October 1, 2025 • 29 mins
Welcome back girlies! I'm back from Bali and ready to unpack all the travel chaos and chronicles. And after I give you the run down on all my dilemmas, I help you guys out with the dramas going on in your lives! From boyfriends who can't stop messaging OF creators to not knowing whether you're crossing a line with a friend's past flame.. I love doing these and can't wait to answer more of your submissions soon x
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi, guys, it's easy. Welcome back to hear me out.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
I wanted to give you a little heads up before
you start the episode. It sounds like I am recording
outside under a storm, so we tried to edit out
the rain as much as we could, But of course
we had that a little bit of bad luck that
it started bucketing the moment we got in. I could
not push through for you, guys and give you all
of my updates. So enjoy the episode and I will
(00:22):
speak to you next week with a little bit less
background noise. He tells me he likes to embarrass his
friends in public by getting down on all VORs and
chasing them like a dog.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Oh my god. All right, guys.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Hello, we're back recording in Melbourne, and I actually couldn't
be happier. I think being in places like Bali, hear
me out.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
I couldn't live in Bali. I could never live in Bali.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
I love it, but I honestly think like a week
to two weeks is absolutely enough for me. I think
I like cooking, and I know that sounds like people
you can cook give you live in Bali, but like
a lot of people probably don't cook that much. I
just think the heat, the constant heat. I just feel
like not being able to drink tap water. There's so
many little things about Bali that I'm like, maybe I'm
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too much of a lady of leisure, but I really
don't see that I could live in a country like that.
You know, I love it for a holiday and it's
so much fun and you meet so many amazing people.
But I feel like it would actually be incredibly challenging
to live in a place where it's very tourist based,
because you meet someone and then they're leaving, Like even
friends are coming in and out and going through. And
(01:30):
I know I have some friends in Bali, and you know,
it's like, how hard is it to meet a guy?
You might meet a guy in a night out and
they're from fucking England.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
But oh they here for five more days. Sorry bye.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
And I think because of that, the men there that
live there, they're not men I would want to date,
because in the way they're like they view you as
someone that's only going to be there for a little bit.
They just want to like get in your pants and
kick you to the curb. And it's like I didn't
have any interaction with any men that live in Bali.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Don't worry, guys, I'm.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Safe, but the energy there is so hectic. If you
live I think Chengu. Maybe a luatu would be completely different.
And like, I'm not someone that lives there, so I'm
not being judgmental. The lifestyle would be incredible if you're
like a surfer or someone that like likes swimming. The
beach scares me though, but I just living there. It's
like sometimes it makes you so glad to be home.
(02:17):
But that Bali holiday was definitely more relaxing, more what
I needed versus the hectic party time of my birthday trip.
So I've come back happy, refreshed and ready to go.
But we have blakey on to give us a hear
me out.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Oh hello, oh hello, I missed you more and we
haven't even unpacked. So like the updates we're getting.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
We haven't unpacked.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
They're fresh, they're fresh.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
But I'm coming with a less fresh hear me out.
But I just want to claim this one because there
was a trend going around on TikTok. Yeah, I had
an opinion about it.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
I actually said it to you, did I read rely?
Speaker 4 (02:51):
No?
Speaker 3 (02:51):
We spoke about it after a recording. I had got
my hear me out and I got into such a
bad mood. I was like, where did I go?
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Oh, that was the one you forgot.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
I remember it, but it is kicked off on TikTok.
Now it's going really viral. It's about the unfortunately I
do love tram. Yeah you say things that, oh.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
And it's like unfortunately.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
People will like write out a bunch of things that
they like, like staying up past two am, like two
bottles of red wine.
Speaker 4 (03:19):
But then there's someone too muches.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Some focks are like, sorry, not actually, I'm not sorry.
If you're writing this new TikTok, take it down. They're like, unfortunately,
I do love going to bed by nine pm, making
my bed every morning. A lot of people like that stuff.
That's not unfortunate at all, Like good on you.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
That sounds like a normal I feel like a lot
of people.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Are using that as like a way to like, unfortunately,
I do love saying on a Saturday night, yeah babe,
same but yeah cool.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
But it's literally like hear me out, you're all a
bit boring, Like what are you doing? That's actually yeah,
I don't want to say interesting.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
I saw one that was fun Like I think it
was Lucy Jackson from Happy Hour, Happy Hour and she
said ignoring the ato and I'm like, that's funny, is
like the tax tax people.
Speaker 4 (04:03):
Would ignoring parking? Fine?
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Yeah, like that's yeah, okay fair. But I'm like, yeah,
there's people going unfortunately. I do love having it too,
matches a day whoa slow down girl? That is crazy?
Someone called the police. Like there's a whole lot of
that going on, and it makes me laugh.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
I really I've been challenged finding one and I'm like,
I do that, and that's funny, that's outland.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Yeah, because the point of these are to be like funny,
and it'd be like, holy fuck, like that's something that not.
Speaker 4 (04:28):
A lot of people do, but like I do that, legit,
that's what I mean looking for. But it's just been
so unrelatable and I've just.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Well not even unrelatable, like so incredibly relatable. But I
already do all of those things you're saying and it's
nothing outlandish about it.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
Yeah, Like I do that thinking it's healthy.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Unfortunately, I really love making my bed. Oh cute, same sis,
glad to hear it. It's yeah, it's some people I
feel like, don't realize that.
Speaker 4 (04:54):
These things are normal.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
These are normal habits.
Speaker 4 (04:57):
Some people just.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
It was a mixtween a hobby and habits. That's where
that came from.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
Not but anyway, I just have to let that off
my chest.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
I totally agree with you. It annoys me.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
I think they're funny to watch though, because I'm like,
is this one gonna make me.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Laugh or piss me off?
Speaker 4 (05:11):
And rarely do they do.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Laugh.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
But on another note, I am obviously yeah, I got
back in Melbourne last night. I think I got back
home at like twelve thirty. Thank you Mom for picking
me up. She oh, you'll die, You'll die, Mom said,
I will only pick because I was like having a
bit of a meltdown in the airport.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
I will explain why.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
But I was like calling all my family members, someone
please pick me up my lines at like ten thirty.
But obviously with international it's like I probably won't be
getting out till like eleven fifteen. And I was flying
on my own and I hate, I really don't like
doing that on a good day, and I'm like, please
some one, please, please please calling all of them. No no, no,
Mom goes. If you see a psychologist I will come
pick you up slow. So I said, fine, fine, I'll
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see a psychologist.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
So I've I.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Now have a psychologist that I have to book morning,
Oh my god, to go start seeing, which I think
is gonna be a good thing for me. I think
there's a lot of things that I have very unhealthy
coping mechanisms, and if you are around me regularly, I
think you can see that, Like I'm always very highly strung,
Like it's a very fine line between me being calm
and something like really overwhelming me all my larms. That's
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not a coping mechanism, that's a mental health disorder. And
my calendar is one of the most disorganized, scary, and
intimidating things you've ever seen. Just because it's color coded
easy doesn't mean it's helpful. And I still still think
I have a real, real mental block with men. They
scare the fuck out of me quite frankly. Talk to
me on a night out. Absolutely not. But I'm like,
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that's what I want, that's what I like. I get
dressed up, I get excited, like, oh, there might be
some cute men there, but I'm like, don't you fucking
look at me, because.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
I won't know how to talk to you.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
But it's like, I'm so good at talking to people
I love and like girls, and it's like, I just
think I have a lot to work through, and I
think there's absolutely no shame in talking to someone, because
what there's no And I've definitely I've seen a psychologist
throughout my life, like with the intention of getting over
specific things that had happened to me, like after my
first breakup and then after the second one. I saw
(07:12):
a psychologist for periods where I felt like I needed
help with. But I'm like, I probably just need one
to help me work through, like life in general and
certain things. I definitely think it will be good for me,
and I owe Moum that because she picked me up
from the airport. The fuck thing was I actually get
off the phone with Mum and because I was whining
like a bitch in the group chat about someone coming
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to get me, I then have a message from Dad
in the same group chat saying fine, I'll do it.
