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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I'm Kenya Brown, and it's time for a reality hour.
We're going to read someone's real life dilemma and try
to help them out with their issue. All right, now,
today's letter says, dear Sam, so check this out. Me
and my husband were together for ten years and then
he dipped out married the same woman he was creeping
with behind my back. Now the two of them want
(00:20):
to play happy family and co parent like everything's cool.
But let me be real. This woman used to straight
disrespect me when I was still married to him. She
throws shades, send me messy Facebook messages, even have people
blowing up my phone just to rub it in my face.
And now I'm supposed to sit here and act like
I'm good with them raising kids together. Truth is, I'm
(00:40):
still heated. I feel some type of way every time
I think about it. So tell me how am I
supposed to handle this without losing my peace? Now, anytime
you have blended situations, sometimes things don't work out. But
if you have children together, it is not the children's fault.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
You have to.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Always remember you chose the relationship that bore the children.
The children were not the responsible parties, so don't make
them the responsible party when you break up either because
it has nothing to do with them. They love their parents.
They probably love their father, they love their mother, and
you know they might have love for the new wife
(01:22):
as well, even though she was dog dirty, mean to you,
horrible to you. You don't have to necessarily interact with her.
You can always interact with your ex husband if it's
too much for you, or you feel that you might
trip out or lose your cool in front of the kids.
I would definitely suggest that, you know, maybe you stand
(01:43):
back on some of those situations, not because just so
you don't traumatize the children, because they have nothing to
do with this mess.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
However, I feel you.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
I mean, somebody come at you real crazy at a
period in your life, and then they try to come
back and play nice. I don't play that type of stuff.
I believe who you are when you show me, I
will play nice for the sake of the kids, because
to me, the kids are number one. So I wouldn't
even pay that girl dust. I wouldn't care anything about her,
(02:16):
anything about what she's doing. As long as she's treating
my kids nice and I'm not getting any reports that
there is any problems, then yeah, we just gonna go
with that. But other than that, no, we can't be friends.
We can't be cool because no, but that's just my opinion.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
Call me up.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Give this person some advice. You can leave them a
message on our Facebook page at sam Silk with a
Y or ninety three point one WZAK. Now, I already
told you how I feel. Now, I don't feel you
should make kids suffer for grown folks mistakes, problems, whatever
that is. So in that respect, yes, I'm gonna make
sure that my kids are as whole as possible. So
(02:55):
that means being in his father's life whatever comes with that,
as long as there's no abuse or anything like that,
anything crazy going on, or she's continuing that behavior with
my kids. But as far as I'm concerned, no, we
ain't cool. Ever, we will never be cool. And yeah,
come and get your kids and take them wherever y'all are,
(03:16):
and we probably won't do anything together now. On Facebook,
author Trey Reel said, you handle it first by thanking
God that he moved that obstacle out of your way
and ask for strength in your discernment, a clear mind,
and guidance. Second, go to counseling and work on your
low self esteem issues. It's obvious that you don't know
(03:39):
a blessing when you see one. Start back at first,
and repeat as many times as necessary.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Your goal is peace, all right, And David.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Patterson said, she's the new You just let his new
side check harass her. Just sit back and watch the reruns,
all right, see, I see the guys are even more
tripped out than us. All right now, Sabrina said, Unfortunately,
you have to communicate with him on some level that
could be done in a mature, nasty way, but he
(04:11):
would feel the raft as far as her. She would
think her name is Casper because I don't see you,
and you won't be acknowledged by me.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
I heard that.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Do what's necessary for your children to maintain their relationship
with him, But you don't have to be the bigger
person shucking and driving with their as. If he tries
to force her down your throat, let him have it.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Period. You also called with your opinion good after No.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
I do, actually, and I commented on it this morning.
But I've in the car and I heard it.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Now.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
I'm like, let be this car. But I think at
the end that's what she said without me losing my peace.
I think that was the key part, that she doesn't
have peace, that she has not made peace with that situation,
and I think that is her factor. She needs to
make peace with it all, you know, let them have it,
(05:04):
go on date to let them watch the kids, let
them take the kids as much as they won't, you know,
because I would, I would be okay with I'll be like, okay,
thank them because my kids know me. Long a doing right,
like you said, long as you doing right by my.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Kids, right, good, right, I'm gonna be on this date
right quick, and I'll be back exactly.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
I'm with that.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
Yeah, I mean weekday date, weeknight date.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Listen you dates, all of it. I heard that. That's
that's a smarter approach. I appreciate you.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
You're welcome.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Have a good one, you too, dear.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
If it's just the relationship that has moved on and
she got them, now, go ahead, just don't treat my
kids crazy and we won't have any problems. It won't
be a knock if you buck situation all right, and uh,
we just keep it like that and you go on
ahead with your daddy. Don't bring her to my house
because we ain't cool like that.
