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I'm Kenya Brown and it's Reality Hour, and I'm going
to read someone's letter to try to help them out
with their real life dilemma. Now. Today's letter says, Dear Sam,
my boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year,
and this will be our first Christmas together. Lately, he
keeps talking about the gift he's getting me and how
expensive it is. I'm a mother of two young kids,
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and while I planned on getting him something thoughtful, I
simply can't afford anything extravagant. Now I feel awful, like
my gift might not measure up, and I worry he'll
be disappointed or even question our relationship because of it.
Does the price of a gift really matter these days?
Or is it the thought behind it that counts. Should
I be honest with him about my situation or just
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hope he understands well it was something like that. I
think that you know everything in a relationship will get
you closer to understanding where you need to be where
you shouldn't be. And if this man, who knows that
he's dating a mother with two chills children who might
not have the means to do an extravagant gift, if
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he gets upset about the whole situation, then you know
where you stand with him. You know what's important to him.
But what's important to you always has to be your kids,
your happiness with the kids and all of that. So
if he's not understanding of that, that would be a
red flag to me. And if he is buying you
an expensive gift, apparently he can afford to do so.
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And that's not to say take for granted the fact
that he is trying to make some type of gesture
in this way. But the fact is is that you
have two children that you have to look out for.
So everything kind of shows you a little bit of
character in a relationship, and it gives you the opportunity
to choose you. It gives you the opportunity to choose
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the things that work best for your life. And if
you see things that are not working out in the
best way for you or your children, then this is
the perfect opportunity for you to do something else. But
coming up in about ten minutes, I'm going to read
some of your comments. You can make comments for this
woman on Facebook with ninety three point one WZAK or
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Sam Silk with the Y or call me up and
tell me how you feel about it. Give this person
some advice. At two one, six, five, seven, eight zero
nine three one. It's Reality Hour and we're trying to
help someone out with their real life dilemma. Now, Today's
letters that my boyfriend and I have been together for
almost a year and this will be our first Christmas together. Lately,
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he keeps talking about the gift that he's getting me
and how expensive it is. I'm a mother of two
young kids, and while I planned on getting him something thoughtful,
I simply can't afford anything extravagant. Now I feel awful,
like my gift might not measure up, and I worry
he'll be disappointed or even question our relationship because of it.
Does the price of a gift really matter these days?
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Or is it the thought behind it that counts. Should
I be honest with him about my situation or just
hope he understands now Alice says, most men are just
happy to bless you with a gift. At no point
should you match any gift dollar to dollar. Absolutely I
agree with that, and Tone said, as a man, the
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price of a gift doesn't matter to me, but honestly,
I'd rather her spend the money on the kids, not me.
I'm engaged and my fiance gives me things like my
favorite candy gift card or local spots around my job
for lunch. She gave me a box full of things
like work snacks, those little floss picks for your teeth,
pictures of her for my bench. Don't make it materialistic.
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Get something you truly believe he will like or need.
Something that shows you pay attention to him. A small
bottle of his favorite cologne or aftershave. Keep it simple.
You should know him well enough to pick a gift
or two that he will appreciate, and if he throws
a fit over it being anything cheap, even though it's
truly from the heart, drop that kid and find a man. Yes,
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this will definitely test some character and you have to
be able to look and see what it reveals. You
can't be so excited to hold on to a relationship
that you are not doing the best things for yourself,
because that is those are the things, the things that
we sweep under the rug, the things that we put
ourselves in a backseat for those are the things that
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are important. So if you start off doing it, if
you start trying to hide what your finances are to
keep up with what he's doing. You're going to always
be doing that until you can't do it anymore, and
then what will be the result at that point? So
I would say, you know, this will be a character
building thing. This will be something that you will be
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able to see what this guy is made of. Is
he really down for you and the whole relationship or
is he really just talking about some gifts. So that'll
be up to you to decide. And so you can
leave this woman your advice on our social media pages
and I need three point one wzak or Sam Silk
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with a Y and help this woman out now. Last comment,
DeAndre says he's been in your life for a year.
That's enough time for him to determine what kind of
budget you normally have. I think you may just feel
inadequate because he can afford something more expensive and not
because he's expecting something expensive in return. You should talk
to him. So that's how they're filling out here. Go
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to our Facebook page to comment and leave this person
advice
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