When's the flight, And I went, I could say yes
to Dad for right now and not see the psychologists,
but I said, it's okay.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Mom's coming to get me.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
I've promise her if she does, I'll see a psych
so I will keep you updated on how that's going.
Because I know a lot of people it might be
something they think about or have contemplated, and like, I
think there's a fear in it.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
In my mind.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
I'm like worried it will be boring quite frankly to
sit there. But I sit there and talk about myself
to you guys every week for an hour, So why
can't I do it to a site? So yeah, that's me.
I'm growing frontal lobe developing. I'm finally giving it to
go again, and hopefully it can be a bit more
of a long term thing, because I think your girl
needs a little bit of assistance every.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Now and again.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
But the reason I was having an airport meltdown is
because the girl I was traveling with, Annabelle, she was
doing staff travel, which I don't know if everyone knows,
but generally you can get staff travel if you have
a family member that is a flight attendant or a
pilot or whatever.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
So it's just a cheaper version of travel.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
But you don't really know if you're on the flight
until like quite soon before the flight. Sometimes they'll lock
you in the day before or the morning of, I think,
but we rock up to the airport her not knowing
if she's on the flight or not, because I think
basically the way it works, and correct me if I'm wrong,
because I've never done it. There's like a said amount
of seats available for staff on each flight, but it
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goes in order of priority. So if you're like a
seeing your flight attendant, you're going to get that seat
over like a family member of a flight attendant, you
know what I mean. So we get to the airport
and we are running a little bit behind because you
know that Barley traffic can be temperamental.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
The flight leaves at two point fifty. Holy fuck, I've
just here that.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Okay, guys, I'm sitting here trying to record listen.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Can you hear it?
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Who gets a studio with the tin roof? This is crazy,
But we're pushing through.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
You're doing and look at Blake, you're doing great.
Speaker 4 (09:32):
CD.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
It's we've got a lull.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
It was probably one pm when we get to the airport,
which I know is late for an international flight. Anyways,
we get in line, we get to the front probably
at like one twenty, and they say, oh, sorry, Annabell,
it's still on standby.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
The flight before yours, the Jetsull flight.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
Before yours was canceled, meaning there's a whole group of
people that were meant to be on that plane that
can no longer get on it.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Therefore they give those spare teats.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
They're giving those spare seats to people from the flight
before us. But they're like, come back in half an hour,
and we're like half an hour. The plane like boards
in half an hour. Whatever fuck. We went and got
some food. I got some Yokie, needed it, and then
we come back and I'm like, I just need to
check in now because I'm actually on this flight, checked in,
drop my bags in. We wait there for another like
(10:23):
ten minutes, and by this time I look at the clock,
the plane's boarding and I haven't even gone.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
Through security yet.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
They say, sorry, Annabelle, because of the cancel flight, you
can't get on this one. She's like, okay, what about
the next one?
Speaker 3 (10:34):
No?
Speaker 1 (10:35):
What about the next one?
Speaker 3 (10:36):
No?
Speaker 1 (10:36):
All the flights for the rest of the day.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
Completely booked out because they're putting all the people from
the cancel flights onto those ones. It is one hundred degrees.
We haven't eaten, We have only had three and a
half hours sleep. Stupidly, I didn't have a big night
the whole fucking time I was in Bali.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
And then on Sunday night.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
I go, fuck it, let's stay out till four fucking
am stupid, stupid, stupid bitch. Anyway, so I've got the
hangover sweats and I'm fucking starving, and then Yochi is
hitting my stomach badly, and I'm like, fuck, I don't
like flying alone, like I really don't, but being in
like an international airport scares me more than save. I
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was in Sydney and I was like, I've got to
leave her, but I don't know her.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
Internet all of.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
A sudden is refusing to work for this whole day.
She has no way to contact me, no way to
get money out, no way to search up anything. I'll
call anyone online, and I just have to go through security.
I get through security and it's two twenty five. My
flight is scheduled to leave at two fifty five. I'm like,
boarding probably closes in about five minutes, and I don't
know where my fucking gate is and I'm on my own.
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I see a sign after about five minutes gates two
to nine to the left. Great, Oh wait, Gate nine
is at the very end of a fucking two kilommeater hallway.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
So I ran through the airport.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
I stopped and started because I don't have the endurance
to run that far in the single go. But I
was the last person on the plane, sweating buckets. They'd
made me pull my water out to get through security.
I was like, actually worried I was gonna have a
panic attack because like I'm on those people. I'm like,
I drink like five leads of water a day, and
I'm like I can't breathe.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
I'm sweating.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Everyone's staring at me because I've like held up the
fucking plane And when you see on those planes on
the tarmac and you're in your trackies because you put
trackies on because you're about to go to Melbourne, I'm like,
it was fucked anyway. I don't really get to complain though,
because right now I'm sitting in Melbourne. Annabel pull little
Anna Belly. You know, we call each other bean now
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because of the summer, I term pretty and it's like,
you know how her mum calls her a bean and
it's like the eakiest thing ever. Anyway, because she's Annabelle
and I'm Isabelle. Were like belly bean. Anyway, no one
gives a fuck she is in Bali. She went back
to she couldn't get a gojack or any kind because
her Internet wasn't working, So she's like, fuck, I'm gonna
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have to get one of these guys. You know how,
if you've ever been to Bali, there's like hundreds of
men waiting to like potentially get you in their taxi
or their fucking car with all the sign with all
the signs, but a lot of them don't have signs,
and they're just like taxi taxi, like I'll drive you.
She's like, this is my only fucking option because I
don't have a way to order it, book anything. So
she gets a guy, gets in the car with him.
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Doesn't have any money because she needs to transfer money,
but she doesn't have internet. This guy keeps trying to
hold her hand, like puts his hand out over the
center console and like keeps trying to.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Hold her hand.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
He then whips out his phone on FaceTime to his
buddies and is showing his friends Annabel's sitting there. She's like,
in the car, she doesn't have any internet. She can't
go on her phone do anything. She's like sitting there
with this man who's trying to hold her hand, who
is like successfully holding her hand, occasionally taking videos of
her to send to his friends. Has to get him
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to drop her off at the villa, Go in, get
Wi Fi, transfer money for her account, go get cash out,
and then she's home. She tries to go to the
airport today. Oh, flight's been delayed six hours.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
Go back. I was like, oh, Annabelle, but it's fine.
Speaker 2 (13:59):
You get another day in the sun, Like, just relax,
sit by the pool. We didn't get a single fucking
drop of rain for the whole time we were there.
It is bucketing all fucking day, no torrential rain, so
the weather's delayed all the flights. So while I'm recording this,
she's still sitting in our villa in Bali, and I'm
sending her thoughts and prayers. So I've found like a
fucking brat for complaining about anything that happened yesterday. But like,
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I just really don't like flying alone anyway. That was
my story, but Bali was great. I wouldn't say anything
of interest happened. We did meet a couple odd characters,
but the trip itself was great. Obviously, do always love
Bali for a holiday. But that is enough of my
rant and my bullshit. We're getting into your dilemmas today.
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You guys have sent a couple in and we're gonna
go through them and see.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
How we go. Look, see what you guys are working with?
All right, guys, help me out number one.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Hey, babe, I thought i'd share this because I'm still
trying to wrap my head around it months later. So
I'm twenty and I went on my first real date
a few months ago. Basically I got approached at Glebe Markets,
Where's Thats and Sydney, which is rare because Ozzie men
never approached. Yeah, Ozzie men should really start doing that more.
