October 10, 2025 • 21 mins
Sherri Shepherd urged listeners not to date someone based on potential, advocating for relationships rooted in present reality instead of future promises.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's Friday and I'm broke, and it's Friday, and I'm
broke from It's Friday and I'm broke.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
It's Friday and I'm broke.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
From my check don't come till next week. My check
better not be choking. And I check don't come till
next week. My check better not be choking. But I'm
act like I'm rich. Act like I'm rich, and like
I'm rich. Act like I'm rich, and like I'm rich,
like I'm rich, and like I'm rich, like I'm rich.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Hold up, wait minute, parking is on.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Ain't got nothing, but I ain't gonna I'm gonna get
the same.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Hold chess man, half woman?
Speaker 4 (00:41):
Yes, yeah, Ray, you want to help you.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Other day? Get Ray?
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Good morning Ricky, Good morning America, Good morning you. It's Friday,
a beautiful beautiful in the neighborhood. And here's what's happening
in celebrity news. Baby Sherry. She is speaking out there
saying that she has a message job for all the
girl is honey.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
In their dating area.
Speaker 5 (01:06):
Y'all.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Now, I love.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
Miss Sherry Shepherd Hunt, but she said in a recent interview,
you'll with missus Andrew Martinez, y'all, for her podcast. She said,
sherrif advise young women baby not to stay with a
man baby simply because of its potential they may see
in him.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Now they're saying it.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
The TV talk show hosts noted that this is something
she's done many times before. And here's what Sherry had
to say.
Speaker 6 (01:28):
Uh huh.
Speaker 7 (01:29):
You get involved or get in relationships with people, and
it's about what they believe this person could become.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Potential, the potential. You in love with a potential. Hear
hear me poten show. Mm hmm, all right, here have
you done that? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (01:47):
When I was in my twenties and my thirties, in
my forties, yeah, you're not doing potential.
Speaker 8 (01:51):
And we don't do potential no more now because I
know he's like, I know who I am.
Speaker 4 (01:56):
I don't want to waste your time.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
I don't want to waste my time.
Speaker 8 (02:00):
But at this stage where I am, I can't help
you build.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Oh my god, Rickaez, that's something for a woman to
say about men, because you know, men start off a
little later than women. They you know, got to move
out their mama's house and stuff, and you know, being
had a bunch of children when they was in high
school and they got to get theirself situated. So don't
you think a woman should work with a man? You
know why he has potentially? Yes, she don't have to.
(02:25):
She don't have to, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 9 (02:28):
You know, we don't want nobody coming in those situations
taking advantage of her and everything that she worked hard
to build.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
Right, Yeah, but if she loved him, she will wait
on him and work hard with her.
Speaker 4 (02:38):
Time for that, she's saying.
Speaker 7 (02:39):
At this age and being as adult as she is,
she ain't trying to have to do nobody with pole potential.
Speaker 4 (02:46):
All right, God, it makes sense to me too.
Speaker 7 (02:49):
She's a certain stature and she don't want to have
to take care of nobody with her. It's different when
you're young, young, but when you get older you'd be like,
you know what you want and don't want to do with.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
Well, that's understo.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
But you know, little Roy sometimes get a lady to
start because it's hard.
Speaker 7 (03:04):
Well, then it's always somebody else other than little Leroy.
You just have to be patient and they then wait.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
Shall the wings of an evil eagle.
Speaker 7 (03:15):
Now that's a different one. Mound of wings like an eagle,
that's a different one.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
They that wait on the laws shall mount on the
wings of an eagle that you saw and never faint.
I think you O my goodness, oh boy read not
a queen Jane.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Miss Oh, I'm gonna get it together.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
But anyway, share, Well, congratulations then, honey, you don't want
to have people potential? Honey, just think of all, y'all.
We care, y'all laughing, Oh, y'all have potential. Then you
finally became somebody. So let I mean, but somebody waiting
on you and worked on you. Wait, yeah, but anyway, yeah, okay,
congratulations share waiting for nobody?
Speaker 2 (04:01):
All right? Moving on and un celebrity new y'all.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Oh, just every time I get a story from carneb
it saddens my heart, y'all.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Now Cordeb y'all, she got very candy, y'all.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
About the end of her marriage to Aus, said she
remembers feeling the love dying from both sides. Now, they said,
she talked about all the emotional turmoil she faced during
her marriage to Aun, said now. Following the release of
her sowhomore album, am I Had the Drama? The rapper appeared,
y'all recent on the podcast, and she opened up y'all
about the end of her relationship with her strange husband.
