On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – give you a run down of their three-day mini course about what marriage coaching is, does it work, who is it good for, and who should not do coaching.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- If you’ve got your shit together and there are no problems, you are just rockin’ and rollin’ in the marriage, but you still want to improve your marriage. Coaching will improve it whatever stage you’re at. If you’re struggling and both of you are on the same page and you really want to get things rockin’ and rollin’, then coaching is for you. Wherever you’re at on the spectrum, coaching will help you get better.
- Family of origin is basically the environment or culture you were raised in, it has nothing to do with genes or biology, it’s how you were raised and the people you were raised around and how that impacts your relationships. A good example is: There are a lot of families out there that when they have an argument their voices get really loud, it’s not out of anger or frustration it’s just the way they are, and there are other families that are very quiet. If two people from different types of families marry and in an argument one gets very vocal the other will retreat into herself. This can cause a lot of problems in a marriage. What can help is understanding where your spouse comes from and that’s the way they’re going to argue. That’s not to say that they can’t learn to change that behaviour.
- We still ask these questions to each other after years of being married and it’s still fun to hear the answers. Sometimes they’re the same but sometimes they change. Things change based on what you’ve experienced in life and it’s cool to find out how the answers have changed from when we were engaged to now we’re married and we can look at what’s changed.
- We’re going to train you and get you where you need to be, but at the end of the day for people to succeed in any type of coaching is for individuals to own it. You need to set your own individual goals then after the exercise you come together and put together those goals as a couple.
BEST MOMENTS
‘There’s always room for improvement.’
‘This course takes 3 days for you to go through on your own before calling us and having a coaching session. You’ll see some benefits right away.’
‘At the end of our course is not where we want you to stop.’
‘As open ended questions and be active in listening. That’s probably the biggest hindrance to couples having conversations. When you’re thinking of what you’re going to say next your attention has been divided.’
ABOUT THE HOSTS
Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialise in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."
Though they have a great sense of humour and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.
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