July 28, 2025 • 44 mins
Hello and welcome back to Hotter Than Yesterday! After 2-weeks of incredible guests, I thought it was time to sit down and catch up with all of you and that's what we're doing this episode. I asked over on IG for your princess & prince treatment submissions, your non negotiable's in a relationship + the worst compliments you've gotten from a guy.
This was a rollercoaster to read out loud and react to but I LOVED sitting down with you all and can't wait to do it again next week!
Sam xxx
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I'm not looking to teach her one emotional intelligence. I'm
not your mother, I'm not your teacher. I'm not your guidance.
I'm your girlfriend. I'm not teaching you. You should teach yourself. Hi, guys,
just little old me checking in from London. How are
we all? I thought you guys would just like appreciate
just an episode from me. My last two weeks have
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been a guest We had Bill and Michael on and
they were such fun episodes. But we have so much
catching up to do. I've done a few trips since
I last talked to you, guys. There were trips of
a lifetime, might I add I got very sick after them.
But yeah, I just thought we would do a little
chit chat, talk about my favorite things at the moment,
and do with the trend of bare minim or princess treatment.
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I asked over on my Instagram about like King treatment,
bare minimum, like your no negotiables and relationships because like
I'm a bit clucky for relationships at the moment. I'm
in a really good place. Don't want to leak too
many things because I'm just really enjoying being private, but
just know that I'm really happy over here. But I'm
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like so scared to like talk about it and like
want to talk about it because I don't know this
whole Like being called a town bike and everything like
that just like makes me not want to share any
type of like romantic relationship because I just get painted
in such a negative light, which like it shouldn't be
a negative light, Like who cares about people's dating life
like that, and like it's not a nice feeling, you know.
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So then like sharing parts of like a romantic relationship
or a romantic life, like I'm giving people more information
to then throw at me, and it's just like not nice.
But like I feel like it's a safe space on
the podcast, So just no, I'm really happy. It's nice.
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It's nice like feeling like a princess. I'm being treated
like a princess at the moment, and it's really nice.
I really really like it. That's all I'm gonna tell
you guys. Hopefully more developments come soon. If I get
like a good reaction out of this, I'll tell you
guys to tea because there's so much law behind it
and is good. Is good? But yeah, I went to Greece.
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I went to Michanos with Bella, and the way Bella
and I have become like twin flames since coming to
London is like crazy. Bella viraleist. If you don't know,
I actually found her because she was on The Bachelor.
She's kind of hate that I said that, but we
obviously she's an Aussie girl and she is kind of
doing the same thing as me, Like she's basing herself
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out of London for a few months and we just
like randomly went for a one night like as soon
as we both got here. And we weren't really friends
before that, which is like crazy. We actually didn't really
like each other, fun little stories both of our ex's
kind of like they played some their few little games,
and we thought that like we were not loyal to
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each other and we were like a bit off it,
but we actually were on the side team. Like I
wanted to protect her and respect her and she wanted
to do the same. But when neither of us thought
the other other person was doing that, so then once
we had a conversation and like we spoke about it,
and like we figured it all out and we realized
we were on the same team. We've literally been inseparable
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and then were so we went to Greece together. We
had the best time in Greece. Just prepare yourself for
like minimal sleep, crazy parties. Like the partying in Europe
is just like next level and something I'd never prepared
myself for. Like I can turn it on for a party,
I can have a good time, like I do love
a little boogie, like I love a little drink, but
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not consecutive days in a row. I'm like a one done,
Like I'm just like a weekend girl. But you can't
do that in Europe. It's like next club, next club
bus and the other club boat. Like it's like crazy shit.
And like we thought it wasn't going to be that
crazy because there was only two of us. Nope, definitely
underestimated that. But going into a holiday with low expectations,
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I think you then exceed the expectations. But my gosh,
when I got home from Greece, I was a mess.
I was a big mess. I was so tired, I
was so drained. I lost my voice. I like had
a massive sinus infection, like I like hit rock Bottom.
I'm still like a little bit nasily. It took me
like a while to like bounce back from that. But yeah,
it was nice. And then I went to Turkey for
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a few days solo, and that was like really nice
to just like recharge. I am a Taurus if you
didn't know, and I'm one, like I am an extroverted introvert,
like I love being social. I love meeting new people.
I love going out with friends, I love going to
a wine bar. I love socializing meeting new people. As
I just said, but with every like three days of socializing,
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I need three days of like social isolation and three
days where I don't speak to anyone. I have not
had a day where I was completely alone and I
did not either meet someone new, go out for a
coffee with someone, explore London with someone, like I have
a day alone. I had not had a day alone
in complete SAM solitude in six weeks, in six fucking weeks,
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like I had not had a SAM day, and it
really showed. After Greece, I then had like Billy and
Kirily stay with me, which is so amazing. It's so
nice having like familiar faces and people that you know
from home coming to stay with you. But I love
them so much. And then once they left, I was
like oh my fucking god, Like I have like drained
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myself so and spread myself out so thin because you
don't want to say no to anything because there's so
many fun opportunities here and like something comes up every
single day that you're just like going and going and
going and going and going, and then next second you've
got no energy yourself. You haven't filled up your own cup,
you haven't done anything that makes you feel good, like
I hadn't worked out in ages, like I was drinking
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like four times a week, which is like so fun
and in the moment, but because I'm like over here
for months on end, it's like not every day's a holiday, Sam.
You can't be drinking every single day. You can't be
writing yourself off every single day. So I needed like
a few days to myself. And that's what I had
in Turkey, and it was exactly what I needed. Like
I've recharged and I'm good to go. I'm ready to go,
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got my social battery up, I filled up my own cup,
like I'm Sam again, just in time for me to
go to Spain tomorrow. So I feel like this will
be like the rotation of while I'm here, because it's
everyone's now on UNI break and like all my friends
are coming over from Oz so it's so nice that
I can like jump to different places. So tomorrow I'm
seeing Coco Wise Men, one of my friends, Lusha, Hannah,
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the girl who owns with Harpaloo. I'm meeting them all
in Spain for a few days, which will be so
much fun. I'm so excited to go to Ibiza, like
I feel like everyone raves about it, which again it's
kind of like a big party scene, but I feel
like I've hacked the system and I can have a
really good time not being obliterated. And like hangovers don't
exist on holidays. Hangovers don't exist on holidays. I don't
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know what it is like when you're on those. Like
I'm just like pick yourself up and keep going, like
no time for complaints. So yeah, I'm going and meeting
them in Ibisa for two days, and then I am
meeting Melita, who I'm in this apartment with, in MAYORCA
for two days, and then I go to Monaco by myself,
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so that will be fun. I'm traveling again for another
week and then I come back to London and I
have nothing planned, which It's kind of nice because I've
been very go go going July, which I love, we love,
but it's nice knowing that, like I can then figure
my shit out in London and we're moving places for
another two months, and yeah, it would just be nice
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to like have a bit of fun see all my
Aussie friends, see like people from home, because they're all
Melbourne girls. I just like almost like have some family
time with them, recharge that soul because I have been
feeling a little bit homesick the last couple days and
then back to London town, back to all that shit.
But yeah, I feel like enough updates from me. I
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keep just yapping, even though like this is my job
to yap. So I thought on today's episode we could
do the Princess treatment or bare minimum. I feel like
it's been really going around on TikTok at the moment,
and I'm loving it. I'm loving people's opinions, what people want,
and I just find it's so interesting that everyone has
like different standards in a relationship and like nothing is wrong,
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Like if you expect something from a relationship, you're so
entitled to feel that way. It all comes from like
how people grow up, what people expect like how people
were treated growing up, but everything like that, and everyone
expects very different things, which I love and I love
this debate. So yeah, I asked you guys over on
my Instagram to give me some bare minimum Prince's treatment,
and I'm going to share my personal opinion. I would
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say I've never really had princess treatment, kind of the
bare minimum. I've never really been treated like a princess,
but like I've never been in like a bad relationship.
But like, I'm not one to really expect a lot,
So we're going to scroll all the way down to
the bottom. At the bottom, Okay, paying for dinner on
the first date, well it should be bare minimum, but
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it's not common the amount of times I've paid for
the bill because of one, I feel awkward then paying
two because sometimes as a girl, I feel like I
then owe them something and if I'm not into them,
I will like pay the bill so then they kind
of know. And like, I just feel like it's not
a thing that people just like know to pay the
bill for the first date. So my rule of thumb
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is if the guy asks you out on the date,
like if he asks you out for drinks and you're
at a bar, he should always pay for the first drink. No,
if a guy asks you out for the date, he
should be paying. If he's asking you, he should be paying.
If you ask him, hey, do you want to go
for a drink, he should be at least paying for
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the first drink. Bare minimum, he should be paying for
the first drink. But that's not always common. I feel like,
if they're asking you, they pay. If you're asking them,
expect fifty to fifty. But it is bare minimum. But
like it's hard out here, Like men, I am sick
of people being like, oh, well, the bill was expensive.
Don't book an expensive place. Then if you can't afford it,
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do a picnic, go for a drink. Pay for her
vocal Lime soda. It's thirteen bucks. If you don't want
to go expensive and all out, just don't do a dinner,
do you know what I mean? Men, be smarter, so
then you're not having to fork out fucking four hundred
dollars for dinner at a fancy restaurant. Take her for
a drink first, bare minimum? Please, But like these days, like,
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are we even getting bare minimum? No, we're not getting
bare minimum. Making you a tea every night. Bare minimum.