(04:30):
When I asked about the challenging phase of their marriage,
Card recalled feeling the love dying from both sides and
how she was crying Rickie and heart almost every day
now they were saying. During that appearance on the podcast
The Love and Hip Hop of Alam revealed that she
was baling a dark depression a year ago. She admitted,
y'all that these intense emotions were the result not only
(04:53):
of her feeling relationship, but her career pressures from being
y'all in the music industry. She said that she felt
very lonely at that point in her marriage. Card explained that, Honey,
she wanted to put a stop to it, but she said,
it can't happen until the heart said so. So, despite
telling herself repeatedly not to contact us, said she was
(05:14):
crying and hurting every day, and I could see her
going through that. I could feel that, you know, going
through that heartache every day, because I never forget when
I went through a hearted honey, and I said, it
before a heartache, and nothing like a headache.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Honey.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
You could take an aspron in that damn here they gone,
But that heartache lingers on.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Was painful. What I know it?
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Oh, I mean I drove him down peach tree, honey
playing Regina Bell, Honey, how could you do it to me?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Over and over until I finally got over it?
Speaker 9 (05:43):
And uh so you poured a whole lot into the
relationship and it just got rough to what he is,
what he was stepping out or he just didn't appreciate you.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
Yeah, both, and honey, it just tore my heart apart, honey.
And I mean Regina Bell saying that song Honey, she
ministered to me, honey, listening song I never get I
saw in the store and I told, honey, that song
did a lot for me, honey, during my trying time,
cause I never been to a hearty before.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
So I was so glad. Wants the name of the song.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
How could you do it to me? By Regina Bell?
She said, how could you leave me here this weight?
After all we've been through. You just turned and walked away?
She said, how could you do it to me?
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Oh? It was such a touching song, honey. How long
was you in that relationship? About a year or two?
And I cried, honey, yeah.
Speaker 8 (06:28):
Crazy, Now, like what's the deal you run.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
You're going to run the balls with Jesus. Oh, yes,
he died.
Speaker 10 (06:37):
No, just that it yep.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Let me listening to a radio ship leaveing and just wait.
Listen to what she said. After all we've been into
was honey, you still think about him?
Speaker 8 (07:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:09):
She said, what you just turned and walked away? Do
you still do you still think about him?
Speaker 10 (07:15):
Yeah? You know?
Speaker 8 (07:17):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Wait he died, Yeah, he died. Yeah, he had had.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
Missed that part when he had a hard things singing
with my day after Christmas a couple of years ago.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Did you go to the funeral? They wanted me to go,
but I don't.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
I mean the family kind of was needy and I
didn't feel like going to all that.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
He wanted me to play for it. I'm trying about the.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
Chili flake on high you say chili flake and on
the lawn just say beautiful red.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
That's your color for the day. Hey, I'm just telling
the truth. He wants you to donate a little. I
just couldn't do it. So sitting so I'm like, I'm
(08:10):
I mean, Rick, go a little short man. They needed
a little donation.
Speaker 11 (08:16):
We need to investigate this, you can, We really need
to look at this. We need to investigate this because
I ain't never heard nothing like that all the stay
he dead after.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
You should have told me that. Did you get an obituary? No,
because I didn't go to the funeral?
Speaker 5 (08:38):
Oh lord, did you see that post?
Speaker 2 (08:44):
So here's what's training.
Speaker 9 (08:47):
Forty shall y'all want to jump in down this relationship stuff.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Y'all need to hit me right now in the phone
lines A wound open at.
Speaker 9 (08:53):
Eight six six now ricket eight sixty six now, I
c e y now this morning, we're about to get
real opening on this and men back with us this
morning is television personality author, relationship expert, and certified sex
and intimacy coach, she said, master of all things love
and sex related, and her mission is to help you.
(09:13):
That's right, and your partner explore new and exciting ways
to communicate, resong, conflict and spipes up your love life.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
So y'all, please work and please time to see you more.
Speaker 4 (09:26):
Thank you, thank you so much.
Speaker 9 (09:29):
Happy to have you this morning. And we're talking about
international dating. Uh, and I've been seeing a whole lot
of that online. Explain what that is dating?
Speaker 2 (09:39):
Oh wait a minute, what I said? I said international?
Give me a British accent.
Speaker 9 (09:45):
Wait a minute, Wait a minute, it has been a
lot of international, So that's why that's why I thought
that saying international, I'm just reading, but I'm just I'm
just thinking. That's what it is intentional dating.
Speaker 12 (09:59):
So intentional dating is when you state your intentions early
in the relationship. So it's actually called future proofing, right,
And so what happens is you state exactly what it
is that you want paint a picture of how you
envision the rest of your life to look earlier versus later.
Because what happens if you don't do that soon enough
(10:20):
you end up, you know, in a relationship with somebody
that you don't share the same end goal too, and
then don't start sleeping with them, and then you know,
you roll over two years later like why are you
even here? Like we don't even have the same goals,
you don't even have the same dreams, and then you've
wasted two years of your life with somebody that you
have no business with.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
Wow, okay, you know she is it?
Speaker 7 (10:47):
How early should they tell the other person their deal breakers,
expectations or long term goals?
