December 3, 2025 • 49 mins
Hey girlies! Welcome back to Hear Me Out, and honestly one of my fave eps to record. Producer Blake and I are sitting down and sifting through your biggest 'hear me out' moments & spiciest opinions. Plus, we have our first ever male write-in and we help him through the dating game and how to put himself out there - and it posed the question what actually makes a male attractive? Listen for our thoughts and we'd love to hear yours! Chat next week xxx
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi, guys, welcome back to hear Me Out. I'm your
host is the Armitage, and I need to learn to
speak more feminine on a podcast. I listened to my
podcast the other day and it's like it's like a foghorn,
do you think. Yeah, it's like I talk at it hectically,
louder volume than I would if there wasn't a microphone
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sitting in front of me, which I find is not necessary.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Obviously, I'm trying to remember what was the episode last week?
Tessa and Riley.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Yeah, that I feel like married out the gate. It's
like I'm screaming.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Well, it's like and not in a bad way, but
I think with three people you're kind of competing and
like you and Riley already have your back and forth dynamic.
And then there's Tessa added as well that.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
I feel like sometimes I listen to it and I go, fuck,
do I let sound like that? In person? I probably do.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
I think between us you're quite soft spoken, thank you,
but in a group setting, yeah, the volumes spoken.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Never have I ever been referred to as self spoken,
So thank you, Blake. But I'm just gonna jump right
out the gate with you. Hear Me Out. And him out.
Everyone is the worst version of themselves. In an airport,
I am like, move, move, get out of the way.
Why are you taking it along?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Right?
Speaker 1 (01:08):
Is all this checking along like there is no All
the patients leaves my body the moment I step into
those the airport doors.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Yeah, I would say mostly for like the security part
and the checking it and that's where I am checking.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Check in and bag drop kill me. That's i'd say
the worst. And then when people are leaving the plane,
I'm actually not too much of a hater of those
people that jump up and get their bags immediately. I
surprisingly am not because now that I have do the
Sydney trip like more often, it's like you'll have one
of those overhead luggage, so it's like I more jump
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up so I can get my bag before all the
rows fill up. And it's like then you're like, oh fuck,
I have to walk like five meters backwards to go
get my overhead do you know what I mean? So
I don't judge the people jumping up. You want to
get your shit and get sorted, fine by me. I
judge the people that run off when it's not their turn.
Wait for your road to leave. People that move forward
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or do things first, I'm like, you fucking wait.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Fair, Yes, but I feel like there's no rules on
a plane, not in an airport, so like everyone will
just put their worst foot forward and no one's saying anything.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
But also, when you're in a rush a lot in
the airport, you know you want to get things done
in a timely matter. And I've always said I hate
people that walk really slowly. So people that walk slowly
when I have a schedule to stick to or I
will miss my flight unless you want to buy me
another flight, get the fuck out of the way, you know,
be left, no bear left. No one knows where to walk.
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Everyone's dilly dulling, they're on their phones, they're sounding in
the paths. I don't like that anywhere, and an airport
it makes me fucking angry.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
I don't get people who dawdle around an airport, like,
for example, I don't feel too strongly about this, but
shopping at an airport, do we need to be doing that?
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Yeah? No, I completely.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
I feel like that causes a lot of the dawdling
as well and the commotion.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Judy Free, I hate it some people or doing quickly
buy something at Judy Free. No, because it takes an
hour longer than it would for me to check out
a normal show. Yeah, they have to check my passport.
I have to rumming around in my bags. I don't
know why, but Judy Free, like to me, is a hell.
I put my blinds on and I just walked straight
through it. It just everything is slower in an airport
and everyone's tirer like I had to pay. I went
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to Sydney for work the other day and my flight
was at seven thirty and I ended up actually getting
to the airport at like three thirty. And I'm like,
if I get on my flight at seven thirty, I'm
not gonna get home till like ten thirty eleven, and
like I need to make dinner, I want to do
all this stuff. So I was like, fuck it, I'll
just book an earlier flight. You know, it's a flight
to Sydney. Like how I've had so many people say, oh,
you can just like check into like move on to
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an earlier flight when you're that early. It's very easy
to do at the front desk. So I go up
to Virgin and I go, hey, I want to move
on an earlier flight. They go oh, we've actually closed
the Virgin help desk. You're gonna have to call. I'm like,
I'm in Sydney Airport right now and there is no
help desk. What the fuck do you mean? Like Sydney
is not is it not meant to be the biggest
airport in Australia.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Thirty it's not like it was eight thirty at nine.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
No, I'm like, where's the help desk? They don't have
one anymore. So I had to call, spent an hour
on the phone to this woman, spent eight hundred dollars
to move my flight forward two hours, and by that
point I was so angry that I had to do it,
because I was like, I'm in too bad a mood
to be in this airport any longer than I need to,
So fine, whatever, I'll pay for it. I sound really
negative for like airports, like I just told you, really
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bring out the worst in me. And finally the lady's
about to book the flight and she goes, Okay, it's
going to be eight hundred dollars to get on this flight.
I go, yep, great. She goes, wait, so you don't
want to do that? I said, no, no, no, no, no,
I said, I do, I do? She goes, you do
want to stay on your current flight? No? No, no, no,
no no no no. I'm like, please don't hang over
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for me, Please don't hang up for me. I need
to get on that earlier flight. Every and it just
I was just in the foulest mood ever. And when
the food's not good, nothing hits I just I can't
the loungers. No, you can't come in here. I'm like,
why not?
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Have you tried to drinking on a plane?
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Yes, one, I'm not a big I'm not a big drinker.
Why first life, I am not a big solo drinker,
and I won't drink unless i have somewhere to go.
So I'm not like a drinker at family dinners, you know,
Like I'll only drink if I'm with my friends and
I'm going out. Yeah, okay, So I drank on the
plane to Bali with Logan because we were landing at
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four and then going getting ready to go out. But
if I'm I'm not going to drink in a flight
where I'm landing at eight pm and I'm going to bed.
So no, I actually I am not someone that drinks
on planes.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
I'm not saying it makes it better, but like this
is scientifically proven, whatever you want to say. But apparently
you get more drunk in the air and every time,
like I just have to have one drink on a
plane I am like flying. Yeah, see it definitely helps.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Logan and I fucking had I reckon seven wines on
that flights.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Wow, you would have like, I'm.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
Actually surprisingly a heavier weight than I would you would
think I would be. My tolerance is built up over
the years, sadly, but yeah, maybe I should because I'm like,
I hate being here so fucking much, so I might
as well get drunk while I'm doing it. But then
when I get off the plane, I'm wasted and I
can't figure out how to get home.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Oh yeah, because you could drive. What's my leopold that
I think it's because I'm with my boyfriend or.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Something designated driver? Yea, I myself one of those. Can
someone volunteer be my designated driver? But yeah, that was
my hear me out. I'm just I'm a cunt in
an airport. So if you see me early in the
morning at an airport, No, I haven't slept, I haven't
eaten yet, and everyone around is pissing me the fuck off.
So just give me a bit of grace.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Just walk up to it with cautions or walk.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Fast around me, please, so I have my own Yeah,
go go.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
I don't know how. I've never thought of this, but
hear me out. If you cross past my car at
a pedestrian crossing, do not wave and thank me.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
I do it.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
Why I don't want to let you go? It's because
I have to.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
No, I know. I think it's acknowledgement of like I
appreciate it. I know you're not happy doing it, but
you need it. Two thanks. I know, I don't. I know,
like we're literally on opposing sides. It is. I do
it out of it seems bitchy for me to just
directly walk past when someone has stopped for me.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
See, I think it's rubbing it in your face, like
thank you. It's like I didn't want to effing stop,
but now I am okay.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
So now it's like it's arrogance to do it. But
I'm like, I feel like it's entitled to not like, yeah,
you needed to stop, thanks.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
See, because I have it's so in my head right
when I am crossing that car doesn't exist. I'm just
like tunnel vision. Always to the end of the crossing.
I'm the most over apologetic you are over a nice person.
That is the one thing I'm like, I'm not thanking you.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
I'll always look at them, at least with the acknowledgment
like that they've stopped. Yeah, no, I wave. I'm sorry,
I do. Maybe maybe I stop. Does it feel like
they're rubbing it in when someone waves at you when
they're crossing a pedestrian cross and you've stopped for them, Like,
let me know, because I don't want to be rubbing
it in. I do it because I think it's polite.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
I'm trying to think of the example I use because
I was. This happened while I was driving with Noah,
and I actually said, I'm going to mention this on
the next for my next hear me out, and I
use an example. It's to me, if you wave to me,
it's to the extent of like, no, you just feel
so redundant to me.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Yeah, in a sense, what I really hate when I'm
driving up to a pedestrian cross and I see it
there and I know I'm going to stop. Like I've
recently learned, I'm quite hard on the brakes like I
break quite late. I have always done that. I always stop.
Don't you worry it might just be a little rough,
and then you'd like, bear in mind my car. I've
never crushed my car. I'm a good driver. I'm just
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laid on the brakes. The pedestrians do not love that.
I hate the angry stare, like ough, I've stopped, have
I not? Just because it wasn't as calmly as you
would have liked it to be. I stopped. I am
in park waiting for you to cross the fucking road.
Don't glare at me in anger while you cross. Because
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I didn't stop at the speed you would have liked
me to. I saw it come in one hundred meters away.
I just braked later than you would have liked me too.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
You know, it's like bikes as well. I was turning
onto a road and it was a bike as I
was turning in. Sure, I was a little close. I'm
always a little close, always fine, like I see you.
No one's dark.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Some woman started banging on the hood of my car
the other day because I went to turn right into
an intersection so obviously like there's a crossing on the
other side, you know, and I saw I saw the
lady crossing. She was about to step onto the crosswalk,
but I just wanted to get past the traffic so
I could like make sure I made that turn. Whereas
if I stayed in the middle of the road and
didn't start turning yet, I probably wouldn't have made the lights.
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So I was like, I'll cross, block the oncoming traffic
and wait for you to fucking cross. You know what
she does. She's so angry that I came to her
with such a speed. Bear in mind, I knew this
woman was there. There was no way in fucking hell
I was gonna hit her. I am a very observant driver.
She stops in front of me and starts banging on
my hood, being like, are you fucking serious? Serious? I
put the window down, I go, I saw you. I
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see you cross the fucking road. Because now we're holding
up all the traffic because you're standing in front of
my car. I can't drive. You're not crossing, the lights
are now were gone the other way. Move move, or
I will run you down.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
This is my thing because I will, like, I think
I've had this conversation with you, but once that I
will out myself here. There have been a few close calls.
I'm not an angel, but that's okay.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
I actually have not had a close call. I aware,
so I'm like, fuck you, I go, I saw you move.
And the only time I ever like yell at someone
like that is when I'm in road rage is heavy.
You know, I would never do that in another setting,
but I get your hand off my car and walk
across the fucking road.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
My example is I almost hit a guy when I
was coming to the end of a road.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Men, and you're like that, I almost hit in but
I didn't, So I didn't.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
I bray, and he just made a whole thing to
stop at the bonnet of my car on his bike
and just wave his hands go off just like it
was going for ten minutes. I'm like, bro, my foot
is ten centimeters from this fucking accelerator. Yeah, so move
on and keep like okay.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
Yes, I'm sorry, accidents happen. I almost hit you. I didn't.
I apologize. That would have been really scary. Get away
from my fucking But if.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
You that's shaken up, the damas hit you don't sit
at my bonner tempting me, essentially, Like, but I will now,
I'm not going to hit someone. I promise it on
the record. This is film.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
No, we're not going out there in the middle of
the night and the running people over. Okay, we are
just saying, don't test us. Don't test me when I
have my foot next to the accelerator, because women, I
can just swear right around you and keep driving and
leave you in the middle of the road screaming at nothing.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Yeah, we can go forward, we can go back, we
can do a sharp tim and.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Don't smock my car.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
The thing is, it's different if I was yes close
to hitting her. Yes, there was no intention. I saw
her the whole time. She just didn't like the speed
at which I came around the corner. Not my problem. AnyWho.
This is a quick little introm into what something I
want to do before Christmas. But leg suggested doing something
about like the worst Christmas gifts, and we'll just read
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out a couple of the good ones. And I thought,
this is my worst Christmas gift. My mother, love you
so much, brought me a pair of ray bands with
cameras in them.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
I like the meta ones.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Yeah, but this was when they'd just come out, so
they were only in the style of that very classic
ray band shape with the flat top and it kind
of goes like a cross and down. Let me find
out the name of the sunglass, so you can just
search it up and find out the ray ban wayfairer classic?
Like is that classic ray band shape?
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Like the first dug last day?