I'm telling you right now, boys, if your girlfriend loves
a peppermint tea at nighttime, it doesn't take that much
to boil the fucking kettle when she's sitting on the
couch and you're about to turn on your favorite Netflix show,
the series that you guys are watching together in bed,
you're about to watch Love Island. It isn't that hard
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to turn the kettle on, put a little peppermint tea
bag in the fucking mug, boil the water, pour the
water in, and it will make her so happy, like
why why men are we like? Ugh, she can make
her own tea. It's not that hard. She will like
literally like worship the ground you walk on if you
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make her a tea every night. If that's something that
she likes, and you have caught onto that behavior that
she likes, that do it. Do it. It's bare minimum.
It's literally like not that hard. It's like not like
you're she's asking you to fucking make you a tear
of missus from scratch every night, like Nara Smith. Like
she's asking you to put a tea bag into hot
water and put it on the fucking coffee table, like
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bare minimum. It's the little things, guys, It's the little
things that girls want to felt seen and to felt
heard and to felt appreciated. So if that's her peppermint
tea every night, make it goddamn make it. Set a
reminder in your phone. It's not hard princess treatment or
bear minimum. The side road rule. Okay, boys, we need
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to have a serious strap now. I'm not sure if
your parents told you about this growing up, but if
you are walking on the side of the road like this, walking, walking, walking,
and you are not walking on the side that is
closest to the road, you're a lost cause. I'm sorry,
I get really passionate about this shit, but like, come on,
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bare minimum. We're talking safety here. Girls. It's known thing
that women are not a safe out in public. Then men,
get on the side of the road, Get on the
side of the road where the cars are driving past,
where people might be walking past. You walk on the
side that's closest to the road. Make the women feel safe.
That's all women want. Women want to feel safe around you.
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Women want to feel protected. So it is bare minimum
that you are walking on the side that is closest
to the road, point blank, period. It's bare minimum, but
not many people do it. Literally, not many people do it,
but like it is fucking bare minimum. My bad. It
is bare minimum, my guid to be doing that. So
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I'm telling you right now, brownie points. Girls see that,
girls see that. Princess treatment or bare minimum coming with
you to visit your family, bare minimum? Dare I say
much more? I think a guy putting effort in with
your family is a big thing for me. And showing
up for your family like he shows up for you,
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like is reassuring. I grew up with brothers and a dad,
So I think it's really important that my boyfriend makes
effort with my family and like puts effort into like
making sure that my family feels safe around handing my
daughter like their daughter and their sister over to you.
And my family probably wouldn't appreciate it if I was
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always coming over to visit my family and my boyfriend
was then sitting at home. I think it's just a
respect thing because bare minimum, bare minimum put effort in
with my family, like these could be your future family
in law, you know, Like that could be your mother
in law and your father in law one day, bare minimum.
I want my family to know like your best and
your worst qualities before I walk down the aisle with you.
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I don't want my parents to be like I don't
know who my daughter's marrying. Bare minimum. Obviously it's hard
if you like live in different countries in different states,
but like there's FaceTime, we're connected. We're very well connected
in this world. Showing up for your significant other's family,
it's showing that you really appreciate their daughter or their
son is bare minimum. It's called manners. Taking time off
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to care for you when you're sick or recovering. Okay,
that is a little Princess s treatment here, but I'm
all for it. But also I understand why they can't
do it. I feel like if they're at work and
they're checking in that you're okay, do you need me
to drop anything off of my lunch break? Do you
want some food? That is bare minimum? But taking time
off to care for you is a little princes treatment,
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you know what I mean? But I think there should
be like checking in making sure, like maybe delivering you
a souper now beats that's bare minimum, But like taking
time off, they got to earn their money, you know,
Princess treatment. Or bare minimum, making your bed if they
leave last, or picking you up on a night out,
bare minimum, bare minimum. When I had a boyfriend and
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I would go out with my girlfriends on a night out,
if he wasn't going out and he was like staying
at home or something and he was awake, why would
you want me to get an uber with a stranger
when you have the capabilities of getting in your car
coming to pick up pick me up, make sure that
I get home safe, or have a cut with me
to go to bed. If I've had a night out
with my girls, bare minimum, you got your license, get
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in the car like I would much rather my boyfriend
be like I want you to get home safe with me,
They get in an uber and the bed thing like
a bare minimum. If I had someone stay at my
house and I had to leave in the morning earlier
than them, I got home that afternoon and my bed
wasn't made, So you don't respect my space, Like if
you're someone who I'm someone who religiously makes my bed
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every morning. If you don't make my bed how I
like it, you don't respect my space. You don't respect me.
Bare minimum, bare minimum, princess treatment, saying good morning every
day first, when you wake up before, I think that's
princess treatment. Personally, I'm not a big text I don't
really like texting someone twenty four seven, Like I don't
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need a good morning text, Like I only like to
text when I need to text you for something. I'm
more of like a FaceTime like check in in the
middle of the day, Hey, how are you going, how's
your day? Like, what'd you do this morning? I don't
need a text twenty four seven. I can recognize that
some people do need that reassurance and need to be
texted twenty four seven, But always expecting your partner to
be doing things and you're not doing it back, Like,
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I think it's really important that if you want something
done for you, you have to do it as well,
So showing up and being like like I love good
morning text, so like maybe you message him as well.
Like when you're in a relationship, you shouldn't be playing
games with like who texts first. If you're up early
and you're up before him and you want a good
morning message, text him good morning. I think there's not
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even bare minimum for princess treatment. I think it's super
dependent on your relationship. But if you want something, you
have to do it too. If I want little chocolate
gifts here and there, like I'm going to do that
to my boyfriend, and I'm going to tell him that
I like those type of things. Then it gets into
his head that that's what makes me feel love and
feel seen and appreciated by my partner because I'm doing
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that for him. I always think it's a two way street,
Like what you want in a relationship, you also have
to give because they're also human as well, and they
also want to be feeling loved and appreciated. Bare minimum
or princess treatment pumping your fuel for you and paying
for it and surprising you with the snack princess treatment.
I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm an independent queenie.
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I don't need you to touch my pay for my fuel. Obviously,
it's nice every once in a while, Like if you're
driving my car and I'm not in the car and
you see that the fuel is low, pay for my fuel,
fill up my tank, Like you're driving my car but
doing my fuel and paying for it. That's verging on
princess treatment a little bit, Like you can't do your
own fuel, you know what I mean, but every time
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if you're in his car and you're the passenger princess
and he fills up his fuel and then goes in
a pace for it and doesn't come out with a snack,
that's bad. Minimum. Boys. Girls want a snack from petro station,
even if they say they're not hungry. Get them a
little fred and Frog, get them a little fun day sweet,
get them a little Koxiz it's three dollars on top
of you a eighty dollars petrol three bucks. Get them
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a little sweet treat. I promise you, even if they
say they don't want it. No one's going to turn
down a sweet treat ever. Bare minimum or princess treatment,
all expenses paid for overseas holiday princess treatment. I'm sorry, sorry,
Like in a world, I'd love for that to be
the bare minimum, but like inflation leaving price are just crazy,
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Like some people can't afford to go on holidays, so
then having and expecting your partner to pay for the
whole thing, just giving a little bit of princess treatment
here and there. But like I maybe understand, like going
fifty to fifty in like all flights, all the calm
and stuff like that and then him paying for some
of the dinners while you're over there. I completely understand
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that that's bad minimum, but all of it eh a
little bit princess s treatment here. But like we can
all wish for that, we can all hope for that,
Like that is the end goal that we find a
man that does that. But in we're being realistic here
and in this day in life that we're in with
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the cost of living, it is a little princess treatment.
But if your man pays for all your flights and
all your holidays and all your accommodation, pop off, Queen,
I'm jealous. I'm jealous because I'm out here fucking jet
to holiday every day on my own credit card. I
don't even have a credit card. I have a debit.
It's coming right out of the bank. Princes's treatment or
bare minimum. Making me breakfast every day and not just cereal.
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It's eggs, bacon, hashbreads, finage, princess treatment. If it's every
day on a Sunday, if you're not doing anything bare minimum,
I should wake up. We should be making breakfast. But
when I say making breakfast, I'm making the mucha I'm
doing this aremonial grade whisking of the mucha, and you're
making me eggs on toast bare minimum on a Sunday,
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bare minimum. On the weekend, bare minimum, every day princess treatment,
Prince's treatment, or bare minimum. Cooking dinner two nights a week,
bare minimum. If you guys are living together, you both
have full time jobs and you're both contributing to household chores,
it's bare minimum that you split the cooking. It's bare minimum.
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Or you're both making it together, bare minimum. Come on,
if I'm also working full time and you're working full time,
both of us are chupping into the housework bare minimum.
Open treatment. Taking you on a date once a fortnight,
bare minimum. A date doesn't have to be a boogie
dinner that's four hundred dollars. A date just has to
be intentional, planned out, buy him to make you feel
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appreciated and loved every fortnight like that is bare minimum.
Whether it's going to the markets and buying a sweet
treat and sitting in the park and eating it, that's
a perfect date. Girls love that. Girls love that. Eat
it up really like, it's not that hard. It's intentional
time that you guys are intentionally making for each other,
to spend with each other off your phone is bare minimum.
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And my parents have been married for like thirty three
years and they've been together for like thirty five. Something
that is like so important that I think that they
do is like never stop dating your partner. The second
you feel like they will never walk away and that
they will never ever leave you is a second you've
got to get out, like never. You should always date
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your partner and treat your like you could lose them
the next day. So every day up, not every day
has to be a beautiful romantic sunset in the park
like and everything like that. But you should always intentionally
continue to date your partner, continue to get to know them.
Your lives and our lives are so crazy all the
single all the time that it's like you should intentionally
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always want to be dating your partner, making them feel seen,
making them feel heard, because at the end of the day,
they should be the most important person in your life.