Speaker 12 (10:51):
Yeah, so, Brad, you know what I would recommend either
the first two or three conversations or the first two
or three dates to have that conversation, because what we
don't want to do is waste time, like we don't
have that type of time to waste and that and
people are making decisions very early on if they're if
they want to be in relationship with you or not.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
So, so is it too far to talk about kids,
finance in the values on the first day. Then when
is the right time to start having those conversations.
Speaker 12 (11:18):
Yeah, no, no, it's not too soon. I say to
have them as soon as possible, have them right away.
So if you desire to be married, I mean, you
don't sit there with a checklist like like it's an
interview what we call it.
Speaker 4 (11:29):
A right podcast exactly.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Like a regular conversation, ask questions.
Speaker 12 (11:37):
No, and nobody wants it like that. But well, here's
what I will tell you. This is his' or a
tip that I'll give you. Though, if you desire marriage right,
all you have to do is paint a pictures. Say
you know what, I just love the idea of marriage.
I love seeing people together holding hands. I mean I
want that from myself. Okay, so how do you feel
about it? So that way, You're not like, do you
want to be married? When do you want to be married?
My timeline is a you know, a year from today,
(11:59):
So it's you don't have a conversation like that. You
paint a picture of the reasons why you love love
and that you love marriage and that is my end goal.
And I'm dating with intention at this time around.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
You mean you talk about that on the first date.
I'm seeing that were dating and we talk about having
kids on the first day.
Speaker 4 (12:14):
No, no, not having kids, but you talk.
Speaker 12 (12:15):
You paint a picture of how you envision the rest
of your life. And so either the first date or
two yeah, because what you don't want to do is
spend time and waste time with somebody who don't share
the same goals because you can be on to the
next This is a numbers game.
Speaker 13 (12:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
I would think to me, like you should lie just
about dog way.
Speaker 12 (12:37):
No, no, And so we're not lying because what we
don't want to do is start started out like that,
because that's how you get tricked. Right when I said that,
you end up in bed with them, right, and then
two years later it's like, why are we You know
you started too early? You start having sex too early
without having those deep conversations about how you envision your life.
Speaker 2 (12:53):
And that brings me to my question.
Speaker 8 (12:54):
You know how some people wind up with the same
kind of people, Like, what does it really mean when
a person only attracts a certain type of part It?
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Is it about energy? Behavior?
Speaker 12 (13:04):
What is that?
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Yeah question?
Speaker 12 (13:06):
Yeah, great question, ALFREDA. So what happens is you are you?
You are a walking advertisement of what you attract. So
if your energy portrays that I'm sexual and I'm sensual
and all these things, You're going to attract the same
type of people that just desire to have sex with you.
What does your social media say about you?
Speaker 4 (13:26):
What?
Speaker 12 (13:26):
What energy are you portraying? So energy has a whole
lot to do with it. So again, like I said,
you are walking advertising what you try. I suggest that
you look in the mirror and ask yourself, would you
date you?
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Oh? Right, that you realize she ain't got no box spring?
Speaker 6 (13:44):
My god?
Speaker 8 (13:45):
You know what.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
The floor.
Speaker 7 (13:53):
Well, when a person goes through a breakup, it can
affect your self esteem and comfort, right, what advice can
you give them to try to rebuild and get back
in the dating game after a heartbreak?
Speaker 12 (14:03):
Yeah, so I would recommend that they do some self
reflection after a breakup and a heartbreak. You know what,
first of all, it you know, it couldn't have been
totally wrong because you were in relationship with that person.
Speaker 4 (14:13):
So pick out the good.
Speaker 12 (14:14):
Qualities in that relationship that were great and the bad
ones you're not gonna take with you, but the good
ones you will. But again, do some self reflection to
help build your confidence. What is it about me that
again keeps attracting the same person and my relationships keep
going awry? So well, you know what, I think that
you should not necessarily be single for a long time,
(14:37):
because again, it's a numbers game, right. Your person's out there,
but you just got to get to them. And I
just I would just suggest that you take a reflection, like,
look again, look in the mirror.
Speaker 4 (14:47):
What can I do differently?
Speaker 12 (14:48):
What did I What was my contribution to this failed relationship?
Speaker 4 (14:53):
Those types of questions.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
Oh, wowship with relationship?
Speaker 9 (14:57):
We're trying to see gil more hit Does that been
a six?
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Six? I see you on. Let's go to the phone.
Good morning.
Speaker 6 (15:04):
Yes, I've just been go for over ten years and
I am just trying to bike about to get back
into the bating world, especially for a single.
Speaker 12 (15:14):
Mom question with congratulations for wanting to get back out there.
So I would make a list of how you envision
this next chapter to look with your new mate and
we're and create an avatar of where he or she
would be. So, for example, if you know you want
someone who is corporate and attend, you know, certain functions.
(15:37):
You know, go to golf clubs, go to high end
hotels and sit at the bar. Go to the gyms
between five am and seven am, because those were the
corporate men go. They'll go in their gym clothes, but
they'll have their suit ready to go, like those types
of things.
Speaker 4 (15:53):
So that's where you would go to start it.
