want to come across his toxic I
think that's wise. I stayed in the same town we
went to school in for him, whilst all my friends
have now moved away. Even if he does want to
move with me, I'm afraid his mother will throw a
tantrum leading him to change his mind. How do I
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approach this with him without it sounding like I'm completely
bagging his mom out?
Speaker 2 (33:19):
He already knows I'm not the biggest fan.
Speaker 1 (33:22):
I think you need to approach it without mentioning her
to her at all, Like do you want to move
with me?
Speaker 3 (33:28):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (33:29):
Like you need to find out if this boy wants
to move country, wants to move states with you, because
I feel like moving for someone and then not wanting
to be there can lead to resentment and issues in
a relationship. So I feel like step one is finding
out whether he wants to move with you, or whether
he's like happy with where he is, and then if
he absolutely is all for a team on board, and
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then the mom causes issues, then I feel like you
can say to him, please don't let your mom change
your mind, like this is something you wanted to do,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (33:57):
But I wouldn't bring the mom up.
Speaker 2 (33:58):
Even posting way if you can't even get the answer
out of him, Like what would you want if there
was no voices outside? Yeah, like no one telling you something, like.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
Even if I wasn't moving away, would you want to
move away from home? Like is it something that you're
wanting to do at all? Or are you like happy
living where you live right now?
Speaker 3 (34:17):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (34:17):
I feel like the mum needs to be a later
problem once you figure out one hundred percent what he
wants to do, because you've said that you haven't really
gotten a straight out of him yet.
Speaker 2 (34:27):
That's step one, and I think like at twenty one,
you're actually allowed to ask the questions, like you know,
I'm just mapping out what my future and some people aren't.
Speaker 1 (34:34):
Honestly, I know some people aren't ready to move away
from their parents, at twenty.
Speaker 2 (34:38):
One, especially small towns, Like I think that could be
another put Like I have friends that still live at
home and they're twenty five and they're not even ready
to live out of home, let alone move to a
different state.
Speaker 1 (34:47):
So I feel like that step one is figuring out
really where his head is at, and then you can
deal with the mom's secondary and then I think you
can start bagging the mom out if she tries to
change his mind.
Speaker 3 (34:58):
Once you know that his mind is like set on something,
you know, don't bager out.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
Just be like.
Speaker 1 (35:03):
The mum will see him again, you know what I mean,
you can't marry your son. I hate fucking parents like that.
Speaker 2 (35:09):
No, And it's just like I understand the fear as them,
I'm sure, but it's like it just makes a relationship better.
Me and my mom we are so close. Women are
not living together.
Speaker 1 (35:18):
Yeah, and you're just like yeah, and it's like it's
not across the country, it's different states.
Speaker 3 (35:24):
You can visit each other all the time. Like I
just think, Yeah, honestly, your first.
Speaker 1 (35:28):
Step is figuring out what he wants without any outside pressures,
and then hopefully the mum will just fall in suit,
like you know, if he really wants to go, then great.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
He'll probably have that discussion with his mum on his own. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (35:40):
Anyway, that's all for today.
Speaker 1 (35:42):
But we have so fucking many and we're gonna do
more Part twos, hopefully after Jackie, and then we're gonna.
Speaker 2 (35:48):
Get Riley on again. Yeah, and we may We are
working over time to make this Jackie interview happen. We
might come with our tail between our legs next episode.
Please give us right, little old Riley, but we will
say we are working very hard with it. Guys, But
I love you
Speaker 3 (36:07):
And see you bye.
Fast forward a be and Max confesses to my boyfriend
that he and Sarah had been hooking up behind our backs.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
I was shocked.
Speaker 3 (00:05):
Sadly, I'm not pokies.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
I'm still trying to figure out my weekly introduction to
say hello to you guys, you know.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
How, like.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
You know how like people call I don't think I'm
not there yet, but like, you know, why not manifest
that it becomes so big that I get to call
you a fun name, you know how, like Lucy and
Nikki call them the punchs.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Like I want a call name, Blake. What's a cool name?
Speaker 2 (00:36):
We need to work? Call them audis the Audi Audi belly?
Speaker 3 (00:41):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Or it makes you sound like the belly butter Yeah,
which isn't it's not it? Yeah, I don't want to
be an autie. No call her daddy has daddy gang,
But I don't like the word.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
I think gang. It's like, what's daddy gang? It's like
calling you guys like girls squad? Yeah, what's up? Daddy gang? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Not it. I was going to like to hear me
out hooligans for that's all right.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
We're gonna pass that handle that off to you guys. Please,
what's new in my life. I have Jackie Alexander's Hens
this weekend, which is going to be clazy. If anyone's
ever seen Jackie and I on a night out together,
it's it's a scene.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
And can we like draw back the curtain a little bit. Yeah,
we're hoping to get a recording in some scheduling dramas.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
So hopefully we can get to miss Jackie on for
an episode.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
It'll probably be the next week's episode.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Yeah, you'll be able to put your timerround.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
And we can give you guys a rundown of what
actually happened. But we're going to be sitting there with
a bottle of wine because I feel like I have
to bribe her to be like, I'm really sorry, you
need to come on my podcast. Here's a bottle of wine.
