Reality Hour : If You're Doing The Most I'm Doing The Ghost

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Kia has Today's let him. Let's dive into it.

Speaker 2 (00:02):
What's going on, all right, Dear sam Am I wrong
for ghosting a man after I found out how he thinks.
I went on three dates with this man. On our
third date, we were at a bar watching Columbus Crew
versus some unimpressive soccer team not enter Miami, since MESSI
wasn't there, but just as dull when the game was

(00:23):
interrupted by a news bulletin. The news was about federal
officers busting a major sex trafficking with teenagers, both little
girls and boys. Yes, I called teenagers little because in
my book, sixteen years might as well be eighteen months.
I was completely stunned at the amount of kids being
hurt before getting rescued. I literally couldn't enjoy our date

(00:45):
any longer. He got mad at me and said they
should have stayed home and locked their doors. I asked
him to repeat hisself, because there's no way he said that,
but he did. He said if they were trying to
be grown, no one would have got no one would
have gotten them. I felt sick and just left the bar.
He tried to call me, and after several messages, he

(01:08):
said I was acting foolish. I blocked him the nerve
of a grown man, saying, this is disturbing and disgusting.
Am I wrong for ghosting him?

Speaker 3 (01:17):
I'm trying to understand about the kids and a bulletin
that was on TV what happened?

Speaker 2 (01:23):
So I guess it was like this sex trafficking ring
that got busted. She was all upset about it on
the day. She couldn't enjoy it anymore. So he said,
they said should have stayed they little buzzon at home
with the doors locked, and yeah, he just wasn't showing
any empathy for the whole situation. So she was disgusted,
and she didn't answer any of his phone calls. So

(01:44):
she wants to know what she wrong for ghosting this man.
This is three dates in HM.

Speaker 1 (01:51):
I mean it seemed like you were very more. I mean,
I get what you're saying.

Speaker 3 (01:56):
I mean, everybody doesn't respond the way that you will,
that you will want them to. If he said, oh,
that was disgusting, why whatever, But I don't think he
was like agreeing with it, you.

Speaker 1 (02:07):
Know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (02:08):
You know, I would just say it seemed like y'all
don't have something in common, like yeah, just leave. It's
only you're not for me. It's nothing to really argue about.
It's like, I don't understand. The problem I have is
you're going to have disagreements. Absolutely, that's going to be.

(02:29):
It's not you're not gonna find a perfect person. Y'all
going to disagree and disagreeing it's not bad. It's not
a bad thing. It's not it's a human thing. People
going to disagree. But this is nothing really to me
to I mean, I think you're upset because his reaction
wasn't like yours.

Speaker 2 (02:50):
Yeah, well, I think that you know, you have to
go with people who have similar experiences, who would find
the same things important that you are. That's what dating
is for. You're only on three dates with this man,
and so his personality didn't fit yours. Big deal, Just
move on to the next person. I mean, it's not

(03:11):
like you have any great amount of time invested, So
you can just move on with life and not be
with him.

Speaker 3 (03:18):
Because the fact that this is a big bother, I
would I would tell him he needs to be killed.

Speaker 2 (03:23):
You're right, well, I mean, you know, it all depends
on how you grow up. If you have brothers or
you know, had little ignorant friends or something like that.
Then you know guys saying little man of stuff or they.

Speaker 1 (03:36):
Should stayed at home. Okay, all right, you might.

Speaker 2 (03:38):
Have left, you know he but yeah, you know that's
not the dude for.

Speaker 1 (03:43):
Hers common section.

Speaker 2 (03:45):
All right, now, Kawana said, sometimes ghosting is best. You
can't always rationalize with certain mindsets. Telling him that you
are no longer interested based on his mindset is just
an invitation for an argument.

Speaker 1 (04:00):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (04:01):
And Keith said, why do you feel the need to
be validated on a decision you made. You made the
decision for whatever reason, stand on it. Who cares what
anyone else thinks? Yeah? And Kimberly said, had you told
him prior to leaving how you felt it could have escalated.
You left and blocked him because you felt like that's
what you needed to do, end of story.

Speaker 1 (04:23):
Yeah, it just it's been three dates.

Speaker 2 (04:26):
She might be a little high strung. We'll just say yeah,
well maybe.

Speaker 1 (04:31):
Yeah. I mean, you know you got mad over his comment.

Speaker 3 (04:34):
He didn't react the same way or the way you
expected him to react, and that was the reason that
you just felt like, how could you how dare you?

Speaker 1 (04:42):
I mean you just yeah, just move on, and.

Speaker 2 (04:45):
Now she's overthinking, yeah, you know, walking away on, Yeah.

Speaker 1 (04:50):
Meet somebody else, Keep on going, keep on going. That's
all you can do. Just ain't that nah,