Speaker 1 (12:51):
I fucking hideous? Sorry, I am twenty two or something
at this point, a twenty two year old girl trying
to find a style and a foot in the world.
And my mom buys me these in navy with cameras
in the sides. What the fuck am I going to
do with these? Sorry? Mother? When am I going to
wear these? Because you can film festivals and stuff. I'm
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not wearing these. I am wearing these ever, let alone
at a festival. I'm like, Mom, I'm so sorry. Like
it is such a fun idea, but also it feels
really creepy, do you know what I mean? I don't
think I want to be filming anyone. Like, there was
a little bit through my mind that's like, hmm, when
can I use these?
Speaker 2 (13:28):
It's like, see that's where I'm heading a style. I
get you, yeah, but I was never a ray band.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
There's no low key all I might accidentally film me.
If someone sees me wearing wayfarers, they're going to know
something's up. Yeah, do you know what I mean? Like
I can't wear those? What is going on right now?
Is someone filming us because she's wearing those? It's like
those you know when the Oh my god, I won't
know if anyone's actually used this, And I really would
like you to ride in how you can leave your
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AirPods in another room and have them like you can
leave one in another room or something and listen to
a conversation.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
I've heard of this, and now you say it, I'm like,
I look so suss because my airpod's is laying out.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
I've never ever heard of anyone doing it like I
None of my friends or anyone's ever done it. Me
and my friend's tried it, like to see if it
worked just with each other. And it does. I don't
know how it worked, but either you leave like your
whole airport case and then you can hear it on
your phone, but you can basically like it will. It's
like a speaker for what someone's saying, and that like
moves into your phone. I want not if anyone's actually
use that to find something out.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
And what did you find out?
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Yeah, because I remember when I found that out. I'm
pretty sure I was in school and I was like,
I can like leave these in the classroom and like
go to the bathroom and like see if anyone's talking
shit about me. But then I never did it because
I'm a pussy. So anyway, I never returned gifts back
to my point, I never return gifts ever. I don't
return clothes ever, Like I'm really really lazy. You best
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believe these got returned only because I wanted to make
sure momum'm got her money back because they were somewhat expensive,
because you want me in another color? No, thank you.
I don't think I ended up getting a gift that year.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
I just said keep it the money.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
That's all good. Next year we'll think of something better together.
How about we talked about it before we go buying wayfarers.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
I do have a surprise for you, Okay, we have
our first ever male submission right in submission?
Speaker 1 (15:20):
Yes? Have we have we ever had one? For? Have we? No?
Speaker 2 (15:23):
I thought we have one potentially, Like maybe this is
a this like a help me out. Yeah, it's like
I'm a male and I'm listening. I don't want to.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
Thank all you males out there again. The girlies, no,
they're loved, so we're fine. But sometimes the boys need
a bit of encouragement to keep listening.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
But I cannot wait, so our male writer says, not
going to lie. Your podcast has been a game changer.
I know it was called just for girls, and I'm
obviously not the target audience, but I've been tuning in
behind closed doors to hear me out because honestly, it's
been a perfect playbook for how guys should move, what
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to do, what not to do, and how not to
be a complete idiot when it comes to the ladies.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Thank you, that's what I aspire to do.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
It's honestly helped me tighten up a bit and how
to be smooth, especially with those hinge pointers.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
Hey, that's good, but you took off all those shirtless
gym selfies.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
Fingers crossed. But I've got a question for you, one
that's been spinning in my head for a while now,
just gonna rip the band aid off. What actually catches
your eye in a guy, Like when you see a
bloke you fancy in a bar or wherever. What's the
difference between he was smooth and he gave me the
ick and real talk. When dudes get turned down, do
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you reckon? It's usually down to the vibe or it's
often physical. No sugarcoating here is he? Is it the snuz,
the jawline, he ears the chumpers? What stands out for
you personally? No hard feelings. I know attractions subjective, but
I feel like hearing your take would help us blokes
get through the noise, even if we don't admit it.
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Prime example, a lot of boys don't approach chicks at
bars because the rejection can be a huge kick to
the nuts.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Fair enough.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
For instance, it gets me thinking, fuck, do I need
to lock in a Rhino plus C trip to Turkey asap?
Speaker 1 (17:21):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (17:21):
My god, No, Rocky, And yes, most guys feel this way.
They just keep it to themselves, and I'm here to
break the ice. I'm just trying to be a bit
more self aware and figure out how to catch the
eye of the kind of girls I fancy aka girls
like you.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
So sweet. Firstly, quickly, boys do not need to have
a small nose. I actually like guys with like a
bit of character to their nose. You fuel like a
bit of a broken like rugby football nose. Like I
like that, so please don't think about getting You don't
need anything, you know, everyone's perfect the way they are.
But if I'm being completely honest, the first thing that
popped into my mind when you said, what catches your
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eye on a man in public? Outfit? Yeah, for sure,
I'm really serious. It's like, I will lay it out
plainly if people like, don't know, a plain white T
shirt the uniclo has great ones, or a plain black
tea and a pair of baggy blue jeans, baggy black jeans,
some cargo pants, I don't care if it comes close
to hugging your calf, it needs to go. Yeah, and
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a hat or something like. I think outfit is the
first thing I see, even near the face. In the
other direction, I'm like, I like what that guy's wearing,
you know, And it can be the most basic thing.
It doesn't need to be anything boogie or nice. And
that's why I'm like, for example, a plain T shirt
and the some jeans, that is fine.
Speaker 2 (18:35):
I don't think girls like expect a man to be
perfectly dressed. I think it's more so a case of oh,
you don't look terrible. I think they're happy with.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
Just okay, because girls are very much in the mindset
and I'll be honest that I can change what they wear,
like as in, it's something that girls my friends have
said for ages. It's like, oh, I really like this guy,
but I don't like what he wears, and all of
the friends are like, that's fine, you can fix that,
you know. But for me to someone catches my eye,
I'd say a lot of the time, it's what they're wearing.
Because if someone might be really physically attractive but I
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don't like what they're wearing, I probably won't. I know
that's so fucked up, but I'm you told me not
to sugarcoat it. Yeah, I probably wouldn't. Then continue kind
of giving them attention throughout the night, like I wouldn't
like keep looking over and be like, I hope they
talk to me because I'm like, we have really different
styles and therefore probably really different vibes. Yeah, you know
what I mean.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
I like his question, and I feel like you've had
different results with each option he gave. But when you
call things off, does it go mostly towards vibe or
attraction or a lack of let's say.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
Say on a night out and someone will come up
to me at a bar and I will say like, oh,
by your drink, and I'll probably be like, oh, no,
thank you. I'd say on that basis purely it's probably
attraction because you know so little about the person, you
know what I mean. But I'd say getting a girl
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bar when they're buying a drink is probably not. I
would almost rather a guy kind of come up to
me while I'm sitting with my friends and like maybe
a couple of their friends and they like sit down
and start chatting, and then you kind of can chat
to them and you're all kind of in a conversation together.
Then you kind of get to know their personality a
bit more. I think purely offering to buy someone a drink,
you know so little about them and who they are
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and their energy and vibe that it is going to
be probably a no for a lot of people purely
out of fear as well. The girls also like, h scared, no,
don't worry, like you know what I mean. Like that's
intimidating for us as well. So I feel like approaching
it maybe more casually than kind of oh you see
a girl go to a bar by herself, Like, she's
probably gonna want to rejoin her friends soon anyway, so
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it will probably end up shutting down pretty quickly. I'd
say your better bet is to kind of catch her
when she's sitting or doing something with friends somewhere where
it's a bit more casual, and maybe you can sit
down and kind of chat to her for a little
bit verse like, hey, can I buy you a drink?
Because all of her friends are sitting ten feet away
and she can't really come sit with you for half
an hour, do you know what I mean? So I
feel like it in a more casual setting, maybe even
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if it's with a few mates and you kind of
like join a couple of girls and like sit down
on the same table as them and maybe start asking
them some questions Like that is a bit more casual.
Therefore you get to know the person a bit more.
Then it goes more to vibe than looks and attraction,
because someone might just be really funny and you might
be finding yourself like looking over at them more, you
know what I mean, So and just eye contact across
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the fucking room. If I think someone's good looking, I
end up staring at them a lot, and you don't
even realize you're doing it. You kind of just look
over at them to see if.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
They're looking at you.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
So if you end up catching the same eyes with
the same person again and again again, then I feel
like that's you're in to Yeah, go and speak to
them because they're not looking at you for no reason. No,
And if there's a boy that kept staring at me
that I wasn't interested in it, I would stop looking
that way, you know, like I just we would stop
catching eyes because I would make sure I wasn't looking
at him. So it's like, if you do find that
you're catching eyes with a girl a couple times, it's
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because she's also interested scoping you out. Yeah, So it's
like then that just makes it a little bit easier
and maybe a little bit less intimidating for you to
approach because she's probably expecting it or wanting it. But
outfit start there always. I know that's very shallow, but
it really does make a difference, and I'm sure boys
would agree, Like they might see girls in an outfit.
Speaker 2 (22:17):
And be like, whow, I'm going to give random advice
that's not that relatable. I think I said it to you.
Last week when I was in I was driving home,
I saw a guy walking on the footpath. I was like,
he is sexy. Then I like looked at his face.
I'm like, wait, not really, I look down he's holding
a book. Yeah, just like anything to show interest.
Speaker 1 (22:38):
And yeah, like I don't know, if you're going to
get lunch at a cafe, like bring a book, make
sure you know something about it. But on a night out, yeah,
having a boy come up to me at a bar
when I'm like buy myself buying a drink, it usually
probably I reckon intimidating me more because I'm like I've
kind of got to go rejoin my friends. Like I'll
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just be like, thank you, that's so nice, and then
I'll go. It's not really a way to have a
continued conversation, no, And like.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
That's setting what do you want to be remembered for.
I feel like there needs to be an entry point
before a drink, because if you're coming straight up to someone,
hey can I buy you a drink, I'm just going
to remember the drink.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
That I had. Also, when boys coming on what I'm wearing,
I think it's really nice. Like sometimes i'd be like
that's a really cool like I've had my I remember
when I wore a F one this year. I wore
this like gray sort of shortened jacket set and like
or even all just my boy like mates were like,
that's the coolest outfit we've ever seen, and I'm like,
thank you so much. But I remember, like sometimes I'll
be walking past someone and be like, you look so good.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
Like I love what you're wearing, and they can just
appreciate it, but it's like you're so well, yeah, I
love that.
Speaker 1 (23:44):
I love it too. I'm a little I like it all.
I really don't whistle at me from a car and
we're pretty well good. But like someone barked at me
from a part the other day. Did I tell you that?
I'm like, what, WHOA? Roll down that window? I'm jumping
in fuck me right now? Do not bark me?
Speaker 2 (24:00):
What type of bar?
Speaker 1 (24:00):
Because it like, yeah, what he's going?
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (24:05):
Yeah, But I'm like, what's the goal there besides making
me feel uncomfortable? Yeah, because there isn't. You're not you're
not trying to make yourself good. No, I don't get
why guys do that. It was in Richmond, Richmond's Scary
there's fucking people everywhere. But also just confidence is hot,
you know so, and confidence in.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
You, like you don't have to be blindly confident in something,
just knowing who you are, what you're about, being able
to rattle everything off.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
Yeah. I like people that are smart, have interested in
their own things, passionate about something.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
Do you like a little bit of mystery left to
someone that just lays it out?
Speaker 1 (24:39):
M I don't know.
Speaker 2 (24:41):
I like to keep wanting more.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
I'm not even really sure what I want right now
because it's like I've been single for so long and
it's like the last two guys that date it aren't
the type that I want to go for in future. Therefore,
I'm not really sure. Yeah, you know, I'm open to whatever.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
Really, we'll report backward from.
Speaker 1 (24:59):
I think night is so important, and I think looks
is really not everything. Like there's so many guys that
it's like, oh my god, people will be like, oh
he's not that good looking, but like his fucking personality
is incredible. So it's like personality is so much. Yeah,
Christmas rare, Yeah, witty smart banter. Banter is great. It's
not easy, though, It's not easy to just make up banter.
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You either have it with someone or you don't. And
there's a lot of people I might have it with
and a lot of people I just don't. Yeah, it
depends in the person. So you kind of need to
go to conversation going not just offered to buy a
drink is kind of where I'm going. But that's really
the advice I can give you. I hope I somewhat
covered what you're looking for.