But then we'll be able to tell you everything that happened.
And I can't fucking wait. There's themed nights. I have
spent more money on than I would have my own birth.
(02:00):
They're trying to find good outfits for this event. But
it's gonna be great and I can't fucking wait. I
also have a crush.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Oh wow, Hello.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Hello, No, Hello, that sounded like James Charles. Hello, you
know what I'm talking about?
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Yeah, yeah, Cardi b Win, she's in court.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
Hello, I didn't hear that. Hang on, I've got to
play the James Charles one.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
We're in Africa and I got a frozen brown elephant,
which is Coca Cola. Hello, Coca Cola. Hello.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Anyway, I don't really have much else to say yet, like,
nothing interesting to update you guys with yet. I just
happened to have a crush right now and that's really
fun because I never have one.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Am I allowed to like ask questions? Okay?
Speaker 3 (02:53):
Anyway, that's all. That's my update.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
I just I have a crush and it's exciting and
it's fun, and well it's not exciting because fucking things happening,
but it just gives me something fun to think about. Anyway,
we have some funny hymiots, which is why we've got
like on mic again. I am really for you guys
trying to solo record, but it's not fun, do you
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know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Like, I know people like, oh, he doesn't even have
a podcast.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
And bear in mind, I don't know how many people
have said that, and there's maybe like one or two
and it like catches on my mind, Like my brain's
really fucking ticking quickly today.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
I feel it.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
But I'm like, they're like, oh, like is he she
doesn't even really have her own podcast because look, she's
never like on her own, But I feel like to
produce the best and most interesting content.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
For you guys, it's nice to have someone to bounce off.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
So it's like, and I have like sitting in front
of me all the time, and it's like talking to
myself without him responding isn't as fun.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
No, And we make eye contacts so many times.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
I'm like, come on, yeah, so I'm trying, but I'm like,
I wouldn't know if you guys mind if it's like
a But then it's like the podcast is basically I
is I and Blake. I need to get you on
the cover back at this rate. Fuck Okay, there's where
the problem comes in because you go and wanted to
do something on her own and doesn't seem like she
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can and.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
I absolutely can. I just think it's a reaction based
show and it's conversational. Yeah, and you very much leader,
But like how fun is it to react to yourself? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (04:27):
And it's like people send him funny hear me out
funny stories. It's like, I don't want to be all
shocked on my own. I like having someone to be
shocked with.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
Anyway.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Blake has had this hear me out and he's texting
me about it. I reckon two weeks ago and has
been holding onto it, and I said, don't tell me,
don't tell me.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
I want to hear it while.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
I've been brewing. All right, hear me out. Yeah, I
will never change a car tire. Ever, why would you? Well,
like we got taught it in school? Why didn't really? No,
in Pe, I got taught well kind of we had
to do like homework. I think I was an assignment
(05:03):
and like you and I what the fun? We had
to take photos of ourself doing it. So I just
let my dad do it and like and like little
not out of the closet. Yet I was like, let's
swap and you take the photo and protect.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
You know, we didn't learn that.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
So I couldn't change a tire if you asked me
to because I haven't learned.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
How to do it. But like everyone is expected to know.
I think that is day no.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
I can say.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
I don't even reckon the boys schools in my area,
I would have learned how to change a tire.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Well, that's validating. I came from the country, so I'm like,
maybe that's I know for sure the girls schools didn't.
But no. It was absolutely like insinuated that everyone should
know how to change the car tire and if you're
in that situation, you can fix it.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
But I would hope that whoever I end up dating,
if we break down on the side of.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
The road, knows how to change the tire.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
And if they said no, we have to call it
toe guy, I'll be like, dude, really, I've just dried.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Up, shameful for you.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
For you, Why didn't you learn it in school?
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Yeah? No, it just never sat right with me. I
didn't even care. Do you think it makes a difference
that you're gay? Yeah, I think I can get it.
I'm like, I think I can get away with it
a bit more. Yeah then the average Joe, the straight.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
I want to know if straight men feel similarly about like,
fuck that I'm not changing attire.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Yeah, and if you do, I'll validate you till the
couch come home.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
That's what I think I want to know, because I
think there could be variables female and a gay guy. Yeah,
we don't want to fucking touch that shit. Like all
the girls were putting the snow chains. Sorry, that was
a really big generalization. I just know that Blake doesn't
want to touch you. When we were going up the
mountain in New Zealand and we had to get snow chains,
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the girls are taking the snow chains on that we
didn't put them on because we couldn't do it ourselves.
When we had to come back down the mountain, there
was no one there, so we had to take them off.