If I got approached at a coffee shop or walking
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the street, I would absolutely fucking love it. Like sober approaches,
I know they're scary, but I feel like they mean more.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
You're more inclined to.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
Be like, oh, yeah, I will go on a date
with you than if someone like some drunk guy likes
can I blow you a drink? Yeah you can, but
I don't want to talk to you anymore. Thank you,
he had an accent, so it made sense right. He
came every and said, I saw you sitting here, and
you have beautiful eyes.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
Can I get you?
Speaker 2 (15:37):
First of all, how did he see my eyes from
a mile away? A man can try, but we always know.
Second of all, well, he was kind of hot.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
Okay, great. He was tall.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
He had good style, like a Walmart version of Vinnie Hacker. Haha,
Vinie Hacker's hot. Even a Walmart version would be hot.
His name was Jack and he was Canadian. He asked
me to coffee and I agreed. Oh see, I don't
know if I would coffee date for a first date,
but I'm proud of you, girl, I agreed. He handed
me his phone and iphoned five. Huh, I didn't even
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know those things still ran? How do you find a
charger for that bad boy? Isn't it the wide one?
Speaker 4 (16:14):
I think?
Speaker 1 (16:14):
So shit, so cracked.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
I couldn't even see the keyboard first red flag, but
I thought maybe he's just traveling.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Two days later, it's date day. I'm nervous, but I go.
First thing he says to me when I arrive is
are you stoned? And I'm like sorry, He repeats it says,
I have glassy eyes, but he doesn't mind if I
am stoned is high on marijuana, in case anyone watching
doesn't realize. If we walk for thirty minutes trying to
find a cafe that he knows, why do you need
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to know the cafe? There's a forty five minute wait,
So I take him somewhere else. We get coffee, we're chatting.
It's fine. He tells me he's been traveling for six months,
just came from Byron. I asked where he stayed, and
he says, oh, I lived in the woods. Hang on,
I'm like cool, like a tent. That's fucking cool. That's
weird too, and he goes, nah, a hammock. Apparently, if
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it rains, he just lay in a hammock full of water,
didn't shower six months. And I'm trying to keep a
straight face. That is crazy behavior. Well, he's lying in
a fucking hammock. He's basically in a bath. If it rains,
we leave, and while walking through Chinatown, he suddenly blunts
out of rude comment about the people around us.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
I'm gonna assume that he's being racist. I go silent.
I'm sure how to respond.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
He keeps insisting it's fine to say okay, Bud, but
I'm walking so fast at this point, I'm just wanting
to get out of the situation. Then he goes, you
know how, you don't know me. I could be an actor.
My name might not even be Jack, and you've just
believed me. I'm shitting myself. Who says that that's like
I had a guy wants to be like, I could kill.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
You right now with this pillow.
Speaker 4 (17:51):
I've had similar and I was like, what the fuck
is wrong with you? I never thought that?
Speaker 2 (17:56):
Yeah, I now I do, and now I want you
out of my fucking house. How about that who says
that he tells me he likes to embarrass his friends
in public by getting down on all fours and chasing
them like a dog.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
Oh my god?
Speaker 2 (18:09):
What's that cosplay that people are into where they like
like to be animals?
Speaker 4 (18:13):
Oh, I SA know what you mean, and they.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
Like meet in like parks altogether and run out with
mask saying it's like pop, Yeah, I know what you mean, puppy.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Play or something.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
Someone was talking about that in a previous submission that
they went to a park and there's like a gathered
annual gathering of these people that fetish that.
Speaker 4 (18:31):
No, I fuck, it's fluffies. You're fluffy.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
Oh maybe this guy's a secret fluffy.
Speaker 4 (18:37):
I hate that's called not fix fluffy sounds cute.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
Fluffy's cute, and I'm not not here to kick shame.
But like, it's just not my style. He tries to
do it right there. I had to physically pull this
six foot man off the floor. At this point, I
text my sister to come rescue me. She did, thank god.
He wouldn't leave, even after I said bye three times.
Later that night, he texts, you're taking out space in
my head.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
Do I get to see you as soon? Sir? What
year are you in?
Speaker 2 (19:02):
I said, thanks, but I'm not interested. He replies, well,
considering I'm not from here, I wasn't looking for anything either.
I have a real dislike for men that like to
act like it was a mutual ending just because you've
done it first. There's a guy I know that I've
done that with my sister and she said she was
just seeing someone, and he's like, no, totally agree, same page.
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It's like you've just asked her sixteen times to go
out for dinner with her again and she's ended it
with you, and you're like, so glad we're on the
same page, Like just be like, no worries.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
It was so lovely to meet you.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
Like wish you the best, you know what I mean literally,
like you don't need to always be the one in
the rot.
Speaker 4 (19:39):
I just hope it all go as well.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
Yeah, I hope it all goes well. It was nice
to hang out with you fucking widows.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
Anyway.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
I saw him once again in public and nearly shout myself,
but I haven't heard from him since. Haven't been on
another day either, and I'm scared. Love you is keep
up the body. It's my favorite time of the week.
Thank you, beautiful girl. And I'm so glad that this
man is. Does he live in Melbourne? No, he lives
in Sydney, thank god. Because I see a six foot
man running around on all fours, I'm going to run
the other way. I wonder if anyone else has gone
on dates with this guy since, because he seems.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
Like a freak.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
Sorry that's really rude, but I'm not really in the
mood to sugarcoat things today.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
All right, we have another hear me out?
Speaker 2 (20:12):
Hi is just oh I love all you guys for
saying such cute things at the beginning, I just want
to say, I'm super proud of you for thriving with
the potty and I love hearing you.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
With laky what. Okay, help me out.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
I'm having some issues with my partner at the moment
her reference. We're only both at nineteen. Growing up, I've
always I was always told I was emotionally intelligent and
really aware of how things affected people.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
My boyfriend is not.
Speaker 4 (20:37):
Yeah, yeah, he loved that.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
We've been together for two and a half years and
met just after school. Since the beginning, we've had issues
with his loyalty to me in regards to sexual desires.
I'm going to start by saying I think you should
not be with this man, but we'll see how we go.
He has actively told me he would fuck other girls
because his mates think they're hot.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
I hate men make their partners feel self conscious, like
even like, well that goes so hot when she's like
walking down the beach, Like you don't get you cannot
say that in front of me, do you know what
I mean?
Speaker 4 (21:06):
And as if the other girl's looking at you, like.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
I'll say, while that girl's gorgeous, if I'm with a partner,
you can't agree.
Speaker 4 (21:14):
That's a hear me out.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
Yeah, that's a hear me out.
Speaker 2 (21:17):
By five months into the relationship, I found emails on
his phone, by the way, we both go through each
other's phones casually. I found subscriptions to only fans where
he was spending at least fifty dollars a week on
private messages with these women.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
I confronted him, which was hard because I didn't know
him that well yet. And of course he lied, and
he told me he'd stop.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
How do you lie? Look, it's there? Is it? Your
friend's doing it on your phone?
Speaker 4 (21:42):
Is that my brother was using my account?
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Yeah, it's not my account and I'm just logged in
with my friend. Months down the track, I found out
he was still subscribing. And this has happened about five times.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
I'm sorry to hear that, girl.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
I do also think it can be so challenging though
to leave sometimes. It finally got to a point about
eight months ago I just kind of gave up and
started following the let them theory fast forwards. Ton How
we haven't had an issue in a while. By that,
do you mean like just let him do it? Like
meaning he's doing it and you're just letting him. Is
that what you mean by that?
Speaker 1 (22:14):
Fast forward to now.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
We haven't had an issue in a while, other than
the fact I walked on on him wanking while watching
something on his phone. I don't know what while I
was two rooms away. I push Some people have issues
with their partners watching porn while like while they're dating.
I feel like I don't have an issue with it,
(22:36):
but it's like if I'm two rooms away, like, why are.