Why are we going to push them aside to prioritize
other people in our life and to make other people
feel special. Make your partner feel heard for us, Make
your partner feel special, And if that's taking them on
a date once a fortnight and going to your local
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fish and chip shop and eat it, then eating it
in the park, like that's a date someone goes. If
you accept the bare minimum, you're accepting to be treated
that way one hundred percent. I think in especially in
like the talking stages of the start of your relationship,
there should be a standard set and you should always
vocalize what you want out of a relationship and what
you expect out of relationship, because again, everyone's expectations and
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a way to be treated, a way to feel seen
and heard in relationships are so vastly different that one,
he may not know that you want that in a
relationship and he can't read your mind, and two like
vice versa, like you need to know what he likes,
and that's a conversation that you should be having in
the early months of your relationship. Is establishing a standard
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of what you need in a relationship to feel loved,
to feel heard, to feel appreciated, and then go from there,
because you can't read each other's minds. And if you
accept the bare minimum at the start, and then six
months down the line, you'll be like, well, I need
this to feel loved. He might not be able to
accept that, and he might not even be capable of it,
and he might then be confused because he's like, well,
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I haven't done that for six months and you're still
dating me. So it's like, I feel like you always
got to establish those boundaries, like from the store, Bare
minimum or Princess Treatment. Keeping you updated on a night
out with their friends bare minimum. If you want a
happy girlfriend and you want to come home on a
night out and you don't want to have an argument,
all you have to do is keep them updated with
your movements. Hey, I'm going to this pub. Hey we're here.
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I'm with this and this person and we're having drinks.
You just need to send one message, and you don't
have to text them twenty four to seven throughout the night,
like text them every ten minutes. But just keep them
updated with your movements if you go to a different bar,
if you join a group of friends, just like let
them know is their mind so they're not sitting in
their head like going crazy. You're gonna end up with
a happier girlfriend and then you're probably gonna have a
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better night. It's bare minimum, really, bare minimum or Princess treatment.
Paying for your nail appointments. Every guy I've dated loves backticles.
Every guy I love loves back scratches, and he likes
them with nails with Claus, they obviously feel way better.
I feel like it's like men just love it. I
don't know why. But with that comes maintenance. I have
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had my nails pay for a few times. I don't
think it's like you must pay for every ointment, but
like every once in a while, I feel like it
would be nice to get like seventy bucks transferred and
be like, go get your nails done, Like that's just
a little appreciation. Go get your nails done, because I
love backtackles and everything like that. I feel like it's
a nice thing, like every once in a while, like flowers,
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like you don't want the novelty to wear off. But
I feel like like a little surprise every once in
a while, every couple of months, when you go get
your nail appointment and he's like, it's on me this time.
That'd be nice. That is a bit princess treatment, though,
all right now we are going to move on to
bare minimum or king treatment. Now. I don't think a
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lot of people really understood because like a lot of
guys just replied saying, like I deserve King treatment. I'm like, okay, mate,
I'm asking for examples. But bare minimum or King treatment
cooking dinner at his house catches you don't live there
or contribute to bills. I think that's bare minimum. I
dated someone who lived out of home, and I didn't.
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I would stay there a couple of times a week.
I wouldn't contribute to the bills or paying stuff like
water and electricity and everything like that. But I think
it is fair to contribute to maybe groceries, like shouting groceries,
or a few nights a week, if you're eating there
all the time, not just like taking the food and
stuff like that all the time. I think it is
fair if you're like dinners on me tonight, I'll pay
for the groceries and we can cook it at yours.
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But I think if you're staying there quite regularly, I
think it's just like polite to do that. So I
would say that's bare minimum. Making his lunch every day
for work, King treatment. Do you don't know how to meal?
Prepmate on the Sunday buy some taco mints? That is
King treatment one hundred percent every day, maybe once in
a while, But Mitch, if I'm working full time, I
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ain't making you lunch. I'm making myself lunch. What are
you doing for me? Heyna? Bare minimum or King treatment?
Giving the guy compliments that we give girls. I think
that's bare minimum. Everyone loves a compliment. Everyone wants their
partner to compliment them. So even if you're a guy, girls,
we should be complimenting our man and we should be
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telling him how beautiful he looks. We should be reassuring him,
giving him that validation. Everyone loves a compliment, whether you're
a guy or you're a girl, everyone loves a compliment.
Everyone wants a compliment. So compliment your man, give him that,
give him that hypo hop that he needs. He loves it.
He loves that shit, Like, fuck your hype, your man up.
Bare minimum. Let's let's make everyone as world feel good
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about themselves. Someone says, giving a sloppies King treatment dead
Sometimes I don't want to do that all the time. Bro.
If I'm giving you that, you got to give me that.
I ain't giving you that shit and I'm not getting
anything else. Fuck that, bro, bare minimum. You go and
support them watching their sport I think that's just like
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you're showing up for them. You're showing that you care
for them, their passions and stuff that you're really into.
You want to support them in that. Even if it's
like forty on a Sunday, like I think, just bring
your friends there, have a drink, have a chit chat,
just catch up with your friends. But like at least
you being there. I think that's bare minimum because you
want to show that you support them. I think it's
really important bare minimum or king treatment writing a card
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or a big message on their but they are anniversary again.
Men need to be appreciated. I feel like, yeah, it
is really important to like make your girl feel seen,
make your girl feel special. But like girls, we also
can shar up for our man and we could also
make our man feel special. If we're making our man
feel special and we're making them feel love and supported,
they will want to do the same for you. So like,
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always do what you want to them, and they should
be showing it back. And that's how relationships work. Like
we should all be doing it for each other. Like
I always wrote like messages to let them know how
much I loved and appreciated them because they love to
hear it. They love validation. They love a warm fuzzy
Like who doesn't love a warm fuzzy. Yeah, they could
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be all matrum Man and acting all Mattros like they
don't care, but they do. They love it. They love
that shit. They love that shit. They might not tell
their maids, but they love that shit. Bare minimum or
king treatment, buying him flat. I saw this thing once
that sometimes the first time and man ever sees flowers
in his life is at his funeral, Like he received
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flowers and that's the first time he ever is at
his funeral, and he won't even know, Like so fucking sad.
I think we need to normalize buying men flowers a
bit more. Not all the time, but like maybe if
he got like a work promotion, or he did really
well at sport, or I think just like buying him flowers,
Like yeah, maybe they don't appreciate it and they don't
love it as much as like what a girl does.
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But like girls love flowers, so like men should love
flowers too. Bare minimum or king treatment, backrubs bare minimum. Sorry,
I love giving backrubs too, and I love receiving backrubs.
I think it's so comforting. It's like literally one of
my love languages bare minimum, bare minimum. All right, So
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now we're moving on to your non negotiables in a relationship.
So this is like kind of tying together bare minimum
or princess treatment. And as I said before, I think
they should be established when you're in the early stages
of relationship, things that you do not tolerate, things that
you must have in your relationship for you to be
seen and feel hurt. So my friend Josh, my boxing
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trainer Josh back at home Missi Josh says, always hear
each other out and listen to each other's feelings one
hundred percent. And another person said that I was reading
through before, is like working together as your problems as
a team instead of your problem, my problem, and we're
working against each other when you're fighting. It's like we
are a team where us it's not you, it's not me,
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it's us, and working through it and talking to each
other's feelings because again, everyone has different feelings. Everyone hears
and feels things differently, everyone perceives things differently. I think
hearing each other out, even if you may not agree
with it, it is so important to hear that person's
side to hear why it made them feel that way.
You might not necessarily agree with that, but they're their
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feelings and you shouldn't dismiss them. You shouldn't make them
feel bad for feeling that way. You shouldn't guilt trip
them for feeling that way. You shouldn't never use it
against them. Just like always hearing each other out if
you might not understand why that made them upset, but
you always have to hear why they feel that way.
And I think that that's definitely a non negotiable. No
negotiable is keeping the spark alive. Again, I said, I
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think it's really important to always date each other. Yeah,
it's super easy to get comfortable in a relationship, but
always make the effort, always make that special effort. If
you're making plans with your friends, you can make a
plan with your girlfriend, and you can plan dates and
everything like that. I think it is definitely a non negotiable,
is to like keeping that spark alive, to always make
sure that you're putting effort into your relationship and putting
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time and diverting time to that relationship because it's the
only thing that will keep it alive and non negotiable
for someone is that they have their own aspirations one
hundred percent. I think it's so easy to get lost
and to get all consumed by your relationship that you
forget who you are as an individual because you kind
of adapt your lifestyle around them, which is so normal
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and like so fair. I feel like we all do it.
But I feel like for girls as well, especially, we
kind of lose a part of ourselves in relationships because
it's natural for us to want to give everything into
that relationship and to pour our whole heart into that relationship.
But I think from a man's perspective, it's really really
attractive when a girl has her own goals, her own dreams,
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her own aspirations, and she wants to do things for herself.
So never give up on your dream, Never give up
on what you want to achieve, where you want to
go in life, like, never give up on that. Because
it's most likely attractive to a man that you're hard
to get your hard to get attention from, your always busy,
You're always doing your own thing, You're always filling up
your own cup. Men love that. Men want to find
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a way that they can fit themselves into your life.
So having your own aspirations I think is so important.
We still need to have our own lives and friends.
That goes tie and tie with that, like having your
own aspirations, not conjoining your lives. I think it's so
fun when you can come together with friendship groups here
and there, but having your own life, making sure you're
still doing your own plans, like seeing your own friends,
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going on trips with your girlfriends is so important. And
to maintain that throughout your relationship is so good because
then you don't feel consumed and all so consumed by
your relationship. And the biggest thing I always preach is
that date your partner, love your partner, be in a relationship,
all good, but always make sure that if you broke
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up with your partner tomorrow that you'll still be fine
without them. You still have your own friends, you still
have your own financial especially in dating in early twenties,
you're not financially dependent on them if you like obviously,
if you have kids and everything like that, it's different.