Speaker 3 (06:56):
You best believe I stood watch.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
I just stood watch. I'll make sure no one comes.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
Tessa, Riley and Chrissy all lesbians, very much well on
their hands and knees changing those snow chains. I was
standing back with my gloves on, making sure that everything
was going smoothly.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
Yeah, like, move forward a little bit, moved back a
little bit.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
I'm like, you don't need three got four girls to
take snow chain off.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Too many cooks in, too many cooks in the kitchen.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
I will stand back.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
But like I had no desire, no instinct, and none
of them asked me to do it.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
They were all just like, we'll do it.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Yeah, yeah, they just knew. My thing is, I'm surprised
Chrissy got down in there. I think. My thing is,
I just find it dangerous to expect me to change
a car.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Tire and then start driving on it with.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Other drivers around. I'm like, okay, could put my life
at risk, but God knows who I'm on the road with, Like,
I can't be expected to let my tire run loose
on the road.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
I'm being completely honest with you.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I don't think I've ever successfully filled my tire with air.
I only learned, like I reckon four months ago because
I had, like, I had a signal on my car
that said, like, your tire, one of the back tire
is flat, and I left it for nine months. I'm
not joking you, because when I think, oh it's got
a little bit the air pressures off, I think it's
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not flat. There's just a little bit less error there,
like all as well. And then some man like banged
on my door while I was parked around with like
your back tire is like really flat, girl, Like you
need to fix that, and.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
I'm like that's what.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Yeah, So I booked in to get a change, and
then I was like, I really shouldn't be driving around
on this anymore, even though I have been doing so.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
I FaceTime my mom.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
I was in like a white track suit set and
I'm like, it was raining and I filled up.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
With air, but then the signal never went off.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
So I'm like, I don't even think I did that right,
and I've done it twice now and then the signal
just stays on.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
So I'm like, I think I'm just not doing it correctly.
But I don't need to. I just need to find
a boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Literally, I get to do this all and on to
my next point. I hope you relate to this, otherwise
I would just sound dumb. Yeah, you know, I don't.
I'm nervous. You know the water that you like clean
your windows with in your car, the front water. Mine's
been out for a long time.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Yeah, I wouldn't fill it out myself. My dad fills
it up for me. But it's like it will be
out for a while, but then it's like if the
windowscreen gets really dirty, I'll be like, Dad, don't need.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Mine's so dirty right now, Like of a morning I'm driving,
I'm like, I don't really.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Know, right, Like my dad wants me to learn like
he's like, come and watch me do this. I have
watched him do it. Did I retain any of that information?
Speaker 2 (09:31):
No? No, And then I'm scared, here comes today. I
need to do it, and I put water in the
oil path or something I.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Feel like from recollection it's actually quite visually obviously, yeah
I don't.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
But I'm like, what do I just put pump a couple.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
That bad boy?
Speaker 3 (09:48):
Like?
Speaker 2 (09:49):
I don't have that shit.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
This is why I like, yeah, I maybe do need
a man in my life. I can do a lot
of things on my own, and I have been doing so,
and I'm very blessed and lucky that my dad will
help me. But I'm like, I would like to have
a boyfriend that I can just be like, hey mate,
it's empty, fill it up, please.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Thank you. We can't do it all. We can't, and
I do so much.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
I go past her every night.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
This is sparked of really random memory, but I remember
actually Christina posted a TikTok one especially it's one of
my favorite video. She praanked her girlfriend Leash, pretending she
put olive.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
Oil olive oil into the oil in the car, and
the funny thing was she's actually got these olive oil
bottles with her so she could FaceTime her partner. She
committed her the actual olive oil was empty, like just
in their house. I asked her about all of this
because when I was sharing a room with her in
New Zealand, I spent our recond three hours going through
the playlist where she pranks her girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
It's my favorite, it's my.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
Favorite thing ever. It's actually really funny.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
You should look at it.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
And she's got garlic and chili olive oil with her too,
and was like, oh, this one run out, so I
put a little bit of this one in there too,
like and lish she's like the way she's such a
good actress with it, like it's not break.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
At all, and like she keeps the laughs quiet.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
Yeah, she barely even laughs. And then lee She's like,
do not fucking drive that car. You've ruined it. You've
ruined it. It goes up for like four minutes. It's
really funny, So I think you should watch it.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
You're hear me out though, oh my, hear me out.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
It's a bit of a it's running off what I
heard someone say on a podcast recently. I don't remember
what podcast it was, Anyway, This girl was on this
podcast and she said all men should be born into
prison and have to prove themselves out.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Damn thoughts, I like that you're a man. Yeah, but
he'll prove himself out, oh within minutes. All the moms
love me. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
I think it's a bit hectic to have then a
child like obviously, this is where imagining, yes the case, okay,
guys to be born into prison, in order to have
to prove yourself out, you would have to like grow
up a little bit, meaning your first couple of years
of life or however long would be in prison.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
I don't think that that is reasonable.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
I think that at the age of like thirteen, they
get put into prison and they then have to do
a couple vigorous tests in order to either you stay
for the day and you do a bit of testing
and you get to leave, or you're in there then yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
My only like what I will poke holes in here
is yeah, they're then raised around solely other men, Like
we have shitty men in our lives.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
Now, that's what I'm saying. They're not raised around men.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
They're raised outside of I'm saying they should be raised
outside of prison, and then when they hit like yo,
they go to do some testing to decide whether they're
gone to be a problem, very rigorous AI testing. I
don't know what kind of tests you do to figure
out the AI testing, you know what I mean, Like
something that figures out like how their brain actually works
and whether they're going to be a problem when they're older.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
Yeah, like I.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Would say eighteen, but some teenage just funck shit up.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
So I'm like, they need to be a bit younger.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
And my kids are getting scarier.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
It's getting way scarier. I'm like, you should see photos.
