October 6, 2025 • 6 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We are in side of reality out what can you
get today's letter?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
And we're gonna dive into it. What's going on?
Speaker 3 (00:05):
All right, Dear Sam, I'm in a relationship with my boss,
and no one at work knows. We've kept it quiet,
not because we're ashamed, but because of how it might
look professionally. Still pretending we're strangers in the hallway and
at meetings is starting to wear on me. I love
my job and I care deeply about this relationship, but
I'm stuck wondering can we have both? Is there a
(00:28):
way to be honest about us without risking everything we've
worked for?
Speaker 2 (00:33):
That was real quick? Right, Yeah, that's how it's gonna go,
just like that. Quick? What are you worried about all that?
Speaker 1 (00:40):
For?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
This is you?
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Did he say something like that? No, he ain't say
nothing to you about Oh, let's go tell everybody that
we're a couple now.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Well she tired of being quiet?
Speaker 2 (00:49):
I mean she should have thought about that before this happened.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Well, and I miss mallam, I'm just saying, I mean,
it's a possibility that you know.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
She she know she know?
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Like no, no, like if he wants to make it
public and fine, I mean what is that. I mean, Okay,
you go and tell everybody, yes, we're a couple of
what You're gonna walk down the halls and be hugging
holding hands right you can do to be kissing, and
I mean what I mean if y'all was married, what
would that do?
Speaker 2 (01:18):
I mean, what does that mean?
Speaker 3 (01:20):
And then you know, everybody is gonna be dissecting every
single little thing. Everybody is gonna be like, oh, she's.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Getting I mean, why would you know?
Speaker 3 (01:31):
But I get it. You know, when you're a girl,
you want to feel.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
You know, get another job and then tell everybody that's
your man, that's what you do.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
I'm just being real, or he gonna get another job
to everybody that yeah, you know, I quit so I
can be with Lucy.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
That's how you feel.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
I mean, I'm just saying, I mean, I don't I
mean if so, let me say this, let me be clear.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
If people want.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
To, if they, if they, because there are people who
do date that work at the same place.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Let's let's don't act like that doesn't happen.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
It happens absolutely, and it's been happening forever and it
won't stop happening. But we live in a climate where
it will be perceived that he's giving you favoritism because
you're his woman. Yes, okay, and who business does it?
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Does it?
Speaker 1 (02:18):
I mean, what what validation will you get with making
a big old announcement about y'all together you're not married.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
I don't think it's about the announcement. I think that
it's weird if you, you know, maybe just made love
on the way to work in the morning and then
but listen, then you gotta then you gotta pretend like
you don't even know this person in the hallway.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
No, you still have a conversation to keep on moving, Like,
what are gonna talk about that was so wonderful last night?
Speaker 2 (02:46):
I mean, I'm just.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
Saying, I'm probably like, chill no, like nonore inway.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Doing too much. And that's why you don't read don't
work together. We used to, Okay, y'all did back then. Yeah,
y'all did back I'm just saying, but see again, that's different.
I mean that those are people you two of people who.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Can handle that.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Everybody can't handle that, and she can't handle that. Yeah,
chill out and enjoy your relationship. Okay, But if you
starting to feel a certain type of way.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
You need to leave.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
You need to let him go, or you need to
let that place go and find you somewhere else to
be and then so you can be to everybody huge.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
It's probably just awkward.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
I can imagine it might be a little awkward after
he didn't laid you out after you and laid him out.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Okay, fine, but it ain't gonna be that much.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
Oh you brought a sandwich and a rag and everything.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Come on, yeah, yeah it was a child hot though.
Was it a hot?
Speaker 3 (03:45):
It was probably a hot. It was probably a good
sandwich and everything.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Let's go to the common section, all right.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
Now, Jamia said I was a boss. He was my employee.
I ended up leaving the company had been there over
ten years. We kept it hushed for a long time.
After it came out, he was transferred to another location.