Speaker 2 (25:33):
And please write back in.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
Please write back in, and boys, please feel welcome to
write in. We love for hearing your questions.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Slave Gorge.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Okay, guys, on this week's episode, we are sticking true
to the name of the podcast, and we've gotten you,
guys to send us in a bunch of your hear
me out, so your controversial opinions hot takes in case
anyone's not sure what to hear me out is. That's
what hear me out is. It's just kind of like,
hear me out, this is my controversial opinion, and Likeke's
gonna read some of yours and we're going to react.
Speaker 2 (26:03):
All right. These are quick fire ones. Yeah, hear me out.
A guy texting with auto capitalization off is the biggest
turn off or elongating their words, like that's so true,
that's the girls only. Yeah, yeah, I don't like.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
I remember back in the day, I had a friend
that turned her capslock off, and I was like, why
have you done that? Like, I just think to know
that a boy's consciously gone into their settings and turned
their capslock off to me is odd.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
I didn't even know that was a setting.
Speaker 1 (26:29):
It is because it just makes it look like you're
texting like a kid. And I do understand sometimes having
a heading on a story or something with no capitals
in it, I get it. Yeah, don't text me with
no capitals unless you want me to think you're twelve.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
Yeah, I think it's childish. I'm like, what are you
texting off?
Speaker 1 (26:43):
Yeah? And then what if you're writing a working on
your phone and that's all lowercase? I just think it's weird.
So yeah, I do think it's an eck absolutely, And
about the elongation of the words. I don't like the
haze with lots of wires. I get that. But like
you're so excited to see me, that's fine, that'll do.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
Yeah, I do. I don't even know what my problem is,
Like it so feels weird to me. It was so funny.
I'm like, what is like the example like crazezy. Yeah
this summer, I'm like chill.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Yeah, it's crazy and I'm needing to be crazy.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
When we're speaking about this. I was trying to think
of words, and the first one was slay, like I need.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
To slow needs. I need to have someone lobotomize me
and rip the memory of that word out of my
brain since it actually started. I reckon honestly when I
was at Coachella, and now I say it daily twenty
times at least.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Really picked up, didn't that it?
Speaker 1 (27:36):
Really it's picked up and it's never stopped. I need
it fucking gone. How does one remove a word from
their vocabulary.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
I think he's going to replace it with a mother.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
Give me a word to replace lay with? Gus? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (27:50):
Please sound some all right? Yeah, hear me out. Girls
always look better with their natural hair color. Guests dying
it can still look amazing, but at the end of
the day, your natural hair color is best suited. In
my opinion, hard disagree.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
I understand what you're saying, but my hair colors are
really mousy, grayish brown, like it's got no warmth or
richness to it. And it looks like I'm dying. So
I like, I do think, like there are blonde people
and then they get a couple of highlights and frames
around their face, and then they're blonde is just brighter.
I totally I get what you're saying. Like I have
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friends like leg that have that gorgeous dark hair that's
like similar to my color, probably a bit lighter now,
but it's like if they added highlights in it. People
that have really really dark, thick brown hair, I don't
think suit highlights. I think when your hair is that dark,
highlights make your hair, highlights look yellow. You can only
really get highlights if you've got a lighter color hair
to start with, or like you've bleached it. Anyway, I disagree.
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I think demension and hair is nice, and I think
I like experimenting with hair colors. But best believe those
people with natural hair thicker and nice art and shinier
hair than those of us who die regularly.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
Yeah. I get preferring someone's original hair if you're looking
at at it against like an extreme like a bleach
blonde or like a bright red or like.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
You know, a blonde that has like ten centimeter roots
like Yeah, yeah, I'd probably prefer my Yeah, but my
hair now looks better than it would have had one
hundred percent.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
And I actually can't think of an example where there's
like a celebrity and I'm like, not, you need to
dye your hair back, like it's never been that bad.
Speaker 1 (29:24):
Yeah, Like, isn't Blake Lively naturally blonde? I mean not
black Lively?
Speaker 2 (29:28):
Sorry?
Speaker 1 (29:29):
Ooh I hate her still light and mister Blair weld Off,
I think she grew up blonde.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
Yeah, her natural hair color is light brown. Yeah, but
it's a dark brown one hundred percent.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
That's so hurt. No, I think I do. I hard
disagree on that. Yeah, that's my stance.
Speaker 2 (29:47):
All right, this is a lengthier one. Hear me out.
Going through your situation's recently deleted photos and recovering things
that they don't want you to see, and then asking
to look at something I'll send next to you, and
then saying what's this is and staging it right in
front of them is healthy to see what their reaction is.
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My example, I went through my situation's phone when we
were getting the situationships. Yeah that's what you mean. Yeah, Yeah,
I went through my situation ship's phone when we were
getting serious and recovered photos of him kissing girls on
the cheek and being flirty with other girls. And then
when he woke up, I asked if we could look
at the pics we took on the weekend, and then
he accidentally scrolled to the photo I recovered and he
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was then in shambles and basically made him bow down
to me.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
Healthy. No, if I'm going to be completely honest with you, Yeah,
it's questionable, it's very savvy, it's clever, it's clever. I
don't think it's healthy, yeah, or smart, And I wouldn't recommend.
I think you're setting yourself up for an issue and
a heartbreak. I don't think you need to see them.
Speaker 2 (30:55):
I get if you want clarity if you're maybe entering something.
Speaker 1 (30:58):
And let's say he was like cheating on you, then
find dump his ass. But like to set it up
to be like a catch out, like fuck me, if
I see a photo of someone kissing someone, I'm just
gonna show him. Yeah, but verse like setting up a scenario,
you know what, and like the fact.
Speaker 2 (31:12):
That this is solely situationships. It's like, what can be
like that good that you're actually like, oh, Yeah, I
s so happy to stay with you. Like, inevitably you're
gonna find something that's going to alter your connection.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
You're kind of looking for a fight then, yeah, which,
if you want one, go for it.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
Yeah, by all means, make it his wallpaper.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
Don't make it his wallpaper. But I think if you're
looking for something, you may as well just confront him
about what you've found. In Like, I went through Italy
deleted and I found this.
Speaker 2 (31:41):
Yeah is this verse?
Speaker 1 (31:42):
Like hey, in the hopes that they scroll and find it,
you know what I mean. But no judgment, love the creativity. Yeah,
if I need it, I'll use it.
Speaker 2 (31:51):
Think next one hear me out. Ninety percent of am
I the assholes stories? No, they're not the assholes and
they just looking to be validation. Yeah, that's really good.
Speaker 1 (32:02):
I do get it. But I like also, yeah, I
think they maybe had one or two where I've been like,
you kind of are the asshole. But it's very much
not common, And I think people that are the asshole
don't send those stories in because they know that they're
in the wrong.
Speaker 2 (32:15):
Yeah. Although the ones I engage with in like Reddit
or in like communities, I have seen the complete other extreme.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
Of it, and the reddit was crazy.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
But some people that are so unaware that they're an
asshole and have done something remotely wrong.
Speaker 1 (32:29):
Yeah, I like us to unlock like this huge audience
where like we're getting like Reddit level fucking nuts. And
I know a lot of the time people send in
stories like that purely for validation. I don't mind. I'll
give it to you. I'll do the same to be honest,
And sometimes I like hearing about the other crazy person
that they're telling.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
Yeah, exactly, I don't mind. It's a literal situation, the drama. Okay,
hear me out. You'll love this. Wearing shoes inside your
home in Brackets as a clean freak is disgusting. Think
about everything that could be on a road or footpath
in Brackets again, dog piers, garm being walked through your
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house this foul.
Speaker 1 (33:10):
Especially carpets that mop a carpet like. So, I got
home from the airport the other day, I'm like, oh,
everything on my body needs to be gone and burnt,
quite frankly, And I was unpacking my suitcase and I
was still wearing what I wore on the plane run.
More so, I was wearing runners. I can't do productive
tasks around my house. Wearing runners, I'm not comfortable. I
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feel like my legs are harder to move because it's
a big chunky thing in the bottom of my foot.
It needs to go extra wait to catchuck my runners off,
put my ugods on, and now things can get done
smoother and easier. Runners are just not an indoor shoe.
People that sit in the couch with the runners on.
Speaker 2 (33:46):
Foul.
Speaker 1 (33:46):
People that oh, my friends told me her partner got
home from the airport the other day and jumps in
her bed to wake up and say good morning. I
don't want to good morning if you're going to be
wearing airport clothes.
Speaker 2 (33:57):
Shower, I'm on its leg rude. I want a clean
freak side, but I have a few leeways. Like I'm
also an unbothered queen.
Speaker 1 (34:05):
I'm a messy, clean freak.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
Yeah. Is the one environment that I'm like, I need
to shed myself. Yeah, Like, there's not many environments you like,
get this off me.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
I'm a hygiene freak, not a thing. I sing a
video of Kylie Jenna saying that, like, my house is
organized chaos. I know where everything is. It may look
unorganized to you, but it's like, I know that that
lip mom is like in that drawer under that fucking
notebook I use when I was twelve? Do you know
what I mean to me? But like if someone cleaned
it all, yeah, it would be lovely, but it's not
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going to stay like that. Yeah, but everything is hygienic.
Speaker 2 (34:37):
Does the job, yep.
Speaker 1 (34:39):
Don't touch my bed with the outdoor shit. Yeah, I
know that they're just sit in the floor.
Speaker 2 (34:42):
I think I overall agree with the hear me out,
but sometimes because you don't have total control of your
living situation, other people can be walking through with shoes.
Speaker 1 (34:52):
Yeah, don't walk from my bedroom with shoes.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
But then sometimes it's like a defense mechanism that I
wear shoes because I don't want to pick up other people's.
Speaker 1 (35:01):
Yeah, I'll never wear like I had runners at my
friend's house the other day and I was wearing socks,
but every time I got off from the couch, I
like put my runners back on, and she's like, why
do you keep doing that? And I'm like, well, usually
I have my ug boots, but like, I don't want
to walk around someone else's kitchen in socks.
Speaker 2 (35:14):
Oh my god, Remember when I came to your house
and I stepped in your cat, shir that was so embarrassing.
Speaker 1 (35:20):
Oh my god, through a fucking serious about of like
she couldn't control her bowels. I don't know what you'd
call it, but she's shit everywhere, and it's like these
tiny little pellets of shit. She's done. Now, she's better,
in case anyone cared, she's fine. But she'd do it
all the time, and I'd usually spot it instantly and
I clean it up. But Blake was coming over and
obviously she'd just done it, and he walked straight into it,
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and I woke up. She's like, what's that fucking smell?
It was so embarrassed, And it was the first time
there too.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
I'm already going red.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
Ah, it was so it was so sad. I didn't care,
though I felt bad that you stepped in. Catchit inside
my house instantly.
Speaker 2 (35:55):
Yeah, next one, hear me out. People need a sub
saying they going no contact with their acts when they've
been broken up for like months. You are not no
contact your single babe. Please go outside and stop thinking
about your ax.
Speaker 1 (36:09):
I actually, yeah, I've never thought about it. Yeah, you're
not no contact anymore, you're not dating.
Speaker 2 (36:15):
I think that's a productive take. But I will give
everyone so much grace that you're allowed to be. It's
affected by as long as I was a.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
Very long grieper. I can't be judgmental. I am sick
of hearing people's I hate that whole period of oh yeah,
I've got him blocked, and then I see his number
pop up and I'm like, you said you had him blocked,
and they just lie. Yeah, I'm like, don't lie. I'd
rather you just tell me you're talking to him still?
Do you know what I mean? And don't I blocked him? No,
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he blocked me. Wait, wait, why have you messaged you?
Oh no, wait I unlocked him. No, shut up. You
might as well just get back together this point.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
Yeah, I don't even care. I went to sound super relatable,
but I think we're different people in this sense, Like
how angry do you even get when a girlfriend is
like I haven't blocked or I'm still talking to it. Yeah,
I'm the same because I'm like, it's your ax, like're.
Speaker 1 (37:05):
Fine as long as it fuck you over. Yeah, there's
that's a big if he fucked you over. Look. There
also comes a period where I'm like, if we're going
back and forth, for a couple of months. How I'm
over it and you need to start moving on, and
I'm going to make sure you do, you know. But
it's that back and forth when you know that the
X isn't the right person for them that sometimes you're
just like I want more for you. I want better
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for you, Like, let's actually fucking cut this man off now.
Speaker 2 (37:28):
Okay, okay, hear me out. Over seventy five you should
have to redo your driver's tak Nothing enrages me more
than going forty in a sixty zone or fifty eight
and an eighty zone legitimately makes the roads more dangerous.
Speaker 1 (37:42):
No, No, I completely agree. I was saying that was
with my grandma. I was like, we need to cut
a license up.
Speaker 2 (37:46):
I think this is one of your og it is when.
Speaker 1 (37:49):
I like, Dad needs to cut my grandma's license up.
