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May 16, 2023 30 mins

On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about how to achieve intimacy and connection on your date nights.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

  • Date nights look different for every couple and they’re different every week – for us specifically – and they should look different, they should not look the same. What fun is that? More than that, you want to connect physically, emotionally, and spiritually on date night. That’s why they’re so important and what they’re all about; keeping that stuff alive, and you should be intentional about making those things occur.
  • It needs to scheduled and planned, especially for the first time. Block out 4-5 hours (from 6-10), go and have a nice dinner and make sure you have about 2 hours at the end of uninterrupted time – no kids, turn off your phones. Make or choose a comfortable, relaxing atmosphere (playlist, lights, candles).
  • Use open communication with your spouse to share thoughts and feelings with them on where you’re at. Take turns discussing your day, tell them how you’ve been feeling lately, maybe something that feels like it’s got away from your or built up through the week because you don’t want to go into your intimacy session with that on your mind. Talk about expectations for the session, where do you want to go? Do you know? Do you want to try something new or similar?
  • The locations and the things you do don’t matter, it’s the time you spend and the time you’re investing in your partner that matters. Sit close together as you’re talking and sharing your thoughts and feelings, hold hands. Physical touch reinforces your bond, your physical and emotional connection and creates a sense of comfort and security.

 

BEST MOMENTS

‘You should engage in activities that foster communication, vulnerability and a shared experience.’
‘This works for couples no matter where you are in your journey of intimacy. You can take it to any level, and you can morph it into what works for you.’
‘Finances are not something to openly communicate about on date night, there’s a time and place for those things.’
‘The first time you do this it’ll be a little awkward, but the more and more you do this (weekly preferably) it becomes more natural and fun.’

 

ABOUT THE HOSTS

Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialize in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."

Though they have a great sense of humor and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

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