We were still seeing each other. We now have been
married two years. You have to decide is it worth
your job? Mine's was and still is worth it.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Yeah, see it was worth it to her. Again, you
have to make this about what makes logical sense.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
But she did leave the company.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Then she left. That's why I said, if you want that,
then find you somewhere else you know, to go, and
so it.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Doesn't make it. It doesn't feel awkward right now. It's
about you, So then you won't feel awkward anymore right.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Now, Tamika said, it's probably one or two more just
like you in that office, dating on the lof on
hush hush people around there.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
It's part of other people around that doing the same thing.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
You're right, yes, because of his position and the outlook,
I'd let it go. Which would you rather have him
or the job? If it's him, then find another job.
But guaranteed he has another secret relationship up in there.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
She thinks, Oh, that's what she means it to be
other others. All right, let's let's let's take y'all calls
and find out what y'all think. Five sevenates Jui nine
three one before we get to our battle five civinates
juwor nine three ones e A K.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
What do y'all think?
Speaker 3 (05:16):
That's what that guy was doing. He was dating several people,
the couple that had to leave the news, the news,
the black.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Guy and the white lady we're talking about, TJ.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Yes, t J.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Holmes. He was hitting some.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
In the office that.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
Yeah, they got mad because because he chose her. Well, yeah,
that's what it was. I believe what they were, believe
he was hitting up. That's why he wouldn't be with me.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
That's right, And that was when he chose you know,
he was his love and affection and everything was it.
They still still doing their podcast, I think, so all right,
going on, you get it, what's going on?
Speaker 2 (05:59):
We're good up this woman out man.
Speaker 5 (06:01):
I just think that it's never a professional it's never
a good idea. He's a workplace romance because it's going
to leave you in a situation and now where she's
confused and not really certain what's the best option that
you could have bought it all together, leaven that workplace
romance alone. But I do agree with what he said.
If you know, if it's worked, you leave that place.
(06:22):
But like the other lady said too in the comments,
he could have a couple of them in the office,
so got it. Just you know, I won't leave alone
off together because it's too many variables.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
All right, good stuff, mam, appreciate you.
We are in side of reality out what can you
get today's letter?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
And we're gonna dive into it. What's going on?
Speaker 3 (00:05):
All right, Dear Sam, I'm in a relationship with my boss,
and no one at work knows. We've kept it quiet,
not because we're ashamed, but because of how it might
look professionally. Still pretending we're strangers in the hallway and
at meetings is starting to wear on me. I love
my job and I care deeply about this relationship, but
I'm stuck wondering can we have both? Is there a
(00:28):
way to be honest about us without risking everything we've
worked for?
Speaker 2 (00:33):
That was real quick? Right, Yeah, that's how it's gonna go,
just like that. Quick? What are you worried about all that?
Speaker 1 (00:40):
For?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
This is you?
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Did he say something like that? No, he ain't say
nothing to you about Oh, let's go tell everybody that
we're a couple now.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Well she tired of being quiet?
Speaker 2 (00:49):
I mean she should have thought about that before this happened.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Well, and I miss mallam, I'm just saying, I mean,
it's a possibility that you know.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
She she know she know?
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Like no, no, like if he wants to make it
public and fine, I mean what is that. I mean, Okay,
you go and tell everybody, yes, we're a couple of
what You're gonna walk down the halls and be hugging
holding hands right you can do to be kissing, and
I mean what I mean if y'all was married, what
would that do?
Speaker 2 (01:18):
I mean, what does that mean?
Speaker 3 (01:20):
And then you know, everybody is gonna be dissecting every
single little thing. Everybody is gonna be like, oh, she's.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Getting I mean, why would you know?
Speaker 3 (01:31):
But I get it. You know, when you're a girl,
you want to feel.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
You know, get another job and then tell everybody that's
your man, that's what you do.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
I'm just being real, or he gonna get another job
to everybody that yeah, you know, I quit so I
can be with Lucy.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
That's how you feel.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
I mean, I'm just saying, I mean, I don't I
mean if so, let me say this, let me be clear.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
If people want.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
To, if they, if they, because there are people who
do date that work at the same place.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Let's let's don't act like that doesn't happen.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
It happens absolutely, and it's been happening forever and it
won't stop happening. But we live in a climate where
it will be perceived that he's giving you favoritism because
you're his woman. Yes, okay, and who business does it?