But have your own financial stability, have your own friends,
have your own goals, have your own aspirations, because you
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never know what can change and how quickly it can
change that you don't want to feel like you're in
a situation where you're trapped and that you can't get
out of it because you either rely on them financially
or you have the same friends and you do everything together.
And then it's more the fact of like you're worried
about losing your life instead of losing that person. This
guy says, tell me what you're feeling. If you're upset
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or angry. I trust you. If you say you're good,
I trust that. Don't lie. Don't lie and say you're
good when you're really upset, and then it just bubbles
up for days and weeks. I one hundred percent agree.
I think it's really hard and everyone just like thinks.
People and mind readers, boys and girls. I think that
they should be able to read their minds. And sometimes
I agree on that whole saying of like, if they
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wanted to, they would, but if they don't know, they're
not going to. You need to communicate what you expect
from a relationship, what you want, what makes you upset,
what doesn't make you upset, And if you communicate that
and they continue to do those things, then that's when
the problem arises. But if you're bottling up all this
stuff inside, and you're not telling them that that certain
action makes them upset or that certain behavior makes them upset,
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And then you just bottle it up inside and they
continue and continue and continue to do that action, and
you get continually more pieced off, and then you blow
up one day. That's kind of on you because you
didn't communicate that. I think if you communicate that and
you set a boundary and they continue to do it,
then that's on them. But I think you need to
tell them first. So if they ask you why you're upset,
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fucking tell them. But also, boys provide a safe space
for the girls to feel like they can say that
and don't always like get your back up about it. Again,
it's their feelings. They have a certain way for feeling that.
It might be the way they grew up, it might
be a little bit of an insecurity or everything like that.
Make it a safe space and allow for them to
feel safe to open up. No negotiable emotional intelligence. Thank you.
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I will neaver date someone my age now I'm like
two or three years above me, because I feel like
then they've gone through enough stuff. Like I'm twenty three,
I feel like there's a big emotional development from like
a twenty two to twenty three year old man to
a twenty six year old man. And I'm not looking
to teach someone emotional intelligence. I'm not your mother, I'm
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not your teacher. I'm not your guidance. I'm your girlfriend.
I'm not teaching you. You should teach yourself confidence. Don't
project your insecurities unto me. I think like a man
can have insecurities and he can voice those insecurities, but
he shouldn't make those insecurities your fault. Like I'm not
here to fix you. I'm not here to cure you.
I'm not here to be a therapist. But what you
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carry on and the baggage that you carry on, you
are taking that on for when you date that partner,
and you should be aware of those things. But don't
make me feel bad that you have those things. I'm
here to work through them with you. I'm not here
to fix them, but I'm here to be there for
you because it does make that person who they are.
Really Quality time over quantity time one hundred percent. Like
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I always say, a long distance relationship would work really
really well for me because I don't need to spend
every waking second with you. I don't need to speak
to you every single day. I don't need to know
what meal you had for dinner, Like I don't need
to know all of that stuff. But when we're together,
we're present, our phones are away, we're getting to know
each other. We're spending quality time with you, And I'd
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rather spend three good days of quality time with you
instead of spending three weeks with you and we're barely
communicating through that. If he pays for only fans, I'm out. Okay,
if he's single, I don't see the problem with buying
only fans and the subscribing to someone's only fans. At
the end of the day, they're supporting creators. That's that
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creator's job and everything like that. Like girls have got
to make their money. And if he's wanting to see
that girl and he finds her attractive and he's supporting
her and paying her for stuff while he's single, I
completely get that. During dating, you shouldn't be subscribing to
someone's only fans. To me, I think that's cheating. But like,
if he's single, like he has all the right to
do that, But when you're dating, you should stop. Never
pay each other back, just pay it forward next time.
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I completely agree. It's like, oh, don't be like, hey,
can you transfer me twenty five dollars for the groceries.
It's like, you grab the groceries this time, I'll grab
the groceries next time. I agree with that one. That's
a good one needs to be in touch with his
feminine side. I completely agree with this. I think the
big matro man mentality is so big in this day
and age, like with the fucking Andrew Tate shit and
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everything like that. But a guy who is in touch
with his feelings, a guy who is in touch with
his feminine side, who can embrace that and is not
embarrassed about that, is super super attractive to a female,
super attractive. Like we love that shit, We love that
you can embrace that and just like go along with
it and be okay with it, like it's someone says
it's not fifty to fifty, it's one hundred, one hundred.
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I fucking love this. I didn't realize this, and I
didn't think ever think about this. But everyone goes, oh,
you put in fifty percent. I put in fifty percent.
We make up a hundred. No, you could be putting
your best foot forward one hundred percent, showing up for
that person one hundred percent always, and that's how you're
going to be there for one another. It's one hundred
percent showing up as your hundred percent self every single
day for your partner. Is how your relationship is going
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to work. Not fifty to fifty, one hundred, one hundred.
Both putting in the effort, both putting in the time,
both loving each other unconditionally is what a relationship is
going to work. A big non negotiable for me is
like introducing each other to a friendship group. I don't
want to be I don't mind private. I respect people's
private lives, but I don't want to be a secret
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to your friends. I don't want you to be embarrassed
to me about your friends. I don't like when they
like shy away from you when they're on their phone
speaking to their mates, like or go into another room
to go on a phone call with their mate. Like
A big thing is just like communication and to be
proud of me. I don't want you to like do
dedicated posts for me on Instagram, but I think just
being proud of your partner and being proud of your
girlfriend is like a big non negotiable for me. I
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want you to feel proud that you're dating me. And
to end this episode, I ask you guys over on
my Instagram to to give me the best and worst
compliments you guys have ever received. I was reading these
and some of these are actually fucked up, Like I
actually can't believe you girls or you guys have like
had this. It's fucked Someone said to me, you're the
most amazing girl I've ever met, and literally five minutes
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later he said, you have huge arms. You fucked like, bro,
Sometimes you don't need to say everything that's on your mind,
like literally shut up, Like, I don't want to be
told I have huge arms. In what way am I
ever gonna like that? What way am I ever going
to like? Fuck? Yeah, this guy just thought I had
huge arms. If you want to be ghosted, tell me
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I have huge arms. If you want to unlock an
insecurity for the rest of my life, what is wrong
with you? You remind me of my ex. Don't worry,
it's a good thing. Okay, we'll go data, go get
her back. I don't want to remind you of your ex.
I'm me I'm Sam, I'm Betty. Don't bring up your ex.
Just be like, oh, you have a great personality. He
told me to walk home because it looks like I
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could lose in the extra calories. Men never comment on
a woman's body. Never comment on a woman's body. Never
tell a woman she goes should go on a diet,
Never tell a woman she needs to work out, and
never tell a woman she needs to lose a few pounds.
Shut it, shut it please. He grabbed my tummy while
on top and said, I've put on weight since last time.
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Men never grab a woman's stomach. It's probably the worldwide universally.
I can think we all agree that a women's like
for women, our stomach is like one of the biggest
insecurities of ours because society and everything is like ever
have a fat tummy, have a six pack, and YadA
YadA YadA, and like achieving that as a woman is
really really hard. We've got organs in there, We've got
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extra fat around our stomach because we carry your kid,
so we have fat around there. Do not grab my
stomach fat and jiggle it. I've had so many men
grab my legs and jiggle my legs and go, you
have really big legs. Oh, thank you sir, Thank you sir,
because I wanted to be told I had good big legs.
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Someone goes, you're so nice. I feel like we could
fight around each other. It was our second date. Okay,
Like something's don't be said. You're actually smarter than I thought.
Your Instagram made me think you were dumb. How does
a photo make someone look dumb or smart? And that's
something I really face as well, obviously, because I'm an
influencer and I'm in like the creative field, and I
like take photos and do content and stuff for a living.
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Like they always think I'm really dumb, but it's like
I'm actually not, Like I actually did pretty well at school,
Like I can critically think, and like I can go
to UNI if I want to. Like, yeah I'm not
at UNI, and yeah I don't have a degree, but
that doesn't make me dumb. You don't only get a
job in influencing because you're dumb. Like I know so
many people that are influencing too. I have like full
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law and psychology degrees, but they're just like an influencer.
Someone says, why didn't you wear makeup? Except me? For who?
I am. Your eyes are kind of far apart, but
it's okay because they're green. Like again, you could just
say you have really nice green eyes like well in
the backhand like man, we need to stop doing these
backhanded compliments. Stop it place, stop it place, all right, guys,
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I feel like we should wrap it up here. This
is such a fun episode, you guys. I don't like
the worst compliment you've ever received, or like the worst
comment you've ever been told by a guy like that
that wasn't nice, but so nice chatting with you, guys.
I love you all so so much. Gonna end the
episode with a hard truth. Let's pull up, all right.
I feel like this goes right up par with a
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little bit of like the Men and the Women and
the dating scene, the bare minimum of the Princess treatment.
Your hard truth for today is there are two types
of haters. So if you have a hater in your life,
if you have someone who's constantly hating on you, bringing
you down, I got quite a few, But there are
two types of haters. One men that couldn't be with
you and two girls who can't be you. Men, all
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the men that call me this town bike that hate
on me and my comments. I wouldn't look at twice
at So that's why I'm like, don't give them the
time of day because I'm like, you're sad you can't
pull me, mate, that's a fucking joke before we all
get our tits up in a storm. And girls who
can't be you. A girl wouldn't need to hate on
you and bring you down if she could be that
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and if she wanted to be that. So just like,
don't listen to girls who are constantly bringing you down
and constantly trying to shit on everything that you're doing,
because I'm not hating on you for doing you, so
don't hate on me. We all have different dreams, we
all have different aspirations, So like, if I wanted to
be you, I'm not gonna hate on you. I'm just
gonna want to get there. I'm gonna use you as inspiration.