Speaker 1 (22:38):
You doing that? Do you know what I mean? In that?
Speaker 4 (22:40):
If I'm there, I don't want to walk in on it.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
I just also think you don't need to be doing
that when your girlfriend is like right there, Like, that's
your partner, Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (22:50):
Why are we watching porn when your girlfriend's right there?
Speaker 2 (22:52):
Anyway, I pushed him away for a while after this
because we haven't been having sex, and I'm assuming it's
because he isn't attracted to me anymore. My main problem
is the other day he admitted he probably watches porn
eight times a month when he's horny. I wouldn't say
eight times a month is that bad? But again, again,
I'm not a man. Do you know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (23:11):
Yeah, and I don't really do that.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
So I don't know. Is that bad? Yeah? I feel
like it's not.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
I mean, I feel like there's people with like sex
addictions that like watch porn every single day.
Speaker 4 (23:22):
Yeah, you know, I'm just gonna say no without explaining like.
Speaker 1 (23:25):
I don't think it's that bad. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
I felt gross and annoyed because we literally never sleep together,
and at nineteen, I want to be living my best life.
I don't know what to do because he told me
he'll stop, but I'm traumatized about him lying about only
events for so long.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Please give me whatever advice you have, Queen. I love you, honey.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
I really hope that you Sometimes when you write things
out or when you, like say, explain things to people,
you realize, holy fuck, what am I doing? You need
to break up with this man before this episode even
fucking contact, Like this is not a loyal man. Imagine
being together with him when you're twenty five. Imagine I'd
be a kid with this man. This guy can't even
keep his dicking his pants for the first five months
(24:02):
when you're nineteen.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
Not worth it.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
I just think it's gonna always be lying. It's gonna
always be sneaking around. And like you said, you want
to be living your best life. You want to be
with someone that makes you happy, It makes you feel
wanted and gets you excited.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
And this guy is not that, not at all.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
You've been given a million reasons to break up with him,
and if you need to start listing them all out
and hand him a fucking written note so we can
understand them, fine, but I just feel.
Speaker 1 (24:25):
Like that guy is going to be better in your
rearview mirror.
Speaker 4 (24:28):
Just send him this episode.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
Send him this.
Speaker 2 (24:30):
Episode and be like, this is what you've done, and
this is why I'm.
Speaker 4 (24:33):
Leaving, and this is what is he said about it.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
Yeah, so fuck him honestly hope he enjoys his fucking
porn addiction. No, I actually don't think eight months, eight
times a month is a porn addiction. But like I
just think, if he wants to talk to his only
fans girls instead of his girlfriend, then leave him to
do that in the privacy of his own home because
you deserve better. All right, help me out. I have
this friend, let's call it Tara. I've known Tara since UNI.
(24:56):
We were super close, always leaning on each other, venting
about boys. Sharing secrets, the whole package. Then I met
someone Let's call him Eli. Eli's such a random name
to say, like, let's call him Eli.
Speaker 1 (25:07):
Do you know what I mean? Yeah?
Speaker 4 (25:08):
Where'd you get that?
Speaker 1 (25:09):
Yeah? What'd you get that? It's kind of cute.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
We clicked fast and there was chemistry. We've been casually
seeing each other for a few months. When am I
going to click fast with someone?
Speaker 4 (25:20):
Happy?
Speaker 1 (25:20):
For you? Girl? And Eli? Now here's the thing.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
Eli and Tara used to date briefly, super briefly, maybe
two years ago, nothing serious, but enough that Tara had
feelings and she never really moved on, or at least
she never said she did. There is such a fine line.
In my opinion, it is such a situation. The situation
basis with these sort of things. Never date a friends X,
(25:45):
but it's like, yes to some extent, yes, but it's
like I dated a friend's X my last boyfriend, but
it's like that girl was no longer a friend of mine,
no longer someone that particularly fucking liked me or treated
me nicely, and she was already dating someone else for
multiple years at that point. And I just think it's
(26:07):
so situation situation, Like there've been people I've gone on
dates with the friends of mine have gone on dates
with a year earlier, and they just like fizzled, nothing happened,
and they're like, go for it. Is like it doesn't matter.
So I think we'll read into this. But I do
think it's so situation the situation. I think conversations need
to be had before. Generally, though, if you are still
friends with the girl. When I started seeing Eli, she
(26:28):
didn't say anything, not outwardly, but lately I catch the
way she looks at him, and sometimes she slips comparing
me to what she remembers or hinting at when they.
Speaker 1 (26:37):
Were together stories. I'm stuck.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
On one hand, I feel like I should step back
because I don't want to be the other person in
her heart. But on the other hand, I really like Eli.
I like how things feel with him and how he
treats me. I'm not sure Tara actually wants him back,
or if she's just hur and I don't know how
to stop feeling weird about it.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
Is he help?
Speaker 2 (26:55):
I think if Tara hasn't actually said like, she doesn't
seem like she got annoyed or anything when this begun,
Do you know what I mean? Like, I feel like
maybe there might be some lingering issues. But if it
was super super brief and you and Eli probably will
end up surpassing the time that they spent together, I
think it's okay if she hasn't verbalized to you that
it's not.
Speaker 1 (27:15):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (27:17):
Because I with a close friend of mine would absolutely
I would hope that would be like, hey, you went
on a couple dates with this guy, you were seeing
him briefly, do you mind? And I'd be like, yeah,
I do mind, or no I don't. And it seems
like she didn't say anything to that, Like she didn't
say anything like that at the beginning. So I'm like, yeah,
maybe it's not ideal and uncomfortable for her, but you
(27:39):
should also hope that a friend of yours would vocalize
if she was uncomfortable with something like that. If that
does happen, maybe there needs to be a bit of reevaluating.
But I also think it totally depends on how long
these two were seeing each other, and if it was
just a couple of dates, or if they were seeing
each other for a couple months, if it was exclusive,
if it was just casual, like oh, it varies, but
(27:59):
I'd say cutting off a connection with someone like Eli
who you really clicked with and a good with him.
Right now, it seems like you're also still friends with Tara.
She's not being rude about it, she's not saying anything outwardly.
I think maybe she's just struggling to get her head around.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
It a little bit.
Speaker 4 (28:13):
Yeah, it just seems uncomfortable and.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
Like maybe it is really tall.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
But I think with time that should pass unless she
has anything about.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
It, and like I don't want to assume, but the
fact that Tara is sticking around and not really sharing
maybe how she feels it seems she still wants a
friendship as well, and she doesn't want it.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
To be an issue. She's trying her best to not match.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
Yeah, but I think my solution would be to talk
to her, but not from it.
Speaker 4 (28:39):
Do you have a problem with this way?
Speaker 3 (28:40):
Like I felt by you saying ABC, this might be
uncomfortable for her.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
I just want to let you know I do really
like him, Like, yeah, don't be like do you have
a problem, because then it's easy for her to be
like yeah I do.
Speaker 4 (28:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
No, just also reiterate how much you value the friendship
with her as well.
Speaker 4 (28:58):
Because yeah, it doesn't seem and.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
It doesn't seem like there's drama.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
It seems like maybe she's just uncomfortable and getting the
hang of things. It might be odd if I saw
a guy I'd been on a date with and I
went out and he was on a date with my friend,
like seeing it, I think would be a lot weirder
than like me just saying yeah, of course, girl, go
for it.
Speaker 1 (29:18):
I like, I only saw him very briefly, so.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
I think maybe the being around you two in that
regard might be what's hard. But I don't think it
seems like there's an issue, or I think she would
have vocalized her already. All Right, that was only three
dummers today because your girl was yapping at the beginning.
But we do have so many good ones, so we're
going to do a part two to that soon and
then maybe we even might get your favorite guests on again.
Speaker 1 (29:43):
My fucking sister h nah, she is good. I like
coming on. It makes a FuMB But thank you guys
so much for your constant support.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
I love you, guys, and I will see you next Thursday.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
Bye.