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Does it?
Speaker 1 (02:18):
I mean, what what validation will you get with making
a big old announcement about y'all together you're not married.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
I don't think it's about the announcement. I think that
it's weird if you, you know, maybe just made love
on the way to work in the morning and then
but listen, then you gotta then you gotta pretend like
you don't even know this person in the hallway.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
No, you still have a conversation to keep on moving, Like,
what are gonna talk about that was so wonderful last night?
Speaker 2 (02:46):
I mean, I'm just.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
Saying, I'm probably like, chill no, like nonore inway.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Doing too much. And that's why you don't read don't
work together. We used to, Okay, y'all did back then. Yeah,
y'all did back I'm just saying, but see again, that's different.
I mean that those are people you two of people who.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Can handle that.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Everybody can't handle that, and she can't handle that. Yeah,
chill out and enjoy your relationship. Okay, But if you
starting to feel a certain type of way.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
You need to leave.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
You need to let him go, or you need to
let that place go and find you somewhere else to
be and then so you can be to everybody huge.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
It's probably just awkward.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
I can imagine it might be a little awkward after
he didn't laid you out after you and laid him out.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Okay, fine, but it ain't gonna be that much.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
Oh you brought a sandwich and a rag and everything.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Come on, yeah, yeah it was a child hot though.
Was it a hot?
Speaker 3 (03:45):
It was probably a hot. It was probably a good
sandwich and everything.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Let's go to the common section, all right.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
Now, Jamia said I was a boss. He was my employee.
I ended up leaving the company had been there over
ten years. We kept it hushed for a long time.
After it came out, he was transferred to another location.
We were still seeing each other. We now have been
married two years. You have to decide is it worth
your job? Mine's was and still is worth it.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Yeah, see it was worth it to her. Again, you
have to make this about what makes logical sense.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
But she did leave the company.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Then she left. That's why I said, if you want that,
then find you somewhere else you know, to go, and
so it.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Doesn't make it. It doesn't feel awkward right now. It's
about you, So then you won't feel awkward anymore right.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Now, Tamika said, it's probably one or two more just
like you in that office, dating on the lof on
hush hush people around there.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
It's part of other people around that doing the same thing.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
You're right, yes, because of his position and the outlook,
I'd let it go. Which would you rather have him
or the job? If it's him, then find another job.
But guaranteed he has another secret relationship up in there.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
She thinks, Oh, that's what she means it to be
other others. All right, let's let's let's take y'all calls
and find out what y'all think. Five sevenates Jui nine
three one before we get to our battle five civinates
juwor nine three ones e A K.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
What do y'all think?
Speaker 3 (05:16):
That's what that guy was doing. He was dating several people,
the couple that had to leave the news, the news,
the black.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Guy and the white lady we're talking about, TJ.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Yes, t J.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Holmes. He was hitting some.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
In the office that.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
Yeah, they got mad because because he chose her. Well, yeah,
that's what it was. I believe what they were, believe
he was hitting up. That's why he wouldn't be with me.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
That's right, And that was when he chose you know,
he was his love and affection and everything was it.
They still still doing their podcast, I think, so all right,
going on, you get it, what's going on?
Speaker 2 (05:59):
We're good up this woman out man.
Speaker 5 (06:01):
I just think that it's never a professional it's never
a good idea. He's a workplace romance because it's going
to leave you in a situation and now where she's
confused and not really certain what's the best option that
you could have bought it all together, leaven that workplace
romance alone. But I do agree with what he said.
If you know, if it's worked, you leave that place.
(06:22):
But like the other lady said too in the comments,
he could have a couple of them in the office,
so got it. Just you know, I won't leave alone
off together because it's too many variables.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
All right, good stuff, mam, appreciate you.
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