Speaker 9 (15:55):
Yeah, I forgot that. You forgot about the boat show
the boats. Yeah, I'll tell y'all something.
Speaker 4 (16:01):
Say that the boat show is everything.
Speaker 9 (16:04):
It's a lot of it's a lot of boat captains
that they're having it right now in Fort Loud of
Deal over there at the boy here of Mar Hotel.
Speaker 2 (16:12):
Go over there to the boat show. I go to
the boat show every year.
Speaker 9 (16:15):
So us boat captains be walking around looking for new
items for you know, for those like myself that that
like the fish or whatever. But the boat show, that's
a good place to go.
Speaker 12 (16:27):
You know, it's a person to you, know what I mean.
So this depends on who you want you're attracted to,
and where you want to meet them.
Speaker 9 (16:33):
Put on you a nice little sun dressing, some wedge
heels and hair blowing in the wind, and walk around
that boat show acting like you're looking for something for your.
Speaker 4 (16:41):
Boat and smile and straight hello to somebody.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
So the problem looking like, don't come over here?
Speaker 4 (16:51):
Yeah, so look approachable. So that's what.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
You your mind be tooted it up for.
Speaker 9 (16:55):
Tooted it up, all right, Yeah, tooted it up, hitting
the mark ground with your mind, tuned it up, knowing
somebody gonna.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Speak to you.
Speaker 9 (17:03):
Tuned it up, Ye, standing on the back of your leg,
Come on that, relax allright? Eight six six now, Rick
you good morning.
Speaker 13 (17:11):
If I wanted to get back up here in the
dating world to being married for thirty eight years, then
my husband passed away, what should I be looking for?
Speaker 12 (17:23):
Well, I mean, it depends on what phase you are
in your life. And so I'm so sorry to hear
about your husband passing. But again, so you should be
looking for depends on what's important to you someone with stability,
someone with security, someone that that you want.
Speaker 4 (17:39):
To have a great time with. This next chapter should
be your best chapter.
Speaker 12 (17:43):
So I think that you need to look think about
all things that make you happy and start looking for
qualities of the person that you want to spend the
rest of your life to look with.
Speaker 9 (17:54):
Yeah, I met the girl on my dreams. We went
to the Wacker House in her hands like a luons
all morning.
Speaker 3 (17:58):
I can't even do it, manut with you man your
hands before you went to the bottle.
Speaker 2 (18:05):
House that's on Facebook, she'd be typing the pictures or whatever.
Speaker 9 (18:10):
I should hold that part like you know how you
be holding your kids tea spoons, you be having tea,
which having tea with their kids with their little teacups
like that. All right, this goes in the big hands
hands man.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Man, when oh my god, man, hold hands I gave.
I gave her a fist bump. Boy, you would you would?
Speaker 9 (18:33):
You would have thought I had came back to the
huddles and gloves.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
Send up that like I feel like I was sending
up that the line.
Speaker 3 (18:40):
Of scrimmage holding hands with Josh.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
All right, good buddy all the time to see gil boy.
Speaker 8 (18:51):
So nowadays, you know, there's a whole lot of focus
on you know, how.
Speaker 4 (18:56):
Women look and the B B O.
Speaker 8 (18:58):
And all of that kind of stuff. And so like
if you on the dating apps and that kind of thing,
you know, people showing all that kind of stuff. How
do you find your person when you're older and that's
not your style? You know, like what advice do they
have to meet people once you're older?
Speaker 12 (19:13):
You know exactly, we do nothing. Listen, So most men
tell me, because I own a matchmaking own a matchmaking agency,
also that they don't prefer that. So I think you
should be authentic as to who you are. Your person
will enjoy you of who you are. So what you
can do, though, is to make your if you're doing
(19:34):
online dating, like you just say that that you were.
Make your pictures look fun and inviting and smile, and
they should paint a picture and a story of about
your life. So don't even think about these vbls. Don't
think about you know, the big breasts and all of
those things. Think about how do the best that you
can do for yourself. You know, if you need to
(19:54):
switch your hair up, switch it up, if you need
to buy some clothes that fit and that represent color.
Do that, but don't try to conform to be someone
else because you think that that's what they like.
Speaker 4 (20:04):
They don't yet.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
The thing be hard and d had a squeeze bar.
Girl in the clutter felt like to mobile helmets and
you know what I mean.
Speaker 12 (20:15):
That's I mean, that's a narrative that you want to
just hell, do yourself. Do yourself. That person will adore you.
And everything that you have.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
Said is that a face mask? Yeah, are going too far.
Let everybody know. Let that we got any to let
everybody know if they.
Speaker 5 (20:43):
Want, right down to raiders helmet in your pants, trying
to let everybody know how you can be reached.
Speaker 2 (20:57):
And you also match make as well.
Speaker 12 (20:59):
Yeah, so yes, if you're a single and looking to
be matched, you can contact the matchmaking duo dot com.