Hi, guys, it's easy. Welcome back to hear me out.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
I wanted to give you a little heads up before
you start the episode. It sounds like I am recording
outside under a storm, so we tried to edit out
the rain as much as we could, But of course
we had that a little bit of bad luck that
it started bucketing the moment we got in. I could
not push through for you, guys and give you all
of my updates. So enjoy the episode and I will
(00:22):
speak to you next week with a little bit less
background noise. He tells me he likes to embarrass his
friends in public by getting down on all VORs and
chasing them like a dog.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Oh my god. All right, guys.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Hello, we're back recording in Melbourne, and I actually couldn't
be happier. I think being in places like Bali, hear
me out.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
I couldn't live in Bali. I could never live in Bali.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
I love it, but I honestly think like a week
to two weeks is absolutely enough for me. I think
I like cooking, and I know that sounds like people
you can cook give you live in Bali, but like
a lot of people probably don't cook that much. I
just think the heat, the constant heat. I just feel
like not being able to drink tap water. There's so
many little things about Bali that I'm like, maybe I'm
(01:10):
too much of a lady of leisure, but I really
don't see that I could live in a country like that.
You know, I love it for a holiday and it's
so much fun and you meet so many amazing people.
But I feel like it would actually be incredibly challenging
to live in a place where it's very tourist based,
because you meet someone and then they're leaving, Like even
friends are coming in and out and going through. And
(01:30):
I know I have some friends in Bali, and you know,
it's like, how hard is it to meet a guy?
You might meet a guy in a night out and
they're from fucking England.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
But oh they here for five more days. Sorry bye.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
And I think because of that, the men there that
live there, they're not men I would want to date,
because in the way they're like they view you as
someone that's only going to be there for a little bit.
They just want to like get in your pants and
kick you to the curb. And it's like I didn't
have any interaction with any men that live in Bali.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Don't worry, guys, I'm.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Safe, but the energy there is so hectic. If you
live I think Chengu. Maybe a luatu would be completely different.
And like, I'm not someone that lives there, so I'm
not being judgmental. The lifestyle would be incredible if you're
like a surfer or someone that like likes swimming. The
beach scares me though, but I just living there. It's
like sometimes it makes you so glad to be home.
(02:17):
But that Bali holiday was definitely more relaxing, more what
I needed versus the hectic party time of my birthday trip.
So I've come back happy, refreshed and ready to go.
But we have blakey on to give us a hear
me out.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Oh hello, oh hello, I missed you more and we
haven't even unpacked. So like the updates we're getting.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
We haven't unpacked.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
They're fresh, they're fresh.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
But I'm coming with a less fresh hear me out.
But I just want to claim this one because there
was a trend going around on TikTok. Yeah, I had
an opinion about it.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
I actually said it to you, did I read rely?
Speaker 4 (02:51):
No?
Speaker 3 (02:51):
We spoke about it after a recording. I had got
my hear me out and I got into such a
bad mood. I was like, where did I go?
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Oh, that was the one you forgot.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
I remember it, but it is kicked off on TikTok.
Now it's going really viral. It's about the unfortunately I
do love tram. Yeah you say things that, oh.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
And it's like unfortunately.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
People will like write out a bunch of things that
they like, like staying up past two am, like two
bottles of red wine.
Speaker 4 (03:19):
But then there's someone too muches.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Some focks are like, sorry, not actually, I'm not sorry.
If you're writing this new TikTok, take it down. They're like, unfortunately,
I do love going to bed by nine pm, making
my bed every morning. A lot of people like that stuff.
That's not unfortunate at all, Like good on you.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
That sounds like a normal I feel like a lot
of people.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Are using that as like a way to like, unfortunately,
I do love saying on a Saturday night, yeah babe,
same but yeah cool.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
But it's literally like hear me out, you're all a
bit boring, Like what are you doing? That's actually yeah,
I don't want to say interesting.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
I saw one that was fun Like I think it
was Lucy Jackson from Happy Hour, Happy Hour and she
said ignoring the ato and I'm like, that's funny, is
like the tax tax people.
Speaker 4 (04:03):
Would ignoring parking? Fine?
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Yeah, like that's yeah, okay fair. But I'm like, yeah,
there's people going unfortunately. I do love having it too,
matches a day whoa slow down girl? That is crazy?
Someone called the police. Like there's a whole lot of
that going on, and it makes me laugh.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
I really I've been challenged finding one and I'm like,
I do that, and that's funny, that's outland.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Yeah, because the point of these are to be like funny,
and it'd be like, holy fuck, like that's something that not.
Speaker 4 (04:28):
A lot of people do, but like I do that, legit,
that's what I mean looking for. But it's just been
so unrelatable and I've just.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Well not even unrelatable, like so incredibly relatable. But I
already do all of those things you're saying and it's
nothing outlandish about it.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
Yeah, Like I do that thinking it's healthy.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Unfortunately, I really love making my bed. Oh cute, same sis,
glad to hear it. It's yeah, it's some people I
feel like, don't realize that.
Speaker 4 (04:54):
These things are normal.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
These are normal habits.
Speaker 4 (04:57):
Some people just.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
It was a mixtween a hobby and habits. That's where
that came from.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
Not but anyway, I just have to let that off
my chest.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
I totally agree with you. It annoys me.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
I think they're funny to watch though, because I'm like,
is this one gonna make me.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Laugh or piss me off?
Speaker 4 (05:11):
And rarely do they do.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Laugh.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
But on another note, I am obviously yeah, I got
back in Melbourne last night. I think I got back
home at like twelve thirty. Thank you Mom for picking
me up. She oh, you'll die, You'll die, Mom said,
I will only pick because I was like having a
bit of a meltdown in the airport.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
I will explain why.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
But I was like calling all my family members, someone
please pick me up my lines at like ten thirty.
But obviously with international it's like I probably won't be
getting out till like eleven fifteen. And I was flying
on my own and I hate, I really don't like
doing that on a good day, and I'm like, please
some one, please, please please calling all of them. No no, no,
Mom goes. If you see a psychologist I will come
pick you up slow. So I said, fine, fine, I'll
(05:55):
see a psychologist.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
So I've I.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Now have a psychologist that I have to book morning,
Oh my god, to go start seeing, which I think
is gonna be a good thing for me. I think
there's a lot of things that I have very unhealthy
coping mechanisms, and if you are around me regularly, I
think you can see that, Like I'm always very highly strung,
Like it's a very fine line between me being calm
and something like really overwhelming me all my larms. That's
(06:20):
not a coping mechanism, that's a mental health disorder. And
my calendar is one of the most disorganized, scary, and
intimidating things you've ever seen. Just because it's color coded
easy doesn't mean it's helpful. And I still still think
I have a real, real mental block with men. They
scare the fuck out of me quite frankly. Talk to
me on a night out. Absolutely not. But I'm like,
(06:42):
that's what I want, that's what I like. I get
dressed up, I get excited, like, oh, there might be
some cute men there, but I'm like, don't you fucking
look at me, because.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
I won't know how to talk to you.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
But it's like, I'm so good at talking to people
I love and like girls, and it's like, I just
think I have a lot to work through, and I
think there's absolutely no shame in talking to someone, because
what there's no And I've definitely I've seen a psychologist
throughout my life, like with the intention of getting over
specific things that had happened to me, like after my
first breakup and then after the second one. I saw
(07:12):
a psychologist for periods where I felt like I needed
help with. But I'm like, I probably just need one
to help me work through, like life in general and
certain things. I definitely think it will be good for me,
and I owe Moum that because she picked me up
from the airport. The fuck thing was I actually get
off the phone with Mum and because I was whining
like a bitch in the group chat about someone coming
(07:33):
to get me, I then have a message from Dad
in the same group chat saying fine, I'll do it.