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I'm gonna use you as motivation to get myself on
a slight level that you were on. But yeah, I
for thought that was it. I hope you guys enjoyed
today's episode. We had a nice little chit chat, a
little catch up. I love you guys allso much, and
I will speak to you next week. Bye, love you,
I'm not looking to teach her one emotional intelligence. I'm
not your mother, I'm not your teacher. I'm not your guidance.
I'm your girlfriend. I'm not teaching you. You should teach yourself. Hi, guys,
just little old me checking in from London. How are
we all? I thought you guys would just like appreciate
just an episode from me. My last two weeks have
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been a guest We had Bill and Michael on and
they were such fun episodes. But we have so much
catching up to do. I've done a few trips since
I last talked to you, guys. There were trips of
a lifetime, might I add I got very sick after them.
But yeah, I just thought we would do a little
chit chat, talk about my favorite things at the moment,
and do with the trend of bare minim or princess treatment.
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I asked over on my Instagram about like King treatment,
bare minimum, like your no negotiables and relationships because like
I'm a bit clucky for relationships at the moment. I'm
in a really good place. Don't want to leak too
many things because I'm just really enjoying being private, but
just know that I'm really happy over here. But I'm
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like so scared to like talk about it and like
want to talk about it because I don't know this
whole Like being called a town bike and everything like
that just like makes me not want to share any
type of like romantic relationship because I just get painted
in such a negative light, which like it shouldn't be
a negative light, Like who cares about people's dating life
like that, and like it's not a nice feeling, you know.
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So then like sharing parts of like a romantic relationship
or a romantic life, like I'm giving people more information
to then throw at me, and it's just like not nice.
But like I feel like it's a safe space on
the podcast, So just no, I'm really happy. It's nice.
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It's nice like feeling like a princess. I'm being treated
like a princess at the moment, and it's really nice.
I really really like it. That's all I'm gonna tell
you guys. Hopefully more developments come soon. If I get
like a good reaction out of this, I'll tell you
guys to tea because there's so much law behind it
and is good. Is good? But yeah, I went to Greece.
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I went to Michanos with Bella, and the way Bella
and I have become like twin flames since coming to
London is like crazy. Bella viraleist. If you don't know,
I actually found her because she was on The Bachelor.
She's kind of hate that I said that, but we
obviously she's an Aussie girl and she is kind of
doing the same thing as me, Like she's basing herself
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out of London for a few months and we just
like randomly went for a one night like as soon
as we both got here. And we weren't really friends
before that, which is like crazy. We actually didn't really
like each other, fun little stories both of our ex's
kind of like they played some their few little games,
and we thought that like we were not loyal to
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each other and we were like a bit off it,
but we actually were on the side team. Like I
wanted to protect her and respect her and she wanted
to do the same. But when neither of us thought
the other other person was doing that, so then once
we had a conversation and like we spoke about it,
and like we figured it all out and we realized
we were on the same team. We've literally been inseparable
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and then were so we went to Greece together. We
had the best time in Greece. Just prepare yourself for
like minimal sleep, crazy parties. Like the partying in Europe
is just like next level and something I'd never prepared
myself for. Like I can turn it on for a party,
I can have a good time, like I do love
a little boogie, like I love a little drink, but
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not consecutive days in a row. I'm like a one done,
Like I'm just like a weekend girl. But you can't
do that in Europe. It's like next club, next club
bus and the other club boat. Like it's like crazy shit.
And like we thought it wasn't going to be that
crazy because there was only two of us. Nope, definitely
underestimated that. But going into a holiday with low expectations,
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I think you then exceed the expectations. But my gosh,
when I got home from Greece, I was a mess.
I was a big mess. I was so tired, I
was so drained. I lost my voice. I like had
a massive sinus infection, like I like hit rock Bottom.
I'm still like a little bit nasily. It took me
like a while to like bounce back from that. But yeah,
it was nice. And then I went to Turkey for
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a few days solo, and that was like really nice
to just like recharge. I am a Taurus if you
didn't know, and I'm one, like I am an extroverted introvert,
like I love being social. I love meeting new people.
I love going out with friends, I love going to
a wine bar. I love socializing meeting new people. As
I just said, but with every like three days of socializing,
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I need three days of like social isolation and three
days where I don't speak to anyone. I have not
had a day where I was completely alone and I
did not either meet someone new, go out for a
coffee with someone, explore London with someone, like I have
a day alone. I had not had a day alone
in complete SAM solitude in six weeks, in six fucking weeks,
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like I had not had a SAM day, and it
really showed. After Greece, I then had like Billy and
Kirily stay with me, which is so amazing. It's so
nice having like familiar faces and people that you know
from home coming to stay with you. But I love
them so much. And then once they left, I was
like oh my fucking god, Like I have like drained
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myself so and spread myself out so thin because you
don't want to say no to anything because there's so
many fun opportunities here and like something comes up every
single day that you're just like going and going and
going and going and going, and then next second you've
got no energy yourself. You haven't filled up your own cup,
you haven't done anything that makes you feel good, like
I hadn't worked out in ages, like I was drinking
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like four times a week, which is like so fun
and in the moment, but because I'm like over here
for months on end, it's like not every day's a holiday, Sam.
You can't be drinking every single day. You can't be
writing yourself off every single day. So I needed like
a few days to myself. And that's what I had
in Turkey, and it was exactly what I needed. Like
I've recharged and I'm good to go. I'm ready to go,
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got my social battery up, I filled up my own cup,
like I'm Sam again, just in time for me to
go to Spain tomorrow. So I feel like this will
be like the rotation of while I'm here, because it's
everyone's now on UNI break and like all my friends
are coming over from Oz so it's so nice that
I can like jump to different places. So tomorrow I'm
seeing Coco Wise Men, one of my friends, Lusha, Hannah,
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the girl who owns with Harpaloo. I'm meeting them all
in Spain for a few days, which will be so
much fun. I'm so excited to go to Ibiza, like
I feel like everyone raves about it, which again it's
kind of like a big party scene, but I feel
like I've hacked the system and I can have a
really good time not being obliterated. And like hangovers don't
exist on holidays. Hangovers don't exist on holidays. I don't
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know what it is like when you're on those. Like
I'm just like pick yourself up and keep going, like
no time for complaints. So yeah, I'm going and meeting
them in Ibisa for two days, and then I am
meeting Melita, who I'm in this apartment with, in MAYORCA
for two days, and then I go to Monaco by myself,
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so that will be fun. I'm traveling again for another
week and then I come back to London and I
have nothing planned, which It's kind of nice because I've
been very go go going July, which I love, we love,
but it's nice knowing that, like I can then figure
my shit out in London and we're moving places for
another two months, and yeah, it would just be nice
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to like have a bit of fun see all my
Aussie friends, see like people from home, because they're all
Melbourne girls. I just like almost like have some family
time with them, recharge that soul because I have been
feeling a little bit homesick the last couple days and
then back to London town, back to all that shit.
But yeah, I feel like enough updates from me. I
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keep just yapping, even though like this is my job
to yap. So I thought on today's episode we could
do the Princess treatment or bare minimum. I feel like
it's been really going around on TikTok at the moment,
and I'm loving it. I'm loving people's opinions, what people want,
and I just find it's so interesting that everyone has
like different standards in a relationship and like nothing is wrong,
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Like if you expect something from a relationship, you're so
entitled to feel that way. It all comes from like
how people grow up, what people expect like how people
were treated growing up, but everything like that, and everyone
expects very different things, which I love and I love
this debate. So yeah, I asked you guys over on
my Instagram to give me some bare minimum Prince's treatment,
and I'm going to share my personal opinion. I would
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say I've never really had princess treatment, kind of the
bare minimum. I've never really been treated like a princess,
but like I've never been in like a bad relationship.
But like, I'm not one to really expect a lot,
So we're going to scroll all the way down to
the bottom. At the bottom, Okay, paying for dinner on
the first date, well it should be bare minimum, but
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it's not common the amount of times I've paid for
the bill because of one, I feel awkward then paying
two because sometimes as a girl, I feel like I
then owe them something and if I'm not into them,
I will like pay the bill so then they kind
of know. And like, I just feel like it's not
a thing that people just like know to pay the
bill for the first date. So my rule of thumb
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is if the guy asks you out on the date,
like if he asks you out for drinks and you're
at a bar, he should always pay for the first drink. No,
if a guy asks you out for the date, he
should be paying. If he's asking you, he should be paying.
If you ask him, hey, do you want to go
for a drink, he should be at least paying for
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the first drink. Bare minimum, he should be paying for
the first drink. But that's not always common. I feel like,
if they're asking you, they pay. If you're asking them,
expect fifty to fifty. But it is bare minimum. But
like it's hard out here, Like men, I am sick
of people being like, oh, well, the bill was expensive.
Don't book an expensive place. Then if you can't afford it,
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do a picnic, go for a drink. Pay for her
vocal Lime soda. It's thirteen bucks. If you don't want
to go expensive and all out, just don't do a dinner,
do you know what I mean? Men, be smarter, so
then you're not having to fork out fucking four hundred
dollars for dinner at a fancy restaurant. Take her for
a drink first, bare minimum? Please, But like these days, like,
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are we even getting bare minimum? No, we're not getting
bare minimum. Making you a tea every night. Bare minimum.
I'm telling you right now, boys, if your girlfriend loves
a peppermint tea at nighttime, it doesn't take that much
to boil the fucking kettle when she's sitting on the
couch and you're about to turn on your favorite Netflix show,
the series that you guys are watching together in bed,
you're about to watch Love Island. It isn't that hard
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to turn the kettle on, put a little peppermint tea
bag in the fucking mug, boil the water, pour the
water in, and it will make her so happy, like
why why men are we like? Ugh, she can make
her own tea. It's not that hard. She will like
literally like worship the ground you walk on if you
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make her a tea every night. If that's something that
she likes, and you have caught onto that behavior that
she likes, that do it. Do it. It's bare minimum.
