July 7, 2025 • 37 mins
Hey girls, welcome back to another week of Hotter Than Yesterday. Firstly thank you so much for all of the love and support on my first episode- your response blew me away and I can't wait for you to follow along this new journey!
On this episode, I opened up my question box to the Hotter Than Yesterday audience and we're answering all of your burning questions in our first Q&A. We're talking managing comparison, prioritising yourself in your twenties, bettering your body image & self talk, plus we finish with a hard truth (and I'll be bringing you one each week).
Thank you again and I can't wait to talk to you next week xx
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What you expect in friendships and what you put out
in friendships, you cannot expect the same back, and the
only person you really have is yourself. Hi, guys, welcome
to episode two of Hotter Than Yesterday. How we all doing?
How's life? Give me all the updates, Send me a message,
(00:21):
let me know how it's all going, because I'm about
to give you a full rundown debrief Q and A
about everything that's going on in my life at the moment.
So I would like to hear yours, like, let's all
have a chat. I'm actually in my bed right now
in London. You guys are hearing this pretty live time.
By the time this is out, I actually feel like,
(00:42):
I mean Mick noos, So I have so much to
update you on after but it is currently the thirtieth
of June, and I just wanted to give you guys
a massive update everything that I've been doing, kind of
tell you guys everything, a little bit of a bit
of a job entry. I feel like I really want
to connect with you guys and fill you in because
(01:05):
I've been sharing so much content and I've loved the
content that I've created by having this podcast and having
people that genuinely love me and want to know about me.
I feel like this is where I'm really going to
like open up and share with you guys, maybe the
raw side and maybe some stuff I'm leaving out so
the real ones get to know all the tea over
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here on the potty life has been treating me so
so well. I'm so incredibly happy, and I'm so proud
of myself for making this leap. And I don't want
to look like I'm first of all, like bragging and
like rubbing it in your face. That's the last thing
I want to be doing on this podcast. But I
feel like everyone that's listening is kind of around my age,
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going through similar ebbs and flows with life being so
confused and not really knowing. So I'm kind of like
our guinea pig and you can watch me lifetime figure
it all out and in hopes of feeling less alone
and hopefully we can be hotter than yesterday. Emo. Okay,
transitions so proud, but yeah, I low key love this
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little setup I have going on. I just have a
microphone connected to my laptop. I've got my buddy, my
emotional support that replaces Vinnie at the moment. So say, hey,
he's my little jelly cat that follows me everywhere. And
I'm just like sitting in my bed on a late
summer's afternoon in London, and I'm just gonna use you
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guys as little little journal diary, and you guys can
hear into my deepest darkest thoughts. Some a good, not
so much, but yeah, a little bit of an update.
I went to Paris over the weekend and oh my god, guys,
I had the best time. We actually got the plane.
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I know, you can get a Eurostar or a plane,
and the plane flights ended up being cheaper, but then
upon reflection, the uber to and from the airport both
ways probably then made it break even. And I would
recommend the Eurostar more because you get dropped in the
city center of both. The Paris airport is a little
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bit out of Paris. It takes like an hour, and
same with London. We flew from Gatwick so it takes
a little bit longer. And yeah, I probably wouldn't recommend that.
I definitely would just recommend the Eurostar. Apparently have Internet
the whole time in the Eurostar. And my friend Spencer
got the Eurostar and he was like, I don't know
why you guys are lying, and we were like, yeah,
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we thought we were smarter, like money wise, but we
ended up not being smarter money wise. Another thing I've
just had to surrender into is spending so much money
here because the Euro is half the Australian dollar, like
it's literally point five, so everything that you're doing is
in double. We went to the famous cafe where you
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do like the hot chocolates and then you put the
cream in the hot chocolate and the berries and cream
and everything, and I spent sixty Australian dollars on berries
and gream and I got like seven berries. It was crazy,
but like worth the experience. I'm actually probably not worth
the experience. You can literally go to any nice britisseriy
cafe in Paris and you have the exact same experience
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for half the price. Still expensive, but half the price.
When we got there, we ended up meeting up with Jazz,
which is so so nice. I haven't seen Jazz since
December twenty twenty four because she's moved to Berlin now,
so it was like crazy when I saw on her
stories that she was going to be in Paris at
the same time as me was absolutely so much fun
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to see her. We went to Gigi's the first night,
which is like a really famous restaurant, so nice, The
food was amazing, the service was really really poor, but
I think we kind of found that everywhere in France
or in Paris, people are just not friendly and they
don't really care and the service is just not up
to her standards. But I think that's just kind of
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every in Europe. I think we're very blessed in Australia
to have such good service. But the first night I
ended up being like a full storm shower, like half
of Paris flooded, like it was crazy. We got locked
inside of Gigi's for a little bit longer, but it
was so nice. Obviously, Jazz and I had so much
to catch up on, so we literally caught up on
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the last like eight months of our lives, and there
was so much to talk about. Because normally Jazz and
I would see each other every single day in Australia,
like we would go for a walk around the town,
you guys, know, pretty much every single morning. So from
seeing someone almost every single day to then not for
eight months, like it was crazy. It was really wild.
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But I'm so proud of her. She's like made the
biggest leap obviously, she fell in love. She's moved to Berlin,
and she's truly like so happy, and I feel like
she's grown a lot. Not that she was a bad
person before, but she's really like grown up and she's
become so sure of herself. Seeing your friend grow and
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flourish like that is so amazing and rewarding, and I'm
just so proud of her and so happy for her.
It was so nice to catch up with her, and
then we went from there to La Avenue, which is
also a really really nice bar, and then we went
from Lett Avenue to Coats Coats. I'm pretty sure that's
how you pronounce it, and that is another place I
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really recommend really good people watching. We actually ended up
being there in the middle of Men's Fashion Week, which
was so unplanned, but there was everyone and their dogs
there obviously because of fashion week, and the people watching
was insane. Had so much fun. Also bumped into Charlotte
Agu which is nice because she's now living in Sydney
and she was a Melbourne girl. I just feel like
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everyone happened to be there and it was so much fun.
That's like another thing I'm loving about being in London
is I meeting so many people, catching up with so
many people, putting myself out there a little bit more,
and it's just been so rewarding and everything's come back
and it's just been such a positive sign and I've
gotten so many good signs from the universe that this
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is exactly where I need to be, and it's just
been so amazing, like so so good. There obviously have
been some hard times, but everything that I really wanted
to get out of this experience of living abroad for
a little bit has really rewarded me and has told
me that I'm in the right place at the right time,
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and I'm just like so happy for it. Yeah. So
then back to Paris a bit of a tangent. We
then the second day we went to we just explored
the city and then we met up with our friend
Spencer and we went to Bambini, which is so amazing.
It's like this outdoor restaurant again, another really good recommendation.
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The food wasn't amazing, but the vibes were really amazing.
The cocktails are really good, and we ended up over
watching the Rick Owen Show, which is like a once
in a lifetime opportunity. Like Rick Owens. There was like
people climbing, like scaffolding, swimming in the water. It was
like crazy, like we literally didn't know and we were
watching a free Rick Owen show in Paris at our
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dinner reservation. Like you couldn't you could not write that
it was crazy, Like Rick Owens, I've had a newfound
love for you. You're so talented. The execution of the show
was absolutely amazing, and it was just so cool that
I ended up getting to see an amazing show at
Paris Fashion Week for free at my dinner reservation, like crazy.
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And then on the Friday, so that was a Thursday,
and then on the Friday, I spent the whole day
with Spencer. We just explored the city. We probably drank
far too much, but again went in Paris, you know,
like we went to the Louver. We just rode around
in the line bikes, which is something I'm loving over here.