When's the flight, And I went, I could say yes
to Dad for right now and not see the psychologists,
but I said, it's okay.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Mom's coming to get me.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
I've promise her if she does, I'll see a psych
so I will keep you updated on how that's going.
Because I know a lot of people it might be
something they think about or have contemplated, and like, I
think there's a fear in it.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
In my mind.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
I'm like worried it will be boring quite frankly to
sit there. But I sit there and talk about myself
to you guys every week for an hour, So why
can't I do it to a site? So yeah, that's me.
I'm growing frontal lobe developing. I'm finally giving it to
go again, and hopefully it can be a bit more
of a long term thing, because I think your girl
needs a little bit of assistance every.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Now and again.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
But the reason I was having an airport meltdown is
because the girl I was traveling with, Annabelle, she was
doing staff travel, which I don't know if everyone knows,
but generally you can get staff travel if you have
a family member that is a flight attendant or a
pilot or whatever.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
So it's just a cheaper version of travel.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
But you don't really know if you're on the flight
until like quite soon before the flight. Sometimes they'll lock
you in the day before or the morning of, I think,
but we rock up to the airport her not knowing
if she's on the flight or not, because I think
basically the way it works, and correct me if I'm wrong,
because I've never done it. There's like a said amount
of seats available for staff on each flight, but it
(08:57):
goes in order of priority. So if you're like a
seeing your flight attendant, you're going to get that seat
over like a family member of a flight attendant, you
know what I mean. So we get to the airport
and we are running a little bit behind because you
know that Barley traffic can be temperamental.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
The flight leaves at two point fifty. Holy fuck, I've
just here that.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Okay, guys, I'm sitting here trying to record listen.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Can you hear it?
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Who gets a studio with the tin roof? This is crazy,
But we're pushing through.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
You're doing and look at Blake, you're doing great.
Speaker 4 (09:32):
CD.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
It's we've got a lull.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
It was probably one pm when we get to the airport,
which I know is late for an international flight. Anyways,
we get in line, we get to the front probably
at like one twenty, and they say, oh, sorry, Annabell,
it's still on standby.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
The flight before yours, the Jetsull flight.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
Before yours was canceled, meaning there's a whole group of
people that were meant to be on that plane that
can no longer get on it.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Therefore they give those spare teats.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
They're giving those spare seats to people from the flight
before us. But they're like, come back in half an hour,
and we're like half an hour. The plane like boards
in half an hour. Whatever fuck. We went and got
some food. I got some Yokie, needed it, and then
we come back and I'm like, I just need to
check in now because I'm actually on this flight, checked in,
drop my bags in. We wait there for another like
(10:23):
ten minutes, and by this time I look at the clock,
the plane's boarding and I haven't even gone.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
Through security yet.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
They say, sorry, Annabelle, because of the cancel flight, you
can't get on this one. She's like, okay, what about
the next one?
Speaker 3 (10:34):
No?
Speaker 1 (10:35):
What about the next one?
Speaker 3 (10:36):
No?
Speaker 1 (10:36):
All the flights for the rest of the day.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
Completely booked out because they're putting all the people from
the cancel flights onto those ones. It is one hundred degrees.
We haven't eaten, We have only had three and a
half hours sleep. Stupidly, I didn't have a big night
the whole fucking time I was in Bali.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
And then on Sunday night.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
I go, fuck it, let's stay out till four fucking
am stupid, stupid, stupid bitch. Anyway, so I've got the
hangover sweats and I'm fucking starving, and then Yochi is
hitting my stomach badly, and I'm like, fuck, I don't
like flying alone, like I really don't, but being in
like an international airport scares me more than save. I
(11:14):
was in Sydney and I was like, I've got to
leave her, but I don't know her.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
Internet all of.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
A sudden is refusing to work for this whole day.
She has no way to contact me, no way to
get money out, no way to search up anything. I'll
call anyone online, and I just have to go through security.
I get through security and it's two twenty five. My
flight is scheduled to leave at two fifty five. I'm like,
boarding probably closes in about five minutes, and I don't
know where my fucking gate is and I'm on my own.
(11:41):
I see a sign after about five minutes gates two
to nine to the left. Great, Oh wait, Gate nine
is at the very end of a fucking two kilommeater hallway.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
So I ran through the airport.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
I stopped and started because I don't have the endurance
to run that far in the single go. But I
was the last person on the plane, sweating buckets. They'd
made me pull my water out to get through security.
I was like, actually worried I was gonna have a
panic attack because like I'm on those people. I'm like,
I drink like five leads of water a day, and
I'm like I can't breathe.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
I'm sweating.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Everyone's staring at me because I've like held up the
fucking plane And when you see on those planes on
the tarmac and you're in your trackies because you put
trackies on because you're about to go to Melbourne, I'm like,
it was fucked anyway. I don't really get to complain though,
because right now I'm sitting in Melbourne. Annabel pull little
Anna Belly. You know, we call each other bean now
(12:30):
because of the summer, I term pretty and it's like,
you know how her mum calls her a bean and
it's like the eakiest thing ever. Anyway, because she's Annabelle
and I'm Isabelle. Were like belly bean. Anyway, no one
gives a fuck she is in Bali. She went back
to she couldn't get a gojack or any kind because
her Internet wasn't working, So she's like, fuck, I'm gonna
(12:51):
have to get one of these guys. You know how,
if you've ever been to Bali, there's like hundreds of
men waiting to like potentially get you in their taxi
or their fucking car with all the sign with all
the signs, but a lot of them don't have signs,
and they're just like taxi taxi, like I'll drive you.
She's like, this is my only fucking option because I
don't have a way to order it, book anything. So
she gets a guy, gets in the car with him.
(13:14):
Doesn't have any money because she needs to transfer money,
but she doesn't have internet. This guy keeps trying to
hold her hand, like puts his hand out over the
center console and like keeps trying to.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Hold her hand.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
He then whips out his phone on FaceTime to his
buddies and is showing his friends Annabel's sitting there. She's like,
in the car, she doesn't have any internet. She can't
go on her phone do anything. She's like sitting there
with this man who's trying to hold her hand, who
is like successfully holding her hand, occasionally taking videos of
her to send to his friends. Has to get him
(13:46):
to drop her off at the villa, Go in, get
Wi Fi, transfer money for her account, go get cash out,
and then she's home. She tries to go to the
airport today. Oh, flight's been delayed six hours.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
Go back. I was like, oh, Annabelle, but it's fine.
Speaker 2 (13:59):
You get another day in the sun, Like, just relax,
sit by the pool. We didn't get a single fucking
drop of rain for the whole time we were there.
It is bucketing all fucking day, no torrential rain, so
the weather's delayed all the flights. So while I'm recording this,
she's still sitting in our villa in Bali, and I'm
sending her thoughts and prayers. So I've found like a
fucking brat for complaining about anything that happened yesterday. But like,
(14:21):
I just really don't like flying alone anyway. That was
my story, but Bali was great. I wouldn't say anything
of interest happened. We did meet a couple odd characters,
but the trip itself was great. Obviously, do always love
Bali for a holiday. But that is enough of my
rant and my bullshit. We're getting into your dilemmas today.
(14:43):
You guys have sent a couple in and we're gonna
go through them and see.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
How we go. Look, see what you guys are working with?
All right, guys, help me out number one.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Hey, babe, I thought i'd share this because I'm still
trying to wrap my head around it months later. So
I'm twenty and I went on my first real date
a few months ago. Basically I got approached at Glebe Markets,
Where's Thats and Sydney, which is rare because Ozzie men
never approached. Yeah, Ozzie men should really start doing that more.