It's literally like not that hard. It's like not like
you're she's asking you to fucking make you a tear
of missus from scratch every night, like Nara Smith. Like
she's asking you to put a tea bag into hot
water and put it on the fucking coffee table, like
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bare minimum. It's the little things, guys, It's the little
things that girls want to felt seen and to felt
heard and to felt appreciated. So if that's her peppermint
tea every night, make it goddamn make it. Set a
reminder in your phone. It's not hard princess treatment or
bear minimum. The side road rule. Okay, boys, we need
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to have a serious strap now. I'm not sure if
your parents told you about this growing up, but if
you are walking on the side of the road like this, walking, walking, walking,
and you are not walking on the side that is
closest to the road, you're a lost cause. I'm sorry,
I get really passionate about this shit, but like, come on,
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bare minimum. We're talking safety here. Girls. It's known thing
that women are not a safe out in public. Then men,
get on the side of the road, Get on the
side of the road where the cars are driving past,
where people might be walking past. You walk on the
side that's closest to the road. Make the women feel safe.
That's all women want. Women want to feel safe around you.
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Women want to feel protected. So it is bare minimum
that you are walking on the side that is closest
to the road, point blank, period. It's bare minimum, but
not many people do it. Literally, not many people do it,
but like it is fucking bare minimum. My bad. It
is bare minimum, my guid to be doing that. So
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I'm telling you right now, brownie points. Girls see that,
girls see that. Princess treatment or bare minimum coming with
you to visit your family, bare minimum? Dare I say
much more? I think a guy putting effort in with
your family is a big thing for me. And showing
up for your family like he shows up for you,
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like is reassuring. I grew up with brothers and a dad,
So I think it's really important that my boyfriend makes
effort with my family and like puts effort into like
making sure that my family feels safe around handing my
daughter like their daughter and their sister over to you.
And my family probably wouldn't appreciate it if I was
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always coming over to visit my family and my boyfriend
was then sitting at home. I think it's just a
respect thing because bare minimum, bare minimum put effort in
with my family, like these could be your future family
in law, you know, Like that could be your mother
in law and your father in law one day, bare minimum.
I want my family to know like your best and
your worst qualities before I walk down the aisle with you.
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I don't want my parents to be like I don't
know who my daughter's marrying. Bare minimum. Obviously it's hard
if you like live in different countries in different states,
but like there's FaceTime, we're connected. We're very well connected
in this world. Showing up for your significant other's family,
it's showing that you really appreciate their daughter or their
son is bare minimum. It's called manners. Taking time off
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to care for you when you're sick or recovering. Okay,
that is a little Princess s treatment here, but I'm
all for it. But also I understand why they can't
do it. I feel like if they're at work and
they're checking in that you're okay, do you need me
to drop anything off of my lunch break? Do you
want some food? That is bare minimum? But taking time
off to care for you is a little princes treatment,
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you know what I mean? But I think there should
be like checking in making sure, like maybe delivering you
a souper now beats that's bare minimum, But like taking
time off, they got to earn their money, you know,
Princess treatment. Or bare minimum, making your bed if they
leave last, or picking you up on a night out,
bare minimum, bare minimum. When I had a boyfriend and
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I would go out with my girlfriends on a night out,
if he wasn't going out and he was like staying
at home or something and he was awake, why would
you want me to get an uber with a stranger
when you have the capabilities of getting in your car
coming to pick up pick me up, make sure that
I get home safe, or have a cut with me
to go to bed. If I've had a night out
with my girls, bare minimum, you got your license, get
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in the car like I would much rather my boyfriend
be like I want you to get home safe with me,
They get in an uber and the bed thing like
a bare minimum. If I had someone stay at my
house and I had to leave in the morning earlier
than them, I got home that afternoon and my bed
wasn't made, So you don't respect my space, Like if
you're someone who I'm someone who religiously makes my bed
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every morning. If you don't make my bed how I
like it, you don't respect my space. You don't respect me.
Bare minimum, bare minimum, princess treatment, saying good morning every
day first, when you wake up before, I think that's
princess treatment. Personally, I'm not a big text I don't
really like texting someone twenty four seven, Like I don't
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need a good morning text, Like I only like to
text when I need to text you for something. I'm
more of like a FaceTime like check in in the
middle of the day, Hey, how are you going, how's
your day? Like, what'd you do this morning? I don't
need a text twenty four seven. I can recognize that
some people do need that reassurance and need to be
texted twenty four seven, But always expecting your partner to
be doing things and you're not doing it back, Like,
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I think it's really important that if you want something
done for you, you have to do it as well,
So showing up and being like like I love good
morning text, so like maybe you message him as well.
Like when you're in a relationship, you shouldn't be playing
games with like who texts first. If you're up early
and you're up before him and you want a good
morning message, text him good morning. I think there's not
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even bare minimum for princess treatment. I think it's super
dependent on your relationship. But if you want something, you
have to do it too. If I want little chocolate
gifts here and there, like I'm going to do that
to my boyfriend, and I'm going to tell him that
I like those type of things. Then it gets into
his head that that's what makes me feel love and
feel seen and appreciated by my partner because I'm doing
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that for him. I always think it's a two way street,
Like what you want in a relationship, you also have
to give because they're also human as well, and they
also want to be feeling loved and appreciated. Bare minimum
or princess treatment pumping your fuel for you and paying
for it and surprising you with the snack princess treatment.
I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm an independent queenie.
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I don't need you to touch my pay for my fuel. Obviously,
it's nice every once in a while, Like if you're
driving my car and I'm not in the car and
you see that the fuel is low, pay for my fuel,
fill up my tank, Like you're driving my car but
doing my fuel and paying for it. That's verging on
princess treatment a little bit, Like you can't do your
own fuel, you know what I mean, but every time
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if you're in his car and you're the passenger princess
and he fills up his fuel and then goes in
a pace for it and doesn't come out with a snack,
that's bad. Minimum. Boys. Girls want a snack from petro station,
even if they say they're not hungry. Get them a
little fred and Frog, get them a little fun day sweet,
get them a little Koxiz it's three dollars on top
of you a eighty dollars petrol three bucks. Get them
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a little sweet treat. I promise you, even if they
say they don't want it. No one's going to turn
down a sweet treat ever. Bare minimum or princess treatment,
all expenses paid for overseas holiday princess treatment. I'm sorry, sorry,
Like in a world, I'd love for that to be
the bare minimum, but like inflation leaving price are just crazy,
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Like some people can't afford to go on holidays, so
then having and expecting your partner to pay for the
whole thing, just giving a little bit of princess treatment
here and there. But like I maybe understand, like going
fifty to fifty in like all flights, all the calm
and stuff like that and then him paying for some
of the dinners while you're over there. I completely understand
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that that's bad minimum, but all of it eh a
little bit princess s treatment here. But like we can
all wish for that, we can all hope for that,
Like that is the end goal that we find a
man that does that. But in we're being realistic here
and in this day in life that we're in with
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the cost of living, it is a little princess treatment.
But if your man pays for all your flights and
all your holidays and all your accommodation, pop off, Queen,
I'm jealous. I'm jealous because I'm out here fucking jet
to holiday every day on my own credit card. I
don't even have a credit card. I have a debit.
It's coming right out of the bank. Princes's treatment or
bare minimum. Making me breakfast every day and not just cereal.
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It's eggs, bacon, hashbreads, finage, princess treatment. If it's every
day on a Sunday, if you're not doing anything bare minimum,
I should wake up. We should be making breakfast. But
when I say making breakfast, I'm making the mucha I'm
doing this aremonial grade whisking of the mucha, and you're
making me eggs on toast bare minimum on a Sunday,
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bare minimum. On the weekend, bare minimum, every day princess treatment,
Prince's treatment, or bare minimum. Cooking dinner two nights a week,
bare minimum. If you guys are living together, you both
have full time jobs and you're both contributing to household chores,
it's bare minimum that you split the cooking. It's bare minimum.
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Or you're both making it together, bare minimum. Come on,
if I'm also working full time and you're working full time,
both of us are chupping into the housework bare minimum.
Open treatment. Taking you on a date once a fortnight,
bare minimum. A date doesn't have to be a boogie
dinner that's four hundred dollars. A date just has to
be intentional, planned out, buy him to make you feel
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appreciated and loved every fortnight like that is bare minimum.
Whether it's going to the markets and buying a sweet
treat and sitting in the park and eating it, that's
a perfect date. Girls love that. Girls love that. Eat
it up really like, it's not that hard. It's intentional
time that you guys are intentionally making for each other,
to spend with each other off your phone is bare minimum.
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And my parents have been married for like thirty three
years and they've been together for like thirty five. Something
that is like so important that I think that they
do is like never stop dating your partner. The second
you feel like they will never walk away and that
they will never ever leave you is a second you've
got to get out, like never. You should always date
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your partner and treat your like you could lose them
the next day. So every day up, not every day
has to be a beautiful romantic sunset in the park
like and everything like that. But you should always intentionally
continue to date your partner, continue to get to know them.
Your lives and our lives are so crazy all the
single all the time that it's like you should intentionally
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always want to be dating your partner, making them feel seen,
making them feel heard, because at the end of the day,
they should be the most important person in your life.