She shouldn't be operating a vehicle anymore. But it's like,
are we driving like sixty k's down a sixty k
road and all of a sudden, someone backs out in
front of me and I have to stats stationary behind
them for forty five seconds until they reverse, Like yeah,
move it, you know, move it. I've told you cars
and airports make me a bad person, but fucking I
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completely agree. Yeah, I completely agree.
Speaker 2 (38:13):
It's pretty much most car accents I've almost got into.
Unfortunately an old, beautiful person's at the wheel.
Speaker 1 (38:19):
It makes me so sad. I don't want them to
feel that stress, and I don't want to kill your accident. Yeah,
if you can't go the speed limit, you know, safely,
then you shouldn't be driving anymore. And at least we
have ubers these days, whereas like back, I was thinking
what the fuck did I do with my life before ubers?
Like I think they came in in like twenty thirteen.
If I can remember correctly.
Speaker 2 (38:39):
I feel it started uber eats first and then led
into nah definitely not Yeah, wrong, I've gone for like
the reiteration of a name. There's like uber tends to twelve.
Speaker 1 (38:53):
So I'm like, I was lucky that that would have
been when I was in year six, So it's like
by the time I was year seven, eight or anywhere
that I was going anywhere by myself, I was lucky
that I had ubers, but people that were older than me,
I'm like, it was public transport central back then or taxis, yeah,
which a taxis to me and just date. I just
view them as slightly more dangerous than it was, which
I know isn't the case. The thing that fucking sucks
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about taxis is I lost my acne leather jacket and
the taxi on the way home from Travis Scott, and
I was so drunk I didn't remember the taxi company.
Speaker 2 (39:22):
And no record of it on my phone and a
tackne so.
Speaker 1 (39:27):
I really wanted back. So I like the Uber at
least you can like track it. But I had to
pay a fucking uber two hundred bucks in cash to
drop my phone off the other day.
Speaker 2 (39:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (39:36):
Did you even know this that you're extorting money out
of me?
Speaker 2 (39:40):
I think it used to be it was like a
set fee of twenty five to fifty dollars, yeah, for
anything return. Now they're like hey and fair of.
Speaker 1 (39:46):
They've like gone a long way away. But I realized
almost instantly and just called this guy back and he
was like, how bad do you want it? I'm like, well,
it is my whole fucking life. Pretty bad.
Speaker 2 (39:54):
What's your price?
Speaker 1 (39:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (39:55):
Okay? Next hear me out. Watching porn in a relationship
in brackets without them knowing is cheating unpopular opinion. I know,
but hear me out. The definition of cheating is a
violation of a couple's emotional or sexual exclusivity through intimate
behaviors with someone outside their relationship without the partner's knowledge
or concern. So if your man is watching another person
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having sex and is getting off because he's attracted to
her without you knowing, is not just a sackable offense.
It's cheating, point blank period.
Speaker 1 (40:28):
I like that you've got the definite definition of cheating.
Speaker 2 (40:30):
I know I felt a bit attacked them.
Speaker 1 (40:32):
I don't agree. Yeah, I don't think it's cheating. I
think it's worse if they're looking at girls only fans
and it's girls they follow.
Speaker 2 (40:39):
Yeah, that's a whole time.
Speaker 1 (40:41):
But porn on porn, Like, no, it's not cheating, but
like it's dodgy and like you shouldn't need to hide it.
Does it really matter? Like if they're doing it while
you're in the next room, that fucking sucks. But it's
like if you're away for fucking two weeks and they're
watching porn, Like, who gives a shit. I just think
it's a variable. It's very well. It's also dependent on
your history. Maybe they have a fucking important problem, and
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it's been an issue relationship. I don't know, but no,
I don't find it cheating. I just think it's dodgy,
and I just think, why can that not be if
you're not doing anything wrong, why can't you tell me
that you're watching porn? Who care?
Speaker 2 (41:15):
As you said, so many variables. But then I look
at like the opposite end of this, and it's like,
how forth coming would I want my boyfriend to be
about that? And how forthcoming would I want to be
with my boys?
Speaker 1 (41:26):
Ideally, my boyfriend doesn't need to watch porn. That's my
thought process, that's my ideal situation. I don't want them
to even fucking have the only fans up. If I'm
being completely transparent here.
Speaker 2 (41:38):
I don't think many taken men do. But again I'm
probably yeah.
Speaker 1 (41:42):
I don't think that's a real I think that is
a much bigger boundary crossing, especially if you're saying messaging,
because these are like people that you follow on Instagram,
on people that you know. There's very like normal people
that you might meet on a fucking night out that
my only fans. That's different to like some unattainable fucking
American porn star. You know what I mean, it's different,
it is.
Speaker 2 (42:00):
I do find it funny because a lot of the
times where a couple has broken up because the boundaries
cross online, whether it's poor or not only fans, it's
always a messaging on only fans. I completely agree, it's
just crossing a line.
Speaker 1 (42:12):
That's you texting another girl.
Speaker 2 (42:14):
I just find it that's so funny every time I
hear about it, because I'm like, ninety percent chance you're
paying a bot in thailands, Like I think that's what
most girls people.
Speaker 1 (42:22):
Only they're not answering those messages. All I've got an
assistant doing that. You're not talking to the person who
think you are.
Speaker 2 (42:28):
Mate copying and pasting most likely.
Speaker 1 (42:30):
Yeah, no, I don't write it. I don't write cheat
is full stop. But I do not think that is
cheating at its base level.
Speaker 2 (42:38):
No, Okay, I've got a new hemiout slash unpopular opinion.
I think star signs are a load of crap. There
is no way that everyone born in our period of
time and every year is the same. I think people
just use them as an excuse or an escape, which
is totally fine, but just be real with yourself eventually
this feels like a personality you would staring me as
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I finished.
Speaker 1 (43:01):
Yeah. Yeah. A lot of the times, like if I'm
reading my fucking horoscope, I'm like, oh, this really relates
to me. And then sometimes I go, well, does this
also relate to the fucking a twelfth of the population
that's also a Leo? I hate that, man, it doesn't
feel as real. I think star signs can weigh heavily
on certain traits that people have, absolutely, and I think,
but I think if you're looking at it at a
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deeper level, you'd also need to look at the birth
chart and where you're born and when you're born and
timing wise. And I do think you can get a
somewhat accurate description of someone's like personality based on zodiac
and all that kind of jazz on like Leo rising
and tourist moon. And no, your sun's sign isn't going
to give you everything you need to know about a person.
I definitely think there's people that aren't anything like their
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star signs, But I do think it can give you
a base level of traits, like I'm a Leo. I
think a lot a lot of people go that, no shit, yeah,
that makes a lot of sense, and it does. But
then there's leos I meet and I'm like, you're nothing
like me. It's yeah, it take it if you want it.
Who's harm do you know what I mean? I don't
think it's harming ever anyone if they want to read
their zodiac everyone, I mean their horoscope every morning and
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it makes them feel good.
Speaker 2 (44:07):
I'm not like that into it. I know what stars
and I am. But I also have on like the
other hand, friends that are so into it, Like they explain,
I'm like, no, that does seem like like.
Speaker 1 (44:15):
I don't read my horoscope because like I said, I'm
knowing how many people are reading this exact same horoscope.
It can't then to me feel relative, and I don't.
It doesn't, but I do believe that, like I have
a lot of traits of a leo, and like you know,
I think it does make up certain aspects of my personality.
Speaker 2 (44:32):
It's great direction.
Speaker 1 (44:35):
Yeah, like a lot of my pause, like, let's read
my negative attributes to a leon and I feel like
you'll agree confident, see yeah, creative, No generous you are
I'm not creative, generous, loyal, natural, leader, passionate. I feel like, yeah,
some of those things in me negative traits arrogant, attention seeking, stubborn, yes,
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self centered, and struggles with criticism. Some may say those
are traits of me. I'm gonna say they're not. Like,
take what you want literally, who's hurting? Yes, I do
have some of those negative traits, but let's just leave
it there.
Speaker 2 (45:16):
Let's ignore that this one was the most chaotic, and
I've literally acknowledged it. Ya hear me out. Okay, maybe
this is a little chaotic. Okay, but a three way
with two xes, the chemistry and tension is wild in
the best least toxic way. Honestly, every girl deserves at
least one beautifully unhinged three way in her life.
Speaker 1 (45:38):
I have two x'es, and I so that my mind
goes straight to that to me is not beautifully unhinged.
It is problem central, Like, there is what two x's
are vying for you? No, I just the whole thing.
Maybe for some people that might be lovely, I think.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
It would say, I don't know, I don't even think.
Speaker 1 (46:01):
No, for some people, I'm sure it would be amazing
and like maybe the chemistry, yes, would be incredible, but like,
do you want to deal with the aftermath of an
experience like that. No, I don't.
Speaker 2 (46:11):
Yeah, I really lack opinions because I'm just overwhelmed.
Speaker 1 (46:14):
Yes, beautifully unh his three way, Yeah, go for it
with your two ex's. I don't think either of them
are down for that either.
Speaker 2 (46:20):
No, except traditionally probably meant to hate each other. Yeah,
as well, and it's like, okay, why are they teaming
up that? Yeah, hear me out Bush shaved only because
of the Skim stuff recently.
Speaker 1 (46:32):
Oh, the skims, the underwear underwear. I don't know if
that was real or a scam because Skims recently came
out with a G string that has like like fur,
like fake pubes on it. Yeah, and whenever anyone went
to look at them, it was all already sold out.
So I'm like, was it actually ever for sale or
did they kind of just put it up in the
website for like drama and yeah, and all just stay
sold out.
Speaker 2 (46:52):
You addressed in an interview and said, yes, it was released,
but I didn't know.
Speaker 1 (46:57):
I have mixed opinions on it because of how the
times Change is my only thing currently in present time. Yeah, absolutely,
that's most people's preference. But ten years ago it wasn't
so like when people get like full fucking laser. I'm like,
what happens in ten years when a beare fucking smooth?
Yeah bush is as unattractive as say a full bush
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would be today. What happens then? You know it's a
personal preference and it's your partent's preference.
Speaker 2 (47:23):
True, And I think it's a pendulum, like the bush
will be out at one point then that hasn't been
back for so long, it's.
Speaker 1 (47:29):
Going to come back. Yeah, it's absolutely going to come
back here. Whatever, And you know what for us girlies,
that makes life easier when it does.
Speaker 2 (47:34):
So whatever and our final one hear me out, being
your authentic self is now weaponized to allow shitty behavior
and to let people be an asshole without consequences.
Speaker 1 (47:47):
Mmmm. Yeah, but I feel like you see people, I'm like, hm,
I'm being my authentic self. I'm like, you're not, though,
I think yeah. I just think people that feel they
need to preach it their their authentic selves and they're
honest again and again. It's like when fucking lazy on
the violent was going again and again. I'm just honest.
I'm just honest. I'm just honest. I'm like you're the
least honest person in here or the only one talking
about it. People that preach stuff are usually the ones
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that are the least likely people doing it. So yeah,
people that continuously will say online I am my authentic self.
I don't think I've ever said I'm my authentic self
on my podcast or on my TikTok. Yeah, I don't
need to because I feel like I am being that.
Maybe I'm just down that, maybe I've drinks myself. But
I'm like people that preach that they're doing all of it. No,
they're usually not anyway. So I find like anyone that's
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saying that shit walk the other direction honestly.
Speaker 2 (48:34):
And I don't think it's the saying itself is being weaponized.
I think when it gets in there, like I was
just being my real self, I'm like you were. It's
just when the wrong person grue to a catchphrase or something.
Speaker 1 (48:46):
No, I agree, Yeah, I stand by it. I loved
this episode. This is great. I loved all your opinions.
Thank you so much. That's all for today, squad, and
we will see you next week. Next week, we are
doing a bit more of a health fitness vibe. I
know a lot of you guys actually have a bit
of my d MS about it. I'm bringing my personal
trainer on Easy. She's an old friend of mine to
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kind of talk like party girl exercise, How does that
all fit in together? Is it mutually exclusive? How to
be a reformed party girl? How she got there? The
importance of fitness, all that stuff, and just entry point, fitness,
entry point, you know, entering the new year, New year
knew me. I just thought it might be nice to
have someone on kind of talking about things that we
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can do to be healthier, because I know where I
would like to be.
Speaker 2 (49:31):
And you know what, we'll post a question box asking
for your gym slush workout. Hear me outs, Yeah, and
we can throw them to easy and just see.
Speaker 1 (49:39):
Where where she lands. Busy is my pity. Yeah, we're
gonna we're gonna have Easy Squad.
Speaker 2 (49:44):
Yeah, it's gonna be complicated, gonna be fun.