Someone was a Legre's sister. She's not scary, this doesn't
but she has a boyfriend in the year above her
and she's in your six and no boyfriends in year seven,
and I'm like wow, Like she would be the talk
at the fucking town, like the coolest chick out, like
dating a boy in the year above.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
At that age, I.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Was wearing purple, fucking skin tight skinny jeans that had
to shine on them and a yellow long sleeved top
with a rose vest on.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
I remember it specifically in your seven.
Speaker 3 (13:30):
At that age, I'm like, the people the way that
they're growing up.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
Yeah, makeup. They all look like eighteen year old. No
they do.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
It's confusing for me, it's quite scary. I was lich,
I was like the biggest dork if you looked even
if you look at my photos when I'm fucking like
fifteen and I'm I'm like, ew, yeah, these girls, like
the fifteen year olds I see on TikTok, I'm like,
you look my age and you're hot.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
Yeah, not the boys. I mean the girls are hot
and mine is like your beautiful girl. Yeah. I just
think they're also so privileged with social media, like they
watched our older siblings or just.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
They see what looks good already because they.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
Have so much more access. Like what were we going
off what we liked on the latest TV show?
Speaker 1 (14:15):
Or like the and like they really dressed like Miley
Sarah's up like freak, like the shit that they wear
back in the day, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Like that's what we would base it.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
Off, like Hannah Montana, fucking I Carli God.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
I love those shows.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Take me back so when I could watch Victorious and
I Cali and Anamantanna all day. Okay, guys, so we
have actually an exciting little thing this week.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
Last time we did dilemmas.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
There was a dilemma with a girl and she was
working at a footy club and there was a guy
she really liked. She didn't know if he felt the
same or if it was just friendliness. And I think
I said to like, like one of his stories or
interact that way and see if you like ask questions
or something like that. I said, update, let me know
how you go. She's actually written us a continuation to
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let us know how it all went. This is so fun.
This is the first time anyone's given us an update.
I love this shit.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
Yeah, people, please keep doing this. Thank you, even if
it turns into a new problem.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
Send us more problems the better girl. Okay, so this
is a follow up help me out.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
I wrote him for the first one about my crush
at the football club and have updates and need advice. Also,
I've decided to give him a name, as it's always
more fun like that, so let's call him Luke. So
it was presentation night on Saturday night, and it was
my first time seeing Luke since the season ended.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
I was very excited.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
Since I last wrote in, I had decided to back
away a little bit just because I think I was
scared of getting hurt. And then footy ended, so I
went from seeing Luke twice a week, sometimes three.
Speaker 2 (15:44):
To not at all.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
Anyway, I get to presentation night and he's complimenting me heaps.
Ah always compliments me and everything. It's clearly very flirty,
and honestly was so much fun.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
Dude, this boy likes you.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
He likes you.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
Oh no, like's giving me.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Eyes About midway through the night, Luke, Luke asks wait
about medwe through the night, Luke asked you to go
on the balcony with him, away from.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
Everyone, and when I went, he kissed me.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
I was so excited and happy and felt like I'd
achieved my mission. The rest of the night was full
of quick kisses, compliments, and so much fun.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
Dude.
Speaker 3 (16:19):
I have one of those nights the other night, and.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
It's actually so much fun. I love.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
I love when it's just like great, like you just
have like a buddy for the night.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
You know what I mean, A hobby for the night.
Speaker 3 (16:29):
Yeah, a hobby, said a buddy. But that's okay.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
I woke up the next morning after stumbling home from
kick ons at four am. You're only going once, right, girl,
I feel that I'm waking up feeling like it isn't real.
Here's my issue. I woke up and forgot about the
number of embarrassing texts I sent him on Snapchat. Girl,
I'm a drunk text I feel your fucking pain. Usually
it tends to happen with someone that I haven't seen, though,
(16:53):
Like I'm usually not luckily enough one that like will
follow up with someone I've just been with.
Speaker 3 (16:58):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (16:59):
It'll be someone I like want to be around and
they're not where I am.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
Mine's always someone from the past. It's just like nothing
against someone like we just don't need to catch up.
I'm like, yeah, I haven't heard from you for three years,
what's news?
Speaker 3 (17:13):
I know you hate Snapchat?
Speaker 2 (17:14):
I love. Everyone just knows I fucking hate and they apologize.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Yeah, girl, it's okay. And honestly, after this night, I
think I'm forever scarred. Let's just say the cool girl
who cares attitude.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
It was gone. I was being needy and annoying.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
I don't even remember sending the messages, and honestly, it's
so embarrassing I'm not even going to write them out.