If I got approached at a coffee shop or walking
(15:14):
the street, I would absolutely fucking love it. Like sober approaches,
I know they're scary, but I feel like they mean more.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
You're more inclined to.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
Be like, oh, yeah, I will go on a date
with you than if someone like some drunk guy likes
can I blow you a drink? Yeah you can, but
I don't want to talk to you anymore. Thank you,
he had an accent, so it made sense right. He
came every and said, I saw you sitting here, and
you have beautiful eyes.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
Can I get you?
Speaker 2 (15:37):
First of all, how did he see my eyes from
a mile away? A man can try, but we always know.
Second of all, well, he was kind of hot.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
Okay, great. He was tall.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
He had good style, like a Walmart version of Vinnie Hacker. Haha,
Vinie Hacker's hot. Even a Walmart version would be hot.
His name was Jack and he was Canadian. He asked
me to coffee and I agreed. Oh see, I don't
know if I would coffee date for a first date,
but I'm proud of you, girl, I agreed. He handed
me his phone and iphoned five. Huh, I didn't even
(16:09):
know those things still ran? How do you find a
charger for that bad boy? Isn't it the wide one?
Speaker 4 (16:14):
I think?
Speaker 1 (16:14):
So shit, so cracked.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
I couldn't even see the keyboard first red flag, but
I thought maybe he's just traveling.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Two days later, it's date day. I'm nervous, but I go.
First thing he says to me when I arrive is
are you stoned? And I'm like sorry, He repeats it says,
I have glassy eyes, but he doesn't mind if I
am stoned is high on marijuana, in case anyone watching
doesn't realize. If we walk for thirty minutes trying to
find a cafe that he knows, why do you need
(16:43):
to know the cafe? There's a forty five minute wait,
So I take him somewhere else. We get coffee, we're chatting.
It's fine. He tells me he's been traveling for six months,
just came from Byron. I asked where he stayed, and
he says, oh, I lived in the woods. Hang on,
I'm like cool, like a tent. That's fucking cool. That's
weird too, and he goes, nah, a hammock. Apparently, if
(17:05):
it rains, he just lay in a hammock full of water,
didn't shower six months. And I'm trying to keep a
straight face. That is crazy behavior. Well, he's lying in
a fucking hammock. He's basically in a bath. If it rains,
we leave, and while walking through Chinatown, he suddenly blunts
out of rude comment about the people around us.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
I'm gonna assume that he's being racist. I go silent.
I'm sure how to respond.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
He keeps insisting it's fine to say okay, Bud, but
I'm walking so fast at this point, I'm just wanting
to get out of the situation. Then he goes, you
know how, you don't know me. I could be an actor.
My name might not even be Jack, and you've just
believed me. I'm shitting myself. Who says that that's like
I had a guy wants to be like, I could kill.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
You right now with this pillow.
Speaker 4 (17:51):
I've had similar and I was like, what the fuck
is wrong with you? I never thought that?
Speaker 2 (17:56):
Yeah, I now I do, and now I want you
out of my fucking house. How about that who says
that he tells me he likes to embarrass his friends
in public by getting down on all fours and chasing
them like a dog.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
Oh my god?
Speaker 2 (18:09):
What's that cosplay that people are into where they like
like to be animals?
Speaker 4 (18:13):
Oh, I SA know what you mean, and they.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
Like meet in like parks altogether and run out with
mask saying it's like pop, Yeah, I know what you mean, puppy.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Play or something.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
Someone was talking about that in a previous submission that
they went to a park and there's like a gathered
annual gathering of these people that fetish that.
Speaker 4 (18:31):
No, I fuck, it's fluffies. You're fluffy.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
Oh maybe this guy's a secret fluffy.
Speaker 4 (18:37):
I hate that's called not fix fluffy sounds cute.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
Fluffy's cute, and I'm not not here to kick shame.
But like, it's just not my style. He tries to
do it right there. I had to physically pull this
six foot man off the floor. At this point, I
text my sister to come rescue me. She did, thank god.
He wouldn't leave, even after I said bye three times.
Later that night, he texts, you're taking out space in
my head.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
Do I get to see you as soon? Sir? What
year are you in?
Speaker 2 (19:02):
I said, thanks, but I'm not interested. He replies, well,
considering I'm not from here, I wasn't looking for anything either.
I have a real dislike for men that like to
act like it was a mutual ending just because you've
done it first. There's a guy I know that I've
done that with my sister and she said she was
just seeing someone, and he's like, no, totally agree, same page.
(19:22):
It's like you've just asked her sixteen times to go
out for dinner with her again and she's ended it
with you, and you're like, so glad we're on the
same page, Like just be like, no worries.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
It was so lovely to meet you.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
Like wish you the best, you know what I mean literally,
like you don't need to always be the one in
the rot.
Speaker 4 (19:39):
I just hope it all go as well.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
Yeah, I hope it all goes well. It was nice
to hang out with you fucking widows.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
Anyway.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
I saw him once again in public and nearly shout myself,
but I haven't heard from him since. Haven't been on
another day either, and I'm scared. Love you is keep
up the body. It's my favorite time of the week.
Thank you, beautiful girl. And I'm so glad that this
man is. Does he live in Melbourne? No, he lives
in Sydney, thank god. Because I see a six foot
man running around on all fours, I'm going to run
the other way. I wonder if anyone else has gone
on dates with this guy since, because he seems.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
Like a freak.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
Sorry that's really rude, but I'm not really in the
mood to sugarcoat things today.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
All right, we have another hear me out?
Speaker 2 (20:12):
Hi is just oh I love all you guys for
saying such cute things at the beginning, I just want
to say, I'm super proud of you for thriving with
the potty and I love hearing you.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
With laky what. Okay, help me out.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
I'm having some issues with my partner at the moment
her reference. We're only both at nineteen. Growing up, I've
always I was always told I was emotionally intelligent and
really aware of how things affected people.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
My boyfriend is not.
Speaker 4 (20:37):
Yeah, yeah, he loved that.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
We've been together for two and a half years and
met just after school. Since the beginning, we've had issues
with his loyalty to me in regards to sexual desires.
I'm going to start by saying I think you should
not be with this man, but we'll see how we go.
He has actively told me he would fuck other girls
because his mates think they're hot.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
I hate men make their partners feel self conscious, like
even like, well that goes so hot when she's like
walking down the beach, Like you don't get you cannot
say that in front of me, do you know what
I mean?
Speaker 4 (21:06):
And as if the other girl's looking at you, like.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
I'll say, while that girl's gorgeous, if I'm with a partner,
you can't agree.
Speaker 4 (21:14):
That's a hear me out.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
Yeah, that's a hear me out.
Speaker 2 (21:17):
By five months into the relationship, I found emails on
his phone, by the way, we both go through each
other's phones casually. I found subscriptions to only fans where
he was spending at least fifty dollars a week on
private messages with these women.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
I confronted him, which was hard because I didn't know
him that well yet. And of course he lied, and
he told me he'd stop.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
How do you lie? Look, it's there? Is it? Your
friend's doing it on your phone?
Speaker 4 (21:42):
Is that my brother was using my account?
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Yeah, it's not my account and I'm just logged in
with my friend. Months down the track, I found out
he was still subscribing. And this has happened about five times.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
I'm sorry to hear that, girl.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
I do also think it can be so challenging though
to leave sometimes. It finally got to a point about
eight months ago I just kind of gave up and
started following the let them theory fast forwards. Ton How
we haven't had an issue in a while. By that,
do you mean like just let him do it? Like
meaning he's doing it and you're just letting him. Is
that what you mean by that?
Speaker 1 (22:14):
Fast forward to now.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
We haven't had an issue in a while, other than
the fact I walked on on him wanking while watching
something on his phone. I don't know what while I
was two rooms away. I push Some people have issues
with their partners watching porn while like while they're dating.
I feel like I don't have an issue with it,
(22:36):
but it's like if I'm two rooms away, like, why are.
Speaker 1 (22:38):
You doing that? Do you know what I mean? In that?