Speaker 1 (49:46):
See how it goes, all right, guys, see you next week.
Hi, guys, welcome back to hear Me Out. I'm your
host is the Armitage, and I need to learn to
speak more feminine on a podcast. I listened to my
podcast the other day and it's like it's like a foghorn,
do you think. Yeah, it's like I talk at it hectically,
louder volume than I would if there wasn't a microphone
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sitting in front of me, which I find is not necessary.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Obviously, I'm trying to remember what was the episode last week?
Tessa and Riley.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Yeah, that I feel like married out the gate. It's
like I'm screaming.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Well, it's like and not in a bad way, but
I think with three people you're kind of competing and
like you and Riley already have your back and forth dynamic.
And then there's Tessa added as well that.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
I feel like sometimes I listen to it and I go, fuck,
do I let sound like that? In person? I probably do.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
I think between us you're quite soft spoken, thank you,
but in a group setting, yeah, the volumes spoken.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Never have I ever been referred to as self spoken,
So thank you, Blake. But I'm just gonna jump right
out the gate with you. Hear Me Out. And him out.
Everyone is the worst version of themselves. In an airport,
I am like, move, move, get out of the way.
Why are you taking it along?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Right?
Speaker 1 (01:08):
Is all this checking along like there is no All
the patients leaves my body the moment I step into
those the airport doors.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Yeah, I would say mostly for like the security part
and the checking it and that's where I am checking.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Check in and bag drop kill me. That's i'd say
the worst. And then when people are leaving the plane,
I'm actually not too much of a hater of those
people that jump up and get their bags immediately. I
surprisingly am not because now that I have do the
Sydney trip like more often, it's like you'll have one
of those overhead luggage, so it's like I more jump
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up so I can get my bag before all the
rows fill up. And it's like then you're like, oh fuck,
I have to walk like five meters backwards to go
get my overhead do you know what I mean? So
I don't judge the people jumping up. You want to
get your shit and get sorted, fine by me. I
judge the people that run off when it's not their turn.
Wait for your road to leave. People that move forward
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or do things first, I'm like, you fucking wait.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Fair, Yes, but I feel like there's no rules on
a plane, not in an airport, so like everyone will
just put their worst foot forward and no one's saying anything.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
But also, when you're in a rush a lot in
the airport, you know you want to get things done
in a timely matter. And I've always said I hate
people that walk really slowly. So people that walk slowly
when I have a schedule to stick to or I
will miss my flight unless you want to buy me
another flight, get the fuck out of the way, you know,
be left, no bear left. No one knows where to walk.
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Everyone's dilly dulling, they're on their phones, they're sounding in
the paths. I don't like that anywhere, and an airport
it makes me fucking angry.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
I don't get people who dawdle around an airport, like,
for example, I don't feel too strongly about this, but
shopping at an airport, do we need to be doing that?
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Yeah? No, I completely.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
I feel like that causes a lot of the dawdling
as well and the commotion.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Judy Free, I hate it some people or doing quickly
buy something at Judy Free. No, because it takes an
hour longer than it would for me to check out
a normal show. Yeah, they have to check my passport.
I have to rumming around in my bags. I don't
know why, but Judy Free, like to me, is a hell.
I put my blinds on and I just walked straight
through it. It just everything is slower in an airport
and everyone's tirer like I had to pay. I went
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to Sydney for work the other day and my flight
was at seven thirty and I ended up actually getting
to the airport at like three thirty. And I'm like,
if I get on my flight at seven thirty, I'm
not gonna get home till like ten thirty eleven, and
like I need to make dinner, I want to do
all this stuff. So I was like, fuck it, I'll
just book an earlier flight. You know, it's a flight
to Sydney. Like how I've had so many people say, oh,
you can just like check into like move on to
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an earlier flight when you're that early. It's very easy
to do at the front desk. So I go up
to Virgin and I go, hey, I want to move
on an earlier flight. They go oh, we've actually closed
the Virgin help desk. You're gonna have to call. I'm like,
I'm in Sydney Airport right now and there is no
help desk. What the fuck do you mean? Like Sydney
is not is it not meant to be the biggest
airport in Australia.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Thirty it's not like it was eight thirty at nine.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
No, I'm like, where's the help desk? They don't have
one anymore. So I had to call, spent an hour
on the phone to this woman, spent eight hundred dollars
to move my flight forward two hours, and by that
point I was so angry that I had to do it,
because I was like, I'm in too bad a mood
to be in this airport any longer than I need to,
So fine, whatever, I'll pay for it. I sound really
negative for like airports, like I just told you, really
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bring out the worst in me. And finally the lady's
about to book the flight and she goes, Okay, it's
going to be eight hundred dollars to get on this flight.
I go, yep, great. She goes, wait, so you don't
want to do that? I said, no, no, no, no, no,
I said, I do, I do? She goes, you do
want to stay on your current flight? No? No, no, no,
no no no no. I'm like, please don't hang over
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for me, Please don't hang up for me. I need
to get on that earlier flight. Every and it just
I was just in the foulest mood ever. And when
the food's not good, nothing hits I just I can't
the loungers. No, you can't come in here. I'm like,
why not?
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Have you tried to drinking on a plane?
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Yes, one, I'm not a big I'm not a big drinker.
Why first life, I am not a big solo drinker,
and I won't drink unless i have somewhere to go.
So I'm not like a drinker at family dinners, you know,
Like I'll only drink if I'm with my friends and
I'm going out. Yeah, okay, So I drank on the
plane to Bali with Logan because we were landing at
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four and then going getting ready to go out. But
if I'm I'm not going to drink in a flight
where I'm landing at eight pm and I'm going to bed.
So no, I actually I am not someone that drinks
on planes.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
I'm not saying it makes it better, but like this
is scientifically proven, whatever you want to say. But apparently
you get more drunk in the air and every time,
like I just have to have one drink on a
plane I am like flying. Yeah, see it definitely helps.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Logan and I fucking had I reckon seven wines on
that flights.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Wow, you would have like, I'm.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
Actually surprisingly a heavier weight than I would you would
think I would be. My tolerance is built up over
the years, sadly, but yeah, maybe I should because I'm like,
I hate being here so fucking much, so I might
as well get drunk while I'm doing it. But then
when I get off the plane, I'm wasted and I
can't figure out how to get home.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Oh yeah, because you could drive. What's my leopold that
I think it's because I'm with my boyfriend or.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Something designated driver? Yea, I myself one of those. Can
someone volunteer be my designated driver? But yeah, that was
my hear me out. I'm just I'm a cunt in
an airport. So if you see me early in the
morning at an airport, No, I haven't slept, I haven't
eaten yet, and everyone around is pissing me the fuck off.
So just give me a bit of grace.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Just walk up to it with cautions or walk.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Fast around me, please, so I have my own Yeah,
go go.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
I don't know how. I've never thought of this, but
hear me out. If you cross past my car at
a pedestrian crossing, do not wave and thank me.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
I do it.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
Why I don't want to let you go? It's because
I have to.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
No, I know. I think it's acknowledgement of like I
appreciate it. I know you're not happy doing it, but
you need it. Two thanks. I know, I don't. I know,
like we're literally on opposing sides. It is. I do
it out of it seems bitchy for me to just
directly walk past when someone has stopped for me.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
See, I think it's rubbing it in your face, like
thank you. It's like I didn't want to effing stop,
but now I am okay.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
So now it's like it's arrogance to do it. But
I'm like, I feel like it's entitled to not like, yeah,
you needed to stop, thanks.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
See, because I have it's so in my head right
when I am crossing that car doesn't exist. I'm just
like tunnel vision. Always to the end of the crossing.
I'm the most over apologetic you are over a nice person.
That is the one thing I'm like, I'm not thanking you.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
I'll always look at them, at least with the acknowledgment
like that they've stopped. Yeah, no, I wave. I'm sorry,
I do. Maybe maybe I stop. Does it feel like
they're rubbing it in when someone waves at you when
they're crossing a pedestrian cross and you've stopped for them, Like,
let me know, because I don't want to be rubbing
it in. I do it because I think it's polite.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
I'm trying to think of the example I use because
I was. This happened while I was driving with Noah,
and I actually said, I'm going to mention this on
the next for my next hear me out, and I
use an example. It's to me, if you wave to me,
it's to the extent of like, no, you just feel
so redundant to me.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Yeah, in a sense, what I really hate when I'm
driving up to a pedestrian cross and I see it
there and I know I'm going to stop. Like I've
recently learned, I'm quite hard on the brakes like I
break quite late. I have always done that. I always stop.
Don't you worry it might just be a little rough,
and then you'd like, bear in mind my car. I've
never crushed my car. I'm a good driver. I'm just
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laid on the brakes. The pedestrians do not love that.
I hate the angry stare, like ough, I've stopped, have
I not? Just because it wasn't as calmly as you
would have liked it to be. I stopped. I am
in park waiting for you to cross the fucking road.
Don't glare at me in anger while you cross. Because
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I didn't stop at the speed you would have liked
me to. I saw it come in one hundred meters away.
I just braked later than you would have liked me too.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
You know, it's like bikes as well. I was turning
onto a road and it was a bike as I
was turning in. Sure, I was a little close. I'm
always a little close, always fine, like I see you.
No one's dark.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Some woman started banging on the hood of my car
the other day because I went to turn right into
an intersection so obviously like there's a crossing on the
other side, you know, and I saw I saw the
lady crossing. She was about to step onto the crosswalk,
but I just wanted to get past the traffic so
I could like make sure I made that turn. Whereas
if I stayed in the middle of the road and
didn't start turning yet, I probably wouldn't have made the lights.
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So I was like, I'll cross, block the oncoming traffic
and wait for you to fucking cross. You know what
she does. She's so angry that I came to her
with such a speed. Bear in mind, I knew this
woman was there. There was no way in fucking hell
I was gonna hit her. I am a very observant driver.
She stops in front of me and starts banging on
my hood, being like, are you fucking serious? Serious? I
put the window down, I go, I saw you. I
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see you cross the fucking road. Because now we're holding
up all the traffic because you're standing in front of
my car. I can't drive. You're not crossing, the lights
are now were gone the other way. Move move, or
I will run you down.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
This is my thing because I will, like, I think
I've had this conversation with you, but once that I
will out myself here. There have been a few close calls.
I'm not an angel, but that's okay.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
I actually have not had a close call. I aware,
so I'm like, fuck you, I go, I saw you move.
And the only time I ever like yell at someone
like that is when I'm in road rage is heavy.
You know, I would never do that in another setting,
but I get your hand off my car and walk
across the fucking road.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
My example is I almost hit a guy when I
was coming to the end of a road.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Men, and you're like that, I almost hit in but
I didn't, So I didn't.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
I bray, and he just made a whole thing to
stop at the bonnet of my car on his bike
and just wave his hands go off just like it
was going for ten minutes. I'm like, bro, my foot
is ten centimeters from this fucking accelerator. Yeah, so move
on and keep like okay.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
Yes, I'm sorry, accidents happen. I almost hit you. I didn't.
I apologize. That would have been really scary. Get away
from my fucking But if.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
You that's shaken up, the damas hit you don't sit
at my bonner tempting me, essentially, Like, but I will now,
I'm not going to hit someone. I promise it on
the record. This is film.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
No, we're not going out there in the middle of
the night and the running people over. Okay, we are
just saying, don't test us. Don't test me when I
have my foot next to the accelerator, because women, I
can just swear right around you and keep driving and
leave you in the middle of the road screaming at nothing.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Yeah, we can go forward, we can go back, we
can do a sharp tim and.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Don't smock my car.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
The thing is, it's different if I was yes close
to hitting her. Yes, there was no intention. I saw
her the whole time. She just didn't like the speed
at which I came around the corner. Not my problem. AnyWho.
This is a quick little introm into what something I
want to do before Christmas. But leg suggested doing something
about like the worst Christmas gifts, and we'll just read
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out a couple of the good ones. And I thought,
this is my worst Christmas gift. My mother, love you
so much, brought me a pair of ray bands with
cameras in them.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
I like the meta ones.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Yeah, but this was when they'd just come out, so
they were only in the style of that very classic
ray band shape with the flat top and it kind
of goes like a cross and down. Let me find
out the name of the sunglass, so you can just
search it up and find out the ray ban wayfairer classic?
Like is that classic ray band shape?
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Like the first dug last day?
Speaker 1 (12:51):
I fucking hideous? Sorry, I am twenty two or something
at this point, a twenty two year old girl trying
to find a style and a foot in the world.