Pretty much. My mode of transport is either on foot
or on bike, and I love it. It's the best
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way to get around cities and exploring new cities. And
then we probably took it way too far because then
Mellie ended up joining us at night and we just
again drank way too much, but again went in Paris
and then Saturday was pretty chill. We just went to
the photo breoth. It was so hot, so we just
like took a chill hung out at Soho house and
then flew home. And now we're here, it's chill. I'm
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getting back into routine before I go to make an Os,
which again is so much fun that you can book
last minute flights, quick little flights, quick little trips, go
to miking On for five days, Paris for three days,
and then just come back and it's so nice having
a home base that you can unpack, repack, do your washing,
cook some food and just like being routine for a
few days in between. I feel like that's really helping
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me not burn myself out. But yeah, anyway, I thought
this episode will just kind of be me chatting, giving
you guys a little bit of a life update. Q
and A I asked over on my Instagram story questions
you guys wanted to know, and I'm here to fill
you all in on all the TEA first question is,
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can you see yourself moving to London post trip for
a longer period of time. One hundred and ten percent.
I always knew deep down that I would want to
move here again. I had never been to London before
I came on this trip, but I have like a
weird calling. I don't know what it was, but I
followed that calling and I've ended up in London. And
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originally I was going to stay till mid August. I'm
now staying here until October, so I've extended my trip
for two more months. I'm having the best time, so
I definitely will come home for Australian summer because nothing
can be in Australian summer. London's going through a heat
wave at the moment and it is unbearably hot. It
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just feels way hotter than it normally does, like back
at home, because you can cool yourself off at the pool,
but people don't really have pools in the middle of London.
There's no beaches in the middle of the London, so
it's just crazy. You literally just see everyone at the
pub drinking because everyone just like loves to seize the weather.
Everyone's so much more social. There's something on every single day.
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Every day is like a weekend in London, like there's
always something to do, but it's just been absolutely amazing
so far. But I definitely know that if I stay
here through winter, I'll hate it, and I don't actually
voluntarily have to do that. So I think for the
next couple of years especially, I will be doing summers
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in London, summers in Australia, just like following the sun.
I'm absolutely loving it, Guys. Like, I don't know why,
I just feel like myself, my anxiety, my stress, me
overthinking and everything just suddenly has gone away, and I'm
so much more happier. I just am so much more present,
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at at peace with my life. Like obviously I'm just
a little bit confused, but I don't know. Everything just
seems to be working out and aligning for me here
and I'm just riding that wave at the moment, and
I'm writing how I'm feeling. And I know that Australia
will always be there. Obviously, my family's always there, and
like my friends are always there and I miss them
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all dearly. But I know that me being here right
now is the best thing for me, and all the
signs are showing that, and all the signs are proving that,
and I'm just going to continue to ride with that, really,
and I can definitely see myself living here for a
long period of time, maybe forever. Really not going to
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jump to conclusion so far, but the question to that is, yes,
I can definitely see myself moving here. A lot of
questions about my relationship with food, my body image, how
do you handle negative food talk, sush being out of
routine with your normal meals, and I kind of along
the lines of me being in London and everything at
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the moment, like I have been really out of routine,
like you guys know in Melbourne, like I'm super into
the gym, super into fitness, which I definitely still am.
Like I've been going to the gym and everything like
that here, like I'm walking so much more and I'm
definitely living a very active lifestyle, like I still am.
Like that's so important to me and it will always
be innately who I am. But I think I do
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put a lot more pressure on myself and everything involved
with that when it comes to the gym in Melbourne
and like my eating in Melbourne, because I think I
have a lot more time on my hands to really
worry about that, and I realize when I'm traveling. I'm
not as so harsh on myself to make sure I'm
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hitting my protein and make sure I'm going to the
gym five times a week and everything like that, which
is really important. But I also can recognize and sit
back at this age and realize that I am twenty three.
I am forming some amazing memories, making some amazing friendships,
and with that comes with socializing and eating food out
and drinking a little bit more than usual, and that's
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just the life stage that I'm in, and I can
rationalize that all really, really well. And the way I
rationalize that is that memories don't come back. The memories
that I'm forming right now around this, around drinking a
little fut too many cocktails a you too many days
a week, or having that boli of fries, or sharing
that cookie in Paris or sharing a crape in Paris.
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Like their memories, and I'm going to look back at
them when I'm sixty years old, not being like, oh
my god, do you remember when you were a little
few kilos heavier than what you want to be? No,
you're not going to think that You're going to be like,
oh my god, do you remember when Melita and I
were in Paris and we had the best natyla crape
with strawberries. You're going to remember that memory, and no
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one remembers you when you die for how much you
weighed and what you looked like. Of course, I definitely
would be lying and saying that I completely love what
I look like at the moment. I definitely am struggling
with my body image, but that will always come back
and once I get back onto routine. But right now
I'm really just writing the wave of creating memories and
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creating friendships and creating an amazing life for myself that
I know that it's not what I look like. And yeah,
I'm definitely having more days than I would love to
admit that I hate the way I look on camera,
and I'm having a lot of negative self talk. But
I am able to separate that and not let it
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affect my everyday life and not let it ruin myself
from experiences, because all I think back is when I
was really in the root of my eating disorder, I
had no friends, I had no social life. I was
so unhappy. I didn't want to do anything with my days.
I just was thinking about food constantly, and that's not life,
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and that's not living. So if I go back to that,
I'm not going to be happy person either. Yeah, I
might be skinnier, but I'm not gonna be happier. So yeah,
I would rather be a few kilos heavier and probably
what my body should look like and be happy and
enjoy that bowl of French fries and enjoy that crepe
and enjoy that margarita because fucking how, I'm young and
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who cares like. No one's gonna remember me for what
I looked like. Everyone's gonna remember me for the amazing
memories they had with me. And I'm gonna remember life
not because I was skinny. So I definitely have days
that I'm struggling, but I can separate that and realize
it's irrational and realize it's silly and not give into
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that thought. And that's where I've come really far with
my eating disorder journey, and like myself image journey, is
I can separate rational and irrational and that's just something
I can have to continue working on every single day,
and to be honest, I'll probably have to work on
it for the rest of my life. And I think
it's really hard because everyone says, like, you post photos
of yourself in bikinis online, like you must not hate
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each other yourself that much. No, trust me, I overanalyze
myself in that photo way more than you think I do.
But posting is my life and you just have to
get onwards and upwards from it, really and I'm very
good at dissociating from it, which is probably not healthy,
but it is what it is. Someone asked, and I'm
getting a lot of questions about this as well, how
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did you find your com in London? So we found
our accommodation through Blueground, which is like an app. It's
kind of like Airbnb where you can rent for longer
stays and you can rent like an apartment, like right
now we're in someone's apartment. So it's so nice. We
have like a kitchen, living room, two bedrooms, washing machine,
and we have everything available to us. That just makes
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it so much easier and makes it feel a little
bit more homely. And because we are staying here for
so many months, you're not going to stay in a
hotel room and that's just like ludicrous amount of money.
But in saying that this accommodation isn't cheap, it's very expensive,
and I'm sure there's other ways that you can do it.
I know the spacebook groups and everything that you can
do that people like supplet their place for a really
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long time. But yeah, we did through Blue Ground just
because we wanted that extra security through doing it through
a website. We're both obviously two young girls over here
by ourselves, so we just would rather pay a little
bit more to know that we're in a safe area,
because London can be so incredibly unsafe, and we're doing
it through an actual website, and for me, that is
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worth the actual little bit of money and I'm so
grateful that I can be in the opportunity to be
able for that a little bit more. Someone said tips
for healthy skin. Okay, guys, my skin, I'm one for
like lessies more. I've absolutely been loving the Laroche pose
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B five cedar blast. I think that's what it's called moisturizer.