And if you are a couple looking for some support
in your relationships, you can go to Tannagilmour dot com.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
And I appreciate you
It's Friday and I'm broke, and it's Friday, and I'm
broke from It's Friday and I'm broke.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
It's Friday and I'm broke.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
From my check don't come till next week. My check
better not be choking. And I check don't come till
next week. My check better not be choking. But I'm
act like I'm rich. Act like I'm rich, and like
I'm rich. Act like I'm rich, and like I'm rich,
like I'm rich, and like I'm rich, like I'm rich.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Hold up, wait minute, parking is on.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Ain't got nothing, but I ain't gonna I'm gonna get
the same.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Hold chess man, half woman?
Speaker 4 (00:41):
Yes, yeah, Ray, you want to help you.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Other day? Get Ray?
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Good morning Ricky, Good morning America, Good morning you. It's Friday,
a beautiful beautiful in the neighborhood. And here's what's happening
in celebrity news. Baby Sherry. She is speaking out there
saying that she has a message job for all the
girl is honey.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
In their dating area.
Speaker 5 (01:06):
Y'all.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Now, I love.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
Miss Sherry Shepherd Hunt, but she said in a recent interview,
you'll with missus Andrew Martinez, y'all, for her podcast. She said,
sherrif advise young women baby not to stay with a
man baby simply because of its potential they may see
in him.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Now they're saying it.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
The TV talk show hosts noted that this is something
she's done many times before. And here's what Sherry had
to say.
Speaker 6 (01:28):
Uh huh.
Speaker 7 (01:29):
You get involved or get in relationships with people, and
it's about what they believe this person could become.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Potential, the potential. You in love with a potential. Hear
hear me poten show. Mm hmm, all right, here have
you done that? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (01:47):
When I was in my twenties and my thirties, in
my forties, yeah, you're not doing potential.
Speaker 8 (01:51):
And we don't do potential no more now because I
know he's like, I know who I am.
Speaker 4 (01:56):
I don't want to waste your time.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
I don't want to waste my time.
Speaker 8 (02:00):
But at this stage where I am, I can't help
you build.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Oh my god, Rickaez, that's something for a woman to
say about men, because you know, men start off a
little later than women. They you know, got to move
out their mama's house and stuff, and you know, being
had a bunch of children when they was in high
school and they got to get theirself situated. So don't
you think a woman should work with a man? You
know why he has potentially? Yes, she don't have to.
(02:25):
She don't have to, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 9 (02:28):
You know, we don't want nobody coming in those situations
taking advantage of her and everything that she worked hard
to build.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
Right, Yeah, but if she loved him, she will wait
on him and work hard with her.
Speaker 4 (02:38):
Time for that, she's saying.
Speaker 7 (02:39):
At this age and being as adult as she is,
she ain't trying to have to do nobody with pole potential.
Speaker 4 (02:46):
All right, God, it makes sense to me too.
Speaker 7 (02:49):
She's a certain stature and she don't want to have
to take care of nobody with her. It's different when
you're young, young, but when you get older you'd be like,
you know what you want and don't want to do with.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
Well, that's understo.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
But you know, little Roy sometimes get a lady to
start because it's hard.
Speaker 7 (03:04):
Well, then it's always somebody else other than little Leroy.
You just have to be patient and they then wait.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
Shall the wings of an evil eagle.
Speaker 7 (03:15):
Now that's a different one. Mound of wings like an eagle,
that's a different one.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
They that wait on the laws shall mount on the
wings of an eagle that you saw and never faint.
I think you O my goodness, oh boy read not
a queen Jane.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Miss Oh, I'm gonna get it together.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
But anyway, share, Well, congratulations then, honey, you don't want
to have people potential? Honey, just think of all, y'all.
We care, y'all laughing, Oh, y'all have potential. Then you
finally became somebody. So let I mean, but somebody waiting
on you and worked on you. Wait, yeah, but anyway, yeah, okay,
congratulations share waiting for nobody?
Speaker 2 (04:01):
All right? Moving on and un celebrity new y'all.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Oh, just every time I get a story from carneb
it saddens my heart, y'all.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Now Cordeb y'all, she got very candy, y'all.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
About the end of her marriage to Aus, said she
remembers feeling the love dying from both sides. Now, they said,
she talked about all the emotional turmoil she faced during
her marriage to Aun, said now. Following the release of
her sowhomore album, am I Had the Drama? The rapper appeared,
y'all recent on the podcast, and she opened up y'all
about the end of her relationship with her strange husband.
(04:30):
When I asked about the challenging phase of their marriage,
Card recalled feeling the love dying from both sides and
how she was crying Rickie and heart almost every day
now they were saying. During that appearance on the podcast
The Love and Hip Hop of Alam revealed that she
was baling a dark depression a year ago. She admitted,
y'all that these intense emotions were the result not only
(04:53):
of her feeling relationship, but her career pressures from being
y'all in the music industry. She said that she felt
very lonely at that point in her marriage. Card explained that, Honey,
she wanted to put a stop to it, but she said,
it can't happen until the heart said so. So, despite
telling herself repeatedly not to contact us, said she was
(05:14):
crying and hurting every day, and I could see her
going through that. I could feel that, you know, going
through that heartache every day, because I never forget when
I went through a hearted honey, and I said, it
before a heartache, and nothing like a headache.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Honey.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
You could take an aspron in that damn here they gone,
But that heartache lingers on.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Was painful. What I know it?
