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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Okay, so can you have today's letter?
Speaker 2 (00:02):
What's going on? Real people realize situation. Let's dive into
and see if we can help this person out. Feel free,
you guys, leave be comments right here on the screen
and then the comment section. We will read your comments
in five seven, eight, June nine, three one two on
six every cold.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
What's up with a letter?
Speaker 3 (00:14):
All right, dear stam. After fifteen years of marriage, I
discovered my husband had been having a long term affair.
We divorced, and just one week after the papers were signed,
he married her, the same woman who openly mocked me
during our marriage, as if my pain were entertainment. We
share three children, and now he expects us to co
parent with smiles and civility, as if the past can
(00:37):
be swept away for the sake of appearances. I want
to do what's best for my kids, but I'm struggling.
How do I show up as a peaceful co parent
when the person beside him helped dismantle the life I built?
How do I protect my children's emotional well being without
betraying my own? Is it possible to create a healthy
environment for them without pretending that betrayal didn't happen.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
One How old are the kids?
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Uh, the kids were betrayed to to a certain degree. Yeah,
to a certain degree because they feel like, oh, my
daddy gone here you know, we must you be in
the house to a certain degree.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
You know what I'm saying. They feel daddy. So they
feel some type of.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Herb as well. So you're not the only one hurting.
The daddy's not even though he's still co parenting. They're
normal of seeing him every day. They feel some type of.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
You know, it's not the same for the kids because
the kids, you know, they're gonna be welcomed in a
different way.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Most of the time. They feel like who is this broad? Right,
that's what you mean. As a kid, they feel like
Daddy's gone and who is his broad.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
Well, I mean, kids pick up on a lot of stuff.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
So yeah, you gotta you gotta consider that. Now.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
I don't act like, oh, y'all just kids. No, that's
my daddy gone, and who is this that he didn't brought?
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Who is this? I'm not calling it mama? Okay.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
But so to answer that question, I think that you
have to go through the process of how you feel.
That's normal, that's human. You're not wrong with that, but
when it comes to the kids, okay, you cannot let
that interfere with them and they daddy, you cannot let
what happen between you and him, Okay, don't do that.
(02:24):
They already have, like I said, have they own may
have their own hurt, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
But you can't do that.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
It's just like it's just like when when if somebody cheats, Okay,
and it comes time to separate property and your divorce,
it ain't about all that. It's about them bills. You
can't bring all that, the bills and all that that
stuff is still you got to deal with all you know,
selling this.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
And all that.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Well, you broke my heart, so no, you still got
to be there for your kids. You can't punish the
key thinking you punishing him, you can't punish the kids.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Yeah, I mean, I think that the purpose that you
have to attach yourself to is the kids well being,
because you know, as adults, we get into relationships, we
decide what relationships we're going to be in, who we're
gonna deal with, and it doesn't go right sometimes, But
the kids don't really have a choice. So you have
to protect those kids. It's not their fault, it's not
their issue. To be your bestie in this situation, to
(03:28):
let them know what's going on. Trust me, whatever people,
whatever vibe people are throwing out, they will get that
same vibe back. You don't even have to lay a
finger on anybody on any situation. Just do you be
a good mother to your kids. They will respect you
for that and they will honor you for that. Don't
get dirty trying to you know, think about revenge on
(03:51):
this lady or him or any of that. That's just
going to keep you sucked into the whole situation. Let
them go. He's not your problem. Yeah, he's not your
problem anymore. Let her have that situation and you worry
about healing yourself and worry about your kids. Don't get
caught up in that.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Yeah, yeah, you'd be all sick and stuff.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
No, you can. It can make you sick.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Yeah, if you probably saved your ass.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
You be inappropriate with the kids, saying stuff, you know,
trying to make them the friends and make them side
with you. Don't do that to yourself. Don't do that
to your kids. Give them the distance they deserve.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
And move on. What you get in a common section.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
All right now, Karen said, my dad had multiple affairs
on my mom, and those witches would call and mock
her as well. It made her strong and she finally
left after twenty five years. When I tell you that
every one of those miserable witches died a horrible death
early in life, and one at the hands of her
own child, you reap what you sew. Live your best life,
(04:54):
Move on and don't let anything or anyone disturb your
peace of mind. Keep smiling. If he will cheat with her,
he will cheat on her trust.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Sounds like you done had something to do with the
women come with a mission. Well, oh, you're just gonna
cheat on mama, Mama, what did with this bra? Let
me help you out.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
I mean, the last thing I'm gonna do is give
some energy to somebody who doesn't even matter to me.