It's like a thick moisturizer. It's really helps your skin barrier.
And because I'm constantly changing climates, I'm obviously like in
London and the waterco not that good. I've been absolutely
loving that moisturizer and the Wily to Skin foods moisturizer.
They're both really thick moisturizers. I have naturally very dry skin,
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so anything really rich and nourishing is really really good
for my skin. And yeah, I just try to keep
it really simple. I use the Doctor Denis Gross facial wash.
I got that from Mecca, and then to take my
makeup off, I use the Clinic take your Day Off.
It's like a balm and it's so much softer on
your skin than like makeup wipes or my salar water,
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which both I still really love. I love using my
salar water to take off my mascara, but those skincare
products are like my holy grail at the moment. And
I haven't seen my skin break out, and my skin
barrier always gets really really damaged, like I do break
out in hives quite a bit, like I break out
in a rash. Like I use the Road glazing milk
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the other day and I broke out in these full hives,
like all of my face like it was burning, which
is so weird because I've used it before and I've
never had that reaction. And everyone raves about the glazing
milk and my skin hates it. So those ones I
know my holy Grails, they will won't break out my skin.
And I know you guys didn't ask, but I always
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get tips on my hair. I've been absolutely loving the
metal detox range from loreal professionals. If you guys are
traveling Europe, you're coming to London, even if you're going
to Bali, if you're going away from anywhere from your
original home, you guys need to get this because the
metals in the water at each country that you go to,
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especially Europe, because the water the pipes are so old,
there's so much metal in the water, and if you
have any bleach in your hair, your hair will fall
out and your hair will be so affected dry, you'll
get split ends like your hair will look so much
more duller because your hair is not used to the
amount of metal and the amount of stuff in the
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water of that country. So, if you guys are traveling
over this period, one hundred percent, either get the mask,
the shampoo, the leaving conditioner. Obviously all three would be great,
but I think it can be a little bit pricey
even if you can get one of those things to
help protect your hair. My hair has honestly never felt softer.
My hair feels amazing and it's so good, like I
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cannot rave about a product enough, Like it is so
so good for your hair. My hair feels so healthy,
so hydrated. I'm not seeing any damage obviously because I've
got bleach in my hair, like I've got no split ends,
and it just like feels so moisturized, so hydrated. My
curls are thriving. And I honestly believe it's because of
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that range that I'm using. It's so good. Is a
social life in UK very different to us, like confidence,
mannerisms and conbos. I have noticed this a little bit.
I think it's because obviously the I'm meeting so many
people here, and a lot of people aren't born in
London either. People have moved from different parts of the UK,
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Like obviously some people are from London, but a lot
of people don't have their immediate family in London. Especially
the industry that I'm in, in the creative industry, It's
so easy to connect with people and so much more
people are open to meeting new people, and that's something
I've really really loved about being in London. You have
to be type A here. Plans can come up last
second and you just have to roll with the punches,
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which is something I'm really loving, which is really surprising
because you guys know how type AI am. I'd love
to have everything planned, but you just can't. Obviously you
can have things that you can put boundaries in. But
I think so many people are so much more open
to meeting friends and making friends because they don't have
their family or like people to really lean on. Here
that you make friends as family, and that's something I've
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really really noticed and loved about this confidence wise, men
will shoot their shot like a lot more and they're
a lot more polite, Like just in the way that
you speak in day to day life, there's a lot
more manners I would say are used in just the
way you speak it like it's a lot more poshure.
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I have not really had any rude experiences besides being
in France, but I think the French people are known
to be rude. Well that's just what I've heard. Dating
in the UK compared to OZ yet to know, I
got suspended from Hinge and I haven't gone on a
date yet in the UK, so I would love to
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report back on that. Hopefully I go on at least
one date while I'm here. But again, it's just not
a priority at the moment. I'm not looking for a man,
I'm not looking for a sticky situation chip, I'm not
looking for any of that. Like I'm here with my friend,
here with making friends. That's my priority is traveling, working,
producing good content, being with my girls, meeting new friends,
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getting life experiences that like, yeah, obviously the man came along,
it would be nice, but it's not a priority that
I'm actively looking for. So I'm I'm yet to know
what some advice you could give to a girlie in
her twenties trying to find friends. Shoot your fucking shot, babe,
Shoot your fucking shot. I obviously came over to London,
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I had Malita, I knew of a few people here,
not too many, and you literally just have to message people,
Hey I'm in London. Hey I just came to London.
Well this is what I've been doing, and being like,
we'd love to grab coffee with you, Like so many
girls have reached out to me. I've met some amazing
people purely on dms on Instagram. If you catch someone's
vibe and you really vibe with them, fucking message them.
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So many people in their twenties feel lost and alone.
It is such a normal experience. You literally just have
to fucking message them. You literally just go, I'd love
to grab coffee if you were free soon, Like love
your vibe, Like I saw that you were here, Like
I'm here too, Wo'd love to message you. You just
have to shoot your shot, like and if they don't reply,
they don't reply, that's okay, they it wasn't meant to be.
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But honestly, you have to take it with a grain
of salt if they don't reply. But you will one
hundred and ten percent find girls and meet new girls
and do some amazing things if you literally just message them.
It's actually that easy. And I always said that, but
I've really had to do that because I'm obviously not
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in a country and in a place that many people
know me and I have my established friendship group here
and everything like that, Like I don't have that, Like
I have my leader, and that's it. So I've really
had to like force myself out of my comfort zone.
Two meet people, two message people, and it's been so good.
And it literally is just shooting a shot. Stand on business,
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be confident in yourself, ask friends out, and then the
more you do that, the more everyone will reward you,
and the more people will reward you, and the more
open you become, people will come into your life. And
you just got to be open to having new experiences,
say yes to things, go to places alone, and you
will not even realize that you will make friends just
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by being a part of things, and you just have
to be open and surrender yourself to that. Someone asks,
where do you see yourself in the next year, anything
you want to have achieved. I think right now, I
just want to keep on going on the road of
self discovery and really figuring my shit out, finding out
what I want in life. I am so young, I
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am figuring it out, and I think being open and
honest online about that and figuring that out is like
what my purpose is and sharing that experience, sharing the
highs and lows, and just taking people along that journey.
I love traveling and I really want to touch into
that and I don't have to have it all rushed
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and figured out now, and I just want to keep
on going on the path that I'm on. And I
think I've really found stuff that makes me happy, and
I think the biggest thing I've learned as well with
friendships and all of this stuff that I'm doing is like,
the only person that you have to be responsible for
in your twenties is yourself. And when it comes to
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friendships and when it comes to relationships and everything like that.
I'm going at a bit of attention, by the way,
but you cannot expect the same from somebody else. What
you expect in friendships and what you put out in friendships,
you cannot expect the same back. And the only person
you really have is yourself, and you cannot get hurt
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by what everybody else is doing and what they've achieved
and what you haven't achieved. Like, you are responsible for yourself.
You do not have to follow somebody else's path. You
do not have to follow and do what other people
are telling you to do. You literally just have to
do you. And that is what I'm achieving at the moment.
That is what I want to achieve, is do me
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do what Sam wants to do. Figure out Sam, find
who Sam is at her core, and say that she's
done all of these amazing opportunities. Like my number one
motto is I want to be the mom that has
great memories in her early twenties and be like, well,
when your mom was young, she went off and did this,
like your early twenties is for being selfish, and that
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is not obviously, don't treat people like shit, but they're
your choices. You do what you want to do in life.