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Oh, I mean I drove him down peach tree, honey
playing Regina Bell, Honey, how could you do it to me?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Over and over until I finally got over it?
Speaker 9 (05:43):
And uh so you poured a whole lot into the
relationship and it just got rough to what he is,
what he was stepping out or he just didn't appreciate you.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
Yeah, both, and honey, it just tore my heart apart, honey.
And I mean Regina Bell saying that song Honey, she
ministered to me, honey, listening song I never get I
saw in the store and I told, honey, that song
did a lot for me, honey, during my trying time,
cause I never been to a hearty before.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
So I was so glad. Wants the name of the song.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
How could you do it to me? By Regina Bell?
She said, how could you leave me here this weight?
After all we've been through. You just turned and walked away?
She said, how could you do it to me?
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Oh? It was such a touching song, honey. How long
was you in that relationship? About a year or two?
And I cried, honey, yeah.
Speaker 8 (06:28):
Crazy, Now, like what's the deal you run.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
You're going to run the balls with Jesus. Oh, yes,
he died.
Speaker 10 (06:37):
No, just that it yep.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Let me listening to a radio ship leaveing and just wait.
Listen to what she said. After all we've been into
was honey, you still think about him?
Speaker 8 (07:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:09):
She said, what you just turned and walked away? Do
you still do you still think about him?
Speaker 10 (07:15):
Yeah? You know?
Speaker 8 (07:17):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Wait he died, Yeah, he died. Yeah, he had had.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
Missed that part when he had a hard things singing
with my day after Christmas a couple of years ago.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Did you go to the funeral? They wanted me to go,
but I don't.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
I mean the family kind of was needy and I
didn't feel like going to all that.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
He wanted me to play for it. I'm trying about the.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
Chili flake on high you say chili flake and on
the lawn just say beautiful red.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
That's your color for the day. Hey, I'm just telling
the truth. He wants you to donate a little. I
just couldn't do it. So sitting so I'm like, I'm
(08:10):
I mean, Rick, go a little short man. They needed
a little donation.
Speaker 11 (08:16):
We need to investigate this, you can, We really need
to look at this. We need to investigate this because
I ain't never heard nothing like that all the stay
he dead after.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
You should have told me that. Did you get an obituary? No,
because I didn't go to the funeral?
Speaker 5 (08:38):
Oh lord, did you see that post?
Speaker 2 (08:44):
So here's what's training.
Speaker 9 (08:47):
Forty shall y'all want to jump in down this relationship stuff.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Y'all need to hit me right now in the phone
lines A wound open at.
Speaker 9 (08:53):
Eight six six now ricket eight sixty six now, I
c e y now this morning, we're about to get
real opening on this and men back with us this
morning is television personality author, relationship expert, and certified sex
and intimacy coach, she said, master of all things love
and sex related, and her mission is to help you.
(09:13):
That's right, and your partner explore new and exciting ways
to communicate, resong, conflict and spipes up your love life.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
So y'all, please work and please time to see you more.
Speaker 4 (09:26):
Thank you, thank you so much.
Speaker 9 (09:29):
Happy to have you this morning. And we're talking about
international dating. Uh, and I've been seeing a whole lot
of that online. Explain what that is dating?
Speaker 2 (09:39):
Oh wait a minute, what I said? I said international?
Give me a British accent.
Speaker 9 (09:45):
Wait a minute, Wait a minute, it has been a
lot of international, So that's why that's why I thought
that saying international, I'm just reading, but I'm just I'm
just thinking. That's what it is intentional dating.
Speaker 12 (09:59):
So intentional dating is when you state your intentions early
in the relationship. So it's actually called future proofing, right,
And so what happens is you state exactly what it
is that you want paint a picture of how you
envision the rest of your life to look earlier versus later.
Because what happens if you don't do that soon enough
(10:20):
you end up, you know, in a relationship with somebody
that you don't share the same end goal too, and
then don't start sleeping with them, and then you know,
you roll over two years later like why are you
even here? Like we don't even have the same goals,
you don't even have the same dreams, and then you've
wasted two years of your life with somebody that you
have no business with.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
Wow, okay, you know she is it?
Speaker 7 (10:47):
How early should they tell the other person their deal breakers,
expectations or long term goals?
Speaker 12 (10:51):
Yeah, so, Brad, you know what I would recommend either
the first two or three conversations or the first two
or three dates to have that conversation, because what we
don't want to do is waste time, like we don't
have that type of time to waste and that and
people are making decisions very early on if they're if
they want to be in relationship with you or not.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
So, so is it too far to talk about kids,
finance in the values on the first day. Then when
is the right time to start having those conversations.