And my mom buys me these in navy with cameras
in the sides. What the fuck am I going to
do with these? Sorry? Mother? When am I going to
wear these? Because you can film festivals and stuff. I'm
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not wearing these. I am wearing these ever, let alone
at a festival. I'm like, Mom, I'm so sorry. Like
it is such a fun idea, but also it feels
really creepy, do you know what I mean? I don't
think I want to be filming anyone. Like, there was
a little bit through my mind that's like, hmm, when
can I use these?
Speaker 2 (13:28):
It's like, see that's where I'm heading a style. I
get you, yeah, but I was never a ray band.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
There's no low key all I might accidentally film me.
If someone sees me wearing wayfarers, they're going to know
something's up. Yeah, do you know what I mean? Like
I can't wear those? What is going on right now?
Is someone filming us because she's wearing those? It's like
those you know when the Oh my god, I won't
know if anyone's actually used this, And I really would
like you to ride in how you can leave your
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AirPods in another room and have them like you can
leave one in another room or something and listen to
a conversation.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
I've heard of this, and now you say it, I'm like,
I look so suss because my airpod's is laying out.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
I've never ever heard of anyone doing it like I
None of my friends or anyone's ever done it. Me
and my friend's tried it, like to see if it
worked just with each other. And it does. I don't
know how it worked, but either you leave like your
whole airport case and then you can hear it on
your phone, but you can basically like it will. It's
like a speaker for what someone's saying, and that like
moves into your phone. I want not if anyone's actually
use that to find something out.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
And what did you find out?
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Yeah, because I remember when I found that out. I'm
pretty sure I was in school and I was like,
I can like leave these in the classroom and like
go to the bathroom and like see if anyone's talking
shit about me. But then I never did it because
I'm a pussy. So anyway, I never returned gifts back
to my point, I never return gifts ever. I don't
return clothes ever, Like I'm really really lazy. You best
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believe these got returned only because I wanted to make
sure momum'm got her money back because they were somewhat expensive,
because you want me in another color? No, thank you.
I don't think I ended up getting a gift that year.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
I just said keep it the money.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
That's all good. Next year we'll think of something better together.
How about we talked about it before we go buying wayfarers.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
I do have a surprise for you, Okay, we have
our first ever male submission right in submission?
Speaker 1 (15:20):
Yes? Have we have we ever had one? For? Have we? No?
Speaker 2 (15:23):
I thought we have one potentially, Like maybe this is
a this like a help me out. Yeah, it's like
I'm a male and I'm listening. I don't want to.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
Thank all you males out there again. The girlies, no,
they're loved, so we're fine. But sometimes the boys need
a bit of encouragement to keep listening.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
But I cannot wait, so our male writer says, not
going to lie. Your podcast has been a game changer.
I know it was called just for girls, and I'm
obviously not the target audience, but I've been tuning in
behind closed doors to hear me out because honestly, it's
been a perfect playbook for how guys should move, what
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to do, what not to do, and how not to
be a complete idiot when it comes to the ladies.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Thank you, that's what I aspire to do.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
It's honestly helped me tighten up a bit and how
to be smooth, especially with those hinge pointers.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
Hey, that's good, but you took off all those shirtless
gym selfies.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
Fingers crossed. But I've got a question for you, one
that's been spinning in my head for a while now,
just gonna rip the band aid off. What actually catches
your eye in a guy, Like when you see a
bloke you fancy in a bar or wherever. What's the
difference between he was smooth and he gave me the
ick and real talk. When dudes get turned down, do
(16:45):
you reckon? It's usually down to the vibe or it's
often physical. No sugarcoating here is he? Is it the snuz,
the jawline, he ears the chumpers? What stands out for
you personally? No hard feelings. I know attractions subjective, but
I feel like hearing your take would help us blokes
get through the noise, even if we don't admit it.
(17:07):
Prime example, a lot of boys don't approach chicks at
bars because the rejection can be a huge kick to
the nuts.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Fair enough.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
For instance, it gets me thinking, fuck, do I need
to lock in a Rhino plus C trip to Turkey asap?
Speaker 1 (17:21):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (17:21):
My god, No, Rocky, And yes, most guys feel this way.
They just keep it to themselves, and I'm here to
break the ice. I'm just trying to be a bit
more self aware and figure out how to catch the
eye of the kind of girls I fancy aka girls
like you.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
So sweet. Firstly, quickly, boys do not need to have
a small nose. I actually like guys with like a
bit of character to their nose. You fuel like a
bit of a broken like rugby football nose. Like I
like that, so please don't think about getting You don't
need anything, you know, everyone's perfect the way they are.
But if I'm being completely honest, the first thing that
popped into my mind when you said, what catches your
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eye on a man in public? Outfit? Yeah, for sure,
I'm really serious. It's like, I will lay it out
plainly if people like, don't know, a plain white T
shirt the uniclo has great ones, or a plain black
tea and a pair of baggy blue jeans, baggy black jeans,
some cargo pants, I don't care if it comes close
to hugging your calf, it needs to go. Yeah, and
(18:21):
a hat or something like. I think outfit is the
first thing I see, even near the face. In the
other direction, I'm like, I like what that guy's wearing,
you know, And it can be the most basic thing.
It doesn't need to be anything boogie or nice. And
that's why I'm like, for example, a plain T shirt
and the some jeans, that is fine.
Speaker 2 (18:35):
I don't think girls like expect a man to be
perfectly dressed. I think it's more so a case of oh,
you don't look terrible. I think they're happy with.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
Just okay, because girls are very much in the mindset
and I'll be honest that I can change what they wear,
like as in, it's something that girls my friends have
said for ages. It's like, oh, I really like this guy,
but I don't like what he wears, and all of
the friends are like, that's fine, you can fix that,
you know. But for me to someone catches my eye,
I'd say a lot of the time, it's what they're wearing.
Because if someone might be really physically attractive but I
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don't like what they're wearing, I probably won't. I know
that's so fucked up, but I'm you told me not
to sugarcoat it. Yeah, I probably wouldn't. Then continue kind
of giving them attention throughout the night, like I wouldn't
like keep looking over and be like, I hope they
talk to me because I'm like, we have really different
styles and therefore probably really different vibes. Yeah, you know
what I mean.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
I like his question, and I feel like you've had
different results with each option he gave. But when you
call things off, does it go mostly towards vibe or
attraction or a lack of let's say.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
Say on a night out and someone will come up
to me at a bar and I will say like, oh,
by your drink, and I'll probably be like, oh, no,
thank you. I'd say on that basis purely it's probably
attraction because you know so little about the person, you
know what I mean. But I'd say getting a girl
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bar when they're buying a drink is probably not. I
would almost rather a guy kind of come up to
me while I'm sitting with my friends and like maybe
a couple of their friends and they like sit down
and start chatting, and then you kind of can chat
to them and you're all kind of in a conversation together.
Then you kind of get to know their personality a
bit more. I think purely offering to buy someone a drink,
you know so little about them and who they are
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and their energy and vibe that it is going to
be probably a no for a lot of people purely
out of fear as well. The girls also like, h scared, no,
don't worry, like you know what I mean. Like that's
intimidating for us as well. So I feel like approaching
it maybe more casually than kind of oh you see
a girl go to a bar by herself, Like, she's
probably gonna want to rejoin her friends soon anyway, so
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it will probably end up shutting down pretty quickly. I'd
say your better bet is to kind of catch her
when she's sitting or doing something with friends somewhere where
it's a bit more casual, and maybe you can sit
down and kind of chat to her for a little
bit verse like, hey, can I buy you a drink?
Because all of her friends are sitting ten feet away
and she can't really come sit with you for half
an hour, do you know what I mean? So I
feel like it in a more casual setting, maybe even
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if it's with a few mates and you kind of
like join a couple of girls and like sit down
on the same table as them and maybe start asking
them some questions Like that is a bit more casual.
Therefore you get to know the person a bit more.
Then it goes more to vibe than looks and attraction,
because someone might just be really funny and you might
be finding yourself like looking over at them more, you
know what I mean, So and just eye contact across
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the fucking room. If I think someone's good looking, I
end up staring at them a lot, and you don't
even realize you're doing it. You kind of just look
over at them to see if.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
They're looking at you.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
So if you end up catching the same eyes with
the same person again and again again, then I feel
like that's you're in to Yeah, go and speak to
them because they're not looking at you for no reason. No,
And if there's a boy that kept staring at me
that I wasn't interested in it, I would stop looking
that way, you know, like I just we would stop
catching eyes because I would make sure I wasn't looking
at him. So it's like, if you do find that
you're catching eyes with a girl a couple times, it's
(21:56):
because she's also interested scoping you out. Yeah, So it's
like then that just makes it a little bit easier
and maybe a little bit less intimidating for you to
approach because she's probably expecting it or wanting it. But
outfit start there always. I know that's very shallow, but
it really does make a difference, and I'm sure boys
would agree, Like they might see girls in an outfit.
Speaker 2 (22:17):
And be like, whow, I'm going to give random advice
that's not that relatable. I think I said it to you.
Last week when I was in I was driving home,
I saw a guy walking on the footpath. I was like,
he is sexy. Then I like looked at his face.
I'm like, wait, not really, I look down he's holding
a book. Yeah, just like anything to show interest.
Speaker 1 (22:38):
And yeah, like I don't know, if you're going to
get lunch at a cafe, like bring a book, make
sure you know something about it. But on a night out, yeah,
having a boy come up to me at a bar
when I'm like buy myself buying a drink, it usually
probably I reckon intimidating me more because I'm like I've
kind of got to go rejoin my friends. Like I'll
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just be like, thank you, that's so nice, and then
I'll go. It's not really a way to have a
continued conversation, no, And like.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
That's setting what do you want to be remembered for.
I feel like there needs to be an entry point
before a drink, because if you're coming straight up to someone,
hey can I buy you a drink, I'm just going
to remember the drink.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
That I had. Also, when boys coming on what I'm wearing,
I think it's really nice. Like sometimes i'd be like
that's a really cool like I've had my I remember
when I wore a F one this year. I wore
this like gray sort of shortened jacket set and like
or even all just my boy like mates were like,
that's the coolest outfit we've ever seen, and I'm like,
thank you so much. But I remember, like sometimes I'll
be walking past someone and be like, you look so good.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
Like I love what you're wearing, and they can just
appreciate it, but it's like you're so well, yeah, I
love that.
Speaker 1 (23:44):
I love it too. I'm a little I like it all.
I really don't whistle at me from a car and
we're pretty well good. But like someone barked at me
from a part the other day. Did I tell you that?
I'm like, what, WHOA? Roll down that window? I'm jumping
in fuck me right now? Do not bark me?
Speaker 2 (24:00):
What type of bar?
Speaker 1 (24:00):
Because it like, yeah, what he's going?
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (24:05):
Yeah, But I'm like, what's the goal there besides making
me feel uncomfortable? Yeah, because there isn't. You're not you're
not trying to make yourself good. No, I don't get
why guys do that. It was in Richmond, Richmond's Scary
there's fucking people everywhere. But also just confidence is hot,
you know so, and confidence in.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
You, like you don't have to be blindly confident in something,
just knowing who you are, what you're about, being able
to rattle everything off.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
Yeah. I like people that are smart, have interested in
their own things, passionate about something.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
Do you like a little bit of mystery left to
someone that just lays it out?
Speaker 1 (24:39):
M I don't know.
Speaker 2 (24:41):
I like to keep wanting more.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
I'm not even really sure what I want right now
because it's like I've been single for so long and
it's like the last two guys that date it aren't
the type that I want to go for in future. Therefore,
I'm not really sure. Yeah, you know, I'm open to whatever.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
Really, we'll report backward from.
Speaker 1 (24:59):
I think night is so important, and I think looks
is really not everything. Like there's so many guys that
it's like, oh my god, people will be like, oh
he's not that good looking, but like his fucking personality
is incredible. So it's like personality is so much. Yeah,
Christmas rare, Yeah, witty smart banter. Banter is great. It's
not easy, though, It's not easy to just make up banter.
(25:19):
You either have it with someone or you don't. And
there's a lot of people I might have it with
and a lot of people I just don't. Yeah, it
depends in the person. So you kind of need to
go to conversation going not just offered to buy a
drink is kind of where I'm going. But that's really
the advice I can give you. I hope I somewhat
covered what you're looking for.
Speaker 2 (25:33):
And please write back in.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
Please write back in, and boys, please feel welcome to
write in. We love for hearing your questions.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Slave Gorge.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Okay, guys, on this week's episode, we are sticking true
to the name of the podcast, and we've gotten you,
guys to send us in a bunch of your hear
me out, so your controversial opinions hot takes in case
anyone's not sure what to hear me out is. That's
what hear me out is. It's just kind of like,
hear me out, this is my controversial opinion, and Likeke's
gonna read some of yours and we're going to react.