You pique what you want to do, and that is
what my goal is to achieve and to take you
guys along that journey and to take you guys and
to encourage you to do it yourself. And that is
like my biggest goal. Obviously I have like money goals
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and career goals and everything like that, but I one
hundred percent back myself that I'll be able to do
it and I'll be able to achieve it in a
whatever way possible. Someone said, did you get the youth
mobility visa for the UK? Can you walk through the process.
I actually don't have the youth mobility visa. I have
just a holiday visa and you can stay in London
for up to three months straight. So that's if you
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don't go to Paris, because as soon as you go
to Paris or something, it refreshes you can just like
you can only stay in the United Kingdom for three
months straight. But you can travel in and out. The
Youth Mobility Visa is amazing obviously because you can stay
up to three years, so you can work here. And
I'm not employed by anyone in the UK. Like I'm
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not earning money in the UK. I'm not like contributing
to their government. I'm not employed by anyone in the UK.
So if you were earning money, you would need to
be on the Youth Mobility Visa, but I'm not, so
if that makes sense, i can just kind of like
travel here and there, and I'm just on a traveling
visa because I am just traveling, if that makes sense.
But if I were to like sign a lease or
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anything like that and like stay here long term, that's
when I'm going to get the Youth Mobility visa, if
that makes sense. So I'm just like on a holiday
visa at the moment, and then I'll go home to
Australia for summer and then I'll probably apply for my
youth Mobility visa so I can actually like pay rent
and everything here and then figure it out from there
or like get a job here or something like that.
Who knows, what are you looking for in a partner
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right now? I'm not necessarily looking for a partner, But
if I were to describe what I'm looking for in
a partner, it would just be my best friend. I
just want a best friend that I can laugh with.
Trust and communication is so so important to me. Just
trusting in that they have your best interest. And just
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someone I can laugh, create memories with and have fun
with and just like not take life so seriously. And
it's just someone that is my best friend, that thinks
the world of me, that wants to make me feel
special and loved, and it's funny and kind and generous
and considerate of feelings, and someone who's emotionally intelligent and
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in touch with their emotions. I don't want to play games.
I don't want to fuck around. I don't want to
be like, oh does he like me? Does he not? Situationship.
I want someone headstrong, knows what they want, gets me,
No games, no nothing. And that's what I'm looking for,
Just a best friend. How to stop comparing yourselves to others,
especially being in relationships when you're single, guys being in
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a relationship. I think something I've really noticed in the
like the last year and a half of being single,
especially in Australia. As everyone romanticizes and things that you're
at the peak of your life and you're the most
successful when you're in a relationship. Being in a relationship
is not that fun. Being in a relationship is hard.
You have to choose that person every single day. You
have to consider that person every single day. Yes, you're
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growing a life with them, but it's not all rainbows
and butterflies all the time. There are tough conversations that
you need to have. It is shit. Sometimes you do
argue it's not that good. It's literally not that good.
The only person I'm responsible for, the only feelings I'm
responsible for is me myself and I literally if I
want to fly to ubeat the tomorrow and get a
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villa and go off my phone for four days, I
can do that. I don't have to tell my for
what I'm doing. I don't have to get ease approval.
I don't have to have this conversation back and forth,
like if I want to go home at eleven PM,
if I want to go home at seven am, I
don't have to tell anyone that it's great. Being single
is so much fun. Let's romanticize being single, Let's love
being single, I am figuring myself out, I am finding
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my worth. Like I think being single is so good
because you find out and you raise a level of standard.
Like normalize wanting to be single, Normalize wanting to be alone,
because that is when you find out the most about yourself,
because you are constantly in an uncomfortable environment because you
don't have anyone to fall back on. You only have
yourself and that is a beautiful thing. And don't think
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you're behind in life, or don't think you're always happy
because you're not in a relationship. Fuck that. Fuck that.
Like no like love being by yourself, love like being independent,
doing those things, because there will be one day when
you meet someone and your world will obviously it would
change for good. And being in a relationship is also
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being beautiful and growing life with someone, doing all those
things with someone is amazing, But also being single is
so amazing. You will never have that time again, Like
I hopefully I'm in a relationship when I'm twenty eight.
And I got to look back when I was twenty three, single,
living my best life, traveling around the world, like doing
whatever I wanted because I had no one to consider.
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And I think that one helps you grow better as
an individual. It raises your standards because you don't settle
for less, because you provide yourself with everything that you want,
that you don't then need a man to give you
happiness and to give you everything. So you were so
much more confident in who you are as an individual
that you attract a high quality person. That is it.
You do not need to be single, You do not
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need to be in a relationship. I mean, yeah, were anyway, guys,
I thought I would wrap up this little episode. I
don't want to drag it on for too much. I
feel like I've been rambling. Please still give me some
as I try to learn how to podcast by myself,
because it is a massive transition. I want to also
thank you guys so much for the love and support
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that I've had on this podcast. It's definitely been a
lot of change, a lot of good change. And I
love that I can take you all around the world
and record from my laptop and take you along all
the journey live time. I feel like this is literally
so much fun. I love sitting down with you guys,
filling you in with my life. There's something I wanted
to start doing on this podcast, and I feel like
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a lot of podcasts end off their episodes with like
a quote and everything like that, which I think is
super amazing. But on hot of than yesterday, we're working
on being one percent better than every single day. We're
not taking shit from no one. We are bettering ourselves,
we are leveling up, we are finding the best versions
of ourselves. So I'm going to tell you some hard
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truths because i feel like another big reason as to
why I'm sometimes misunderstood online is because I'll tell you
how it is. I'm not gonna fluff around. I'm not
going to be around the bush. I'm not gonna tell
you what you want to hear. I'm going to tell
you what you need to hear. And whether you think
that's hard of the first place, I'm gonna be your
mum and I'm gonna walk you through it, and i'm
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gonna we're gonna get through it together. But because of that,
we need some hard truths. And I'm going to tell
you a hard truth. Okay, people like you better when
you hate yourself. That is what I've noticed. So that's
my hard truth is people like you better when you
hate yourself. Just sit with that. And it is so true.
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I've noticed people who send me more love when I'm
struggling on the internet, and people feel bad for me
when I'm struggling on the internet, but when I'm happy
traveling the world showing you guys how happy I am.
Not you, guys. I just want to say, like preface,
not you girls that are listening. You guys aren't. I'm
just talking about the haters or people that have such
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loud voices on the Internet that want to bring people down,
even like this whole Indie Clinton movement and everything is
like when she was going through hard time. People want
to relate to your sadness, and people don't want to
see other people happy. People like you more when you're
sad and you hate yourself. Don't be that and don't
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let that get to you. When you're happy and you
figure out what you want and you know what makes
you happy, it doesn't matter what anybody else is saying.
And don't let anyone rate on your parade. Don't let
people like you more because you say how much you
hate yourself. Be confident in what you want, find your worth,
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find what you want from life, and stand out for
that shit. It's not bragging. It's not being a narcissist.
It's knowing what you want. It's standing on business, and
it's been confident in yourself and be confident. I know
that you know who you are. I know that you
know what you want, and chase that fucking go get it.
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Stand on business, babe, Stand on fucking business. And that's
my hot take. So let me know if you guys
want some more hot takes. I don't really know where
I was going with that, but yeah, thank you guys
so much for coming on episode two of Hotter Than Yesterday.
I really just felt like we needed to sit down, chat,
have a little bit of a rant. Don't really know
where this episode went, but I just feel like this
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is like a little late night chat with a girlies
in bed, having a debrief, having a little chat, having
a little catch up, and yeah, let me know what
you guys want to hear from me. Send me a
message over on the Hotter Than Yesterday Instagram and or
even on my personal I will check them both. But yeah,
thank you guys so much. I love you all so
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so much. Thank you so much for your support and
love and kindness, and yeah, see you next week. Bye.