Speaker 4 (22:40):
If I'm there, I don't want to walk in on it.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
I just also think you don't need to be doing
that when your girlfriend is like right there, Like, that's
your partner, Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (22:50):
Why are we watching porn when your girlfriend's right there?
Speaker 2 (22:52):
Anyway, I pushed him away for a while after this
because we haven't been having sex, and I'm assuming it's
because he isn't attracted to me anymore. My main problem
is the other day he admitted he probably watches porn
eight times a month when he's horny. I wouldn't say
eight times a month is that bad? But again, again,
I'm not a man. Do you know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (23:11):
Yeah, and I don't really do that.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
So I don't know. Is that bad? Yeah? I feel
like it's not.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
I mean, I feel like there's people with like sex
addictions that like watch porn every single day.
Speaker 4 (23:22):
Yeah, you know, I'm just gonna say no without explaining like.
Speaker 1 (23:25):
I don't think it's that bad. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
I felt gross and annoyed because we literally never sleep together,
and at nineteen, I want to be living my best life.
I don't know what to do because he told me
he'll stop, but I'm traumatized about him lying about only
events for so long.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Please give me whatever advice you have, Queen. I love you, honey.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
I really hope that you Sometimes when you write things
out or when you, like say, explain things to people,
you realize, holy fuck, what am I doing? You need
to break up with this man before this episode even
fucking contact, Like this is not a loyal man. Imagine
being together with him when you're twenty five. Imagine I'd
be a kid with this man. This guy can't even
keep his dicking his pants for the first five months
(24:02):
when you're nineteen.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
Not worth it.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
I just think it's gonna always be lying. It's gonna
always be sneaking around. And like you said, you want
to be living your best life. You want to be
with someone that makes you happy, It makes you feel
wanted and gets you excited.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
And this guy is not that, not at all.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
You've been given a million reasons to break up with him,
and if you need to start listing them all out
and hand him a fucking written note so we can
understand them, fine, but I just feel.
Speaker 1 (24:25):
Like that guy is going to be better in your
rearview mirror.
Speaker 4 (24:28):
Just send him this episode.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
Send him this.
Speaker 2 (24:30):
Episode and be like, this is what you've done, and
this is why I'm.
Speaker 4 (24:33):
Leaving, and this is what is he said about it.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
Yeah, so fuck him honestly hope he enjoys his fucking
porn addiction. No, I actually don't think eight months, eight
times a month is a porn addiction. But like I
just think, if he wants to talk to his only
fans girls instead of his girlfriend, then leave him to
do that in the privacy of his own home because
you deserve better. All right, help me out. I have
this friend, let's call it Tara. I've known Tara since UNI.
(24:56):
We were super close, always leaning on each other, venting
about boys. Sharing secrets, the whole package. Then I met
someone Let's call him Eli. Eli's such a random name
to say, like, let's call him Eli.
Speaker 1 (25:07):
Do you know what I mean? Yeah?
Speaker 4 (25:08):
Where'd you get that?
Speaker 1 (25:09):
Yeah? What'd you get that? It's kind of cute.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
We clicked fast and there was chemistry. We've been casually
seeing each other for a few months. When am I
going to click fast with someone?
Speaker 4 (25:20):
Happy?
Speaker 1 (25:20):
For you? Girl? And Eli? Now here's the thing.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
Eli and Tara used to date briefly, super briefly, maybe
two years ago, nothing serious, but enough that Tara had
feelings and she never really moved on, or at least
she never said she did. There is such a fine line.
In my opinion, it is such a situation. The situation
basis with these sort of things. Never date a friends X,
(25:45):
but it's like, yes to some extent, yes, but it's
like I dated a friend's X my last boyfriend, but
it's like that girl was no longer a friend of mine,
no longer someone that particularly fucking liked me or treated
me nicely, and she was already dating someone else for
multiple years at that point. And I just think it's
(26:07):
so situation situation, Like there've been people I've gone on
dates with the friends of mine have gone on dates
with a year earlier, and they just like fizzled, nothing happened,
and they're like, go for it. Is like it doesn't matter.
So I think we'll read into this. But I do
think it's so situation the situation. I think conversations need
to be had before. Generally, though, if you are still
friends with the girl. When I started seeing Eli, she
(26:28):
didn't say anything, not outwardly, but lately I catch the
way she looks at him, and sometimes she slips comparing
me to what she remembers or hinting at when they.
Speaker 1 (26:37):
Were together stories. I'm stuck.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
On one hand, I feel like I should step back
because I don't want to be the other person in
her heart. But on the other hand, I really like Eli.
I like how things feel with him and how he
treats me. I'm not sure Tara actually wants him back,
or if she's just hur and I don't know how
to stop feeling weird about it.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
Is he help?
Speaker 2 (26:55):
I think if Tara hasn't actually said like, she doesn't
seem like she got annoyed or anything when this begun,
Do you know what I mean? Like, I feel like
maybe there might be some lingering issues. But if it
was super super brief and you and Eli probably will
end up surpassing the time that they spent together, I
think it's okay if she hasn't verbalized to you that
it's not.
Speaker 1 (27:15):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (27:17):
Because I with a close friend of mine would absolutely
I would hope that would be like, hey, you went
on a couple dates with this guy, you were seeing
him briefly, do you mind? And I'd be like, yeah,
I do mind, or no I don't. And it seems
like she didn't say anything to that, Like she didn't
say anything like that at the beginning. So I'm like, yeah,
maybe it's not ideal and uncomfortable for her, but you
(27:39):
should also hope that a friend of yours would vocalize
if she was uncomfortable with something like that. If that
does happen, maybe there needs to be a bit of reevaluating.
But I also think it totally depends on how long
these two were seeing each other, and if it was
just a couple of dates, or if they were seeing
each other for a couple months, if it was exclusive,
if it was just casual, like oh, it varies, but
(27:59):
I'd say cutting off a connection with someone like Eli
who you really clicked with and a good with him.
Right now, it seems like you're also still friends with Tara.
She's not being rude about it, she's not saying anything outwardly.
I think maybe she's just struggling to get her head around.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
It a little bit.
Speaker 4 (28:13):
Yeah, it just seems uncomfortable and.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
Like maybe it is really tall.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
But I think with time that should pass unless she
has anything about.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
It, and like I don't want to assume, but the
fact that Tara is sticking around and not really sharing
maybe how she feels it seems she still wants a
friendship as well, and she doesn't want it.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
To be an issue. She's trying her best to not match.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
Yeah, but I think my solution would be to talk
to her, but not from it.
Speaker 4 (28:39):
Do you have a problem with this way?
Speaker 3 (28:40):
Like I felt by you saying ABC, this might be
uncomfortable for her.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
I just want to let you know I do really
like him, Like, yeah, don't be like do you have
a problem, because then it's easy for her to be
like yeah I do.
Speaker 4 (28:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
No, just also reiterate how much you value the friendship
with her as well.
Speaker 4 (28:58):
Because yeah, it doesn't seem and.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
It doesn't seem like there's drama.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
It seems like maybe she's just uncomfortable and getting the
hang of things. It might be odd if I saw
a guy I'd been on a date with and I
went out and he was on a date with my friend,
like seeing it, I think would be a lot weirder
than like me just saying yeah, of course, girl, go
for it.
Speaker 1 (29:18):
I like, I only saw him very briefly, so.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
I think maybe the being around you two in that
regard might be what's hard. But I don't think it
seems like there's an issue, or I think she would
have vocalized her already. All Right, that was only three
dummers today because your girl was yapping at the beginning.
But we do have so many good ones, so we're
going to do a part two to that soon and
then maybe we even might get your favorite guests on again.
Speaker 1 (29:43):
My fucking sister h nah, she is good. I like
coming on. It makes a FuMB But thank you guys
so much for your constant support.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
I love you, guys, and I will see you next Thursday.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
Bye.
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