I wonder if she can see them, because you know,
how Snapchat deletes messages. But now is it like a
twenty four hour thing where they stay unless you want
them to?
Speaker 2 (17:41):
Deley true, I think you can change that.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
You would almost prefer that they were gone, Like you
know that they were there and you know that they
were said, but you're like, I don't quite remember what
was said, So it's fine.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
Yeah, I think it's it also stays there so you
can like read it once. It's like, oh, yeah, I
sent that.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
See drunk text on Snapchat's probably a good shot because
it goes away.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
Yeah, but I sort of have woken up and like
write at once.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
Oh, when you're like kind of awake, you're like should
I wake up just yet? And then you check your
phone you're really hungover, and then you read like all
these I hate. There's nothing worse than me checking my
phone after a big night and then I'm like I
just put the phone down and I'm like, no, I'm
gonna sleep. Broke up on more else. I can't face
that just yet. We briefly chatted the next day and
he left me on open. I've talked to my friends
(18:23):
about it, and they're split. On one hand, we had
a great night Saturday, night. Maybe that's all it needed
to be. On the other hand, he did leave me
unopen unless he's also a snapchat hater. I'm also confused
because I think I like him, but clearly he isn't
interested in the same way. That's not true, that is
not clear, but in person it was a different vibe.
Some friends think maybe he's just not a textar, but
(18:44):
I'm a believer in that men of simple creatures and
if he wanted to text me he would. At presentation,
I didn't initiate everything. Every compliment was him. He leaned
him first to all of it. So I don't know
where to go from him. Also, I won't see him
again until next year when foot he starts fuck, so I'm.
Speaker 3 (18:58):
A bit unsure on what to do. Sorry for rambling.
Love you.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
Also, baby blue looks amazing on you, and I wanted
to pass.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
The compliment on that's so nice, and he did not
read that.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
That's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (19:07):
Everyone's yeah, I don't know why, but I always thought
green was more my color. But everyone I've been wearing
a lot of blue recently, and everyone's like, blue is
your colored?
Speaker 2 (19:14):
Girl, Baby blue girl, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
I don't think leaving someone on open is like a
huge problem some people. You know how there's I think
there's two types of conversations. There's either the ones that
just constantly continue on and you never really finish the convo,
do you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (19:29):
There's never any hello or goodbye or good night.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
It's just like I'll go to sleep now and I'll
respond to that in the morning. All those people that
have those chats that kind of start up and end
every do you know what I mean, that need to
be helloed and goodbye?
Speaker 3 (19:43):
I would say, don't just leave it there. He left
you on open.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
Oh yeah, it's kind of annoying, but like that happens
sometimes I leave people on open. But then if they
text you the next day, I'll respond. You know what
I mean, I'm just like done with that conversation for now.
I would definitely message him again and just see the
on that conversation because he's kissed you, he's lent in,
he's initiated it.
Speaker 3 (20:04):
Great.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
He was at his footy night. He could have had
a night with all the boys. No, he wanted to
have a night with you. And I feel like people don't.
Speaker 3 (20:10):
Boys are fucked though, Like it's like there's those things
where it's like, oh, they'll be like, we'll be lying
in bed and they'll give me four head kisses and
then they just like, won't ever text me ever again.
I'm like, I actually don't really know, but I would say,
don't leave it here. You need to at least try
and initiare another conversation. See how it goes from there.
If he's replying, if he's asking questions.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
I do not think there's any shame in a girl
saying would you want to get a drink? No, Sometimes
the boy might not know you're interested, might not know
you want to. Like I have asked boys out many
a times, I have no fucking shame in it. I
think it's attractive and confident and like sometimes they might
not think that I would want to go, so they're
not gonna ask me, you know what I mean. So
(20:51):
I think just text him again, see if it flows.
See if he's asking you questions to continue the conversation,
and if you want to get a drink with the boy,
fucking ask him. And if he says, oh, well, you're
back to what you started, you know what I mean.
At this point, you've got nothing to lose because you're
contemplating even not messaging him again. So so what if
one more conversation ends in being left on open. It's
like boohoo, doesn't matter.
Speaker 2 (21:11):
Yeah, And I get it stings a little bit it
does be left on rad. But I think he needed
more from him than he needed from you in that moment,
because you were anxious, you were worried about what you said.
He might even be sweating it. He just had a
great night with you, and he's like, what's the issue?
Probably hungover as well, Probably hung over. Yeah, just message
him again, please and send another update follow up?
Speaker 3 (21:32):
Thank Hi? Is I and Blake A.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
Been loving the podcast recently and I've been wanting to
submit this to eleven for a while but it was
too nervying. Thank you for overcoming the nerves. So basically,
a few months ago, my two best friends, let's call
them Bella and Sarah, met these two guys, my now
boyfriend and Max.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
His best friend.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
Okay, Bella and Max hit it off right away, and
so did my now boyfriend and me. So there's three
girls in the picture, her and two of her best friends,
then this chick's boyfriend and the best friend Max.