Speaker 2 (26:03):
All right. These are quick fire ones. Yeah, hear me out.
A guy texting with auto capitalization off is the biggest
turn off or elongating their words, like that's so true,
that's the girls only. Yeah, yeah, I don't like.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
I remember back in the day, I had a friend
that turned her capslock off, and I was like, why
have you done that? Like, I just think to know
that a boy's consciously gone into their settings and turned
their capslock off to me is odd.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
I didn't even know that was a setting.
Speaker 1 (26:29):
It is because it just makes it look like you're
texting like a kid. And I do understand sometimes having
a heading on a story or something with no capitals
in it, I get it. Yeah, don't text me with
no capitals unless you want me to think you're twelve.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
Yeah, I think it's childish. I'm like, what are you
texting off?
Speaker 1 (26:43):
Yeah? And then what if you're writing a working on
your phone and that's all lowercase? I just think it's weird.
So yeah, I do think it's an eck absolutely, And
about the elongation of the words. I don't like the
haze with lots of wires. I get that. But like
you're so excited to see me, that's fine, that'll do.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
Yeah, I do. I don't even know what my problem is,
Like it so feels weird to me. It was so funny.
I'm like, what is like the example like crazezy. Yeah
this summer, I'm like chill.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Yeah, it's crazy and I'm needing to be crazy.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
When we're speaking about this. I was trying to think
of words, and the first one was slay, like I need.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
To slow needs. I need to have someone lobotomize me
and rip the memory of that word out of my
brain since it actually started. I reckon honestly when I
was at Coachella, and now I say it daily twenty
times at least.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Really picked up, didn't that it?
Speaker 1 (27:36):
Really it's picked up and it's never stopped. I need
it fucking gone. How does one remove a word from
their vocabulary.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
I think he's going to replace it with a mother.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
Give me a word to replace lay with? Gus? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (27:50):
Please sound some all right? Yeah, hear me out. Girls
always look better with their natural hair color. Guests dying
it can still look amazing, but at the end of
the day, your natural hair color is best suited. In
my opinion, hard disagree.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
I understand what you're saying, but my hair colors are
really mousy, grayish brown, like it's got no warmth or
richness to it. And it looks like I'm dying. So
I like, I do think, like there are blonde people
and then they get a couple of highlights and frames
around their face, and then they're blonde is just brighter.
I totally I get what you're saying. Like I have
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friends like leg that have that gorgeous dark hair that's
like similar to my color, probably a bit lighter now,
but it's like if they added highlights in it. People
that have really really dark, thick brown hair, I don't
think suit highlights. I think when your hair is that dark,
highlights make your hair, highlights look yellow. You can only
really get highlights if you've got a lighter color hair
to start with, or like you've bleached it. Anyway, I disagree.
(28:49):
I think demension and hair is nice, and I think
I like experimenting with hair colors. But best believe those
people with natural hair thicker and nice art and shinier
hair than those of us who die regularly.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
Yeah. I get preferring someone's original hair if you're looking
at at it against like an extreme like a bleach
blonde or like a bright red or like.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
You know, a blonde that has like ten centimeter roots
like Yeah, yeah, I'd probably prefer my Yeah, but my
hair now looks better than it would have had one
hundred percent.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
And I actually can't think of an example where there's
like a celebrity and I'm like, not, you need to
dye your hair back, like it's never been that bad.
Speaker 1 (29:24):
Yeah, Like, isn't Blake Lively naturally blonde? I mean not
black Lively?
Speaker 2 (29:28):
Sorry?
Speaker 1 (29:29):
Ooh I hate her still light and mister Blair weld Off,
I think she grew up blonde.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
Yeah, her natural hair color is light brown. Yeah, but
it's a dark brown one hundred percent.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
That's so hurt. No, I think I do. I hard
disagree on that. Yeah, that's my stance.
Speaker 2 (29:47):
All right, this is a lengthier one. Hear me out.
Going through your situation's recently deleted photos and recovering things
that they don't want you to see, and then asking
to look at something I'll send next to you, and
then saying what's this is and staging it right in
front of them is healthy to see what their reaction is.
(30:08):
My example, I went through my situation's phone when we
were getting the situationships. Yeah that's what you mean. Yeah, Yeah,
I went through my situation ship's phone when we were
getting serious and recovered photos of him kissing girls on
the cheek and being flirty with other girls. And then
when he woke up, I asked if we could look
at the pics we took on the weekend, and then
he accidentally scrolled to the photo I recovered and he
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was then in shambles and basically made him bow down
to me.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
Healthy. No, if I'm going to be completely honest with you, Yeah,
it's questionable, it's very savvy, it's clever, it's clever. I
don't think it's healthy, yeah, or smart, And I wouldn't recommend.
I think you're setting yourself up for an issue and
a heartbreak. I don't think you need to see them.
Speaker 2 (30:55):
I get if you want clarity if you're maybe entering something.
Speaker 1 (30:58):
And let's say he was like cheating on you, then
find dump his ass. But like to set it up
to be like a catch out, like fuck me, if
I see a photo of someone kissing someone, I'm just
gonna show him. Yeah, but verse like setting up a scenario,
you know what, and like the fact.
Speaker 2 (31:12):
That this is solely situationships. It's like, what can be
like that good that you're actually like, oh, Yeah, I
s so happy to stay with you. Like, inevitably you're
gonna find something that's going to alter your connection.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
You're kind of looking for a fight then, yeah, which,
if you want one, go for it.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
Yeah, by all means, make it his wallpaper.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
Don't make it his wallpaper. But I think if you're
looking for something, you may as well just confront him
about what you've found. In Like, I went through Italy
deleted and I found this.
Speaker 2 (31:41):
Yeah is this verse?
Speaker 1 (31:42):
Like hey, in the hopes that they scroll and find it,
you know what I mean. But no judgment, love the creativity. Yeah,
if I need it, I'll use it.
Speaker 2 (31:51):
Think next one hear me out. Ninety percent of am
I the assholes stories? No, they're not the assholes and
they just looking to be validation. Yeah, that's really good.
Speaker 1 (32:02):
I do get it. But I like also, yeah, I
think they maybe had one or two where I've been like,
you kind of are the asshole. But it's very much
not common, And I think people that are the asshole
don't send those stories in because they know that they're
in the wrong.
Speaker 2 (32:15):
Yeah. Although the ones I engage with in like Reddit
or in like communities, I have seen the complete other extreme.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
Of it, and the reddit was crazy.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
But some people that are so unaware that they're an
asshole and have done something remotely wrong.
Speaker 1 (32:29):
Yeah, I like us to unlock like this huge audience
where like we're getting like Reddit level fucking nuts. And
I know a lot of the time people send in
stories like that purely for validation. I don't mind. I'll
give it to you. I'll do the same to be honest,
And sometimes I like hearing about the other crazy person
that they're telling.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
Yeah, exactly, I don't mind. It's a literal situation, the drama. Okay,
hear me out. You'll love this. Wearing shoes inside your
home in Brackets as a clean freak is disgusting. Think
about everything that could be on a road or footpath
in Brackets again, dog piers, garm being walked through your
(33:09):
house this foul.
Speaker 1 (33:10):
Especially carpets that mop a carpet like. So, I got
home from the airport the other day, I'm like, oh,
everything on my body needs to be gone and burnt,
quite frankly, And I was unpacking my suitcase and I
was still wearing what I wore on the plane run.
More so, I was wearing runners. I can't do productive
tasks around my house. Wearing runners, I'm not comfortable. I
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feel like my legs are harder to move because it's
a big chunky thing in the bottom of my foot.
It needs to go extra wait to catchuck my runners off,
put my ugods on, and now things can get done
smoother and easier. Runners are just not an indoor shoe.
People that sit in the couch with the runners on.
Speaker 2 (33:46):
Foul.
Speaker 1 (33:46):
People that oh, my friends told me her partner got
home from the airport the other day and jumps in
her bed to wake up and say good morning. I
don't want to good morning if you're going to be
wearing airport clothes.
Speaker 2 (33:57):
Shower, I'm on its leg rude. I want a clean
freak side, but I have a few leeways. Like I'm
also an unbothered queen.
Speaker 1 (34:05):
I'm a messy, clean freak.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
Yeah. Is the one environment that I'm like, I need
to shed myself. Yeah, Like, there's not many environments you like,
get this off me.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
I'm a hygiene freak, not a thing. I sing a
video of Kylie Jenna saying that, like, my house is
organized chaos. I know where everything is. It may look
unorganized to you, but it's like, I know that that
lip mom is like in that drawer under that fucking
notebook I use when I was twelve? Do you know
what I mean to me? But like if someone cleaned
it all, yeah, it would be lovely, but it's not
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going to stay like that. Yeah, but everything is hygienic.
Speaker 2 (34:37):
Does the job, yep.
Speaker 1 (34:39):
Don't touch my bed with the outdoor shit. Yeah, I
know that they're just sit in the floor.
Speaker 2 (34:42):
I think I overall agree with the hear me out,
but sometimes because you don't have total control of your
living situation, other people can be walking through with shoes.
Speaker 1 (34:52):
Yeah, don't walk from my bedroom with shoes.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
But then sometimes it's like a defense mechanism that I
wear shoes because I don't want to pick up other people's.
Speaker 1 (35:01):
Yeah, I'll never wear like I had runners at my
friend's house the other day and I was wearing socks,
but every time I got off from the couch, I
like put my runners back on, and she's like, why
do you keep doing that? And I'm like, well, usually
I have my ug boots, but like, I don't want
to walk around someone else's kitchen in socks.
Speaker 2 (35:14):
Oh my god, Remember when I came to your house
and I stepped in your cat, shir that was so embarrassing.
Speaker 1 (35:20):
Oh my god, through a fucking serious about of like
she couldn't control her bowels. I don't know what you'd
call it, but she's shit everywhere, and it's like these
tiny little pellets of shit. She's done. Now, she's better,
in case anyone cared, she's fine. But she'd do it
all the time, and I'd usually spot it instantly and
I clean it up. But Blake was coming over and
obviously she'd just done it, and he walked straight into it,
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and I woke up. She's like, what's that fucking smell?
It was so embarrassed, And it was the first time
there too.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
I'm already going red.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
Ah, it was so it was so sad. I didn't care,
though I felt bad that you stepped in. Catchit inside
my house instantly.
Speaker 2 (35:55):
Yeah, next one, hear me out. People need a sub
saying they going no contact with their acts when they've
been broken up for like months. You are not no
contact your single babe. Please go outside and stop thinking
about your ax.
Speaker 1 (36:09):
I actually, yeah, I've never thought about it. Yeah, you're
not no contact anymore, you're not dating.
Speaker 2 (36:15):
I think that's a productive take. But I will give
everyone so much grace that you're allowed to be. It's
affected by as long as I was a.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
Very long grieper. I can't be judgmental. I am sick
of hearing people's I hate that whole period of oh yeah,
I've got him blocked, and then I see his number
pop up and I'm like, you said you had him blocked,
and they just lie. Yeah, I'm like, don't lie. I'd
rather you just tell me you're talking to him still?
Do you know what I mean? And don't I blocked him? No,
(36:43):
he blocked me. Wait, wait, why have you messaged you?
Oh no, wait I unlocked him. No, shut up. You
might as well just get back together this point.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
Yeah, I don't even care. I went to sound super relatable,
but I think we're different people in this sense, Like
how angry do you even get when a girlfriend is
like I haven't blocked or I'm still talking to it. Yeah,
I'm the same because I'm like, it's your ax, like're.
Speaker 1 (37:05):
Fine as long as it fuck you over. Yeah, there's
that's a big if he fucked you over. Look. There
also comes a period where I'm like, if we're going
back and forth, for a couple of months. How I'm
over it and you need to start moving on, and
I'm going to make sure you do, you know. But
it's that back and forth when you know that the
X isn't the right person for them that sometimes you're
just like I want more for you. I want better
(37:26):
for you, Like, let's actually fucking cut this man off now.
Speaker 2 (37:28):
Okay, okay, hear me out. Over seventy five you should
have to redo your driver's tak Nothing enrages me more
than going forty in a sixty zone or fifty eight
and an eighty zone legitimately makes the roads more dangerous.
Speaker 1 (37:42):
No, No, I completely agree. I was saying that was
with my grandma. I was like, we need to cut
a license up.
Speaker 2 (37:46):
I think this is one of your og it is when.
Speaker 1 (37:49):
I like, Dad needs to cut my grandma's license up.
She shouldn't be operating a vehicle anymore. But it's like,
are we driving like sixty k's down a sixty k
road and all of a sudden, someone backs out in
front of me and I have to stats stationary behind
them for forty five seconds until they reverse, Like yeah,
move it, you know, move it. I've told you cars
and airports make me a bad person, but fucking I
(38:11):
completely agree. Yeah, I completely agree.