Why are we going to push them aside to prioritize
other people in our life and to make other people
feel special. Make your partner feel heard for us, Make
your partner feel special, And if that's taking them on
a date once a fortnight and going to your local
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fish and chip shop and eat it, then eating it
in the park, like that's a date someone goes. If
you accept the bare minimum, you're accepting to be treated
that way one hundred percent. I think in especially in
like the talking stages of the start of your relationship,
there should be a standard set and you should always
vocalize what you want out of a relationship and what
you expect out of relationship, because again, everyone's expectations and
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a way to be treated, a way to feel seen
and heard in relationships are so vastly different that one,
he may not know that you want that in a
relationship and he can't read your mind, and two like
vice versa, like you need to know what he likes,
and that's a conversation that you should be having in
the early months of your relationship. Is establishing a standard
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of what you need in a relationship to feel loved,
to feel heard, to feel appreciated, and then go from there,
because you can't read each other's minds. And if you
accept the bare minimum at the start, and then six
months down the line, you'll be like, well, I need
this to feel loved. He might not be able to
accept that, and he might not even be capable of it,
and he might then be confused because he's like, well,
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I haven't done that for six months and you're still
dating me. So it's like, I feel like you always
got to establish those boundaries, like from the store, Bare
minimum or Princess Treatment. Keeping you updated on a night
out with their friends bare minimum. If you want a
happy girlfriend and you want to come home on a
night out and you don't want to have an argument,
all you have to do is keep them updated with
your movements. Hey, I'm going to this pub. Hey we're here.
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I'm with this and this person and we're having drinks.
You just need to send one message, and you don't
have to text them twenty four to seven throughout the night,
like text them every ten minutes. But just keep them
updated with your movements if you go to a different bar,
if you join a group of friends, just like let
them know is their mind so they're not sitting in
their head like going crazy. You're gonna end up with
a happier girlfriend and then you're probably gonna have a
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better night. It's bare minimum, really, bare minimum or Princess treatment.
Paying for your nail appointments. Every guy I've dated loves backticles.
Every guy I love loves back scratches, and he likes
them with nails with Claus, they obviously feel way better.
I feel like it's like men just love it. I
don't know why. But with that comes maintenance. I have
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had my nails pay for a few times. I don't
think it's like you must pay for every ointment, but
like every once in a while, I feel like it
would be nice to get like seventy bucks transferred and
be like, go get your nails done, Like that's just
a little appreciation. Go get your nails done, because I
love backtackles and everything like that. I feel like it's
a nice thing, like every once in a while, like flowers,
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like you don't want the novelty to wear off. But
I feel like like a little surprise every once in
a while, every couple of months, when you go get
your nail appointment and he's like, it's on me this time.
That'd be nice. That is a bit princess treatment, though,
all right now we are going to move on to
bare minimum or king treatment. Now. I don't think a
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lot of people really understood because like a lot of
guys just replied saying, like I deserve King treatment. I'm like, okay, mate,
I'm asking for examples. But bare minimum or King treatment
cooking dinner at his house catches you don't live there
or contribute to bills. I think that's bare minimum. I
dated someone who lived out of home, and I didn't.
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I would stay there a couple of times a week.
I wouldn't contribute to the bills or paying stuff like
water and electricity and everything like that. But I think
it is fair to contribute to maybe groceries, like shouting groceries,
or a few nights a week, if you're eating there
all the time, not just like taking the food and
stuff like that all the time. I think it is
fair if you're like dinners on me tonight, I'll pay
for the groceries and we can cook it at yours.
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But I think if you're staying there quite regularly, I
think it's just like polite to do that. So I
would say that's bare minimum. Making his lunch every day
for work, King treatment. Do you don't know how to meal?
Prepmate on the Sunday buy some taco mints? That is
King treatment one hundred percent every day, maybe once in
a while, But Mitch, if I'm working full time, I
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ain't making you lunch. I'm making myself lunch. What are
you doing for me? Heyna? Bare minimum or King treatment?
Giving the guy compliments that we give girls. I think
that's bare minimum. Everyone loves a compliment. Everyone wants their
partner to compliment them. So even if you're a guy, girls,
we should be complimenting our man and we should be
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telling him how beautiful he looks. We should be reassuring him,
giving him that validation. Everyone loves a compliment, whether you're
a guy or you're a girl, everyone loves a compliment.
Everyone wants a compliment. So compliment your man, give him that,
give him that hypo hop that he needs. He loves it.
He loves that shit, Like, fuck your hype, your man up.
Bare minimum. Let's let's make everyone as world feel good
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about themselves. Someone says, giving a sloppies King treatment dead
Sometimes I don't want to do that all the time. Bro.
If I'm giving you that, you got to give me that.
I ain't giving you that shit and I'm not getting
anything else. Fuck that, bro, bare minimum. You go and
support them watching their sport I think that's just like
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you're showing up for them. You're showing that you care
for them, their passions and stuff that you're really into.
You want to support them in that. Even if it's
like forty on a Sunday, like I think, just bring
your friends there, have a drink, have a chit chat,
just catch up with your friends. But like at least
you being there. I think that's bare minimum because you
want to show that you support them. I think it's
really important bare minimum or king treatment writing a card
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or a big message on their but they are anniversary again.
Men need to be appreciated. I feel like, yeah, it
is really important to like make your girl feel seen,
make your girl feel special. But like girls, we also
can shar up for our man and we could also
make our man feel special. If we're making our man
feel special and we're making them feel love and supported,
they will want to do the same for you. So like,
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always do what you want to them, and they should
be showing it back. And that's how relationships work. Like
we should all be doing it for each other. Like
I always wrote like messages to let them know how
much I loved and appreciated them because they love to
hear it. They love validation. They love a warm fuzzy
Like who doesn't love a warm fuzzy. Yeah, they could
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be all matrum Man and acting all Mattros like they
don't care, but they do. They love it. They love
that shit. They love that shit. They might not tell
their maids, but they love that shit. Bare minimum or
king treatment, buying him flat. I saw this thing once
that sometimes the first time and man ever sees flowers
in his life is at his funeral, Like he received
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flowers and that's the first time he ever is at
his funeral, and he won't even know, Like so fucking sad.
I think we need to normalize buying men flowers a
bit more. Not all the time, but like maybe if
he got like a work promotion, or he did really
well at sport, or I think just like buying him flowers,
Like yeah, maybe they don't appreciate it and they don't
love it as much as like what a girl does.
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But like girls love flowers, so like men should love
flowers too. Bare minimum or king treatment, backrubs bare minimum. Sorry,
I love giving backrubs too, and I love receiving backrubs.
I think it's so comforting. It's like literally one of
my love languages bare minimum, bare minimum. All right, So
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now we're moving on to your non negotiables in a relationship.
So this is like kind of tying together bare minimum
or princess treatment. And as I said before, I think
they should be established when you're in the early stages
of relationship, things that you do not tolerate, things that
you must have in your relationship for you to be
seen and feel hurt. So my friend Josh, my boxing
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trainer Josh back at home Missi Josh says, always hear
each other out and listen to each other's feelings one
hundred percent. And another person said that I was reading
through before, is like working together as your problems as
a team instead of your problem, my problem, and we're
working against each other when you're fighting. It's like we
are a team where us it's not you, it's not me,
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it's us, and working through it and talking to each
other's feelings because again, everyone has different feelings. Everyone hears
and feels things differently, everyone perceives things differently. I think
hearing each other out, even if you may not agree
with it, it is so important to hear that person's
side to hear why it made them feel that way.
You might not necessarily agree with that, but they're their
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feelings and you shouldn't dismiss them. You shouldn't make them
feel bad for feeling that way. You shouldn't guilt trip
them for feeling that way. You shouldn't never use it
against them. Just like always hearing each other out if
you might not understand why that made them upset, but
you always have to hear why they feel that way.
And I think that that's definitely a non negotiable. No
negotiable is keeping the spark alive. Again, I said, I
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think it's really important to always date each other. Yeah,
it's super easy to get comfortable in a relationship, but
always make the effort, always make that special effort. If
you're making plans with your friends, you can make a
plan with your girlfriend, and you can plan dates and
everything like that. I think it is definitely a non negotiable,
is to like keeping that spark alive, to always make
sure that you're putting effort into your relationship and putting
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time and diverting time to that relationship because it's the
only thing that will keep it alive and non negotiable
for someone is that they have their own aspirations one
hundred percent. I think it's so easy to get lost
and to get all consumed by your relationship that you
forget who you are as an individual because you kind
of adapt your lifestyle around them, which is so normal
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and like so fair. I feel like we all do it.
But I feel like for girls as well, especially, we
kind of lose a part of ourselves in relationships because
it's natural for us to want to give everything into
that relationship and to pour our whole heart into that relationship.
But I think from a man's perspective, it's really really
attractive when a girl has her own goals, her own dreams,
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her own aspirations, and she wants to do things for herself.
So never give up on your dream, Never give up
on what you want to achieve, where you want to
go in life, like, never give up on that. Because
it's most likely attractive to a man that you're hard
to get your hard to get attention from, your always busy,
You're always doing your own thing, You're always filling up
your own cup. Men love that. Men want to find
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a way that they can fit themselves into your life.
So having your own aspirations I think is so important.
We still need to have our own lives and friends.
That goes tie and tie with that, like having your
own aspirations, not conjoining your lives. I think it's so
fun when you can come together with friendship groups here
and there, but having your own life, making sure you're
still doing your own plans, like seeing your own friends,
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going on trips with your girlfriends is so important. And
to maintain that throughout your relationship is so good because
then you don't feel consumed and all so consumed by
your relationship. And the biggest thing I always preach is
that date your partner, love your partner, be in a relationship,
all good, but always make sure that if you broke
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up with your partner tomorrow that you'll still be fine
without them. You still have your own friends, you still
have your own financial especially in dating in early twenties,
you're not financially dependent on them if you like obviously,
if you have kids and everything like that, it's different.
But have your own financial stability, have your own friends,
have your own goals, have your own aspirations, because you
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never know what can change and how quickly it can
change that you don't want to feel like you're in
a situation where you're trapped and that you can't get
out of it because you either rely on them financially
or you have the same friends and you do everything together.