That's y'all relationship.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Leave me alone.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
So any women out there, your man left you for
another woman, and uh, she was marking you all in
your face.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Like I want I got him? How did you handle that?
Speaker 4 (05:33):
Like?
Speaker 1 (05:34):
Help this woman out? Like actually, people who have been through.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
It, like the young lady talking about how her daddy
was Tell mama, and we're gonna read more comments because
people go through that and it sounds easier what we're saying.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Ah, just gone and move on. It's not that easy.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
She got to see this broad and then she gotta
you know, her kids gotta still be around the lady.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
That was all you know, Well, she.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
Gotta see her. She don't got to see that lady.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
She still seeing kids some type of ways. Can you
get you and your feelings?
Speaker 1 (06:05):
It's about the damn kids. She just told them something
different now, you like, I can see that.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
I called the comment about the little story. Yeah, I
was in that situation where one of my kids fathers okay,
and it's a conversation between you and health because those
are your children. She's my heel. So right now her
being around her is not a good thing and she
(06:32):
don't have.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
To What about what about the kids.
Speaker 4 (06:36):
Make alternate arrangements to drop drop them off, to pick
them up. Where pin gotta come to her house. She
ain't got to go to her house.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 4 (06:45):
That's right, And just be honest with hem. I do
at this particular point in time, I'm not at that
place where I can either look at her type of
conversation with her children and find out how they feel
about it, and then go from there. Don't never bat
(07:07):
mouth that man. If he called and say he coming
to pick up the kids, take him and drop him off.
If he don't come pick him up, you don't go
get him. You make no excuses for them, none. And
whatever the woman's say, you just look at her and
smile and keep it moving, because the same way she
(07:30):
got him, it's the same way she gonna lose them.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
Do you think so?
Speaker 4 (07:35):
I know something? Okay, I know something because the girl
that was with him was the losing of them, because
she said that she was first. But we had a
whole two year old or how did he cheat on so?
How did he cheat on you with me? But I
got the two year old and my kids are grown now.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Okay, he.
Speaker 4 (08:03):
Popped out that baby saying exact treatment that I did,
and I watched it. If they will cheat on you
with what they wife with you, we marry you. Trust
to believe he already got a mistress, a sad piece
and amazing baby.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
All right, mother said, a baby? What's going on? Help
this woman out?
Speaker 5 (08:28):
Yes, I had somewhat of a regular situation. I was
engaged to be married to my son's.
Speaker 4 (08:34):
Father, and there was a girl that was.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
Like flirting with the both of us.
Speaker 4 (08:41):
I didn't know about that, y'all.
Speaker 5 (08:44):
Yeah, she she acts why she does, wanted me and
was you.
Speaker 4 (08:48):
Know, lying to him and sing that. So it made the.
Speaker 5 (08:52):
Situation worse and they ended up getting married. But then
he ended up getting his karma because he thought he
was gonna cheat on her, so she did it. Did
her want to on him? And now we're all friends.
But you know they learned her and apologize to me.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
And you mess around with her too.
Speaker 4 (09:11):
No, not at all.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Okay, what she looked like though, you know what.
Speaker 4 (09:20):
We look a lot alike. You know how people got
a fight. We look a lot alike.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
That's what she wanted, y'all to be sister family, both
of y'all the wise.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
There you go, But y'all have had no kids involved.
Speaker 4 (09:38):
So yeah, yeah we have.
Speaker 5 (09:40):
Me and him had a son. Yeah yeah, we had
a son, and you know, we all preparing friends to
hang out and all that now. But once he got
his karma, you know, I got my apology. So like
he ha said, it's no point in sitting up there
making us a stick. Move on with your life I'm
happy now, it's here.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
Day, so all right, and he's not with her, No,
all right?
Speaker 5 (10:02):
Get they still together?
Speaker 1 (10:03):
Oh okay, she just cheat it on yep.
Speaker 5 (10:06):
Got him back, and he thought he was gonna do
the same thing to her. Okay, And he learned, finally
learned this lesson.