Speaker 3 (22:07):
Yeah, we'd hang out all the time.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
Vibe was great, and we've all bonded over our first
relationships together, which brought Bella and me even closer as friends.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
It was like the perfect little squad.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
Everything seemed great for a while, but then Sarah and
Max started hanging out without the rest of us.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
I thought Bella and Max hit it off.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
They absolutely did. They did read it.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
At first, we didn't think much of it. We just
figured they're becoming closer. But Bella and I couldn't help
but notice the late night text and how they'd go
out without us. Bruh, Max is dodgy, go find someone
outside of the friendship group mate. We didn't want to
jump to conclusions, especially with how close we all were,
but we trusted the girl code because there was no
way anything bad could happen.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
Right fast forward.
Speaker 1 (22:50):
A bit and Max confesses to my boyfriend that he
and Sarah had been hooking up behind our backs.
Speaker 3 (22:54):
I was shocked, sadly, I'm not.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
We in front of them immediately, and they swore up
and down it wouldn't happen again. We tried to move
past it for the sake of our group, especially protect Bella.
Our first mistake looking back, we should have just ended
things then. So my understanding is a Bella and maxa
in a relationship.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
That's what I think as well.
Speaker 1 (23:17):
But this is that's there's no fucking way I'm letting
my boyfriend hang out with Sarah alone and go out alone.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
And late night text. Yeah, where's call me crazy? But no,
I'm like, when is Bella throwing hands yet? Right?
Speaker 3 (23:30):
Good night, Sarah? All right.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
A few months later, Bella overhears Sarah talking to another
friend and she lets it sleep that she and Max
are still seeing each other secretly, even though Bella was
still with Max. Okay, so Max is just so Bella
and Max out together?
Speaker 2 (23:44):
Bella girl, wake up her knees leger.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
Naturally, the truth came crashing down. It was a complete mess,
and we haven't spoken to Sarah since. Bella and I
are still close. Good Here's the thing that's bothering me though,
Max and my boyfriend are still best friends, and I
can't get over what he did Tobella. Some people have
told me to just forgive him and let it go,
after all, it's been a while, and I just don't
know if I can. It's an awkward situation for my
boyfriend too, because he feels torn between me and his
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best friend. Sometimes I feel like I'm forcing him to
pick sides. But I just can't be around Max. After
everything that's happened, It's getting harder to avoid, and I
feel bad for my boyfriend. Some say it's time to
move on, but other people think I shouldn't have to.
Speaker 3 (24:23):
What should I do?
Speaker 1 (24:24):
It's like, no matter what I decide, someone's gonna be hurt.
Someone is gonna be hurt. But I think getting in
between boyfriendships is not wise, Like you need to just
let your boyfriend be friends with Max. Boys just stupid,
Like do you know what I mean? You can't get
in between that. I'd say, maybe try and avoid being
around Max if you can, But if it's like a
group setting, you're just gonna have to maybe be there
(24:46):
and kind of just not really give Max much time
of day, you.
Speaker 3 (24:49):
Know what I mean? I do agree. I've had it
happen to me before.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
It is brutal when my friend is all like hanging
out in a group setting with my ex because of
another guy, and like they're in photos together and I'm like, dude,
he fucking cheated on me, Like why are you hanging
out with him. I think time heals all wounds, so
eventually she will move on and find something.
Speaker 3 (25:11):
Like not be so upset about it.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
I just think, move on with your life, hang out
with your boyfriend, and try and give Max as little
time of day as you can. And I wouldn't say
you necessarily need to forgive him and be friends with him,
but you can be in a vicinity with.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
Him, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
I don't exactly have the answer, because I do agree,
like it's hard to get in between two guy best
friends because.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Your boyfriend you're gonna have issues. I think if you're
gonna be like pick one.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
Yeah, and it's just like disappointingly. I just don't think
manner is open to like interrogating things and talking things through.
So that's why we're walking with an attitude of oh,
I just don't even get between us, Like.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
The boyfriend probably hasn't Like no, he has never even
asked him why he did it, do you know what
I mean? Boys don't even dig into yeah. So I
just feel like your boyfriend would know how you feel
about Max. Great, hopefully you're not around each other in
two close quarters like he's not inviting Max over when
you're there. But I think if you're in group settings,
you kind of just need it avoid just keep the
(26:08):
peace with Bella by like not being best friends with him.
I think if you forgive him and all of a
sudden you're really friendly with him, yet it's can I hurt.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
I think the only other thing I'll add is you're
not wrong. And I understand like the feeling of being
around him and a feeling so wrong literally only because
I've got slight experience with this. Don't view it as
I simply don't like him because he screwed it over
my friends. Because when I've experienced with guys like that,
I'm like, I don't want you in my group. And
then you meet a girl friend of mine because you're
going to do the exact same to her. So I
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think it's fine to feel that towards him. Simply.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
Yeah, I just think try and keep friendship distance, but
like you can be around him for the sake of
your boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (26:46):
I think, just hang in there, girl, Hazy.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
I love your style, your energy, and your aura keep shining, girl.
Speaker 3 (26:52):
Thank I love it. I love the sound of all
of these.