What you expect in friendships and what you put out
in friendships, you cannot expect the same back, and the
only person you really have is yourself. Hi, guys, welcome
to episode two of Hotter Than Yesterday. How we all doing?
How's life? Give me all the updates, Send me a message,
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let me know how it's all going, because I'm about
to give you a full rundown debrief Q and A
about everything that's going on in my life at the moment.
So I would like to hear yours, like, let's all
have a chat. I'm actually in my bed right now
in London. You guys are hearing this pretty live time.
By the time this is out, I actually feel like,
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I mean Mick noos, So I have so much to
update you on after but it is currently the thirtieth
of June, and I just wanted to give you guys
a massive update everything that I've been doing, kind of
tell you guys everything, a little bit of a bit
of a job entry. I feel like I really want
to connect with you guys and fill you in because
(01:05):
I've been sharing so much content and I've loved the
content that I've created by having this podcast and having
people that genuinely love me and want to know about me.
I feel like this is where I'm really going to
like open up and share with you guys, maybe the
raw side and maybe some stuff I'm leaving out so
the real ones get to know all the tea over
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here on the potty life has been treating me so
so well. I'm so incredibly happy, and I'm so proud
of myself for making this leap. And I don't want
to look like I'm first of all, like bragging and
like rubbing it in your face. That's the last thing
I want to be doing on this podcast. But I
feel like everyone that's listening is kind of around my age,
(01:47):
going through similar ebbs and flows with life being so
confused and not really knowing. So I'm kind of like
our guinea pig and you can watch me lifetime figure
it all out and in hopes of feeling less alone
and hopefully we can be hotter than yesterday. Emo. Okay,
transitions so proud, but yeah, I low key love this
(02:10):
little setup I have going on. I just have a
microphone connected to my laptop. I've got my buddy, my
emotional support that replaces Vinnie at the moment. So say, hey,
he's my little jelly cat that follows me everywhere. And
I'm just like sitting in my bed on a late
summer's afternoon in London, and I'm just gonna use you
(02:30):
guys as little little journal diary, and you guys can
hear into my deepest darkest thoughts. Some a good, not
so much, but yeah, a little bit of an update.
I went to Paris over the weekend and oh my god, guys,
I had the best time. We actually got the plane.
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I know, you can get a Eurostar or a plane,
and the plane flights ended up being cheaper, but then
upon reflection, the uber to and from the airport both
ways probably then made it break even. And I would
recommend the Eurostar more because you get dropped in the
city center of both. The Paris airport is a little
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bit out of Paris. It takes like an hour, and
same with London. We flew from Gatwick so it takes
a little bit longer. And yeah, I probably wouldn't recommend that.
I definitely would just recommend the Eurostar. Apparently have Internet
the whole time in the Eurostar. And my friend Spencer
got the Eurostar and he was like, I don't know
why you guys are lying, and we were like, yeah,
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we thought we were smarter, like money wise, but we
ended up not being smarter money wise. Another thing I've
just had to surrender into is spending so much money
here because the Euro is half the Australian dollar, like
it's literally point five, so everything that you're doing is
in double. We went to the famous cafe where you
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do like the hot chocolates and then you put the
cream in the hot chocolate and the berries and cream
and everything, and I spent sixty Australian dollars on berries
and gream and I got like seven berries. It was crazy,
but like worth the experience. I'm actually probably not worth
the experience. You can literally go to any nice britisseriy
cafe in Paris and you have the exact same experience
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for half the price. Still expensive, but half the price.
When we got there, we ended up meeting up with Jazz,
which is so so nice. I haven't seen Jazz since
December twenty twenty four because she's moved to Berlin now,
so it was like crazy when I saw on her
stories that she was going to be in Paris at
the same time as me was absolutely so much fun
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to see her. We went to Gigi's the first night,
which is like a really famous restaurant, so nice, The
food was amazing, the service was really really poor, but
I think we kind of found that everywhere in France
or in Paris, people are just not friendly and they
don't really care and the service is just not up
to her standards. But I think that's just kind of
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every in Europe. I think we're very blessed in Australia
to have such good service. But the first night I
ended up being like a full storm shower, like half
of Paris flooded, like it was crazy. We got locked
inside of Gigi's for a little bit longer, but it
was so nice. Obviously, Jazz and I had so much
to catch up on, so we literally caught up on
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the last like eight months of our lives, and there
was so much to talk about. Because normally Jazz and
I would see each other every single day in Australia,
like we would go for a walk around the town,
you guys, know, pretty much every single morning. So from
seeing someone almost every single day to then not for
eight months, like it was crazy. It was really wild.
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But I'm so proud of her. She's like made the
biggest leap obviously, she fell in love. She's moved to Berlin,
and she's truly like so happy, and I feel like
she's grown a lot. Not that she was a bad
person before, but she's really like grown up and she's
become so sure of herself. Seeing your friend grow and
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flourish like that is so amazing and rewarding, and I'm
just so proud of her and so happy for her.
It was so nice to catch up with her, and
then we went from there to La Avenue, which is
also a really really nice bar, and then we went
from Lett Avenue to Coats Coats. I'm pretty sure that's
how you pronounce it, and that is another place I
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really recommend really good people watching. We actually ended up
being there in the middle of Men's Fashion Week, which
was so unplanned, but there was everyone and their dogs
there obviously because of fashion week, and the people watching
was insane. Had so much fun. Also bumped into Charlotte
Agu which is nice because she's now living in Sydney
and she was a Melbourne girl. I just feel like
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everyone happened to be there and it was so much fun.
That's like another thing I'm loving about being in London
is I meeting so many people, catching up with so
many people, putting myself out there a little bit more,
and it's just been so rewarding and everything's come back
and it's just been such a positive sign and I've
gotten so many good signs from the universe that this
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is exactly where I need to be, and it's just
been so amazing, like so so good. There obviously have
been some hard times, but everything that I really wanted
to get out of this experience of living abroad for
a little bit has really rewarded me and has told
me that I'm in the right place at the right time,
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and I'm just like so happy for it. Yeah. So
then back to Paris a bit of a tangent. We
then the second day we went to we just explored
the city and then we met up with our friend
Spencer and we went to Bambini, which is so amazing.
It's like this outdoor restaurant again, another really good recommendation.
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The food wasn't amazing, but the vibes were really amazing.
The cocktails are really good, and we ended up over
watching the Rick Owen Show, which is like a once
in a lifetime opportunity. Like Rick Owens. There was like
people climbing, like scaffolding, swimming in the water. It was
like crazy, like we literally didn't know and we were
watching a free Rick Owen show in Paris at our
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dinner reservation. Like you couldn't you could not write that
it was crazy, Like Rick Owens, I've had a newfound
love for you. You're so talented. The execution of the show
was absolutely amazing, and it was just so cool that
I ended up getting to see an amazing show at
Paris Fashion Week for free at my dinner reservation, like crazy.
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And then on the Friday, so that was a Thursday,
and then on the Friday, I spent the whole day
with Spencer. We just explored the city. We probably drank
far too much, but again went in Paris, you know,
like we went to the Louver. We just rode around
in the line bikes, which is something I'm loving over here.
Pretty much. My mode of transport is either on foot
or on bike, and I love it. It's the best
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way to get around cities and exploring new cities. And
then we probably took it way too far because then
Mellie ended up joining us at night and we just
again drank way too much, but again went in Paris
and then Saturday was pretty chill. We just went to
the photo breoth. It was so hot, so we just
like took a chill hung out at Soho house and
then flew home. And now we're here, it's chill. I'm
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getting back into routine before I go to make an Os,
which again is so much fun that you can book
last minute flights, quick little flights, quick little trips, go
to miking On for five days, Paris for three days,
and then just come back and it's so nice having
a home base that you can unpack, repack, do your washing,
cook some food and just like being routine for a
few days in between. I feel like that's really helping
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me not burn myself out. But yeah, anyway, I thought
this episode will just kind of be me chatting, giving
you guys a little bit of a life update. Q
and A I asked over on my Instagram story questions
you guys wanted to know, and I'm here to fill
you all in on all the TEA first question is,
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can you see yourself moving to London post trip for
a longer period of time. One hundred and ten percent.