Speaker 2 (38:13):
It's pretty much most car accents I've almost got into.
Unfortunately an old, beautiful person's at the wheel.
Speaker 1 (38:19):
It makes me so sad. I don't want them to
feel that stress, and I don't want to kill your accident. Yeah,
if you can't go the speed limit, you know, safely,
then you shouldn't be driving anymore. And at least we
have ubers these days, whereas like back, I was thinking
what the fuck did I do with my life before ubers?
Like I think they came in in like twenty thirteen.
If I can remember correctly.
Speaker 2 (38:39):
I feel it started uber eats first and then led
into nah definitely not Yeah, wrong, I've gone for like
the reiteration of a name. There's like uber tends to twelve.
Speaker 1 (38:53):
So I'm like, I was lucky that that would have
been when I was in year six, So it's like
by the time I was year seven, eight or anywhere
that I was going anywhere by myself, I was lucky
that I had ubers, but people that were older than me,
I'm like, it was public transport central back then or taxis, yeah,
which a taxis to me and just date. I just
view them as slightly more dangerous than it was, which
I know isn't the case. The thing that fucking sucks
(39:14):
about taxis is I lost my acne leather jacket and
the taxi on the way home from Travis Scott, and
I was so drunk I didn't remember the taxi company.
Speaker 2 (39:22):
And no record of it on my phone and a
tackne so.
Speaker 1 (39:27):
I really wanted back. So I like the Uber at
least you can like track it. But I had to
pay a fucking uber two hundred bucks in cash to
drop my phone off the other day.
Speaker 2 (39:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (39:36):
Did you even know this that you're extorting money out
of me?
Speaker 2 (39:40):
I think it used to be it was like a
set fee of twenty five to fifty dollars, yeah, for
anything return. Now they're like hey and fair of.
Speaker 1 (39:46):
They've like gone a long way away. But I realized
almost instantly and just called this guy back and he
was like, how bad do you want it? I'm like, well,
it is my whole fucking life. Pretty bad.
Speaker 2 (39:54):
What's your price?
Speaker 1 (39:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (39:55):
Okay? Next hear me out. Watching porn in a relationship
in brackets without them knowing is cheating unpopular opinion. I know,
but hear me out. The definition of cheating is a
violation of a couple's emotional or sexual exclusivity through intimate
behaviors with someone outside their relationship without the partner's knowledge
or concern. So if your man is watching another person
(40:18):
having sex and is getting off because he's attracted to
her without you knowing, is not just a sackable offense.
It's cheating, point blank period.
Speaker 1 (40:28):
I like that you've got the definite definition of cheating.
Speaker 2 (40:30):
I know I felt a bit attacked them.
Speaker 1 (40:32):
I don't agree. Yeah, I don't think it's cheating. I
think it's worse if they're looking at girls only fans
and it's girls they follow.
Speaker 2 (40:39):
Yeah, that's a whole time.
Speaker 1 (40:41):
But porn on porn, Like, no, it's not cheating, but
like it's dodgy and like you shouldn't need to hide it.
Does it really matter? Like if they're doing it while
you're in the next room, that fucking sucks. But it's
like if you're away for fucking two weeks and they're
watching porn, Like, who gives a shit. I just think
it's a variable. It's very well. It's also dependent on
your history. Maybe they have a fucking important problem, and
(41:03):
it's been an issue relationship. I don't know, but no,
I don't find it cheating. I just think it's dodgy,
and I just think, why can that not be if
you're not doing anything wrong, why can't you tell me
that you're watching porn? Who care?
Speaker 2 (41:15):
As you said, so many variables. But then I look
at like the opposite end of this, and it's like,
how forth coming would I want my boyfriend to be
about that? And how forthcoming would I want to be
with my boys?
Speaker 1 (41:26):
Ideally, my boyfriend doesn't need to watch porn. That's my
thought process, that's my ideal situation. I don't want them
to even fucking have the only fans up. If I'm
being completely transparent here.
Speaker 2 (41:38):
I don't think many taken men do. But again I'm
probably yeah.
Speaker 1 (41:42):
I don't think that's a real I think that is
a much bigger boundary crossing, especially if you're saying messaging,
because these are like people that you follow on Instagram,
on people that you know. There's very like normal people
that you might meet on a fucking night out that
my only fans. That's different to like some unattainable fucking
American porn star. You know what I mean, it's different,
it is.
Speaker 2 (42:00):
I do find it funny because a lot of the
times where a couple has broken up because the boundaries
cross online, whether it's poor or not only fans, it's
always a messaging on only fans. I completely agree, it's
just crossing a line.
Speaker 1 (42:12):
That's you texting another girl.
Speaker 2 (42:14):
I just find it that's so funny every time I
hear about it, because I'm like, ninety percent chance you're
paying a bot in thailands, Like I think that's what
most girls people.
Speaker 1 (42:22):
Only they're not answering those messages. All I've got an
assistant doing that. You're not talking to the person who
think you are.
Speaker 2 (42:28):
Mate copying and pasting most likely.
Speaker 1 (42:30):
Yeah, no, I don't write it. I don't write cheat
is full stop. But I do not think that is
cheating at its base level.
Speaker 2 (42:38):
No, Okay, I've got a new hemiout slash unpopular opinion.
I think star signs are a load of crap. There
is no way that everyone born in our period of
time and every year is the same. I think people
just use them as an excuse or an escape, which
is totally fine, but just be real with yourself eventually
this feels like a personality you would staring me as
(43:00):
I finished.
Speaker 1 (43:01):
Yeah. Yeah. A lot of the times, like if I'm
reading my fucking horoscope, I'm like, oh, this really relates
to me. And then sometimes I go, well, does this
also relate to the fucking a twelfth of the population
that's also a Leo? I hate that, man, it doesn't
feel as real. I think star signs can weigh heavily
on certain traits that people have, absolutely, and I think,
but I think if you're looking at it at a
(43:22):
deeper level, you'd also need to look at the birth
chart and where you're born and when you're born and
timing wise. And I do think you can get a
somewhat accurate description of someone's like personality based on zodiac
and all that kind of jazz on like Leo rising
and tourist moon. And no, your sun's sign isn't going
to give you everything you need to know about a person.
I definitely think there's people that aren't anything like their
(43:43):
star signs, But I do think it can give you
a base level of traits, like I'm a Leo. I
think a lot a lot of people go that, no shit, yeah,
that makes a lot of sense, and it does. But
then there's leos I meet and I'm like, you're nothing
like me. It's yeah, it take it if you want it.
Who's harm do you know what I mean? I don't
think it's harming ever anyone if they want to read
their zodiac everyone, I mean their horoscope every morning and
(44:06):
it makes them feel good.
Speaker 2 (44:07):
I'm not like that into it. I know what stars
and I am. But I also have on like the
other hand, friends that are so into it, Like they explain,
I'm like, no, that does seem like like.
Speaker 1 (44:15):
I don't read my horoscope because like I said, I'm
knowing how many people are reading this exact same horoscope.
It can't then to me feel relative, and I don't.
It doesn't, but I do believe that, like I have
a lot of traits of a leo, and like you know,
I think it does make up certain aspects of my personality.
Speaker 2 (44:32):
It's great direction.
Speaker 1 (44:35):
Yeah, like a lot of my pause, like, let's read
my negative attributes to a leon and I feel like
you'll agree confident, see yeah, creative, No generous you are
I'm not creative, generous, loyal, natural, leader, passionate. I feel like, yeah,
some of those things in me negative traits arrogant, attention seeking, stubborn, yes,
(45:01):
self centered, and struggles with criticism. Some may say those
are traits of me. I'm gonna say they're not. Like,
take what you want literally, who's hurting? Yes, I do
have some of those negative traits, but let's just leave
it there.
Speaker 2 (45:16):
Let's ignore that this one was the most chaotic, and
I've literally acknowledged it. Ya hear me out. Okay, maybe
this is a little chaotic. Okay, but a three way
with two xes, the chemistry and tension is wild in
the best least toxic way. Honestly, every girl deserves at
least one beautifully unhinged three way in her life.
Speaker 1 (45:38):
I have two x'es, and I so that my mind
goes straight to that to me is not beautifully unhinged.
It is problem central, Like, there is what two x's
are vying for you? No, I just the whole thing.
Maybe for some people that might be lovely, I think.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
It would say, I don't know, I don't even think.
Speaker 1 (46:01):
No, for some people, I'm sure it would be amazing
and like maybe the chemistry, yes, would be incredible, but like,
do you want to deal with the aftermath of an
experience like that. No, I don't.
Speaker 2 (46:11):
Yeah, I really lack opinions because I'm just overwhelmed.
Speaker 1 (46:14):
Yes, beautifully unh his three way, Yeah, go for it
with your two ex's. I don't think either of them
are down for that either.
Speaker 2 (46:20):
No, except traditionally probably meant to hate each other. Yeah,
as well, and it's like, okay, why are they teaming
up that? Yeah, hear me out Bush shaved only because
of the Skim stuff recently.
Speaker 1 (46:32):
Oh, the skims, the underwear underwear. I don't know if
that was real or a scam because Skims recently came
out with a G string that has like like fur,
like fake pubes on it. Yeah, and whenever anyone went
to look at them, it was all already sold out.
So I'm like, was it actually ever for sale or
did they kind of just put it up in the
website for like drama and yeah, and all just stay
sold out.
Speaker 2 (46:52):
You addressed in an interview and said, yes, it was released,
but I didn't know.
Speaker 1 (46:57):
I have mixed opinions on it because of how the
times Change is my only thing currently in present time. Yeah, absolutely,
that's most people's preference. But ten years ago it wasn't
so like when people get like full fucking laser. I'm like,
what happens in ten years when a beare fucking smooth?
Yeah bush is as unattractive as say a full bush
(47:17):
would be today. What happens then? You know it's a
personal preference and it's your partent's preference.
Speaker 2 (47:23):
True, And I think it's a pendulum, like the bush
will be out at one point then that hasn't been
back for so long, it's.
Speaker 1 (47:29):
Going to come back. Yeah, it's absolutely going to come
back here. Whatever, And you know what for us girlies,
that makes life easier when it does.
Speaker 2 (47:34):
So whatever and our final one hear me out, being
your authentic self is now weaponized to allow shitty behavior
and to let people be an asshole without consequences.
Speaker 1 (47:47):
Mmmm. Yeah, but I feel like you see people, I'm like, hm,
I'm being my authentic self. I'm like, you're not, though,
I think yeah. I just think people that feel they
need to preach it their their authentic selves and they're
honest again and again. It's like when fucking lazy on
the violent was going again and again. I'm just honest.
I'm just honest. I'm just honest. I'm like you're the
least honest person in here or the only one talking
about it. People that preach stuff are usually the ones
(48:10):
that are the least likely people doing it. So yeah,
people that continuously will say online I am my authentic self.
I don't think I've ever said I'm my authentic self
on my podcast or on my TikTok. Yeah, I don't
need to because I feel like I am being that.
Maybe I'm just down that, maybe I've drinks myself. But
I'm like people that preach that they're doing all of it. No,
they're usually not anyway. So I find like anyone that's
(48:31):
saying that shit walk the other direction honestly.
Speaker 2 (48:34):
And I don't think it's the saying itself is being weaponized.
I think when it gets in there, like I was
just being my real self, I'm like you were. It's
just when the wrong person grue to a catchphrase or something.
Speaker 1 (48:46):
No, I agree, Yeah, I stand by it. I loved
this episode. This is great. I loved all your opinions.
Thank you so much. That's all for today, squad, and
we will see you next week. Next week, we are
doing a bit more of a health fitness vibe. I
know a lot of you guys actually have a bit
of my d MS about it. I'm bringing my personal
trainer on Easy. She's an old friend of mine to
(49:07):
kind of talk like party girl exercise, How does that
all fit in together? Is it mutually exclusive? How to
be a reformed party girl? How she got there? The
importance of fitness, all that stuff, and just entry point, fitness,
entry point, you know, entering the new year, New year
knew me. I just thought it might be nice to
have someone on kind of talking about things that we
(49:28):
can do to be healthier, because I know where I
would like to be.
Speaker 2 (49:31):
And you know what, we'll post a question box asking
for your gym slush workout. Hear me outs, Yeah, and
we can throw them to easy and just see.
Speaker 1 (49:39):
Where where she lands. Busy is my pity. Yeah, we're
gonna we're gonna have Easy Squad.
Speaker 2 (49:44):
Yeah, it's gonna be complicated, gonna be fun.
Speaker 1 (49:46):
See how it goes, all right, guys, see you next week.
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