Speaker 1 (26:56):
They make me feel so good. I'm just a girl
from the suburb. SAME's this who earlier this year was
seeing someone in the public eye.
Speaker 2 (27:04):
Oh who who.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
I really cared about him and loved being with him,
and when it was just the two of us at
his place, eating ice cream in the bartub and dancing
in his bedroom, sounds really cute.
Speaker 3 (27:16):
But I feel like he's gonna end up being an arsle.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
After a few months of being completely exclusive, I'll call
him Will. He suddenly had to go to America one
day and he told me he couldn't be exclusive anymore. Yeah,
asked how I felt if he kissed someone else I
knew he meant slept with Yeah, he probably did. And
then I said, he has every right to do that,
and I have every right to leave, and if he
did that, I would leave.
Speaker 3 (27:39):
Slay girl.
Speaker 1 (27:41):
He even asked if I would essentially wait around for
him to cheat on me, but I ended things right there, Yeah,
because it's like, oh, well, you're just gonna come tell
me one day that hey, I've cheated on you, and
you know I'm going to end it.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
So basically therefore, he's not going to tell you, and
he'll keep me around until then.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
Like I know, he'll just like basically with me until
I've cheated on you.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
Do you know what I mean? No, so good job girl.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
Two days later, he's hanging out with an influencer at
a major event. Four days later, he's in America with
an of influencer at sex parties. Why when you break
up with him do they turn into some fucking sex addicted.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
Whole They're like, I'm not going to peck her.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
I'm gonna fuck her, and I'm gonna do it everywhere. Yeah,
and all of them at the same time met I
was pretty heartbroken. Fair enough, Just a couple of weeks ago,
I met someone incredible who I really like. He laughs
at my silly stories. We connect over music, fashion, art,
and family. Unfortunately, he's also in the public eye just
for a visual representation. This man has a hundred times
(28:41):
more followers than me. Who cares, girl, you'll sew the catch.
He's gone overseas for three weeks, and although we've just met,
he's booked for us dinner for when he gets back.
Speaker 3 (28:49):
I'm not naive.
Speaker 1 (28:50):
I know he's going to be sleeping around overseas because
we only just met and he's attractive and somewhat famous.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
You know what I would never even assume.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
Though maybe I'm a lover girl.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
But I'm like, sometimes if you like someone, you don't
want to do that other stuff, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
I think outside of the scene as well, And it's
not because I'm a part of it. I just work bts.
I think there's a lot of assumptions of how social
people are.
Speaker 3 (29:13):
Going to happen more when people aren't in the public eye.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
Yeah, like nobody's I think there's a lot more of
a risk with people with profile like yea if they
are to do those things. But also like the insinuation
that like everyone's extra added and always like these parties.
It's not exactly like that. So I wouldn't stress. But
I understand the trauma of like the.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
People that I know that aren't in the public eye
sleep like they get like it happened, they get around more,
you know what I mean. So I don't think that
that's an assumption you should make in three weeks, Like
if he likes you, I don't even think you have to.
Speaker 2 (29:47):
I wouldn't worry about that.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
Like I go to Europe for like four months, I
don't sleep with anyone. Every time I've gone to America,
I don't see with anyone, do you know what I mean? Like,
I'm there to be with my girls, but I am
a female, so we'll see. It brought up old feelings
of not being enough and I truly want to end
things to save myself and feeling worthless again. I'm asking
you this because you're self aware and grounded.
Speaker 2 (30:08):
You're probably the worst person that's ever said that.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
Should I let this go and be happy with myself
until I find someone more low key? Or is it
worse worth pushing past my anxiety and trouble from the past.
Your past is not your future. Just because that guy
did it does not mean this guy is going to
be the same. If you like this man, absolutely wait
until you see him when he gets back. If the
feelings are still there, great, do you know what I mean?
Just go off how you're feeling. Don't end something because
(30:33):
of the fear that something might happen, Like, there's no
point ever stopping doing something because of the fear of
what might happen. You'd rather have loved and lost than
never have loved at all. And I honestly feel like,
if you like this guy, like, three weeks is no
fucking time he's already booked dinner, seeing when he gets
back and seeing how you're feeling. Man, duh, come on, girl,
don't sell yourself for.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
All.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
Right, here's the situation. I have a Stage five clinger
of a mother in law. Mother in law is a
fucking tricky business. I want her son to move States
with me. For context, I'm twenty one and I've been
with my boyfriend for three and a half years now.
We live in a small country town and both still
live at home. I'm planning on moving States next year,
and I would like him to move with me. I've
(31:15):
mentioned the idea of moving to him a few times
and never really get a solid response. With his parents
finding out that I'm moving, I now hear comments like
you're leaving me, you're stealing him, You're never gonna come home.
Typical helicopter parent bullshit. I agree, like, there comes a
point where your parents have to let the fucking kids
(31:36):
fly the nest.
Speaker 3 (31:37):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (31:37):
Is that the saying yeah, I think it's kind of wrong.
I really hate getting saying wrong anyway, don't.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
I'm actually going to Google in real time because it's
annoying me. Yeah, leave the fly the coop.