I always knew deep down that I would want to
move here again. I had never been to London before
I came on this trip, but I have like a
weird calling. I don't know what it was, but I
followed that calling and I've ended up in London. And
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originally I was going to stay till mid August. I'm
now staying here until October, so I've extended my trip
for two more months. I'm having the best time, so
I definitely will come home for Australian summer because nothing
can be in Australian summer. London's going through a heat
wave at the moment and it is unbearably hot. It
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just feels way hotter than it normally does, like back
at home, because you can cool yourself off at the pool,
but people don't really have pools in the middle of London.
There's no beaches in the middle of the London, so
it's just crazy. You literally just see everyone at the
pub drinking because everyone just like loves to seize the weather.
Everyone's so much more social. There's something on every single day.
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Every day is like a weekend in London, like there's
always something to do, but it's just been absolutely amazing
so far. But I definitely know that if I stay
here through winter, I'll hate it, and I don't actually
voluntarily have to do that. So I think for the
next couple of years especially, I will be doing summers
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in London, summers in Australia, just like following the sun.
I'm absolutely loving it, Guys. Like, I don't know why,
I just feel like myself, my anxiety, my stress, me
overthinking and everything just suddenly has gone away, and I'm
so much more happier. I just am so much more present,
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at at peace with my life. Like obviously I'm just
a little bit confused, but I don't know. Everything just
seems to be working out and aligning for me here
and I'm just riding that wave at the moment, and
I'm writing how I'm feeling. And I know that Australia
will always be there. Obviously, my family's always there, and
like my friends are always there and I miss them
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all dearly. But I know that me being here right
now is the best thing for me, and all the
signs are showing that, and all the signs are proving that,
and I'm just going to continue to ride with that, really,
and I can definitely see myself living here for a
long period of time, maybe forever. Really not going to
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jump to conclusion so far, but the question to that is, yes,
I can definitely see myself moving here. A lot of
questions about my relationship with food, my body image, how
do you handle negative food talk, sush being out of
routine with your normal meals, and I kind of along
the lines of me being in London and everything at
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the moment, like I have been really out of routine,
like you guys know in Melbourne, like I'm super into
the gym, super into fitness, which I definitely still am.
Like I've been going to the gym and everything like
that here, like I'm walking so much more and I'm
definitely living a very active lifestyle, like I still am.
Like that's so important to me and it will always
be innately who I am. But I think I do
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put a lot more pressure on myself and everything involved
with that when it comes to the gym in Melbourne
and like my eating in Melbourne, because I think I
have a lot more time on my hands to really
worry about that, and I realize when I'm traveling. I'm
not as so harsh on myself to make sure I'm
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hitting my protein and make sure I'm going to the
gym five times a week and everything like that, which
is really important. But I also can recognize and sit
back at this age and realize that I am twenty three.
I am forming some amazing memories, making some amazing friendships,
and with that comes with socializing and eating food out
and drinking a little bit more than usual, and that's
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just the life stage that I'm in, and I can
rationalize that all really, really well. And the way I
rationalize that is that memories don't come back. The memories
that I'm forming right now around this, around drinking a
little fut too many cocktails a you too many days
a week, or having that boli of fries, or sharing
that cookie in Paris or sharing a crape in Paris.
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Like their memories, and I'm going to look back at
them when I'm sixty years old, not being like, oh
my god, do you remember when you were a little
few kilos heavier than what you want to be? No,
you're not going to think that You're going to be like,
oh my god, do you remember when Melita and I
were in Paris and we had the best natyla crape
with strawberries. You're going to remember that memory, and no
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one remembers you when you die for how much you
weighed and what you looked like. Of course, I definitely
would be lying and saying that I completely love what
I look like at the moment. I definitely am struggling
with my body image, but that will always come back
and once I get back onto routine. But right now
I'm really just writing the wave of creating memories and
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creating friendships and creating an amazing life for myself that
I know that it's not what I look like. And yeah,
I'm definitely having more days than I would love to
admit that I hate the way I look on camera,
and I'm having a lot of negative self talk. But
I am able to separate that and not let it
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affect my everyday life and not let it ruin myself
from experiences, because all I think back is when I
was really in the root of my eating disorder, I
had no friends, I had no social life. I was
so unhappy. I didn't want to do anything with my days.
I just was thinking about food constantly, and that's not life,
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and that's not living. So if I go back to that,
I'm not going to be happy person either. Yeah, I
might be skinnier, but I'm not gonna be happier. So yeah,
I would rather be a few kilos heavier and probably
what my body should look like and be happy and
enjoy that bowl of French fries and enjoy that crepe
and enjoy that margarita because fucking how, I'm young and
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who cares like. No one's gonna remember me for what
I looked like. Everyone's gonna remember me for the amazing
memories they had with me. And I'm gonna remember life
not because I was skinny. So I definitely have days
that I'm struggling, but I can separate that and realize
it's irrational and realize it's silly and not give into
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that thought. And that's where I've come really far with
my eating disorder journey, and like myself image journey, is
I can separate rational and irrational and that's just something
I can have to continue working on every single day,
and to be honest, I'll probably have to work on
it for the rest of my life. And I think
it's really hard because everyone says, like, you post photos
of yourself in bikinis online, like you must not hate
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each other yourself that much. No, trust me, I overanalyze
myself in that photo way more than you think I do.
But posting is my life and you just have to
get onwards and upwards from it, really and I'm very
good at dissociating from it, which is probably not healthy,
but it is what it is. Someone asked, and I'm
getting a lot of questions about this as well, how
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did you find your com in London? So we found
our accommodation through Blueground, which is like an app. It's
kind of like Airbnb where you can rent for longer
stays and you can rent like an apartment, like right
now we're in someone's apartment. So it's so nice. We
have like a kitchen, living room, two bedrooms, washing machine,
and we have everything available to us. That just makes
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it so much easier and makes it feel a little
bit more homely. And because we are staying here for
so many months, you're not going to stay in a
hotel room and that's just like ludicrous amount of money.
But in saying that this accommodation isn't cheap, it's very expensive,
and I'm sure there's other ways that you can do it.
I know the spacebook groups and everything that you can
do that people like supplet their place for a really
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long time. But yeah, we did through Blue Ground just
because we wanted that extra security through doing it through
a website. We're both obviously two young girls over here
by ourselves, so we just would rather pay a little
bit more to know that we're in a safe area,
because London can be so incredibly unsafe, and we're doing
it through an actual website, and for me, that is
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worth the actual little bit of money and I'm so
grateful that I can be in the opportunity to be
able for that a little bit more. Someone said tips
for healthy skin. Okay, guys, my skin, I'm one for
like lessies more. I've absolutely been loving the Laroche pose
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B five cedar blast. I think that's what it's called moisturizer.
It's like a thick moisturizer. It's really helps your skin barrier.
And because I'm constantly changing climates, I'm obviously like in
London and the waterco not that good. I've been absolutely
loving that moisturizer and the Wily to Skin foods moisturizer.
They're both really thick moisturizers. I have naturally very dry skin,
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so anything really rich and nourishing is really really good
for my skin. And yeah, I just try to keep
it really simple. I use the Doctor Denis Gross facial wash.
I got that from Mecca, and then to take my
makeup off, I use the Clinic take your Day Off.