Speaker 12 (11:18):
Yeah, no, no, it's not too soon. I say to
have them as soon as possible, have them right away.
So if you desire to be married, I mean, you
don't sit there with a checklist like like it's an
interview what we call it.
Speaker 4 (11:29):
A right podcast exactly.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Like a regular conversation, ask questions.
Speaker 12 (11:37):
No, and nobody wants it like that. But well, here's
what I will tell you. This is his' or a
tip that I'll give you. Though, if you desire marriage right,
all you have to do is paint a pictures. Say
you know what, I just love the idea of marriage.
I love seeing people together holding hands. I mean I
want that from myself. Okay, so how do you feel
about it? So that way, You're not like, do you
want to be married? When do you want to be married?
My timeline is a you know, a year from today,
(11:59):
So it's you don't have a conversation like that. You
paint a picture of the reasons why you love love
and that you love marriage and that is my end goal.
And I'm dating with intention at this time around.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
You mean you talk about that on the first date.
I'm seeing that were dating and we talk about having
kids on the first day.
Speaker 4 (12:14):
No, no, not having kids, but you talk.
Speaker 12 (12:15):
You paint a picture of how you envision the rest
of your life. And so either the first date or
two yeah, because what you don't want to do is
spend time and waste time with somebody who don't share
the same goals because you can be on to the
next This is a numbers game.
Speaker 13 (12:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
I would think to me, like you should lie just
about dog way.
Speaker 12 (12:37):
No, no, And so we're not lying because what we
don't want to do is start started out like that,
because that's how you get tricked. Right when I said that,
you end up in bed with them, right, and then
two years later it's like, why are we You know
you started too early? You start having sex too early
without having those deep conversations about how you envision your life.
Speaker 2 (12:53):
And that brings me to my question.
Speaker 8 (12:54):
You know how some people wind up with the same
kind of people, Like, what does it really mean when
a person only attracts a certain type of part It?
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Is it about energy? Behavior?
Speaker 12 (13:04):
What is that?
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Yeah question?
Speaker 12 (13:06):
Yeah, great question, ALFREDA. So what happens is you are you?
You are a walking advertisement of what you attract. So
if your energy portrays that I'm sexual and I'm sensual
and all these things, You're going to attract the same
type of people that just desire to have sex with you.
What does your social media say about you?
Speaker 4 (13:26):
What?
Speaker 12 (13:26):
What energy are you portraying? So energy has a whole
lot to do with it. So again, like I said,
you are walking advertising what you try. I suggest that
you look in the mirror and ask yourself, would you
date you?
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Oh? Right, that you realize she ain't got no box spring?
Speaker 6 (13:44):
My god?
Speaker 8 (13:45):
You know what.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
The floor.
Speaker 7 (13:53):
Well, when a person goes through a breakup, it can
affect your self esteem and comfort, right, what advice can
you give them to try to rebuild and get back
in the dating game after a heartbreak?
Speaker 12 (14:03):
Yeah, so I would recommend that they do some self
reflection after a breakup and a heartbreak. You know what,
first of all, it you know, it couldn't have been
totally wrong because you were in relationship with that person.
Speaker 4 (14:13):
So pick out the good.
Speaker 12 (14:14):
Qualities in that relationship that were great and the bad
ones you're not gonna take with you, but the good
ones you will. But again, do some self reflection to
help build your confidence. What is it about me that
again keeps attracting the same person and my relationships keep
going awry? So well, you know what, I think that
you should not necessarily be single for a long time,
(14:37):
because again, it's a numbers game, right. Your person's out there,
but you just got to get to them. And I
just I would just suggest that you take a reflection, like,
look again, look in the mirror.
Speaker 4 (14:47):
What can I do differently?
Speaker 12 (14:48):
What did I What was my contribution to this failed relationship?
Speaker 4 (14:53):
Those types of questions.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
Oh, wowship with relationship?
Speaker 9 (14:57):
We're trying to see gil more hit Does that been
a six?
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Six? I see you on. Let's go to the phone.
Good morning.
Speaker 6 (15:04):
Yes, I've just been go for over ten years and
I am just trying to bike about to get back
into the bating world, especially for a single.
Speaker 12 (15:14):
Mom question with congratulations for wanting to get back out there.
So I would make a list of how you envision
this next chapter to look with your new mate and
we're and create an avatar of where he or she
would be. So, for example, if you know you want
someone who is corporate and attend, you know, certain functions.
(15:37):
You know, go to golf clubs, go to high end
hotels and sit at the bar. Go to the gyms
between five am and seven am, because those were the
corporate men go. They'll go in their gym clothes, but
they'll have their suit ready to go, like those types
of things.
Speaker 4 (15:53):
So that's where you would go to start it.
