Reality Hour : Taste The Milk Before You Buy The Cow

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We got today's letter. Real people realize situation. King's got
to give us still lot of today. I'm going to
dive up in there. Yeah yeah, man, See, we can
help this person out. But you're a none hour none
biased opinion.

Speaker 2 (00:17):
We don't know, No, we don't so yeah, not at all?
All right? What we got?

Speaker 3 (00:23):
All right, Dear Sam. I recently got married to a
woman I deeply love, someone I believed I could build
a future with, including the possibility of growing our family.
But shortly after our wedding, I learned something that shook me.
She doesn't want children and may not be able to
have them. She never shared this with me before we
got married. I'm struggling. I have two children from previous relationships,

(00:45):
and I've always imagined having more, especially with someone I
love as much as her. It's not just about biology.
It's about the emotional experience of creating something together, of
building a life that includes both of us in every
possible way. I don't want to lose her, but I
also don't know how to let go of this dream
without feeling like I'm betraying a part of myself. How

(01:07):
do I honor my desire for children while respecting her truth.
Is it selfish to want more? Or unfair to ask
her to reconsider something so personal? I'm torn between love
and longing? Do you have any advice?

Speaker 2 (01:22):
So she didn't tell them No.

Speaker 3 (01:24):
I guess not. I guess this wasn't a discussion. Maybe
they were too in love.

Speaker 2 (01:30):
Okay, so she might not be able to have any.

Speaker 3 (01:34):
She may not be able to have any, and she
said she doesn't want.

Speaker 2 (01:37):
Any what might not be and don't know no one.

Speaker 3 (01:42):
You well, if you don't know whether or not you
can have them or not. But you're not really, you know,
trying to go that direction. Then you're not checking into it.
You're not trying to figure out why you haven't gotten
pregnant all these years. A lot of people have different
issues like fibroids, all type of stuff that you just
don't try to remedy.

Speaker 2 (02:03):
And so how long they been given now, well, I.

Speaker 3 (02:06):
Don't know, but they just got married. So he said
he really loves her, but he wants some kids. He
wants he was picturing a whole family situation. Had that
conversation though, I know, like what if our son looks.

Speaker 1 (02:19):
Like like we don't have that conversation about one kids
or not before you get married.

Speaker 3 (02:25):
I don't know he was, he was all in love.
He probably assumed maybe that she wanted the same things that.

Speaker 4 (02:32):
You assume, but you open up your mouth and I
think that she should have said the same things that
this is on both of them.

Speaker 3 (02:40):
Yeah, but maybe she's just afraid that she can't have
Maybe she got some health news earlier on in her
life that she felt like she couldn't have any so
she kind of just let go of the situation. I
would say, this is the time to dive deep.

Speaker 1 (02:54):
You really need to, I mean for your health and uh,
you know, that's nothing that you should from him.

Speaker 2 (03:01):
Shouldn't be kept from him. He needs to know.

Speaker 3 (03:03):
Well and he should have if he really wants children
this bad especially he had already has children. This is
a discussion that he probably should have you know mentioned
as well.

Speaker 2 (03:16):
Yeah, comment section what up.

Speaker 3 (03:18):
All right now? DeAndre said, First, talk to her about
your concerns. Then talk about finding out definitely if she
can or cannot become pregnant. Third, communicate about possible solutions
like IVF sarrogate's an adoption. If you love her, like
you say, where there's a will? Yeah, Yeah, And Debora said,

(03:39):
you need to have this discussion during your courtship. Now.
Someone's feelings are about to be hurt. Get all the details.
If they don't align with you and what you want
out of the marriage, move on. The longer you wait,
the harder that this will be.

Speaker 1 (03:52):
Absolutely you need to have this conversation, like, get off
of here. I had a conversation.

Speaker 4 (03:57):
Now, and this is the time because if you can
get out, you can get out now without getting more
deeper feelings. Because this is not nothing that if you
really want, if you really want her, you can.

Speaker 1 (04:10):
I'll say you can make it through it. But if
this is something you just gotta be, you're gonna be
getting on her nerves about it, and she got her
health issues with y'all need to have a real conversation night.

Speaker 2 (04:21):
Absolutely no letter on this. Open up your mouth and talk.

Speaker 3 (04:25):
Yeah, because he might end up agreeing with her once
she explains what her reasoning is. You know, maybe it's
dangerous for her.

Speaker 2 (04:32):
Something, So find out man. That's those questions.

Speaker 4 (04:35):
Brother,