It's like a balm and it's so much softer on
your skin than like makeup wipes or my salar water,
(19:34):
which both I still really love. I love using my
salar water to take off my mascara, but those skincare
products are like my holy grail at the moment. And
I haven't seen my skin break out, and my skin
barrier always gets really really damaged, like I do break
out in hives quite a bit, like I break out
in a rash. Like I use the Road glazing milk
(19:56):
the other day and I broke out in these full hives,
like all of my face like it was burning, which
is so weird because I've used it before and I've
never had that reaction. And everyone raves about the glazing
milk and my skin hates it. So those ones I
know my holy Grails, they will won't break out my skin.
And I know you guys didn't ask, but I always
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get tips on my hair. I've been absolutely loving the
metal detox range from loreal professionals. If you guys are
traveling Europe, you're coming to London, even if you're going
to Bali, if you're going away from anywhere from your
original home, you guys need to get this because the
metals in the water at each country that you go to,
(20:38):
especially Europe, because the water the pipes are so old,
there's so much metal in the water, and if you
have any bleach in your hair, your hair will fall
out and your hair will be so affected dry, you'll
get split ends like your hair will look so much
more duller because your hair is not used to the
amount of metal and the amount of stuff in the
(20:58):
water of that country. So, if you guys are traveling
over this period, one hundred percent, either get the mask,
the shampoo, the leaving conditioner. Obviously all three would be great,
but I think it can be a little bit pricey
even if you can get one of those things to
help protect your hair. My hair has honestly never felt softer.
My hair feels amazing and it's so good, like I
(21:23):
cannot rave about a product enough, Like it is so
so good for your hair. My hair feels so healthy,
so hydrated. I'm not seeing any damage obviously because I've
got bleach in my hair, like I've got no split ends,
and it just like feels so moisturized, so hydrated. My
curls are thriving. And I honestly believe it's because of
(21:43):
that range that I'm using. It's so good. Is a
social life in UK very different to us, like confidence,
mannerisms and conbos. I have noticed this a little bit.
I think it's because obviously the I'm meeting so many
people here, and a lot of people aren't born in
London either. People have moved from different parts of the UK,
(22:04):
Like obviously some people are from London, but a lot
of people don't have their immediate family in London. Especially
the industry that I'm in, in the creative industry, It's
so easy to connect with people and so much more
people are open to meeting new people, and that's something
I've really really loved about being in London. You have
to be type A here. Plans can come up last
second and you just have to roll with the punches,
(22:26):
which is something I'm really loving, which is really surprising
because you guys know how type AI am. I'd love
to have everything planned, but you just can't. Obviously you
can have things that you can put boundaries in. But
I think so many people are so much more open
to meeting friends and making friends because they don't have
their family or like people to really lean on. Here
that you make friends as family, and that's something I've
(22:46):
really really noticed and loved about this confidence wise, men
will shoot their shot like a lot more and they're
a lot more polite, Like just in the way that
you speak in day to day life, there's a lot
more manners I would say are used in just the
way you speak it like it's a lot more poshure.
(23:09):
I have not really had any rude experiences besides being
in France, but I think the French people are known
to be rude. Well that's just what I've heard. Dating
in the UK compared to OZ yet to know, I
got suspended from Hinge and I haven't gone on a
date yet in the UK, so I would love to
(23:32):
report back on that. Hopefully I go on at least
one date while I'm here. But again, it's just not
a priority at the moment. I'm not looking for a man,
I'm not looking for a sticky situation chip, I'm not
looking for any of that. Like I'm here with my friend,
here with making friends. That's my priority is traveling, working,
producing good content, being with my girls, meeting new friends,
(23:57):
getting life experiences that like, yeah, obviously the man came along,
it would be nice, but it's not a priority that
I'm actively looking for. So I'm I'm yet to know
what some advice you could give to a girlie in
her twenties trying to find friends. Shoot your fucking shot, babe,
Shoot your fucking shot. I obviously came over to London,
(24:17):
I had Malita, I knew of a few people here,
not too many, and you literally just have to message people,
Hey I'm in London. Hey I just came to London.
Well this is what I've been doing, and being like,
we'd love to grab coffee with you, Like so many
girls have reached out to me. I've met some amazing
people purely on dms on Instagram. If you catch someone's
vibe and you really vibe with them, fucking message them.
(24:39):
So many people in their twenties feel lost and alone.
It is such a normal experience. You literally just have
to fucking message them. You literally just go, I'd love
to grab coffee if you were free soon, Like love
your vibe, Like I saw that you were here, Like
I'm here too, Wo'd love to message you. You just
have to shoot your shot, like and if they don't reply,
they don't reply, that's okay, they it wasn't meant to be.
(25:01):
But honestly, you have to take it with a grain
of salt if they don't reply. But you will one
hundred and ten percent find girls and meet new girls
and do some amazing things if you literally just message them.
It's actually that easy. And I always said that, but
I've really had to do that because I'm obviously not
(25:22):
in a country and in a place that many people
know me and I have my established friendship group here
and everything like that, Like I don't have that, Like
I have my leader, and that's it. So I've really
had to like force myself out of my comfort zone.
Two meet people, two message people, and it's been so good.
And it literally is just shooting a shot. Stand on business,
(25:43):
be confident in yourself, ask friends out, and then the
more you do that, the more everyone will reward you,
and the more people will reward you, and the more
open you become, people will come into your life. And
you just got to be open to having new experiences,
say yes to things, go to places alone, and you
will not even realize that you will make friends just
(26:03):
by being a part of things, and you just have
to be open and surrender yourself to that. Someone asks,
where do you see yourself in the next year, anything
you want to have achieved. I think right now, I
just want to keep on going on the road of
self discovery and really figuring my shit out, finding out
what I want in life. I am so young, I
(26:26):
am figuring it out, and I think being open and
honest online about that and figuring that out is like
what my purpose is and sharing that experience, sharing the
highs and lows, and just taking people along that journey.
I love traveling and I really want to touch into
that and I don't have to have it all rushed
(26:46):
and figured out now, and I just want to keep
on going on the path that I'm on. And I
think I've really found stuff that makes me happy, and
I think the biggest thing I've learned as well with
friendships and all of this stuff that I'm doing is like,
the only person that you have to be responsible for
in your twenties is yourself. And when it comes to
(27:07):
friendships and when it comes to relationships and everything like that.
I'm going at a bit of attention, by the way,
but you cannot expect the same from somebody else. What
you expect in friendships and what you put out in friendships,
you cannot expect the same back. And the only person
you really have is yourself, and you cannot get hurt
(27:29):
by what everybody else is doing and what they've achieved
and what you haven't achieved. Like, you are responsible for yourself.
You do not have to follow somebody else's path. You
do not have to follow and do what other people
are telling you to do. You literally just have to
do you. And that is what I'm achieving at the moment.
That is what I want to achieve, is do me
(27:49):
do what Sam wants to do. Figure out Sam, find
who Sam is at her core, and say that she's
done all of these amazing opportunities. Like my number one
motto is I want to be the mom that has
great memories in her early twenties and be like, well,
when your mom was young, she went off and did this,
like your early twenties is for being selfish, and that
(28:11):
is not obviously, don't treat people like shit, but they're
your choices. You do what you want to do in life.
You pique what you want to do, and that is
what my goal is to achieve and to take you
guys along that journey and to take you guys and
to encourage you to do it yourself. And that is
like my biggest goal. Obviously I have like money goals
(28:32):
and career goals and everything like that, but I one
hundred percent back myself that I'll be able to do
it and I'll be able to achieve it in a
whatever way possible. Someone said, did you get the youth
mobility visa for the UK? Can you walk through the process.