Speaker 3 (31:53):
What is flying the nest mean forre young person to
leave their home?
Speaker 2 (31:56):
I was right, what Coop is?
Speaker 3 (31:58):
It's both. It's like it's two saying.
Speaker 2 (32:00):
Oh, Cooper's like restrictive situation. Yeah, Cooper's like, deep.
Speaker 3 (32:07):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (32:07):
Like, I'm planning on going to New York next year.
My Dad's like, holy fucking shit, what am I gonna do?
I'm gonna have to come visit you. But he's like,
if that's what you want to do, that's what you
want to do. The problem is when you're moving for
a relationship, I think makes it slightly different than your
parents are, like do you actually want to go or
do they just.
Speaker 2 (32:25):
Want to go? I think that's maybe And I know
it's not her parent, but I think it is a parent.
Like I've moved away from my parents several times. Yeah,
and it's like there have been times where they've disagreed,
they've had concerns, but like, as a parent, it is
your responsibility as well to like keep that in.
Speaker 3 (32:40):
And let your kid grow.
Speaker 1 (32:41):
Yeah, you know, and if he wants to move, then
they should she should shut up.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
Yeah, And it feels a little evil saying it in
front of like the girl friend.
Speaker 3 (32:49):
Yeah, you're never gonna come home, You're leaving me, You're
stealing him?
Speaker 2 (32:52):
Is fucking that's bad.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
I'm at this point now, I'm looking at rentals and
packing up my life to move somewhere new. Part of
me wants to pull the ice here for you card,
but I don't want to come across his toxic I
think that's wise. I stayed in the same town we
went to school in for him, whilst all my friends
have now moved away. Even if he does want to
move with me, I'm afraid his mother will throw a
tantrum leading him to change his mind. How do I
(33:16):
approach this with him without it sounding like I'm completely
bagging his mom out?
Speaker 2 (33:19):
He already knows I'm not the biggest fan.
Speaker 1 (33:22):
I think you need to approach it without mentioning her
to her at all, Like do you want to move
with me?
Speaker 3 (33:28):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (33:29):
Like you need to find out if this boy wants
to move country, wants to move states with you, because
I feel like moving for someone and then not wanting
to be there can lead to resentment and issues in
a relationship. So I feel like step one is finding
out whether he wants to move with you, or whether
he's like happy with where he is, and then if
he absolutely is all for a team on board, and
(33:49):
then the mom causes issues, then I feel like you
can say to him, please don't let your mom change
your mind, like this is something you wanted to do,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (33:57):
But I wouldn't bring the mom up.
Speaker 2 (33:58):
Even posting way if you can't even get the answer
out of him, Like what would you want if there
was no voices outside? Yeah, like no one telling you something, like.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
Even if I wasn't moving away, would you want to
move away from home? Like is it something that you're
wanting to do at all? Or are you like happy
living where you live right now?
Speaker 3 (34:17):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (34:17):
I feel like the mum needs to be a later
problem once you figure out one hundred percent what he
wants to do, because you've said that you haven't really
gotten a straight out of him yet.
Speaker 2 (34:27):
That's step one, and I think like at twenty one,
you're actually allowed to ask the questions, like you know,
I'm just mapping out what my future and some people aren't.
Speaker 1 (34:34):
Honestly, I know some people aren't ready to move away
from their parents, at twenty.
Speaker 2 (34:38):
One, especially small towns, Like I think that could be
another put Like I have friends that still live at
home and they're twenty five and they're not even ready
to live out of home, let alone move to a
different state.
Speaker 1 (34:47):
So I feel like that step one is figuring out
really where his head is at, and then you can
deal with the mom's secondary and then I think you
can start bagging the mom out if she tries to
change his mind.
Speaker 3 (34:58):
Once you know that his mind is like set on something,
you know, don't bager out.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
Just be like.
Speaker 1 (35:03):
The mum will see him again, you know what I mean,
you can't marry your son. I hate fucking parents like that.
Speaker 2 (35:09):
No, And it's just like I understand the fear as them,
I'm sure, but it's like it just makes a relationship better.
Me and my mom we are so close. Women are
not living together.
Speaker 1 (35:18):
Yeah, and you're just like yeah, and it's like it's
not across the country, it's different states.
Speaker 3 (35:24):
You can visit each other all the time. Like I
just think, Yeah, honestly, your first.
Speaker 1 (35:28):
Step is figuring out what he wants without any outside pressures,
and then hopefully the mum will just fall in suit,
like you know, if he really wants to go, then great.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
He'll probably have that discussion with his mum on his own. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (35:40):
Anyway, that's all for today.
Speaker 1 (35:42):
But we have so fucking many and we're gonna do
more Part twos, hopefully after Jackie, and then we're gonna.
Speaker 2 (35:48):
Get Riley on again. Yeah, and we may We are
working over time to make this Jackie interview happen. We
might come with our tail between our legs next episode.
Please give us right, little old Riley, but we will
say we are working very hard with it. Guys, But
I love you
Speaker 3 (36:07):
And see you bye.
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