Tell Em How You Feel: Is Your Friends Ex Off Limits?

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
I'm Kenya Brown and it's time for telling him how

(00:02):
you feel. Now, Rapper the game. He is no stranger
to making controversial comments, and this time he was on
Club Shay Shay with Shannon Sharp and he said that
he doesn't believe that dating friends X is automatically off limits.

Speaker 2 (00:20):
Here's a little bit of what he had to say.

Speaker 3 (00:22):
Were you on your home boy, your wholeboy dating this girl?

Speaker 4 (00:25):
She's five five ten, one sixty five nice air?

Speaker 3 (00:29):
Lash is nailed.

Speaker 4 (00:30):
I mean he's nice fire yet five ten though, Man, Yes,
you on up there.

Speaker 3 (00:35):
You know what I'm saying. You up there?

Speaker 1 (00:36):
You know?

Speaker 4 (00:37):
Yes, da stack like dirty laundry in the dorm.

Speaker 1 (00:39):
Roo.

Speaker 3 (00:40):
Yeah, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (00:41):
Want issues, Clay, so they break up?

Speaker 3 (00:45):
You cool?

Speaker 4 (00:45):
Hollingetta, I think that. I think I'm cool with that.

Speaker 3 (00:49):
Oh no, no, bath is no.

Speaker 4 (00:54):
Let me tell you why. Let me tell you why.
The reason is is love is a really mysterious fruit.
And the person the woman's dating, your homie. Yeah, that
might be your soulmate. You don't know. And if he
didn't marry her or he doesn't have children with her,

(01:14):
then she just goes back into the single market.

Speaker 2 (01:17):
Now what do you feel about that.

Speaker 1 (01:19):
We talk about dating all the time on the show
and what should be off limits, what's guy code, what's
girl code? Well, the Game said, listen, that might be
your wife, that might be your future wife, even though
it didn't work out with homeboy or it didn't work
out with homegirl. He said, listen, basically, go for what
you know because that might be your person. Do you

(01:41):
agree or do you disagree? Now Shannon Sharp was like,
uh ah, that is not how you handle that. That
is not where you're supposed to be. But do you
agree with game? I mean, if they go back into
the single market, if you don't have children with them,
if you did not marry them, if your home boy
or home girl didn't marry him or have kids with them,

(02:02):
are they free? Game? At that point, we've been talking
about Rapper the Game, Well, he has no problem with
some controversial comments, and he was on Club Shay Shay
talking to Shannon Sharp and he said, well, when it
comes to people that you could potentially date, even if
they dated your homeboy or whatever, as long as they
weren't married or have any kids, then they're single and

(02:24):
they are basically free. I'm taking your calls this morning,
tell me how you feel.

Speaker 3 (02:29):
So would this is beyond how I feel. It's just
the facts of the matter. People are not property, true,
that is not she or he is not a possession
of yours. The only claim you can make is on
that the relationship existed in that aspect of your life
at that time. So is here he and you have children.

(02:50):
You still cannot You still cannot really justifiably block a friend,
if you're using a friend in the word friend in
the strictest term, from making a move now as a courtesy,
A true friend would at least say I have this interest,
and I want you to know that I have this interest,
especially if she here he has children with your friend,

(03:11):
to let them know, because if they have children children
with your friend, at minimal you should be pursuing their
person to treat them with a level of decency that's
hired in average, because that's your friend, that's the mother
or father or your friend's kid. But go through your thing.
You ain't got, can't make no claim on nobody like that,
all right?

Speaker 1 (03:31):
Do you took it a step further you said, even
if they have a kid together, they're not property.

Speaker 3 (03:36):
As long as you didn't scheme on this person while
you're your friend and that person were together. Now, if
you were scheming gathering information so you knew how she
like it or what she liked or he liked, that's different.
That's evil.

Speaker 1 (03:51):
That's so if it just comes about naturally sometime later,
then that's all fair game.

Speaker 3 (03:57):
If it comes about why he's with her. Can you
just can't scheme order? You can't. You know you have
feelings for somebody, You have feelings for somebody.

Speaker 2 (04:07):
Trying to get people beat up.

Speaker 3 (04:09):
Now, what I'm saying is if that's your friend and
you got some interest in your friends, woman or man,
whatever position you may be in, you keep that to
yourself and don't skim. But when that relationship is done,
it's it's reasonable that if you're using the word friends
strict it is strictest terms, that you show your friends
some courtige and say, I have these feelings for your

(04:30):
ex and if that person happens down child you're with him,
then she or he should be treated at a much
higher level of decency than you would anybody else that
you should treat a decency. Just don't scheme. People aren't property, Okay,
not property.

Speaker 1 (04:44):
I don't know you from getting beat up, but okay,
we try that, all right.

Speaker 3 (04:49):
People need to work on their forty time. Can you
run all right, right,