Okay, so can you have today's letter?
Speaker 2 (00:02):
What's going on? Real people realize situation. Let's dive into
and see if we can help this person out. Feel free,
you guys, leave be comments right here on the screen
and then the comment section. We will read your comments
in five seven, eight, June nine, three one two on
six every cold.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
What's up with a letter?
Speaker 3 (00:14):
All right, dear stam. After fifteen years of marriage, I
discovered my husband had been having a long term affair.
We divorced, and just one week after the papers were signed,
he married her, the same woman who openly mocked me
during our marriage, as if my pain were entertainment. We
share three children, and now he expects us to co
parent with smiles and civility, as if the past can
(00:37):
be swept away for the sake of appearances. I want
to do what's best for my kids, but I'm struggling.
How do I show up as a peaceful co parent
when the person beside him helped dismantle the life I built?
How do I protect my children's emotional well being without
betraying my own? Is it possible to create a healthy
environment for them without pretending that betrayal didn't happen.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
One How old are the kids?
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Uh, the kids were betrayed to to a certain degree. Yeah,
to a certain degree because they feel like, oh, my
daddy gone here you know, we must you be in
the house to a certain degree.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
You know what I'm saying. They feel daddy. So they
feel some type of.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Herb as well. So you're not the only one hurting.
The daddy's not even though he's still co parenting. They're
normal of seeing him every day. They feel some type of.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
You know, it's not the same for the kids because
the kids, you know, they're gonna be welcomed in a
different way.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Most of the time. They feel like who is this broad? Right,
that's what you mean. As a kid, they feel like
Daddy's gone and who is his broad.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
Well, I mean, kids pick up on a lot of stuff.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
So yeah, you gotta you gotta consider that. Now.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
I don't act like, oh, y'all just kids. No, that's
my daddy gone, and who is this that he didn't brought?
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Who is this? I'm not calling it mama? Okay.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
But so to answer that question, I think that you
have to go through the process of how you feel.
That's normal, that's human. You're not wrong with that, but
when it comes to the kids, okay, you cannot let
that interfere with them and they daddy, you cannot let
what happen between you and him, Okay, don't do that.
(02:24):
They already have, like I said, have they own may
have their own hurt, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
But you can't do that.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
It's just like it's just like when when if somebody cheats, Okay,
and it comes time to separate property and your divorce,
it ain't about all that. It's about them bills. You
can't bring all that, the bills and all that that
stuff is still you got to deal with all you know,
selling this.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
And all that.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Well, you broke my heart, so no, you still got
to be there for your kids. You can't punish the
key thinking you punishing him, you can't punish the kids.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Yeah, I mean, I think that the purpose that you
have to attach yourself to is the kids well being,
because you know, as adults, we get into relationships, we
decide what relationships we're going to be in, who we're
gonna deal with, and it doesn't go right sometimes, But
the kids don't really have a choice. So you have
to protect those kids. It's not their fault, it's not
their issue. To be your bestie in this situation, to
(03:28):
let them know what's going on. Trust me, whatever people,
whatever vibe people are throwing out, they will get that
same vibe back. You don't even have to lay a
finger on anybody on any situation. Just do you be
a good mother to your kids. They will respect you
for that and they will honor you for that. Don't
get dirty trying to you know, think about revenge on
(03:51):
this lady or him or any of that. That's just
going to keep you sucked into the whole situation. Let
them go. He's not your problem. Yeah, he's not your
problem anymore. Let her have that situation and you worry
about healing yourself and worry about your kids. Don't get
caught up in that.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Yeah, yeah, you'd be all sick and stuff.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
No, you can. It can make you sick.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Yeah, if you probably saved your ass.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
You be inappropriate with the kids, saying stuff, you know,
trying to make them the friends and make them side
with you. Don't do that to yourself. Don't do that
to your kids. Give them the distance they deserve.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
And move on. What you get in a common section.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
All right now, Karen said, my dad had multiple affairs
on my mom, and those witches would call and mock
her as well. It made her strong and she finally
left after twenty five years. When I tell you that
every one of those miserable witches died a horrible death
early in life, and one at the hands of her
own child, you reap what you sew. Live your best life,
(04:54):
Move on and don't let anything or anyone disturb your
peace of mind. Keep smiling. If he will cheat with her,
he will cheat on her trust.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Sounds like you done had something to do with the
women come with a mission. Well, oh, you're just gonna
cheat on mama, Mama, what did with this bra? Let
me help you out.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
I mean, the last thing I'm gonna do is give
some energy to somebody who doesn't even matter to me.