I actually don't have the youth mobility visa. I have
just a holiday visa and you can stay in London
for up to three months straight. So that's if you
(28:55):
don't go to Paris, because as soon as you go
to Paris or something, it refreshes you can just like
you can only stay in the United Kingdom for three
months straight. But you can travel in and out. The
Youth Mobility Visa is amazing obviously because you can stay
up to three years, so you can work here. And
I'm not employed by anyone in the UK. Like I'm
(29:16):
not earning money in the UK. I'm not like contributing
to their government. I'm not employed by anyone in the UK.
So if you were earning money, you would need to
be on the Youth Mobility Visa, but I'm not, so
if that makes sense, i can just kind of like
travel here and there, and I'm just on a traveling
visa because I am just traveling, if that makes sense.
But if I were to like sign a lease or
(29:38):
anything like that and like stay here long term, that's
when I'm going to get the Youth Mobility visa, if
that makes sense. So I'm just like on a holiday
visa at the moment, and then I'll go home to
Australia for summer and then I'll probably apply for my
youth Mobility visa so I can actually like pay rent
and everything here and then figure it out from there
or like get a job here or something like that.
Who knows, what are you looking for in a partner
(30:04):
right now? I'm not necessarily looking for a partner, But
if I were to describe what I'm looking for in
a partner, it would just be my best friend. I
just want a best friend that I can laugh with.
Trust and communication is so so important to me. Just
trusting in that they have your best interest. And just
(30:26):
someone I can laugh, create memories with and have fun
with and just like not take life so seriously. And
it's just someone that is my best friend, that thinks
the world of me, that wants to make me feel
special and loved, and it's funny and kind and generous
and considerate of feelings, and someone who's emotionally intelligent and
(30:47):
in touch with their emotions. I don't want to play games.
I don't want to fuck around. I don't want to
be like, oh does he like me? Does he not? Situationship.
I want someone headstrong, knows what they want, gets me,
No games, no nothing. And that's what I'm looking for,
Just a best friend. How to stop comparing yourselves to others,
especially being in relationships when you're single, guys being in
(31:11):
a relationship. I think something I've really noticed in the
like the last year and a half of being single,
especially in Australia. As everyone romanticizes and things that you're
at the peak of your life and you're the most
successful when you're in a relationship. Being in a relationship
is not that fun. Being in a relationship is hard.
You have to choose that person every single day. You
have to consider that person every single day. Yes, you're
(31:33):
growing a life with them, but it's not all rainbows
and butterflies all the time. There are tough conversations that
you need to have. It is shit. Sometimes you do
argue it's not that good. It's literally not that good.
The only person I'm responsible for, the only feelings I'm
responsible for is me myself and I literally if I
want to fly to ubeat the tomorrow and get a
(31:55):
villa and go off my phone for four days, I
can do that. I don't have to tell my for
what I'm doing. I don't have to get ease approval.
I don't have to have this conversation back and forth,
like if I want to go home at eleven PM,
if I want to go home at seven am, I
don't have to tell anyone that it's great. Being single
is so much fun. Let's romanticize being single, Let's love
being single, I am figuring myself out, I am finding
(32:19):
my worth. Like I think being single is so good
because you find out and you raise a level of standard.
Like normalize wanting to be single, Normalize wanting to be alone,
because that is when you find out the most about yourself,
because you are constantly in an uncomfortable environment because you
don't have anyone to fall back on. You only have
yourself and that is a beautiful thing. And don't think
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you're behind in life, or don't think you're always happy
because you're not in a relationship. Fuck that. Fuck that.
Like no like love being by yourself, love like being independent,
doing those things, because there will be one day when
you meet someone and your world will obviously it would
change for good. And being in a relationship is also
(33:03):
being beautiful and growing life with someone, doing all those
things with someone is amazing, But also being single is
so amazing. You will never have that time again, Like
I hopefully I'm in a relationship when I'm twenty eight.
And I got to look back when I was twenty three, single,
living my best life, traveling around the world, like doing
whatever I wanted because I had no one to consider.
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And I think that one helps you grow better as
an individual. It raises your standards because you don't settle
for less, because you provide yourself with everything that you want,
that you don't then need a man to give you
happiness and to give you everything. So you were so
much more confident in who you are as an individual
that you attract a high quality person. That is it.
You do not need to be single, You do not
(33:47):
need to be in a relationship. I mean, yeah, were anyway, guys,
I thought I would wrap up this little episode. I
don't want to drag it on for too much. I
feel like I've been rambling. Please still give me some
as I try to learn how to podcast by myself,
because it is a massive transition. I want to also
thank you guys so much for the love and support
(34:08):
that I've had on this podcast. It's definitely been a
lot of change, a lot of good change. And I
love that I can take you all around the world
and record from my laptop and take you along all
the journey live time. I feel like this is literally
so much fun. I love sitting down with you guys,
filling you in with my life. There's something I wanted
to start doing on this podcast, and I feel like
(34:31):
a lot of podcasts end off their episodes with like
a quote and everything like that, which I think is
super amazing. But on hot of than yesterday, we're working
on being one percent better than every single day. We're
not taking shit from no one. We are bettering ourselves,
we are leveling up, we are finding the best versions
of ourselves. So I'm going to tell you some hard
(34:53):
truths because i feel like another big reason as to
why I'm sometimes misunderstood online is because I'll tell you
how it is. I'm not gonna fluff around. I'm not
going to be around the bush. I'm not gonna tell
you what you want to hear. I'm going to tell
you what you need to hear. And whether you think
that's hard of the first place, I'm gonna be your
mum and I'm gonna walk you through it, and i'm
(35:13):
gonna we're gonna get through it together. But because of that,
we need some hard truths. And I'm going to tell
you a hard truth. Okay, people like you better when
you hate yourself. That is what I've noticed. So that's
my hard truth is people like you better when you
hate yourself. Just sit with that. And it is so true.
(35:34):
I've noticed people who send me more love when I'm
struggling on the internet, and people feel bad for me
when I'm struggling on the internet, but when I'm happy
traveling the world showing you guys how happy I am.
Not you, guys. I just want to say, like preface,
not you girls that are listening. You guys aren't. I'm
just talking about the haters or people that have such
(35:56):
loud voices on the Internet that want to bring people down,
even like this whole Indie Clinton movement and everything is
like when she was going through hard time. People want
to relate to your sadness, and people don't want to
see other people happy. People like you more when you're
sad and you hate yourself. Don't be that and don't
(36:17):
let that get to you. When you're happy and you
figure out what you want and you know what makes
you happy, it doesn't matter what anybody else is saying.
And don't let anyone rate on your parade. Don't let
people like you more because you say how much you
hate yourself. Be confident in what you want, find your worth,
(36:39):
find what you want from life, and stand out for
that shit. It's not bragging. It's not being a narcissist.
It's knowing what you want. It's standing on business, and
it's been confident in yourself and be confident. I know
that you know who you are. I know that you
know what you want, and chase that fucking go get it.
(37:00):
Stand on business, babe, Stand on fucking business. And that's
my hot take. So let me know if you guys
want some more hot takes. I don't really know where
I was going with that, but yeah, thank you guys
so much for coming on episode two of Hotter Than Yesterday.
I really just felt like we needed to sit down, chat,
have a little bit of a rant. Don't really know
where this episode went, but I just feel like this
(37:21):
is like a little late night chat with a girlies
in bed, having a debrief, having a little chat, having
a little catch up, and yeah, let me know what
you guys want to hear from me. Send me a
message over on the Hotter Than Yesterday Instagram and or
even on my personal I will check them both. But yeah,
thank you guys so much. I love you all so
(37:41):
so much. Thank you so much for your support and
love and kindness, and yeah, see you next week. Bye.
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