Speaker 9 (15:55):
Yeah, I forgot that. You forgot about the boat show
the boats. Yeah, I'll tell y'all something.
Speaker 4 (16:01):
Say that the boat show is everything.
Speaker 9 (16:04):
It's a lot of it's a lot of boat captains
that they're having it right now in Fort Loud of
Deal over there at the boy here of Mar Hotel.
Speaker 2 (16:12):
Go over there to the boat show. I go to
the boat show every year.
Speaker 9 (16:15):
So us boat captains be walking around looking for new
items for you know, for those like myself that that
like the fish or whatever. But the boat show, that's
a good place to go.
Speaker 12 (16:27):
You know, it's a person to you, know what I mean.
So this depends on who you want you're attracted to,
and where you want to meet them.
Speaker 9 (16:33):
Put on you a nice little sun dressing, some wedge
heels and hair blowing in the wind, and walk around
that boat show acting like you're looking for something for your.
Speaker 4 (16:41):
Boat and smile and straight hello to somebody.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
So the problem looking like, don't come over here?
Speaker 4 (16:51):
Yeah, so look approachable. So that's what.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
You your mind be tooted it up for.
Speaker 9 (16:55):
Tooted it up, all right, Yeah, tooted it up, hitting
the mark ground with your mind, tuned it up, knowing
somebody gonna.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Speak to you.
Speaker 9 (17:03):
Tuned it up, Ye, standing on the back of your leg,
Come on that, relax allright? Eight six six now, Rick
you good morning.
Speaker 13 (17:11):
If I wanted to get back up here in the
dating world to being married for thirty eight years, then
my husband passed away, what should I be looking for?
Speaker 12 (17:23):
Well, I mean, it depends on what phase you are
in your life. And so I'm so sorry to hear
about your husband passing. But again, so you should be
looking for depends on what's important to you someone with stability,
someone with security, someone that that you want.
Speaker 4 (17:39):
To have a great time with. This next chapter should
be your best chapter.
Speaker 12 (17:43):
So I think that you need to look think about
all things that make you happy and start looking for
qualities of the person that you want to spend the
rest of your life to look with.
Speaker 9 (17:54):
Yeah, I met the girl on my dreams. We went
to the Wacker House in her hands like a luons
all morning.
Speaker 3 (17:58):
I can't even do it, manut with you man your
hands before you went to the bottle.
Speaker 2 (18:05):
House that's on Facebook, she'd be typing the pictures or whatever.
Speaker 9 (18:10):
I should hold that part like you know how you
be holding your kids tea spoons, you be having tea,
which having tea with their kids with their little teacups
like that. All right, this goes in the big hands
hands man.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Man, when oh my god, man, hold hands I gave.
I gave her a fist bump. Boy, you would you would?
Speaker 9 (18:33):
You would have thought I had came back to the
huddles and gloves.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
Send up that like I feel like I was sending
up that the line.
Speaker 3 (18:40):
Of scrimmage holding hands with Josh.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
All right, good buddy all the time to see gil boy.
Speaker 8 (18:51):
So nowadays, you know, there's a whole lot of focus
on you know, how.
Speaker 4 (18:56):
Women look and the B B O.
Speaker 8 (18:58):
And all of that kind of stuff. And so like
if you on the dating apps and that kind of thing,
you know, people showing all that kind of stuff. How
do you find your person when you're older and that's
not your style? You know, like what advice do they
have to meet people once you're older?
Speaker 12 (19:13):
You know exactly, we do nothing. Listen, So most men
tell me, because I own a matchmaking own a matchmaking agency,
also that they don't prefer that. So I think you
should be authentic as to who you are. Your person
will enjoy you of who you are. So what you
can do, though, is to make your if you're doing
(19:34):
online dating, like you just say that that you were.
Make your pictures look fun and inviting and smile, and
they should paint a picture and a story of about
your life. So don't even think about these vbls. Don't
think about you know, the big breasts and all of
those things. Think about how do the best that you
can do for yourself. You know, if you need to
(19:54):
switch your hair up, switch it up, if you need
to buy some clothes that fit and that represent color.
Do that, but don't try to conform to be someone
else because you think that that's what they like.
Speaker 4 (20:04):
They don't yet.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
The thing be hard and d had a squeeze bar.
Girl in the clutter felt like to mobile helmets and
you know what I mean.
Speaker 12 (20:15):
That's I mean, that's a narrative that you want to
just hell, do yourself. Do yourself. That person will adore you.
And everything that you have.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
Said is that a face mask? Yeah, are going too far.
Let everybody know. Let that we got any to let
everybody know if they.
Speaker 5 (20:43):
Want, right down to raiders helmet in your pants, trying
to let everybody know how you can be reached.
Speaker 2 (20:57):
And you also match make as well.
Speaker 12 (20:59):
Yeah, so yes, if you're a single and looking to
be matched, you can contact the matchmaking duo dot com.
And if you are a couple looking for some support
in your relationships, you can go to Tannagilmour dot com.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
And I appreciate you
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