And then it's more the fact of like you're worried
about losing your life instead of losing that person. This
guy says, tell me what you're feeling. If you're upset
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or angry. I trust you. If you say you're good,
I trust that. Don't lie. Don't lie and say you're
good when you're really upset, and then it just bubbles
up for days and weeks. I one hundred percent agree.
I think it's really hard and everyone just like thinks.
People and mind readers, boys and girls. I think that
they should be able to read their minds. And sometimes
I agree on that whole saying of like, if they
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wanted to, they would, but if they don't know, they're
not going to. You need to communicate what you expect
from a relationship, what you want, what makes you upset,
what doesn't make you upset, And if you communicate that
and they continue to do those things, then that's when
the problem arises. But if you're bottling up all this
stuff inside, and you're not telling them that that certain
action makes them upset or that certain behavior makes them upset,
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And then you just bottle it up inside and they
continue and continue and continue to do that action, and
you get continually more pieced off, and then you blow
up one day. That's kind of on you because you
didn't communicate that. I think if you communicate that and
you set a boundary and they continue to do it,
then that's on them. But I think you need to
tell them first. So if they ask you why you're upset,
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fucking tell them. But also, boys provide a safe space
for the girls to feel like they can say that
and don't always like get your back up about it. Again,
it's their feelings. They have a certain way for feeling that.
It might be the way they grew up, it might
be a little bit of an insecurity or everything like that.
Make it a safe space and allow for them to
feel safe to open up. No negotiable emotional intelligence. Thank you.
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I will neaver date someone my age now I'm like
two or three years above me, because I feel like
then they've gone through enough stuff. Like I'm twenty three,
I feel like there's a big emotional development from like
a twenty two to twenty three year old man to
a twenty six year old man. And I'm not looking
to teach someone emotional intelligence. I'm not your mother, I'm
(35:59):
not your teacher. I'm not your guidance. I'm your girlfriend.
I'm not teaching you. You should teach yourself confidence. Don't
project your insecurities unto me. I think like a man
can have insecurities and he can voice those insecurities, but
he shouldn't make those insecurities your fault. Like I'm not
here to fix you. I'm not here to cure you.
I'm not here to be a therapist. But what you
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carry on and the baggage that you carry on, you
are taking that on for when you date that partner,
and you should be aware of those things. But don't
make me feel bad that you have those things. I'm
here to work through them with you. I'm not here
to fix them, but I'm here to be there for
you because it does make that person who they are.
Really Quality time over quantity time one hundred percent. Like
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I always say, a long distance relationship would work really
really well for me because I don't need to spend
every waking second with you. I don't need to speak
to you every single day. I don't need to know
what meal you had for dinner, Like I don't need
to know all of that stuff. But when we're together,
we're present, our phones are away, we're getting to know
each other. We're spending quality time with you, And I'd
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rather spend three good days of quality time with you
instead of spending three weeks with you and we're barely
communicating through that. If he pays for only fans, I'm out. Okay,
if he's single, I don't see the problem with buying
only fans and the subscribing to someone's only fans. At
the end of the day, they're supporting creators. That's that
(37:24):
creator's job and everything like that. Like girls have got
to make their money. And if he's wanting to see
that girl and he finds her attractive and he's supporting
her and paying her for stuff while he's single, I
completely get that. During dating, you shouldn't be subscribing to
someone's only fans. To me, I think that's cheating. But like,
if he's single, like he has all the right to
do that, But when you're dating, you should stop. Never
pay each other back, just pay it forward next time.
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I completely agree. It's like, oh, don't be like, hey,
can you transfer me twenty five dollars for the groceries.
It's like, you grab the groceries this time, I'll grab
the groceries next time. I agree with that one. That's
a good one needs to be in touch with his
feminine side. I completely agree with this. I think the
big matro man mentality is so big in this day
and age, like with the fucking Andrew Tate shit and
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everything like that. But a guy who is in touch
with his feelings, a guy who is in touch with
his feminine side, who can embrace that and is not
embarrassed about that, is super super attractive to a female,
super attractive. Like we love that shit, We love that
you can embrace that and just like go along with
it and be okay with it, like it's someone says
it's not fifty to fifty, it's one hundred, one hundred.
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I fucking love this. I didn't realize this, and I
didn't think ever think about this. But everyone goes, oh,
you put in fifty percent. I put in fifty percent.
We make up a hundred. No, you could be putting
your best foot forward one hundred percent, showing up for
that person one hundred percent always, and that's how you're
going to be there for one another. It's one hundred
percent showing up as your hundred percent self every single
day for your partner. Is how your relationship is going
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to work. Not fifty to fifty, one hundred, one hundred.
Both putting in the effort, both putting in the time,
both loving each other unconditionally is what a relationship is
going to work. A big non negotiable for me is
like introducing each other to a friendship group. I don't
want to be I don't mind private. I respect people's
private lives, but I don't want to be a secret
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to your friends. I don't want you to be embarrassed
to me about your friends. I don't like when they
like shy away from you when they're on their phone
speaking to their mates, like or go into another room
to go on a phone call with their mate. Like
A big thing is just like communication and to be
proud of me. I don't want you to like do
dedicated posts for me on Instagram, but I think just
being proud of your partner and being proud of your
girlfriend is like a big non negotiable for me. I
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want you to feel proud that you're dating me. And
to end this episode, I ask you guys over on
my Instagram to to give me the best and worst
compliments you guys have ever received. I was reading these
and some of these are actually fucked up, Like I
actually can't believe you girls or you guys have like
had this. It's fucked Someone said to me, you're the
most amazing girl I've ever met, and literally five minutes
(39:54):
later he said, you have huge arms. You fucked like, bro,
Sometimes you don't need to say everything that's on your mind,
like literally shut up, Like, I don't want to be
told I have huge arms. In what way am I
ever gonna like that? What way am I ever going
to like? Fuck? Yeah, this guy just thought I had
huge arms. If you want to be ghosted, tell me
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I have huge arms. If you want to unlock an
insecurity for the rest of my life, what is wrong
with you? You remind me of my ex. Don't worry,
it's a good thing. Okay, we'll go data, go get
her back. I don't want to remind you of your ex.
I'm me I'm Sam, I'm Betty. Don't bring up your ex.
Just be like, oh, you have a great personality. He
told me to walk home because it looks like I
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could lose in the extra calories. Men never comment on
a woman's body. Never comment on a woman's body. Never
tell a woman she goes should go on a diet,
Never tell a woman she needs to work out, and
never tell a woman she needs to lose a few pounds.
Shut it, shut it please. He grabbed my tummy while
on top and said, I've put on weight since last time.
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Men never grab a woman's stomach. It's probably the worldwide universally.
I can think we all agree that a women's like
for women, our stomach is like one of the biggest
insecurities of ours because society and everything is like ever
have a fat tummy, have a six pack, and YadA
YadA YadA, and like achieving that as a woman is
really really hard. We've got organs in there, We've got
(41:15):
extra fat around our stomach because we carry your kid,
so we have fat around there. Do not grab my
stomach fat and jiggle it. I've had so many men
grab my legs and jiggle my legs and go, you
have really big legs. Oh, thank you sir, Thank you sir,
because I wanted to be told I had good big legs.
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Someone goes, you're so nice. I feel like we could
fight around each other. It was our second date. Okay,
Like something's don't be said. You're actually smarter than I thought.
Your Instagram made me think you were dumb. How does
a photo make someone look dumb or smart? And that's
something I really face as well, obviously, because I'm an
influencer and I'm in like the creative field, and I
like take photos and do content and stuff for a living.
(41:58):
Like they always think I'm really dumb, but it's like
I'm actually not, Like I actually did pretty well at school,
Like I can critically think, and like I can go
to UNI if I want to. Like, yeah I'm not
at UNI, and yeah I don't have a degree, but
that doesn't make me dumb. You don't only get a
job in influencing because you're dumb. Like I know so
many people that are influencing too. I have like full
(42:20):
law and psychology degrees, but they're just like an influencer.
Someone says, why didn't you wear makeup? Except me? For who?
I am. Your eyes are kind of far apart, but
it's okay because they're green. Like again, you could just
say you have really nice green eyes like well in
the backhand like man, we need to stop doing these
backhanded compliments. Stop it place, stop it place, all right, guys,
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I feel like we should wrap it up here. This
is such a fun episode, you guys. I don't like
the worst compliment you've ever received, or like the worst
comment you've ever been told by a guy like that
that wasn't nice, but so nice chatting with you, guys.
I love you all so so much. Gonna end the
episode with a hard truth. Let's pull up, all right.
I feel like this goes right up par with a
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little bit of like the Men and the Women and
the dating scene, the bare minimum of the Princess treatment.
Your hard truth for today is there are two types
of haters. So if you have a hater in your life,
if you have someone who's constantly hating on you, bringing
you down, I got quite a few, But there are
two types of haters. One men that couldn't be with
you and two girls who can't be you. Men, all
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the men that call me this town bike that hate
on me and my comments. I wouldn't look at twice
at So that's why I'm like, don't give them the
time of day because I'm like, you're sad you can't
pull me, mate, that's a fucking joke before we all
get our tits up in a storm. And girls who
can't be you. A girl wouldn't need to hate on
you and bring you down if she could be that
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and if she wanted to be that. So just like,
don't listen to girls who are constantly bringing you down
and constantly trying to shit on everything that you're doing,
because I'm not hating on you for doing you, so
don't hate on me. We all have different dreams, we
all have different aspirations, So like, if I wanted to
be you, I'm not gonna hate on you. I'm just
gonna want to get there. I'm gonna use you as inspiration.
(44:11):
I'm gonna use you as motivation to get myself on
a slight level that you were on. But yeah, I
for thought that was it. I hope you guys enjoyed
today's episode. We had a nice little chit chat, a
little catch up. I love you guys allso much, and
I will speak to you next week. Bye, love you,
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