That's y'all relationship.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Leave me alone.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
So any women out there, your man left you for
another woman, and uh, she was marking you all in
your face.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Like I want I got him? How did you handle that?
Speaker 4 (05:33):
Like?
Speaker 1 (05:34):
Help this woman out? Like actually, people who have been through.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
It, like the young lady talking about how her daddy
was Tell mama, and we're gonna read more comments because
people go through that and it sounds easier what we're saying.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Ah, just gone and move on. It's not that easy.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
She got to see this broad and then she gotta
you know, her kids gotta still be around the lady.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
That was all you know, Well, she.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
Gotta see her. She don't got to see that lady.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
She still seeing kids some type of ways. Can you
get you and your feelings?
Speaker 1 (06:05):
It's about the damn kids. She just told them something
different now, you like, I can see that.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
I called the comment about the little story. Yeah, I
was in that situation where one of my kids fathers okay,
and it's a conversation between you and health because those
are your children. She's my heel. So right now her
being around her is not a good thing and she
(06:32):
don't have.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
To What about what about the kids.
Speaker 4 (06:36):
Make alternate arrangements to drop drop them off, to pick
them up. Where pin gotta come to her house. She
ain't got to go to her house.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 4 (06:45):
That's right, And just be honest with hem. I do
at this particular point in time, I'm not at that
place where I can either look at her type of
conversation with her children and find out how they feel
about it, and then go from there. Don't never bat
(07:07):
mouth that man. If he called and say he coming
to pick up the kids, take him and drop him off.
If he don't come pick him up, you don't go
get him. You make no excuses for them, none. And
whatever the woman's say, you just look at her and
smile and keep it moving, because the same way she
(07:30):
got him, it's the same way she gonna lose them.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
Do you think so?
Speaker 4 (07:35):
I know something? Okay, I know something because the girl
that was with him was the losing of them, because
she said that she was first. But we had a
whole two year old or how did he cheat on so?
How did he cheat on you with me? But I
got the two year old and my kids are grown now.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Okay, he.
Speaker 4 (08:03):
Popped out that baby saying exact treatment that I did,
and I watched it. If they will cheat on you
with what they wife with you, we marry you. Trust
to believe he already got a mistress, a sad piece
and amazing baby.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
All right, mother said, a baby? What's going on? Help
this woman out?
Speaker 5 (08:28):
Yes, I had somewhat of a regular situation. I was
engaged to be married to my son's.
Speaker 4 (08:34):
Father, and there was a girl that was.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
Like flirting with the both of us.
Speaker 4 (08:41):
I didn't know about that, y'all.
Speaker 5 (08:44):
Yeah, she she acts why she does, wanted me and
was you.
Speaker 4 (08:48):
Know, lying to him and sing that. So it made the.
Speaker 5 (08:52):
Situation worse and they ended up getting married. But then
he ended up getting his karma because he thought he
was gonna cheat on her, so she did it. Did
her want to on him? And now we're all friends.
But you know they learned her and apologize to me.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
And you mess around with her too.
Speaker 4 (09:11):
No, not at all.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Okay, what she looked like though, you know what.
Speaker 4 (09:20):
We look a lot alike. You know how people got
a fight. We look a lot alike.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
That's what she wanted, y'all to be sister family, both
of y'all the wise.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
There you go, But y'all have had no kids involved.
Speaker 4 (09:38):
So yeah, yeah we have.
Speaker 5 (09:40):
Me and him had a son. Yeah yeah, we had
a son, and you know, we all preparing friends to
hang out and all that now. But once he got
his karma, you know, I got my apology. So like
he ha said, it's no point in sitting up there
making us a stick. Move on with your life I'm
happy now, it's here.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
Day, so all right, and he's not with her, No,
all right?
Speaker 5 (10:02):
Get they still together?
Speaker 1 (10:03):
Oh okay, she just cheat it on yep.
Speaker 5 (10:06):
Got him back, and he thought he was gonna do
the same thing to her. Okay, And he learned, finally
learned this lesson.
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