I'm Kenya Brown, and it's time for a reality hour.
We're going to read someone's real life dilemma and try
to help them out with their issue. All right, now,
today's letter says, dear Sam, so check this out. Me
and my husband were together for ten years and then
he dipped out married the same woman he was creeping
with behind my back. Now the two of them want
(00:20):
to play happy family and co parent like everything's cool.
But let me be real. This woman used to straight
disrespect me when I was still married to him. She
throws shades, send me messy Facebook messages, even have people
blowing up my phone just to rub it in my face.
And now I'm supposed to sit here and act like
I'm good with them raising kids together. Truth is, I'm
(00:40):
still heated. I feel some type of way every time
I think about it. So tell me how am I
supposed to handle this without losing my peace? Now, anytime
you have blended situations, sometimes things don't work out. But
if you have children together, it is not the children's fault.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
You have to.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Always remember you chose the relationship that bore the children.
The children were not the responsible parties, so don't make
them the responsible party when you break up either because
it has nothing to do with them. They love their parents.
They probably love their father, they love their mother, and
you know they might have love for the new wife
(01:22):
as well, even though she was dog dirty, mean to you,
horrible to you. You don't have to necessarily interact with her.
You can always interact with your ex husband if it's
too much for you, or you feel that you might
trip out or lose your cool in front of the kids.
I would definitely suggest that, you know, maybe you stand
(01:43):
back on some of those situations, not because just so
you don't traumatize the children, because they have nothing to
do with this mess.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
However, I feel you.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
I mean, somebody come at you real crazy at a
period in your life, and then they try to come
back and play nice. I don't play that type of stuff.
I believe who you are when you show me, I
will play nice for the sake of the kids, because
to me, the kids are number one. So I wouldn't
even pay that girl dust. I wouldn't care anything about her,
(02:16):
anything about what she's doing. As long as she's treating
my kids nice and I'm not getting any reports that
there is any problems, then yeah, we just gonna go
with that. But other than that, no, we can't be friends.
We can't be cool because no, but that's just my opinion.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
Call me up.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Give this person some advice. You can leave them a
message on our Facebook page at sam Silk with a
Y or ninety three point one WZAK. Now, I already
told you how I feel. Now, I don't feel you
should make kids suffer for grown folks mistakes, problems, whatever
that is. So in that respect, yes, I'm gonna make
sure that my kids are as whole as possible. So
(02:55):
that means being in his father's life whatever comes with that,
as long as there's no abuse or anything like that,
anything crazy going on, or she's continuing that behavior with
my kids. But as far as I'm concerned, no, we
ain't cool. Ever, we will never be cool. And yeah,
come and get your kids and take them wherever y'all are,
(03:16):
and we probably won't do anything together now. On Facebook,
author Trey Reel said, you handle it first by thanking
God that he moved that obstacle out of your way
and ask for strength in your discernment, a clear mind,
and guidance. Second, go to counseling and work on your
low self esteem issues. It's obvious that you don't know
(03:39):
a blessing when you see one. Start back at first,
and repeat as many times as necessary.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Your goal is peace, all right, And David.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Patterson said, she's the new You just let his new
side check harass her. Just sit back and watch the reruns,
all right, see, I see the guys are even more
tripped out than us. All right now, Sabrina said, Unfortunately,
you have to communicate with him on some level that
could be done in a mature, nasty way, but he
(04:11):
would feel the raft as far as her. She would
think her name is Casper because I don't see you,
and you won't be acknowledged by me.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
I heard that.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Do what's necessary for your children to maintain their relationship
with him, But you don't have to be the bigger
person shucking and driving with their as. If he tries
to force her down your throat, let him have it.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Period. You also called with your opinion good after No.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
I do, actually, and I commented on it this morning.
But I've in the car and I heard it.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Now.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
I'm like, let be this car. But I think at
the end that's what she said without me losing my peace.
I think that was the key part, that she doesn't
have peace, that she has not made peace with that situation,
and I think that is her factor. She needs to
make peace with it all, you know, let them have it,
(05:04):
go on date to let them watch the kids, let
them take the kids as much as they won't, you know,
because I would, I would be okay with I'll be like, okay,
thank them because my kids know me. Long a doing right,
like you said, long as you doing right by my.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Kids, right, good, right, I'm gonna be on this date
right quick, and I'll be back exactly.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
I'm with that.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
Yeah, I mean weekday date, weeknight date.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Listen you dates, all of it. I heard that. That's
that's a smarter approach. I appreciate you.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
You're welcome.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Have a good one, you too, dear.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
If it's just the relationship that has moved on and
she got them, now, go ahead, just don't treat my
kids crazy and we won't have any problems. It won't
be a knock if you buck situation all right, and uh,
we just keep it like that and you go on
ahead with your daddy. Don't bring her to my house
because we ain't cool like that.
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